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613: Mo Bunnell - Giving To Grow, Falling In Love With Questions, Mastermind Groups, Delaying Gratification, Long-Term Planning, & Investing In Relationships
16 december 2024 · 1 uur 6 min
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Mo Bunnell is the author of Give to Grow, The Snowball System, and the founder of Bunnell Idea Group (BIG), who has trained tens of thousands of seller experts at over 400 clients all over the world.
I wake up every morning looking to help my friends succeed, and some just happen to be clients. — Proactively thinking of ways to add value to others is a great way to build a meaningful life.
Our brains think literally. Relationships grow exponentially.
Give consistently to grow relationships.
Celebrate incremental progress. Mo writes in a journal the growth of himself, his business, and his customers. We all should be better at celebrating incremental progress. Teresa Amabile's research shows that this leads to a more enjoyable life.
August 4, 1984, was a meaningful day for his family. (Dad's alcoholism. That was the day of his last drink)
The difference between doing the work versus winning the work
Example: You win the work by asking lots of questions. You do the work giving answers.
Every successful career hinges on two things: Doing The Work and Winning The Work. Both delivering value on the current work and developing the relationships that create future opportunities are vital for long-term success. Whether you're in a new role or want new outcomes, the most powerful results come from prioritizing both Doing The Work and Winning The Work.
Ask questions – Mo shares 50+ questions to ask. Ask self-disclosure questions. Those are questions that only that person can answer.
Fall in love with the problem.
Pronoia – The world is out to help you succeed.
People can live in 1 of 3 ways.
Drift - Stay busy. Answer emails.
Driven - Hyper emphasis on one thing at the detriment of others (triathlon guy)
By Design - Write down where you want to be and make a plan to do it. On purpose.
Delayed gratification:
Weekly planning process
Offer 3 proactive change agent…
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612: Lawrence Yeo - Dissolving Envy, Practicing Curiosity, Writing to Think, Establishing Values, Building Confidence, Being Ambitious, Moving People to Tears, & The Power of Consistency
9 december 2024 · 1 uur 3 min
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Lawrence Yeo is a storytelling teacher and the founder and writer at MoreToThat.com. He writes stories about the nuances of the human condition. He's become one of my favorite writers over the past few years and regularly makes me rethink what I believe.
Notes
Envy: Envy is inversely correlated with self-examination. The less you know yourself, the more you look to others to get an idea of your worth. But the more you delve into who you are, the less you seek from others, and the dissolution of envy begins.
Curiosity is gratitude for the unknown – "The key to cultivating curiosity is to have a healthy relationship with uncertainty."
Lawrence is called the L.S.E. by his wife. The Life Story Extractor.
Ask More Questions to Those You Love - It's quite shocking how few questions you ask when you're with people you're comfortable with. If you're no longer curious to know about the person in front of you (friend, wife, parent), then that relationship is devoid of life.
Your Values: Your values are as unique as your genes because no one shares the exact set of experiences and insights that were required to form them. They are the fingerprints of your being, and they are the invisible forces that guide everything you touch. Integrity is the ability to navigate the outer world without discounting your inner values. There is an anchor of authenticity that you're unwilling to budge, no matter how fervently people want you to."
Confidence is a commitment to trusting your inner compass, despite how strong the outer winds are. If you do the work to know yourself, then you'll realize that no external voice can convey the inner complexities you embody. And through that awareness, you'll reliably choose your intuition above all else.
The Problem with Following Your Passion - Ultimately, you can't live off your love for something. It doesn't matter how …
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611: Codie Sanchez - How To Build Extraordinary Wealth Through Ordinary Businesses (Main Street Millionaire)
2 december 2024 · 53 min
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Codie Sanchez is an entrepreneur and investor known for founding Contrarian Thinking, a media and business education company. She has a diverse background, including entrepreneurship, finance, and journalism. Through her book "Main Street Millionaire," she advocates for wealth-building by acquiring small businesses and shares her insights on financial independence and business success. Codie emphasizes practical, contrarian approaches to wealth and leadership.
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Her dad always said to her: 'You're not going to be a princess, you're going to be the president' – It's a great reminder of the power we have as leaders to believe in someone and raise their level of expectations because you see something special in them. Codie was glowing while talking about her dad.
How Codie earned a job at Vanguard. She went to conferences. She met people. She got IN THE ROOM and took action. And then when she got her opportunity, she led with her curiosity, asked questions from the woman she met with, learned, read the books she told her to read, and followed up. Showing up, doing extra, and following up are a great way to earn a job that you might not be qualified for.
How you start and end your meetings. What type of energy do you bring to the space? Remember, you no longer get to be energy-neutral as a leader. You're either lifting the room up or taking it away. We want to add energy additives to the rooms we enter.
One of Codie's favorite books – Letters to a Young Contrarian by Cristopher Hitchins. "What I like about Christopher Hitchens, he pushed back against the common narrative in a time where to be an activist was really frowned upon"
"He was what the people these days that say they're activists actually are. He really had no loyalty to any type of thought; he was simply trying to find the truth. He was the inspiration for contrarian thinking"
Career Path – "I don't believe…
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610: Jeff Janssen - The Commitment Continuum, Walt Disney, Holding Others Accountable, Team Captains, & The 7 Secrets of Successful Coaches
25 november 2024 · 1 uur 5 min
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Books: The Score That Matters, The Pursuit of Excellence, Welcome to Management
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The Commitment Continuum
Resistant
Reluctant
Existent - Stealing scholarships (sandwich eaters)
Compliant - Box checkers
Committed - Heart is into it. They do extra. They are bought in.
Compelled (Obsessed) - On a mission.
Do an audit first of yourself. Where am I on that continuum? And then each member of your team. The goal is to get each member closer to becoming committed and compelled.
Team audit - Where is everyone? People can drift down if their needs aren't met.
For existent and compliant - Shift mindset to "I get to be here!"
For committed and compelled - Keep them challenged. Put them in leadership roles.
The art of leadership - Make it easier to move up on the commitment continuum.
Walt Disney - The little things are the big things. Jeff experienced this firsthand when he went on a Disney cruise and saw the workers polishing the railings on the cruise ship early in the morning. The same is true for the janitor mopping the floor at NASA. There's a story about President John F Kennedy in 1962. He was at NASA and he asked the janitor what he was doing. The janitor replied, "I'm helping put a man on the moon." The leader should be praising everyone involved in the mission and celebrate their role and its importance.
Holding your teammates accountable - "We're not calling you out, we're calling you up." The encourager and the enforcer help raise the standards and encourage others to aim higher. That's the role of the leaders on great teams. "We're not calling you out, we're calling you up."
What's our vision?
Am I embodying the standards myself?
Have we clearly set the standards and got buy-in? "These are the expectations and standards of our program."
Performance and behavior metrics
Praise people when they meet the standard
The best teams practice so much that they can't get it wrong.
Team Captain's …
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609: Eric Jorgenson (CEO of Scribe) - The Obsessive Genius, Flawless Fundamentals, Building Mountains of Leverage, The Power of Writing, All Things Naval, & Manifesting Your Dream Job
18 november 2024 · 1 uur 4 min
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Eric Jorgenson is the CEO of Scribe Media, the largest Professional Publisher. He's also the author of The Almanack of Naval Ravikant: A Guide to Wealth and Happiness and The Anthology of Balaji. His books have sold over 1 million copies and have been translated into 40 languages.
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The obsessive genius. Eric likes to invest in founders who have been obsessively trying to solve a problem for years. They are myopically focused on that one thing. They have a depth of expertise in the area where they focus. Eric has developed the skill to get good at recognizing that genius in others and that's helped him make good investing decisions.
He is an investor in dozens of (borderline crazy) deep-tech startups through Rolling Fun. They fund obsessive geniuses building utopian technologies.
Eric's first 90+ days as the CEO of Scribe: He spent as much time as possible learning from the current members of the team. Leading with curiosity, asking questions, listening, and leading with trust. Being both trustworthy and willing. You don't have to earn my trust, you have it.
"Flawless on the Fundamentals" - The one phrase Scribe is focused on.
Your content diet: It's more important than a healthy/wellness/food diet. "If you're taking in bad information, you're becoming a moron." You want high-signal sources of information.
An audience of 1 - "I wrote that book for myself."
Bezos - Great compression of ideas and communicating them to the team. Focused on one thing.
Why write a book with Scribe instead of a traditional publisher... You want 100% ownership of your IP
We talked in depth about Naval Ravikant and his viral Twitter thread titled, "How to get rich without getting lucky" – Here are some of the tweets from that thread:
Seek wealth, not money or status. Wealth is having assets that earn while you sleep. Money is how we transfer time and wealth. Status is your plac…
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608: Anthony Pompliano - (How To Live an Extraordinary Life) Luck Is Not Real, Surround Yourself With Compounders, Fire Your Boring Friends, Get On The Plane, Practice Simplicity, & Taking Big Risks608: Anthony Pompliano - (How To Live an Extraordinary Li
11 november 2024 · 59 min
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Luck is not real – "Luck is something we conjure in our minds to grapple with the consequences of whatever life may throw our way. Luck is a physiological concept. It's determined by how we view a situation. Academic studies show that you can become luckier simply by telling yourself that you are lucky." Pessimists sound smart, but optimists change the world. Believe in yourself. Have agency. Strive to make something happen.
"Luck is the flip side of risk. They are mirrored cousins, driven by the same thing: You are one person in a 7 billion player game, and the accidental impact of other people's actions can be more consequential than your own." - Morgan Housel
Surround yourself with compounders and fire your boring friends– Being around other ambitious people who are willing to push you will make you better. Strike the balance between being loyal to longtime friends, and doing anything for them, but spending the bulk of your time around people who will push your edges and make you think bigger.
Fire your Boring Friends - "If you are optimizing for living an extraordinary" life, you have to fire all the boring friends and find people living extraordinary lives."
You don't get what you don't ask for. I love the story of Anthony meeting his future wife, Polina, for coffee and asking for the next date for that same night. The answer is NO if you don't ask. It's worth the potential rejection because the upside is so great. In this case, they got married and have two children. The people who sustain excellence are not afraid to make the ask.
Get on the plane -- When in doubt, go see them in person.
"Experience is a liability when it comes to setting expectations." Sometimes, ignorance is bliss. Not knowing that something is supposed to be hard can be useful.
