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Ep. 211: Hard? Too Hard? For PARENTS!!!
4 maart 2025 · 30 min
We talk a lot about hard very too hard for your kids (thanks Amanda Diekman for that hard vs. too hard language!). Lees meer
But have you considered applying that concept to yourself?
This is intensive parenting! Far beyond when parenting is supposed to get less intensive, you’re still giving super-hero level scaffolding, supervision and co-regulation - and it’s a LOT!
In this episode, you’ll learn
How to assess for when it’s just TOO hard- for YOU!
The importance of making an owl-brain decision about things being too hard (or not)
Ways to increase support at the same time as you lower demands for yourself
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Enabling vs. Low-Demand podcast
Amanda Diekman - Low Demand Parenting on Instagram
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/toohard
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{BONUS} Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior- webinar replay
28 februari 2025 · 55 min
This BONUS episode is the audio from my FREE webinar, Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior. Lees meer
This webinar aired lived on 02/04/2025.
You can watch the video webinar for free over at https://RobynGobbel.com/webinar
You can also download the free, accompanying resources, including: eBook, fridge sheets about the Owl, Watchdog, and Possum, all the slides as handouts, and some additional accompanying infographics.
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Ep 210: Sabotage and Being Set Up
25 februari 2025 · 37 min
It’s very common to feel like our kids are either intentionally sabotaging good things or that they are purposefully setting us up to be mad or disappointed or to have to say no. Lees meer
You aren’t imagining this phenomenon!
All humans do it, but our kids with vulnerable nervous system and big, baffling behaviors may seem like they do it more often.
In this episode, you’ll learn
The neuroscience behind WHY our kids sabotage situations or set us up to be dysregulated
What they are really doing (and it’s actually full of hope)
How we might respond differently that could actually change their brai
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Rupture Repair podcast episode
Match the Energy not the Dysregulation podcast episode
Regulated, not Calm podcast episode
Brilliant of Attachment podcast series & eBook, which goes deeper into the concept of hope vs. expectation
Read the full transcript at:RobynGobbel.com/setup
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Ep. 209: No One is Coming to Save Us
18 februari 2025 · 44 min
It took me a looooooong time to really truly believe and understand that- no one is coming to save me. Lees meer
I had to do the hard work to take responsibility for my own triggers, my own nervous system, my own change. This only happened after oodles and oodles of safety, connection, and co-regulation.
Maybe you, like me, have held onto the hope that someone else will fix this. Your child will change, you’ll get the services you need, something will happen and everything will get better.
Maybe this journey through some of the intimate moments of my own healing journey can assist you on your’s.
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/saveus
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Ep. 208: Bravely Being With Grief with Rose LaPiere
11 februari 2025 · 51 min
Rose LaPiere LPC, RPT-S, and ACS invites into a space of safety and connection so we can make room for grief. Rose brings her own experiences of grief to her work as a play therapist (and co-leader in Robyn’s immersive training program for parenting professionals, Being With) so she can bravely welcome in, and be with, her client’s big, at times overwhelming, feelings. Lees meer
In this episode, you’ll learn
The importance of authenticity, naming, and acknowledge even really really hard feelings
The role of playfulness is processing grief
The importance of self-compassion for the grown-ups and therapists supporting kids and families in their grief
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Rose's Website! - RoseLaPiere.com
Read the full transcript at: https://robyngobbel.com/griefinfamilies/
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Ep. 207: Is It Time to Raise the Bar?
4 februari 2025 · 41 min
You’ve lowered stress and demands. You’ve reframed your child’s behavior as a response from their autonomic nervous system. You’ve worked hard to help your child’s stress response system rest and begin to heal Lees meer
Now what?
In this episode, you’ll learn
How rest is only one part of the healing process
The importance of reintroducing stress
The difference between stress that prompts growth and stress that leads to injury and burn-out
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Stress Response System {EP 94}
Scaffolding Felt Safety {EP 205}
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/RaiseTheBar
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Ep. 206: Punishment Free Parenting with Jon Fogel
28 januari 2025 · 1 uur 8 min
Jon Fogel is a dad who combined his passion for parenting, neuroscience, and impacting the world to create a viral social media account (@wholeparent) and then to publish his book, Punishment-Free Parenting. Lees meer
Jon and I get lost in some pretty deep topics together, including
How he helps parents make huge parenting shifts
How parenting with punishment relies on a pretty pessimistic view of humanity
Boundaries vs. Consequences vs. Punishments
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Punishment Free Parenting by Jon Fogel
Jon’s Instagram: Whole Parent
Dive into these topics further on past Baffling Behavior Show episodes
Boundaries Series (ep. 111, 113, & 115)
Ep. 56: But what about a consequence
Ep. 134 What if Trauma Informed Isn’t?
