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UNMASKING: The neurodivergent identity crisis hidden behind a lifetime of pretending
19 november 2025 · 34 min
In this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rich and Rox finally talk about unmasking — pretending to be someone you’re not, pretending to be neurotypical, pretending you’re fine, and pretending you don’t have needs. Rich shares how his old mask looked like being the “life and soul of the party,” hyper-masculine and always social, while Rox talks about hiding chaos, messy flats, people-pleasing, fawning, and lying about things like lateness out of shame. Lees meer
They explore why neurodivergent people mask — to fit in, avoid rejection, and feel acceptable — and the cost of it: exhaustion, anxiety, overwhelm, and relationships where the real you is never seen. Rich and Rox share personal moments of overstimulation, needing quiet rooms, crying, mouldy cups, chaotic homes, and acting through fear of being “caught out.”
They also talk about how unmasking takes time, feels awkward, and starts with small truths shared with the safest person. And even though it’s scary, they show why it leads to more connection, more honesty, and finally being known for who you really are.
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IMPOSTER SYNDROME: 10 ways we convince ourselves we’re not enough (and how to stop!)
12 november 2025 · 32 min
What happens when life starts going right… and your brain still whispers, “You don’t deserve this”? Lees meer
In this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rich and Rox talk honestly about imposter syndrome — especially when you’re a late bloomer who never expected life to look like this. From waiting to be “found out,” to secretly believing success is luck, not earned, they break down the sneaky ways self-doubt shows up even when you're thriving.
They explore how childhood experiences wire us to minimise ourselves, why confidence doesn't automatically grow with achievements, and how shame can hitch a ride on success just as easily as failure. And most importantly — they share gentle, practical ways to catch those thoughts, build self-trust, and learn to stand in what you've built without cringing, apologising, or shrinking.
Tender, honest, and funny in the very human way only these two do it — this episode is a reminder that you don’t have to feel like you belong to actually belong. You earned this. Now let’s learn to believe it.
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BIRTHDAY BLUES: Why some of us cry on our birthday (and what to do about it)
5 november 2025 · 28 min
Birthdays are meant to be joyful… right? So why do they so often come with pressure, comparison, anxiety, and that quiet feeling of I should be happier than this? Lees meer
In this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rich and Rox talk honestly about the emotional hangover that can hit around birthdays — especially when you’re feeling behind, overwhelmed by expectations, or carrying grief into another year. From childhood memories and milestone shame to the fear of ageing, loneliness, and the desire to feel seen, they unpack why birthdays can sting even when life is good.
They also explore how to turn birthdays into something gentler: a chance to celebrate growth, honour who you are now, and find gratitude without forcing joy or pretending everything’s perfect.
Tender, relatable, and funny in all the right places — this episode is a reminder that getting older isn’t something to fear. It’s something to live through, learn from, and sometimes cry about… then eat cake anyway. 🎂
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THE NON SEX SEX GUIDE: 10 small things that make a big difference in the bedroom
29 oktober 2025 · 29 min
Let’s talk about the spark. The one that doesn’t come from lingerie, role-play, or awkward “date nights with expectations.” Lees meer
In this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rich and Rox get real about the non sex sex stuff — the everyday things that quietly build (or kill) intimacy in long-term relationships. From body confidence and anger repression to sensory pleasure, deep chats, and clean sheets, they unpack ten surprisingly simple ways to feel close again without costumes or pressure.
Expect laughter (Chewbacca costumes included), awkward confessions, and some genuinely life-changing insights about connection, confidence, and the psychology of desire. Whether you’re in a dry spell or just craving more closeness, this is your permission slip to rebuild intimacy one small step at a time.
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TIME MACHINE: What would you say if you had five minutes with your younger self?
22 oktober 2025 · 28 min
If you could travel back in time, what would you tell your 18, 25, and 35-year-old self? In this episode, Rich and Rox climb into the metaphorical time machine to revisit the versions of themselves who were lost, reckless, hopeful, and still figuring it all out. Lees meer
From first heartbreaks to career chaos, from finding purpose to learning how to love — they explore what they’d do differently, what they’d do exactly the same, and what every version of them most needed to hear.
This is a conversation about perspective, forgiveness, and the surprising beauty of hindsight.
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THE GREAT DEBATE: 10 ridiculous fights every neurodivergent couple has had
15 oktober 2025 · 37 min
From the thermostat wars to the dishwasher showdown, Rich and Rox are going head to head in THE GREAT DEBATE. In this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, they settle (or at least try to) the 10 ridiculous fights every neurodivergent couple has had. Expect passionate arguments, zero logic, and a lot of love underneath the chaos. Whether it’s about time blindness, cleaning styles, or who left the light on again, this one’s for every ADHD and autism duo just trying to survive domestic life without a referee. Lees meer
Because underneath the bickering is something universal: the way neurodivergent love can be messy, funny, frustrating, and full of misunderstanding, yet still completely magical. This episode will make you laugh, cringe, and probably text your partner to say, “We’ve had that fight too.”