Respect other people's time - "When I was playing football in college one of our coache…
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607: Dr. Meg Meeker - How to Raise Tough, Resilient, Hard-Working, & Kind Children (Author of Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters)
4 november 2024 · 1 uur 6 min
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Dr. Meg Meeker has spent more than thirty years practicing pediatric and adolescent medicine and counseling teens and parents. Dr. Meeker is a popular speaker and bestselling author of several books, including the national bestseller, STRONG FATHERS, STRONG DAUGHTERS; THE 10 HABITS OF HAPPY MOTHERS; and BOYS SHOULD BE BOYS.
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One of the best things fathers can do is raise their daughters' expectations of life. That will directly affect how your daughter talks, how she dresses, how well she does in school, and even what sports or musical instruments she chooses to play. You can help her set goals, help her define a higher purpose for her life, and as a result, her self-esteem will skyrocket. And it will bring you closer, because she'll recognize you as a leader and an ally, helping her to chart a better course.
Don't post anything about your kids on social media. It makes them think they are your trophy to show off. And be mindful of how you talk about them to others. Do you only focus on their accomplishments? They are listening to what you say about them…
Be the man you want her to marry – See it, do it, teach it. What are the 5 strongest character qualities you want your children to have? How are you showing that to them every day? You are setting the standard. They are watching carefully. You will create what is quote, "normal," in their life. Are you living with integrity, working hard, not speaking poorly behind others backs? You are showing them how they should behave. If you were watching yourself from outside your body, would you like what you see? We have to live it every day.
Your daughter sees you (her dad) as her hero. The smartest, strongest, best person in the world.
Kids want their dad's approval. "I want attention just for being me, not for performing a sport." "You don't just love them. You lo…
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606: Jack Carr - Writing Thrillers (The Terminal List), Working with Chris Pratt, Fighting Wars as a Navy SEAL, Putting In The Work, & Never Missing an Opportunity To Make Someone's Day
28 oktober 2024 · 51 min
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Jack Carr is a former Navy SEAL who for 20 years led special operations teams as a Team Leader, Platoon Commander, Troop Commander, and Task Unit Commander. Jack is also the #1 New York Times Best Selling author of 8 books and his debut novel, The Terminal List, was adapted into the #1 Amazon Prime Video series starring Chris Pratt.
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When Jack was little, he hoped to grow up and do two things. Be a Navy SEAL and become an author.
Jack's grandfather died at war. "It's in my blood."
"You have to prove that you can add value to your tribe."
"Great warriors run to the sound of the guns to be with their fellow service members."
Commonality of the best SEAL Leaders:
Trust, up and down the chain of command
High character
Good decision-maker: The decisions you've made in the past are your currency.
Do things you don't have to do. Run with the squad, put rounds down range. You don't have to be the best at it, but you should be very good at all of the things the people you're leading are doing.
Reading novels: "When I was young, I was reading for the magic in those pages."
PUT IN THE WORK… Jack has been putting in the work since he was little. He read books for the magic in those pages. All of that reading has helped inform him of what great storytelling looks like. And then he PUT IN THE WORK. If you want to be a published author, you need to WRITE. It's that simple. Do the work, and get the manuscript done. And then take the next step. A lot of people want to be published authors. Not everyone wants to write. Like Ronnie Coleman said, "A lot of people want to be a bodybuilder, but nobody wants to lift these heavy weights every day."
Mentor, Brad Thor: "Brad told me that the only difference between a published and unpublished author is that the published author doesn't quit."
Writers Block – One thing I'll share from Steven Pressfield is that he said …
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605: Seth Godin - How To Be Remarkable, Create a Strategy, Build a Tribe, Develop Taste, Lead Others, & Leave a Dent in The World
21 oktober 2024 · 54 min
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Seth Godin is the author of 21 international bestsellers that have changed the way people think about work and art. They have been translated into 38 languages. His breakthrough books include Purple Cow, Tribes, The Dip, Linchpin, and his latest book is called This is Strategy. He writes one of the most popular daily blogs in the world and has given 5 TED talks. He is the founder of the altMBA, and the former VP of Direct Marketing at Yahoo!
Notes:
"If you want word of mouth, you have to create something remarkable, and that means it's worthy of remark."
The elegant path is the most useful way forward. "My neighbor is a barefoot runner. He glides without apparent effort." Elegance is simplicity, efficiency, and effectiveness.
Dorothy and Her Crew. How did Dorothy persuade the Lion, Tin Man, and Scarecrow to join her on the trip to see the Wizard? Did she make a case about how much she missed home? No. She created the conditions where the others could get what they wanted by joining her.
Seeing Strategy Clearly. Strategy is a flexible plan that guides us as we seek to create a change. It helps us make decisions over time while working within a system.
Low-Hanging Fruit Isn't. It's all been picked. The easy, direct, obvious paths are unlikely to get you the results you're working so hard to obtain. In fact, these paths are probably a trap.
Seth, at one point, got 800 rejection letters. Have to keep going...
"I wouldn't call Steve Ballmer a good leader."
An example of Seth making a difference... He went to Kenya and talked with 60 people who started a book club based on his book Linchpin. "They decided to be leaders."
Make decisions in the moment:
Examine the issue
Get feedback
Look for patterns
"Taste is knowin…
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604: Sharon McMahon - A Masterclass In Making American History Fascinating & Fun (Creator of Sharon Says So)
14 oktober 2024 · 1 uur 8 min
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My guest: After years of serving as a high school government and law teacher, Sharon McMahon took her passion for education to Instagram, where more than a million people rely on her for nonpartisan, fact-based information as "America's Government Teacher." In a time where flashy headlines and false information often take the spotlight, Sharon is a reliable source for truth and logic. Sharon is the author of: The Small and The Mighty – Twelve Unsung Americans Who Changed the Course of History, From the Founding to the Civil Rights Movement.
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What did Teddy Roosevelt, Abraham Lincoln, and FDR have in common? The ability to articulate a vision that others wanted to follow. They were great communicators. If you want to lead people, it helps to become a fantastic storyteller. It helps to be able to stand up in front of a group of people and share the vision in an entertaining and informative way. And then execute on that vision.
Be a doer. "The best Americans are not the critics, they are the doers. They are the people who went for broke when everyone else yelled to turn back. They are those who know that one becomes great because of who they lift up, not who they put down." I've never observed anyone, regardless of field, achieve lasting prominence while voicing rancor or focusing much on the failings of others. Create and share, support others, and enjoy. Givers and creators always prevail. - Andrew Huberman
Door-to-door sales helps you deal with rejection. It's good for you.
When you see a new person at the gym, celebrate them. Help them get acclimated.
The Hello Girls -- AT&T -- Pioneer of telephones. They were doing their jobs wearing gasmasks with bombs exploding around them.
Echo Chambers – As a leader, wha…
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603: Michael Easter - How To Fix Your Craving Mindset and Rewire Your Habits to Thrive with Enough... "Have Fun, Don't Die, Read Books, & Do Strange Things"
7 oktober 2024 · 1 uur
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Michael Easter's investigations have taken him to meet with monks in ancient monasteries in Bhutan, lost tribes in the jungles of Bolivia, US Special Forces soldiers in undisclosed locations, gene scientists in Iceland, CEOs in Fortune-500 boardrooms, and more. He's a professor at UNLV and he's the best-selling author of The Comfort Crisis and Scarcity Brain.
"The modern world is designed for short-term survival and pleasure. It is not set up to help us thrive in the long term." "Have fun, don't die, read books, and do strange things."
Be a 2 percenter. 98% of people do the easy thing. We are programmed to do the easy thing.
The world was uncomfortable a while ago...
It makes sense to do the easy thing. You get the short-term reward for it.
Handle adversity, adapt, do the slightly harder thing
Some ideas: do walking meetings, work in silence, embrace hunger, don't cut corners, pick up the trash, call people on the phone. Ruck the airport. Don't sit down, walk. Read while exercising. Workout outside. Sprint. Lift weights. The ability to move a limb quickly is what helps old people not fall. Need to be powerful and springy to move quickly (and not fall).
Diet - One ingredient foods. Tribe in Bolivia with the healthiest hearts in the world. Be outside, eat one ingredient foods.
Scarcity brain - We all suck at moderation. We overconsume... Casinos, slot machines. Quick, repeatable, predictable. The speed makes it powerful.
Silicon Valley learned this from casinos and it's how they build their apps.
The smartphone withdrawal effect. Worse in short term. Better in the long term.
Break bad habits - Slow down. Respond, don't react. Wait 72 hours to buy the thing in your online cart.
Junk food is super easy to eat fast. It was designed that way. Your body doesn't know it's full because of the speed.
What did Michael learn from a tribe in a Bolivian jungle?
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602: The Learning Leader Team of Coaches - Sherri Coale, Brook Cupps, Geron Stokes, Eli Leiker - Helping Teams Be Elite and People To Be Excellent
29 september 2024 · 1 uur 23 min
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"Have I ever mentioned how much I f'n love these Phase 2 calls?!? Free cocaine. Straight outta the Dope Factory." – Geron Stokes
"Another thing that I found is an intense interest of the subject is indispensable if you are really going to excel. I could force myself to be fairly good in a lot of things, but I couldn't be really good in anything where I didn't have an intense interest." – Charlie Munger
Our Team Values & Behaviors:
Curious: practice invested listening
Honest: give direct feedback
Intentional: provide purposeful action
What is our edge as a TEAM? Our purpose, our values, and our behaviors. We are ACTIVELY doing it.
Raw and Simple: We cut through the noise and address the fundamental issues leaders face. Our straightforward approach helps teams confront what they're not doing and empowers them to take actionable steps toward improvement.
In The Arena: We don't just talk about leadership principles—we live them. Every member of our team actively practices the strategies we coach, ensuring real-world insights and practical solutions.
Take Risks: We're unafraid to push boundaries and challenge conventional thinking. We help leaders take bold actions, even if it means stepping out of their comfort zones or facing tough consequences.
Love being on a team that "makes the water rise." We all are better for being together on the same team.
Gratitude – You can't roll up your sleeves and clench your fists at the same time. Living with gratitude is about recognizing and appreciating what you have. This will change the lens in which you view the world. Geron (overheard from Coach Mike Gundy): "I can't believe they pay us to do this." It is so much fun working with this team and the reward is that we get to keep doing it. So grateful.
The makeup of a great team… They are tough, they have fun toge…
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601: Matt Mullenweg (CEO of Automattic) - Defining Your Creed, Hiring Talented Leaders, & Leading in a Remote World
23 september 2024 · 50 min
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This is Episode #601 with the CEO of Automattic, Matt Mullenweg
Notes:
What is your creed?
