Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson
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Becoming Our Best Selves with Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman and Dr. Jordyn Feingold
9 januari 2023 · 57 min
We often know what we “should” do, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy to do it. Today Dr. Rick and Forrest are joined by Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman and Dr. Jordyn Feingold to explore how we can learn to consistently choose our best selves, overcome barriers to growth, and fully actualize ourselves.
About our Guests: Scott is a cognitive scientist, humanistic psychologist, professor at Columbia University, host of the popular Psychology Podcast, and the author of 10 books, including Transcend: The New Science of Self-Actualization. Jordyn is a resident physician in psychiatry, a well-being researcher, and a positive psychology practitioner. Together, they’re the authors of the recently released Choose Growth: A Workbook for Transcending Trauma, Fear, and Self-Doubt.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:40: Why the title Choose Growth?
3:50: Balancing growth and discomfort
7:20: The value of social support
12:00: Growth from positive experiences
14:15: Mindset
15:40: 8 ways to choose growth
16:35: Building self-esteem and distinguishing it from narcissism
24:55: Becoming a transcender
29:25: Transcending dichotomies
34:15: Practicing self-compassion
36:50: The underlying ground
41:30: Creativity and healing
46:00: Daily positive medicine for collective growth
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Why Don't We Get Better?
2 januari 2023 · 56 min
This is the podcast’s five-year anniversary, and over that time I’ve submerged myself in psychology, self-help, and personal growth content - and as a result I’ve changed in many important ways. At the same time, some things have been very hard to change. It's surprising how even after learning so much I still often feel like I’m pushing the same old rocks up the same old hills.
On today’s episode I’m joined by Dr. Rick Hanson to explore why we struggle to get better, how much change is realistically possible, what makes real change hard, the hidden barriers to lasting change, and what we can do to overcome them.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
3:55: Why do you want to change?
4:50: Four fundamental strategies
7:00: Three common issues
9:20: Effort, skillfulness, and luck
12:40: People’s autonomy about whether they want to change or not
13:50: “Tailwinds” to help yourself
17:30: Secondary gains, avoiding change, and naming payoffs and costs
24:15: Levity and affection for yourself
27:15: Starting by owning that we choose our behavior
30:10: Resistance and the parts of us that don’t want to change
34:00: Framing, starting with benefits, and absolving shame
39:35: Tactics vs. Strategies
42:30: Celebrating small change, aiming for big healing
46:40: Recap
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How to Reinvent Yourself (in 2023)
26 december 2022 · 55 min
We’ve come to the end of another year, and it’s a good time to take stock and consider how we’d like to grow and change during our next trip around the sun. In this episode, Forrest and Dr. Rick focus on what supports us and what holds us back from reinventing ourselves and becoming all we wish to be. They talk about how they’d like to change over the next year, different approaches to new year’s resolutions, do a little digging around in Forrest’s psyche, and highlight a few practical things we can do to support our growth.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:55: Different frameworks around goals and intentions
6:15: Forrest’s goal: more freedom, less constraint
8:50: Integrating the mundane and the profound
11:35: What supports us in changing? What constrains us?
13:35: Mentors, and other sources of encouragement
22:00: Reverting to old patterns when returning to old environments
28:00: Self-acceptance makes change possible
29:45: “Trim tabs” and other forms of psychological leverage
35:30: Diligence, effort, and consistency
37:50: Addressing deficits and reassuring yourself
40:30: Relaxing around inevitability
41:40: Embracing the joy of possibility and change
46:35: Recap
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The Science of Stress with Dr. Elissa Epel
19 december 2022 · 53 min
We think of stress as “bad” for you, but what if some forms of stress could actually help us grow and change for the better? On today’s episode Forrest and Dr. Rick are joined by Dr. Elissa Epel, a psychologist and leading stress researcher, to explore the science behind the stress response. They talk about the different forms of stress, what separates “good” stress from “bad” stress, how we can take advantage of good stress, and dealing with existential forms of stress like the climate crisis.
About our Guest: Elissa Epel is a psychologist, bestselling author, and a Professor and Vice Chair in the Department of Psychiatry at the University of California, San Francisco. Her research focuses on stress, well-being, and optimal aging. She’s also the best-selling co-author of The Telomere Effect, and her newest book is The Stress Prescription: Seven Days to More Joy and Ease.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:10: Toxic stress vs. hormetic stress
6:30: Challenge orientation vs. threat response
11:35: Simple anchoring practices and their effects
17:00: Autophagy
19:00: Practical consequences of different forms of stress
25:25: Distinguishing physiological from psychological stress
31:00: Comfort with uncertainty and shared existential concerns
40:20: The future of the planet and its inequities
42:40: Recap
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Responding to Criticism, and Accepting The Way Things Are
12 december 2022 · 53 min
Criticism is an unavoidable part of life. But even though we’re all going to be criticized from time to time, many of us spend much of our lives living in fear of criticism. Then, on the flip side, we’re all critics ourselves. We’ve all been in situations that aren’t quite what we want them to be – so we need to either do something to change them or accept them as they are.
On this episode Dr. Rick and Forrest focus on how we can get better at receiving and giving criticism, learn to accept what lies outside of our control, and avoid the “mood of complaint.”
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction and critiques of the podcast
4:45: Where we place our attention
8:00: Two kinds of complaint
8:55: Self-righteousness and identifying with our complaints
11:25: What do we hope to accomplish by complaining?
13:15: Sharing experience vs. asserting information
18:35: Developing relationships where your vulnerability is welcome
24:45: Projecting your unclear desires on other people
28:10: How to respond to negative feedback and manage your reactions
32:00: Releasing attachment to changing others and responding to trolls
39:00: Complaints come from emotional dissatisfaction
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Living While Dying with Sensei Koshin Paley Ellison
5 december 2022 · 59 min
“All the time I work with dying people, and only a few of them know they are dying.”
On this episode of Being Well, Soto Zen teacher Sensei Koshin Paley Ellison joins Forrest and Rick to explore living, dying, and personal practice in the midst of our beautiful, challenging, messy lives.
About our Guest: Sensei Koshin is an author, Zen teacher, Jungian psychotherapist, and co-founder of the New York Zen Center for Contemplative Care. He began his formal Zen training in 1987 and completed six years of training at the Jungian Psychoanalytic Association. His most recent book is Untangled: Walking the Eightfold Path to Clarity, Courage, and Compassion.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:40: Koshin’s got game
3:20: The privilege of witnessing the dying process
11:25: Difficult emotions that come up when considering death
16:00: Entanglement vs. spaciousness
28:30: Windows of acceptance, and the things we don’t want to accept
33:15: Compassionate presence
37:55: How Jungian training has influenced Koshin’s contemplative practice
42:35: What Koshin is still untangling, and the ground of being
48:30: Appreciating being alive
51:45: Recap
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How to Understand Anxiety and See Threats Clearly
28 november 2022 · 43 min
We’re living in an anxious time, and part of the reason we’re anxious is because there are very real challenges we face both individually and collectively. But we’re also affected by the natural tendencies of the brain, which is easily influenced by fear and threat. On this episode of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson focus on how we can see threats clearly and be the “right amount” of concerned.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:20: Why is it hard for us to see threats without excessive worry?
3:35: Transcending evolutionary influences toward fear
6:30: The last time Rick took LSD
10:45: Discerning what’s valuable in our anxieties, and leaving the rest
15:45: Forrest’s apartment fire story
17:35: Disagreements in evaluating a threat between people
21:55: Probability of risk
25:00: Practical techniques to assess threats with more clarity
29:30: Existential acceptance
33:30: Help for anxiety about anxiety
37:15: Recap
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Moving Beyond “Fair” to Build a Great Relationship with Nate and Kaley Klemp
21 november 2022 · 1 uur 5 min
These days couples often shoot for 50/50 in their relationships: an even split of responsibilities in the home or at work. But 50/50 often leads to fights over fairness, and this fixation on fairness can be the death of many relationships.