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THE ADHD FIX: The shockingly simple shift that changes everything
8 oktober 2025 · 30 min
In this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rox tells Rich she’s finally found “the cure” for ADHD, and together they explore what actually helps reduce symptoms in real life. From routines, environment, and rest, to the power of self-acceptance, they unpack what genuinely makes a difference when you stop trying to “fix” yourself and start working with your brain instead. Lees meer
They talk about the endless search for hacks and quick fixes, the pressure to be productive, and the surprising mindset shift that changed everything for them both. This one’s about what healing really looks like for ADHD brains: less control, more compassion, and the small everyday choices that make life finally feel calm.
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THE BIG ADULTHOOD PANICS: 10 terrifying truths no one told us about growing up
1 oktober 2025 · 33 min
Growing up was supposed to be freedom, fun, and finally having it all figured out. Instead, adulthood turned out to be overdrafts, dodgy landlords, endless to-do lists, and the creeping horror of back pain that won’t go away. Lees meer
In this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rich and Rox pull apart the 10 biggest adulthood panics — from money meltdowns and career crises, to family drama, social pressure, health scares, and that 3 a.m. voice asking “is this it?” With honesty, humour, and more than a few rants, they get real about why no one actually feels like they’ve got it together, and why maybe that’s okay.
Whether you’re drowning in laundry, dodging wedding invites, or just wondering when life is supposed to get fun, this episode will make you laugh, wince, and feel a little less alone in the chaos.
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OVERTHINKING OLYMPICS: Why your brain won't shut up (and what to do about it!)
24 september 2025 · 34 min
In this week’s episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rich and Rox host the first-ever OVERTHINKING OLYMPICS: complete with events like the 3 a.m. Marathon, Catastrophe Sprint, Analysis Paralysis Relay, Hindsight High Jump, and the Social Gymnastics Floor Routine. Lees meer
Together, they unpack why ADHD and anxious minds get stuck in these cycles — from perfectionism and decision fear to safety-seeking and control — and explore the heavy cost of competing: lost time, broken sleep, strained relationships, and missed joy.
But it’s not all doom and gloom. Rich (the reigning champ of underthinking) shares practical ways to break free: reality checks, journaling, movement, tolerating uncertainty, and catching the emotion underneath the spiral. This is a funny, relatable, and surprisingly hopeful conversation for anyone whose brain won’t shut up.
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DIRTY LAUNDRY: Shame-free hygiene, ADHD hacks, and our grossest confessions
17 september 2025 · 27 min
In this week’s episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rich and Rox air out the DIRTY LAUNDRY — literally. From BO and bed sheets to flannel roulette and maggot towels (yes, really), we talk about the messy realities of hygiene and cleaning when you have ADHD. We share our most embarrassing confessions, break down why cleanliness has no moral value, and give you the hacks that actually work — from five-minute cleans to dopamine baths to inviting someone over just to get the house sorted. Lees meer
This is the shame-free conversation we all need: raw, funny, and practical. If you’ve ever struggled to keep on top of laundry, showers, or cleaning routines, this episode will make you feel seen — and maybe even give you a system that sticks.
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THE ADHD PARTNER SURVIVAL GUIDE: 10 hacks for a happier relationship
10 september 2025 · 31 min
Being in love with an ADHDer is equal parts chaos, comedy, and connection. In this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rich and Rox dive into The ADHD Partner Survival Guide: 10 strategies for a happier relationship. Lees meer
From time blindness to forgotten anniversaries, we share the hacks that have saved our sanity (and our marriage). Expect raw honesty, plenty of laughter, and a few “oh my god, that’s us” moments along the way.
Whether you’re the ADHDer, the long-suffering partner, or both, this episode will help you feel seen — and maybe even a little more hopeful about love in the madness.
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MENTAL HEALTH 101: What “well” actually looks like (and how we measure up)
3 september 2025 · 33 min
Ever wonder if your brain’s thriving or just surviving? In this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rox and Rich dive into Nancy McWilliams’ 10 qualities of mental health and grade their own messy minds. From secure attachment to zest for life, nothing’s off limits as they swap stories of Rox’s chaotic boozy uni days and Rich’s deer-in-headlights youth. Lees meer
Their scores? A wild mix of wins and “still growing.” Rox finds safety with Rich but still wrestles with self-esteem, while Rich loves their purpose-driven life but questions his grit when things crumble. Along the way they tackle why ADHDers and neurodivergents often feel “less than,” and how therapy, love, and environment can change the soil you’re planted in.
Raw, funny, and painfully relatable, this episode isn’t a perfect checklist—it’s a no-shame checkup. If you’ve ever wondered “Am I actually okay, or just really good at faking it?” this one’s for you.
