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Dealing with Guilt Trips, Boundaries, and Non-Monogamy: November Mailbag
17 november 2025 · 1 uur 16 min
Dr. Rick and Forrest open up the mailbag to answer listener questions about effective communication, healthy relationships, and contentment. They explore how defining boundaries, taking maximum reasonable responsibility, and extending an olive branch can help manage ongoing conflict without sacrificing your own needs. They then discuss the power dynamics, ethics, and practicalities of non-monogamy, emphasizing the importance of fairly balancing the rights and needs of everyone involved. Finally, they explore how to cultivate the habit of contentment, even amidst imperfect circumstances. Lees meer
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
3:36: Question 1: “We had an argument and now they’re being mean to me!”
14:18: Question 2: “I set a boundary, and they’re being really passive aggressive”
27:32: Question 3: “My partner wants a non-monogamous relationship. What now?”
48:14: Question 4: “I can’t find contentment anywhere, help!”
1:03:51: Recap
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How to Be Yourself: Authenticity in Relationships with Elizabeth Ferreira
10 november 2025 · 1 uur 13 min
In this very fun episode, Forrest and Elizabeth discuss how to get on the same team in a relationship. They explore how conditions of worth, masking, and developmental trauma can get in the way of showing up authentically, and how falling into common relationship roles can reinforce this. Elizabeth talks about how healthy anger can actually be a productive force in a relationship, and how relationships change when both members start prioritizing the other’s wants and needs. Other topics include “dating yourself,” embracing the slightly weirder version of who you are, and celebrating self-exploration. Lees meer
Key Topics:
1:48: Getting on the same team
3:34: “Conditions of worth,” and authenticity
16:13: Vulnerability in relationships
25:38: Wielding anger effectively
38:05: Fairness, and honoring your partner’s needs
42:49: Dating yourself
47:35: Celebrating self exploration
53:57: Changing our relationship with our parts
01:04:30: Recap
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Fighting the Loneliness Epidemic and the Power of Intergenerational Friendships: Feed Drop
6 november 2025 · 35 min
Today we’re featuring an episode from another show I think you’re really going to connect with: Turning Points: Navigating Mental Health. Lees meer
Can a meaningful friendship bridge a 51-year age gap and help combat social isolation? Meet Peter and Pooja; two unlikely companions whose intergenerational bond proves that friendships can flourish when we break down barriers and embrace human connection.
In this episode of Turning Points, explore how Peter and Pooja’s weekly conversations through Boston's FriendshipWorks program evolved from a simple volunteer match into a life-changing friendship filled with book launches, grocery runs, and life advice that flows both ways.
We also speak with Kyle Robidoux, Executive Director of FriendshipWorks. He shares insights on addressing social isolation and loneliness and how community-based friendship programs are strengthening social connections.
Peter and Pooja's transformative friendship shows that when we approach relationships without preconceived notions, we can unlock the healing power of human connection. Their story offers hope and practical wisdom for anyone struggling with loneliness or seeking to build deeper, more meaningful relationships.
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Trauma Masterclass: Understanding and Repairing Our Hidden Wounds
3 november 2025 · 2 uur 43 min
Today we’re revisiting some of our favorite episodes to explore one of the most salient topics in psychology today: trauma. We begin by tracing its developmental roots with Dr. Lindsay Gibson and Dr. Bessel van Der Kolk, before looking at how it can be passed down through family systems with Dr. Mariel Buqué, associate somatic therapist Elizabeth Ferreira, and author Stephanie Foo. Dr. Jacob Ham and Dr. Peter Levine then share new perspectives on healing, emphasizing the importance of getting out of the head and into the body. Finally, Dr. Gabor Maté discusses the cultural context of trauma, arguing that it's a symptom of a toxic culture. Lees meer
Key Topics:
02:15: Dr. Lindsay Gibson on The Last Impact of Inconsistent Parenting and Lack of Attunement
23:16: Dr. Bessel van Der Kolk on Internalizing Abuse
39:34: Dr. Mariel Buqué on Intergenerational Trauma
58:54: Elizabeth Ferreira on Intergenerational Trauma, Complex PTSD, and Somatic Techniques
1:23:23: Stephanie Foo on Healing from Complex PTSD through Relationships
1:47:15: Dr. Jacob Ham on the Limits of Conceptualizing when treating Complex Trauma
2:06:52: Dr. Peter Levine on Somatic Experiencing and Moving Trauma Through Your Body
2:20:55: Dr. Gabor Maté and our Toxic Culture
2:43:55: Recap
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End Self-Punishment: Curiosity, Joy, and Real Growth with Joe Hudson
27 oktober 2025 · 1 uur 17 min
Forrest is joined by one of the world’s top executive coaches, Joe Hudson, for a conversation focused on how we can reduce self-punishment and live more fulfilling lives by welcoming our emotions and loosening identification with the critical mind. They discuss Joe’s “The Golden Algorithm” - our tendency to recreate the emotions we try to avoid - and explore the three pillars of emotional fluidity, cognitive clarity, and nervous system awareness. Joe emphasizes how good change usually comes from reconnecting with who we already are, and welcoming fear, pleasure, and imperfection along the way. Lees meer
Really enjoyed this one, I hope you do too!
About our Guest: Joe Hudson is the founder of the Art of Accomplishment, and is one of the most sought-after teachers among the world’s top leaders at OpenAI, Alphabet, Apple, and more. He coaches a small group of executives by invitation only, and has collaborated with teachers like Esther Perel, Bessel van der Kolk, Patty Wipfler, and Tiago Forte.
Key Topics:
1:14: The Three Pillars: Emotion, Cognition, Nervous System
8:29: Self-improvement as an act of authenticity
15:44: Deconstructing our thoughts
23:19: The golden algorithm, repression, and why we recreate our pain
31:31: Working with the nervous system
34:11: Shame
43:14: Emotions as windows into wants and needs
49:45: Perfectionism
55:27: Enjoying life
1:08:07: Recap
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Emotional Regulation: How to Feel Your Feelings Flexibly
20 oktober 2025 · 1 uur 27 min
Dr. Rick and Forrest discuss how we can regulate our emotions by feeling, managing, and processing them more effectively. They begin by unpacking common misconceptions and clarifying what healthy regulation looks like - feeling our feelings without being overwhelmed by them. From there, they walk through the three key steps of emotional regulation, focusing on practical tools like cognitive defusion and opposite action. Topics include interoception, the window of tolerance, cognitive bypassing, suppression/repression, and finding a balance between acceptance and agency. Lees meer
Key Topics:
1:59: What Does Emotional Regulation Look Like?
6:08: The Three Aspects of Emotional Regulation
12:35: Step 1: Feeling Your Feelings
27:20: Step 2: Managing Your Feelings
58:50: Step 3: Processing (and maybe expressing) Your Feelings
1:10:10: Recap
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Trauma or Personality, When to Walk Away, and Burnout: October Mailbag
13 oktober 2025 · 1 uur
Dr. Rick and Forrest open up the mailbag to answer listener questions about trauma and its impact on personality, boundaries, anger, and burnout. They discuss how to distinguish the authentic self from the patterns we needed to learn to survive, how to balance duty to self with duty to others, and how to work with explosive anger by first joining with it. Finally, they discuss the importance of moving from empathic distress to compassion in order to prevent caregiver fatigue. Topics include cognitive defusion, taking a bird’s eye view, filling your own cup, and being with your feelings without judging them. Lees meer
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
01:30: Question 1: Trauma or Personality?