Ep. 54: Has Trauma Informed Become another Behavior Modification Technique?
Ep. 30: Trauma Behavior? Or just acting up?
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/punishmentfree
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Ep. 205: Scaffolding Felt Safety
21 januari 2025 · 58 min
How do we help kids feel safe when they are safe? How do we help them take in the safety that exists in their life when their life experiences seem to have convinced them that nothing is safe. Lees meer
Scaffolding. Yes, we can scaffold felt safety.
My recovery from a very serious back injury left me pondering the importance of felt safety in taking risks and the necessity of scaffolding felt safety.
In this episode, you’ll learn
The importance of relationship in felt safety
How even felt safety must be scaffolded for folx who don’t have a lot of experience being safe in relationship
How amazing it is that our hurt kids risk relationship at all, and how it makes sense that sometimes they won’t
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/scaffoldingfeltsafety
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Ep. 204: The Way of Play with Dr. Tina Payne Bryson
14 januari 2025 · 56 min
Play makes kids stronger. It’s necessary for their physical and emotional development, and even their academic development. Play helps kids work through and make sense of hard things. Lees meer
A few months ago I went searching for a resource that teaches parents some of skills I used as a play therapist because I am passionate about breaking down barriers and teaching these skills to as many adults as possible- not just therapists.
Tina Payne Bryson’s newest book (co-authored with Georgie Wisen-Vincent), The Way of Play, is exactly this resource.
It was a delight to connect with Dr. Payne Bryson and get a sneak peek into her new book, The Way of Play.
In this episode, you’ll learn
Why play is so important
The 7 Strategies in PlayStrong Parenting
How to Bring Emotions to Life
How to Make Yourself a Mirror
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Dr. Tina Payne Bryson’s website
The Way of Play new book- preorder by January 20
The Way of Play PreOrder Bonus Virtual Event Registration
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/wayofplay
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REPLAY: Living with Someone Chronically Dysregulated
9 januari 2025 · 30 min
Do you live with someone or love someone who is chronically dysregulated? Lees meer
This episode isn’t an episode that is going to tell you what to do.
This is an episode of commiseration. Of “I see you.”
It is exhausting to live with someone who is chronically unhappy, or chronically dysregulated. Knowing you’re not alone can help.
In this episode, you’ll learn
How nervous systems match each other
How we get our sense of safety from the state of each other’s nervous system
The serve & return and rhythms of relationship, and what happens when that gets disrupted
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Self-Regulation Doesn’t Exist!!
When Parenting Is Traumatic {EP 95}
Felt Safety (Between) - Part 3 {EP 163}
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/chronicallydysregulated
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REPLAY: Silliness as a Sign of Dysregulation
7 januari 2025 · 45 min
Have you ever felt confused by your child’s silly behavior? It seems like they are having fun, but it doesn’t feel good at all? Lees meer
In this episode, you’ll learn
How to tell the difference between fun-silly and dysregulated-silly
What’s going on in the brain and nervous system for a child who is dysregulated-silly
Practical ideas for how to support your child returning to regulation, connection, and felt safety
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
The Connected Therapist by Marti Smith
Join The Club! Watch Marti's Master Class! - robyngobbel.com/theclub
Marti’s video podcast & lycra tutorials: https://martiot.podbean.com/
What Does Vulnerable Nervous System Mean? {EP 122}
Match The Energy, NOT The Dysregulation {Ep 155}
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/silliness
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REPLAY: You Aren't Doing it Wrong
31 december 2024 · 36 min
You aren’t parenting wrong. It’s not your fault. Asking “What am I doing wrong?” is the wrong question! Here’s what be curious about instead. Lees meer
In this episode, you’ll learn:
That you’re not doing it wrong (well, not any more wrong than anyone else)
A more helpful to question to ask ourselves when our kids are struggling
Why having kids who are never dysregulated isn’t the goal
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Robyn's book: https://robyngobbel.com/bafflingbook
Influence Behaviors, Not Control https://robyngobbel.com/influencebehaviors/Read a the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/notdoingitwrong
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REPLAY: Grief in Parenting
26 december 2024 · 39 min
Robyn explores the grief in parenting kids with vulnerable nervous systems Lees meer
In this episode, you’ll learn:
The relationship between trauma and grief
Why it's important to make space for grief in our kids and in ourselves
The role of self-compassion
How a lack of media representation of your parenting journey causes grief
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Robyn's book: https://robyngobbel.com/bafflingbookRead a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/grief
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REPLAY: Not Flipping Your Lid...When Your Kid Flips Theirs
24 december 2024 · 35 min
How do we not flip our lids when our kids are going bananas? It's HARD. Because dysregulation is quite literally contagious!! And if we flip our lids too then it's usually pretty hard to deescalate the situation. Offering connection, regulation, and felt-safety to our kids is a lot easier if we don't flip our lids! (Although for sure- perfection in parenting is never ever ever required and sometimes, I flip my lid, too!) Lees meer
In this episode, we will look at steps you can take- IN THE MOMENT- of a stressful parenting experience (assuming no one is in literal danger!) that will help you stay regulated (not calm!) so you can tackle the real problem. The real problem is probably your child's regulation, connection, and/or felt-safety!
