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Should You Correct Your Child's Grammar? Heritage Language and Play, with Mimi
20 augustus 2025 · 20 min
Does your child resist speaking your native language? The solution might be simpler than you think. In this episode of Dam Parenting, Eva sits down with Mimi from Growing Up Multilingual to explore a heartwarming breakthrough: how a simple afternoon of coloring led to a spontaneous surge in Bulgarian. We take a warm, honest, and direct look at why play is the most powerful "language lab" a child can have. Lees meer
We move away from the pressure of formal "lessons" and discuss why connection must always come before correction. Mimi explains how following your child’s lead creates the emotional safety they need to take linguistic risks. You’ll learn how to build a "play-connection checklist" to nurture language growth at home without making it feel like work. If you’re tired of the language tug-of-war, tune in to discover how showing up with curiosity and presence can unlock the bilingual breakthroughs you’ve been waiting for.
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Montessori, Waldorf, or Public? How to Pick the Right School for Your Child with Isabel Cruz from Consulting Kaleidoscope
13 augustus 2025 · 28 min
The Dutch education system is famous for its variety, but for international parents, that variety can feel like a complex puzzle. In this "Time Vault" episode, Eva and Maren sit down with Isabel Cruz from Consulting Kaleidoscope to take a warm, honest, and direct look at school choices in the Netherlands. We break down the different educational philosophies—like Montessori and Waldorf—and explain the practicalities of when to start planning and what to actually look for during a school visit. Lees meer
Isabel provides the clarity you need to move past the stress of the "lottery" system and focus on what truly fits your child’s personality. We also discuss how to use resources like AlleCijfers to understand secondary school pathways. Whether your toddler is months away from their fourth birthday or you are just starting to explore your options, this episode offers the expert insight and confidence you need to navigate your family’s educational journey in the Netherlands.
Find out more:
Kaleidoscope Consulting
Instagram
Numbers showing which secondary school the children progress to
AlleCijfers
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Time Vault with Project Fearless
6 augustus 2025 · 22 min
August 12th is The United Nations' International Youth Day which recognises efforts of the world's youth in enhancing global society. And I thought who better than to do a re-listen to then Project Fearless. Lees meer
What an incredible Stichting for youth right here in the Netherlands.
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Life Be Lifing
30 juli 2025 · 5 min
Today’s episode is a little different. There are no guest experts, no structured interviews, and no "how-to" guides for navigating life in the Netherlands. Instead, it’s just a warm, honest, and direct note from me to you. We spend so much time as international parents acting as the planners, the problem-solvers, and the "villages" for our own families that we often overlook our own mental load. Lees meer
This is a short conversation about those weeks where everything feels a bit heavy—where the logistics of expat life collide with the raw reality of raising humans. It’s a reminder that it is okay not to have it all figured out and that sometimes, "getting through the day" is a massive achievement. If you’re feeling overstimulated, exhausted, or just in need of a friendly voice that understands the unique pressure of parenting abroad, this episode is for you. You aren't alone; life is just lifing.
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How to Handle Hitting and Morning Chaos: Child Psychology Advice
23 juli 2025 · 29 min
In this episode of Dam Parenting, we’re giving you a seat in a "free therapy" session with our resident child psychologist, Faye from Kerr Psychology. We take a warm, honest, and direct look at two of the most common hurdles for international parents: physical outbursts and the dreaded morning chaos. Lees meer
First, we tackle the "big feelings" that manifest physically—hitting, pushing, and lashing out—and how to support your child without losing your own cool. Then, we dive into the time-management battles that turn every morning into a high-stress scramble. Faye provides evidence-based guidance to help you move from reactive parenting to a place of compassionate clarity. If you’ve ever felt like the only parent struggling to get out the door or manage a meltdown, this conversation is a vital reminder that you are not alone and that there are practical, gentle ways to regain control of your day.
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Bilingual Language Struggles: Why Your Child Understands but Won't Speak with Mimi
16 juli 2025 · 14 min
If your child is a "passive bilingual"—understanding your home language but refusing to speak it—you aren't failing. In this episode of Dam Parenting, Eva welcomes back Mimi to take a warm, honest, and direct look at the psychology of language choice. Moving beyond the "just add more exposure" trope, we dive into the research of Susanne Döpke and Piaget to explain why child-centered interaction is the real key to unlocking speech. Lees meer
We explore how your child’s natural egocentrism means they only speak the language that feels emotionally engaging and relevant to their world. We discuss why "connection before correction" is vital for building the confidence to speak, and how to create low-pressure environments where the home language feels like a gift rather than a requirement. If you’re tired of the language tug-of-war, tune in to learn how to turn passive listening into active, meaningful conversation through the power of emotional attunement.
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Summers Boredom Busters: Where to go with the kids this summer with Samira
13 juli 2025 · 12 min
Where to go, what to do with Samira from AmsterdamKids.com Lees meer
Beaches
Zandvoort aan Zee
Bloemendaal aan Zee
Castricum aan Zee
Texel Island
Zeeland
Scheveningen
Amusement Parks
Efteling
Oud Valkeveen
Duinrell and Tiki Pool
Toverland
Sprookjeswonderland
Easy Outdoor Escapes from Amsterdam
Het Twiske
*Always check water safety on Waterkwaliteit.net before swimming.
Outdoor Pools - Flevoparkbad and Mirandabad
Pierenbadjes
Special Summer Events
SAIL Amsterdam
Museum Summer Programs - grab your Museumkaart
Doolhof Corn Maze
Travel Hacks
NS Spoordeelwinkel
NS Kids free travel
GVB Kids Vrij
OBA - Library
Bonus: Boeren Camping
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Parenting Abroad: Setting Boundaries with In-Laws and Cultural Expectations
9 juli 2025 · 26 min
aising a child far from home brings a unique set of emotional and cultural challenges that many "locals" simply don't see. In this episode of Dam Parenting, Eva is joined by Angela from the Expat Parenting Collective to take a warm, honest, and direct look at the reality of parenting abroad. We dive into a powerful listener story from a new mother in the Netherlands navigating the gap between her Asian heritage and her current postpartum reality. Lees meer
We explore why parenting in a new country feels so isolating, how to manage cultural clashes regarding childcare, and the essential art of setting boundaries with in-laws without the crushing weight of guilt. Angela shares practical tools for building a "chosen village" and reclaiming your inner strength when your biological support system is half a world away. If you’ve ever felt misunderstood by family back home or overwhelmed by the "expat mental load," this conversation is for you.
