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558: Jack Schafer | Flipping the Like Switch Part Two.
9 september 2021 · 42 min
Jack Schafer (@jackschafer) is a retired FBI special agent, current assistant professor at Western Illinois University, and co-author of The Like Switch: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Influencing, Attracting, and Winning People Over. [This is part two of a two-part episode. Catch up with part one here!] Lees meer
What We Discuss with Jack Schafer:
How undercover cops get made just by the way they look at people.
The spotlight effect: why we all overestimate how much other people notice about us, and how we can use this to our advantage when trying to spot a lie (or not get caught in a lie ourselves).
What Jack has to gain by making minor mistakes deliberately when he's teaching a class.
What people are really telling us when they're angry, and how we can stealthily defuse them before they go off.
If you make people feel good about themselves, they will seek to be around you to get those feelings again.
And much more...
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557: Jack Schafer | Flipping the Like Switch Part One
7 september 2021 · 55 min
Jack Schafer (@jackschafer) is a retired FBI special agent, current assistant professor at Western Illinois University, and co-author of The Like Switch: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Influencing, Attracting, and Winning People Over. [This is part one of a two-part episode. Keep an eye out for part two later this week!] Lees meer
What We Discuss with Jack Schafer:
Why happy people make terrible spy recruits.
How the Friendship Formula (Friendship = Proximity + Frequency + Duration + Intensity) can be used to build rapport in every human interaction.
How to "name it and claim it" when manipulative techniques are being used against you to withstand and resist their effects.
How to recognize friend and foe signals in others and make sure you're not inadvertently broadcasting the signals that mark you as an easy target for manipulation.
What's really going on when someone grabs food from your plate without asking, or takes their sweet time getting out of the parking spot you're clearly waiting for.
And much more...
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556: How Can I Expunge the Family Sponge? | Feedback Friday
3 september 2021 · 50 min
You live in an extended family situation and the only contribution one member makes to the collective is drinking, smoking pot, eating your food, stealing your old phones to pawn, and making messes they can't be bothered to clean up. Since they're not liable to move away from free room and board of their own volition, is there anything you can do to expunge the family sponge and restore sanity to the homestead? We'll try to find a solution to this and more here on Feedback Friday! Lees meer
And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!
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On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:
When one member of your extended family is allowed to live in the house rent-free while eating your food, making messes, and contributing nothing, what can you do to expunge this family sponge?
After numerous disappointments trying to conceive a baby through natural and scientifically enhanced means, you can't help but wonder if you're just ignoring something the universe is trying to tell you.
Your in-laws' free-range cats have fleas, and now, after a recent visit, your home is infested with them. How can you fix this problem without making it seem like an attack on your wife's family?
Your brother has been working with/hanging out with d-bag bros for so long that he's become one. You know deep down he's a great, thoughtful, and grounded person, but you're worried you may never see this side of him again. How can you nudge him away from this wretched d-baggery?
You've been working hard at your high-paying, high-stress job through vacations and holidays for years that you…
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555: Jessica Tracy | Why Pride is the Deadly Sin of Success
2 september 2021 · 48 min
Jessica Tracy (@ProfJessTracy) is a professor of psychology at the University of British Columbia in Vancouver, where she also directs the Emotion & Self Lab. She is the author of Take Pride: Why the Deadliest Sin Holds the Secret to Human Success. [Note: This is a previously broadcast episode from the vault that we felt deserved a fresh listen!] Lees meer
What We Discuss with Jessica Tracy:
Pride is a universal human emotion and a force that can be harnessed to help humans succeed — it’s a key ingredient to confidence.
Understand the difference between hubristic and authentic pride — why you should seek out one but try to minimize the other.
Learn how pride intersects with grit.
Identify pride to gain an advantage in shifting your own behavior and knowing how to react to others.
Discover how the statuses of dominance and prestige are affected by pride.
And much more...
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554: Laurie Santos | Practical Lessons from The Happiness Lab
31 augustus 2021 · 1 uur 9 min
Laurie Santos (@lauriesantos) is a professor of psychology at Yale University, instructor of Coursera's The Science of Well-Being course (adapted from her popular Psychology and the Good Life course at Yale), and host of The Happiness Lab podcast. Lees meer
What We Discuss with Laurie Santos:
Happiness is actually a set of skills we can learn and master as opposed to some ideal state of being.
While there's no denying that genetics and circumstances play a role in happiness, the good news is that we're in control of developing the mindset and behavior to mobilize it.
The mechanisms by which people become happy (or miserable), and some tools we can use to to hack our own happiness.
The bad news: we outgrow the rush of the happiest days of our lives; the good news: we outgrow the anguish from the worst days of our lives.
Why Olympic bronze medalists are often happier than silver medalists.
And much more...
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553: Is Friend's Fiancé Despotic or Simply Erotic? | Feedback Friday
27 augustus 2021 · 51 min
Your best friend speaks glowingly about her fiancé, but she lives far away and your recent communications have only taken place by text and telephone. The thing is, this fiancé seems to be ever-present and listening in the background whenever she's in contact, and she let it slip that he's fantasized about seeing her lick from a dog's dish. You're worried he might be controlling every aspect of her life, but she doesn't seem to be distressed. Could what you perceive to be tyrannical oversight just be part of a consensual power dynamic they've established in their relationship? We'll try to find answers to this and more here on Feedback Friday! Lees meer
And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!
Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/553
On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:
Why are height and salary correlated? [Thanks to Scott Galloway for this one!]
Is your best friend really being controlled by a domineering fiancé, or is this just a consensually kinky aspect of their relationship?
Your ex-husband swapped out libido-killing medication (that treated his anxiety and depression, but contributed to your divorce) for cannabis and junk food. This seems to leave him with a loss of appetite, but how can you find reliable information to confirm what's really going on and help him out of his funk?
Should you file an ethics complaint against your neighbor who's trying to sabotage your home sale -- after refusing your initial, generous offer to sell to them first? [Once again, thanks to Corbin Payne for helping us with this one!]
How do you know when it's time to stop negotiating and acc…
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552: Will Storr | Understanding Social Position and the Status Game
26 augustus 2021 · 1 uur 11 min
Will Storr (@wstorr) is an award-winning investigative journalist and best-selling author. His latest book is The Status Game: On Social Position and How We Use It. Lees meer
What We Discuss with Will Storr:
The evolutionary purpose of status and why it's always been important for human survival.