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THE LAZY LIE: Is it laziness or ADHD? How to spot the difference
27 augustus 2025 · 27 min
Is laziness real, or is it one of the biggest lies told about ADHD? In this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rich and Rox tackle the “lazy lie” head-on. They explore why being called lazy never motivates anyone, and why shame only fuels procrastination, anxiety, and self-doubt instead of getting things done. Lees meer
From homework left to the last minute, uni rooms infested with flies, and dodged coffee duties, they swap hilarious and raw stories that show how “lazy” is almost never the truth. With banter, and brutal honesty, they pull apart the difference between actual laziness (vibing on your phone while someone else makes the coffee) and executive dysfunction: the invisible ADHD struggle that looks like laziness but feels like quicksand.
If you’ve ever called yourself lazy, or been crushed under the weight of that label, this episode is for you.
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ANTI-SOCIAL BUTTERFLY: The neurodivergent urge to never leave the house
20 augustus 2025 · 30 min
Welcome to LATE BLOOMERS, where Rox and Rich get real about being anti-social butterflies and navigating social life with neurodivergent brains. Rox shares ADHD chaos like double-booking disasters, missing weddings, and the social anxiety that often keeps them home. Lees meer
Rich admits to dodging small talk, pulling Irish Goodbyes, and choosing the dog over most invites unless it’s Green Day. Together they explore the exhaustion of parties that feel like performances, the guilt of cancelling plans, and why home feels like the safest place.
If you have ever cheered when plans fell through or left a gathering completely drained, this episode is for you.
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HEALING HURTS: The hidden heartbreak of leaving your old self behind
12 augustus 2025 · 28 min
In this honest and unfiltered episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rich and Rox share the side of healing no one talks about—the part where it feels lonely, awkward, and nothing in your old life fits anymore. Lees meer
Sobriety meant losing friends who only knew them as drinkers. Changing priorities meant some family relationships shifted or ended. Even work and identity had to be rebuilt from scratch.
They talk about the grief of outgrowing people you thought would be in your life forever, and how clarity can make old dynamics impossible to return to. But they also share the small wins, the peace, and the self-respect that come with sticking it out.
If you’re in the messy middle of getting better, this episode is a reminder that the loneliness won’t last—but the growth will.
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NEUROTYPICAL NONSENSE: Unmasking the madness of normal
6 augustus 2025 · 29 min
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What even is normal? In this hilarious and heartfelt episode, Rox and Rich dive into the absurd, confusing, and often unspoken rules of neurotypical behaviour.
They unpack why some people relax by drinking in loud bars, the strange obsession with small talk, and the exhausting pressure to follow a rigid life roadmap. Rich questions the morality assigned to messiness, and Rox explains why “fitting in” always came at the cost of authenticity. They break down social hierarchies, unspoken rules, and why direct communication often feels like rebellion.
If you’ve ever felt like you missed the memo on how to be “normal,” this episode will make you feel seen — and probably make you laugh.
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ADDICTED TO EVERYTHING: How addiction starts, why it sticks, and how to let go
30 juli 2025 · 30 min
In this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rich and Rox dive into the messy reality of addiction—far beyond the stereotypes of vodka bottles and rock bottoms. From alcohol and gambling to phone scrolling, comfort eating, and chasing validation, we explore the many ways addiction hides in plain sight. Lees meer
We talk openly about our own experiences with compulsive behaviors, the childhood trauma that fed them, and the shame that kept them alive. We unpack why it’s so hard to stop: the relief it brings, the shame it creates, and the terrifying thought of life without it.
We also share what actually helped us heal. From the moment we admitted there was a problem, to the small, brave steps that pulled us out of the cycle—one day at a time. This episode isn’t just about sobriety; it’s about self-understanding, compassion, and change.
If you’ve ever wondered, why can’t I stop doing this thing I hate?—this one’s for you.
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ADHD HACKS: Strategies that work with your brain, not against it
23 juli 2025 · 30 min
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We’ve tried every productivity system out there — and most of them made us feel worse. So in this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rich and Rox share the ADHD hacks that actually helped. No shame, no pressure — just real strategies that work with your brain, not against it.
From “the 300 second rule” to “lesser-of-two-evils,” these are the weird little tricks that finally made a difference in our day-to-day lives. I
f you’ve ever felt like a broken human in a productivity-obsessed world, this one’s for you. Expect honesty, laughter, and 8 practical tools to try today.
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ROCKET LAUNCH: The beautiful, brutal truth about getting a puppy
16 juli 2025 · 29 min
When we brought Rocket home, we expected healing, routine, and emotional support. What we got was… that, plus pee on the floor, chewed furniture, and a full identity crisis. Lees meer
In this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rich and Rox tell the honest story of life with their puppy. From 3 a.m. wake-ups to questioning whether we’d made a huge mistake, we share how Rocket changed our lives in ways we never expected — and how he became the little soul mate we both adore.
Whether you're thinking of getting a puppy or just want a laugh at our expense, this is the beautiful, brutal truth of life with Rocket.