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You can read a blog article that has all the steps written out here (sometimes it's easier to remember things in writing!): www.RobynGobbel.com/notflippingyourlidIf you are new to this model of brain-based parenting, you can watch my free 45 minute masterclass on Regulation, Connection, and Felt-Safety here: www.RobynGobbel.com/masterclass
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REPLAY: Felt Safety (Between) - Part 3
19 december 2024 · 51 min
Cues of safety, danger, or life threat come from three places- inside, outside, and between. Lees meer
In part 3 of this series on felt safety, we are exploring felt safety from between- from relationship!
In this episode, you’ll learn
How availability of connection is a cue of safety or danger
How neuroception can tell the state of the other person’s nervous system (connection or protection?)
Why nervous systems are contagious
How ‘between’ cues of safety eventually become ‘inside’ cues of safety
How you can increase your own experience of safety even when you are parenting children in stuck in chronic procession mode
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Connection Or Protection??? {Ep 7}
When Your Nervous System Is Fried {Ep 139}
Influence Behaviors, Not Control {Ep 101}
Amanda Diekman’s Book! - Low-Demand Parenting
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/feltsafetybetween
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REPLAY: Felt Safety (Outside) - Part 2
18 december 2024 · 43 min
In this second episode of a three-part series on felt safety, we are going to explore all the ways our kids (and ourselves) are neuroceiving safety or danger from what’s happening in the environment. Lees meer
In this episode, you’ll learn
Misconceptions about felt safety
External (outside) cues of felt safety, such as the environment, sensory experiences, structure, and environmental demands
What we do with this information
Free Multi-Page Infographic all about Felt Safety! CLICK HERE
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
What Does Co-Regulation Really Look Like? {Ep 81}
Focus On The Nervous System To Change Behavior {Ep 84}
Connection Or Protection??? {Ep 7}
Marti’s Book! - The Connected Therapist
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REPLAY: Felt Safety (Inside) - Part 1
17 december 2024 · 51 min
Let’s go back to basics! Last week we talked about seeing behavior through the lens of the nervous system and then took a deep-dive into co-regulation. Lees meer
This week begins a three-part deep-dive into the foundational concept of felt safety.
What is felt safety, what isn’t felt safety, and why it matters!
Next we will explore the many different ways we are all neuroceiving safety (or not) from our inner world.
In this episode, you’ll learn
Misconceptions about felt safety
Internal cues of felt safety, such as hunger, illness, or being in chronic protection mode
What we do with this information
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Focus On the Nervous System to Change Behavior {Ep 84}
What Does Co-Regulation Really Look Like? {Ep 81}
Connection or Protection??? {Ep 7}
Enabling Vs. Low-Demand Parenting {Ep 144}
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EP 203: An Underwhelming Grand Reveal!
10 december 2024 · 10 min
Hey everyone, this is Alex, Robyn's son and podcast editor. To be 100% honest, we forgot to record a podcast for this week. Luckily, I have stepped in to fill the podcast void and to make my grand reveal! Lees meer
In this episode, you’ll learn
What my voice sounds like!
Why we didn't get a new episode out for y'all.
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EP 202: Low-Demand Holidays
3 december 2024 · 43 min
We think a lot about how to lower demands for our kids, but in this episode we’re going to talk about how we can lower demands for ourselves, specifically during the holiday season. Lees meer
Regardless of where you live in the world and what holidays you do or don’t celebrate, it’s hard to avoid the extra stress that comes in December.
