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183. Disliking your friends partner
2 april 2024 · 39 min
You're not going to get along with everyone and one of those people you don't get along with might end up dating someone you love i.e your friend. Disliking your friends partner often stems from one of three reasons: your dating preferences don't match, you're experiencing platonic jealousy, you're genuinely worried about this other person being bad for your friend, exploitative or abusive. We talk about all three of these outcomes in today's episode along with what to do in response: do you stay silent or speak up? Lees meer
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182. Social media is ruining my mental health
29 maart 2024 · 41 min
Social media is impacting our mental health in ways we are not ready or willing to acknowledge, and it's time we talk about it. In today's episode we discuss all the psychology of social media and how it is embedded in our social lives, our relationships, our beliefs, our daily routines, our news and our self worth. We break down how social media was designed to be addictive, how it captures more of our time than we think, the differences between people who have been on social media for over 10 years versus who have never been and what we can do about it. We also discuss the role of algorithms and misinformation. There is so much negativity spread online and innate need to compare ourselves to others, but I also believe we can have a positive and moderated relationship with these platforms. Listen now. Lees meer
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181. The psychology of father wounds
26 maart 2024 · 41 min
Father wounds arise from a disorganised or complicated relationship with our father figure - either due to them being physically or emotionally absent, harsh and critical, unfeeling or abusive and can result in a number of dysfunctional behaviours and emotional patterns as we grow older. In this episode we are breaking down the psychology of father wounds and discussing: Lees meer
The origins of father wounds and the role of generational trauma
Mother wounds versus father wounds
Attachment theory and father archetypes
Father hunger and father replacements
Is forgiveness the only answer?
The power of inner child healing
All of that and more, listen now!
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180. "Your 20s are NOT your best years" ft. Dr Meg Jay
22 maart 2024 · 49 min
In this episode we are joined by clinical psychologist and author of 'The Defining Decade' to talk about all the frustrations, stressors, misconceptions and hard moments of our 20s and why it's only going to get BETTER from here. We talk about: Lees meer
Shifting from a 'what if' to a 'what is' or 'what else' mindset
Why we fear uncertainity
Milestone anxiety
Sliding versus deciding
Catastrophic thinking
Insecure and anxious attachment styles vs. insecure and anxious moments
And so much more
Listen now to hear all of Dr Meg's amazing advice and hear a bit about her new book, coming out next month.
Link to The Defining Decade: https://www.amazon.com.au/Defining-Decade-Meg-Jay/dp/0446561754
Pre-order Meg's new book: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/The-Twentysomething-Treatment/Meg-Jay/9781668012291
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179. Why can't I cry?
19 maart 2024 · 38 min
Sometimes all we want to do is a have a big, old fashioned sob and when we can't it leads us feeling emotionally pent up, defective and frustrated. There's an explanation for why we go through periods where we are unable to cry. In today's episode we discuss: Lees meer
The evolutionary function of crying
Crying as an attachment behaviour
The difference between basal, reflex and emotional tears
The 4 major reasons we struggle with crying
How to heal your connection with your emotions
How we process emotions through the body, and more.
Listen now when you're in need of an emotional catharsis or could really do with a few tears.
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178. 5 steps for building self discipline
15 maart 2024 · 36 min
Self discipline is the key ingredient to unlocking everything you want in life. But despite that many of us treat it like its optional and believe the narrative that self discipline requires perfection, requires sacrifice and is too hard. Actually, self discipline is anything but, it is actually the road of least resistance. In this episode we break down 5 tips for building self discipline in any area of life: Lees meer
Understanding your motivation
Leveraging social accountability and desirability bias
The power of micro habits
Hacking our dopamine systems through instant versus delayed gratification
Shifting from learned helplessness to learned industriousness
All of that and more! Listen now!