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THE ADHD GIRL’S GUIDE TO SEX: 10 ways your brain is ruining your sex life
9 juli 2025 · 29 min
Welcome back to LATE BLOOMERS. In this episode, Rich and Rox dive into the messy, hilarious, and often misunderstood world of sex and neurodivergence. Lees meer
From sensory overload to shame spirals, we’re unpacking 10 ways your brain might be ruining your sex life — and what you can actually do about it.
Whether you're in a long-term relationship or figuring yourself out, this is the honest, awkward, hopeful chat you didn’t know you needed. You're not broken. You're not alone. And yes, a little dance might actually help.
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RELATIONSHIP REHAB: The 5 rules that transformed our relationship
2 juli 2025 · 27 min
In this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rox and Rich dive into the real work of building healthy, long-lasting love — the kind nobody taught us how to do. Whether you're anxiously attached, avoidant, or just exhausted from repeating the same patterns, this episode breaks down the 5 essential rules that transformed their relationship (and could transform yours too). Lees meer
You'll learn:
Don’t use extreme communication — how silent treatment or shouting damages safety.
Respect your partner’s nervous system — why their reactions aren’t always about you.
Remember your childhoods — how the past shows up in your present.
Stay connected — why little moments of intimacy matter.
Celebrate the ordinary — because healthy love is built in the boring bits.
This is your no-BS guide to unlearning toxic patterns, healing your attachment style, and finding love that actually lasts.
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ADHD VS ADULTING: Why so many of us feel like bad adults and what to do about it
25 juni 2025 · 30 min
Why does everything feel so hard? In this painfully honest episode, Rox and Rich unpack the everyday struggles of “being a grown-up” with ADHD—from brushing your teeth to answering emails to keeping your house from turning into chaos. They talk about the crushing shame of falling behind on life admin, the emotional toll of forgetting simple things, and the silent pressure of pretending you’ve got it all together. Lees meer
Rox shares what it’s like to feel like a bad adult almost every day, and Rich opens up about how he’s learned to support her without judgment. Together, they explore what’s really behind the meltdown over laundry, the panic over unopened letters, and the guilt that follows every unfinished task.
This episode is for anyone who’s ever felt broken by the basics. You’re not lazy, you’re not alone—and there is a way through. Let this be your permission slip to drop the shame and find your own version of functioning.
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FIGHT CLUB: The unspoken rules of conflict that could save your relationship
18 juni 2025 · 29 min
Arguments don’t have to mean the end. In this raw and relatable episode, Rox and Rich unpack the hidden rules of conflict—especially in neurodivergent relationships where communication styles, emotional regulation, and processing speeds can clash hard. From shutdowns and shouting matches to storming off and saying the wrong thing, they explore how fights happen, why they escalate, and what they’ve learned about surviving them. Lees meer
Rox opens up about her explosive ADHD fight style and the fear that every argument means it’s over. Rich shares his autistic tendency to shut down or withdraw—and how misunderstood that can feel. Together, they reflect on the patterns that nearly broke them, and the tools that helped them break the cycle instead.
This episode is for anyone who feels like they’re fighting on loop, stuck in a relationship that’s full of love but littered with landmines. Whether you're the one who yells or the one who hides, FIGHT CLUB will help you feel less alone—and give you hope that repair is possible when you finally learn the rules.
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SORRY I’M LATE: The painful truth about feeling behind in life, love, and work
11 juni 2025 · 38 min
Ever felt like you’re running behind in life—while everyone else is ticking boxes, buying homes, and smashing careers? In this brutally honest episode, Rox and Rich unpack what it really means to be a “late bloomer.” From chaotic finances to relationship disasters and career false starts, they explore the deep shame that can come with feeling like you're years behind your peers—and how ADHD, trauma, and a lack of support often fuel that spiral. Lees meer
Rox opens up about hitting rock bottom in all three areas—money, love, and work—by her mid-thirties. She shares the terrifying debt, the hyperfocus heartbreaks, and the endless job hopping that left her feeling broken and hopeless. But through small steps, vulnerability, and a hell of a lot of therapy, she began to rebuild—and Rich, the bank manager she accidentally fell in love with, helped her see that being “late” doesn’t mean you’re lost.
Whether you’re in your twenties, thirties, or fifties, this episode is a love letter to anyone who feels behind. It’s not too late to start again. It’s not too late to change your story. And it’s definitely not too late to create a life that finally fits. This one’s for the screwups, the slow starters, and the quietly resilient. You’re right on time.
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NOT ANOTHER MATCHA LATTE: Why self-care trends are making us feel worse and how to actually feel better
4 juni 2025 · 27 min
Self-care is everywhere. From matcha lattes and five-step skincare routines to cold plunges and pastel journals, the internet is overflowing with advice on how to look after yourself. But here’s the problem…most of it doesn’t work for people like us. In this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rox and Rich pull the curtain back on the performance of self-care and ask the big question: what does it actually look like when you're neurodivergent, overwhelmed, and barely keeping up with life? Lees meer
We talk honestly about our own struggles — including Rich’s emotional pizza binges and Rox’s battle with cleaning her teeth — and unpack why so many self-care trends set us up to fail. We explore how “care” became something we perform for the internet, why aesthetics can be damaging, and how toxic productivity has snuck into even our bubble baths.