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Baby Brain is a Lie: How Parenthood Actually Makes You Smarter — with Neuroscientist Dr. Elke De Witte
2 juli 2025 · 45 min
"Baby brain" is one of the most persistent myths in parenting — the idea that pregnancy and new motherhood make you forgetful, scattered, less capable. Neuroscientist Dr. Elke De Witte has spent her career proving it wrong. Lees meer
I sit down with Dr. Elke, author of De Moederbreinmythe (The Motherbrain Myth), for what became one of the most genuinely surprising conversations we've had on Dam Parenting. What she describes isn't decline. It's neurological transformation — a profound increase in plasticity, emotional intelligence, and pattern recognition that applies to every caregiver, not just biological mothers.
We cover:
What is actually happening in the brain during pregnancy and the postpartum period
Why the myth of baby brain persists — and who it serves
The cognitive strengths caregiving builds that workplaces consistently undervalue
Why this matters beyond the personal — and what it means for maternity policy
What partners, employers, and society get wrong about the parental brain
If you have ever felt embarrassed about forgetting something simple, or wondered whether you are somehow less than you were before you became a parent — this episode is a direct rebuttal.
Find Dr. Elke De Witte at: www.elkedewitte.com
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How to Delay Smartphones: Joining the "Opgroeien Smartphonevrij" Movement
30 juni 2025 · 27 min
If you’ve ever felt like the "only one" hesitant to give your nine-year-old a smartphone, this episode is your community. We take a warm, honest, and direct look at the Opgroeien Smartphonevrij (Growing Up Smartphone-Free) movement—a grassroots initiative by Dutch parents to shift the digital norm. Drawing on research from experts like Jean Twenge, we discuss the profound impact of smartphones on a child’s attention, social development, and puberty. Lees meer
We move beyond the guilt to offer practical strategies: how to talk to other parents at your school, how to advocate for screen-free environments, and how to use the "Smartphonevrij" school tracker to see where your local community stands. This isn't about being "anti-tech"; it’s about protecting the space children need to grow without the weight of an adult digital world. Join us to discover how we can collectively change the narrative and give our kids a healthier, more present childhood.
Links to support you:
Want to join the Whatsapp group in your area? CLICK HERE
Want to join the Whatsapp group for English speakers: CLICK HERE - (in select jouw regio - scroll to bottom for ENGLISH)
If you want to check out your own school (or chosen school)
CLICK HERE on your region
Click on the image of a school - Bekijk hoeveel ouders....
From there it will show you the number of students and schools, with the list of cities underneath.
Click into the city and you will get a breakdown of each school registered and keep clicking.. It gets more and more interesting! You will see how many kids in your school, and even by which groep they are in.
If you want the read the materials related to the UK website CLICK HERE
If you want to read about Amsterdam's action plan: You can download the PDF (Dutch only) here
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How Parental Stress Affects Child Behavior: Regulation Tools for Parents with Faye
25 juni 2025 · 28 min
Children are like sponges; they don't just hear what we say, they absorb how we feel. In this episode of Dam Parenting, we welcome back child psychologist Dr. Faye Pool for a warm, honest, and direct conversation about the science of co-regulation. We dive into the "why" behind parental stress, exploring how our own nervous systems impact our children’s developing brains and why managing our own emotions is the first step in handling a tantrum. Lees meer
Drawing on Social Learning Theory and insights from experts like Kate Silverton, Dr. Faye provides practical, real-life techniques to help you stay grounded when things get chaotic. From navigating public meltdowns in a Dutch supermarket to managing the unique pressures of parenting abroad, we break down how to shift from reactive to resilient. If you’ve ever felt guilty for "losing it," this episode offers the tools to help you and your child thrive together through mutual regulation.
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Supporting Migrant Mothers: The MiMoment Project and Improving Mental Health Care
22 juni 2025 · 6 min
Did you know that 1 in 4 migrant mothers experience symptoms of depression during or after pregnancy? In this essential episode, Dam Parenting explores the MiMoment Project, a research initiative by the Vrije Universiteit Amsterdam and the WHO. We take a warm, honest, and direct look at the unique mental health barriers faced by women who have moved to the Netherlands and are now navigating pregnancy far from their birth countries. Lees meer
We discuss why migrant mothers are at a higher risk for anxiety and how the MiMoment project is working to reshape Dutch healthcare to be more accessible and respectful. If you are currently in your 1st or 2nd trimester, born in a low- or middle-income country, and living in the Netherlands, your voice is needed. Join us to learn how participating in this confidential study can help improve care for future mothers—and how we can better support the "invisible" village of international parents around us.
What does it involve?
4 short online questionnaires, in your own language (Dutch, English, Arabic, or Turkish)
Optional: 2 small hair samples to study stress over time
Flexible and completely confidential
Receive up to €40 in vouchers for questionnaires and €20 for hair samples
How to join?
Signing up is easy and does not commit you yet:
Sign up form
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Too Tired to Keep Speaking My Language: Bilingual Parent Burnout, with Mimi
18 juni 2025 · 21 min
Are you constantly asking yourself, "Am I doing enough?" or worrying that your child is "falling behind" in one of their languages? In this month’s multilingual parenting series, we’re joined by the compassionate Mimi from Growing Up Multilingual to address the unspoken emotional load of raising kids with multiple languages. We take a warm, honest, and direct look at the guilt, comparison, and fear that many international families in the Netherlands carry. Lees meer
Mimi explains why your language plan should be a "living document" that evolves with your family, rather than a rigid set of rules. We explore the difference between mindfulness and intentionality, offering practical ways to release the pressure and reconnect with your "why." This isn't about adding more to your to-do list; it’s about choosing presence over perfection. If you’re feeling burnt out by language expectations, join Eva and Mimi for permission to let go of the "shoulds" and make your journey feel intuitive, connected, and significantly lighter.