In this episode, you’ll learn
How to look at traditions or expectations and consider which ones to prioritize
How to increase felt safety- for you and your kids- at holiday events, travel, or expectations
How to set boundaries
How to offer yourself compassion if setting boundaries feels really hard
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EP 201: Walking on Eggshells
26 november 2024 · 34 min
Living with someone with a vulnerable nervous system almost certainly leaves you feeling like you are walking on eggshells. Lees meer
It’s that sense of not knowing what’s going to happen next, having to tread lightly, and being constantly at risk of making a misstep that will trigger the other person.
In today’s episode, we are going to break down the neurobiology of walking on eggshells and talk about what you can do to shift out of this pattern- even if you can’t change the other person’s behavior.
In this episode, you’ll learn
The neurobiology of that ‘walking on eggshells’ feeling
How to consider the possibility of feeling safe when you are safe
The impossible set-up our brain puts us in that leaves us stuck feeling like we are walking on eggshells- and what to do about it
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
All Behavior Makes Sense {EP 198}
Gratitude For Our Watchdog & Possums Parts {EP 200}
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Ep. 200!: Gratitude for Our Watchdog & Possum Parts
19 november 2024 · 37 min
In this special 200th episode, we’re exploring how to bring compassion, curiosity, and gratitude to our kids’ (and our own) “Watchdog” and “Possum” parts as overworked companions trying their best to help us survive. With acceptance and understanding, we can help these parts rest and integrate, creating space for true change. Lees meer
We also look at the unique challenges parents face, especially when dealing with intense behaviors, and how building compassion for these protective parts—not the behaviors themselves—can help us navigate parenting with more calm, empathy, and hope.
Believe it or not- over time, this practice of seeing our inner worlds differently can transform not only our lives but the lives of our children and our communities.
Main Takeaways:
Recognize Protective Parts with Compassion: Our “Watchdog” and “Possum” parts, which are defensive instincts, need compassion and gratitude, not elimination. Understanding these parts as overworked rather than problematic can lead to healthier integration and self-acceptance.
Parenting from Compassionate Curiosity: Challenging behaviors in children can often lead to frustration. By developing curiosity and compassion for our kids’ protective parts, parents can respond with empathy and help these parts feel safe, which reduces the intensity of the behaviors over time.
The Power of Community and Practice: Change takes time and commitment, and practicing compassion and gratitude—even in small amounts—can lead to significant transformations in ourselves, our relationships, and our communities. The journey is gradual, but even small shifts create powerful results.
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
EVERYONE Has A Watchdog and Possum Brain! {EP 178}
All Behavior Makes Sense {EP 198}
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/gratitude
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Ep. 199: Scaffolding Relational Skills as Brain Skills with Eileen Devine
12 november 2024 · 1 uur 7 min
The brain is the brain is the brain. All behaviors have their origin in the brain. But for some behaviors, it is easy to lose sight of this important truth. Lees meer
Behaviors that would be easy to label as manipulative or controlling or selfish just feel so personal! But if we can remember that even relational skills are brain-based skills, we can reclaim our empathy, set boundaries, and offer the scaffolding or accommodations necessary to help our child be successful.