How seeking status spurs innovation.
The three kinds of status games we've been playing throughout human history: dominance, virtue, and success.
The connection between low status and depression: why Will believes that Jeffrey Epstein did kill himself.
Why you might choose a higher status title at work instead of a pay raise.
And much more...
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551: T-Pain | You Can't Auto-Tune Your Way to Happiness
24 augustus 2021 · 1 uur 18 min
T-Pain (@TPAIN) is a rapper, singer-songwriter, record producer known for popularizing auto-tune in modern music, and host of the Nappy Boy Radio podcast. Lees meer
What We Discuss with T-Pain:
Why T-Pain will wear a Fitbit over a Rolex, and why there's no shame in wearing fake jewelry in public.
T-Pain's tattoo goals and the meaning behind the ones he already has.
What T-Pain learned after avoiding time with his own family pursuing the ambition to be #1.
How T-Pain went from having $90 million in the bank to $0, and how he climbed his way back.
How a musician's life really changes once they earn a Grammy award (let alone two).
And much more...
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550: Conscience Contorted by Dad’s Abuse Unreported | Feedback Friday
20 augustus 2021 · 55 min
Your father was physically violent toward you and your brother on at least two occasions that would have warranted police intervention, but your also-abusive mother begged you not to call them. Years later, how can you reframe the anger you have toward yourself for putting up with your mother's manipulations and not reporting your father's abuse to the police when you had a chance? We'll try to find an answer to this and more here on Feedback Friday! Lees meer
And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!
Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/550
On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:
Thought exercise: If you met someone exactly like yourself, what advice would you give them?
How can you stop hating yourself for not calling the police on your physically abusive dad -- at the behest of your also-abusive mom -- years ago?
How can you stick to your own weight loss goals when the people surrounding you (including your obese spouse) keep enabling you to make every day a cheat day?
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A friend passed away recently, and her husband (who wasn't on good terms with her parents) isn't on the deed to their house. Are there any spousal rights that could entitle him to the equity? [Once again, thanks to Corbin Payne for helping us with this one!]
As a college student, it seems difficult to develop valuable professional connections if you don't already have a job or internship, and it’s hard to get jobs or internships if you don’t have the connections. What can you do?
When you've got a somewhat high-profile Internet presence, …
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549: Mickey Royal | A Pimp's Secrets of Mind Manipulation Part Two
19 augustus 2021 · 59 min
Mickey Royal (@mickey_royal) is a former gangster, drug dealer, pimp, mob enforcer, and bestselling author of The Pimp Game: Instructional Guide and The Pimp Guide: Secrets of Mind Manipulation. [This is part two of a two-part episode. Catch up with part one here!] Lees meer
What We Discuss with Mickey Royal:
How Mickey's pseudobulbar affect and bipolar disorder came in handy as advantages in his line of work.
What being deemed "capable" in certain circles means -- and why it's a networking mistake among criminals to turn your back on the type of job this entails (even if you've since moved "up").
How Mickey established The Royal Family -- an organized stable of prostitutes that ran with the efficiency of a Fortune 500 company.
Why someone who's smart enough to make money through illicit entrepreneurial means would probably find outstanding success in the mainstream under different circumstances.
How the mental toll of seeing people only from the levers by which they can be manipulated adds up and makes "normal" relationships difficult to impossible.
And much more...
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548: Mickey Royal | A Pimp's Secrets of Mind Manipulation Part One
17 augustus 2021 · 1 uur 12 min
Mickey Royal (@mickey_royal) is a former gangster, drug dealer, pimp, mob enforcer, and bestselling author of The Pimp Game: Instructional Guide and The Pimp Guide: Secrets of Mind Manipulation. [This is part one of a two-part episode. Stay tuned for part two later this week!] Lees meer
What We Discuss with Mickey Royal:
How Mickey's pseudobulbar affect and bipolar disorder came in handy as advantages in his line of work.
What being deemed "capable" in certain circles means -- and why it's a networking mistake among criminals to turn your back on the type of job this entails (even if you've since moved "up").
How Mickey established The Royal Family -- an organized stable of prostitutes that ran with the efficiency of a Fortune 500 company.
Why someone who's smart enough to make money through illicit entrepreneurial means would probably find outstanding success in the mainstream under different circumstances.
How the mental toll of seeing people only from the levers by which they can be manipulated adds up and makes "normal" relationships difficult to impossible.
And much more...
Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/548
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547: Stopping a Swami from Swindling Our Mommy | Feedback Friday
13 augustus 2021 · 47 min
When your stepfather passed away and your mother posted about it on Facebook, an old friend -- a self-described "swami" who claims to be psychically linked to her -- called to reconnect. Now, he seems to be taking advantage of her grief and loneliness to get closer, and based on a number of his wild, unlikely claims, you're worried that his end game may be less than altruistic. What can you do to stop this "swami" from swindling your mommy? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday! Lees meer
And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!
Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/547
On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:
You worry that your mom's "swami" friend may be trying to take advantage of her grief and vulnerability since your stepfather's recent passing. How can you keep her safe from his less-than-altruistic intentions?
You squandered a financial windfall in college on partying and substance abuse, which led to hurting a large number of friends and family along the way. Now you've been sober for years and you want to recover these relationships, but it's clear from attempts to reach out that many of the people you left behind are content to leave those bridges burned. What can you do to move on and let things go?
Your brother, who died by suicide, should be remembered for how he lived his life rather than just how it was ended. You want to start a foundation in his name to help your community learn skills as he loved doing, but where do you begin?
You worked hard to advance in your career, but a recent merger no longer allows you to work from home and care for your daug…
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546: Scott Adams | Persuasion in a World Where Facts Don't Matter
12 augustus 2021 · 1 uur 2 min
Scott Adams (@ScottAdamsSays) of Dilbert fame revisits us to discuss his book Win Bigly: Persuasion in a World Where Facts Don't Matter. [Note: This is a previously broadcast episode from the vault that we felt deserved a fresh listen!] Lees meer
What We Discuss with Scott Adams:
Is Scott Adams a Trump supporter?
People don’t use facts to make decisions. They use emotion.
Learn the three types of persuaders and how they operate.
See how master persuaders move the topic to things they understand and can dominate (regardless of facts and details).
Find out why master persuasion is effective even if the subject or target sees the technique.
And much more...