07:53: Question 2: Managing Boundaries with a Depressed Partner
28:32: Question 3: Dealing with Explosive Anger
37:45: Question 4: How to Prevent Caregiver Fatigue
47:16: Recap
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The Psychology of Resentment: Over-Functioning, Repression, and Repair
6 oktober 2025 · 1 uur 19 min
Dr. Rick and Forrest explore the silent killer of relationships: resentment. They discuss resentment as a combination of perceived grievance (“I was wronged”) and helplessness (“and I can’t fix it”), before talking about how over-functioning and control tendencies can lead to resentment in relationships - one person shoulders more of the load while quietly stewing about it. Topics include the role of rumination in keeping resentment alive, the difference between legitimate grievances and toxic rumination, and why resentment can feel protective. Rick shares a step-by-step framework for handling resentment when repair isn’t possible, while Forrest highlights how communication and claiming agency can be powerful antidotes. Lees meer
Key Topics:
00:00: Intro
04:14: Legitimate grievances vs. unhealthy resentment
09:44: How perceptions of injustice and helplessness fuel resentment
20:04: Claiming your agency
34:41: How to work through resentment with others
50:11: How to work through resentment when you can’t work through it with others
1:02:51: Recap
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How to Believe in Yourself: Carl Rogers and Humanistic Psychology
29 september 2025 · 1 uur 21 min
Dr. Rick and Forrest explore humanistic psychology, the mid-20th century movement that redefined how therapists relate to clients. It challenged the pessimism of Freud and the mechanism of behaviorism, offering a more hopeful alternative: that our nature is fundamentally good, and our job is to let it shine through. They discuss Carl Rogers’ work, including self-actualization, conditions of worth, unconditional positive regard, trusting your experience, and the central role of the therapeutic alliance. Throughout, they focus on what you can take from these ideas into your life. Lees meer
Key Topics:
00:00: Intro
03:40: Humanism as a response to psychoanalysis
09:53: Humanism’s core principles: inherent goodness, wholism, self-actualization, agency, and subjective experience
21:35: What does humanistic therapy actually look like?
32:46: Congruence, conditions of worth, and authenticity
40:54: History and context: post-WWII and the civil rights movement
56:09: Critiques of humanism
1:02:40: Lessons we can all take from humanistic psychology
1:13:41: Recap
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AI Therapy Deep Dive: Can a Chatbot Be Your Therapist? w/ Dr. Nick Jacobson
22 september 2025 · 1 uur 26 min
AI chatbots may already be the largest providers of mental health services in the United States, raising big questions about safety, effectiveness, and oversight. Dr. Rick and Forrest are joined by Dr. Nick Jacobson to explore the risks and opportunities of AI therapy: Can a chatbot be good at therapy? Will it replace human therapists? What about AI psychosis? How should we think about privacy, bias, and regulation? Is this a silver bullet for mental health access, or are we just opening a new can of worms? Lees meer
About our Guest: Nick is associate professor of biomedical data science, psychiatry, and computer science at Dartmouth, and directs the AI and Mental Health Laboratory there. He’s also the developer of Therabot, a generative AI therapy chatbot that predates ChatGPT, and he’s one of the first researchers to run a clinical trial on AI therapy.
Key Topics:
02:35: Is AI going to replace human therapists?
05:00: Risks of using ChatGPT as your therapist, and general vs. therapy-specific AI
14:30: What should people be worried about?
19:14: Is AI good at therapy?
29:58: Bias, values, and “who’s watching the watchers”
39:17: Is there something unique about a human therapist?
52:21: Oversight and the self-driving car analogy
1:00:51: Personhood, consciousness, and risks of anthropomorphizing AI
1:11:00: Recap
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How to Have a (Good) Life Crisis: Authenticity, Healthy Discontent, and the Anxiety of Choice
18 september 2025 · 1 uur 12 min
Dr. Rick and Forrest explore how to use a life crisis productively, drawing on developmental stage theories, existential philosophy, literature, personal experience, and Rick’s clinical work. They examine the anxieties of death, freedom, responsibility, and choice that often underlie these crises, and discuss how we can not only cope with these anxieties but also harness them to build a more authentic life. Throughout, they simplify, summarize, and invite you to focus on not just the next 10 years, but the next 10 minutes. Lees meer
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
5:26: Life Stages: Erickson and Levinson
15:34: Healthy vs. Unhealthy Discontent
17:18: Inner Conflict and the Anxiety of Choice
24:18: Guidelines for Having a “Good Life Crisis”
29:36: Seizing Each Day
33:00: Coping with the Anxiety of Choice
35:17: Authenticity, Values, and Living True to Yourself
44:17: Roles and Life Transitions
46:28: Clarifying Your Values
52:09: Taking Action
57:28: Recap
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People Pleasing and the Fawn Response with Meg Josephson
8 september 2025 · 1 uur 15 min
Forrest and therapist Meg Josephson explore the fawn response, a survival strategy where safety is sought by pleasing other people. They discuss how fawning can start as self-protection in childhood, but later morph into overthinking, hypervigilance, and self-abandonment. Meg shares her own experience, including how fawning creates resentment and makes it difficult to find a healthy relationship or figure out your authentic needs. Topics include becoming aware of unconscious habits, building distress tolerance, grief, self-compassion, healthy boundaries, and speaking up for ourselves. Lees meer
About our Guest: Meg Josephson is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and author of the new book Are You Mad at Me?
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:18: Self-sabotage as self-protection
4:01: Bringing the unconscious fawn response into awareness
9:51: Silencing wants and needs, conflict avoidance, and resentment
14:33: Rediscovering wants and needs after people pleasing
18:05: The healing arc: grief, anger, and relationship
25:30: Viewing people pleasing as a “part” rather than an identity
30:11: Nice vs. compassionate
51:36: Hypervigilance and the NICER practice
57:22: Authenticity as “uncovering” rather than “fixing”
1:03:02: Recap
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Anxious-Avoidant Relationships, Narcissism, and Insight to Action: Mailbag
1 september 2025 · 1 uur 12 min
Dr. Rick and Forrest open up the mailbag to answer questions about complex situations where good process really matters. They discuss whether to get back with an ex who has seemingly changed, relationships with someone with addictive tendencies, the difference between Narcissistic Personality Disorder and narcissistic tendencies, and why genuine change requires more than insight alone. Other topics include how much to tell your therapist, fears of being misunderstood, and how to approach meditation if you have an underlying vulnerability. Lees meer
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
2:00: Should I get back with my ex?
13:40: Dating someone with long-term substance use
19:30: Narcissistic traits vs. narcissistic personality disorder
32:40: How much research to bring into therapy
39:50: Fear of being misunderstood and hyper-rationality
47:40: Safe meditation practices for people at risk of depersonalization
55:50: Recap
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Limerence: The Psychology of Romantic Obsession with Brandy Wyant
25 augustus 2025 · 1 uur 4 min
Forrest and therapist Brandy Wyant discuss limerence, an intense and often one-sided state of romantic obsession. They explore how limerence differs from both love and ordinary crushes, why uncertainty fuels it, and how it can take over a person’s inner world. Brandy shares both clinical insights and her own lived experience, describing the obsessive thoughts, compulsive behaviors, and shame that often accompany limerence. They examine its overlap with OCD and addiction, and discuss practical strategies from CBT and ACT. Lees meer
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
2:00: What is limerence?