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177. Understanding our fear of intimacy
12 maart 2024 · 42 min
Love is scary. There are so many opportunities to be hurt, to be let down, to have thing turn out in a way we never wanted them to. But it's also one of the best things in live and brings incredible joy and fulfilment. Why is it that some of us avoid the experience all together. In today's episode we are going to discuss the fear of intimacy in all its forms. We will discuss: Lees meer
Signs you have a fear of intimacy (serial dating, situationships, emotional avoidance)
Childhood and early relationship wounds
The fear of engulfment and overbearing parents
How insecurity drives protectiveness
Our misconceptions about love
4 steps to healing your fear of intimacy
We also discuss some of the ways people in their 20s might not realise they have a fear of intimacy and why our society sometimes celebrates the things that keep us in a state of avoidance. All of that and more, listen now!
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176. A conversation with my Mum
8 maart 2024 · 54 min
This International Women's Day as part of iHeart's Women Take the Mic Initiative, I'm bringing on my Mum for a vulnerable chat about our relationship as mother and daughter, what she's learned from being a mother, what she would do differently, life lessons and her success in a male dominated field. We discuss everything from motherhood, child-parent dynamics, feminism and career advice. It's a beautiful conversation, one that I'll hold dearly for a long time and we hope you enjoy, listen now! Lees meer
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175. Living alone in your 20s
5 maart 2024 · 44 min
This week we are discussing the ups and downs of living alone in your 20s: from the freedom and independence, to the loneliness and social isolation, financial anxiety and stress, but the authenticity and emotional maturity that comes with it. We talk about: Lees meer
Why being alone doesn't make you lonely
Sliders versus deciders - why you should wait before moving in with a partner
Cognitive distortions and overspending
Lifestyle creep
Habits for building social connection and community
How to successfully live alone
All that and more, listen now!
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174. Retroactive jealousy
1 maart 2024 · 41 min
Feeling jealous over our partners past can feel highly irrational, but its still a feeling many of us have and contributes to a lot of obsessive and unhealthy behaviours like stalking their exes, asking intrusive questions, starting arguments in hopes of getting the reassurance we need. In today's episode, we talk about the psychology of retroactive jealousy, including its origins and how to move past your jealous feelings. We will talk about: Lees meer
How past relationships and trauma create jealousy
Overthinking and anxiety
Rejection sensitivity
Self sabotage
Interrupting mental compulsions
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173. Your guide to panic attacks
27 februari 2024 · 44 min
Panic attacks are awful, they sneak up on us in the worst moments and make us feel overwhelmed by an invisible fear. In today's episode we are going to talk through the psychology of panic attacks including: Lees meer
Why they occur?
Panic disorders vs. panic attacks
The flight, fight, freeze or fawn response
The car alarm analogy
The function of anxiety and panic
Anxiety avoidance vs. acceptance
7 evidence based tips for managing panic attacks
We also have a 7 minute meditation at the end of the episode that will talk you through a visualisation exercise for managing an actual panic attack. Listen now!
If you need immediate help please call your local crisis centre or access the following resources:
988 Mental Health Emergency Hotline (US)
13 11 14 Lifeline (Australia)
https://www.nhs.uk/service-search/mental-health/find-an-urgent-mental-health-helpline (UK)
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172. I'm scared of getting older
23 februari 2024 · 30 min
It's my birthday. Let's talk about my fear of growing older. Lees meer
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171. Changing careers in your 20s ft. The Career Contessa
20 februari 2024 · 50 min
Our 20s are one of the best times for us to change careers. Perhaps you're feeling burntout, bored, unmotivated, craving something bigger, something with purpose or better hours, a change from the life and job you currently have. In this episode we break down how we can change careers in our 20s, some of the challenges, how to manage the financial insecurity, the signs your old job is not right for you and discovering your true mission and purpose and life (even if it doesn't always revolve around your job and a pay check). Lees meer
We are joined by the founder and CEO of The Career Contessa, host of the hit podcast and author, Lauren Goodwin who shares her years worth of advice and best tips.