In this episode, you’ll learn
How to break down relational skills as brain-based skills
How to scaffold or accommodate relational brain-based skills
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
NEW!!!! Brain-First Parenting Podcast! With Eileen Devine
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/relationalskills
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REPLAY: Titrating Connection (Oppositional Series - Part 4)
5 november 2024 · 48 min
In this episode, I unravel how to extend connection to our children while acknowledging that some might see this connection as a threat. I offer insights on toning down the demand for connection, enabling our children to relax in it, and thereby strengthen their stress response system. I also reference the previous episodes in this four-part series by talking about the science of opposition, some practical strategies, and tackling kids stuck in protection mode, all with the aim of providing a comprehensive understanding of making connection a safe experience. Lees meer
In this episode you’ll learn:
That providing too much connection can often be overwhelming and feel more like danger than connection
To titrate connection and supply only as much as the child needs or wants
Showing your child you think of them when are not together like buying their favorite snack, titrates connection by showing that you are thinking of them and you see them
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Exploring Low Demand Parenting: Shifting Power Dynamics And Nurturing Trust {EP 142}
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REPLAY: When Connection isn't Safe (Oppositional Series - Part 3)
29 oktober 2024 · 40 min
If offering safety and connection is the antidote to oppositional behavior, what do you do if connection isn’t experienced as safe or regulating by your child? Lees meer
In this episode you’ll learn:
How connection and protection can get tied together
How to keep offering connection, even when it’s consistently rejected by your child
The science behind why YOU need to be receiving connection - and how you can do that even if you don’t have a lot of extra time or supportive people in your life
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Regulated Does Not Equal Calm {Ep 31}
Match The Energy, NOT The Dysregulation {Ep 155}
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REPLAY: Strategies for Oppositional Behavior (Oppositional Series - Part 2)
22 oktober 2024 · 48 min
Last week we talked about the science of oppositional behavior. This week, let’s look at strategies to help children rest into felt safety so their nervous system feels better and their oppositional protective strategies can decrease. Lees meer
In this episode you’ll learn:
An invitation to consider some of our cultural beliefs around opposition in the parent/child relationship
How to use our grown-up brains to invite connection and cooperation
Strategies for creating felt safety in the child's inner world
Strategies for creating felt safety in the child's environment
Strategies for creating felt safety in the relationship
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
When Your Nervous System Is Fried {Ep 139}
Neuroimmune Disorders And Big, Baffling, Behaviors With Dr. Qazi Javed {Ep 97}
What To Do After We Mess Up {Ep 80}
Parenting Superpower! X-ray Vision {Ep 13}
Self-Compassion Will Change Your Brain {Ep 8}
Neuroimmune Podcast Series!~ robyngobbel.com/neuroimmuneseries
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/oppositional2
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REPLAY: Oppositional And Defiant Behavior (Oppositional Series - Part 1)
15 oktober 2024 · 48 min
What if oppositional behavior is a normal response to feeling unsafe? In this episode, we unfold the layers of oppositional behavior and its roots in the nervous system. We look into the diagnostic complexities of Oppositional Defiant Disorder and dive into how our own state of the nervous system is important in helping our children navigate their Watchdog and Possum pathways. Lees meer
In this episode you’ll learn:
That even oppositional behaviors make total sense
Spending a lot of time in protection mode is hard on the body
Changing the behavior is not the goal- regulation, connection, and felt safety is
The diagnosis of Oppositional Defiance Disorder is just a label- we have to stay curious about the causes for treatment
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Start Here Podcasts - robyngobbel.com/starthere
When Your Nervous System Is Fried {Ep 139}
Focus On The Nervous System To Change Behavior {Ep 84}
Connection or Protection {Ep 7}
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/oppositional1
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Ep. 198: All Behavior Makes Sense
8 oktober 2024 · 49 min
All behavior makes sense and no behavior is maladaptive- in the moment that behavior emerges. Lees meer
Of course, the IMPACT of the behavior might be maladaptive and absolutely many behaviors need to change.
But understanding that all behavior makes perfect sense at the moment it emerges is the lynchpin in offering folks co-regulation, connection, and felt-safety.
In this episode, you’ll learn
How all brains create reality
The brain’s most important job
The most effective path to take if you want to see behavior change
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EP 197: How Can the Club Help Me?
4 oktober 2024 · 41 min
It’s really important to me and my team that you have all the information you might need when making the decision to join The Club- or not. Lees meer
The Club is open for new members now, October 1-8, 2024, and I recorded this episode based on some of the most commonly asked questions
In this episode, you’ll learn
What The Club even is and why it’s different than other parenting communities
What’s included in your Club membership (so much!)
How easy it is to access and participate in The Club
How easy it is to step away from The Club whenever you’re ready
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EP 196: Whiplash! When a Meltdown Comes Outta Nowhere
1 oktober 2024 · 37 min
Whiplash. You probably know what I mean. You start to be lulled into a life with fewer meltdowns, or less intensity. Then BOOM. An old behavior seems to explode out of nowhere. Lees meer
You’re right back to feeling like everything’s awful or it’ll never get better or you’ll have to live like this forever.
You might even be frustrated with yourself that you let yourself ‘relax.’
All of these experiences are completely normal for folks who love someone with a chronic condition that occasionally flares- which is what a vulnerable nervous system is.