Further Reading:
5 Simple but Powerful Strategies Utilising Mindfulness to Help You Manage Your Family Language Planning Process
Research:
Mindfulness and foreign language learners’ self-perceived proficiency: the mediating roles of anxiety and burnout
Language Acquisition and Use in Multilingual Contexts. Theory and Practice
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Breaking the Silence: Why Vulnerability is a Superpower for International Dads
11 juni 2025 · 43 min
Fatherhood a long way from home: the part men do not talk about, and what it costs them to stay quiet. Lees meer
Fatherhood is often shadowed by the pressure to "stay strong," but the statistics tell a different story: 1 in 6 fathers in the Netherlands report burnout symptoms, and many struggle with postpartum depression in silence. In honor of Men’s Mental Health Week, Dam Parenting hosts a vital, unfiltered conversation about the emotional realities of being a dad.
We are joined by two fathers from our international community who share their raw experiences—one navigating the trauma of the NICU, and the other managing the daily mental overload of raising a family with ADHD. We take a warm, honest, and direct look at paternal burnout and the "hero" stigma that prevents men from seeking help. Whether you are a dad feeling the weight, or a partner looking to understand the silent pressures of fatherhood, this episode is a call to break the stigma and realize that vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness.
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The First 3 Years Matter: Attachment, Presence and Your Child's Development
4 juni 2025 · 34 min
What actually matters in the first three years and what you can let go of. Attachment, presence, and why most of the pressure you feel is not the science. Lees meer
Listener Note: This episode explores a specific, often traditional perspective on parenting that may trigger feelings of "mom guilt." Please listen with care and take only what serves you.
In this episode of Dam Parenting, we dive into the deep—and sometimes polarizing—waters of attachment theory with licensed clinical social worker and author Erica Komisar. With over 30 years of experience, Erica discusses the core thesis of her book, Being There, focusing on the emotional and physical presence of a mother during a child’s first three years. We take a warm, honest, and direct look at the science of early childhood development, while acknowledging the immense societal and professional pressures modern mothers face—especially as internationals in the Netherlands. This is a conversation about the "why" behind attachment, the challenges of finding balance, and the importance of self-compassion as we navigate our unique parenting journeys. Whether you're seeking affirmation or a new perspective, we're holding space for it all.
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LGBTQ+ Parenting in the Netherlands: What Other Families Wish They Knew
2 juni 2025 · 33 min
The practical and the personal, from families already doing it here. In honor of LGBTQ+ Families Day, Dam Parenting welcomes Jillian to take a warm, honest, and direct look at what it’s really like to raise a child in the Netherlands when your family doesn’t fit the "traditional" mold. Jillian shares her journey of moving here as part of a same-sex couple, the research that led them to the Netherlands, and the unexpected gaps in support they encountered upon arrival. Lees meer
We dive into the importance of representation and the vital role of organizations like Meer dan Gewenst in helping families find their footing. From navigating legal hurdles to building a community that feels like home, Jillian offers invaluable advice for LGBTQ+ families considering a move or already adjusting to Dutch life. Whether you are part of the community, an ally, or an international parent interested in the diverse fabric of our "village," this episode is a celebration of resilience, love, and the power of finding where you belong.
Resources Mentioned:
Meer dan Gewenst is the name of the community organisation Jillian mentioned.
The webinar Jillian spoke about details can be found below in the link. The next webinar is expected July 11th.
Online space with an abundance of resources
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How to Respond to Tantrums: Co-Regulation and Brain Science with Dr. Faye Poole
28 mei 2025 · 28 min
Why do small children have such massive reactions to seemingly tiny problems? In this kickoff to our new monthly series, child psychologist Dr. Faye Poole from Kerr Psychology takes a warm, honest, and direct look at the neuroscience of "big emotions." We dive into the physical reality of the developing brain, exploring how the amygdala and prefrontal cortex play tug-of-war during a meltdown. Lees meer
Faye explains the crucial difference between a tantrum and a true meltdown and offers practical, "in-the-moment" strategies like co-regulation and the "Name It to Tame It" technique. We discuss everyday triggers—from shoe-struggles to food refusal—and why your calm presence is the most powerful tool you have. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by your child’s intensity, this episode provides the clarity and scripts you need to move from control to connection. It’s not about stopping the emotion; it’s about helping them navigate it.
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Miscarriage and Work in the Netherlands: What Leave You Can Take
24 mei 2025 · 8 min
Miscarriage & Workplace Rights: The Fight for National Grievance Leave in the Netherlands Lees meer
Grief doesn’t follow a government calendar, and the "24-week rule" for pregnancy loss leave is finally being challenged. In this powerful episode, Eva joins Fidessa to discuss the movement for national grievance leave for all parents experiencing pregnancy loss. We share an incredible update: thanks to this petition, cities like Amsterdam and Utrecht have already stepped up to accept these terms, proving that local action can force a national conversation.
We take a warm, honest, and direct look at the gap in workplace protections for those experiencing loss in the first or second trimester. This conversation isn't just about policy; it’s about the human right to heal without the pressure of a "business as usual" return to work. Tune in to hear how this grassroots movement is successfully reshaping the Dutch workplace and why your voice is still needed to turn these city-wide victories into a nationwide reality for every parent.
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Raising Bilingual Kids: Why Your Well-being Matters More Than Perfect Grammar with Mimi
21 mei 2025 · 22 min
Do you worry that your child is falling behind or that you aren't providing "enough" language exposure? You aren't alone. In this first episode of our monthly series with Mimi from Growing Up Multilingual, we take a warm, honest, and direct look at the invisible stress and self-doubt that many international parents carry. Lees meer
We dive into why your emotional well-being is actually a primary driver of your child's language development, backed by research showing that maternal mental health predicts the richness of a child's home environment. Mimi and Eva discuss how to shift from a mindset of "doing more" to one of self-awareness and intentionality. We explore how to redefine success, let go of comparison, and focus on connection over perfection. If you're a tired parent juggling cultures and languages, take a breath and tune in. You aren't behind, and you are doing more than enough.
Subscribe, rate, and share this episode with fellow multilingual families. MiMi will be joining us every month to dive even deeper into these powerful, real-life conversations.