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170. The psychology of acne
16 februari 2024 · 40 min
Acne has just as many emotional and mental symptoms as it does physical. Having acne in our 20s is a significant source of insecurity, frustration and hopelessness, impacting how we go about making new friends, dating, career opportunities and so much more. In this episode we break down the psychology of acne, investigating the myths about the causes of acne, the subsequent stigma towards acne, the mental consequences we are observing more and more, the impact of social media and facetune, along with how we can manage our self esteem in the face of chronic acne. Listen now! Lees meer
The article I reference: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5029236/
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169. The mental load in relationships
13 februari 2024 · 40 min
Sustaining a relationship has a lot more to do with the division of domestic, emotional and physical labour. A massive component is the mental load - the additional energy that goes into organising, scheduling and managing the daily tasks, chores and things that need to be done whilst also accounting for your partners needs. It's not a secret that women carry a lot more of the mental load than their male counterparts and in this episode we break down exactly why that is, how an unfair division of cognitive labour can lead to resentment and relationship breakdown and how we can address this in our relationships, including our friendships. Listen now! Lees meer
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168. Do you really need closure?
8 februari 2024 · 37 min
The end of a relationship or a friendship can leave us with a lot of unanswered questions, especially when the split is sudden, out of the blue, and the other person is unresponsive. In other instances, we don't quite know what went wrong and are looking for answers. In today's episode we talk about the elusive myth that is closure: whether we need it, how to get it, and why we should not rely on others to provide us with permission to move on. We also discuss the closure cycle and the reasons we may THINK we are looking for closure, but are really looking for an excuse to reconnect. All of that and more, listen now! Lees meer
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167. 5 steps to build a life you love
6 februari 2024 · 41 min
A considerable question for those of us in our 20s is how do we create a good life? What does it mean to design a life we love and how exactly do we do that? In today's episode we break down five ways we can do this, including: Lees meer
Deconstructing your old life for your new one + the Odyssey Plan
Prototyping your new life + the 15 minute rule
Addition through subtraction
Pursue daily joy
Positive future planning + dopamine scheduling
Listen now!
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166. Fantasy bonding - is it love or delusion?
2 februari 2024 · 36 min
Sometimes we become more attached to the idea of someone and their potential, than the reality of who they actually are. We begin to project our wants and desires on to them and ignore the red flags, the disappointments, the truth. This is what we call fantasy bonding and it prevents us from seeing someone for who they truly are, causes us to be lead along and invest in the wrong people. In this episode, we break down the psychology of fantasy bonding, including: Lees meer
The origins of fantasy bonding in childhood
How a fantasy bond emerges
Relationship intensity and attachment
Why our fear of loneliness drives us into the wrong relationships
The idealisation of our partners
What happens when the fantasy fades
How to avoid a fantasy bond
Listen now.
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165. The psychology of anger
30 januari 2024 · 37 min
Anger is one of our most primal emotions and yet we have no idea how to manage it. We suppress it, allowing it to rule our lives; we hide from it, we let it explode onto people who don't deserve our rage. In this episode we break down the psychology of anger and why anger is often a secondary emotion, masking our true fear, anxiety and insecurity. We explore how to manage our anger, use it for fuel and motivation, why the anger we experience as children often leads to our inability to full express emotions, where our anger comes from and whether forgiveness truly is the solution. Listen now. Lees meer
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164. Dating and mental health in our 20s
26 januari 2024 · 45 min
Two of the most noteworthy elements of our 20s are dating and our experiences with mental health. They also interact - our mental health will influence how we date, how we deal with rejection, how we meet new people, and subsequently, our dating experiences can have a profound impact on our mental health. In this episode we dissect everything about this interaction and how we can take care of our mental and emotional wellbeing, avoid codependency whilst also finding the love we deserve. Lees meer
We also talk through some advice for people who are dating partners with mental health struggles and how to support them, whilst also not stepping into the role of caregiver or savior. Listen now!