I will never stop learning. I won't just work on things that are assigned to me. I know there's no such thing as a status quo. I will build our business sustainably through passionate and loyal customers. I will never pass up an opportunity to help out a colleague, and I'll remember the days before I knew everything. I am more motivated by impact than money, and I know that Open Source is one of the most powerful ideas of our generation. I will communicate as much as possible because it's the oxygen of a distributed company. I am in a marathon, not a sprint, and no matter how far away the goal is, the only way to get there is by putting one foot in front of another every day. Given time, there is no problem that's insurmountable.
"People need something to believe in." -- That's what draws talent to the company.
What do you look for when hiring a leader? "The four qualities that you can't train..."
Work ethic
Taste
Integrity
Curiosity
Coaching -- Expose your leaders to coaches.
Mirror
Ask questions
Reflect
Commonalities of leaders who sustain excellence:
Optimism in dark times
Player coaches -- They can do the work AND lead others
Hire well -- They spot talent, hire, train, develop, and retain them
Commencement speech -- Encourage others to think bigger. Raise their ambition. From Tyler Cowen -- The high-return activity of raising others' aspirations - (PhD instead of Masters) At critical moments in time, you can raise the aspirations of other people significantly, simply by suggesting they do something better or more ambitious than what they might have in mind. It costs you relatively little to do this, but the benefit to them, and to the broader world, may be enormous.
Matt's Twitter Bio -- I can think. I c…
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600: Keith Hawk & AJ Hawk - Setting The Standard, Failure Stories, Taking Ownership, Giving Great Keynotes, & What The Great Teams Do Differently From The Good Ones
16 september 2024 · 1 uur 46 min
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We are celebrating episode #600 with Keith Hawk and AJ Hawk
Tell a story about an awesome leader you worked with...
Ron Ullery – I'm a firm believer that people either live up to or down to your expectations. And most people set their expectations for themselves too low. So it's on you as a leader to raise those expectations for them. Demand more because you know they can do more.
Tyler Cowen – The high return activity of raising others' aspirations. Encouraged someone who was going for an MBA to get a Phd. At critical moments in time, you can raise the aspirations of other people significantly, especially when they are relatively young, simply by suggesting they do something better or more ambitious than what they might have in mind. It costs you relatively little to do this, but the benefit to them, and to the broader world, may be enormous.
What helps you give a great speech? How do you prepare?
Ask, "What do I want my audience to do after seeing my speech?" Interview members of their team. Learn their terminology, challenges, what's going well, what's not, what are their goals, etc...
Practice, practice, practice. Say it out loud. Rehearse so that once you're on stage, you can let it rip.
What did the best teams you've been on do differently than the average teams?
The best players on the best teams always practiced the hardest. They set the tone for the work ethic of the team. They chose extra work. They set high standards and they demanded others raise their level of performance.
The best teams hung out together outside of work. AJ was a Captain of the Green Bay Packers Super Bowl-winning team in 2010-2011... That team regularly hung out together outside of working hours, shared lots of meals, and knew each other extremely well. They trusted each other.
Tell a story about how you've shown resilience… Fai…
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599: Richard Winters, M.D. - Leadership Lessons From Mayo Clinic ("You're The Leader, Now What?")
9 september 2024 · 55 min
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Sustaining Excellence
Good get at getting stuff done
Make a change from an expert to a learning machine
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Leadership is:
Teaching – sharing with others what they need to know, how to do something
Mentoring - Help them see the world from our eyes
Coaching - Help them see the world through their eyes. To do that, we must be good listeners, ask questions, and challenge them
Follow what's interesting to you… To figure out your passion, you have to do stuff. That's the only way to fully learn what you're good at and what you want to do. Have to be willing to try, fail, keep going, and figure out where you excel and what you're curious about. That's how you find your passion and do it for a living.
They set up leadership dyads and triads at the Mayo Clinic. Group up a doctor, a nurse, and an administrator to help make decisions. This way you gain the perspective from different angles, people, and experiences.
You have to context-shift radically, from an ER to a boardroom to a coaching session. Not everybody can wear all those hats, and yet Rick does it really well (with grace and humility).
What's the difference between a coach and a mentor?
When you mentor: You share your experience & subject-matter expertise. You help a colleague see the world & its potential—through your eyes.
When you coach: You help your colleague make sense of their world—from their perspective.
Effective leaders:
seek diverse perspectives
recognize the bias of individual opinion
make decisions methodically
Ineffective leaders:
make reflexive decisions
amplify the thoughts of a few
see alternate perspectives as obstacles
Hiring -- What are the must-haves for a leadership role?
Knowledge
Fit with the team
Collaborate
Align with the values
How to run 1:1s
Consent to an agenda
Ask useful questions
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598: Sam Parr (Founder of The Hustle) - Living By a Mantra, Thinking Big, Growing (and Selling) a Media Company, Persuading Others, Becoming a World-Class Writer, Working The Cold Email Muscle, and Pursuing Excellence
2 september 2024 · 1 uur 5 min
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Ep # 598: Sam Parr
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Sam's mantra (which he has tattooed on his thigh): "Bold. Fast. Fun." It's really hard to beat someone who moves fast, takes risks, and has fun doing it.
Think big, but you have to get started. We see Hustle Con and the 2,500 people and think that's just how it always was. It started as a small book club, then a small event that made a little money... And YEARS later it's HustleCon which helped launch The Hustle, which then eventually sold for 10's of millions. We have to get started and keep going.
The most important skill set (according to Sam) is the ability to convince people of something. Persuading others. You have to believe in it yourself, be a clear thinker, and know how to communicate that to others to make them believe in it too. This skill will help you accomplish a lot.
Writing – Write like you talk. Writing clarifies your thinking…
Think in headlines – Thinking in headlines will make you a clearer thinker. It will help you see how an idea should be framed, identify different ways to tell your story, and show you the soul of your topic.
Back against the wall - "I firmly believe in putting my back against the wall." Deadlines, pressure, and harsh goals will pull out the best from you.
Copy by Hand – Sam copied the best sales letters of all time by hand. Let the writing you admire pass through your fingers. This method is called copywork.
What Sam learned backstage at his events with rich people/CEOs - "They weren't smarter than me." We're all just figuring it out as we go.: "
Cold emails -- Work that muscle. AirBnB cold email story:
"I cold emailed this guy named Brian. And he had a company called Air Bed and Breakfast. I said, 'Hey, this sounds like a cool thing. I want to interview. I think I can help make it better by doing a few things.' And they said, 'Are you in the…
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597: Daniel Pink - The Art of Selling, How To Persuade Others, and The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us
26 augustus 2024 · 1 uur
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Episode #597 -- Daniel Pink
How to give a great townhall speech:
Begin with the end in mind. What do you want the people in the audience to do?
Prepare, don't wing it. Be ready. Practice
Sound like you. Don't try to sound like Steve Jobs or someone else. When you're on stage or presenting at work, sound like you. Be genuine.
Ideas for persuading others:
Make it easy for others to say yes
Social proof - Show that others are doing it (this is why companies put the logos of their customers on their website)
Know when to appeal to the head or the heart. Typically, it's the heart and emotion when speaking to those who work for you. And it's your head when speaking to your boss. This is nuanced though and not black and white.
Remember, there are two types of people: Those who make their boss's life easier or harder. Be the former.
Pitching... Miles Teller in the TV show The Offer. Instead of trying to convince the mob boss to allow him to make the movie, he offered to show him the script and collaborate with him. The best pitches invite others to be co-creators.
The motivation framework:
Autonomy: The desire to direct our own lives. Giving people more control over their work or tasks can enhance motivation and performance.
Mastery: The urge to get better at something that matters. People are more motivated when they see progress and can develop their skills.
Purpose: The feeling that what we do is important and has meaning. Connecting tasks or jobs to a larger cause can be a powerful motivator.
"If you're not confident, don't be self-deprecating."
To Sell is Human - "We're all in sales... Convincing, cajoling, persuading."
Make it easy for people to say yes... That's what the best salespeople do.
Social Cues -- From Robert Cialdini - People look around for cues. That's why companies put logos of their …
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596: Arthur Brooks - The Art & Science of Happiness, Defining Your Purpose, Working with Oprah, Living Authentically, and Building The Life You Want
19 augustus 2024 · 1 uur 2 min
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Notes:
Arthur grew up with one goal - To be the world's greatest French horn player. He learned that striving for something was fungible across all fields of life. It was a great laboratory for learning.
Intrinsic vs Extrinsic motivation - Intrinsic motivation comes from an internal desire to accomplish a goal, while extrinsic motivation comes from external rewards and praise.
"Misery comes from excessive auto-focus." Misery comes from thinking about yourself too much and not enough about helping others.
The curse of the strive... All happiness comes from progress.
The arrival is not the goal.
How to be happy while striving:
Be grateful - Write it down. Do it daily.
Always look to help others.
"All research is 'me-search.'"
The Four Idols:
Money, Power, Pleasure, and Prestige/Fame. We talked through ours… What are yours?
The Four Focus areas to help with happiness
Faith
Family
Friendship
Serving Others
Define your purpose. Write it down. Understand why you're here. Mine = "To inspire others to value and pursue excellence." Too many people are ok with mediocrity. We should strive for more.
Oprah Winfrey is the same person everywhere she goes. She is genuine and authentic to all.
Arthur's column helped Oprah stay positive and happy through the pandemic. So much so that she called him and asked to meet. And eventually, write a book together. That book became a #1 best-seller.
#1 Life Hack: "Don't lie ever."
Arthur is jacked (in great shape).
Taking care of your body helps with unhappiness.
Wake up 1.5 hours before dawn. Work out hard. Lift weights. Do challenging cardio.
Life/Career Advice:
Don't worry too much about the first job out of college. Don't sacrifice relationships.
Bring love to every relationship and be great at what you do. Be excellent.
Emanate love and show excellence.
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595: Anne Mahlum [Founder of solidcore] - How To Bet on Yourself, Build Confidence, Smash Your Goals, Scale a Business, and Earn $100m
12 augustus 2024 · 1 uur 1 min
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"I looked at these guys (homeless) and demanded nothing but pure excellence from them. And it was almost as if they were waiting for someone to do that." Set high expectations for people. Believe in them. Care for them. Support them. Love them. And watch what happens. This is leadership.
Nobody runs by themselves. What a great life motto. We all need people. Anne believes in the importance of community and doing hard things together.
Her mindset was fostered, in sometimes complicated ways, by her childhood home life, she says. At age 16, her parents divorced after her father gambled away their family savings. To cope, Mahlum started running and became hyper-focused on the idea of controlling her own life.
When others are playing defense, go on offense. When others are scared, get aggressive (easier said than done). Anne did it.
"Running is the vehicle we're using to create community and positive reinforcement."
"If you want to make change, you have to help others see that they can do it. You can't force it on them."