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545: Rachel Nuwer | Inside the Dark World of Wildlife Trafficking
10 augustus 2021 · 1 uur 14 min
Rachel Nuwer (@RachelNuwer) is an award-winning freelance journalist who reports about science, travel, food, and adventure for The New York Times, National Geographic, Scientific American, and more. Her multi-award-winning first book, Poached: Inside the Dark World of Wildlife Trafficking, is out now. Lees meer
What We Discuss with Rachel Nuwer:
What drives the global demand for resources cruelly derived from endangered wildlife.
Why poachers and smugglers are willing to risk their own lives to meet this demand.
The pros and cons of solutions proposed to stem the tide of this illicit trade -- from legalizing it for sustainable sourcing to synthesizing alternatives.
Why governments are shy to throw the book at the worst offenders, and how the most clever, wealthy, and well-connected usually (but don't always) bypass legal repercussions for their trafficking transgressions.
What we can do here and now to promote policies for preserving these species before they vanish forever.
And much more...
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544: Psycho Scammer Landlord Alert | Feedback Friday
6 augustus 2021 · 47 min
You stopped renting from a violent, paranoid landlord as soon as you saw the warning signs, but you fear a future tenant may not be so lucky. Can you publish some kind of APB as a heads up to potential victims without getting in legal trouble? We'll try to find an answer to this and more here on Feedback Friday! Lees meer
And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!
Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/544
On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:
You stopped renting from a violent, paranoid landlord as soon as you saw the warning signs, but you fear a future tenant may not be so lucky. Can you publish some kind of APB as a heads up to potential victims without getting in legal trouble? [Thanks to Corbin Payne for helping us with this one!]
How can you overcome a lifelong tendency to be late for everything that infuriates everyone you know -- most of all you?
How can you best encourage your friend get help for her recently developed eating disorder when her own family is not only unsympathetic toward her condition, but actively exacerbating it?
You're a paralegal who enjoyed working at Firm A -- until the pandemic hit. So you took a position at Firm B, but find it less than enchanting after just six months. Now there's an opening in your old department at Firm A, but you're worried about being seen as a firm hopper if you apply. Should you go for it anyway?
You've kept the stupid tattoo you got on a drunken night of college debauchery secret from your mom for 13 years. But now you're going on vacation together and you're liable to reveal all when you take your shirt off poolside. Is …
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543: R. Douglas Fields | Understanding Why We Snap
5 augustus 2021 · 54 min
R. Douglas Fields (@RDouglasFields1) is a neuroscientist specializing in the cellular mechanisms of nervous system development, plasticity, and memory, and author of Why We Snap: Understanding the Rage Circuit in Your Brain. [Note: This is a previously broadcast episode from the vault that we felt deserved a fresh listen!] Lees meer
What We Discuss with R. Douglas Fields:
What is rage, and what evolutionary purpose does it serve?
What makes ordinary people “snap” — that is, react violently when triggered by rage?
Can we control our urge to snap when rage overtakes us?
Understand the nine triggers of rage.
LIFEMORTS: the mnemonic that helps us identify when rage intrudes so we can get a rational handle on it preemptively.
And much more...
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542: Nicole Perlroth | Who's Winning the Cyberweapons Arms Race?
3 augustus 2021 · 1 uur 19 min
Nicole Perlroth (@nicoleperlroth) is an award-winning cybersecurity journalist for The New York Times and bestselling author of This Is How They Tell Me the World Ends: The Cyberweapons Arms Race. Lees meer
What We Discuss with Nicole Perlroth:
The startlingly simple reasons why most nation-states now resort to using cyberwarfare tactics before conventional weaponry in acts of aggression -- to increasingly devastating effect.
How industries are so interconnected that there's almost no way for a cyberattack to target one victim without endangering countless others on all sides of a conflict (which is why you may have Putin to blame if there's a Cadbury chocolate egg shortage next Easter).
Why leaving the security of 85 percent of its critical infrastructure up to privatization makes the United States especially vulnerable to cyberwarfare attacks.
The massive amount of intellectual property that's been lost to hackers -- from the formula for Coca-Cola to information that would allow China and other rival nations to catch up with the United States in the nuclear arms race.
What Nicole believes the US should do to push back against these threats and the governments that perpetrate them -- and ensure that it's not inadvertently one of them.
And much more...
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541: Spare the Pity Party; My Life is Just Restarting | Feedback Friday
30 juli 2021 · 49 min
Four years ago, you lost your spouse and child in a tragic car crash that you barely survived. Now, with a supportive partner and a toddler by your side, you're determined to move on with your life. Unfortunately, it's hard to meet new people who can see past what you've endured without pitying you. How can you truly enter your next chapter when well-meaning but oversympathizing strangers keep reminding you of your last one? We'll try to get to the bottom of this and more here on Feedback Friday! Lees meer
And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!
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On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:
Trying to move on from the loss of your family in a car accident years ago is difficult when everyone new you meet wants to throw you a pity party. How can you become more than the suffering sum of your tragic past's parts?
You and your fiancé called it quits when she had a hallucinatory episode, wound up in the hospital, and came out with a bipolar disorder diagnosis. But you've each spent the past year coming to terms with who you are and you've considered getting back together. Could this work, or should you consider it a relationship that's sailed?
A company hired you for one thing, then it turned out they needed you for something else, and their needs aren’t in alignment with your interests. Should you express your dissatisfaction to your boss, hope your next project is more to your liking, or just start looking for a new job?
You've discovered that the work you love to do isn't the same as the subject you loved learning about at university. Should you…
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540: Daryl Davis | A Black Man's Odyssey in the KKK Part Two
29 juli 2021 · 49 min
Daryl Davis (@realdaryldavis) is a musician, author, lecturer, host of the Changing Minds podcast, and anti-racism activist featured in the documentary Accidental Courtesy: Daryl Davis, Race & America. [This is part two of a two-part episode. Make sure to catch part one here!] Lees meer
What We Discuss with Daryl Davis:
How Daryl Davis, a black musician who was once told by a Ku Klux Klansman that he played piano "just like Jerry Lee Lewis," leveraged the encounter into a teachable moment that has led to more than 200 KKK members hanging up their robes for good.
Why racism was such an unfathomable concept when Daryl first experienced it as a 10-year-old Cub Scout.
How traveling around the world as a child with his diplomat father gave Daryl the tools he needed to sit down and relate to people vastly different from him.
Why Daryl considers a missed opportunity for dialogue to be a missed opportunity for conflict resolution.