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163. Travel burnout
23 januari 2024 · 41 min
Being able to travel and explore the world in our 20s is such a unique privilege, but sometimes we can overdo a good thing and hit a point of complete emotional, mental and physical exhaustion, causing us to want to go home early, abandon our trip or enjoy our travels a lot less. In this episode we break down the psychology behind travel burnout, why it occurs, what it says about our human need to belong, creature comforts and my tips for overcoming the fatigue and exhaustion and getting the most out of your adventure. Listen now! Lees meer
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162. Why do I feel guilty all the time?
19 januari 2024 · 35 min
We experience chronic guilt towards a lot of things: guilt for resting, guilt for not resting, guilt for prioritising ourselves, guilt for being a bad friend, a bad partner, a bad student, for not deserving your opportunities. In today's episode we break down the guilt complex by exploring: Lees meer
The childhood guilt wound
People pleasing
The fawn response
Perfectionism
Negative self esteem
We also discuss how we can overcome our chronic guilt by deciding to live for ourselves and putting energy into our wellbeing first, alongside the paradox of the guilt we feel towards ourselves vs the guilt we inflict on others. Listen now!
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161. The psychology of health anxiety
16 januari 2024 · 29 min
In today's episode we are going to discuss the psychology behind our health anxiety, something we don't speak about enough in our 20s. Health anxiety leaves us feeling incredibly hypervigilant to symptoms or feelings in our body that could indicate a life threatening illness or impending death, even if they are just a projection or derived from stress. This comes from our need to feel in control of our bodies and a lot of primal, evolutionary origins. It can also leave us struggling with feeling connected with ourselves, unable to live out our daily lives or constantly anxious. We discuss all of this and more, as well as my 5 top tips for managing our health anxiety. Listen now! Lees meer
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160. Are you ready to date again ft. The Real Talk Therapist
12 januari 2024 · 38 min
Getting into a new relationship can bring up a lot of past trauma from previous relationships, and cause a lot of self sabotage or anxiety, resulting in behaviours such as: Lees meer
Emotional unavailability
Knit picking behaviour
Starting unnecessary fights
Stone walling
Pushing people away
Ignoring red flags
In this episode we answer the question "do you need to completely heal before entering into a new relationship?". We are joined by the incredible, Tasha Bailey, otherwise known as the Real Talk Therapist as we break down the way past relationship trauma can show up in our new relationships and how to heal whilst still accepting the love you deserve.
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159. Embracing the courage to be disliked
9 januari 2024 · 36 min
Many of us find ourselves obsessively focused on the opinions and judgements of others, letting their opinion of us influence our sense of self worth and confidence. However, true power and success comes when we embrace the courage to be disliked and recognise that the negative words of others come from their own insecurity, rather than as a reflection of us. In this episode we break down this concept, alongside the role of reputation, conformity, the chameleon effect and how we can embrace our authentic selves, our TRUEST selves to live in our power. Listen now! Lees meer
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158. Should you quit drinking in your 20s?
5 januari 2024 · 38 min
Alcohol is a drug, highly addictive, has proven to do damage to our minds and our bodies and yet makes up a huge part of our 20s, especially how we socialise and connect with others. Lees meer
In today's episode we are going to talk about the psychology of alcohol, the impact of alcohol on our brains, the influence our social circles and friendships have on our drinking habits, hangiexty, binge drinking and all the conversations about alcohol we should be having in our 20s, that maybe we are not. As part of this, we want to answer or at least explore the question: should we quit drinking in our 20s? We discuss the reasons for quitting or at least being 'sober curious' and tips for how to moderate our drinking habits. Listen now!
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157. Your year for taking risks!