How to build a great non-profit:
Identity - Each group had team names
Need team leaders, people to map out logistics, and volunteer coordinators
Need to make day 1 incredible. Launch BIG.
Target the right people - In Anne's case, it was executives who were runners... Decision makers who appreciated running.
Goals - Work backwards. Set a date and then do whatever it takes to hit that launch date.
solidcore -- Anne thought big from the beginning. She was opening her second location almost the same time her first location went live. She always wanted to scale it and thought about it from Day 1.
Important to hire great coaches. They needed a great personality and had to make ev…
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594: Charles Duhigg - Asking Deeper Questions, Developing Listening Skills, The Matching Principle, The Harvard Study, and How to Unlock the Secret Language of Connection (Super Communicators)
5 augustus 2024 · 46 min
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Ask deep questions – A deep question asks about someone's values, beliefs, judgments, or experiences, rather than just facts.
A deep question asks people to talk about how they feel.
Asking a deep question should feel like sharing.
NASA listened to how people laughed and if they possessed a genuine matching quality. Not performative or inauthentic, but people who connect with others by matching their energy.
The 4 Rules of a learning conversation:
Pay attention to what type of conversation is occurring
Share your goals, ask what others are seeking
Ask about others' feelings and share your own
Explore if identities are important to this discussion
The How Do We Feel conversation: What can we learn about listening from Nicholas Epley? (Psychology Professor). (Everyone knows how to listen deeply. If a podcast or something is interesting, nobody struggles to listen). Epley didn't teach them how to listen. He urged them to have more interesting and meaningful conversations. To talk about feelings. When we talk about feelings, something magical happens. Other people can't help but listen to us.
Practical actions to take:
Ask Deep Questions: Instead of sticking to surface-level topics, ask questions that invite people to share their values, beliefs, or significant experiences. For instance, if someone mentions they are a doctor, ask them what inspired them to pursue medicine.
Prove You're Listening: Demonstrate that you are actively listening by asking follow-up questions or repeating back what the other person has said to ensure understanding.
Match Emotional Tone: Pay attention to the other person's emotional state and match it appropriately. If someone is sharing something emotional, respo…
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593: Kim "Killer Chick" Campbell - Contingency Planning, Responding to Adversity, Earning Trust & Respect, Flying in the Face of Fear, and How To Run a Debrief
29 juli 2024 · 1 uur 4 min
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Episode #593: Kim Campbell - Contingency Planning, Responding to Adversity, Earning Trust & Respect, Flying in the Face of Fear, and How To Run a Debrief
Aviate, Navigate, Communicate - "Aviate, navigate, communicate" is a fundamental principle in aviation that pilots learn early in flight training. It's a priority order that helps pilots stay focused and in control, even when they're under pressure or distracted:
Aviate: Keep the plane flying
Navigate: Figure out where you are and where you're going
Communicate: Talk to air traffic control (ATC) or someone else as needed
On March 20, 2003, Kim wrote letters to her loved ones in case she died in battle.
Prepare, practice, and plan for contingencies. My college football coach, the late great, Terry Hoeppner used to always say, have a plan, work the plan, plan for the unexpected. As leaders, it's on us to prepare, practice, and plan for contingencies. You don't have to get ready if you stay ready.
I love the way Kim's dad helped support her dream to be a fighter pilot. If you want to do this, you have to put in the work. Run hills, and do pull-ups every time you go to the bathroom. He didn't just tell her you can do whatever you want… He created opportunities for Kim to do the necessary work to achieve what she wanted.
Kim's telling of the story of how she was hit and how she responded. An amazing example of responding in the face of fear, dealing with adversity in a calm, poised manner, and making a tough decision. Kim's training and her attitude is what set her apart and saved her life.
Response to Rejection: Initially Kim was rejected by the Air Force Academy because of a low SAT score. In response, instead of quitting and moving on, she …
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592: Ed Batista - How To Give Useful Feedback, What Great Leaders Do, and Why We All Need An Executive Coach
22 juli 2024 · 1 uur 12 min
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Notes:
Commonalities of excellent coaches:
Not defensive
Respond well to feedback
Ability to learn
"Leadership can't be taught but it can be learned."
Coaching is not therapy, but it can be therapy-adjacent.
It's not telling people what to do and it's not just asking questions. It's a combination of all of them.
There is ample research on the benefits of writing. It clarifies your thinking.
The questions to ask someone who might need an executive coach:
Why do you want a coach?
Why now?
What do you hope to get out of it?
What do great leaders do?
First, do no harm.
Walk the talk.
Be an embodiment of the culture.
Have high standards
Take risks
Coach people up
Train people
"Coaching is accomplishment through others."
"Feedback is not a gift."
Feedback is data. Signal and noise.
Signal - Important and good.
Noise - Byproduct of someone's distorted lens.
"Praise, Criticism, Praise (PCP) is terrible." Don't give the compliment sandwich. It's disingenuous.
How leaders best overcome adversity – The most critical skill is "adaptive capacity..." It's composed of two primary qualities: the ability to grasp context, and hardiness.
Coaching - Asking evocative questions, ensuring the other person feels heard, and actively conveying empathy remain the foundations of coaching.
Connect: Establish and renew the interpersonal connection, followed by an open-ended question.
Reflect: Having elicited a response, reflect back the essence of the other person's comments.
Direct: Focus their attention on a particular aspect of their response that invites further exploration.
Support and Challenge - A client once said, "It feels like you're always in my corner, but you never hesitate to chall…
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591: Ryan Holiday (LIVE! In Austin) - Good Values, Good Character, Good Deeds (Right Thing, Right Now)
15 juli 2024 · 1 uur 11 min
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Ryan Holiday is one of the world's bestselling living philosophers. His books like The Obstacle Is the Way, Ego Is the Enemy, The Daily Stoic, and the #1 New York Times bestseller Stillness Is the Key appear in more than 40 languages and have sold more than 5 million copies. His latest book (a #1 NY Times Best-Seller) is called Right Thing, Right Now. This conversation was recorded in person at Ryan's bookstore, The Painted Porch, which sits on historic Main St in Bastrop, Texas.
Notes:
June 16, 2024 – Birthday and Father's Day. How does stoicism impact you as a dad? "What's at stake today is how they remember you 20 years from now."
Choose a North Star -- Choosing a North Star can function as a compass professionally, personally, and morally.
Most people don't do the work to figure out what their North Star is… Most people default to what others do, and then they end up comparing themselves to others.
Ryan Holiday's North Star? Writing...
Pay the taxes of life gladly: Not just from the government. Annoying people are a tax on being outside your house. Delays are a tax on travel. Haters are a tax on having a YouTube channel. There's a tax on everything in life. You can whine. Or you can pay them gladly.
Oscar Wilde wrote in The Portrait of Dorian Grey "The aim of life is self-development. To realize one's nature perfectly. That is what each of us is here for." —- What are you here for?
Stoicism - "A stoic doesn't control what happens but they focus on how to respond to what happened. The virtues of stoicism are courage, discipline, justice, and wisdom."
Build a coaching tree -- Popovich reference - and his coaching tree - how do we get better at making a goal to build a forest of leaders? …
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590: Nat Eliason - Winning & Losing Millions, Moonwalking with Einstein, Creating Memory Dividends, Making Our Days More Memorable, and Writing Captivating Stories (Crypto Confidential)
8 juli 2024 · 59 min
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Notes:
Nat Eliason studied philosophy at Carnegie Mellon University. Since he started publishing his writing in 2013, his work has been read by millions of people and spun out multiple businesses ranging from a marketing agency to a cafe. He's the author of Crytpo Confidential: Winning and Losing Millions in the New Frontier of Finance.
How to make our days more memorable?
Throw parties with 3-4 different phases.
When taking your loved one out on a date, have 3 different parts. Implement homework for life. Write down the stories of each day. This helps you remember them more.
Do Hard Things – Our self-image is composed of historical evidence of our abilities. The more hard things you push yourself to do, the more competent you will see yourself to be.
"Build up your identity of being a capable person."
"Money corrupts quickly."
It's never the right time. Any time you catch yourself saying "Oh it'll be a better time later," you're probably just scared. Or unclear on what to do. There is never a right time for the big things in life.
Moonwalking with Einstein -- Memory competitions.
Die with Zero -- Create memory dividends (Bill Perkins). Be in the moment.
Homework for Life (Matthew Dicks).
Nat's birthday this year was the first time he ever felt sad (on a birthday)... Why? "It feels like it's going by quicker than it ever has."
Create time with texture? "Mine workers have time with texture. I'm not sure that's memorable or desirable."
Crypto Confidential is the roller coaster story of getting rich, going broke, scamming, and getting scammed. It's a narrative of Nat's personal journey through the world of crypto, but it's also a revealing look at exactly how the crypto sausage gets made…
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589: Sam Reese - Leadership Coaching, Setting Big Goals, Setting The Tone at the Top, and Why We Should All Be Part of a Mastermind Group
1 juli 2024 · 57 min
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Notes:
How to create a learning organization - Set the tone at the top. The senior leader needs to model this behavior. Create peer groups at your place of work. Team learning is important. Give people the responsibility to lead training sessions. Support your teammates. Pay for them to go to conferences, hire coaches, and learn.
Commonalities among leaders who sustain excellence: They are curious. They have no confirmation bias. They have high standards. They respect all members of their team. They have a vision and goals and they share them with their team.
GPS - Goals, Perspectives, Strategy.
Process -- Full transparency, one meeting per week. Start with a story about a member at each meeting.
"If you know what to do, what would you do?"
Help high-integrity leaders make good decisions for their company, family, and community.
Hiring "must-haves"
They believe in the mission
They don't think they're better than others
They listen
They collaborate well
Advice:
Give back what you can to help others.
Be generous.
Learn.
Get away from bad bosses.
Be balanced.
The power of being part of a peer accountability group – I've learned firsthand the impact this has on leaders through my Learning Leader Circles.
The differences between leading, managing, and coaching, and why you must do all three...
Leader - Set direction, make sense of the outside world
Manager - Know the details
Coach - Help you activate what you already know
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588: Tara Viswanathan (CEO Of Rupa) - Handling Rejection, Creating Magical Moments, Leadership Hiring 'Must-Haves,' Learnings From Lululemon, and Keys To a Great Off-Site Retreat
24 juni 2024 · 1 uur 3 min
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Rejection is a learned skill. Tara has gone through rejection therapy. Go out and ask for something crazy big. Get comfortable with being rejected. Hearing the word no. Go big.
Confidence is about keeping promises to yourself. Create evidence for yourself.