This is not an episode about doing more. It’s about doing less — with kindness. It's about brushing your teeth, sending the email, and drinking some bloody water. If you’ve ever felt like you’re failing at self-care, we want you to know: you’re not alone, and there is a better way.
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THE SHAME FILES: Why the things you never talk about are keeping you stuck
28 mei 2025 · 32 min
What if the things you’re most ashamed of — the things you swore you’d never tell anyone — are the very things holding you back? Lees meer
In this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rich and Rox open up the “shame files” and share the moments they’ve buried for years: the gambling, the stealing, the lying, the drinking, the secrets, the things they hoped no one would ever find out.
Together, they unpack how shame shapes our identities, how we carry guilt that was never ours to begin with, and how hiding the truth keeps us sick, small, and disconnected. From addiction and childhood trauma to money meltdowns and compulsive people-pleasing, this is a raw and honest look at what happens when we finally say it out loud.
If you’ve ever thought, “If they knew the real me, they’d leave,” — this episode is your proof that healing starts with honesty.
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LATE DIAGNOSED ADHD: The hidden cost of going undiagnosed for most of your life
21 mei 2025 · 31 min
“For most of my life, I thought I was just a bad person — lazy, dramatic, messy, and too much”. In this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rox shares the raw truth about being diagnosed with ADHD in adulthood, and how it changed everything. Lees meer
Alongside Rich, she reflects on the years of masking, people-pleasing, addiction, and breakdowns that came from not understanding her own brain. Together, they explore the emotional weight of a late diagnosis — the grief, the relief, the shame, and the transformation.
If you've ever asked yourself “Why am I like this?” — if you’ve ever felt like you’re failing at life for reasons you can’t explain — this episode will hit home. Because sometimes, a diagnosis isn’t just a label. It’s a lifeline.
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SMALL VICTORIES: Why tiny wins matter more than overnight transformations
14 mei 2025 · 31 min
Ever planned a total life overhaul, only to burn out in three days and feel even worse? Yeah, us too. Lees meer
In this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rich and Rox get brutally honest about why we chase fantasy fixes—like crash diets, productivity sprints, or becoming a totally new person overnight—and why those plans always fall apart. From ADHD brains addicted to dopamine and all-or-nothing thinking, to trauma-based shame spirals and the lure of a brand new notebook, we unpack the psychology behind self-sabotage.
But more importantly, we talk about the antidote: small victories. You’ll hear about money meltdowns, fantasy meal plans, unfinished wardrobes, and why building trust with yourself through micro-changes is the only sustainable way to grow.
If you’ve ever thought, “I should have my life together by now”—this one’s for you.
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STOP HATING YOURSELF: Why your worst enemy might live in your own head
7 mei 2025 · 35 min
In this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rich and Rox dive deep into the quiet epidemic of self-hatred. We explore where it really comes from: childhood trauma, rejection, bullying, addiction, neurodivergence, and the survival strategies we learned just to make it through. Whether it's self-sabotage, choosing the wrong people, or never feeling good enough, self-hate often hides in plain sight. Lees meer
We share our own stories—gambling addiction, self-harm, broken relationships, and shame—and the long, messy road toward finally learning to treat ourselves with compassion. If you’ve ever struggled with that voice in your head that says you’re not enough, this is the episode you need.
We also break down some practical ways to start changing the script: how to recognise your inner critic, track your self-talk, accept compliments without deflecting, and understand that self-hatred is something you learned—which means it’s something you can unlearn.
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GOING TO THERAPY: Finding the right ones and surviving the wrong ones
30 april 2025 · 33 min
We finally talk about therapy — the good, the bad, and the absolutely brutal. From Rich’s years of avoiding it to Rox’s emotional unravelling in front of multiple therapists, this episode is a brutally honest look at what happens when you actually start doing the work. Lees meer
We share our personal journeys: the mismatched therapists, the awkward silences, the big breakthroughs, and the breakdowns that came with them. If you’ve ever left a session feeling worse, ghosted a therapist, or wondered if therapy even works — this one’s for you.
Whether you’re just starting out or deep in the process, we hope this episode helps you feel less alone in the mess of healing.
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SURVIVING BURNOUT: What happens when your body finally says no
23 april 2025 · 32 min
In this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rich and Rox dive deep into the reality of burnout — not the buzzword version, but the terrifying experience of your body, mind, and soul completely shutting down. Rox shares her personal story of chronic self-neglect, the warning signs she missed, and the breaking point where she physically couldn’t lift her own arms. Rich offers his perspective on watching it unfold, and the helplessness of seeing someone you love slowly disappear under the weight of invisible pressure. Lees meer
We unpack the hidden warning signs, the toxic culture that rewards overwork, and the complicated shame that can keep you trapped in a cycle of destruction. Plus, we talk about how to actually start healing — and why listening to your body isn’t weakness, it’s survival.