2 januari 2024 · 33 min
Welcome to 2024! With each new year on the podcast, we set a new theme or intention for the next 12 months. This year our theme is RISK, embracing our fear of change or making a mistake and embracing risk in all its forms! We discuss how we can get a better idea of what we want for our future, discover our purpose, what type of risks will get us there, the difference between bounded and unbounded risk and why risks not always have to be impulsive or spontaneous. Listen now and welcome to your year for taking risks! Lees meer
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156. Dating with an anxious attachment style ft. Thais Gibson
30 december 2023 · 49 min
Dating with an anxious attachment style comes with a number of challenges: struggling to feel secure, requiring constant reassurance, mistrust, a fear of abandonment, feeling unworthy of love or difficulty setting boundaries. But your attachment style is not a life sentence, it is something you can challenge and heal by embracing vulnerability, healthy love, boundary setting and applying the love you crave from others to yourself. We are joined by the wonderful Thais Gibson, an author, speaker, leader in the personal development field and founder of The Personal Development School as we break down what it means to date and love as someone who is anxiously attached. Lees meer
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The attachment quiz we spoke of: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/quiz
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155. Unlocking your next life chapter ft. Dr Lisa Marie Bobby
25 december 2023 · 41 min
Feeling stuck and dissatisfied with where you are in your life is never a place we want to be in. Perhaps you are contemplating a major life change - moving to a new city, quitting your job, leaving a long term relationship - that you believe will be the antidote to your future happiness and fulfilment. Psychology shows that this might not always be the case. Wanting to change something about our environment may reflect that the true change we need to make is internal. Lees meer
We are joined by Dr Lisa Marie Bobby, host of the Love, Happiness and Success podcast as she talks us through the unexpected ways we can unlock and begin our next chapter in life. Listen now!
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154. Why does healthy love feel boring? ft. Sarah Yudkin
22 december 2023 · 42 min
When we experience healthy love for the first time after years of unsettling, unhealthy, toxic relationships, one of the first reactions we can have is "why does this feel so boring?" Often we confuse safety with a lack of passion, or assume that just because this person doesn't activate our nervous system, we are missing the spark. This is often left over from past relationships where we have confused anxiety with excitement. Lees meer
In this episode, we bring on Sarah Yudkin, the founder of You Love and You Learn to break down the relationship anxiety that comes with experiencing healthy love for the first time and how to dissect your relationship OCD, the unconscious ways we sabotage relationships and all that comes with it. Listen now.
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153. Dealing with difficult family members ft. Alexis Fernandez
19 december 2023 · 46 min
As the holiday season approaches so does the expectation to start seeing family, including difficult family members who you would rather avoid. In today's episode we are joined by Alexis Fernandez, the host of the show Do You F***ing Mind, to gain a better understanding of how we can navigate those who we may be related to by blood but have a hard time being around, including: Lees meer
Narcissistic parents and in laws
Jealous family members
Family members with political differences
Depressed parents
Compulsive liars and gossips
Critical and judgemental family members
The argument starters and energy vampires
We also provide tips for setting boundaries and actually sticking with them, the courage to stand up for yourself, how to have difficult conversations, knowing when enough is enough and how to walk away, alongside much more. As the holiday season approaches, we are sending you love and strength.
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152. Impulse shopping and retail therapy ft. Al from Two Broke Chicks
15 december 2023 · 57 min
Impulse shopping in an experience we've all had, the feeling of buying something you know you don't really need, but you want it desperately in the moment. Often during this decade we begin earning "adult money" for the first time and that means we can begin spending as a way to emotional regulate. Had a bad day? Buy a new pair of shoes. Been through a breakup? Shopping spree. There are so many ways that companies encourage this behaviour through flash sales and low stock sales, creating a sense of urgency and getting us to spend. So, in today's episode we break down the psychology behind impulse shopping and retail therapy. Lees meer
We are joined by Alex from the hit podcast, Two Broke Chicks, to provide us with the dos and don'ts of shopping and overspending in our 20s, breaking down the emotions behind buyers remorse, and how to be wiser with your money during this decade.