On this episode of Being Well, Forrest and Dr. Rick are joined by Nate and Kaley Klemp to explore how we can build fun, fulfilling, and truly equitable relationships. Topics include Nate and Kaley’s early relationship struggles, different models of relationship, breaking out of old patterns, and how we can manage situations where one partner really is contributing significantly more than the other.
About our Guests: Kaley Klemp is an executive coach and expert on small-group dynamics, and Nate Klemp is a bestselling author and founding partner at Mindful, one of the world's largest mindfulness media and training companies. Together, they’re the co-authors of The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Relationship.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:45: Nate and Kaley’s personal relationship as a basis for their work
5:30: Three different models of relationship
9:30: Two pillars to 80/80 - mindset and structure
12:20: How a 50/50 dynamic caused problems for Nate and Kaley
19:20: The conscious or unconscious division of roles
21:30: Gratitude and generosity
25:40: Parenting, shared success, and being on a team
32:15: Getting your partner’s buy-in, reveal and request
39:50: Underlying beliefs and power imbalances
44:20: Creating structure (and data) to have difficult conversations
49:30: Distinguishing a reluctant partner from an unwilling partner
52:05: Key skills that distinguish successful couples
56:10: Recap
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Choosing the Roles We Play in Life
14 november 2022 · 1 uur 9 min
If you’re the kind of person who listens to mental health podcasts, you’re more likely than average to get pulled into an impromptu “helping role” with your family and friends. Sometimes we seek out these roles, but they can also be uncomfortable or one-sided. And sometimes we get stuck playing a role for someone else that we never wanted in the first place.
On this episode of Being Well, Forrest and Dr. Rick use this situation as a way in to exploring the various roles we play in life, and the profound impact those often unconscious roles have on us. They talk about relationship models, how we select our roles, how familiar roles can keep us trapped in old patterns, enactments and triangulation, and how we can exit unhealthy systems.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
2:50: The hazards of accidentally becoming a friend’s therapist
6:45: Objectivity, professionalism, and not needing to be liked
11:00: The roles we take on and how they shape us
16:45: Why we choose certain roles, and being crippled by our strengths
21:00: Enactments
25:15: Splitting
30:10: When someone else pushes you into a role
35:10: Triangulation
48:10: Deep listening and a lesson from Carl Rogers
51:10: Practical tips for drawing boundaries in your roles with others
59:40: Recap
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Authentically Developing Self-Worth
7 november 2022 · 53 min
It’s one thing to feel good about what we do, and another to feel truly worthy from the inside out. When we increase our self-worth it allows us to take our needs more seriously, get on our own side, and change our lives for the better.
On this episode of Being Well, Rick and Forrest explore how we can develop a more durable sense of self-worth. They talk about self-worth vs. self-esteem, what causes people to lack self-worth, Rick’s personal story of developing a true sense of worthiness, and why more self-worth probably won’t turn you into a narcissistic a**hole.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:00: The value of self-worth
2:50: Will improving my self-worth turn me into a narcissist?
5:45: What makes people more likely to struggle with self-worth?
6:50: Distinguishing self-worth from self-esteem
9:30: Rick’s own journey to a better sense of self-worth
14:55: Inner attacker, inner nurturer, and the beleaguered self.
19:15: The process of building up your nurturing parts
27:20: Investigating negative stories we tell ourselves
30:55: Mutual rapport and being loving
33:40: Social aspects of developing self worth, and why therapy works
36:50: Non-social aspects
38:20: Relating to yourself from a less ego-oriented perspective
44:40: Vulnerability and tenderness in our interactions with others
46:05: Recap
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Saying No to Your Past, Embracing Growth, and Becoming Lighter with Yung Pueblo
31 oktober 2022 · 56 min
Diego Perez, widely known by his pen name Yung Pueblo, joins Forrest to explore how we can deepen our personal practice, refine the mind, break old patterns, relax the self, and feel lighter than we were before.
This was one of my absolute favorite conversations I’ve had on the podcast, and being with Diego was a real pleasure. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.
About our Guest: Diego Perez is a poet, meditator, and New York Times bestselling author widely known through his pen name Yung Pueblo. His writing focuses on how we can grow and change for the better, create healthy relationships, and come to truly know ourselves. His newest book is Lighter: Let Go of the Past, Connect with the Present, and Expand the Future.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
0:55: Why the name Yung Pueblo?
2:35: What holds most people back from growth
4:35: Habits Diego struggled with and the logical basis of coping mechanisms
9:15: Moments of insight in learning Vipassana Meditation
11:40: Finding stability in the gradual separation from the ‘self’
20:30: Stories others have told us about ourselves
26:50: What has helped Diego find a flexible sense of identity?
28:55: Relationships as a process not a person
31:20: Diego’s personal meditation and creative practice
34:15: The benefits of a pen name and healthy detachment from your work
40:00: Benefits and pitfalls of social media
42:50: Forrest’s meditation practice, and the positive aspects of difficult emotions
48:25: What Diego would tell his younger self.
50:30: Recap
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How to Forgive Yourself
24 oktober 2022 · 1 uur 1 min
We all make mistakes in life. When we do it's important to take appropriate responsibility, feel the "wince," and make amends as we can. But after we've done that...then what? Many people find it easier to forgive others than they do to truly forgive themselves, and it's not uncommon to be burdened by excessive shame and guilt that has outlived its expiration date.
On this episode Dr. Rick and Forrest explore forgiveness, including how we can forgive ourselves. This includes common myths and misunderstandings about forgiveness, the difference between healthy and unhealthy forms of shame and remorse, coming to terms with what we've done, and a roadmap to achieving (self-)forgiveness.
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
2:05: Assumptions, approval, and what forgiveness is and is not
7:45: What does healthy remorse look like?
10:00: Forrest exploring a dream about appropriate remorse
13:00: Our internalized justice system
17:00: More on dreams and internal parts
24:25: Aspects of unhealthy remorse
27:30: How to move through a recurring cycle of shame and unhealthy remorse
32:30: Proportionality, defensiveness, intention, and owning your mistakes
41:00: Clean pain and dirty pain
46:55: Some concrete practices
51:40: Recap
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Evolving Our Approach to Treating Trauma with Dr. Bessel van der Kolk
17 oktober 2022 · 1 uur 2 min
On today’s episode of Being Well, Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, the author of The Body Keeps the Score, joins Rick and Forrest to explore how trauma keeps us stuck, and how we can use imagination, self-expression, and creativity to break away from those old patterns. Along the way they talk about using somatic and non-cognitive interventions, internalized abuse, the value of a developmental perspective, using psychedelics for complex trauma, some of the problems with modern psychiatry, and how we can cultivate an equitable, flexible, and compassionate approach to treatment.
About Our Guest: Bessel van der Kolk is a professor of Psychiatry at the Boston University School of Medicine and president of the Trauma Research Foundation in Brookline, Massachusetts. He’s also the bestselling author of The Body Keeps the Score, which is one of the most influential modern books in the field.
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:15: Imagination and aspirational thinking in healing trauma
4:55: Creativity and cultural context
6:10: Where a sense of agency begins
8:40: Why people internalize abuse
16:30: The many practices for redefining past traumas
22:10: The state of psychedelic research and the importance of patient care
29:15: The need for new approaches to diagnosis and treatment
34:00: Issues with the DSM-5 and the need to integrate interpersonal processes
38:50: What counts as trauma? Collective trauma?