The five values all humans have in common that Daryl uses to positively navigate (almost) any conversation.
And much more...
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539: Daryl Davis | A Black Man's Odyssey in the KKK Part One
27 juli 2021 · 59 min
Daryl Davis (@realdaryldavis) is a musician, author, lecturer, host of the Changing Minds podcast, and anti-racism activist featured in the documentary Accidental Courtesy: Daryl Davis, Race & America. Lees meer
What We Discuss with Daryl Davis:
How Daryl Davis, a black musician who was once told by a Ku Klux Klansman that he played piano "just like Jerry Lee Lewis," leveraged the encounter into a teachable moment that has led to more than 200 KKK members hanging up their robes for good.
Why racism was such an unfathomable concept when Daryl first experienced it as a 10-year-old Cub Scout.
How traveling around the world as a child with his diplomat father gave Daryl the tools he needed to sit down and relate to people vastly different from him.
Why Daryl considers a missed opportunity for dialogue to be a missed opportunity for conflict resolution.
The five values all humans have in common that Daryl uses to positively navigate (almost) any conversation.
And much more...
Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/539
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538: Already Dreading Your Abusive Brother's Wedding | Feedback Friday
23 juli 2021 · 50 min
It's not a request; it's a demand from the brother who sexually abused you when you were eight in a family that gaslighted you about the whole thing: "You will speak at my wedding." Maybe he thinks you're too spineless to say anything that will embarrass him, but the truth is that you've been diagnosed with complex PTSD and the thought of speaking at his wedding at all fills you with dread. On the other hand, being the only sibling to refuse would also cause drama you don't want to deal with. How do you balance being genuine with not calling someone a cruel person on their wedding day? We'll try to find an answer to this and more here on Feedback Friday. Lees meer
And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!
Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/538
On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:
Should you speak at the wedding of your brother who sexually abused you when you were eight, or be the only sibling to refuse and cause unwanted drama? [Thanks to clinical psychologist Dr. Erin Margolis for helping us with this one!]
If you have a physical feature that might surprise someone you're meeting for the first time (like, say, type IV radial club hand), how can you put everyone at ease and defuse any potential awkwardness ahead of such a meeting?
In spite of going above and beyond in your leadership role during the pandemic, your boss "doesn't believe" in giving you a 5/5 star rating on your review because there's always room for improvement. On the other hand, you've been criticized for giving a subordinate a 3/5 for meeting expectations. If 4/5 is the best you can expect for exceeding exp…
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537: Kevin Kelly | 12 Technological Forces That Will Shape Our Future
22 juli 2021 · 1 uur 10 min
Kevin Kelly (@kevin2kelly) is the founding editor of Wired magazine and author of The Inevitable: Understanding the 12 Technological Forces That Will Shape Our Future. Lees meer
What We Discuss with Kevin Kelly:
Technology is an extension of the natural process of evolution.
What’s driving technology; what will the future look like?
Why Artificial Intelligence (AI) is the biggest thing since electricity.
Ways humanity will interact with future technology and AI — and how it will change our lives in ways we can scarcely imagine.
How technology will actually make us better humans.
And much more...
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536: Julia Galef | Why Some People See Things Clearly and Others Don't
20 juli 2021 · 1 uur 10 min
Julia Galef (@juliagalef) is the host of the Rationally Speaking podcast, co-founder of The Center for Applied Rationality, and author of The Scout Mindset: Why Some People See Things Clearly and Others Don't. Lees meer
What We Discuss with Julia Galef:
How to spot bad arguments and faulty thinking -- even when the source is you.
The difference between having a soldier mindset that defends whatever you want to be true, and a scout mindset that's motivated to seek out the truth regardless of how unpleasant it might be (and which you should try to cultivate).
How to tell if you're making reasonable mistakes or foolhardy leaps of faith that carry consequences far outweighing the value of the lesson.
The best ways to manage and respond to uncertainty.
How your brain matches arguments you misunderstand with ones you've already decided you don't agree with -- and what to do about it.
And much more...
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535: Should Siblings Unite to Confront Abusive Parents? | Feedback Friday
16 juli 2021 · 47 min
You and your five siblings aren't close, but you all have one thing in common: you endured a childhood marred by abusive parents who played you against each other. Now that you're all adults, you'd like to unite your siblings to confront your parents as a group for some closure -- but you're not sure they're all on board with the idea. Is there a good way to convince them, or might it be possible to get the closure you're looking for without their help or even a confrontation at all? We'll get into this and more here on Feedback Friday! Lees meer
And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!
Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/535
On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:
Is it worth trying to unite your siblings for a confrontation with your abusive parents to gain a sense of closure? [Thanks to clinical psychologist Dr. Erin Margolis for helping us with this one!]
You've postponed your wedding twice due to the pandemic, but two very close people in your life have passed away in the interim -- and it's hard to imagine having this wedding without them. Is there a way to somehow include and honor them in the ceremony?
As a middle manager, you rely on your second-in-command to lead the department so you can focus on admin. Unfortunately, he fails at every step and creates more work for you than he saves. He can't be fired, transferred, or demoted, and he refuses to improve. What can you do?
You're a teenager living in a household with your father and a verbally abusive stepmom who doesn't like teens. You'd prefer to live with your biological mother, but the custody agreement as it stand…
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534: Greg McKeown | How to Make What Matters Effortless
15 juli 2021 · 1 uur 9 min
Greg McKeown (@GregoryMcKeown) is the host of the What’s Essential podcast, and author of the New York Times bestseller Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less. His latest book, Effortless: Make It Easier to Do What Matters Most, is out now. Lees meer
What We Discuss with Greg McKeown:
If you want 10x the results of any endeavor without putting in 10x the effort, it's important to understand your ROE (return on effort).
How the disciplined pursuit of less keeps you from getting overwhelmed with unexpected options and opportunities that come from what should be the good news of success.
Why, if you find yourself procrastinating on a project because it's not perfect enough to your liking, you should delay a bad first draft and create a truly awful zero draft.
Why "easy" does not (always) equal "lazy" and what you can do to work smarter rather than harder to avoid earning the meaningless badge of honor that burnout has become in the modern workforce.
Five questions to ask yourself before taking on a project that's in danger of being overthought, overwhelming, and anything but effortless.
And much more...