If you’ve ever felt like you had to keep going no matter what, or you’re scared you're heading toward burnout yourself, this episode is for you. It’s real, raw, and hopeful — because it’s never too late to start again.
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WHO LEFT US IN CHARGE?!: A teenage dad, an ADHD stepmum, and how we survived becoming parents
16 april 2025 · 40 min
This week on LATE BLOOMERS, Rich and Rox talk about becoming parents... without ever planning to. Lees meer
Rich became a dad at 18. Rox became a stepmum with ADHD, trauma, and zero idea what she was doing. Neither of us signed up for this, but somehow, here we are — co-parenting, healing, messing up, and figuring it out one meltdown at a time.
We talk about what our childhoods taught us (and didn’t), why parenting can trigger your deepest wounds, and how we’re trying to do it differently — with love, honesty, and the occasional family-sized panic.
If you're a parent, a step-parent, or just someone trying to break the cycle and build something better than what you had — this one’s for you. You don’t have to get it perfect. You just have to keep showing up.
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ARE YOU MAD AT ME? What rejection sensitivity really feels like (and how to deal with it)
9 april 2025 · 32 min
In this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, we’re diving into rejection sensitivity — what it actually is, where it comes from, and how it shows up in real life. Lees meer
From spiraling over a single text message to assuming the worst when someone says “can we talk?”, Rox opens up about how rejection sensitivity has impacted her relationships, career, and mental health. Rich offers his perspective as someone who doesn’t experience it in the same way — but lives with someone who really does.
We talk about disavowed anger, childhood wounds, confrontation fears, and the little things that can make a big difference when you’re wired to feel unsafe.
Whether you’re the one asking “are you mad at me?” or living with someone who does — this one’s for you.
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ROCK BOTTOM: Why your lowest moments can save your life
2 april 2025 · 32 min
In this raw and honest episode, Rich and Rox take you to the nights they almost didn’t make it through — and how those exact moments became the catalyst for everything good that followed. Lees meer
Rich opens up about his secret gambling addiction, the £7,000 lost in 11 minutes, and the night he truly believed not being here was the only way out. Rox shares the story of a 3-day bender in Ibiza that wrecked a music video shoot, broke her relationship, and finally pushed her to walk into her first recovery meeting.
They talk shame, addiction, second chances, and how the rock bottom moments — the ones where you hate yourself most — can actually lay the foundation for the life you never thought you could have.
If you’re in it right now, if you’ve ever wondered if things can change… this episode is here to say: yes, they can. You’re not alone. And this might just be the beginning.
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WHY BEING “NICE” IS MAKING YOU MISERABLE: How to stop people pleasing and finally put yourself first
26 maart 2025 · 32 min
Are you constantly saying yes when you mean no? Feeling anxious about being liked? Putting everyone else’s needs before your own... then burning out in silence? You might be stuck in a people pleasing loop... and it’s time to break free. Lees meer
In this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rich and Rox dive deep into the roots of people pleasing, from childhood conditioning to ADHD-related rejection sensitivity. They share personal stories, relationship reflections, and how unlearning the “good girl/good boy” mindset changed everything.
Expect raw honesty, a few uncomfortable truths, and practical advice on how to:
– Stop caring what everyone thinks
– Set boundaries without guilt
– Start living for youIt’s not about being selfish, it's about being yourself!
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ONE IN SIX: Rich’s story of childhood sexual abuse
19 maart 2025 · 35 min
This week on LATE BLOOMERS, we’re having one of the most important—and difficult—conversations we’ve ever shared. In this deeply personal episode, Rich opens up about his experience of childhood sexual abuse at the hands of someone he trusted. Lees meer
He talks about how the abuse happened, the grooming that led up to it, and the lasting impact it had on his life—relationships, addiction, anxiety, and self-worth. We also discuss what helped him begin to heal: therapy, sobriety, and support from the right people at the right time.
This episode is for anyone who’s lived through similar trauma, or loves someone who has. We hope that by sharing Rich’s story, it helps survivors feel less alone, and offers hope that healing is possible—no matter how long it takes.
Trigger warning: This episode contains discussions of childhood sexual abuse, grooming, and its emotional aftermath. Please take care while listening.
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THE ART OF STARTING AGAIN: 4 game-changing steps for success
12 maart 2025 · 33 min
This week on LATE BLOOMERS, we're talking about starting again—whether it’s your career, your side hustle, or your entire life. We’re breaking down the four steps to starting over: Identity, Change, Delusion, and Commitment. Sounds simple, right? It wasn’t. Lees meer
We’re sharing the messy truth about our own failures—failed businesses, flopped albums, quitting jobs, and giving up on ourselves (more than once). Rox talks about abandoning 25 business ideas (including the infamous House of Resin), and Rich opens up about staying stuck in a job he hated for 20 years before finally taking a risk.