42:25: The need for cooperative strategies confronting trauma in pro-social movements
45:15: What helps people resource themselves to create change?
51:45: Recap
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Changing Old Patterns, Using Psychedelics Thoughtfully, and Exploring Human Nature: October Mailbag
10 oktober 2022 · 1 uur 1 min
On this episode of Being Well, Rick and Forrest answer questions from listeners. They explore what they’re still working on in their relationship, how we can disengage from obsessive thoughts and old patterns, Rick’s thoughts on psychedelics and how they can be used with discernment, their views on whether human nature is innately cooperative or competitive, and much more.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:10: What do Rick and Forrest still find challenging in their relationship?
8:40: What to do with obsessive thoughts
17:00: What to do when old patterns creep up
26:35: Rick’s thoughts on taking psychedelics with intention outside of therapy
35:05: Respect for indigenous tradition around psychedelic plant use
37:00: Interpretation, discernment, and drugs as telescopes
42:45: Compassionate justice vs. holding and controlling
47:50: How do we get the ideas we have about the world?
53:25: Recap
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PTSD, Post-Traumatic Growth, and Prioritizing Mental Health with Jason Kander
3 oktober 2022 · 59 min
In 2016 Jason Kander was a rising star in the Democratic Party. After narrowly losing the race to become one of Missouri’s Senators, he began laying the groundwork for a Presidential run. Jason unexpectedly pivoted to declaring his candidacy for the 2019 Kansas City mayoral election, and quickly became the clear favorite. Three months into that campaign he ended his candidacy and stepped back from public life after revealing that he had suffered from PTSD and depression after serving as an intelligence officer in Afghanistan in 2006 and 2007
On today’s episode of Being Well, Jason joins Forrest to talk about his personal journey recovering from PTSD, the impact of his time serving in Afghanistan, imposter syndrome and shame, having a mental health challenge in public, and what we can do to better support veterans.
About our Guest: Jason is a former Missouri Secretary of State and member of the Missouri state legislature. He’s current the President of National Expansion at Veterans Community Project, a non-profit organization dedicated to fighting veteran suicide and homelessness. He’s also the host of Majority 54, a popular political podcast, and the author of Invisible Storm: A Soldier’s Memoir of Politics and PTSD.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:45: Jason’s experience coming to accept having PTSD
3:45: Symptoms
5:50: How the military (mostly doesn't) address PTSD
8:00: Chronic stress, public perception, feelings of failure, and uncertainty of recovery
13:40: Jason’s Veterans Affairs (VA) experience
15:40: Veteran's Community Project and other resources for veterans
20:00: Therapeutic practices Jason did
27:50: Physical sensations associated with PTSD
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How to Effectively Communicate What You Want
26 september 2022 · 1 uur 2 min
On the previous episode of Being Well, we talked about how to identify our wants and needs...but identifying our needs is just the first step. After that comes the tricky business of coming to terms with those needs, and communicating them effectively to other people.
In this episode, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson explore best practices for claiming and expressing our needs. This includes how to navigate shame and inhibition, make effective agreements, be considerate of the person on the receiving end of our wants, and become more skillful at negotiation and repair.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
2:05: Getting real about meeting our needs.
7:10: Suppressing needs due to self-worth challenges
8:35: Patience, making your offering, and tipping points
11:45: Inhibition, and negotiating our needs with other people
15:50: Non-Violent Communication and “Wise Speech” models
26:30: The need for multiple cycles of communication
28:20: Expecting defeat, and two big moments of pain
32:10: Keeping agreements
37:45: Confidence in the ability to repair
39:35: Considering the person on the receiving end of your communication
43:00: Generosity
45:15: Questions to ask when feeling uncertain about how to express a need
49:30: Death by a thousand cuts, and facing discomfort
52:10: Asking others, “What else do you want from me?”
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Discovering Your Wants and Needs
19 september 2022 · 1 uur 5 min
Everyone has needs, but many people find it difficult to identify what authentically matters to them. Even when we can identify them, shame or fear often stops us from expressing those needs to others or taking the practical steps that would help us achieve them.
Meeting our needs is a major source of well-being, and people who can identify their needs are more likely to get them met. On today’s episode of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson focus on how to look inside, and figure out what you really need. They discuss different frameworks for categorizing our needs, what to do when we are confused by our desires, and how to get in touch with what you really want.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
2:05: Common features among people who struggle to name their desires
7:05: Three basic steps to relate to wants and needs
8:00: Different frameworks for categorizing wants and needs
21:00: What helped Rick get in touch with his own wants and needs?
28:00: An experiential exercise
35:10: Why addressing your needs and wants is not just naval gazing
38:40: Forrest’s suggestions based on his own experience
45:25: What to do when what we want is probably not best for us
51:40: Creating a personal manifesto
54:30: Recap
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Healing Trauma in a Toxic Culture with Dr. Gabor Maté
12 september 2022 · 1 uur 5 min
Renowned physician Dr. Gabor Maté joins Rick and Forrest to explore the many problems for our bodies and minds that arise out of our modern culture, and what we can do to meet our needs, heal ourselves, and become more whole. They discuss our increasing separation from one another, issues with aspects of the medical model, the true nature of addiction, the developmental needs of children, the myth of “normal,” and recovering from traumatic experiences.
About Our Guest: Dr. Gabor Maté is one of the world’s leading experts on trauma, addiction, and childhood development. His work has had an enormous impact on how we understand the interactions between our internal world and the world around us, and he is the bestselling author of In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts, Scattered Minds, and his newest book The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness & Healing in a Toxic Culture.
Watch the Episode: Prefer watching video? You can watch this episode on YouTube.
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:55: What Gabor means by a toxic culture
4:25: Interpersonal biology - our physiology is modulated by our relationships
7:10: What components are needed for a healthy culture?
11:55: Examples of toxic culture’s impact on people’s behavior
15:20: Addiction
21:00: How and when to distinguish degrees of trauma
27:05: Where and when to express healthy anger
33:10: How turning against the self manifests as illness
36:45: What supports people in returning to their authentic nature?
40:00: Psychedelic-assisted psychotherapy, and creating a sacred context
41:45: Grief, integration, and letting go
44:55: Gabor’s relationship with his children
48:25: Five kinds of compassion, disillusionment, and truth
51:20: Is it kind? Is it true? Is it necessary?
53:25: Recap
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Understanding, Recognizing, and Dealing with Narcissists with Dr. Craig Malkin
5 september 2022 · 1 uur 8 min
We all have narcissistic traits. Having some sense of our own specialness isn’t just normal, it’s actually psychologically healthy. The problems start when people go beyond normal levels, and become addicted to feeling special. On this episode, Forrest is joined by Dr. Craig Malkin to explore narcissism and narcissistic traits. They talk about the different forms narcissism takes, the difference between narcissistic traits and narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), red flags, dealing with narcissists, treatment options, and finding the “right amount” of feeling special.
About our Guest: Dr. Malkin is a Lecturer in Psychology for Harvard Medical School, a licensed psychologist with several decades of clinical experience, and the author of Rethinking Narcissism: The Secret to Recognizing and Coping with Narcissists. He also has a great YouTube channel.
Watch the Episode: Prefer watching video? You can watch this episode on YouTube.
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:35: Narcissism as a pervasive universal trait
4:10: What differentiates healthy narcissism vs. disordered narcissism?
5:45: “Triple E” - exploitation, entitlement, empathy impairments
6:45: Incapable of empathy, or unmotivated?
9:10: What distinguishes having narcissistic traits from having NPD?
13:05: Extraverted, covert, and communal narcissism
23:10: Healthy and unhealthy narcissistic traits often go together
25:20: Insecure attachment
28:30: Emotional hot potato
32:10: Social and cultural power dynamics
36:25: What does healing narcissism look like?