In this episode, you’ll learn
The whiplash and why we feel it
Why our kids seem to attack outta no where
Why these moments feel like everything is as worse as ever- but it probably isn’t
Why it’s GOOD we can finally rest, even if it does leave us feeling unprotected and whiplashed
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EP 195: Self Regulation Doesn't Exist (2nd Edition)
24 september 2024 · 38 min
If self-regulation doesn't really exist- then what do we mean when we talk about self-regulation? And why does it matter? Lees meer
In this episode, you’ll learn
What self-regulation REALLY is
How “self” regulation develop
Why you should still teach self-regulation skills
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
What Does Co-Regulation Really Look Like? {EP 81}
Self-Regulation Doesn't Exist!!! (ep 43)
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EP 194: Improving Connections Between Home and School with Jessica Sinarski
17 september 2024 · 1 uur
We could never have too many ideas about how to cultivate connections between home and school. Author of Light Up the Learning Brain (and Riley the Brave) Jessica Sinarski shares practical ideas that can help parents and schools work together to support kids with vulnerable nervous systems. Lees meer
In this episode, you’ll learn
Practical, easy-to-implement strategies to create connections between parents and teachers
Why regulation is foundational for learning
Where to find resources that support educators in creating a culture of compassion
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Light Up the Learning Brain
Supporting Kids Who Struggle with Change
www.BraveBrains.com
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Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/improvingconnections
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EP 193: Why So Controlling?
10 september 2024 · 40 min
Parenting kids with vulnerable nervous systems is practically synonymous with “controlling.” Our kids are controlling and for most of us, if we were honest, we’d notice that the stress of parenting is causing us to get controlling, too. Lees meer
Why?
In this episode, you’ll learn
Why protection mode almost always leads to an increase in controlling behavior
How controlling behavior is an attempt to find safety and connection
Tips on how to offer co-regulation to a child who is attempting to control you
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Connection or Protection??? {EP 7}
Scaffolding is a Form of Co-Regulation {EP 82}
Stress Response System {EP 94}
Exploring Low-Demand Parenting: Shift Power Dynamics and Nurturing Trust {EP 142}
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/controlling
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EP 192: Is Co-Regulation Just Coddling??
3 september 2024 · 39 min
Almost every time I teach, especially if there are folks in the audience not already familiar with my work or the concept of co-regulation, someone asks the very valid question of- Lees meer
“Isn’t this (co-regulation) just coddling?”
Fair question! There are a lot of underlying assumptions and fears in this question that we will deconstruct in today’s episode.
Spoiler: Co-regulation is NOT coddling!
In this episode, you’ll learn
The difference between co-regulation and coddling
Why asking this question helps us understand some of our fears
What trust has to do with co-regulation
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Self-Regulation Doesn't Exist!!
What Does Co-Regulation Really Look Like? {EP 81}
Enabling vs. Low-Demand Parenting {Ep 144}
Read the full transcript at:RobynGobbel.com/coddling
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REPLAY: When Your Child Won't Talk About Their Watchdog and Possum Brain
27 augustus 2024 · 52 min
This episode originally aired on November 7th, 2023 Lees meer
Does your child yell, scream, or otherwise refuse to talk about their owl, watchdog, or possum brain?
They tell you it’s stupid or tell you to stop talking or get extra silly or just don’t talk?
I hear this from a LOT of parents (and I experienced it a lot in the play therapy room).
This doesn’t mean it doesn’t work for your child. Promise.
In this episode you’ll learn:
The developmental milestones needed before a child can identify or talk about their owl, watchdog, or possum brain
How we can use our kids’ behavior as cues/clues to let us know something about their brain development and what interventions are appropriate (clinical reasoning)
The role of distress tolerance
Steps to take to scaffold your child in developing self-reflection and mindsight, as well as decrease shame around their behavior
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Can I Teach My Child About Their Brain? {Ep 114}
Healing Blocked Care With Melissa Corkum and Lisa Qualls {Ep 123}
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/talkaboutwatchdog
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REPLAY: Can I Teach My Child About Their Brain?
20 augustus 2024 · 25 min
This episode originally aired February 17th, 2023 Lees meer
I’ve been listening for a while and the watchdog and possum brain ideas have really helped me. Is it OK to teach this to my kids too? I’m worried they’ll start using it as excuses.
I get this question all the time! If we teach our kids about the watchdog and possum brain are they going to start saying things like “My watchdog brain made me hit my sister!”
In this episode, I:
Outline the benefits of teaching our kids about their brain (there are lots)
Teach you what to do if your child uses it as an excuse
Recommend resources for how to teach your child about their brain
Welcome to Fridays in February Q&As! I'll be answering one question every Friday in February.