5:26: Limerence vs. a crush
11:28: Why research and treatment lag behind
13:38: Treatment approaches and practical strategies
24:47: Attachment, susceptibility, and shame
29:05: How limerence shapes relationships
38:12: Online communities and reinforcing obsession
49:18: Self-worth and validation
53:41: Recap
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Mingyur Rinpoche: A Meditation Master on Anxiety, Awareness, and Awakening
18 augustus 2025 · 1 uur 9 min
Dr. Rick and Forrest are joined by Mingyur Rinpoche, a renowned Tibetan Buddhist teacher, to explore calming anxiety with awareness, relaxing unhealthy wanting, and finding a deeper sense of our innate goodness. Rinpoche shares how a near-death experience during his four-year “wandering retreat” transformed his relationship to fear and deepened his gratitude for life. They discuss practical ways to see the true nature of the mind, soften the grip of aversion and attachment, reframe fear as care, and embrace impermanence as a path to freedom. Lees meer
Learn more about Rinpoche's live teaching in South Africa and join for free online at https://tergar.org/southafrica.
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
3:33: How a near-death experience dissolved Rinpoche’s fear
7:06: Learning not to fight panic attacks
10:25: Seeing anxiety as clouds in the sky
14:18: Awareness, wisdom, and love as innate qualities
18:39: Recognizing basic goodness even in self-hatred
25:28: Courage to be with doubt and uncertainty
27:51: “Anytime, anywhere” meditation practice
33:57: Awareness and emptiness as inseparable
46:49: Letting old selves die and embracing change
52:41: Recap
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9 Lessons from the Great Minds of Psychoanalysis
11 augustus 2025 · 1 uur 48 min
Dr. Rick and Forrest explore the evolution of psychoanalysis after Freud, highlighting key ideas from figures like Adler, Klein, Winnicott, and Hillman. They track how the field expanded from focusing on the individual ego all the way out to exploring the existential forces that shape who we are. They focus on what lessons we can take away from each of these influential thinkers into our everyday lives. Topics include inferiority complexes, defense mechanisms, object relations, authentic vs. false self, developmental psychology, adaptation, and our confrontation with life's ultimate concerns like death and meaninglessness. Lees meer
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
4:20: Alfred Adler: Inferiority, contribution, and healthy striving
14:05: Anna Freud: Ego defenses and real-time coping
20:09: Erik Erikson: Lifespan development and identity crises
33:20: Melanie Klein: Object relations, splitting, and managing complexity
46:46: Donald Winnicott: True self, good-enough parenting, and holding environments
51:09: Heinz Kohut: Self-psychology, mirroring, and healthy narcissism
1:02:32: Wilhelm Reich: Somatic therapy and character armor
1:08:25: Neo-Jungians: Archetypes, imagination, and symbolic mind
1:18:18: Irvin Yalom: Existential psychotherapy and meaning-making
1:26:50: Recap
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Reclaiming Anger: Trauma, Repression, and Healthy Protest with Elizabeth Ferreira
4 augustus 2025 · 1 uur 7 min
Forrest and associate therapist Elizabeth Ferreira talk about healthy (and unhealthy) anger. They challenge the common framing of anger as a “secondary emotion,” and explore why anger matters, how it relates to trauma, and what it can tell us about our wants and needs. They discuss how to access healthy protest and work with less healthy forms of anger like explosive rage, repression, defensiveness, passive aggression, and righteousness. Elizabeth shares insights from both her personal experience as someone with CPTSD and her clinical practice. Lees meer
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction: Why anger matters, and why it’s misunderstood
3:32: How trauma shapes our relationship to anger
5:40: Bypassing anger in therapy
9:04: What happens when anger is suppressed
12:29: Reclaiming anger: submit, explode, or something else
15:45: Anger as a signal of wants and needs
16:20: Boundaries, protest, and complex trauma
25:01: When CPTSD makes it hard to know what you want
30:06: Dissociation, structural trauma, and accessing anger
35:04: Why we need others to co-regulate big emotions
43:20: Emotional responsibility, self-awareness, and repair
53:26: Reconnecting with wants and needs through play
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Psychoanalysis: Therapy’s Controversial Origins
28 juli 2025 · 1 uur 33 min
Dr. Rick and Forrest explore the ideas, context, and legacy of psychoanalysis, the often-controversial origin point for modern therapy. They discuss psychoanalysis’ early history and key concepts like the unconscious mind, repression, inner conflict, and transference. Alongside those major contributions, they wrestle with what hasn’t aged so well: the reductionism, murky ethics, and deep entanglements with colonialism and the Victorian worldview. This episode is both a tribute to and a critique of psychoanalysis as a rich, flawed, and deeply influential starting point for modern therapy. Lees meer
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction: Why do this episode?
3:40: Appreciating historical and cultural context in therapy
7:15: What is psychoanalysis?
10:35: Freud’s key insight, and the five “big ideas” of psychoanalysis
18:00: The structure of the mind
24:00: Repression, catharsis, and “experiencing out”
27:35: Transference, countertransference, and defenses
29:10: Freud’s psychosexual theory and its legacy
32:55: What psychoanalysis looks like in practice today
41:05: Historical origins: Freud, hysteria, and the “talking cure”
46:45: Freud’s philosophical influences and colonial context
52:00: The moral and political implications of psychoanalytic theory
58:10: Freud’s personal contradictions and complicated legacy
1:07:50: Recap
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Is Self-Help Making You Miserable?
21 juli 2025 · 1 uur 27 min
Forrest and Dr. Rick discuss what's really wrong with the self-help industry, going beyond the obvious pseudoscience and snake oil to examine deeper structural issues. They explore the industry's mixed-bag focus on individual responsibility, the risks of turning healing into a never-ending project, performative personal growth, narcissism, social media and capitalism, and honest striving vs. hustle culture. They also talk about their personal experiences navigating our relationship to the industry. Throughout, Rick and Forrest emphasize finding the middle path: balancing agency with awareness, growth with acceptance, and sincerity with skepticism. Lees meer
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
4:32: Healthy striving vs. obsessive self-improvement
8:27: The role of motivation: growth, shame, and self-worth
12:13: Problems with placing all responsibility on the individual
20:46: Performative self-help and spiritual status-seeking
26:13: Excessive self-preoccupation and narcissistic drift
34:34: Buddhist insights on “selfing” and the illusion of identity
44:43: Self-help as hustle culture
50:57: The generational shift from grindset to bed rotting
54:09: The self-help industrial complex and its incentives
58:56: Commodifying the self and seeking validation
1:04:18: Creating ethical, transparent content
1:08:12: Recap
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The Freeze Response, Gifted Kid Syndrome, and BPD: July Mailbag
14 juli 2025 · 1 uur 18 min
Dr. Rick and Forrest answer listener questions about perfectionism, performance anxiety, trauma, and relationships. They explore how early praise for being “gifted” can create a fear of failure and contribute to “failure to launch,” and share ways to shift from focusing on an idealized future to appreciating your actual self right now. They discuss learned helplessness, the freeze response, and practical ways to build agency and vitality to counter feelings of powerlessness. Other topics include the differences between borderline personality disorder and bipolar disorder, overcoming performance anxiety, and how to decide which friendships are worth investing in. Lees meer
Key Topics:
02:30: Gifted kid syndrome and fear of failure
08:00: Moving from potential to presence
15:50: Performance anxiety and perfectionism
18:50: Redefining success through process goals
22:30: Learned helplessness and the freeze response
29:30: Reclaiming agency and vitality
38:00: Failure to launch in adulthood
45:00: BPD vs. Bipolar disorder
55:00: Rethinking modern friendship advice
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How Real Change Happens with Elizabeth Ferreira
7 juli 2025 · 1 uur 9 min
Forrest is joined by associate therapist Elizabeth Ferreira to discuss parts work, psychological defenses, and how real change happens. They talk about the inner child work Forrest recently did during an episode with renowned therapist Terry Real, and how that led to meaningful changes in their relationship. Elizabeth and Forrest unpack the therapeutic process Terry led Forrest through, and discuss clinical technique, why small shifts can lead to big changes, the challenges of working with developmentally young material, and why insight alone is rarely enough. Lees meer
The episode with Terry we refer to throughout this conversation is titled “Terry Real: Relationships, Trauma, and Inner Child Work.” Here’s the Spotify link.