42:55: What modalities do you use in therapy?
45:20: Difficult relationships, communal activation, empathy prompts
50:35: Extinction bursts and using anxiety responses in therapy
53:25: How do you repair with your partner?
57:05: Recap
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Dealing with Difficult Emotions with Mollie West Duffy
29 augustus 2022 · 1 uur 11 min
We all experience big, difficult feelings, from common emotions like uncertainty, anger, despair, and regret, to difficult experiences like the pains of comparison, burnout, and perfectionism. On today’s episode of Being Well Podcast, Forrest is joined by the wonderful author, coach, and content creator Mollie West Duffy to explore how we can accept those big feelings, learn to live alongside them, and develop tools that help us deal with them more effectively.
About Our Guest: Mollie is an expert in organizational design, development, and leadership who has helped advise and coach executives and founders at companies including Google, Casper, and LinkedIn. She’s the co-author of the bestselling book No Hard Feelings: The Secret Power of Embracing Emotions at Work, and the recently released Big Feelings: How To Be Okay When Things Are Not Okay, and is also one half of the Instagram account, @lizandmollie.
Watch the Episode: Prefer watching video? You can watch this episode on YouTube.
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:30: Why is Mollie’s new book called Big Feelings?
5:10: The useful flip side
6:45: How Mollie’s relationship to anger changed during the creation of this book
9:20: Difficult emotions as a resource and source of regulation
11:30: Unhelpful myths in how to deal with difficult emotions
16:45: Healthy responses to those myths
21:10: Vulnerability
25:50: Emotional granularity
27:05: Lengthening the time between trigger and response
30:05: Processing anxiety
35:25: How to relax the desire for control
41:45: Medication
44:10: Anxiety doesn’t accurately reflect risk
46:40: Burnout - even around things you enjoy
55:25: Comparing our suffering with others
57:05: Comparing our accomplishments with others
1:01:35: Recap
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How to Use Your Diagnosis (Without It Using You)
22 augustus 2022 · 1 uur 7 min
Receiving a diagnosis can be emotionally challenging, and leave a person with a lot of understandable questions: What does this mean? What do I do now? How do I relate to this?
On this episode Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson explore what a diagnosis is, how the diagnostic process works, the limitations of diagnosing someone, dealing with the emotions that come up, and how we can better think about and relate to receiving a diagnosis. Throughout the conversation they focus on how we can come to understand ourselves better, and be liberated by that understanding rather than burdened by it.
ADHD is used a number of times during this conversation as an example, so if you have an ADHD diagnosis this episode could be particularly interesting.
Watch the Episode: Prefer watching video? You can watch this episode on YouTube.
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
2:55: What is a diagnosis, and what is the process used to give a diagnosis?
6:50: What is the purpose of diagnosing someone?
8:50: Situating what defines pathology within our evolutionary and cultural context
11:40: Origins of mental health conditions, social environment, and privilege
14:40: How diagnosis done, and differentiating between different diagnoses
25:05: More discussion on environmental and cultural effects
31:10: Three subtypes of ADHD
33:00: The emotional complexity of receiving a diagnosis
42:30: What helps people in working through the emotions that come up?
46:35: Paying attention to your emotional experience as much as solving your problem.
49:35: Mental health awareness, resources, and support from others
51:00: Rick’s response when someone is given a diagnosis
58:50: Recap
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Psychedelic-Assisted Therapy with Dr. Albert Garcia Romeu
15 augustus 2022 · 1 uur 9 min
There’s been an explosion of interest in psychedelics over the last 10 years, and phrases like “psychedelic-assisted therapy” have gone from the relative fringes of the mental health conversation to bursting into the mainstream. Alongside a great deal of hype is a growing body of research revealing the potential of substances like psilocybin and MDMA as novel treatments for depression, addiction, and PTSD.
On today’s episode of Being Well, Forrest is joined by Dr. Albert Garcia-Romeu from the Johns Hopkins Center for Psychedelic and Consciousness Research. They explore the history and current state of psychedelic research, their subjective effects, the necessity of the “trip,” how psychedelics work in the brain, why researchers are so interested in these substances, and what a psychedelic-assisted therapy session looks like.
About Our Guest: Dr. Garcia-Romeu is a member of the Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences faculty at the Johns Hopkins University School of Medicine. His research examines the effects of psychedelics in humans, with a focus on psilocybin as an aid in the treatment of addiction.
Watch the Episode: Prefer watching video? You can watch this episode on YouTube.
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:55: Dr. Garcia-Romeu’s background
3:00: What substances have been the focus of research?
8:10: The history of psychedelics
11:15: Usefulness and subjective effects of classical psychedelics (LSD/Psilocybin)
17:35: Ego loss or “ego-death” and the role of spirituality in mental health
21:40: What is happening neurologically with Psilocybin?
27:55: Psychedelics may be the best current treatment option for some conditions
35:05: How close is the research to proving efficacy?
38:05: The relative safety of psychedelics
41:00: What does a psychedelic-assisted therapy session look like?
47:00: Self-guidance in a session
49:50: Duration of treatment, financial and legal access
54:00: Using psychedelics for personal growth, spiritual practice, and even recreation
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Relating to Death, and Living a Better Life
8 augustus 2022 · 1 uur 1 min
The median life expectancy for a man living in the United States is roughly 80 years. That works out to 960 months, 4,160 weeks, or about 29,000 days. Rick is sneaking up on 70 years old, which means, on average, he's got about 10 years – or 520 weeks – left.
Putting the time we have left into simple numbers can be both a bit daunting and remarkably clarifying. When you're in the middle of them, the days can blur together. But the truth is that our time’s limited, and how we use it is up to us. On today’s episode of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson talk about what's helped them come to terms with mortality, the reality of our limited time, and how we can use that knowledge to refine our focus and live a more fulfilling life.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
4:00: How Rick’s relationship with death has changed over time
11:05: Appreciating life as a comfort in accepting death
14:00: Dukkah, Tanha, and contentment
16:30: Distinguishing the ocean (reality) from the wave (ego)
21:20: Acceptance, contraction, and expansion
25:35: Finite experiences, and undelivered communications
31:30: “Life is for the living”
33:10: Giving, contribution, contentment, and fulfillment
40:05: What to do about regret?
47:40: Serenity in old age
49:00: Practical ways to hold awareness of death
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Changing Your Relationship to Shame
1 augustus 2022 · 1 uur
Shame is one of the most complex and difficult emotions we experience on a regular basis, and one that can have seriously negative impacts on our sense of self-worth and ability to experience healthy connection with others.
On this episode of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson take a deep dive into what shame is, how it develops, and what distinguishes it from guilt and other related emotions. They then focus on questioning our assumptions about shame, which can help us identify where it comes from.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:40: The biological roots of shame
4:00: Shame's ties to our assumptions about the world
7:00: Impropriety, and shame as a psychological stage of development
9:55: Distinguishing shame from guilt
14:00: Unnecessary shame, healthy remorse, and your own integrity system
21:55: Who decides what being good looks like?
25:40: Morality in the service of power
32:20: What helps us work with experiences of shame
38:25: Isolation and the value of sharing with others in some way
43:50: Working with your shame story
49:00: Shame, group belonging, and personal change
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The Grieving Brain with Dr. Mary-Frances O'Connor
25 juli 2022 · 1 uur 11 min
There’s a lot of loss in the world these days, both in our individual lives and in our broader communities, and with those losses comes grief. Grief is one of the most challenging emotions to be with, and it can be difficult to offer generalized advice because everyone's experience of grief is profoundly unique.