Create magical moments for the people you're leading. Show them how much you care for them. The small touches are a big deal. The magic is in the small details.
How to have fun at your company: Fun (and culture) cannot be outsourced. You cannot delegate "culture carriers." You (the leader) are the ultimate culture carrier. It has to come from you.
"Ask for money, get advice. Ask for advice, get money."
"If it's too easy, you get soft."
It's important to set high expectations for the people you're leading. "The boss I respected the most was a hard ass and very demanding."
The difference between nice and kind:
Nice = Soft, easy.
Kind = Set high expectations. Hold you accountable to them. You're better long-term being kind.
Tara's "must-haves" when hiring a leader:
Raw intelligence - How quickly can you learn? Must be a clear and critical thinker.
Fantastic communicator
Intensity, drive, hunger
Sense of humor - Need to be able to laugh and have fun.
Values:
Business owner
Kid at heart
Design thinking - Craft for the end-user
Peak performance
Be human
Keys to a great off-site retreat
Craft for the people
High energy
Sense of connection - get to know each other
Peak performance workbook - set goals
Small touches - personalized gifts for the team (like picture frames with personalized pictures in them)
Create magical moments to connect
Focus on the arrival - make it special
Eliminate loneliness - Assigned seats, name t…
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587: Daniel Negreanu - Responding To Failure, Risking It All, Getting Rich, Embracing Criticism, Taking Ownership of Your Life, & How To Read People
17 juni 2024 · 1 uur 4 min
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Notes: Daniel Negreanu has earned over 52 million dollars at the poker table, which ranks him as the highest-earning player in live tournament poker history. He's won 6 world series of poker bracelets, two world poker tour titles, and Daniel was inducted into the Poker Hall of Fame in 2014. He's often referred to as "Kid Poker" and is known for his charismatic personality at the table.
Commonalities among the greatest poker players in the world:
Self-Awareness
Humility
In order to avoid criticism, "say nothing, do nothing, be nothing."
Daniel is obsessed with the Rocky movies and the lessons learned from each one. Rocky 3 - Don't get complacent. Rocky 4 - It's heart versus machine. Rocky Balboa - But it ain't about how hard you hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done!
The luck factor... Dealing with things outside of our control. A victim versus an owner mentality. Victims will complain, give up, sulk, be passive-aggressive, or procrastinate. Owners will seek solutions, take action, or ask for help. Victims will focus on things they cannot control, while owners will focus on things they can control.
"A big mistake is a beautiful opportunity." It's easier to be a victim and not take responsibility.
"Failure builds muscle."
"I don't care what others think anymore. I do not have that fear."
Rounders (the movie) is the greatest poker movie of all time.
Why Daniel is inspired by Sylvester Stallone...
He's not complacent
In Rocky IV it was heart versus machine. Rocky (Sly) was all heart.
Outspoken and direct – "If you have a problem with me, text me. And if you don't have my number then y…
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586: Erika Ayers Badan (Former Barstool Sports CEO) - Deserving Great Mentors, Learning From Failure, Building Your Career, Earning Your Dream Job, & Other Hard Truths About Life As A CEO
10 juni 2024 · 59 min
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Notes:
What Erika learned from her dad: "He loved his work and was so full from it. Three weeks before he died he was doing Zoom calls with students from the ER even though it was beyond unnecessary and impractical to do so. If you love what you do it can add so much dimension to your life and the lives of others. He liked people and to learn from them. There's something to learn from everybody. And the best control was no control - let things happen and learn from them & adapt.
Career advice: Know what your company is paying you to do. And the better you make your boss look, the better it will be for you. Find problems and clear the path for your boss. Make their life easier. Make them look good. That's the role when you have a boss.
Must-Haves When she's making a hiring decision:
Be able to share stories of how you've gone for something that failed, and learned
Be curious, ask thoughtful questions
Do research on the company. CARE.
Test the product. Be able to demonstrate that you know what it does.
Bring a point of view. Articulate what you could bring to the role and how you could make the company better.
Joanne— I wanted to be you until I realized I couldn't, so I decided to be me. I studied you for twelve years. You are the architect of all my work dreams, and you are the scaffolding I built myself on. You put force into my nature, and for that I am so grateful.
Getting the Barstool CEO role: She earned the job over 74 male candidates. "I wanted this job because they were considered too rogue, too untouchable, too badly behaved, too unproven. Dave Portnoy (the founder) was powerful, seemingly unmanageable, and volatile."
In 2012, when Chernin bought a majority stake in Barstool, the…
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585: AJ Jacobs - Creating a Flexible Mind Mind, The Value of Slow-Thinking, Embracing Virtue, Showing Gratitude, and The Year of Living Constitutionally
3 juni 2024 · 57 min
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Notes:
John Quincy Adams once said, "Gratitude… when it takes possession of the bosom, fills the soul to overflowing and scarce leaves room for any other sentiment or thought."
Ask yourself the question, "What good shall I do today?" When you're upset that your social media post didn't get as many likes as you thought it would stop and think, 'What good shall I do today?" It can reframe how you approach others and be more servant-based (which is a mark of a great leader)
The fox mindset versus the hedgehog mindset. A hedgehog has a single lens. It's more rigid thinking. A fox sees the world through many different lenses. It's more flexible and adaptive. That is a theme of this conversation. Be open, be less judgemental, and be more curious about the way others view the world. "The older I get, the less certain I get of my opinions."
"It's easier to act your way into a new way of thinking than think your way into a new way of acting." AJ shared that when he was dedicated to the thank you project even on a bad day when he was focused on saying thank you, his mind eventually caught up to his body.
Change Your Mind – the founding fathers did this a lot. Daniel Kahneman said, "No one enjoys being wrong, but I do enjoy having been wrong because it means I am now less wrong than I was before."
Be Humble In Your Opinions – Ben Franklin told a short parable. He said, there was a "French lady, who, in a dispute with her sister said, I don't know how it happens, sister, but I meet nobody but myself that is always in the right. The point is that we are all that French lady. We all believe we have a monopoly on the truth. (Remind yourself that you're wrong sometimes)
Flexibility of mind: Many of the Founding Fathers were open to the idea that they might be wrong, and more willing to change their minds than leaders are today. At the Constitutio…
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584: Craig Robinson - The "Must-Have" Qualities For Coaching Excellence, Becoming a Better Listener, Learning From a Legend, and Thanksgiving Dinner With a Young Barack Obama
27 mei 2024 · 1 uur 5 min
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Craig Robinson is the host of Ways to Win. He's the executive director of the National Association of Basketball Coaches (NABC). From 2017-2020, he served as the VP of Player Development for the New York Knicks. Previously, he was a Division I head men's basketball coach at Oregon State and Brown. He also is the brother of former First Lady Michelle Obama.
Notes:
What Craig learned from Coach Pete Carill about recruiting: There is a sales element to it. And one of the most important skills to develop is to become a great LISTENER. Ask questions, listen, and ask more questions. Curiosity is the ultimate form of respect. Coach Carill won over Craig's dad because he was curious. That's a good lesson for all of us.
President Obama (Craig's brother-in-law) said Craig's discipline and diligence enhanced his presidential campaign. "Craig doesn't profess to know the specifics of politics the way he knows the X's and O's of basketball, but I think what he does understand is the need to wake up every morning doing your best and having a positive attitude. And him communicating that to me was always very helpful."
When (future President) Barack Obama was dating Craig's sister (Michelle), he told their family at Thanksgiving dinner that he had aspirations and a plan to be the President of the United States. It seemed crazy at the time, but he made it happen.
What are the "must-have" qualities to be a coach on Craig's staff?
Connect with people
Lifelong learning
Curiosity
Fill in gaps (be strong where Craig is not)
Must be a good listener
What Craig looked for in a player when recruiting:
Baseline talent (table stakes)
2-3 "bucket-getters"
High IQ
Flexible
After graduating from Princeton, where he played for Pete Carril and was twice named the Ivy League player of the year, Criag wanted to coach. Instead, he went to …
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583: Jason Fried - Growing Without Goals, Earning An Investment From Jeff Bezos, Making Tough Decisions, Keys To A Great Partnership, Hosting Leadership Retreats, and Creating A Writing Practice
20 mei 2024 · 1 uur 13 min
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Making decisions – Decisions aren't hard — it's the moments after that are. Whenever I make decisions, I don't think about now, I think about eventually. How will this feel then, maybe a year from now. When it's real, not raw. When the complications around the concern have cleared, and distance has done its job.
Goal setting - 37 Signals does not set long-term goals. Jason (as the CEO) helps set the direction and they work in six-week sprints.
Think, "What am I optimizing for?"
37 Signals does not have a board of directors or advisors.
Is it more helpful to have a chip on your shoulder to prove someone wrong or to be motivated to prove your supporters right?
Both can be useful.
Keys to a great partnership? Jason works with his co-founder, David Heinemeier Hansson (a previous guest on The Learning Leader Show).
Mutual admiration
Have complementary skills (Jason is design, DHH is engineering)
A company is essentially two things: a group of people and a collection of decisions. How those people make these decisions is the art of running a business.
Maxims:
Decide what you're going to do this week, not this year.
Whenever you can, swap "Let's think about it" for "Let's decide on it."
Momentum fuels motivation.
Just ship it. You'll figure out what needs to be fixed as you go.
Mark Zuckerberg is coming into his own... There are lots of reasons for it. One of them (maybe)? He's working out, in great shape, fighting MMA style, and surrounding himself around others who are doing the same.
All leaders should have a writing practice. Hopefully, you don't feel the need to send it to a lawyer or a comms team before publishing it or sharing it with the people you're leading. Write like you talk. Write what's in your head. Think about what you want to say, and say it.
You never know who is watching: Jeff Bezos…
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582: Cal Newport - Obsess Over Quality, Create Time Freedom (like Benjamin Franklin), Limit Daily Goals, Work At a Natural Pace, & How To Be So Good They Can't Ignore You
13 mei 2024 · 57 min
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Notes on this conversation with Cal Newport
(Obsess over quality). Jewel obsessed over the quality of her work so much that she turned down a 1m dollar offer (even while living out of her car) because she needed time to make her work excellent. Obsess over the quality of what you produce, even if this means missing opportunities in the short term. Leverage the value of these results to gain more and more freedom in your efforts over the long term.
Benjamin Franklin – He hired David Hall to create time freedom. He needed time to think, time to experiment. He gave up money in the short term to gain time freedom to create something for the future. There's no guarantee that it would pay off, but we all should think about how we can make investments that our future self would thank us for.
Have fewer concurrent active projects. Instead of focusing on 10 things, focus on 2 or 3. Make it public. Share with your team. Be known as a leader who focuses on a few important objectives instead of 10 of them.