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151. Stop getting attached too quickly ft. Lyss Boss
12 december 2023 · 46 min
We all know the feeling of going on a few dates with someone and, suddenly, you're unable to stop checking your phone for messages, wondering when they're free, imagining the wedding, your future kids. And then we are left depleted, ghosted or disappointed. This is what happens when we romanticise the idea of someone, engage in fantasy bonding and it can often end up sabotaging the relationship. Lees meer
In today's episode we are joined by the wonderful Lyss Boss, host of the Date Yourself Instead podcast to break down how we can take things slow and not get caught up in the idea of someone before we truly know them. Listen now.
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150. Sex is mental, not just physical ft. Gina Gutierrez
8 december 2023 · 50 min
Often when we think about sex, we only think about the physical. We only think about the other person's enjoyment or what sex should look like rather than what it could look like. Many of us have a very outdated understanding of what good, even great sex feels like and even less of an idea around how to achieve greater levels of pleasure and intimacy. Lees meer
In today's episode, we bring on the incredible Gina Gutierrez, co-founder of the audio erotica app, Dipsea to discuss how we can use story telling, fantasy, self exploration and mental imagery to have better sex in our 20s. We uncover the psychology behind why we love romance novels, how libido and desire changes (and improves) as we reach our 30s and some of the outdated, misconceptions about sex that we need to debunk. Listen now!
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149. Confidence will change your life ft. Tiff Baira
5 december 2023 · 41 min
Confidence truly is the secret to a better life: better friendships, better self esteem, better dates, better romance, better career success. Today, we are joined by the iconic, Tiff Baira known best for her show "Street Hearts NYC", her role as a matchmaker and model, as we explore how having certainty in your worth is the key to your dream life. Lees meer
We break down the equation for true, undeniable confidence, treating confidence as a skill you can strengthen and train, the truth behind "fake it till you make it", learning to reject those who aren't capable of seeing your value and the changes you will begin to notice in your life. Listen now!
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148. Understanding ADHD in our 20s ft. Ellie Middelton
1 december 2023 · 52 min
In 2021, Ellie Middelton received a diagnosis of ADHD and autism at the age of 23. It was one of the best things that happened to her. Today, she joins us to discuss why neurodivergence is typically overlooked in women, the misconceptions we have about ADHD and autism, unmasking and how to navigate a diagnosis later in life. She also discusses how to manage neurodivergence in our 20s, why self diagnosis is valid, and why the path people want you to take, may not always be the one for you. Listen now! Lees meer
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147. The psychology of the eldest daughter
28 november 2023 · 43 min
Do you ever feel like you need to be perfect, that you are responsible for the emotions of others, you’re the organiser in the friendship group, highly self reliant, an overachiever, constantly being told your mature for your age? I would make a good guess that you are the eldest daughter. Lees meer
In today's episode we break down the psychology behind 'eldest daughter syndrome' and how birth order and gender combines to create a certain personality profile and way of behaving and seeing the world. We explore ideas around:
Birth order theory
Parentification
The mental load
Friendships between first borns and last borns
Delayed teenage rebellion
Role modelling theory
Daughtering
We also share tips for healing and taking care of yourself as the eldest daughter, especially in our 20s. Listen now.
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146. Roommates and sharehouses in our 20s
24 november 2023 · 42 min
Living in sharehouses in our 20s are like their own weird, social experiment. We put together a group of people with different upbringings, personalities, lifestyles and standards under one roof and expect it to work out. Sometimes it does, other times it doesn't and we see social harmony break down. In today's episode we discuss: Lees meer
The four styles of roommates
The Cinderella Roommate
The psychology of freeloading
The influence of personality
Living with friends
The role of communication
Conflict, stonewalling and the silent treatment
When its time to move out!
Listen now as we break down the psychology of roommates and sharehouses. And don't forget to share your horror roommate stories!