On today’s episode of Being Well, Forrest is joined by one of the world’s leading researchers on grief, Dr. Mary-Frances O’Connor, to help us better understand grief and grieving. They explore why grief is such a unique and intense emotion, how grief works in the brain, the problems with generalized models like the “five stages of grief,” and how we can learn to live with loss.
About Our Guest: Mary-Frances is a neuroscientist, clinical psychologist, and associate professor of psychology at the University of Arizona, where she directs the Grief, Loss and Social Stress Lab, which investigates the effects of grief on the brain and the body. She’s also the author of the wonderful book The Grieving Brain: The Surprising Science of How We Learn from Love and Loss.
Watch the Episode: Prefer watching video? You can watch this episode on YouTube.
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction and disclaimer
3:35: Mary-Frances’ personal background
6:55: Distinguishing grief from grieving
9:20: Self-criticism, and the over-focus on recovery
11:20: Grief isn't "something to get over"
13:00: Attachment, and our neurological map
16:00: Prediction error
19:30: Complicated grief
25:00: Spiritual practice, or having a worldview that incorporates death
28:05: Is there a ‘normal’ grieving process?
35:25: Pathology, and normal human experiences
46:00: Neurological overview of grief in the brain
50:40: The Dual Process Model of Grief
54:10: Sometimes distraction is okay
56:15: Therapeutic practices and learning from grief
1:01:00: Grief and its relationship to love
1:03:40: Recap
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Borderline Personality Disorder: Regulation, Nurturance, and Compassion
18 juli 2022 · 1 uur 1 min
One of the most important and challenging skills we can develop is learning to regulate our strong emotions. While it’s very natural to have fluctuations in how we feel about others and ourselves, for some people these ups and downs are particularly intense. At clinical levels, this is known as Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD).
BPD is characterized by a pattern of instability in a person’s emotions, moods, behavior, self-image, and relationships. BPD is fairly common, and it's even more common for "borderline-y tendencies" to show up in our lives. On this episode of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson explore what to do when these tendencies show up, how to cultivate a healthy balance of sensitivity and tolerance to distress, regulating and nurturing ourselves, and how to navigate relationships with others when they exhibit borderline tendencies.
As a disclaimer, formal diagnosis of any condition should be done with a medical professional working directly with the person in question. This podcast episode is not a substitute for that.
Watch the Episode: Prefer watching video? You can watch this episode on YouTube.
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
2:00: What are "borderline tendencies"?
6:50: 9 Symptoms of BPD
9:10: The what, why, and how of mental health
11:25: Childhood influences on borderline tendencies
15:05: Instability, impulsivity, and the drive for reassurance
25:00: Recognizing varying degrees of borderline patterns
27:00: Practical tips–regulation and nurturance
32:50: Boundaries, and avoiding spiraling
37:50: Acceptance, and the desire for change
40:35: Sensitivity and distress tolerance
45:00: What to do when you notice borderline tendencies in a relationship
51:00: Recognizing how much someone's nature is going to change
53:35: Treatability
54:50: Recap
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How to Make Learning STICK
11 juli 2022 · 1 uur 2 min
One of the most important skills we can develop is learning how to learn–how to update old beliefs about ourselves, take in new information, and build psychological resources like courage, gratitude, and confidence. We have experiences from which we could potentially learn all the time, but how often are we able to actually implement lasting change from our positive experiences?
On this episode of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson dive into Rick’s recently published study on our capacity for deliberate growth. We talk a bit about the neurological components of learning, how the study worked, and what the practical takeaways are to help us make learning stick.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:55: The focus of Rick’s recently published study on how to learn
4:35: Our capacity for deliberate growth
7:30: How does learning work in the brain?
11:25: Activation and installation
16:00: Acknowledging the difficulty of deliberate change
16:55: The HEAL framework
22:15: How Rick’s study results were measured
30:05: The results of the study
39:10: Possibilities for future studies
42:00: Little moments of recognition
44:05: Takeaways
45:50: Assessing the whole notion of statistical significance
51:05: Control groups and clusters
54:05: Rick reads the final statement from the study.
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Rediscovering Your True Self: Parentification and the "Gifted Child"
4 juli 2022 · 1 uur 3 min
When a child is particularly emotionally intelligent, and a parent is particularly emotionally vulnerable, an inversion of the typical relationship can occur where the child devotes themselves to meeting the parent’s needs rather than the other way around. This can lead the child to lose touch with their own wants and needs – with their authentic self – which then leads to underlying feelings of worthlessness, uncertainty, and self-alienation in adulthood.
Extreme versions of this pattern are known as parentification, but mild to moderate versions are surprisingly common. On today’s episode of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson explore how we can heal from the effects of these difficult early experiences and rediscover who we truly are.
This material was completely eye-opening for me, and it’s one of my favorite episodes we've ever produced.
Want to learn more? Check out Alice Miller’s classic book The Drama of the Gifted Child.
Prefer watching video? You can watch this episode on YouTube.
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
2:55: Distinction between parentification and the gifted child
5:05: Serving a psychological function - what is the “gift” we’re talking about?
7:50: Self-definition vs. defining yourself through relationship
10:30: Examples of generational patterns
16:45: Accumulation of subtle forms of parentification over time
21:55: Patterns of interaction, and differentiation
24:00: Summary of material so far
27:00: “The manic defense against depression”
30:30: What can people do?
35:00: Love, aspiration, and power in parenting styles
40:20: Creating a coherent (and balanced) narrative
43:30: Seductive narratives, grief not shame, claiming your nature
51:25: What emotions were you permitted?
53:35: Recap
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Connecting with Your Best Parts
27 juni 2022 · 56 min
A little while ago, we had an episode on self-awareness where Rick emphasized how the majority of what people have to become self-aware of is the good inside themselves. The point felt significant enough to expand into a full episode about how to connect with our best parts.
On this episode of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson focus on how to accept, appreciate, and connect with our positive aspects, and how to deal with some of the developmental blocks that prevent us from embracing the good in ourselves. We look at how the culture we’re in affects our perspective, how to manage fears of conceit, and how to experience more intimacy and courage by releasing cynicism.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
3:20: What gets in the way of us hearing the good news about ourselves?
5:40: Stories we’re told about ourselves that form our identity10:45: Reconnecting with childhood positive qualities
17:10: Intentions, talents, efforts
23:25: Avoiding conceit and the fear of sounding conceited
30:40: Releasing ideas that human nature is fundamentally bad
34:25: Tribalism
36:35: Seeing the cultural water we swim in
41:15: Intimacy, cynicism, courage
46:40: Cherishing ourselves and others
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Recovering from Complex PTSD with Elizabeth Ferreira
20 juni 2022 · 1 uur 12 min
Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) is the result of the slow accumulation of many small traumatic experiences over time. On our most popular Being Well episode to date, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson explored the details of CPTSD with Pete Walker, and on today’s episode, Forrest is joined by his partner Elizabeth Ferreira to discuss the topic through a more personal lens. Elizabeth shares her CPTSD origin story, what CPTSD feels like, and how to create a compassionate environment with or without a therapist so you can safely process grief, experience out repressed emotions, and learn to express your needs.
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About our Guest: Elizabeth is a recent graduate of the Somatic Psychology program at the California Institute of Integral Studies (CIIS), and is currently earning hours toward her MFT license. She creates content on YouTube and Instagram focused on CPTSD, PMDD, and becoming a more whole version of who you are.
Watch the Episode: Prefer watching video? You can watch this episode on YouTube.
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
2:15: Elizabeth’s story
5:20: Trauma in the broader family system
8:40: A “normal” story
11:50: Loneliness, and the parts of us we leave behind
15:00: Repressed emotions
17:10: Adverse childhood experiences
20:35: Stepping out of adverse environments
25:15: Trauma work as grief work
29:10: Symptoms of Complex PTSD
34:50: How do you need to be comforted?