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
2:40: Elizabeth’s reaction to Forrest’s work with Terry
5:05: Avoidance vs. anxiety
7:21: Unpacking Terry Real’s therapeutic approach
14:37: Avoiding through “fixing”
20:54: What’s changed since then?
31:00: Elizabeth’s experience with inner child work
42:32: How does real change happen?
51:54: “You can’t make your partner change.”
55:15: Recap
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Why Modern Life Doesn't Make Us Happy, and How to Fix It with Dr. William von Hippel
30 juni 2025 · 1 uur 29 min
Life today is safer and more comfortable than ever before, so why do so many people feel unhappy, lonely, and anxious? Forrest talks with evolutionary psychologist Dr. William von Hippel about this paradox in light of our two core needs: autonomy and connection. He argues that modern life has pushed us too far in the direction of autonomy, and that we need to reclaim connection in order to find happiness. Lees meer
They discuss how our evolutionary past shaped our needs for autonomy and connection, the tension between them, and why social connection matters so much for our well-being. They also touch on gender and cultural differences, common misunderstandings about evolutionary psychology, and what people can do to create more balanced and connected lives today.
About our Guest: Dr. William von Hippel is an evolutionary psychologist and former professor at the University of Queensland. He has authored over 150 scientific publications including his books The Social Leap and The Social Paradox.
Key Topics:
0:00: Why hasn’t modern life made us happier?
3:20: The evolution of autonomy and connection
10:15: How modern life favors autonomy over connection
18:10: “Sad success stories,” and the cost of competence
20:00: Competence vs warmth as social signals
26:00: Evolutionary mismatch, and its impact on well-being
29:00: How to understand evolutionary psychology
34:00: Evolved gender differences in autonomy and connection
42:00: Balancing sociocultural and evolutionary differences
49:00: What do those gender differences look like in practice?
55:50: Finding a healthy balance between autonomy and connection
1:08:55: Recap
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Rethinking Masculinity: Strength and Connection w/ Terry and Justin Real
23 juni 2025 · 1 uur 6 min
Forrest is joined by renowned therapist Terry Real and his son Justin for a frank exploration of modern masculinity. They talk about why so many men feel like they’re struggling these days, and how the traditional model of masculinity perpetuates this problem. Lees meer
They discuss the appeal of red pill cultures, the cultural pushback against gender equality, and how to convince men that the answer is not more dominance but more connection. Other topics include emotional intelligence, creating fulfilling relationships, and how men can claim a healthier understanding of strength.
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:50: Terry on patriarchy and male disconnection
7:56: Justin on being raised in an emotionally aware environment
11:34: The problem of male invulnerability
14:35: What do women actually want?
18:10: Strength, relationality, and loving power
27:50: Common patterns in therapy
35:20: The performance of masculinity
49:01: Parenting, gender literacy, and fatherhood
52:10: Selling this to men, and the need for new models
59:48: Recap
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Self-Sabotage: Why You Do What You Shouldn’t, and How to Stop
16 juni 2025 · 1 uur 13 min
We’ve all had moments where we watch ourselves make the exact wrong choice: procrastinating on an important task, picking a fight in a good relationship, or pulling back just when things are starting to go well. This is self-sabotage, and in this episode Dr. Rick and Forrest explore why we do it and how to stop. Lees meer
They talk about how self-sabotage often serves as a form of psychological self-protection, and why doing well can feel like a threat to our identity, before discussing avoidance coping, the conflict between aspects of who we are, and why we stay safe rather than stepping forward. Along the way, they offer practical strategies for updating outdated internal models, working with different parts of ourselves, and building the inner resources that make real change possible.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
2:05: What is self-sabotage, really?
6:10: Why self-sabotage is often a form of protection
10:20: Avoidance coping and the logic of “safe failure”
14:40: The identity cost of doing well
18:55: Internal conflict and the parts model
26:15: Challenge vs. threat: how the brain evaluates risk
32:05: Real-life examples of self-sabotage
37:30: How to begin working with self-sabotaging parts
45:45: Working with self-destructive parts
51:10: Creating safer conditions for growth
57:25: Building a feedback loop that reinforces trust
1:02:40: Recap and additional take-aways
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Terry Real: Relationships, Trauma, and Inner Child Work
9 juni 2025 · 1 uur 18 min
What gets in the way of truly intimate, healthy relationships…and what can we do about it? In this moving episode, Forrest is joined by renowned couples therapist Terry Real to explore how we can build deeper, more meaningful connections. Lees meer
They unpack key concepts from Relational Life Therapy, including the shift from “me” to “us,” the difference between the adaptive child and wise adult, and how to stay grounded during conflict through relational mindfulness. Terry explains how individualism and patriarchal conditioning fuel disconnection, and how therapy can help couples move from power struggles to true collaboration. A highlight of the episode is a live experiential process, where Terry guides Forrest through some inner child work.
About our Guest: Terry Real is a family therapist, speaker, and bestselling author known for his groundbreaking work on men, masculinity, and relationships. He is the founder of Relational Life Therapy (RLT) and the author of several books including The New Rules of Marriage and Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship.
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:34: Systemic thinking in therapy, and the cultural forces that shape relationships
9:00: RLT and confrontation in therapy
12:58: The Adaptive Child, Wise Adult, and how internal parts shape how we relate
17:13: Relational mindfulness, and moving from 'me' to 'us'
27:12: Fierce intimacy: why telling the truth is more loving than being “nice”
30:16: Psychological patriarchy, and how it ruins our relationships
43:28: Experiential process: Terry guides Forrest through inner child work
54:07: How patriarchal norms distort emotional connection for men
1:06:24: Recap
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OCD and Anxiety Disorders with Kimberley Quinlan
2 juni 2025 · 1 uur 4 min
Forrest is joined by therapist Kimberley Quinlan to explore one of the most misunderstood anxiety disorders: obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). Drawing from her clinical and personal experience, Kimberley breaks down what OCD is, how it differs from general anxiety, and the ways it’s often mischaracterized. Lees meer
They discuss the core features of obsessions and compulsions, and how these can manifest across a wide range of themes, including harm, contamination, morality, and relationships. Kimberley explains how Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) works, what makes an exposure “good,” and how to build tolerance for distress rather than trying to eliminate it. They also touch on self-compassion, the role of medication, and the stigmas that can keep people from getting help.
About our Guest: Kimberley Quinlan is a licensed marriage and family therapist, author, host of the popular Your Anxiety Toolkit podcast, and the founder of CBTschool.com.
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:19: Kimberley’s personal experience with OCD
3:36: What is OCD? Obsessions vs. compulsions
8:18: The relationship between trauma (PTSD) and OCD in Kimberley’s experience
11:12: ERP and approaches to treatment
17:14: Differences between clinical ERP and informal exposure practices
24:30: Imaginal exposures for fears that can’t be physically enacted
28:52: Resourcing for exposure
30:26: What if exposure goes poorly?
34:38: Role of self-compassion in OCD treatment
37:02: Considering medication: benefits, stigma, and SSRIs
42:52: Unhooking from intrusive thoughts: ACT, mindfulness, DBT
53:59: “How can I make this my bravest day?”
57:45: Recap
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People Pleasing, AI Therapy, and Sexual Transference: May Mailbag
26 mei 2025 · 1 uur 18 min
In this very fun episode, Dr. Rick and Forrest open the mailbag and answer questions from listeners about people pleasing, the potential (and pitfalls) of using AI as a therapist, and what to do when you develop strong feelings for your therapist. They discuss existential themes like aloneness and agency, whether Gandalf would have made a good therapist, and close with some heartfelt thoughts about what supports a long and loving relationship. Lees meer
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction and Opening Banter
2:50: Question 1: People-Pleasing vs. Prosocial Advice for Depression
6:10: Follow-Up: Do We Train Others to Ignore Our Needs?