If you’ve ever felt like it’s too late to start over, this episode is your sign. Because we did it… in our late 30s and 40s. And if we can, you can.
Topics include:
Why failure isn’t the end
How identity holds you back
The power of delusion (seriously)
What commitment really looks like (spoiler: it’s not 5AM gym sessions)
Our personal stories of starting again… and again
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THE CHERRY TREE THEORY: Why changing your environment is the key to personal growth
4 maart 2025 · 25 min
What if the reason you’re struggling isn’t you—but the environment you’re in? In this episode, Rox and Rich dive into The Cherry Tree Theory, a powerful way to reframe personal growth, self-sabotage, and why some people thrive while others feel stuck. Lees meer
They break down why self-blame keeps you trapped, how past experiences shape your ability to grow, and why the right environment is more important than just "trying harder." Instead of forcing yourself to change, what if you changed the conditions around you? Taking inspiration from Mother Nature herself they reveal five surprising steps for personal thriving:
1) Stop poisoning yourself
2) Heal your roots
3) Start pruning
4) Find new soil
5) Nurture your growthIf you’ve ever felt stuck, like personal growth isn’t working, or like something invisible is holding you back—this episode might just change the way you see yourself forever.
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THE SHAME SPIRAL: How to stop feeling like a failure and embrace who you are
26 februari 2025 · 30 min
Why do so many people with ADHD struggle with shame? In this episode, Rox and Rich break down the cycle of self-criticism, exploring how productivity culture, masking, and forgetfulness fuel feelings of failure. Rox opens up about her own experiences with shame—from harsh self-talk and fear of judgment to the pressure to appear "put together"—and how it impacted her relationships, creativity, and mental health. Lees meer
Rich shares his perspective on supporting a partner with ADHD, highlighting the importance of compassion, communication, and breaking free from unrealistic expectations. Together, they unpack the difference between shame and guilt, why self-acceptance is essential, and how reframing your inner dialogue can transform your self-esteem.
You’ll also hear practical tools for overcoming shame, including:
Rewriting negative narratives about yourself
Letting go of perfectionism and over-apologizing
Doubling down on your strengths instead of fixating on your struggles
Surrounding yourself with people who see and accept the real you
If you've ever felt like you're "not good enough" or that your ADHD makes you a failure, this episode is a reminder: You are not broken. And it's time to start believing that.
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ADHD & RELATIONSHIPS: Learning to love through sensitivity, forgetfulness, and miscommunication
19 februari 2025 · 29 min
Falling in love is easy. Staying in love—especially when ADHD is in the mix—is where the real work begins. In this episode, Rox opens up about her relationship history: falling fast, struggling with communication, and repeating patterns she didn’t understand until her ADHD diagnosis. She shares why celibacy, sobriety, and therapy helped her break free from the cycle of intense romance and heartbreak—and how meeting Rich changed everything. Lees meer
Rich dives into the three biggest challenges of loving someone with ADHD:
Communication: How direct vs. emotional communication styles lead to frustration—and why “out of sight, out of mind” doesn’t mean “out of love.”
Forgetfulness: The impact of forgotten promises and messy environments—and why tone matters when asking for help.
Emotional Intensity: Navigating Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD), why ADHD is rooted in sensitivity, and the challenge of feeling “too much.”
But it’s not all hard work—there’s beauty in ADHD, too. Rox and Rich explore the superpowers of empathy, creativity, and humor that have strengthened their bond. Through honesty, kindness, and a whole lot of trial and error, they've learned that curiosity—not judgment—is the key to making love last.
If you've ever felt like your emotions are too big, your forgetfulness is too frustrating, or your relationships are too chaotic—this episode is for you.
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SEXPECTATIONS: The pressure, the shame, and the reality of sex in long-term relationships
12 februari 2025 · 29 min
Sex is everywhere—movies, TV, social media—but it’s always the honeymoon version. No one talks about what happens when the obsession fades, when life gets in the way, or when desire feels more like a pressure than a passion. In this episode, Rox and Rich dive into the unspoken struggles of long-term intimacy, from the countdown clock of “how long it’s been” to the shame of lower desire and the weight of unrealistic expectations. Lees meer
They unpack the pressure society puts on both men and women—why Rox feels hyper-aware of when they last had sex, and why Rich worried he wasn’t "good enough." They get real about sober sex, the anxiety that comes with it, and how neurodivergence (like PDA struggles and black-and-white thinking) can make intimacy even more complex.
How often should couples be having sex? Is there a magic number? And most importantly, how do you build intimacy without making it feel like a chore? Spoiler: it’s all about communication, trust, and ditching the expectations.
This one’s raw, real, and maybe a little too honest. But no one’s alone in this—so let’s talk about it.