37:30: Creating the sense of safety
40:30: Somatic interventions
45:30: Being witnessed
47:10: Claiming your needs
50:10: Facing the dreaded experience
53:50: Accuracy vs. sensitivity
57:05: Hidden parts
1:00:00: Start by joining
1:04:20: Recap
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Attachment, and Cultivating Nonattachment
13 juni 2022 · 1 uur 1 min
You might have heard the line “attachment is the root of suffering.” It comes from the Buddha, but you don’t have to be a Buddhist to recognize that becoming overly attached to a particular outcome, person, or view of yourself can lead to a lot of suffering. At the same time, there are clearly things that are sensible to be attached to – like our loved ones, a basic moral compass, and fundamentals like food and shelter. So, what’s the problem with attachment?
On this episode of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson discuss the problem with attachment, what differentiates healthy and unhealthy forms of attachment, and what we can do to relax attachment over time.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
2:10: Learning from Buddhism without trying to be a Buddhist
8:45: Two kinds of suffering
12:00: Distinguishing healthy desire and unhealthy desire
19:40: Markers of problematic attachments
24:10: Self-concept, and an example from Forrest of relaxing attachment
30:25: Balancing "Right View" and nonattachment
42:25: Pain and release
50:55: What’s useful for you?
55:45: Recap
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Intimacy, Individuality, and Breaking the Trauma Cycle with Terry Real
6 juni 2022 · 1 uur 11 min
On one of our favorite episodes of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson are joined by author and therapist Terry Real to talk about how to overcome the myth of toxic individualism, break trauma cycles, and experience real intimacy in our relationships.
They discuss how to balance acceptance and agency, develop a healthy sense of trust and self-esteem, communicate what we want effectively, and experience our power through collaboration rather than dominance. Terry describes how we can move past the delusions of toxic individualism and patriarchy that plague our culture, moving away from ‘me vs. you’ and into Us.
About our Guest: Terrence Real is an internationally recognized family therapist, speaker, and bestselling author. He is the founder of the Relational Life Institute, which offers workshops for couples as well as professional training for clinicians in his Relational Life Therapy (RLT) methodology. His latest book is Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship which comes out June 7th.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:45: Terry’s personal transformation
4:55: Regulating up to our parents
7:05: The Adaptive Child vs. the Wise Adult
14:25: Us vs. the delusions of individualism and patriarchy
18:05: Balancing acceptance and agency
22:45: Enlightened self-interest and working with couples
29:25: Three phases to get more of what you want in relationships without a counselor
33:35: How to support people–particularly women–in dealing with unfairness
37:15: Gendered tendencies–moving into intimacy and out of patriarchy
43:20: Shame and healthy self-esteem
49:40: Relational reckoning and relational integrity
56:55: Repairing trust and grandiosity
1:01:00: Recap
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Overcoming Comparison and Accepting Ordinary with Dr. Ron Siegel
30 mei 2022 · 1 uur 3 min
When was the last time you went through a day without comparing yourself to anyone? For instance, by comparing your life to someone else’s highlight reel on social media, or being critical of your own willpower and abilities? Avoiding these mental traps can be difficult in a culture that emphasizes the importance of being 'special.'
Of course, we are all special – and all ordinary. On this episode of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson are joined by psychologist and author Dr. Ronald Siegel to discuss why that might not be such a bad thing. They discuss how to drop the myth of the extraordinary, how to heal from feelings of inadequacy, and what healthy self-esteem looks like.
About our Guest: Dr. Siegel is Assistant Professor of Psychology at Harvard Medical School, international speaker on the topics of mindfulness and compassion, and author of several books including his latest, The Extraordinary Gift of Being Ordinary: Finding Happiness Right Where You Are.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:50: What prompted Ron’s inquiry into being ordinary
7:00: Cultural and evolutionary factors
12:55: Fluctuations in self-esteem based on success and failure
16:40: Social connection as antidote
18:35: What being ordinary looks like
20:45: Three ways to drop the myth of the extraordinary
31:35: Rick’s path to healing his own feelings of inadequacy
38:55: Predispositions to having a sense of worth and value
44:40: Love vs. ‘specialness’
48:40: Reaping the benefits of self-esteem without getting caught in its traps
56:10: Recap
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Working with Anger: Costs and Benefits, Repression, and the "Empty Boat"
23 mei 2022 · 53 min
Anger is one of the most complex, demanding, and difficult emotions we deal with on a regular basis, in part because it has both many costs and many uses. It burdens our bodies, relationships, and the world around us. And at the same time, there is a vital energy associated with anger that is extremely powerful and, when harnessed effectively, quite useful.
On this episode of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson explore the varied ways anger surfaces, how we can relate to it, and how in recognizing what it has to tell us we can channel its energy towards good ends.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
2:10: Framing anger relative to other emotions
6:15: The three poisons
12:20: Useful aspects of anger and issues with labeling it as bad
22:45: Repression and not downregulating others’ emotions
28:30: Treating anger with respect rather than fear
30:15: What supports us in healthily claiming anger?
38:00: Characteristics that can predispose people to be angry
39:40: The Empty Boat and recognizing anger as an affliction against onesself
43:10: Recap
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Increasing Self-Awareness: The Key to Personal Growth
16 mei 2022 · 1 uur 7 min
Self-awareness is both one of the most important skills for a person to have, and one of the most challenging to develop. In this episode of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson explore what it takes to increase self-awareness over time, the different forms of awareness that come into play, and why maintaining self-awareness can be such a struggle. Rick then emphasizes how we can develop a greater awareness of the positive aspects of ourselves.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:45: Rick’s observations of people’s self-awareness when beginning therapy
6:10: Distinguishing internal and external self-awareness
7:40: Different types of internal self-awareness
12:20: Why is it hard to become self-aware?
18:45: Positive discoveries and Forrest’s personal experience
29:05: The natural movement toward health and sanity
33:35: What causes us to lose touch with positive aspects of our nature?
42:45: How can we cultivate more self-awareness over time?
49:45: Questions to ask yourself
54:50: A creative exercise for mapping out parts of yourself
58:10: Recap
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Changing Old Patterns, Self-Awareness, and Repairing Family Relationships: Mailbag
9 mei 2022 · 57 min
Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson open up the mailbag to explore a variety of listener questions. They talk about what causes our brains to become attached to unwanted habits, how to know which of your thoughts are worth listening to, and the pros and cons of saying "kind of." They then consider how to improve sibling relationships, and what to do with the positive emotions we experience during meditation.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:45: Why do our brains keep us stuck on unwanted patterns or ways of thinking?
10:45: Three kinds of craving and the machinery of becoming
13:50: Why do we say “kind of” all the time?
25:50: How do you know which of your thoughts are worth listening to?
31:15: How do you improve a sibling relationship?
40:35: What do you do with positive emotions during meditation?
48:40: Recap
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Maximize Your Motivation: Dopamine, Discipline, and Accepting Our Nature
2 mei 2022 · 1 uur 3 min
We all have things we want to accomplish in life, but having goals or knowing we should be doing something is often not nearly enough to get us to actually sustain our efforts in getting where we want to go.
Today on Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson explore how to optimize our motivation. They discuss the brain's dopamine system, and distinguish motivation from discipline and liking from wanting. They then explore how we can align the brain's underlying biological circuitry with our desires, so we can stay relaxed and engaged while achieving our goals.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
2:05: Motivation vs. Discipline
5:30: Why don't we just want the things we know are good for us?