11:20: Creating Reciprocal Relationships
12:23: Question 2: AI as a Therapist
31:16: Question 3: Sexual Transference in Therapy
39:56: Question 4: Is Remembering That We’re ‘Ultimately Alone’ Helpful?
56:55: Question 5: What’s the Secret to a Long and Happy Marriage?
1:07:13: Wrap-Up and Final Thoughts
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Disorganized Attachment: Heal By Embracing Your Needs
19 mei 2025 · 1 uur 12 min
Dr. Rick and Forrest explore disorganized, or “fearful,” attachment. This complex style occurs when emotional intimacy and distance both feel uncomfortable, and typically arises based on difficult life experiences. They unpack why this attachment pattern forms, what it feels like on the inside, and how it can change over time. Dr. Rick explains how to break the Catch-22 of disorganized attachment, and how fully embracing and expressing your needs can be the key to finding stability. Topics include hypersensitivity, repression, experiencing out, self-regulation, and why "boring" relationships can be transformative. Lees meer
You can watch this episode on YouTube.
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
2:20: How attachment theory developed, and how it has evolved
11:20: How attachment styles shift based on life experience
15:25: Social environment and internal reliability
23:55: The catch 22 of healing disorganized attachment
29:35: Leveraging coping mechanisms for healing
32:20: Hypersensitivity and embracing your need for attunement
39:50: Repression, and experiencing out
45:45: Recognizing what’s true, and how reality is reliable
48:25: Caring for the body, and innate self-love
53:45: Unique therapeutic approaches to disorganized attachment styles
55:25: Embracing what you really want, and creating a coherent narrative
58:40: Bottom-up self-regulation, self-trust, and internalizing positive feedback
1:04:20: When stable relationships are “boring”
1:06:55: Self-respect and freedom in communication
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Living with Depression with Dr. Scott Eilers
12 mei 2025 · 1 uur 13 min
Forrest is joined by clinical psychologist Dr. Scott Eilers to explore how he both treats and lives with chronic depression. They discuss anhedonia, the catch-22 of treatment resistance, how to build new practices when it’s the last thing you want to do, acceptance, and how a values-based approach can help someone move forward even when they’re feeling stuck. The conversation touches on some of the existential aspects of depression, the therapeutic relationship, and finding some humor along the way. Lees meer
About Our Guest: Dr. Scott Eilers is a licensed clinical psychologist, author, and mental health coach specializing in severe, treatment-resistant mood and anxiety disorders. He is the author of For When Everything Is Burning and hosts the podcast The Psychology of Depression and Anxiety.
You can watch this episode on YouTube.
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:25: Scott’s personal experience of depression
5:45: Distinguishing sadness from depression, and depression vs. a depressing life
9:25: Choosing action, and emotional budgeting
19:10: Symptoms as obstacles, and when to establish new practices
24:45: Navigating emotional numbness, and creating rewarding experiences
31:30: Loneliness, and the struggle to be witnessed
37:45: Accepting how things are, and aiming for better instead of perfect
48:35: AI therapy
54:30: Finding out who you are and what you care about
59:15: Humor, sarcasm, and snarkiness
1:02:50: Recap
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Live Show: Yung Pueblo on Relationships, Change, and Mindfulness
5 mei 2025 · 1 uur 6 min
Forrest is joined by poet and author Diego Perez - better known as Yung Pueblo - for a live conversation recorded at City Arts & Lectures in San Francisco. They reunite the sensitive boys club to talk about how inner work transforms our relationships, what it means to love with an open hand, and the difference between attachment and commitment. Diego shares how his meditation practice reshaped his life and partnership, how he and his wife built a new culture of honesty together, and why real love always shows you what you need to work on. Lees meer
About our Guest: Yung Pueblo is a poet, meditator, and the bestselling author of five books, including How to Love Better: The Path to Deeper Connection Through Growth, Kindness, and Compassion.
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
4:55: Diego’s personal background, and how he came to meditation
9:25: How meditation affects your relationships
13:40: Attachment vs. commitment, and developing comfort with receiving love
20:50: The student mentality, spiritual arrogance, and ‘don’t know mind’
26:45: Preventative communication
30:40: Being in a relationship when both partners are constantly evolving
35:55: What happens on a silent retreat
40:45: How “advanced meditators” argue, and how to have a low stakes relationship check-in
47:45: Rebuilding after past hurt
54:50: Diego’s relationship with the internet, and why he goes by Yung Pueblo
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How to Change Your Personality with Olga Khazan
28 april 2025 · 1 uur 14 min
Can we really change our personalities? In this episode, Forrest is joined by someone who’s actually tried most of the things we talk about on the podcast: journalist and author Olga Khazan. Olga shares the personal experiments that led to her becoming more extroverted and agreeable, and less neurotic. They discuss the Big Five personality traits, how behavior shapes identity, the role of self-concept, authenticity, and some of the common challenges people face when trying to change a core aspect of who they are. Lees meer
About Our Guest: Olga Khazan is a writer at The Atlantic, where she covers health, culture, and the complexities of human behavior. She's the author of Weird: The Power of Being an Outsider in an Insider World and her new book Me, But Better: The Science and Promise of Personality Change.
You can watch this episode on YouTube.
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:15: Olga’s personal background with personality change
5:20: Age, extroversion, self-concept, and Olga’s improv classes
10:10: Unconditional positive regard, meditation, and mindfulness
20:55: Trying on different traits, and acceptance vs. change
24:25: Conscientiousness, openness, agreeableness, and individualism
36:20: Changing at the ‘trait level’, and the changes Olga has embraced most
43:50: Psychedelics, non-self, and identifying what’s really true
53:50: Nature vs. nurture and the aspects we can’t change
56:30: Parenting and personality change
1:02:05: Recap
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Your Parents Are Emotionally Immature. Now What? w/ Dr. Lindsay Gibson
21 april 2025 · 1 uur 20 min
Dr. Lindsay Gibson joins Forrest to explore emotional immaturity, the consequences of growing up with emotionally immature caregivers, and what we can do to change those patterns in adulthood. They discuss the key signs of emotional immaturity, including egocentrism, low empathy, and affective realism. Dr. Gibson then shares how having an emotionally immature parent affects children, often by leading to emotional disconnection and people-pleasing, and the consequences of these patterns in adult life. Topics include the problems with “just be more compassionate,” estrangement, balancing competing desires, and how to heal in adulthood by reconnecting with your feelings, letting go of old fantasies, and setting healthy boundaries. Lees meer
About our Guest: Dr. Lindsay Gibson is a clinical psychologist and the author of the Emotional Immaturity series of books, including her bestseller Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:15: How Dr. Gibson defines emotional immaturity
6:45: Markers of emotional immaturity in parents
11:05: Emotional intelligence in children, loneliness, and regulating parents
19:05: The arc of recovery, responding to feelings with thoughts, and healthy guidance
31:00: Repeating patterns in relationships
36:15: Letting go of the healing fantasy, and when to take space
42:45: Estrangement, compassion, boundary setting, and becoming more authentic
58:45: When healthy change creates social pressure
1:01:55: Common misconceptions about emotional immaturity
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Self-Concept: The Secret to Changing WHO You Are
14 april 2025 · 1 uur 7 min
Forrest and Dr. Rick explore how self-concept, the invisible architecture of who we are, shapes our lives. They discuss how identity can become a cage, the unconscious beliefs we have about who we are, and how loosening those beliefs might be the key to lasting change. Lees meer
Forrest and Rick talk about the science of psychological flexibility, how to challenge limiting self-beliefs, and why a little more “don’t-know mind” can go a long way. They share insights from Carl Rogers, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), and Buddhist philosophy, and focus on practical ways to update your self-concept without losing who you are.