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533: Tristan Harris | Reclaiming Our Future with Humane Technology
13 juli 2021 · 1 uur 8 min
Tristan Harris (@tristanharris) is a former Google design ethicist, primary subject of the acclaimed Netflix documentary The Social Dilemma, co-founder of the Center for Humane Technology, and co-host of the podcast Your Undivided Attention. Lees meer
What We Discuss with Tristan Harris:
Why we're worth more to social engagement platforms as manipulatable slabs of predictable human behavior than as free-thinking individuals.
How the social networks of the early 2000s so quickly turned from places where we could keep in touch with friends, family, and colleagues into disinformation amplifiers that contribute to the destabilization of democracies.
Why your algorithm-tailored online experience so radically differs from that of your closest friends and loved ones, and why this is a problem when the public good is cast aside in the interest of keeping us engaged and enraged.
The unintended consequences of allowing an algorithm to bring people together by what it sees as similar interests, and how this has thrown fuel on the disinformation fire.
How attempting to outthink a social media algorithm is like trying to play chess against a computer that can look ahead and counter every move you could possibly make.
And much more...
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532: A Veteran Fights to Be Free from Smack and PTSD | Feedback Friday
9 juli 2021 · 48 min
You're a veteran who's been lucky enough to return home from war in one piece only to fight a new battle on two fronts: heroin and PTSD. How are you going to fight your way free of this doubly dangerous burden? We'll try to help with this and more here on Feedback Friday! Lees meer
And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!
Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/532
On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:
You're a veteran who's been lucky enough to return home from war in one piece only to fight a new battle on two fronts: heroin and PTSD. How are you going to fight your way free of this doubly dangerous burden? [Many thanks to Dr. Rubin Khoddam of COPE Psychological Center and Dr. Jennifer Mitchell, Deputy Associate Chief of Staff for Research and Development at the San Francisco VA Medical Center, for help with this one!]
Your long-term partner has recently made it clear that he never wants to get married, which is at odds with your own expectations. It's an otherwise ideal, supportive relationship, but disagreeing on this subject casts a shadow over your future together. What should you do?
You're a teenager attending a boarding school with peers you've known your whole life, but their toxic jockeying for position in the social hierarchy goes against your positive, perhaps more mature nature. Is there anything you can do to lift them up without being brought down in the process?
You come from a family in which expressing feelings is forbidden, and problems are ridiculed or ignored rather than talked through. After 15 years of living abroad, you just can't deal with them like you …
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531: Bob Arno | Schooled by the Professor of Pickpocketry Part Two
8 juli 2021 · 49 min
Bob Arno is a comedy pickpocket and criminologist specializing in global street crime, is the co-author of Travel Advisory: How to Avoid Thefts, Cons, and Street Scams While Traveling, and was featured in National Geographic's Pickpocket King documentary. [This is part two of a two-part episode. Make sure to catch part one here!] Lees meer
What We Discuss with Bob Arno:
How Bob, the son of a judge, got involved in social engineering and pickpocketing for the purpose of entertainment.
Why pickpockets are commonly targeted by terrorist organizations for radicalization efforts.
How diversionary crime like pickpocketing has changed just like every other profession during the COVID-19 pandemic.
How Bob is able to get close to real-life criminal pickpockets and learn their tricks of the trade without winding up in the hospital -- or worse.
The psychology of a pickpocket -- what they're looking for in an ideal victim and what you can do to ensure you're not that victim.
And much more...
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530: Bob Arno | Schooled by the Professor of Pickpocketry Part One
6 juli 2021 · 48 min
Bob Arno is a comedy pickpocket and criminologist specializing in global street crime, is the co-author of Travel Advisory: How to Avoid Thefts, Cons, and Street Scams While Traveling, and was featured in National Geographic's Pickpocket King documentary. [This is part one of a two-part episode. Stay tuned for part two later this week!] Lees meer
What We Discuss with Bob Arno:
How Bob, the son of a judge, got involved in social engineering and pickpocketing for the purpose of entertainment.
Why pickpockets are commonly targeted by terrorist organizations for radicalization efforts.
How diversionary crime like pickpocketing has changed just like every other profession during the COVID-19 pandemic.
How Bob is able to get close to real-life criminal pickpockets and learn their tricks of the trade without winding up in the hospital -- or worse.
The psychology of a pickpocket -- what they're looking for in an ideal victim and what you can do to ensure you're not that victim.
And much more...
Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/530
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529: Qualms about QAnon Mom and Her Starseed Schtick | Feedback Friday
2 juli 2021 · 48 min
Your conspiracy-minded Mom subscribes to the tenets of QAnon, believes she's a half-human/half-alien starseed, and thinks Jim Carrey is playing Joe Biden in real life, and not just SNL. She's tough to take, and never respects the boundaries you try to set. Is there still room in your life for her? We'll try to get to the bottom of this and more here on Feedback Friday! Lees meer
And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!
Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/529
On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:
Your conspiracy-minded Mom subscribes to the tenets of QAnon, believes she's a half-human/half-alien starseed, and thinks Jim Carrey is playing Joe Biden in real life, and not just SNL. She's tough to take, and never respects the boundaries you try to set. Is there still room in your life for her? [Thanks to cult expert Steven Hassan for helping us with this one!]
The closest friend you've ever had passed away earlier this year, and you've noticed yourself, against character, succumbing to overwhelming feelings of anger at unexpected moments. Does the rage from grief ever go away, or is this just who you are now?
Disgruntled in your current leadership position, you've considered taking a lower stress, lower responsibility role where you don't have to hold people accountable. How do you know if you're making a wise move for your own mental health or throwing away an opportunity that will become manageable over time as you learn to adapt?
You fell for your roommate. After a period of intimacy, she withdrew, citing a series of toxic relationships and a need to focus on her own self-disco…
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528: Ulrich "The Mole" Larsen | Undercover in North Korea Part Two
1 juli 2021 · 56 min
Ulrich "The Mole" Larsen (@UlrichTheMole) is a family man from Denmark who spent 10 years undercover in North Korea infiltrating its illicit arms trade. [This is part two of a two-part episode. Part one can be found here!] Lees meer
What We Discuss with Ulrich "The Mole" Larsen:
How did a young Danish chef and family man wind up working undercover in North Korea to disrupt its illicit arms trade?
Why would the repressive regime that runs North Korea trust a young Danish chef and welcome him with open arms?
How some low-status Westerners cozy up to the North Korean regime for the chance to boss around other Westerners visiting the country and the illusionary rush of power it gives them.