11:00: Creating unity between our biology and cognitive processing
15:50: Dopamine: An Overview
21:30: Distinguishing liking from wanting
25:35: Natural variations in dopamine metabolism
28:55: How people with lower levels of dopamine can stay motivated
33:35: Updating the reward value of your experiences
37:20: Being, doing, and having
43:05: What has helped Rick stay diligent and let go of resistance
46:40: Practical how-tos for interacting with the dopaminergic system
50:35: Letting fish be fish
52:30: Recap
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Preventing Secondary Trauma and Compassion Fatigue with Laura van Dernoot Lipsky
25 april 2022 · 52 min
With so much suffering going on in the world that’s worthy of our compassion and engagement, it’s easy to become overwhelmed by it even as we have the desire to remain engaged. Secondary traumatic stress is the stress we are exposed to when we interact with other people’s stress, and it manifests at both an individual and societal level. When not managed effectively, it wears us down and diminishes our ability to contribute in a positive way.
On this episode of Being Well, Forrest talks with trauma expert Laura van Dernoot Lipsy about how we can better manage secondary traumatic stress, how to avoid burnout and overwhelm, and what it looks like to stay hopeful and live fully in the face of daunting societal challenges.
About Our Guest: Laura van Dernoot Lipsky is the founder and director of The Trauma Stewardship Institute and author of Trauma Stewardship: An Everyday Guide to Caring for Self While Caring for Others and The Age of Overwhelm. She is a widely recognized pioneer in the field of trauma exposure and has worked locally, nationally, and internationally for more than three decades. Laura is also the host of Future Tripping, a podcast about navigating overwhelm.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:35: Laura’s personal experience
4:10: How secondary trauma shows up for people
6:45: Martyrdom and the responsibility of organizations to create sustainable environments
10:30: Concern with how trauma is normalized within communities
14:10: Internalized oppression and overwhelm in the broader culture
17:40: The broader systemic context and the ineffectiveness of burning yourself out
21:50: The necessity of taking breaks
26:40: How to feel okay taking time to unplug from discourse on charged topics
33:35: Differentiating between spheres of control and acknowledging grief
37:45: Finding ways to stay hopeful
40:35: What Laura is grateful for and stressed about
44:35: Recap
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Rumination: How to Disrupt Obsessive Thoughts
18 april 2022 · 1 uur 2 min
It’s normal and healthy for us to try to process our experiences emotionally, but sometimes during that process we find ourselves getting stuck on the same painful memory, anxiety, or disturbing thought. This frustrating experience, known as rumination, is a common psychological challenge that is both discouraging and unhelpful.
On this episode of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson spell out what rumination is, where it comes from, and how it functions in the brain. They then explore what practices and strategies we can use to identify rumination when it comes up, and move through an obsessive thought compassionately and effectively.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
2:25: How do we define rumination?
7:45: What do we get out of rumination?
13:30: Distinguishing rumination from grieving
16:30: Where rumination comes from in people
18:40: The default mode network
22:30: Ways to disengage the default mode network
25:50: Strange attractors, Krishna, and the Gopis
30:35: Thought acceptance and noting
33:15: Recurring themes of your rumination
37:10: Novelty
38:45: Self-constructing invites rumination, self-acceptance undermines it
47:05: A quick walkthrough for dealing with a negative thought
53:00: Recap
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Navigating Modern Dating with Logan Ury
11 april 2022 · 58 min
We’ve spent a lot of time on the podcast exploring how we can improve our skills in romantic relationships, but for many people one of the most difficult parts of a relationship is getting into one in the first place.
On this episode, Forrest talks with Logan Ury, Director of Relationship Science at the dating app Hinge, about the psychology of dating. They explore chemistry, romance, apps, and how to reframe our self-limiting tendencies so we can find love that is fulfilling and brings out the best in us.
About our Guest: Logan Ury is a behavioral scientist turned dating coach, and the author of How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love. She is the Director of Relationship Science at the dating app Hinge, and former head of Google’s behavioral science team the Irrational Lab.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:40: Why is modern dating so hard?
4:15: Romanticism
6:20: Being in a relationship for self-actualization
8:25: Romanticizers, Maximizers, and Hesitators
11:15: Reframes for the Romanticizer
14:20: What kind of shared qualities actually matter?
19:25: Reframes for the Maximizer
26:35: The tendency to externalize problems and avoid vulnerability
32:25: Reframes for the Hesitator
36:50: Information vs. emotion - appreciation for romance
41:05: Bids, and turning towards
43:05: What other things do people tend to underestimate in relationships?
47:20: The aspect of you that is brought out by your partner
48:45: How to use apps in more effective ways
51:00: Recap
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Understand and Manage Stress: Causes, Biological Basis, and Increasing Resilience
4 april 2022 · 1 uur 5 min
On this episode, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson take a deep dive into defining stress, how it functions, how it impacts our lives and bodies, and what we can do to repair from its effects.
We discuss how to distinguish stress from effort, the influence of the modern world on how stressed we feel, the various biological mechanisms involved in stress, and the challenges presented by chronic exposure to it. We then consider what we can do to increase resilience, including positively responding to stressors even in the midst of limitations and uncertainty.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:50: What is stress exactly?
3:30: Distinguishing stress from effort
7:25: Circles of concern and what we can actually influence
10:15: Zebras, and different levels of allostatic load
15:30: How the Endocrine System and Nervous System respond to stress
21:45: The amygdala response
23:20: What are the costs of stress?
35:30: The story so far
36:25: How do we positively adapt to stress?
41:35: The influence of basic lifestyle factors
43:50: Questions to ask yourself
45:30: Claiming agency while accepting limitations and uncertainty
51:05: What we can do to repair from the effects of our stress
57:40: Recap
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Use the Enneagram to Rewrite Your Story with Ian Cron
28 maart 2022 · 56 min
One of the most effective ways to change how we show up in the world is to identify and change our underlying personal narrative. On this episode, Forrest Hanson talks with Ian Cron about how we can use the Enneagram personality typing system to aid us in this process.
About our Guest: Ian Cron is a therapist, master Enneagram teacher, best-selling author of The Road Back to You and his latest The Story of You, and host of popular Enneagram podcast Typology.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:30: Ian’s narrative and how it has changed over time
5:45: Overview of the Enneagram and its uses
11:30: A few examples of common limiting narratives
19:10: A quick primer of how the Enneagram works and each type
26:00: How people can push back on their unconscious narratives
35:25: Cultivating awareness of how your old story is playing out in the present
37:10: Ian’s inflection point
41:30: Integration and levels of development
43:15: The link between your virtue and your fixation
49:00: Recap
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Hedonic Adaptation: Causes, Critiques, and How to Stay Happy
21 maart 2022 · 1 uur
We’ve talked on this show about lots of ways we can be happier over time, but one of the hardest things to do is to STAY happy as the events of life wash over us. On today’s episode of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson explore "hedonic adaptation" - our tendency to return to a stable baseline of happiness - and discuss how we can get off the "hedonic treadmill."
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
2:25: What is hedonic adaptation?
6:25: Three factors of happiness
9:45: Survey of various research on hedonic adaptation and subjective well-being
19:55: Financial circumstances and relationships
27:35: How to sustain happiness - loving, knowing, growing
38:15: The single most effective intervention to fight hedonic adaptation
41:30: Forrest’s take on how lasting change happens
45:00: Antidote experiences and improving memory
47:50: Can we actually become happier?
51:00: Recap
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The Science of "Self" with Dr. Jud Brewer
14 maart 2022 · 1 uur 17 min
One of the underlying threads that runs through many of our conversations on Being Well is our relationship with our “self”. On this episode, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson talk with neuroscientist, mindfulness researcher, and bestselling author Dr. Jud Brewer about where we can find the “self” in the brain, and the benefits of relaxing our attachment to it.