You can watch this episode on YouTube.
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:40: What is self-concept?
8:25: Stories, frameworks, and expectations
13:30: ‘I’ vs. ‘me’, and feeling misunderstood
16:55: Carl Rogers’ framework of self-concept and congruence
24:20: Common tropes for defending identity
30:45: Applying principles of biological evolution to your sense of self
34:50: Resistance to change, and misguided beliefs
40:35: Don’t-know mind, affirmation, and taking in the good
47:30: The Buddhist conception of the self
53:40: Living in direct experience, and basic trust
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Linking: The Secret to Rewiring Painful Memories
7 april 2025 · 1 uur 11 min
Forrest and Dr. Rick explore one of his most powerful psychological tools: linking. Over time, linking can help us rewire the brain, softening the impact of painful memories. They discuss the neuroscience behind this process, the role of memory reconsolidation, and the importance of matching positive experiences to our original pains. Rick shares personal examples, practical tips, and a few important cautions so you can apply this technique safely. This is a grounded, hands-on episode focused on one of his most high-impact ideas. Lees meer
Warning: There is a brief mention of SA toward the end of the episode.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:45: What is linking?
5:30: The relationship between linking and memory, and coherence therapy
12:20: The challenges with linking, and making the positive stronger than the negative
20:40: How to practice linking
31:00: How to disentangle our adult selves from our ‘parts’
39:30: The “erasure protocol”
53:15: How long it takes for linking to help, and key questions to ask yourself
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How to Get On the Same Team: Relationship Mailbag
31 maart 2025 · 1 uur 8 min
Dr. Rick and Forrest answer questions focused on navigating common relationship conflicts, focusing on situations where people need to find a middle path between different needs. The discussion covers balancing sensitivity with directness, bridging differences in emotional processing speeds, setting healthy boundaries without anger, and understanding how childhood patterns influence adult relationships. Throughout, they explore how couples can move from seeing issues as "me problems" to "we problems," emphasizing the importance of being on the same team and strengthening connection. Lees meer
You can watch this episode on YouTube.
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:50: How do I know if I’m being too sensitive or my partner’s being too harsh?
13:30: I need space to process; my partner wants to resolve things immediately. How do we bridge the gap?
20:55: How do I determine whether or not a relationship problem is a dealbreaker?
33:00: How can I discern between rumination and useful anxiety?
41:40: How can I honor my need for self-protection while maintaining my naturally open heart?
49:15: If parents have certain problematic traits, are their children more likely to develop those traits as well?
56:00: RecapRumination Course: Rick’s 5-week online course Breaking Out of Rumination starts on March 29th. Rumination is a big pain point for many people, and this course will help you learn how to break repetitive patterns of thought. Learn more at RickHanson.com/ruminating, and use coupon code BeingWell25 to receive a 25% discount.
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How to Find Your Path in Life with David Epstein
24 maart 2025 · 1 uur 23 min
In one of my favorite conversations, bestselling author David Epstein joins the podcast to explore how to find your path in life, the problem with 10,000 hours, and why generalists triumph in a specialized world. David and I discuss why sampling different paths before specializing tends to lead to more fulfillment. David explains why feeling "behind" is actually normal for successful people who take non-linear paths, and how "fit looks like grit" when you find something that genuinely connects with your strengths and interests. We then detail how to identify good fits, a practical process for getting good at almost anything, and what helps create a breakthrough moment. Lees meer
About our Guest: David Epstein is a bestselling author, science writer, and investigative reporter known for challenging conventional wisdom about peak performance. His books include Range: Why Generalists Triumph in a Specialized World and The Sports Gene.
You can watch this episode on YouTube.Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction and summary of David’s work
1:25: The benefits of generalism and an unusual background
4:15: Feeling behind, and David vs. Malcolm Gladwell’s 10,000 hours
11:40: Curiosity, transferable skills, and comfort with failure
21:40: Problems with specialization, and the value of consistent learning
27:10: Beginner’s mind and the eight lane highway
31:35: Finding what you want to do, and the value of constraint
41:35: Doing what’s in front of you, and Frances Hesselbein
45:55: How to actually get good at something
54:20: More on getting comfortable with failure
1:00:10: Autonomy, flow, and just picking something
1:04:00: What creates the “breakthrough moment”?
1:11:30: RecapRumination Course: Rick’s 5-week online course Breaking Out of Rumination starts on March 29th. Rumination is a big pain point for many people, and this course will help you learn how to break repetitive patterns of thought. Learn more at RickHanson.com/ruminating, and use coupon code BeingWell25 to receive a 25%…
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How to Stop Overthinking: Rumination, OCD, and Breaking the Awareness Trap
17 maart 2025 · 1 uur 11 min
Self-awareness is a good thing…right? In this episode, Forrest and Dr. Rick Hanson explore how we can stop overthinking and break the self-awareness trap: when knowing ourselves becomes an obstacle to change. They discuss the difference between reflection and rumination, the pitfalls of being "an expert on yourself," and why overthinking is often an avoidance mechanism disguised as problem-solving. Dr. Rick shares practical strategies for managing attention, setting boundaries around decisions, and cultivating an experimental mindset.
You can watch this episode on YouTube.
Rumination Course: Rick’s 5-week online course Breaking Out of Rumination starts on March 29th. Rumination is a big pain point for many people, and this course will help you learn how to break repetitive patterns of thought. Learn more at RickHanson.com/ruminating, and use coupon code BeingWell25 to receive a 25% discount.
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:40: When self-awareness gets in the way
8:15: Rumination vs. reflection
13:25: Developing passion for the ‘useful truth’, and working with obsession
16:45: Beginner’s mind and self-concept
25:15: The 90/10 approach to overthinking
31:15: Seeing what’s liberating, naming what’s important, seeing your full self
35:05: Managing your attention, and self-trust
42:00: Thinking vs. taking useful action
50:35: Letting yourself experiment
54:00: Self-acceptance, and having a spirit of openness
58:10: Avoiding the unknown
1:00:35: Recap
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How to Get Your Life Together: The 90/10 Rule
10 maart 2025 · 1 uur 19 min
There’s never been more information out there about psychology, self-improvement, and mental health, making it easy to get lost in the details and lose sight of what matters. In this special episode, Forrest and Dr. Rick apply the 90/10 rule to psychology and self-help: what are the small handful of things that tend to make the biggest difference for people?
You’ll learn why most self-help advice should probably be ignored, how to simplify your approach to happiness and personal growth, and what actually moves the needle when it comes to feeling better, getting unstuck, and building a fulfilling life.
You can watch this episode on YouTube.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
2:00: Putting the big rocks in first
8:40: Root factors of well-being
15:15: Satisfaction, and what helps us rest easy
26:05: Avoidance, and responding to our own objections
32:35: Finding what matters to you, spirituality, and creative expression
36:25: Small, consistent action
39:50: Relationships and the power of repair
43:00: Stress, self-regulation, and creating space around your thoughts
48:55: Identifying your broken link, and the role of integrity
53:30: Allostatic load, and acknowledging when you’ve done your best
1:00:00: Being on your own side, pursuit mindset, and benefiting others
1:03:40: Self-concept, and joining the defense
1:06:00: Bottom up regulation, and taking one thing at a time
1:10:35: Recap
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Improving Focus and Fixing Your Attention Span
3 maart 2025 · 1 uur 18 min
Dr. Rick and Forrest explore how we can improve focus and fix our attention spans in a world that is constantly trying to distract us. They discuss common reasons it’s hard to focus and three key interventions that can help most people. Rick teaches approaches from mindfulness practice, and Forrest explains how we can improve focus motivation and distress tolerance. Topics include ADHD, the role of dopamine, expanding the “Goldilocks Zone,” the practice of doing hard things, and how we can become less reliant on willpower.