Links to topics discussed
-A study published in the Journal of Child Language found that maternal mental health predicts the richness of a child's home language environment and even their expressive language skills - https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/33818326/
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Severe Morning Sickness in Pregnancy: Hyperemesis and Dutch Care
14 mei 2025 · 33 min
When morning sickness is not morning sickness, and how to be taken seriously by Dutch maternity care. Lees meer
Hyperemesis Gravidarum (HG) affects over 3% of pregnancies in the Netherlands, yet it remains one of the most misunderstood complications of pregnancy. In this vital episode of Dam Parenting, Eva sits down with Jessica Sinay from Stichting ZEHG to take a warm, honest, and direct look at the reality of HG. Moving beyond the "morning sickness" myth, we discuss the relentless physical toll, the risk of dehydration, and the mental health challenges—including PTSD—that often follow.
Jessica shares her personal journey and provides essential information on Dutch treatment options, from common medications to the work of leading experts like Professor Rebecca Painter. We explore how international parents can access HG coaches, find private support communities for partners, and navigate the Dutch healthcare system with confidence. Whether you are currently battling HG or supporting someone who is, this episode is a roadmap for finding the compassionate care and medical recognition every family deserves.
Resources & Support:
HG Coaches & Mental Health Support
Private Dutch HG Facebook communities for women, partners, and families
A private Facebook community (>4,400 members)
Dutch HG group for partners of women with HG
Dutch HG group for family, friends etc
A network of trained dietitian's in cooperation with Novita in Utrecht
Partner stories and recovery support articles on the official website
You can make a donation to Stichting ZEHG here and support better care for women with HG.
Listen now and help raise awareness about this life-altering pregnancy condition.
#HyperemesisGravidarum #PregnancySupport #StichtingZEHG #HGAwareness #MaternalHealth #PregnancyPodcast #DutchHealthcare
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Beyond the Baby Phase: A 14-Month Postpartum Check-In with Harriet
7 mei 2025 · 32 min
What happens when the "new baby" check-ins stop, but you still feel like you’re finding your footing? In this season premiere of Dam Parenting, Eva reunites with early guest Harriet for an honest, 14-month postpartum check-in. We move past the newborn haze to take a warm and direct look at the long-term emotional recovery and identity shifts that happen well after the first year. Lees meer
Together, they reflect on the gap between expectation and reality, the unexpected joys of toddlerhood, and the parts of maternal Matrescence that no one prepares you for. This isn't just a catch-up; it’s a raw window into the ongoing journey of becoming a mother in the Netherlands. Whether you are currently navigating the 12-month mark or looking back from further down the road, this episode is a reminder to pause, relate, and breathe. The transformation is still happening, and you’re doing better than you think.
You can find Harriet on Instagram here
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Season 2: Breaking the Stigma: Why Maternal Mental Health is the Heart of Dam Parenting
1 mei 2025 · 1 min
It’s finally here. To kick off Season 2 of Dam Parenting, Eva returns for a warm, honest, and direct solo episode to mark Maternal Mental Health Month. This month is the very foundation of this podcast—born from the need to support mothers navigating the unique emotional hurdles of raising children in a foreign country. After a successful first season exploring the "shadow topics" of parenthood, we are stepping back into the conversation to ensure no parent in the Netherlands feels they have to struggle in silence. Lees meer
In this season opener, Eva reflects on the journey so far and sets the stage for the raw, real topics coming your way. This is an invitation to our international community: your voice matters. We want to hear what you’re facing, from the joys to the invisible burdens. Join us as we continue to build a village of support, breaking down stigmas one honest conversation at a time.
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Why We’re Pausing (and What’s Next): 2025 Podcast News & Updates
11 februari 2025 · 1 min
I have some news: Dam Parenting isn't going anywhere! In this quick 2025 update, Eva takes a warm, honest, and direct moment to share why the podcast is continuing and what the future looks like for our international community in the Netherlands. While we are taking a brief, intentional pause to coordinate fresh guest voices and new episodes, the mission remains the same: creating a space for real conversations about the "beautiful chaos" of pregnancy, postpartum, and modern parenthood abroad. Lees meer
This platform is built with you in mind, and your input is what keeps it relevant. Whether you have a specific topic you’re struggling with, a guest recommendation, or a personal story you feel needs to be heard, we want to hear from you. Check the links in our bio or DM us on Instagram to help shape our upcoming season. Thank you for being part of this village—we’re just getting started.
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2024 Year in Review: 100 Episodes of Parenting in the Netherlands
20 december 2024 · 35 min
We made it! With over 100 episodes now in the books, Eva and Maren take a warm, honest, and direct look back at the highlights of 2024. From deep dives into relationship dynamics and neuroscience to the raw vulnerability of birth stories and matrescence, it has been a transformative year for the Dam Parenting community. In this special season finale, we revisit the moments that resonated most and reflect on the growth we’ve shared as international parents in the Netherlands. Lees meer
But this isn't just a look back—we also have some major news and updates about what’s in store for 2025. Whether you’ve been with us since Episode 1 or just joined the village, tune in for a heartfelt wrap-up and a sneak peek at our next chapter. Thank you for being part of our journey. Grab a warm drink, enjoy the festive season, and let’s celebrate closing out an incredible year together.
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Conflict Resolution for Couples: Healthy Communication Tools and Strategies with Dr. Naomi Gibson
18 december 2024 · 39 min
Conflict isn't the enemy in your relationship—it’s how you handle it that counts. In this timely episode of Dam Parenting, Eva and Maren sit down with relationship expert Dr. Naomi to take a warm, honest, and direct look at conflict resolution during stressful seasons. We move beyond the "blame game" to explore how our individual attachment styles and physiological responses drive our arguments. Lees meer
Dr. Naomi provides a practical toolkit for healthier communication, including the power of "I" statements, the art of active listening, and techniques for managing emotional triggers before they spiral. We discuss how to set "rules for engagement" that protect your partnership and transform heated moments into opportunities for empathy and teamwork. Whether you're navigating small holiday stressors or deep-seated patterns, this conversation offers the actionable steps needed to regulate your nervous system and strengthen your bond. Because at the end of the day, you're on the same team.
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Parenting in Recovery: Breaking Generational Cycles with MamaMaria
4 december 2024 · 40 min
Trigger Warning: This episode discusses addiction and recovery. Lees meer
In this raw and deeply moving episode of Dam Parenting, we sit down with Maria (known as MamaMaria), a psychologist and Aware Parenting Coach, to discuss the intersection of sobriety and motherhood. Maria shares her candid journey of breaking generational cycles of addiction while raising her own family in the Netherlands. We take a warm, honest, and direct look at the emotional toll of recovery and how the tools of sobriety—patience, presence, and self-compassion—can transform the way we parent.