The natural qualities and easygoing talents that made Ulrich such an ideal mole in a place where every move is surveilled and analyzed by invisible eyes from every nook and shadow.
Why operating clandestinely in the DPRK is no job for a teetotaler.
And much more...
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527: Ulrich "The Mole" Larsen | Undercover in North Korea Part One
29 juni 2021 · 59 min
Ulrich "The Mole" Larsen (@UlrichTheMole) is a family man from Denmark who spent 10 years undercover in North Korea infiltrating its illicit arms trade. [This is part one of a two-part episode. Stay tuned for the second half later this week!] Lees meer
What We Discuss with Ulrich "The Mole" Larsen:
How did a young Danish chef and family man wind up working undercover in North Korea to disrupt its illicit arms trade?
Why would the repressive regime that runs North Korea trust a young Danish chef and welcome him with open arms?
How some low-status Westerners cozy up to the North Korean regime for the chance to boss around other Westerners visiting the country and the illusionary rush of power it gives them.
The natural qualities and easygoing talents that made Ulrich such an ideal mole in a place where every move is surveilled and analyzed by invisible eyes from every nook and shadow.
Why operating clandestinely in the DPRK is no job for a teetotaler.
And much more...
Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/527
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526: What to Do When Your Teen Attempts Suicide | Feedback Friday
25 juni 2021 · 49 min
While you're beyond grateful she survived, your teenager's attempted suicide came as a heartbreaking shock. Now what can you do to address the root causes and make sure she doesn't try again? We'll try to find answers to this and more here on Feedback Friday! Lees meer
And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!
Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/526
On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:
While you're beyond grateful she survived, your teenager's attempted suicide came as a heartbreaking shock. Now what can you do to address the root causes and make sure she doesn't try again? [Thanks to clinical psychologist Dr. Erin Margolis for helping us with this one!]
After listening to our episode with Thomas Erikson, you think you've got a psychopath or two in your life. How can you really be sure, and how should you handle the situation? [Thanks to Thomas Erikson himself, who was kind enough to help us answer this one!]
After finding out your significant other (with whom you have a child) had a Tinder account for nine months of your relationship, you're not completely on board with trusting him. Now his ex-girlfriend (with whom he also has a child) has offered him a job. Should you be concerned?
You're a bit burnt out after traveling for work five days a week for the past two months, but you've been with your company for a few years and you don't want to leave. How might you ask for a new job within the company without being completely sure what you want to do (or initiating your own layoff)?
An amazing job opportunity means you may be moving your family to another country in a few mon…
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525: Robert H. Frank | The Myth of Meritocracy
24 juni 2021 · 51 min
Robert H. Frank (@econnaturalist) is the HJ Louis Professor of Economics at Cornell University and author of Success and Luck: Good Fortune and the Myth of Meritocracy. [Note: this is a rebroadcast from the vault.] Lees meer
What We Discuss with Robert H. Frank:
As we strive to achieve success, there are natural limits on how hard we can work and how smart we can be. There’s no denying that luck plays a part in this achievement.
Understand the role of luck, talent, and hard work in the overall formula.
Discover why we tend to minimize the role of luck in our success.
Find out how to maximize our luck in life by way of context outside of talent and work.
Learn new ways to look at the luck factor and turn it to our advantage.
And much more...
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524: Nicholas Christakis | Pandemic Impacts and Contagious Behavior
22 juni 2021 · 1 uur 7 min
Nicholas Christakis (@NAChristakis) is the Sterling Professor of Social and Natural Science at Yale, a physician, and author. His latest book is Apollo's Arrow: The Profound and Enduring Impact of Coronavirus on the Way We Live. Lees meer
What We Discuss with Nicholas Christakis:
What social science tells us about our best shot (pun moderately intended) at achieving herd immunity from COVID-19.
How social networks allowed the virus to spread and reinforced mistrust of well-known science among certain politically oriented segments of the populace.
What the lessons of past disasters can teach us about the road ahead.
Why the bad (and good) habits of our friends' friends can have an impact on our own behavior from across vast social networks.
What we can do to best defend ourselves against the unwanted influence of these unseen members of our network.
And much more...
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523: Defusing the Drama Around Your Intoxicated Mama | Feedback Friday
18 juni 2021 · 43 min
You're raising your teenage sister to keep her out of the cycle of neglect and abuse she was exposed to at home with your alcoholic mother and her sociopathic boyfriend. Now you're struggling to reconcile your relationship with your mom before her toxic beau completely blows through her savings and leaves her destitute. Is there anything you can do at this point to defuse the drama around your intoxicated mama? We'll try to find answers to this and more here on Feedback Friday! Lees meer
And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!
Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/523
On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:
You're struggling to reconcile your relationship with your mom before her toxic beau completely blows through her savings and leaves her destitute. Is there anything you can do to defuse the drama around your intoxicated mama?
As a new recruiter for a high-growth startup tech company, you feel like you're getting the brush-off whenever you bring up the need to diversify personnel to the higher-ups. What can you do to get the issue taken more seriously? [Thanks to executive coach Michelle Lederman for helping us with this one!]
Through therapy and medication, you've overcome decades of anxiety, depression, and financial problems, and you're ready to date after losing 140 pounds you gained when you were at your lowest point. But now you've got a lot of loose skin; how do you pre-empt any worries you have about being seen naked by a possible partner?
You fought your way through stage four breast cancer, but you still have to go to the doctor for time-consuming checkups and scans…
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522: Daniel Pink | To Sell Is Human
17 juni 2021 · 1 uur 4 min
Daniel Pink (@DanielPink) is the author of To Sell Is Human: The Surprising Truth About Moving Others, which uses social science, survey research, and stories to offer a fresh look at the art and science of sales. [Note: this is a rebroadcast from the vault.] Lees meer
What We Discuss with Daniel Pink:
What’s the best way of dealing with an “off” day?
Learn why sales and a sales skillset are a part of our lives — whether we like it or not.
Understand the concepts of irritation versus agitation (and how to use both to motivate others).
Attunement: what it is and how it can make you more persuasive.
Tips for both introverts and extroverts to improve a social skillset and build better rapport.
And so much more...