Match your space to your work – Be in nature, Lin-Manuel Miranda wrote Hamilton in the Morris-Jumel Mansion, the oldest surviving house in Manhattan (served as headquarters for George Washington during the Battle of Harlem Heights, and home of Aaron Burr when he was Vice President), Neil Gaiman built a spartan, 8 sided writing shed that sits on low stilts and offers views on all sides of endless trees.
Do Fewer Things:
Limit Daily Goals – Cal learned this from his doctoral adviser at MIT. She was incredulous about Cal's attempts to switch back and forth between multiple academic papers. She preferred to get lost in a single project at a time. Cal was convinced that the slowness of working on just one important thing per day would hold him back.
Work at a Natural Pace
Don't rush your most important work. Allow it instead to…
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581: Paul Rabil (The LeBron James of Lacrosse) - Never Missing a Day, Goal Setting, The Voice No One Hears, and The Difference Between Self-Promotion & Passion (The Way of The Champion)
6 mei 2024 · 55 min
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Never Miss a Day – In the summer, going into Paul's freshman year of high school, he was at a lacrosse camp at Loyola University… At the end of the morning session, an all-time coaching legend, Tony Seaman spoke to the group. He told them he could guarantee that they could earn a college scholarship. All they had to do? "Take 100 shots per day. Here's the catch. You can never miss a day. No excuses." What are your 100 shots a day?
Goal Setting – Most people don't set goals because the act alone is both a major and personal step in the direction of commitment, and it invites hope, fear, and the possibility of regret.
Focus on what you can control – John Wooden was 5'10. Below average for a basketball player. He was really good at "understanding the things at which he had no control and things over which I had some control."
Let Go of Outcomes – Archery master Awa Kenzo told his students to pay no attention to the target. Success and failure come from the same place, so that's where the archer should point all of their attention: not on the outcome, but the effort.
Therapy– Dr. Lindsey Hoskins once said that when we hurt someone we love, it's because we fear disconnection from that someone. We hope that by lashing out, they'll show us love, and as a result, we'll feel safer in the relationship."
The Difference Between Self-Promotion and Passion - "I'm not going to convince you to like what I do. I'm going to show you how much I love what I do."
You won't achieve ambitious goals if you don't set ambitious goals.
The legendary Michael Ovitz shotgun pitch to Coca-Cola. He and his team outworked the competition, flew in a day early, practiced in the actual room the pitch would take place, bought new suits, and over-delivered during the pitch meeting. Their competitors took the meeting for granted, flew in the morning of, and didn't perform. Michael and his …
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580: Robin Sharma - The 5 Journal Prompts, 8 Hidden Habits, Meeting People In Person, Working Out Everyday, Becoming The Architect of Your Future, Building a Rich Life
29 april 2024 · 51 min
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The 5 Journal Prompts - What am I grateful for? Where am I winning? What will I let go of today? What does my ideal day look like? What needs to be said at the end?
Avoid the old person flaw – Sometimes you meet an old person and they spend hours in conversation living in the past. Don't ever believe that your best days are behind you. Have a "never peak" mindset with an upward trajectory… Always.
Go see people in person - In Italy they say, "We are not friends until we've eaten together."
Release the energy vampires – "We feel guilt when we no longer want to associate with old friends and colleagues who haven't changed. The price, and marker, of growth." - Naval Ravikant
Stop salting your food before you taste it.
Happiness is an inside job.
See Solitude as the new status symbol.
A sweaty workout is never a silly idea.
Ask Yourself the 10,000 Dinner Question: That's how many dinners you can expect to share with your chosen mate. Does that thought thrill you, or give you the shivers? If the latter, you may not have found the one.
Be a Perfect Moment Maker: Focus on making magical memories with those we care about so we feel rich when we're old.
Never be a prisoner of your past. Become the architect of your future. You will never be the same.
"Your "I CAN" is more important than your IQ."
"Everything is created twice, first in the mind and then in reality."
"You can't make someone feel good about themselves until you feel good about yourself."
"Investing in yourself is the best investment you will ever make. it will not only improve your life, it will improve the lives of all those around you."
Start a mastermind alliance… For years, every Friday at 6am, Robin met with his mastermind partner at a coffee shop where they'd chat for 2 hours.
"Success occurs in the privacy of the soul." - Rick Rubin – Success is about YOUR definition, not whate…
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579: David Perell - Setting The Standard, Cultivating Your Taste, Pursuing Excellence, Becoming a Sloganeer, Always Working/Never Working, & Lessons From a Mysterious Billionaire
22 april 2024 · 1 uur 4 min
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Episode #579: David Perell - Setting The Standard, Cultivating Your Taste, Pursuing Excellence, Becoming a Sloganeer, Always Working/Never Working, & Lessons From a Mysterious Billionaire
Notes:
Set the standard – "It's your job to have the highest quality standards of anybody you work with. Every day, you'll face pressure to lower them. Don't do it. If you can set a high standard and simply maintain it, you'll do very well for yourself."
Have a high-quality bar. Do three things:
Define it: Clearly state the standards. (read The 11 Laws of Showrunning)
Maintain it: This is hard to do.
Raise it: Keep pushing.
You need to define what quality looks like. Set the true north.
David worked with a coach to establish his core values. And he was going to narrow it down to five and the coach said, "Nope, it's just one. It's the one that everything in your life orbits around... It's The Pursuit of Excellence.
The biggest piece of low-hanging fruit for leaders is getting funnier:
Nobody trains themselves to get funnier though. It's strangely taboo. That's why it's such an opportunity.
"Laughter is the sound of comprehension." Say something memorable. Humor is memorable.
A good way to think... Deconstruct something funny. David spends a lot of time understanding why Theo Von is so funny.
The key to excellent storytelling: a moment of change. Conflict and suspense carry stories.
Robert Caro writing the LBJ books... "What would I see if I was there." He moved to where LBJ lived to see what it was like to be there.
How to cultivate taste:
Make a list of things you love/hate.
Look for things you love (but aren't supposed to), and things you hate (but are supposed to love).
Make things. Don't be a passive consumer. Be a connoisseur. Be discerning about what you consume.
Amor Tolles - History is bad for knowing what'…
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578: Scott Galloway - Adding Surplus Value, Asking For What You Want, Ketamine Therapy, Crude Humor, Being Moved To Tears, & The Algebra of Wealth
15 april 2024 · 1 uur 5 min
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Create surplus value - What can we do to give more than we take? "The key is to figure out what you can do that others can't or are unwilling to do. Hard work is a talent. Curiosity is a talent. Patience and empathy are talents."
"Helping others makes me feel strong."
Scott's recent experience with Ketamine Therapy - "It clarified my thinking. It's helped me stop keeping score. It also made me grateful for my wife. Did you ever get a gift when you were a kid that you weren't expecting and you couldn't afford it? Something you never imagined having." I got a $45 Banh skateboard from my mom's boyfriend Terry. It was a moment of sheer surprise and joy. My wife kept popping in my head and I kept thinking, god I get to hang out with this person, get to have kids with them, get to build a life with her. It was this overwhelming feeling of wonderful joy and surprise. It was very clarifying and rewarding for me."
"You Gotta Ask" - Scott met his wife at the Raleigh Hotel pool in Miami. He saw her from a distance and promised himself that he wouldn't leave the pool without introducing himself to her first. In order to do anything of significance in your life, you must take an uncomfortable risk." Scott is married to Beata Galloway, a real estate developer born in Germany. Together, they have two sons. One of them has the middle name, Raleigh.
Why Crying is Important - "It informs what's important to you."
Why Scott uses crude humor - It's used to connect with people. And people are either afraid or not able to do it.
When Scott was 13… One of his mom's boyfriends handed him two crisp 100-dollar bills after he asked him about stocks. Terry (his mom's boyfriend) told him "Go buy some stock at one of those fancy brokers in the village." Once there, Scott met a mentor named Cy Gordner who helped him learn about the markets.
Sh…
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577: Jeff Wetzler - Tap Into the Hidden Wisdom of People Around You for Unexpected Breakthroughs In Leadership and Life (ASK)
8 april 2024 · 1 uur 7 min
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The ASK approach - Choose curiosity, make it a safe space to tell the truth, pose quality questions (that's a question that helps you learn something), LISTEN (check if you heard them right, rephrase), then reflect and connect - FOLLOW UP. Make sure the other person feels that you've listened to and heard them.
1) Choose Curiosity to awaken your interest in new discoveries.
What can I learn from this person?
2) Make it Safe for people to tell you hard things
Find the right context. Be vulnerable. Radiate Resilience.
3) Pose Quality Questions so you can uncover what's most important
Questions that help you learn something. What do you really think?
4) Listen to Learn, to hear what someone is really trying to tell you.
Request reactions... What holes are in my perspective?
5) Reflect and Reconnect, so you take the right action based on what you've heard.
Update my thinking. Sifting through what we heard. What can I take away of value?
What are the best questions to ask in an interview for a job:
As the interviewee, ask them what concerns they have about you? They're going to talk about these when you're not in the room. You might as well talk about them together when you're in there…
As the interviewer: Fast forward 1 year. There are two scenarios. 1, you crushed it. 2, You didn't. Tell the story of what happened in each of those scenarios…
What did Jeff learn from his work as a magician?
Magic trains you to hold your cards close to your chest, that's what makes the illusion work…He dreamed (still does) of someone asking him, so what do you think Jeff? He's held back so much because he wanted people to ask him what he thought… It's like he needed permission.
When pollsters asked Americans, "If you could have any superpower you wanted, what would you pick?" Two answers tied for the number 1 sp…
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576: Scott Belsky - Adding Texture to Time, Feeling Unrushed, Pushing Yourself Physically, Narrating the Journey, Becoming an Excellent Writer, and Why You Should Never Outsource Your Story
1 april 2024 · 49 min
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My guest: Scott Belsky co-founded Behance in 2006 and served as its CEO for six years. Behance was acquired by Adobe in 2012. Since then he has had a variety of roles with the company and is currently Adobe's Chief Strategy Officer, and EVP of Design & Emerging Products. He's also the author of two best-selling books, The Messy Middle and Making Ideas Happen. Scott holds a bachelor's degree from Cornell University and an MBA from Harvard Business School.
Hiking > Beach - You're only able to recollect experiences with enough friction to add texture to time as it passes. time spent doing the unexpected and/or being challenged is time with texture. Ultimately, in our dying breath, the more experiences in our lives with texture, the more of our lives we will actually remember and the longer we will feel we have lived.
What adds texture to time? A challenge.