Whether you are navigating your own recovery, healing from a dysfunctional upbringing, or looking to support a loved one, Maria’s story is a powerful testament to resilience. We explore practical strategies for emotional regulation and the vital role of community in the healing process. Join Eva and Maren for an inspiring conversation about choosing a different path for the next generation, one day at a time.
If you are seeking any further assistance with this topic you can always reach out toAlcoholic Anonymous
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DamGoode Bookclub 6) Surviving Holiday Parenting: A Review of 'Why Mummy Drinks at Christmas'
2 december 2024 · 33 min
The holidays are marketed as "magical," but for most parents, they can feel like a marathon of mental load and unrealistic expectations. In this festive edition of the DamGoode Bookclub, Maren and Eva are joined by Elizabeth Goode to discuss the hilariously relatable Why Mummy Drinks at Christmas by Gill Sims. We take a warm, honest, and direct look at the pressures of gift-giving, the "magic-making" fatigue, and the inevitable family dynamics that come to a head in December. Lees meer
This episode is more than just a book review; it’s a permission slip to acknowledge the stress of modern parenting. Through the lens of Sims’ witty storytelling, we explore how to find humor in the madness and why shared laughter is the ultimate antidote to holiday burnout. Whether you’re listening in the heat of the season or looking for a relatable laugh during the "quieter" months, grab a drink and join us for a conversation that prioritizes your sanity over perfection.
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Relationship Compromise: How to Stop Resenting Your Partner After Kids with Dr. Naomi Gibson
27 november 2024 · 37 min
We’re told that relationships are about teamwork, but the reality of parenting—especially without a local "village"—often feels like a constant negotiation of whose needs come first. In this episode of Dam Parenting, Eva and Maren sit down with resident psychologist Dr. Naomi Gibson to take a warm, honest, and direct look at the art of true compromise. Lees meer
We explore why real compromise isn't about "meeting in the middle" or making one person sacrifice; it’s about finding a third way that honors both individuals. Dr. Naomi explains how to use empathy and vulnerability to shift from resentment to genuine collaboration, ensuring that your long-term relationship satisfaction doesn't get lost in the daily grind of tasks. Whether you're struggling with "who does what" or feeling a quiet disconnect from your partner, this episode provides the practical communication tools you need to stop keeping score and start building a more harmonious home.
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DamChats 27) Revenge Bedtime Procrastination: Why Parents Stay Up Late and How to Stop
20 november 2024 · 33 min
Why do we stay awake when we are absolutely exhausted? In this episode of DAMChats, Eva and Maren take a warm, honest, and direct look at the phenomenon of Revenge Bedtime Procrastination. Eva shares a vulnerable breakthrough from a recent therapy session about the overwhelming "nightly reset"—the endless cycle of folding laundry, clearing toys, and tackling dishes that eats into our rest. Lees meer
We explore why we sacrifice sleep for a few moments of autonomy and how the "mental load" of parenting in a foreign country makes these evening hours feel so precious. From the psychology of the "doom scroll" to practical strategies for a restorative wind-down ritual, we discuss how to break the cycle of exhaustion. It’s time to stop treating sleep as a luxury and start finding ways to reclaim your peace without sacrificing your health. Tune in for actionable tips to help the whole family transition from chaos to rest.
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DamChats 26) Over-Scheduled Kids and Burnt Out Parents: How to Stop Doing It All
18 november 2024 · 22 min
Are we creating memories, or are we just checking boxes? In this episode of DAMChats, Eva and Maren take a warm, honest, and direct look at the "more is more" culture of modern parenting. We dive into the exhaustion of the endless to-do list—from the pressure of perfect birthday parties to the weekend dash between trampoline parks and dance classes. Lees meer
We unpack how social media fuels comparison anxiety, making us feel like "enough" is never actually enough. We discuss the impact of over-scheduling on our children's nervous systems (and our own) and why the most magical moments usually happen in the quiet gaps, not the planned activities. If you’re feeling drained by the hustle to keep up with the "Joneses" (or the "Jansens"), this conversation is your permission slip to do less. Tune in for practical insights on fighting parental guilt, embracing simplicity, and reclaiming your family’s time for what actually matters.
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Raising Resilient Kids: Building a Growth Mindset with Dr Faye Poole from Kerr Psychology
13 november 2024 · 36 min
At age four, children begin the lifelong habit of comparing themselves to others. As parents, how do we ensure they see challenges as opportunities rather than failures? In this episode of Dam Parenting, we’re joined by Faye from Kerr Psychology to take a warm, honest, and direct look at building resilience and a growth mindset. Lees meer
We dive into why effort-based praise is more powerful than labeling a child as "smart," and how to foster the intrinsic motivation they need to thrive. Faye shares practical strategies for expanding your child's emotional vocabulary, the importance of child-led play during big transitions, and how to reframe "don’t" statements into positive guidance. Whether you’re dealing with school-age comparisons or toddler frustrations, this conversation is packed with tools to help your child embrace the power of "yet" and grow into a confident, emotionally intelligent individual.
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Montessori Parenting at Home: Nurturing Independence with Simone Davies
6 november 2024 · 46 min
Are you tired of the morning rush and the pressure to always "do more"? In this grounding episode of Dam Parenting, we sit down with world-renowned Montessori educator and author Simone Davies to discuss the transformative power of slowing down. We take a warm, honest, and direct look at how to stop rushing and start trusting your child’s natural pace. Lees meer
Simone explains that Montessori isn't about expensive wooden toys; it’s a mindset of respect and observation. Discover practical ways to set up your home to foster independence, how to balance freedom with clear boundaries, and why a "pouring water" moment is actually a masterclass in curiosity. If you’re feeling overwhelmed by parenting expectations, this conversation will help you reclaim a sense of calm and build a deeper, more mindful connection with your children. Learn how to model the peace you want to see in your home and savor the journey of raising independent kids.
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DamGoode Bookclub 5) Does "How to Talk So Kids Will Listen" Still Work in 2026?