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521: Neil deGrasse Tyson | Cosmic Queries for the Acutely Curious
15 juni 2021 · 59 min
Neil deGrasse Tyson (@neiltyson) is the Frederick P. Rose Director of the Hayden Planetarium, host of StarTalk Radio, and author. He rejoins us to discuss his latest book, Cosmic Queries: StarTalk's Guide to Who We Are, How We Got Here, and Where We're Going. Lees meer
What We Discuss with Neil deGrasse Tyson:
How Neil learned to explain scientific complexities in layman's terms.
Why you should always take advantage of an opportunity to engage with an expert.
How opportunity comes from embracing the unknown rather than shying away from it.
Why, when it comes to learning something new, understanding is far more important than memorizing facts.
How Neil has mastered the art of ending any Q&A with the perfect answer -- no matter the question.
And much more...
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520: Medical Meddling's Wack from Bipolar Hypochondriac | Feedback Friday
11 juni 2021 · 49 min
Enduring your bipolar mother's hypochondria your entire life has made you neglectful of your own health. Now she won't stop meddling in your medical business since you were recently sent to the ER with an undiagnosed condition. How can you get your mother to back off without completely ruining your already strained relationship? We'll dig into this and more here on Feedback Friday! Lees meer
And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!
Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/520
On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:
Have you played The Jordan Harbinger Show Bingo yet? Thanks to the work of a fellow dedicated listener, now you can!
Your bipolar hypochondriac mom won't stop meddling in your medical affairs. How can you get her to back off without completely ruining your already strained relationship? [Thanks to clinical psychologist Dr. Erin Margolis for helping us field this one!]
You've noticed the bad influence of an older neighborhood kid rubbing off on your six-year-old daughter, and having met his emotionally volatile parents, you see the bad apple didn't fall far from the tree. How can you minimize the effects of this negative behavior without being needlessly punitive toward these children?
Are you experiencing "early-onset imposter syndrome" because you're worried about lazy habits picked up during quarantine stunting the level of overachievement that got you into law school?
You were laid off one day before your last retirement accrual through the company's employee stock ownership plan. You're doing well enough financially, but you're rightfully angry to have been cheated o…
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519: Dacher Keltner | The Power Paradox
10 juni 2021 · 44 min
Dacher Keltner is a professor of psychology at University of California in Berkeley, one of the world’s foremost scientists specializing in the study of power, and author of The Power Paradox: How We Gain and Lose Influence. [Note: this is a rebroadcast from the vault.] Lees meer
What We Discuss with Dacher Keltner:
You don’t have to be Machiavellian to appreciate that Niccolo Machiavelli was the OG power scientist.
What is The Power Paradox, and how does it affect us and society at large?
The imbalance of power is the greatest threat to society (just after climate change).
Powerlessness can literally be lethal.
Learn how we can increase our power relative to others in a healthy way.
And much more...
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518: Daniel Kahneman | When Noise Destroys Our Best of Choices
8 juni 2021 · 1 uur 3 min
Daniel Kahneman is a celebrated psychologist, economist, Nobel Prize winner, and author of the much-lauded Thinking, Fast and Slow and his latest, Noise: A Flaw in Human Judgment. Lees meer
What We Discuss with Daniel Kahneman:
Why we don’t always produce the same results when faced with the same facts on two different occasions.
How noise -- in this context, variability in judgments that should be identical -- influences our choices.
How the detrimental effects of noise in medicine, law, economic forecasting, forensic science, bail, child protection, strategy, performance reviews, and personnel selection can ruin (and even end) lives.
How to tell the difference between noise and good old-fashioned bias.
How we can reduce the role of noise and bias in our lives to make our best choices.
And much more...
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517: Trouble Runs Deep with the Neighborhood Creep | Feedback Friday
4 juni 2021 · 51 min
The pedophile psychopath who lives across the street has made your life hell for more than a decade, to say nothing of the catastrophic damage he's caused to your loved ones and the community. But how can you prove it to the authorities who continue to protect him? We'll try to find a resolution to this and more here on Feedback Friday! Lees meer
And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!
Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/517
On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:
The pedophile psychopath who lives across the street has made your life hell for more than a decade, to say nothing of the catastrophic damage he's caused to your loved ones and the community. But how can you prove it to the authorities? [Special thanks to Thomas Erikson and George Grant for helping us with this one!]
When you've finally found a partner who could be "The One" with whom you see yourself starting a family at the same time you've finally found your dream job -- nine hours away -- how do you choose between them? Or is there a way you don't have to?
Your friend at school has only been in the country for three years and struggles with English, so you help him every night with his homework. The problem is, this leaves you with no free time to pursue extracurriculars or even get a full night's sleep during the week. How can you set boundaries that are reasonable for both of you?
At your corporate job, you regularly have to report to people who are senior to you. How do you strike the right balance between confidence and humility without being either cocky or unsure of yourself?
Someone taking our free Six-M…
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516: Mike Massimino | Unlocking Science Secrets with an Unlikely Spaceman
3 juni 2021 · 1 uur 5 min
Mike Massimino (@Astro_Mike) is the astronaut who sent the first tweet from space and one of the few spacefarers we’ve had on this show! He’s the author of Spaceman: An Astronaut’s Unlikely Journey to Unlock the Secrets of the Universe. [Note: this is a rebroadcast from the vault.] Lees meer
What We Discuss with Mike Massimino:
How is bedtime on a space shuttle mission a lot like a slumber party?
Why assembling a team around you is crucial for success — whether orbiting or staying on the surface of the planet.
Why it’s important to take small, deliberate steps in the right direction for the sake of your own happiness.
How to stay focused on the task at hand in the face of disaster by thinking like an astronaut.
Why even astronauts have imposter syndrome.
And much more...
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515: James Jani | Repelling the Law of Attraction Myth
1 juni 2021 · 1 uur 26 min
James Jani (@jamesvjani) is a YouTuber who makes documentary-style videos about money, business, and life, including The Law of Attraction: Fact or Fiction? and The Dark World of New Age Gurus. Lees meer
What We Discuss with James Jani:
Why "hustle culture" is a bankrupt paradigm that makes it easy for fake gurus to prey upon society's very young and very desperate.
Why the so-called Law of Attraction that tells you you only have to think positive thoughts to "manifest" the good things you want out of life is bunk.
How studying philosophy exercises your grey matter and sharpens your critical thinking skills (so you can better resist nonsense like the Law of Attraction).
Why the Just World Fallacy that explains away suffering as a deserved consequence of wrongdoing is just a dangerously convenient way for people to bypass empathy for the world's unlucky have-nots.