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145. The psychology of pretty privilege and beauty standards
21 november 2023 · 39 min
Attractiveness and beauty is something we all inevitably find ourselves considering. We question whether we would be happier if we lost weight, would find love if our skin was better, would be more successful if we looked more like her or him. Our obsession with beauty is psychological and deeply rooted in our biology and evolution as a species. In today's episode we break down the existence of pretty privilege and beauty standards in our 20s and how they are impacting our mental wellbeing, sense of self worth and even our financial decisions. Listen now! Lees meer
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144. It's okay for your friendships to change
17 november 2023 · 44 min
In our 20s there are four things we worry about more than anything else: love, money, the future, and our friendships. As we grow and change, the relationships around us will also naturally change and we may begin to notice how we are seeing our friends less and less, watching certain friendships fizzle out or completely outgrowing each other. It's not the same as it once was. This can cause a lot of panic. But underneath the fear of our changing friendships is a more primal fear of being alone. Lees meer
In today's episode we break down the psychology behind our evolving friendships, the four types of friendship breakup, and how to adapt to these new kinds of relationship in our 20s, alongside the biggest friendship misconceptions that keep us in unfulfilling situations. All of that and more. Listen now!
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143. Why do we replay conversations?
14 november 2023 · 30 min
Have you ever had the experience of leaving a conversation and feeling like something you said was off, you sounded weird, you were awkward, worrying about what this person may think of you? This experience is much more common than we think and in today’s episode we break down the psychology behind why we replay conversations, exploring: Lees meer
Rumination
The illusion of control
Social approval
Hypervigilance
Rejection sensitivity dysphoria
Social anxiety, and more
We often place the perceptions and opinions of others on a pedestal and try to closely manage their judgements of us, but that may not always be helpful. We also explore ways you can break out of the thought spiral and regain control. Listen now!
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142. The curse of being an overachiever
10 november 2023 · 39 min
In this week's episode we discuss the curse of being an overachiever. Society celebrates us for our successes, for our ability to work hard, push ourselves and constantly be the best. But this sometimes has contradictory consequences whereby the more we invest in our achievements, the less satisfaction and fulfillment we feel. We break down the paradox of being an overachiever and explore: Lees meer
The impact of being labelled a 'gifted child'
Golden child syndrome and family expectations
External validation
The overachiever's identity crisis
The burnout cycle
Learning your limits and redefining success
Listen now!
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141. How to get over someone you can't stop thinking about
7 november 2023 · 39 min
We all know the feeling of wanting desperately to move on from someone - an ex, a past love, situationship, someone we know we shouldn't be with - but being unable to stop obsessively thinking about them. In this episode we explore the psychology behind why that is, but also how to get to the next stage of healing where you are free of the past memories, thoughts and your feelings for this person. We discuss: Lees meer
The psychological need for emotional closure and how to provide YOURSELF closure
The Polyanna principle and positive bias for the past
The chemical reason for obsession and unrequited
Anxious attachment and overthinking
The excuses that keep us invested in the wrong people
How to emotionally detach
The science of no-contact
10 tips for getting over someone you can't stop thinking about
If you are struggling to move on, even though you've tried and are ready, this one is for you as we unpack how to move on from someone you can't stop thinking about.
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140. The psychology of envy
3 november 2023 · 33 min
Envy is ingrained into our human psyche, each and every one of us has, at times, compared ourselves to someone who has more, or possesses a quality or a level of success that we don't, and felt that familiar spike of pain. In today's episode we break down the psychology behind envy, and why it reflects a deeper insecurity in ourselves we are not ready to recognise. We explore: Lees meer
The prevalence of envy in our 20s
The primal origins of envy
Envy vs. Jealousy vs. Greed
How envy shows up in our behaviour
How to stop comparing ourselves to others
How to be satisfied with what we have
If you want to become friends with that green-eyed monster, this episode is for you. Listen now!