4 november 2024 · 38 min
It is a parenting staple found on almost every expat’s bookshelf, but does How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk actually work in the chaos of 2026? In this episode of the DamGoode Bookclub, Eva, Maren, and Elizabeth take a warm, honest, and direct look at the communication strategies made famous by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish. Lees meer
We break down the book’s core pillars—like acknowledging feelings, inviting cooperation, and finding alternatives to punishment—and discuss how these tools translate to our lives as international parents. We explore what still resonates, what feels a bit dated, and how to use these techniques to build a relationship based on mutual respect rather than control. Whether you’ve read the book cover-to-cover or just want the "cheat sheet" for better communication, join us for a deep dive into talking so your kids—finally—listen.
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From Birth to Back-to-School: A Year of Expat Parenting Wins and Lessons
31 oktober 2024 · 30 min
🎉 Happy 1-Year Anniversary to Dam Parenting! 🎉 Lees meer
What started as a shared need for clarity amidst the "beautiful chaos" of the Netherlands has grown into a trusted resource for international families. In this special episode, Eva and Maren sit down with Gemma from MamaSocial to look back on the journey of building a village from scratch. We revisit the milestones that defined our first year—from navigating kraamzorg and Dutch schools to breaking the stigma around maternal mental health and ADHD.
This episode is a warm, honest, and direct love letter to the power of showing up for one another. Whether you’ve been with us since our first MamaSocial brunch or you’re just discovering us now, thank you for being part of this journey. We’re reflecting on our most impactful episodes, the lessons we’ve learned as hosts, and the exciting future of supporting parents building a life in the Netherlands. You aren't alone—and we’re just getting started.
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ADHD in Dutch Schools: Supporting Executive Function and Learning
30 oktober 2024 · 26 min
How can we help children with ADHD thrive in a classroom setting without losing their spark? In this episode of Dam Parenting, Eva and Maren sit down with Learning Diversity Specialist Kate to take a warm, honest, and direct look at ADHD within the school system. From executive functioning struggles to the sensory overload of a busy playground, Kate shares concrete strategies to bridge the gap between home and the classroom. Lees meer
We explore how to navigate the Dutch school structure, advocate effectively for your child’s needs, and build a collaborative relationship with teachers. This isn't just about academic performance; it’s about protecting your child’s confidence and fostering their unique strengths. Whether you are at the start of a diagnosis journey or looking for fresh ways to support your child’s emotional regulation, this conversation offers the professional insight and compassionate clarity you need to help your child navigate school with success.
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Indoor Amsterdam: Top Family-Friendly Cafés and Play Spaces
24 oktober 2024 · 13 min
Let’s be honest: surviving a Dutch winter with a toddler requires a solid list of escape routes. In this episode of Dam Parenting, we share a community-curated guide to Amsterdam’s coziest corners for families. We move beyond the standard tourist spots to highlight local favorites where you can actually enjoy a warm coffee while your children are safely entertained. Lees meer
From the structured play at Club Abbey and Playhood to the community warmth of Robbeburg and the creative vibes at Kiddo Inspiration Center, we break down where to go when you just need to get out of the house. We discuss the unique features of spots like Mallow Garden and Coffee and Kids, helping you find the perfect atmosphere for your family's needs. Whether it's a drizzly Tuesday or a freezing weekend, these "indoor villages" are here to help you reclaim your sanity and keep the kids moving.
Playhood
Club Abbey
Mallow Garden
Mamasocial
Robbeburg
Coffee and Kids
Wonderpark café Amstelveen
Monti's World
Kiddo Inspiration Center
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How to Stop Arguing About Parenting: Values, Goals, and "I" Statements with Dr Naomi Gibson
23 oktober 2024 · 51 min
What happens when you and your partner stop parenting against each other and start parenting with each other? In this essential episode of Dam Parenting, Eva and Maren sit down with psychologist Dr. Naomi Gibson to explore the art of the "parenting team." Being a couple and being co-parents are two different skills, and often, the pressure of raising kids in a foreign country can drive a wedge between even the strongest partners. Lees meer
Dr. Naomi shares warm, honest, and direct strategies to help you realign, including the power of "I" statements, avoiding the trap of "always" and "never," and how to divide the mental load based on strengths rather than outdated assumptions. We also discuss her "Stick Together" conversation cards—a practical tool designed to help you reconnect and rebuild emotional intimacy. If you’re tired of the "good cop, bad cop" routine, tune in to learn how to set shared values and show up for your children as a united front.
This episode also introduces Dr. Naomi’s 'Stick Together' conversation cards—a beautifully designed tool for partners to have open, honest conversations about parenting challenges, available online and at Monti's World in the Pijp.
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ADHD or Culture Shock? How to Tell the Difference in a New Country
16 oktober 2024 · 51 min
When your child is struggling after a move, telling ADHD from adjustment is genuinely hard. Here is how to start. Lees meer
Is it a language barrier, or is it ADHD? In this powerful episode of Dam Parenting, Eva and Maren sit down with Anne to take a warm, honest, and direct look at her family’s journey from denial to diagnosis. For many international parents, ADHD symptoms are often dismissed as "adjustment issues," leaving families struggling in silence. Anne shares the emotional reality of moving past the "yes, but..." phase and the pivotal role school staff played in helping her see the bigger picture.
We discuss the process of seeking help in the Netherlands, the importance of building a supportive network, and Anne’s inspiration for her book, JellyPie FireFly—a tool designed to help children and caregivers talk about neurodiversity. Whether you are navigating a new diagnosis or suspect your child needs extra support, this conversation is a reminder that you don't have to walk this path alone. Tune in for real talk on acceptance, advocacy, and finding your village.
Anne also shares the inspiration behind 'JellyPie FireFly' a beautifully illustrated book she created to help children (and their carers) talk about what it means to live with. or the origin story of the book, listen to DamChats 11
For more support spaces:
A Different Story is a space where you can find support for families with different backgrounds, experiences and diagnosis.
Ludica provides peer support groups in Amsterdam, for families with neurodivergent members.
CHADD a national organisation that provides information, education and support for people with ADHD and their families.