How we can use street epistemology to help people question their unfounded beliefs.
And much more...
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514: Distancing from Junkie Sibling's Self-Jinxing | Feedback Friday
28 mei 2021 · 47 min
In spite of what you've done to help your addiction-prone sibling stay off of hard drugs, he keeps relapsing. When is it time to let a self-jinxing junkie suffer for the consequences of their own actions? This and more here on Feedback Friday! Lees meer
And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!
Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/514
On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:
When is it time to let your self-jinxing junkie sibling face the music for their never-ending relapses that perpetually endanger you and your family?
You're in a relationship with someone who would be a perfect match -- except that you've never found them physically attractive. This is unlikely to change, but it's hard to imagine a life without them. Should you stay or should you go?
You're an ambitious, multilingual 19-year-old in a managerial position, about to enlist in the Navy as a translator. It should be cause for celebration that you've recently been selected as a congressional advisor, but imposter syndrome has hit you like a train. What should you do?
You've been responsible for dramatically increasing your department's efficiency, and your supervisor relies on you to keep things running smoothly. Nevertheless, the higher-ups recently denied you a promotion or raise, and it's hard not to take it personally. What's really holding you back?
A Six-Minute Networking question: how do you deal with a double opt-in introduction when one party makes it clear they're not interested in meeting the other party?
Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jord…
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513: Charlamagne Tha God | The Opportunities of Black Privilege
27 mei 2021 · 55 min
Charlamagne Tha God (@cthagod) is a radio presenter (The Breakfast Club Power 105.1 FM), television personality (Uncommon Sense Live), podcaster (The Brilliant Idiots), and author of Black Privilege: Opportunity Comes to Those Who Create It. [Note: this is a previously broadcast episode from the vault. For our most recent interview with Charlamagne, check out Episode 171: Charlamagne Tha God | Turning the Tables on Fear and Anxiety!] Lees meer
What We Discuss with Charlamagne Tha God:
What transformed Lenard McKelvey from Moncks Corner, South Carolina into Charlamagne Tha God?
How Charlamagne went from selling crack in a small town to becoming a radio and television personality — and now author.
Why the moment you think you can’t transcend your circumstances — whatever they may be — is the moment you won’t.
How Charlamagne reframed his background to become an advantage rather than a hindrance.
Why it’s important not to live someone else’s expectations — and how to figure out when expectations are actually your own.
And much more...
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512: Michio Kaku | The Quest for a Theory of Everything
25 mei 2021 · 1 uur 14 min
Michio Kaku (@michiokaku) is a theoretical physicist, famed futurist, on-air personality, professor of physics, and bestselling author. His latest book is The God Equation: The Quest for a Theory of Everything. Lees meer
What We Discuss with Michio Kaku:
Why do we need a theory of everything, and what set a young Michio Kaku on the path to search for it?
How we're all born scientists with a yearning to understand the world around us, and what tends to dampen this enthusiasm for most of us before we even make it to adulthood.
Why physicists seeking to wrap their minds around a universal string theory are more like daydreaming composers than academic blackboard warriors.
The four fundamental forces of a universe governed by string theory, and the challenge of discovering how they fit together -- and proving it.
What makes the human brain so unique in the animal kingdom, and why Michio thinks IQ is a woefully incomplete way of measuring intelligence.
And much more...
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511: Does a Reformed Abuser Deserve a Second Chance? | Feedback Friday
21 mei 2021 · 51 min
You cringe when you think back to the toxic, abusive person you used to be, but a traumatic experience forced you to change for the better. However, it's difficult to form close friendships or seek a relationship because you feel unworthy of connection with others. Do you deserve a second chance? If so, how do you prove it to yourself and others who know about your past? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday! Lees meer
And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!
Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/511
On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:
You cringe when you think back to the toxic, abusive person you used to be, but a traumatic experience forced you to change for the better. However, it's difficult to form close friendships or seek a relationship because you feel unworthy of connection with others. Do you deserve a second chance? [Thanks to clinical psychologist Dr. Erin Margolis for helping us field this one!]
You're a 20-something "internet personality" whose bad choices (and poor judgment of character) have led you to do things you're not proud of. Sponsors and investors are dropping off, and your livelihood is in danger with no other prospects on the horizon. More than financial ruin, you fear reputational damage from which you'll never recover. You want to take responsibility for your actions; what can you do to see light at the end of this tunnel?
You and your partner have been married for 11 years and have no kids. You met at a Christian camp, you both took your faith very seriously, and you built your relationship on that faith. Fast forward 10 years, and yo…
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510: Rob Reid | Why the Future is a Good Kind of Scary
20 mei 2021 · 1 uur 25 min
Rob Reid (@Rob_Reid) is a tech entrepreneur, early-stage tech investor, author of After On: A Novel of Silicon Valley, and host of the After On Podcast. Lees meer
What We Discuss with Rob Reid:
While COVID-19 has been devastating on a global scale, it's comparatively benign when we consider how bad it could have been with a deadlier, more transmissible virus and a decimated infrastructure without access to basic necessities.
What gain of function research is, and why it's so dangerous in a world where even the most secure laboratories can leak pathogens into the general population.
The death toll inflicted by society's suicidal mass murderers is limited only by the weapons they have available -- whether they're guns, knives, airplanes, or synthetically manufactured superviruses created by soon-to-be commonplace genetic manipulation technology.
The steps we can take as an international community to fend off the malevolent efforts of a few bad actors by creating an infrastructure that can detect and prevent the spread of any potential future pandemic.
How DNA printers with the ability to create pandemic-defying vaccines on demand may become as common in the home as smoke alarms.
And much more...
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509: Sam Harris | Making Sense of the Present Tense
18 mei 2021 · 1 uur 10 min
Sam Harris (@SamHarrisOrg) is a neuroscientist, philosopher, and author of five New York Times bestsellers. He is the host of the Making Sense podcast and his latest book is Making Sense: Conversations on Consciousness, Morality, and the Future of Humanity. Lees meer
What We Discuss with Sam Harris:
How can someone in the public eye speak freely without worrying about being canceled?
How to keep an open mind when debating someone with whom you disagree vehemently.
What it really takes to get people to behave ethically.
How to resist the distorting effect of social media's "funhouse mirror" on reality.
Why, if you choose to participate in social media, you should make sure to follow at least some (preferably many) people who don't share your views.
And much more...
Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/509
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