You can watch this episode on YouTube.
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
5:25: Three key areas where we seek focus
9:10: Self-belief and inner turmoil
14:10: Three factors for sustaining focus
20:50: The goldilocks zone, physical health, and emotional preoccupation
24:40: Difficulties with meditation and mindfulness
32:40: Willpower vs. motivation
40:20: Quieting the mind
41:25: Decreasing the reward value of our distractions
48:35: Being present with others
54:05: ‘Going wide’, self-compassion, and other tactics for completing tasks
1:02:10: Choice and rumination
1:06:15: Recap
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Protecting Yourself from Narcissistic People with Dr. Ramani Durvasula
24 februari 2025 · 1 uur 21 min
Dr. Ramani Durvasula, one of the world’s leading experts on narcissism and narcissistic abuse, joins Forrest to help us learn how to understand, identify, and recover from relationships with narcissistic people. They start by discussing the traits associated with narcissism, the spectrum of narcissistic behaviors, and Dr. Ramani’s critiques of the NPD diagnosis. They then talk about different kinds of narcissism and why narcissists can be difficult to identify before moving on to the issues with narcissism in relationships. Dr. Ramani explains the general pattern narcissism follows, what narcissistic abuse looks like in practice, and what we can do to become more "narcissist resistant.”
About our Guest: Dr. Ramani is a clinical psychologist, professor emeritus at California State University, Los Angeles, and the author of a number of books including her most recent It’s Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People. Her work has been featured on The Today Show, CNN, and The New York Times. She also offers an online program for survivors of narcissistic abuse.
You can watch this episode on YouTube.
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:30: Defining the variety of narcissistic personality styles
9:40: Narcissism as a tactic for external validation
13:00: Narcissistic supplies, personality style, and diagnosable conditions
24:45: The appeal of narcissistic traits, and their effect on specific relationships
33:25: Getting stuck in a relationship with a narcissist, and devaluation
42:45: Manipulation, gaslighting, and discerning what’s real
52:35: Becoming narcissist resistant
1:00:45: Nervous system responses
1:03:25: Covert narcissism and seeing your own traits
1:06:45: Recap
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What to Do When Your Worst Fears Come True: Mailbag
17 februari 2025 · 59 min
Dr. Rick and Forrest open up the mailbag and answer questions from listeners, many of which focused on anxiety experiences. They start by discussing “dreaded experiences,” and how we can respond when our worst fears come true. Rick then shares how we can respond effectively to feedback, before answering a short question about taking in the good. Forrest and Rick then answer three questions related to different kinds of anxiety: social anxiety, managing different levels of concern in a relationship, and anxiety brought on by slowing down.
You can watch this episode on YouTube.
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:00: How do you handle situations where you really fear something, and then it actually happens?
10:45: How can I become more receptive to feedback, and respond with less defensiveness?
19:00: How long do I need to “take in the good” for?
22:55: How can I work with my anxious parts when navigating social anxiety?
29:20: How can I support a partner who experiences a lot of anxiety?
40:40: Why am I struggling so hard with mindfulness meditation?
48:00: Recap
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Learning to Trust Yourself: How to Stop Self-Abandonment
10 februari 2025 · 1 uur 7 min
In this special episode, Dr. Rick and Forrest explore how we can become more self-reliant, and learn to trust ourselves. This helps us be resilient in the face of life’s challenges, and it’s a key resource for people who tend to abandon their wants and needs. They start by discussing why some people struggle with self-trust, the difference between inside-out and outside-in safety, and changing the model we have of ourselves. Forrest introduces a framework for developing self-trust based on self-efficacy, flexibility, self-advocacy, and accurate appraisal, and Rick applies this to how we can build self-worth and feel strong and capable.
You can watch this episode on YouTube.
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:10: Why some people have an easier time trusting themselves than others
4:30: An outside-in vs, inside-out sense of safety, and feeling reliable
9:50: Welcoming positive feedback, and psychological flexibility
14:10: Sticking up for yourself
19:55: Stabilizing yourself when feeling helpless
25:00: Evaluating internal stories, and living moment to moment
30:15: Feeling like someone who matters, and feeling seen by others
35:00: Three aspects of self-regulation, and self-appraisal
41:35: Object relations, and focusing attention on your inner world
48:55: Seeing yourself as the creator of your world, and authenticity
55:15: Recap
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Everything I've Learned (so far): A Guide to Personal Growth
3 februari 2025 · 56 min
In this special episode, Forrest focuses on the key lessons from 400 episodes of Being Well, giving you a crash course in personal growth and development. If you’re just getting into the show, or are looking for a good episode to share with people who are new to this kind of content, this is a great place to start.
You can watch this episode on YouTube.
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:10: Change is possible, but change is hard
3:00: Focus on what you can control
4:30: The consistency principle
6:05: Punishing ourselves is a losing strategy
7:45: What are you pursuing?
9:30: The negativity bias
11:40: Why you don't have self-worth
13:40: Change the beliefs you have about yourself
17:05: Forming a coherent narrative
19:50: Set reasonable expectations
22:45: The middle path
24:30: Homeostasis and social pressure
26:30: How to get good at anything
27:45: Willpower, and avoiding willpower
28:25: Don’t know mind
31:25: The trap of self-awareness
32:35: Risking disappointment
34:10: The function of our bad habits
36:00: Look for those who support you
37:15: Changing our models of relationship
40:00: Authenticity
41:50: Embrace good conflict
44:40: Contempt
46:20: Start by joining
48:40: Experiencing out
49:55: Joining with the defense
51:15: Moving toward to move away
52:40: Learning to trust yourself
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Letting Go: Rumination, Breakups, and How to Stop Feeling Attached
27 januari 2025 · 59 min
Forrest and Dr. Rick focus on one of life's most challenging but essential skills - letting go. Whether you're trying to break free from repetitive thoughts, move on from a relationship, or change an old pattern of behavior, this episode will help you learn how to release what no longer serves you.
They start by exploring why letting go is so difficult, the nature of the brain and how it gets in our way, and how to start opening up to a new way of being. They then discuss different practical approaches to letting go, how to work with the feeling of “giving up,” and staying on your own side when facing resistance.
You can watch this episode on YouTube.
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
3:05: Rumination and the comfort of familiarity
7:00: Allowing for shifts in identity
14:25: An example of working with a pattern
29:40: Being on your own side when you feel resistance from others
34:45: Letting go vs. giving up, and orienting toward our own fulfillment
43:35: The destabilization phase, and learning about yourself
51:05: Recap
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Healing Attachment Wounds with Elizabeth Ferreira
20 januari 2025 · 1 uur 17 min
Attachment wounds are emotional injuries that develop based on painful experiences with those we care about. These experiences create a kind of blueprint we carry around for how relationships work, and when that internal model is based on fear and pain, it's hard for our relationships to thrive. Somatic therapist Elizabeth Ferreira joins the show to help us understand how we can heal old wounds and develop more secure forms of relating.
Elizabeth and Forrest explore how early experiences shape our relationships, with a particular focus on a common paradox: deeply wanting connection while simultaneously fearing intimacy. They discuss fearful attachment, how Elizabeth approaches working with attachment wounds in clinical practice, complex PTSD, self-abandonment, facing our dreaded experience, setting healthy boundaries, and navigating relationships where fearful attachment patterns are present.