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Parenting with ADHD: How to Manage Boredom and Sensory Overload in the Baby Years
9 oktober 2024 · 36 min
How do you stay present when the monotony of parenting feels physically painful to your brain? In this episode of Dam Parenting, Eva and Maren sit down with Emma, an ADHD Potential Coach, to take a warm, honest, and direct look at the neurodivergent experience of motherhood. From the quiet frustration of rocking a non-verbal baby to the chaos of toddler tantrums, we explore why the "hard parts" of parenting often feel even harder with an ADHD brain. Lees meer
Emma shares practical, "no-fluff" strategies for managing emotional dysregulation, executive dysfunction, and the dreaded postpartum ADHD flare. We discuss simple hacks to reframe boring routines and how to build self-care into your day without needing extra childcare. This conversation is a vital reminder that your neurodivergence isn't a parenting flaw—it's a different way of processing the world. If you've ever felt overwhelmed by the "overwhelmed mom syndrome," this episode offers the validation and tools you need to find regulation in the beautiful chaos.
You can find Emma at theADHDpotential
Research papers:
The effects of the mother’s ADHD on her parenting role
Parent ADHD is Associated with Greater Parenting Distress in the First Year Postpartum
Overwhelmed Mom Syndrome — It’s a Real Thing
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How to Get an ADHD Diagnosis in the Netherlands
2 oktober 2024 · 31 min
Where to start, who to ask, and what the Dutch route to diagnosis actually looks like. Lees meer
ADHD is one of the most misunderstood labels in modern parenting, often clouded by myths that undermine the real, scientific reality of the condition. In this episode of Dam Parenting, Eva and Maren take a warm, honest, and direct look at the ADHD journey specifically within the Dutch healthcare system. Joined by researcher Marlies Visser, we explore the persistent stigma surrounding the diagnosis and the emotional toll it takes on international families trying to find the right support.
We discuss the practical "how-to" of seeking a diagnosis in the Netherlands, the hurdles of accessing specialized care, and the vulnerable reality of parenting with ADHD. This isn't a clinical lecture; it’s a personal reflection on the diverse paths families take toward understanding. Whether you are at the start of the assessment process or have been living with a diagnosis for years, this conversation offers the solidarity and data-backed insights you need to challenge misconceptions and advocate for your family’s well-being.
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Matrescence: Why You Feel Like a Different Person After a Baby
25 september 2024 · 26 min
The word for what happens to you, not the baby, and why nobody mentions it beforehand Lees meer
The transition to motherhood is as profound as adolescence, yet the term "Matrescence" is still missing from many mainstream parenting conversations. To wrap up our month-long deep dive, Eva and Maren take a warm, honest, and direct look at what they’ve learned from experts like Dr. Naomi Gibson and Ilena Standring. This episode is a raw reflection on the emotional and physical upheaval of becoming a mother while navigating life abroad.
We discuss our key takeaways, the glaring gaps in current research, and why the "village" is more than just a nice-to-have—it’s a biological necessity. Whether you are currently in the thick of this identity shift or looking back on your journey, this conversation serves as a powerful reminder that the struggles you feel aren't personal failures; they are part of a massive developmental leap. Join us as we reflect on how to carry this conversation forward and ensure no mother in our community feels alone in her transformation.
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Understanding Matrescence: The Psychology of Becoming a Motherwith Dr Naomi (plus journal exercise in notes!)
18 september 2024 · 34 min
Matrescence is the developmental transition into motherhood—much like adolescence, it is a period of massive hormonal and psychological upheaval. In this episode of Dam Parenting, Eva and Maren sit down with psychologist Dr. Naomi Gibson to take a warm, honest, and direct look at the "birth" of a mother. We move past the surface-level talk of baby gear and sleep schedules to explore the deep identity shift that happens when you transition from "you" to "us." Lees meer
Naomi breaks down the psychological underpinnings of this phase, helping you make sense of the conflicting emotions and "lost" feelings that often accompany motherhood. We share personal reflections and offer a guided journal exercise (included in the show notes!) designed to help you reclaim your sense of self. Whether you are six weeks or six years into your parenting journey, this conversation provides the self-awareness and empowerment needed to navigate your own Matrescence with grace and clarity.
To help you reflect further on your own Matrescence journey, Naomi shares a journal exercise for times of transition, encouraging you to gain deeper self-awareness and clarity. Grab a simple notebook or use your phone notes, and answer one or more of these questions:
Reflect on a moment of joy from today as a mum.
Recall a challenge you overcame recently. What strengths did you use to get through it?
Think back to a moment when you felt proud of your parenting.
What’s surprised you most about becoming a mother?
How has your life changed since becoming a mother? What significant lessons have you learned along the way?
We’d love to hear how you get on! Stay connected with us on Instagram and share your reflections with us: Instagram: @damparentingpodcast | @drnaomipsychologist
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DamChats 25) How to Reconnect with Your Body: A 10-Minute Journaling Practice for Moms
12 september 2024 · 4 min
Matrescence changes everything—including how we see the skin we live in. Following our deep dive into body image with Ilena Standring, this episode offers a quiet, intentional space to process your own journey. We move beyond "bouncing back" and focus on a loving journaling exercise designed to help you appreciate your body’s resilience, its role in your self-care, and its evolving relationship with the world around you. Lees meer
This isn’t just "toxic positivity"; it’s a practice rooted in the Expand Your Horizon research, a study dedicated to enhancing body image in mothers of young children. We invite you to find a quiet corner, grab a pen, and allow yourself the rare luxury of uninterrupted time. Whether you’ve been struggling with your physical identity or simply want to strengthen your self-connection, this direct and honest exercise will help you reframe your body’s story from the inside out.
If you want to find out more about this journalling exercise, please check out ExpandYourHorizon.org
Research from Enhancing body image in motherhood: A randomised controlled trial of Expand Your Horizon among mothers of young children
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Body Image in Matrescence: Navigating Postpartum Changes and Self-Worth with llena Standring
11 september 2024 · 56 min
Your body didn't just change; it underwent a profound transformation to bring life into the world. In this episode of Dam Parenting, Ilena Standring returns to join Maren for a warm, honest, and direct conversation about body image during Matrescence. We move beyond the "bounce back" myths to explore the real mental and emotional impact of seeing yourself differently after pregnancy. Lees meer
We unpack the societal pressures that fuel postpartum insecurity and share practical strategies for fostering self-compassion when you don't recognize the person in the mirror. From navigating dietary restraint to the sociocultural pressures unique to modern motherhood, this episode is a reminder that your worth isn’t tied to a pre-baby shape. Whether you’re months or years into your journey, join us as we discuss how to embrace your physical self with kindness while raising the next generation. It’s time to stop fighting your body and start honoring the journey it’s been on.