About our Guest: Dr. Jud Brewer is the Director of Research and Innovation at the Mindfulness Center and associate professor in Behavioral and Social Sciences at the School of Public Health and Psychiatry at the School of Medicine at Brown University. He is the executive medical director of behavioral health at Sharecare, and a research affiliate at MIT. His bestselling books include Unwinding Anxiety and The Craving Mind.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:45: What is a “self”?
5:10: Distinguishing consciousness, person, and self
7:25: Can there be a unified sense of self in an everchanging psychological process?
11:50: Selfing and what triggers a sense of “me”
15:20: Evolutionary speculations about the origins of selfing
18:50: Predictive processing and personal associations
21:55: How Jud responds to selfing
28:10: The unicorn metaphor of self and relief in sensory experience
36:45: The experience of addiction and anxiety
40:50: Somatic markers and distinguishing healthy vs. unhealthy desires
41:40: Letting go vs. straining to create a self
45:40: Underlying neurological components of the self
56:30: The fluidity of awareness without self
58:30: When and how does the default mode network become functional?
1:03:00: Neuro-psychedelic research and unlearning
1:07:15: Having a self vs. taking ourselves personally
1:11:00: Recap
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Supporting Yourself During Difficult Times
7 maart 2022 · 1 uur 1 min
The tone of this episode of Being Well is a bit different. For context, we recorded it four days after the Russian invasion of Ukraine.
It feels like we've had more than our fair share of difficult times over the last few years. Like many people, we wish there were more we could do to support those suffering around the world. Today Dr. Rick and Forrest focus on what we can do, in our mind and in our lives, to relate to the challenging emotions – fear, grief, anxiety, anger, helplessness, and so on – that naturally arise during these times.
The advertising revenue from this episode will be donated to charities dedicated to supporting the people of Ukraine. If you'd like to join us in donating, we’ve included links below to several charities.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
5:10: Anxiety calming exercise
12:40: Pause
18:55: Feel your feelings
23:45: Resource yourself
26:45: Compassion
29:55: Humor
32:00: Get educated
40:35: Make a plan
45:55: Move into action
52:35: Recap
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Coping with Failure, and Dealing with Disappointment
28 februari 2022 · 56 min
One of the most important skills we can develop is the ability to deal with disappointment and cope with failures big and small. On this episode of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson discuss what it looks like to experience failure not as falling short, but as an opportunity for growth. They explore cultural narratives around "failure," individual variation in sensitivity, and how to manage the pain of failure, adapt expectations, and develop systems of feedback to allow for a greater sense of ease and purpose.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
2:00: What do we mean by failure?
5:55: How loss works in the brain and what makes us sensitive to losing
8:30: Managing expectations of success
10:30: Attributional styles
13:10: How some can handle failure with greater ease than others
22:30: Deconstructing old narratives and failure as an opportunity for learning
28:30: Managing the pain of failure and setting up feedback systems
34:20: An example from Forrest’s experience
38:20: Poor decisions, lack of foresight, losing your nerve
40:30: Willingness to take risks
45:00: Defining our notion of success and failure via process vs. outcome
48:20: Recap
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Standing Up for What You Believe In with Todd Kashdan
21 februari 2022 · 1 uur 7 min
There’s a tension we’ve all felt at some point between the benefits of conformity and the desire to be true to ourselves and stand up for what we think is right. On today’s episode of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson are joined by Dr. Todd Kashdan to explore how we can combine prosocial values with principled insubordination, so we can speak up for others (and ourselves) and maximize our chances of creating meaningful change even in the face of social pressure.
About Our Guest: Dr. Todd Kashdan is Professor of Psychology at George Mason University. He is a leading authority on well-being, curiosity, psychological flexibility, and resilience. He has published over 210 peer-reviewed articles, and is the author of several books including Curious? , The Upside of Your Dark Side, and most recently The Art of Insubordination: How to Dissent and Defy Effectively.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:45: Combining skillful positivity and dissent
7:55: Distinguishing principled insubordination and generic misanthropy
10:05: Four elements of principled insubordination
19:05: Yin and Yang applied to insubordination
21:35: Safe havens and a secure base
26:20: How capable are we of cultivating self-awareness?
32:05: Positive intent, courage, and sitting with discomfort
38:45: Strategies for being a moral and effective dissident
46:40: Navigating societal hierarchies
51:50: Process comments as insubordination
53:00: What Todd does when his kids are insubordinate
58:05: Recap
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The Secret to Solving Most Psychological Problems: Integration
14 februari 2022 · 57 min
We explore a lot of big ideas on this show, and alongside them a lot of specific tactics and frameworks that can support people in growing and changing for the better. This includes everything from how to get the most out of therapy, to how to deal with traumatic experiences, to how to manage a variety of psychological conditions and individual tendencies. There’s a question that underlies all of these domains: how does personal healing actually work?
On today’s episode of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson discuss the fundamental strategies that allow us to become aware of and integrate all parts of ourselves–those we want to celebrate and expand, and those we’d like to heal and change.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
3:00: Overview of psychological patterns related to healing
7:25: Forrest’s personal journey as a case study
13:15: Rick assessing Forrest’s narrative from a psychologist’s perspective
15:45: Cognizing and other stories we tell to avoid parts of ourselves
20:40: Showing appreciation for our defenses, completing patterns
26:50: Catharsis and ways to reach it
39:15: Practical ways to reclaim and reconnect with parts of yourself
43:45: Playing with the nature of identity/ego
47:00: Self-forgiveness and celebrating what you’re good at
50:05: Recap
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Family Challenges, Financial Risks, and Connecting With a Wounded Inner Child: Mailbag
7 februari 2022 · 1 uur 1 min
We’re incredibly lucky to have such an engaged and interested group of people listening to the podcast, and because of that we regularly receive a lot of interesting questions via email and social media (links below). On today’s episode, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson dive into a few of these questions, discussing topics such as: how to manage family relationships, principles for approaching life’s changes, and what kind of therapy Rick actually practices.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
2:00: Bringing up challenges with family when times are already hard.
11:25: What kind of therapy does Rick practice?
19:15: Taking financial risks to experience life vs. creating financial security
30:00: “Neurons that fire together wire together” explained
34:05: Developing a connection with your inner child/younger self if your childhood was filled with painful experiences
41:40: Managing challenges between your family and your partner
54:15: Recap
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Embracing Uncertainty with Kaira Jewel Lingo
31 januari 2022 · 57 min
Kaira Jewel Lingo, a former Buddhist nun at the Plum Village community under the guidance of Thich Naht Han, joins Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson to explore how we can cultivate trust and equanimity in the face of uncertainty. They discuss the somatic experience of opening to the unknown, taking action as an antidote to anxiety, and how to have equanimity both when things work out...and when they don’t.
About our Guest: Kaira Jewel Lingo is a Buddhist teacher who weaves mindfulness and meditation practice with social justice. At the age of 25, she became a Buddhist nun at the Plum Village community in France under the guidance of Thich Naht Han, where she stayed for 15 years. She became a Zen teacher in 2007, and is also a teacher in the Vipassana/Insight tradition through Spirit Rock Meditation Center. Finally, she is the author of We Were Made for These Times: Ten Lessons for Moving Through Change, Loss, and Disruption.
Recording Note: This episode was recorded before the passing of Thich Naht Han.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:45: Kaira Jewel’s background
2:35: Trust in times of major change
9:10: Two kinds of uncertainty
14:10: Store consciousness and trusting the unknown
18:50: Somatic contraction and expansion
23:05: Responding to the truth of suffering with joyful engagement
30:50: Practicing equanimity
42:10: Defining equanimity
43:30: How to return to center in unstable moments
48:20: Body-based equanimity exercise
50:50: Recap
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