Feeling unrushed - Feeling unrushed (so simple, yet so hard) is indeed such a luxury; one I still fail to achieve.
Persona-Led Growth - People are more likely to share what people say than what companies say. Modern "PR strategy" should amplify the voice of actual builders, embrace personality rather than dull it out, and aspire for more real-time updates vs. major moments.
How to raise kids to become great adults?
"model hard work"
Say, "This is the hard work." Manufacture hardship.
Regulate emotions. Big feelings, little bodies.
Why Scott enjoys working at Adobe... He's a mission-driven entrepreneur. Progress begets progress.
Prototype = Show, not tell.
A prototype is worth a hundred meetings, and almost all meetings that aren't grounded with a prototype are a waste of time (or worse). A prototype immediately surfaces gaps in logic or business concerns. It is the fastest way to drive alignment.
"A prototype prompts decisiveness"
"It's a hot knife through the butter of bureaucracy."
Why Scott w…
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575: The Score That Matters - Growing Excellence In Yourself and Those You Lead
26 maart 2024 · 34 min
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The Learning Leader Show With Ryan Hawk
Ryan Hawk is the creator and host of The Learning Leader Show, a top-rated business podcast that focuses on learning from the most effective leaders in the world. He speaks regularly to Fortune 500 companies; works with teams and players in the NFL, NBA, MLB, and NCAA; and facilitates Leadership Circles to offer structured guidance and collaborative feedback to new and experienced leaders. Ryan has also built an online leadership school called The Learning Leader Academy. He is the author of Welcome to Management and The Pursuit of Excellence, lauded by Forbes magazine as "the best leadership book of 2020" and "the most dynamic leadership book of 2022," respectively.
Brook Cupps has been a high school basketball coach for more than 20 years, earning several Coach of the Year awards. His teams have won numerous conference, district, and regional championships, as well as Centerville High School's first-ever basketball state championship in 2021. In addition, he has spent the last eight years coaching grassroots basketball on the AAU circuits and helped guide the North Coast (Ohio) Blue Chips to national championships in 2014 and 2019. He publishes weekly essays on leadership and coaching on his site, Blue Collar Grit, and is the author of Surrender the Outcome.
People love to keep score. Managers keep score of a range of business metrics: market share, revenue, profit margin, and growth rate. In our personal lives, social media has us keeping score by likes and followers.
These external scores are outcome-driven and serve as proof of our success—money, fame, material possessions, wins—but this constant chase for more validation often leaves us feeling exhausted and empty.
Offering both descriptive and prescriptive advice and anecdotes, The Sc…
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574: Guy Kawasaki - Leadership Lessons From Steve Jobs, Learning How To Sell, Becoming a Chief Evangelist, and The 'Think Different' Philosophy
25 maart 2024 · 52 min
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574: Guy Kawasaki - Leadership Lessons From Steve Jobs, Learning How To Sell, Becoming a Chief Evangelist, and The 'Think Different' Philosophy
"Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it." – William Arthur Ward
In 1977, Guy enrolled in the UCLA Anderson School of Management, where he earned an MBA. While there, Guy also worked at a jewelry company, Nova Stylings. He said, "The jewelry business is a very, very tough business, tougher than the computer business... I learned a very valuable lesson: how to sell."
It's helpful to know that we are all in sales every day. Whether you think you're in sales or not… You are. You're selling yourself, your ideas, projects, products. It's useful to learn how to sell.
Melanie Perkins, CEO of Canva (which is an amazing product and company)... "She's Steve Jobs with heart and soul. They are on a relentless pursuit of perfection."
Guy's counting dots story… It started in 6th grade. A teacher pushed him to go to a private school. That led to him getting into Stanford. This is where he met Mike Boich, who ended up hiring him at Apple. Then getting asked to go on the TEDx stage with Jane Goodall… Guy has made the most of the good fortune in his life…
Steve Jobs/Change Your Mind: Guy launched his tech career at Apple as the company's "chief evangelist," marketing the original Macintosh computer.
When Jobs first introduced the iPhone in 2007, it was a closed system — no one outside of Apple could create an app for it. Software developers had to use a Safari plugin to make their app work on the phone, as they weren't able to access the iPhone's system directly in order to ensure the phone's security. Just one year later, however, Jobs made a complete "180-degree reversal," The founder opened the iPhone system to the public after realizing …
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573: Brent Underwood (Owner of Cerro Gordo) - Finding Your Purpose, Long Term Thinking, Seeking Awe, Making Your Mark, & Living In A Ghost Town
18 maart 2024 · 48 min
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Notes:
"If it can't be grown, it must be mined. It's a truth of human progress."
The story of Burro Schmidt… He spent 38 years hand-digging a tunnel through a ½ mile of solid granite even though 19 years in, they built a road that made his tunnel obsolete. But he found his purpose and wanted to finish the job. Some may think that's crazy, but I admire people like that.
Be Your Own Light - "I don't look for hope. I look for evidence."
Seek Awe - Understand your smallness in the world and how it's all interconnected.
Read the "Thank You Project" by AJ Jacobs.
"We love to see people who have found their purpose."
There are long-term consequences of short-term thinking.
Robert Greene's advice to Brent - Combine your unique and different skill sets to find your purpose.
Brent dedicated his book to his parents, Liz and Bill, and sister Laura.
I appreciate Brent's outlook on life and permitting yourself to live a life of adventure and to think BIG. You can still wisely do this. Brent still works a day job with the Daily Stoic but is also taking a big swing at the same time. This is an option that is available for most of us. It's on us to take action and do it.
I've known Brent for about a decade. In his previous role with Brass Check (that's Ryan Holiday's marketing company), one of his jobs was to get authors on podcasts. And I love how precise Brent was in his outreach. He never sent me an author unless he had done the work ahead of time to ensure they were a good fit for my show. I appreciate the care he puts into his work and has for a long time.
"When I think back 4 years, before Cerro Gordo, life was pretty stable. I had a good job, a solid apartment, and friends. It felt like a life that I could have floated through forever. I just kept feeling like I was missing out on...something. Something to grab my attention and not let go. To avoid, as Thore…
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572: Mike Beckham (CEO of Simple Modern) - Taking Initiative, Giving Generously, Living Your Values, The Best & Worst Parts of Being a CEO, & Being In Pursuit of Priceless Things
11 maart 2024 · 59 min
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Think BIG... But choose what to be ambitious about. Get clear on that first.
Simple Modern is a $225m bootstrapped business... Mike owns the majority of the company.
Mission: "We exist to give generously." Simple Modern is an employee-owned Oklahoma based company whose mission statement is we exist to give generously. Our desire is to make 5-star products offering remarkable value so we can give to worthy organizations making the world a better place.
Use the "75-year-old self principle:" - What would your 75-year-old self regret if you didn't do? (credit: Jeff Bezos)
Leadership stages:
Player
Player/Coach
Coach
General Manager
"I love the name of your podcast. You have to keep learning."
What are the best and worst parts of being a CEO?
Best: Building culture, being part of a community, having lunch every day with your team. It creates huge leverage to do great work.
Worst: Stress, isolation. Understanding your identity? Is it too tied up in an unhealthy place?
Mike's purpose:
Teaching
Giving
Leading and creating value
Parenting
Positively alter the lives of others (as many as possible)
"Great leaders create more leaders. We measure it wrong. It should be about creating more leaders."
The professor, Rufus Fears, started the lecture. The first thing out of his mouth was, "If you are here trying to get a pink slip, I can tell you that the class is full, and there will be no pink slips given." Mike did not let that stop him. He stayed after class, talked with Professor Fears, went to his office, and talked with him. And earned entry to his class (and a few others of his later). It's a great lesson that we need to be proactive and take initiative. We need to go after what we want.
Is your identity coming from a healthy place? Is it coming from accomplishments, titles, or materialistic things? Money? Or have you found your identity in something…
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571: Jim Keyes - Legendary CEO of 7-Eleven & Blockbuster Shares How To Get Promoted, Turn a Business Around, Learn From Failure, & Why Education Is Freedom
4 maart 2024 · 1 uur
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Notes on my conversation with former CEO of 7-Eleven and Blockbuster, Jim Keyes:
From adversity to the stars. Per ardua ad astra is a Latin phrase meaning "through adversity to the stars." Adversity is your advantage. The tough moments you're going through will help you be stronger long term. This is a useful mindset shift.
"Adversity is an advantage."
How did Jim get hired the first time and continually get promoted?
He told the truth.
He was unafraid to tell it like it really was. No fluffy language. He got right to it and let them know how he could help them.
He focused on THEM, not him. They don't care about why you think you deserve the job. They care about their company and if you'll be able to help solve their problems. Focus on them, their issues, and how you can help them. That's what Jim has done his entire career.
The C-Suite Learnings
What – Change, Confidence, Clarity
How - Critical thinking (ask why), curiosity, and creativity (have fun)
Why - Collaboration, Culture literacy (learn from others experiences), and character
Jim became one of the youngest managers in this history of McDonald's.
"The only one that likes change is a wet baby. Change is reality. Change equals opportunity."
CEO = "Change Equals Opportunity."
Confidence is all about preparation. The more you prepare, the more confident you'll be.
Clarity and Simplicity. "The hardest thing in the world is to keep things simple."
"True elegance is in simplicity."
"I can't lead if you can't understand. So, it's up to me to keep things simple and clear."
Nelson Mandela once said, "I never lose…I win, or I learn."
"There are three prerequisites to a successful business transformation in the face of change: cash management, confidence, and collaboration. Managing cash flow is, by far, the most important but ma…
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570: Amy Morin - Fix What's Broken, Develop Healthier Patterns, and Grow Stronger Together (13 Things Mentally Strong Couples Don't Do)
26 februari 2024 · 1 uur 4 min
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Notes:
Just two years into Amy's work as a therapist, her mother passed away unexpectedly. Exactly three years to the day later, her 26-year-old husband, Lincoln, died of a heart attack. So she set out on a personal journey to learn as much as she could about grief, mental health, and mental strength. Amy decided that she would live life to the fullest. She rode mules into the Grand Canyon, went skydiving, took flying trapeze lessons, spent the night in 49 states, got 6-pack abs in 28 days, and started driving a motorcycle
Amy's daily challenge: She pushes herself to run a mile as fast as she can. It forces her outside of her comfort zone and ensures mental and physical growth.
Pleasant activity scheduling. Put them on the calendar. Block out time for pleasant experiences together with your partner, your family, and your friends. You then look forward to those moments, get to experience those moments, and then create memory dividends that you'll have for life. Schedule pleasant activities.