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Harriet’s 6-Month Postpartum Journey : Matrescence and Identity
4 september 2024 · 42 min
What happens when the expert becomes the student? In this episode, seasoned postpartum doula Harriet returns for a warm, honest, and direct 6-month check-in on her own journey through matrescence. After years of supporting Amsterdam families through the "Fourth Trimester," Harriet shares what it’s actually like to live through the identity shift, the emotional highs and lows, and the self-discovery of the first half-year of motherhood. Lees meer
We dive into how her personal transformation has reshaped her professional perspective and what she’s learned about "enoughness" and resilience. Whether you are currently in the thick of the six-month transition or preparing for your own path into motherhood, Harriet’s reflections offer a compassionate mirror to your own experience. Join us for a conversation about the beauty and the burden of becoming a mother, and why we need to talk more about the person being born alongside the baby.
Looking for a postpartum doula to support your own journey? Reach out to Harriet at Nourish and Nest or follow her on Instagram for more information and support.
Instagram: @nourishandnest
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DamGoode Bookclub 4) Matrescence Explained: The Identity Crisis of Motherhood with Lucy Jones
2 september 2024 · 1 uur 8 min
Why does becoming a mother feel like losing yourself and finding a stranger at the same time? In this episode of the DamGoode Bookclub, Elizabeth, Maren, and Eva take a warm, honest, and direct look at Matrescence by Lucy Jones. We explore why this term—representing the profound physical, emotional, and neurological transformation into motherhood—is only just gaining the recognition it deserves in 2026. Lees meer
We discuss the "cultural silence" that leaves women blindsided by the gap between the romanticized version of pregnancy and the often traumatic reality of the transition. From the neurological rewiring of the brain to the societal pressures that lead to disillusionment, we break down why acknowledging this identity shift is essential for our mental health. If you’ve ever felt betrayed by the "happily ever after" narrative of parenting, this conversation will give you the language to own your truth. You aren't failing; you are undergoing matrescence.
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Moving to the Netherlands: Why It Feels Lonely and What Helps
28 augustus 2024 · 33 min
Nobody warns you about the loneliness of the first year. What it is, why it happens, and what makes it lift. Lees meer
Moving to a new country is a massive logistical feat, but it’s the emotional transition that often takes the longest to settle. In this episode of Dam Parenting, Eva and Maren are joined by relocation counselor and coach Erin from @TodayIWasAsked to take a warm, honest, and direct look at the "hidden" side of moving. Whether you’ve just arrived in the Netherlands or have been here for years and are still seeking a sense of "home," Erin shares invaluable strategies for navigating the relocation rollercoaster.
We dive into the importance of prioritizing mental health during transitions, how to find genuine belonging in a new environment, and practical ways to build a local support network from scratch. Erin explains how to turn the overwhelming challenges of expat life into opportunities for growth and fulfillment. If you’re feeling the strain of the "international juggle," tune in for actionable advice to help you feel grounded, connected, and ready to embrace your new adventure.
Find Erin on Instagram @TodayIWasAsked
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Starting School in a New Language in the Netherlands: Tips for Multilingual Families
26 augustus 2024 · 47 min
Entering the Dutch school system is a major milestone, but for multilingual families, it often sparks concerns about language "attrition" at home. In this fan-favorite revisit, Eva and Maren sit down with Eowyn, the expert behind On Raising Bilingual Children, to take a warm, honest, and direct look at navigating bilingualism during the school years. Lees meer
Eowyn shares practical strategies for maintaining fluency in your home language while your child is fully immersed in Dutch at school. We discuss how to foster linguistic growth without burnout, tips for supporting a child starting school in a completely new language, and how to balance cultural identity within a structured school environment. Whether you are worried about your child’s Dutch or desperate to keep your own language alive, this episode provides the expert insights and confidence you need to nurture a thriving, multilingual home.
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When Your Child Starts School and You Are the One Panicking
21 augustus 2024 · 32 min
Why your own school memories surface on their first day, and what to do with them Lees meer
As the summer ends and the school year approaches, the "back-to-school" nerves aren’t reserved just for the children. In this episode of Dam Parenting, Eva and Maren are joined by resident psychologist Dr. Naomi Gibson to take a warm, honest, and direct look at the emotional whirlwind parents face during school transitions. Surprisingly, how we support our children often has less to do with their behavior and more to do with our own childhood school experiences.
We explore how to recognize when your own past academic anxieties are driving your current parenting choices. Dr. Naomi provides practical strategies for managing your own "inner schoolchild" so you can show up as a calm, empowering anchor for your little one. Whether your child is entering Groep 1 or moving to a new school, this episode offers the tools to separate your history from their future, ensuring their educational journey starts with confidence—and yours starts with peace.
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DamChats 24) Journaling exercise - with the Brief Parental Self-Efficacy Scale
19 augustus 2024 · 29 min
In this episode, Eva and Maren guide parents through a powerful journaling exercise using the Brief Parental Self-Efficacy Scale, a tool designed to help parents assess their current strengths and pinpoint areas for growth. This reflective exercise invites parents to take a step back, acknowledge their challenges, and identify where they might need support—ultimately helping them build the confidence and skills they need to thrive in their caregiving role. Lees meer
As they engage in this process of self-discovery, Eva and Maren discuss how this tool can empower parents to become more effective and resilient caregivers, providing them with a clearer understanding of their strengths and areas for improvement. The episode explores the connection between parental self-efficacy and confident parenting, offering practical advice on how to increase self-awareness and grow as a caregiver.
Key takeaways include:
How to reflect on your parenting strengths and areas for improvement.
The benefits of self-reflection for building confidence in your parenting abilities.
Practical tips for becoming a more effective and resilient parent.
How to use journaling as a tool for self-discovery and growth in parenting.
If you're looking to boost your confidence and self-efficacy as a parent, this episode is a must-listen for practical strategies and encouragement to enhance your journey.
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