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ROCK STAR MENTALITY: Why failure is your best friend and audacity is your greatest asset
5 februari 2025 · 34 min
In this episode, Rich interviews Rox about her journey to becoming RØRY, the rock star she always dreamed of being. Rox opens up about the 20-year battle with trauma, addiction, and imposter syndrome that kept her dreams on hold. She shares why chasing success later in life is powerful, how sobriety became her turning point, and why a creative pursuit is perfect for ADHD brains craving constant novelty. Lees meer
Rox explains how she overcame the fear of failure, lost everything with her first album, and built herself back up with audacity and confidence. They discuss the realities of pursuing big dreams when you've faced trauma and don't have a stable safety net. Rox leaves listeners with three pieces of game-changing advice for creatives: fail forward, be audacious, and act as if you already are who you want to be.
Whether you're a dreamer, a late bloomer, or someone searching for the confidence to take your shot, this episode is for you.
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MONEY PROBLEMS: Debt, shame, and what money does to mental health
29 januari 2025 · 31 min
In this episode, Rox and Rich get brutally honest about their financial journeys, sharing how debt, addiction, and shame shaped their lives. Rox opens up about hitting rock bottom with debt, the overwhelming shame of a poor credit rating, and the challenges of climbing out of financial chaos. Rich reveals how his past struggles with poverty and gambling addiction made him hyper-cautious with money—and how they’ve found balance together despite their very different approaches. Lees meer
They also explore the link between ADHD and overspending, the mental health impacts of financial stress, and why it’s so important to break the stigma around money struggles. Packed with raw honesty, hope, and practical advice, this episode is for anyone who’s ever felt trapped by their finances. You’re not alone—and there’s a way forward.
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FALLING IN LOVE: Farting, freaking out, and finding your person
22 januari 2025 · 29 min
Falling in love isn’t all butterflies and romance—it’s awkward, messy, and sometimes downright hilarious. In this episode, Rox and Rich get real about the unspoken struggles of new relationships, from the anxiety of those early days to the dreaded moment you finally let one slip. Rox opens up about how anxious she was when they first met—so much so that she couldn’t even be in the same room as Rich—while Rich shares his experience with anxious attachment and, of course, the belly aches that come with holding everything in (literally). Lees meer
From silent farts to full-blown panic, this episode dives into the reality of love beyond the fairytales, proving that even the messiest beginnings can lead to something beautiful.
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SIDE EFFECTS: The ups and downs of mental health medication
15 januari 2025 · 28 min
In this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rich and Rox share their personal stories about mental health medication—the good, the bad, and the unexpectedly funny. Rich talks about his journey with antidepressants, including some awkward and memorable side effects, while Rox reflects on being prescribed antidepressants after losing her mum, how it shaped her grief, and why her sobriety influences her decisions around ADHD meds. Lees meer
It’s an honest, relatable, and often hilarious discussion about the realities of mental health meds. Whether you’re on meds, off meds, or just curious, this episode dives into the messy truth of finding what works (or doesn’t) and embracing your own journey.
Quick disclaimer: We’re sharing our experiences, not medical advice. For real help, talk to someone with a stethoscope!
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LATE BLOOMERS: Why it's never too late to re-write your story
8 januari 2025 · 37 min
In this episode, we’re unpacking what it truly means to be a late bloomer. Rich and Rox share the areas in their lives where they’ve bloomed later than expected—Rich in work, emotions, and love, and Rox in music, love, and adulting. Along the way, they reflect on the lessons learned from failure, the beauty of second (or third) chances, and the power of persistence. Lees meer
This episode is for anyone who’s ever felt “behind” in life or worried they’ve missed their chance. Rich and Rox remind you that it’s never too late to go after your dreams, build the life you want, and rewrite your story—one step at a time. Whether you’re chasing love, success, or self-discovery, this is your sign to start now.
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THE ORIGIN STORY: How one video changed our entire lives!
1 januari 2025 · 28 min
In our very first episode, we’re diving into how it all began. Rich had survived abuse, two divorces, and a gambling addiction. Rox was battling alcoholism, relationship chaos, debt, and mental health struggles. Between us, we’ve had over 20 different jobs and hit rock bottom more than once. Lees meer
Then we found each other, got sober, and built something extraordinary. With ADHD creativity fueling our ideas, we made one video that changed everything—going viral and creating a community of over 5 million people.
In this episode, we’ll share the highs, the lows, and the hilarious moments that made us a dream team. Plus, why we believe ADHD can be both a disability and a superpower—and how the right support can help anyone change their life.
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LATE BLOOMERS - trailer
31 december 2024 · 1 min
Introducing “LATE BLOOMERS”, the podcast where Rich and Rox Pink—self-proclaimed experts in messing up life—share their raw and unfiltered journey from barely surviving to thriving. Lees meer
Between them, they’ve
• Drowned in debt
• Battled addictions
• Survived multiple divorces
• Quit countless jobs
• Faced severe mental health strugglesNow, with over 5 million followers and two Sunday Times bestselling books, they’re here to prove that no matter how messy life gets, it’s never too late to turn it around.
Tune in for candid conversations and hard-earned lessons for a no bullsh*t guide to personal growth.