Don't take your partner for granted. I think this goes for any relationship, but especially for those of us who are in committed long-term relationships with a spouse. Think of the Tony Robbins story: For the past twenty years, each day when he gets home from work, he has a "Honey I'm home" routine where they share a big embrace and a kiss and they both bring positive energy to the interaction. This sets the tone so that their relationship doesn't get boring.
What Mentally Strong Couples Do:
They don't ignore their problems. - Whether they face a sudden financial hiccup or experience issues related to intimacy, mentally strong couples address their problems head-on. They engage in difficult conversations and confront their issues, regardless of the discomfort it might bring. By working together to find solutions early on, they prevent their problems from escalating…
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569: Rob Henderson - Luxury Beliefs, Foster Care, Social Class, Self-Discipline, Ivy League Universities, External vs. Internal Achievement, & Lessons Learned The Hard Way
19 februari 2024 · 1 uur 2 min
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Rob Henderson has a Ph.D. in psychology from the University of Cambridge, where he studied as a Gates Cambridge Scholar. He obtained a B.S. in psychology from Yale University and is a veteran of the U.S. Air Force. He's the author of Troubled: A Memoir of Foster Care, Family, and Social Class
Self-discipline beats motivation. Often, people say they need to feel "motivated" to perform a task. Motivation, though, is just a feeling. Self-discipline is "I'm going to do this, regardless of how I feel."
Air Force Training – "My favorite part of training was the camaraderie. I especially enjoyed drill and marching. The synchronized movement with others, moving as a single element, instilled a feeling of belonging." – The military provided a structured environment.
Rob said that whenever he felt like an outsider, he sought refuge in helping others. Because of that, he volunteered at New Haven Reads near Yale. While there, he met a kid named Guillermo. There, he learned how to relate with others by sharing his story.
Writing: Rob was accepted into the War Horse Writing Seminar at Columbia University. The program was designed to help veterans write about their experiences.
External Achievement: "Upon obtaining a few totems of achievement, I came to realize that they are flawed measures of success. External accomplishments are trivial compared with a warm and loving family. Going to school is far less important than having a parent who cares enough to make sure you get to class every day."
Two of Rob's mom's friends came to him for advice. They were talking about their 6-year-old son and they were concerned with how "smart" he was. They asked, "Should we be reading to him more?" And Rob responded, "Yeah, but not because it will expand his vocabulary. Read to him because it will remind him that you love him."
The best and worst things about Yale:
Best
Students work ethic
Focused
Unique pursuits
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568: Tony Robbins - Learning From Mentors, Building Confidence, Becoming More Valuable, and Coaching The World's Most Impactful Leaders
16 februari 2024 · 55 min
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For the past 40+ years, Tony Robbins has been known worldwide as one of the most impactful business and life coaches in the world. He's hosted millions of people at his events, written 6 international best-selling books, he's involved in more than 100 businesses that have done more than 7 billion dollars in revenue, and as part of his work with Feeding America, Tony has provided more than 850 million meals to those in need. He's personally coached President Bill Clinton, Serena Williams, Connor McGregor, Marc Benioff, Usher, the Golden State Warriors, and many others.
Notes:
The advice Tony received from Jim Rohn. "Your job is to become more valuable. We are all equal as souls, but not equal in the marketplace."
"If you want things to get better, you've got to get better."
Commonalities among leaders who sustain excellence: They find something they care about more than themselves, they have a hunger for it, and they work amazingly hard at it. "You're rewarded in public for what you practice in private." Steph Curry has taken far more practice shots than game ones. He's rewarded in public for what he does in private.
How to build confidence: Preparation creates certainty.
"Whatever you hold in your mind on a consistent basis is exactly what you will experience in your life." The essence of building confidence is this: If you go into a situation knowing that you can handle it – whatever it is – then that's exactly what you'll do.
"A belief is a poor substitute for an experience." You might believe it's something you're going to love, but you don't fully know until you do it. Get in the arena and do it. See what it's like. That's when you'll learn.
Tony learned NLP from John Grinder (founder of NLP). Neuro-Linguistic Programming. is an approach to communication, personal development, and psychotherapy, that first appeared in Richard Bandler and John …
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567: William Ury - Negotiating The World's Toughest Disputes, Getting To Yes, Hiking Mountains With Jim Collins, And Thriving In An Age of Conflict
12 februari 2024 · 58 min
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William Ury is the co-author of Getting to Yes, the world's all-time bestselling book on negotiation with more than 15 million copies sold, and co-founder of Harvard's Program on Negotiation. Bill has devoted his life to helping people, organizations, and nations transform conflicts around the world, having served as a negotiator in many of the toughest disputes of our times, taught negotiation to tens of thousands, and consulted for dozens of Fortune 500 companies, the White House, the State Department, and the Pentagon. Based in the mountains of Colorado where he loves to hike, Bill is an internationally sought-after speaker and has two popular TEDx talks with millions of viewers.
Notes:
Your life's work: "If you had to boil your life's work down to just one sentence you could leave behind, what would it say?" This is a great question for us to ask ourselves to gain clarity on our purpose and what we were put here to do. What is your life's work?
On one of Bill's hikes with Jim Collins in Boulder, Colorado, he asked, "When did you first discover your interest in and instinct for what became your life's work?"
Be trustworthy AND trust willing. Become known as a person who trusts others first without making people earn it. Yes, you'll get burned every once in a while, but I've found it's worth it. Leading with trust seems to attract the type of people you want to be around.
On a freezing night in January 1977, the phone rang at 10:00 pm. Bill was living in a little rented room in the attic of an old wooden house in Cambridge, Massachusetts. He was 23, writing term papers, and studying hard for graduate school exams in social anthropology. Bill picked up the phone…
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566: Jim Dethmer - Conscious Leadership, Radical Responsibility, Energy Audits, Being Fully Present, and Doing What Most Makes You Feel Alive
5 februari 2024 · 1 uur 2 min
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What do leaders who sustain excellence do? They have the ability to be present for an extended period of time. They are here now. They live a life that creates a sustainable presence.
They are fully present. Be here now. Fully here. This makes you available for this creative moment.
Play the long game. Excellent leaders play the long game. "Live a life that creates sustainable presence."
Space and Place: It's important to know your soul's home:
For Jim: Northern Michigan. Quiet, still, simple, in nature... "It's recharging for me."
Lead and live intentionally to get to your flow state.
Ask: What is it that creates the most "alive-ness" in you?
Do an energy audit. Look at your calendar for the last week. What events make your energy go up, stay neutral, or go down?
Maximize for people and events that make your energy go up. "Populate your life with what you love."
Are you willing to be fully alive? What are you willing to risk to make that happen?
Get rid of energy downers. You can do that in 3 ways.
Dump it,
Delegate it
Do it differently
Responsibility – By me: I commit to taking full responsibility for the circumstances of my life, and my physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being. I commit to support others to take full responsibility for their lives.
I have to = Victim mindset
I choose to = Ownership mindset
To me = At the effect of other things. Outside my locus of control.
By me = Inside. I am the cause of the experience. Radical responsibility. How am I causing the experience?
Josh Waitzkin - Make weather what it is. Play in the rain.
Curiosity is everything as a leader.
The opposite of curiosity is always needing/wanting to be right.
Deconstruct all the places where you want to be right.
Most of it stems from fear. There are three fears:
Approval
Co…
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565: Noah Kagan - The Art of Asking For What You Want, Launching a Business, Handling Rejection, Working For Mark Zuckerberg, and Not Living a 'What-If' Life
29 januari 2024 · 1 uur 3 min
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"Rejection is a test if you really want something. The upside of asking is unlimited."
"People are afraid of asking. The people who make it happen are willing to ask, be rejected, and keep going."
One of the biggest lessons learned from working with Mark Zuckerberg? Pick one goal. Then focus relentlessly on reaching it. His was 1 billion users on Facebook. This is how Noah has grown App Sumo to $80m in revenue. Focus on one big goal and the system implemented to make it happen.
Noah's parental influence:
Fearlessness - Ask for everything. Set rejection goals. You learn that selling copiers door to door.
His mom is very disciplined. Always working out in the gym. She follows through. She's persistent. She grinds. His mom also hated her job.
"I don't want to live a 'what-if' life"
"Are we getting what we get or are we getting what we want?"
The law of 100 -- Do the thing 100 times before you quit.
Get going, get started. It's about now, not how.
Create an exciting vision: "What are we looking forward to?"
Million Dollar Weekend:
Start it
Build it
Grow it
Noah's philosophy on interviewing:
1) Talk with people you're genuinely interested in
2) Tell them how they've positively impacted your life. People love genuine compliments. And they loved to hear that they've helped others.
3) Tell them what's in it for them. Create questions that make your guests excited to answer (set them up to tell interesting stories)
Entrepreneurship is not risky. Risky is spending your life at a job you hate, with people you don't like, working on problems you don't care about.
Freedom is about gaining control of your schedule. Money is the tool, not the goal.
This trip was one of my highlights of the fall. Nothing like biking across America. So much good time to think and reflect. Reminds me that whenever you're in a funk, just get moving. (Helps to be surroun…
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564: Ariel Helwani - The Howard Cosell of MMA, Conducting World-Class Interviews, Feuds With Dana White, Leaving ESPN, & Dealing With Social Anxiety
22 januari 2024 · 1 uur 1 min
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Ariel wants to be the "Howard Cosell of MMA". "I got the interview skills from my mom, who my friends would always call for advice, and the work ethic from my dad, who never gave an excuse or took a sick day."
"So one of the things that early on, before I became a dad was I want to be omnipresent. I believe in this quote from Woody Allen "80% of success is just showing up." I want to be at every single event. I want to be the guy that people when they think of big fights, they think of me. Howard Cosell, of MMA, all that stuff and more."
Ariel's Parents:
"My mom still watches my show every week, and it's a long show about a topic she doesn't know a hell of a lot about. But she does it because she loves and supports me."
"She's the mom that a lot of my brother's girlfriends and stuff would stay in touch with, even after they broke up. Because she just had that connection with people. She asks questions, she listens, she has a good mind and eye for things."
"My dad is a workaholic, and he'd be the first to tell you that. He's the kind of guy who, every day, I'd see him Monday through Friday, wake up, go to work at around seven, come home at around seven. He would have this massive box of papers, he would sit at the dinner table, and he would work on all the papers. He would take his shower at like 9:30, go to bed, and start over again, and he couldn't have been happier."
Syracuse: In 9th grade, he was reading Sports Illustrated and learned that the U.S.'s top sportscasting degree is earned at Syracuse. Bob Costas went there. Marv Albert went there. So he went to Syracuse.
Being homesick…