About our Guest: Elizabeth Ferreira is an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist working in California. She specializes in somatic approaches to trauma work.
You can watch this episode on YouTube.
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:05: Elizabeth’s personal experience of fearful attachment
7:40: Working with a therapist to heal attachment
11:55: Elizabeth’s experience learning to create boundaries
21:35: Internal Family Systems, and how to dialog with our parts
27:15: Working with our protective part, and self-criticism
31:00: Dialoguing with our inner child without a therapist
38:15: Healthy anger, grief, and patience
42:25: What helped Elizabeth be vulnerable in relating to Forrest
53:10: Disorganized moments, identifying needs, and taking in the good
1:00:20: Intent, impact, and reasonable limits
1:05:20: Becoming your own secure attachment figure, and healing in community
1:09:10: Recap
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Limerence, Love, and Life Transitions: January Mailbag
13 januari 2025 · 1 uur 5 min
Dr. Rick and Forrest begin the mailbag by exploring limerence – an obsessive form of romantic attraction – and offer practical recommendations for working with one-sided infatuation. They then discuss what to do when romantic vulnerability feels unsafe, and how we can rebuild trust in others after traumatic experiences. The episode also tackles managing career transitions, dealing with social anxiety around positive interactions, and maintaining boundaries without being consumed by anger.
You can watch this episode on YouTube.
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
0:50: What can I do when I experience limerence, or compulsive romantic attraction?
18:00: How can I learn to trust my partner and embrace the experience of happiness in my relationship?
26:50: How can I best think about the inherent uncertainty in the 2-3 years of preparation for a new career path?
37:55: How can I learn to “take in the good” when good experiences feel uncomfortable for me?
44:55: How can I maintain important boundaries in a way that doesn’t lead to me feeling too much anger?
56:40: Recap
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Navigating Situationships: How to Get What You Really Want
6 januari 2025 · 1 uur 6 min
Forrest and Dr. Rick explore "situationships" – those poorly defined, boundary-free relationships that exist in a gray area between friendship and committed dating. They unpack why these arrangements have become so common, examine the emotional trade-offs that keep people stuck, and share how to reclaim a sense of agency and build more authentic connections. The episode includes a role-play where Forrest plays someone struggling with situationships, while Dr. Rick draws on his decades of experience as a couples counselor to offer guidance.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
2:35: What is a situationship?
7:25: The benefits of a situationship, and relationship asymmetry
13:05: A roleplay of sharing your feelings
20:55: Uncertainty, wanting to be liked, and the fear of asking for what you want
31:10: Gears of rapport, and knowing your worth
38:05: Honoring yourself when a change is needed
48:05: How much to care, and the natural arc of change
52:35: Early indicators that someone is ready for a relationship
58:55: Recap
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Beyond Resolutions: Discover What You Want in 2025
30 december 2024 · 1 uur 15 min
Why do New Year's resolutions usually fail by February? Forrest and Dr. Rick explore why traditional goal-setting falls short and offer a new approach to creating lasting change. They discuss how we can uncover our authentic wants and needs, move away from a punishment mindset, and use our new knowledge to find fulfillment. This episode will teach you how to get more out of any other New Year’s content you listen to.
Rick and Forrest walk through a practical example of brain dumping “shoulds,” shifting the focus from means to ends, and working with internal resistance. They end the episode with a role-play focused on working with someone who wants to find a more meaningful relationship.
Rick’s Yearly Program: Rick’s Foundations of Well-Being 2.0 is a year-long, science-backed journey through developing 12 key inner strengths like mindfulness, motivation, and confidence. It’s currently on sale, and if you like Being Well we think you’ll love it. Follow the link here and use coupon code beingwell20 for an additional 20% off: RickHanson.com/FWB
You can watch this episode on YouTube.
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
2:35: Fulfillment as a target, and other healthy ways of orienting to our goals
14:00: Cataloguing our “shoulds”, and being driven by a sense of enthusiasm
23:20: How Forrest has personally connected with his authentic wants
30:15: The “punishment part”
35:50: Practical techniques for identifying our values
41:45: A roleplay focused on how to find a meaningful relationship
51:25: Reviewing the roleplay
55:05: Knowing your why
59:50: Developing your personal psychology, and surrendering to the best within you
1:03:40: Recap
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Attachment Masterclass: Sue Johnson, Rick Hanson, Julie Mennano, and Elizabeth Ferreira
23 december 2024 · 2 uur
Why do some people navigate the social world with such ease while others feel like they're swimming upstream? In this special episode of Being Well, Forrest is joined by four leading experts for a masterclass on the science of attachment. Featuring conversations with Dr. Sue Johnson, Dr. Rick Hanson, Julie Mennano, and Elizabeth Ferreira, this carefully curated episode gives you a map to becoming more socially confident, emotionally intelligent, and authentically connected.
Topics include: Lees meerThe four fundamental patterns that influence how we show up in every social interaction.
Dr. Sue Johnson's guide to having deeper, more meaningful "hold me tight" conversations.
Dr. Rick Hanson’s approach to working with self-abandonment.
Julie Mennano on working with the anxious-avoidant dance that brings so many couples to therapy.
Elizabeth Ferreira’s somatic and trauma-informed perspective on healing attachment wounds.
Rick’s Yearly Program: Rick’s Foundations of Well-Being 2.0 is a year-long, science-backed journey through developing 12 key inner strengths like mindfulness, motivation, and confidence. It’s currently on sale, and if you like Being Well we think you’ll love it. Follow the link here and use coupon code beingwell20 for an additional 20% off: RickHanson.com/FWB
You can watch this episode on YouTube.
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
3:35: Rick Hanson: How to become securely attached
31:20: Working with common attachment wounds
47:35: Sue Johnson: How to have a bonding conversation
1:09:35: Julie Mennano: The attachment mistakes that bring people to therapy, and how secure couples relate differently
1:22:25: Rick Hanson: Self-abandonment, anxious attachment, and how to build up a greater sense of self-worth and self-trust
1:40:30: Elizabeth Ferreira: Creating a secure relationship
1:56:50: Recap and outro
About our Guests: Dr. Sue Johnson is a clinical psychologist, researcher, professor, and the founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), a widely used and r… -
Working with Your Parts: Complex PTSD, Dissociation, and Hypervigilance with Elizabeth Ferreira
16 december 2024 · 1 uur 20 min
Somatic therapist Elizabeth Ferreira joins the show to discuss complex trauma, dissociation, and working with challenging emotions. Forrest and Elizabeth start by exploring the relationship between Internal Family Systems and somatic therapy, including how we can apply a somatic lens to working with our parts. They then apply that framework to complex PTSD, cognitive bypassing, emotional numbing, hypervigilance, and other difficult experiences. Other topics include issues around comparing trauma, windows of tolerance, appreciating individual needs, and Elizabeth’s own journey of becoming a therapist while managing C-PTSD and ADHD.
About our Guest: Elizabeth is an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist working in California. She specializes in somatic approaches to trauma work.
You can watch this episode on YouTube.
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:15: What is the crossover between IFS and somatic therapy?
12:25: What helps a psychologically literate person who struggles to have a felt experience?
19:05: How can I track my capacity and needs in social situations before dissociating?
35:05: Why do I feel numb, and how can I move past it and feel my feelings again?
41:05: How can I address hypervigilance and stay present with my feelings without catastrophizing?
48:40: How do I respond to friends (or clients) who minimize their own pain or trauma?
58:55: What has supported Elizabeth in pursuing her vocation amidst challenges with trauma and neurodivergence?
1:10:40: Recap
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