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139. How to have better first dates!
31 oktober 2023 · 38 min
Dating in our 20s can feel like a minefield, a lot of people don't know what they want, what they like, we get ghosted, we get stood up, and then there are the first dates. First dates can feel intimidating but today we are breaking down my 10 tips to have the best first dates of your life. By adopting the mindset that you are there to learn more about yourself and have a fun experience, we take first dates off a pedestal and lower the stakes. Lees meer
Dating is a skill than anything else, it is something that we get better at over time, so what are some ways that we can have better first dates from a psychological perspective, how can we really draw these people in, feel our best, feel most charismatic and in our power but also able to get what we want out of this experience: from the scent you wear, to the location you should choose, the nonverbal cues you should be putting out, how to leverage the power of suspense, all of that and more in this episode. Listen now.
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138. We need a new approach to anxiety ft. Dr David Rosmarin
27 oktober 2023 · 37 min
Dr David Rosmarin is an Associate Professor at Harvard Medical School and the founder of the Centre for Anxiety. Today he joins us on the podcast to discuss how we are getting anxiety WRONG as we break down a new approach to managing our anxiety, rather than approaching it with fear. For anyone who is anxious or has battled anxiety in their 20s and beyond, join us for a vulnerable conversation of how anxiety may actually be your superpower and how it has even created stronger relationships for me, personally. Listen now. Lees meer
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137. I'm putting too much pressure on myself
24 oktober 2023 · 36 min
Today we're having a candid chat about how I'm going. How I'm really going! We discuss imposter syndrome, why I've been putting way too much pressure on myself as of late and in the lead up to 2024 and why that has manifested in some serious burnout and illness (don't mind my Covid voice). I also break down my struggles with being disliked, particularly online and how we can manage and redirect the opinions of others to ensure they do not interrupt our journey to being our most authentic selves. Listen now for a candid catch up, all my love, Jem x Lees meer
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136. The psychology of procrastination
20 oktober 2023 · 35 min
Putting off a task to the last minute might feel good in the moment, but it often leads to a lot of long term consequences and stress. In today's episode we discuss the psychology behind why we procrastinate. Procrastination is often confused with laziness and poor time management, but its so much more than that. Many of us are chronic procrastinators because of factors like: Lees meer
Boredom
Perfectionism and overthinking
Poor impulse control
The pleasure principle
Anxiety regulation
Enjoying the urgency, adrenaline and pressure of doing things last minute
We break down all those causes of procrastination, alongside my SIX crucial tips for managing your chronic procrastination, from chunking, to the 80/20 rule, self imposed deadlines and using social accountability. Listen now!
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135. Emotional eating
17 oktober 2023 · 42 min
Our relationship with food is so much more psychological then it appears to be, and the evidence for that can be seen with emotional eating. Sometimes we eat as a way to process or regulate our emotions, rather than from actual hunger. This can disrupt our relationship with food and lead us to develop unhealthy coping mechanisms. In today's episode, we discuss: Lees meer
The psychology behind emotional eating
Why we emotionally eat
The impact of our hormones and stress response
How diet culture is putting food in control
The truth about intuitive eating
Tips to manage your emotional eating
And more!
I also share my own journey with emotional eating and how my relationship with food has evolved in my 20s. Listen now.
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134. The psychology behind the "ick"
13 oktober 2023 · 32 min
You're dating someone new and suddenly, they show up to a date wearing crocs, or wear goggles to the beach and you get the ick. You immediately lose all attraction to them, you feel the immediate need to end the relationship, why is that? In this episode we break down some of the surprising psychology behind the ick, including the links to our intuition, emotional unavailability, rejection sensitivity and more, but also why the ick isn't always a death sentence. We also discuss why we voluntarily give ourselves the ick towards the people we're interested in and how we can use it to detach from people who may not be good for us. All of that and more! Listen now. Lees meer
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