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EP 191: Helping Siblings with Verbal Aggression
13 augustus 2024 · 43 min
Does your child with a vulnerable nervous system say mean, hurtful, taunting, or aggressive things to your other kids? You already know you can’t control what comes out of someone else’s mouth, so what do you do??? How do you help your kids deal with their sibling’s verbal aggression? Lees meer
In this episode, you’ll learn
Steps to help increase your children’s psychological boundaries
Activities that will help your children increase their psychological boundaries
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Setting Boundaries That Sick - Juliane Taylor Shore's book!
Boundaries with Verbal Aggression with Juliane Taylor Shore {EP 115}
Setting Boundaries That Stick With Juliane Taylor Shore and Therapist Uncensored {EP 185}
Helping Siblings Understand "Unfair" Parenting {EP 186}
Teach Siblings about Owls, Watchdogs, and Possums... Without Excusing! {EP 187}
Grief as the Sibling of a Child with Special Needs {EP 188}
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/siblingsverbalaggression
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EP 190: When Two (or more) Kids Are Dysregulated at Once!
6 augustus 2024 · 42 min
What on earth should you do when you have more than one child dysregulated at the same time? You’re outnumbered, you’re overwhelmed. Now what? Lees meer
In this episode, you’ll learn
The #1 step to take when more than one kid is dysregulated
What to prioritize
How to have realistic expectations for yourself
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Child Always Dysregulated? Try This! {EP 18}
Stress Response System {EP 94}
Enabling vs. Low-Demand Parenting {EP 144}
Grief as the Sibling of a Child with Special Needs {EP 188}
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/twokidsdysregulated
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EP 189: How to Help Siblings During a Meltdown
30 juli 2024 · 38 min
If you are a regular listener here on The Baffling Behavior Show, big, baffling behaviors and big meltdowns are no longer surprising in your home. Lees meer
Even if we can’t predict those moments of 'Back-Off or, 'Attack' Watchdog, "Shut Down' or, 'Play Dead' Possum, we can predict that it is going to happen again.
You can create felt safety for the other children in your home by making a plan.
In this episode, you’ll learn
Key things to consider when making a plan for what siblings should do during a meltdown
Scripts for how to talk to your other children about the plan
How to empower siblings to get help when they recognize lower level cues and clues of the watchdog or possum pathway in their sibling
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior {EP 84}
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/helpsiblings
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EP 188: Grief as the Sibling of a Child with Special Needs
23 juli 2024 · 41 min
Grief is hard to acknowledge and talk about. The truth is, there is grief involved with being the sibling of a child with a special need. In today’s episode, we’re exploring how to support the siblings of kids with a nervous system disability with behavior-based symptoms with all their feelings, especially grief. Lees meer
In this episode, you’ll learn
How to validate all your children’s feelings, even when they are really uncomfortable
How to acknowledge the truth that in most circumstances, your other children really are less seen in your family
The four questions to ask yourself when thinking about how to help your kids with their grief
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Grief In Parenting Kids With Vulnerable Nervous Systems {EP 129}
Ableism, Parenting, And Trauma Informed Care {EP 85} (Guest Marshall Lyles)
I HATE YOU! And Other Big Feelings {EP 168}
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/siblinggrief
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EP 187: Teach Siblings about Owls, Watchdogs, and Possums... Without Excusing!
16 juli 2024 · 40 min
One way we can support the siblings of kids with big, baffling behaviors is to teach them about owls, watchdogs, and possums (or some way to understand the brain and behaviors) as well as to teach them about nervous system vulnerabilities and ‘overactive’ watchdog and possum brains! Lees meer
In this episode, you’ll learn
Steps to take when teaching siblings about owls, watchdogs, and possums so they won’t feel like you’re just excusing bad behavior
The importance of validating your kids’ experience that the way you parent their sibling is unfair
A couple scripts for talking to your children about their sibling’s watchdog and possum brain (available on my website by CLICKING HERE)
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Helping Siblings Understand "Unfair" Parenting {EP 186}
Can I Teach My Child About Their Brain? {EP 114}
My Child Won't Talk About Their Watchdog and Possum Brain {EP 160}
EVERYONE Has A Watchdog And Possum Brain! {EP 178}
Is Understand Behavior Just Excusing It? {EP 109}
Enabling Vrs. Low-Demand Parenting {EP 144}
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/teachsiblings
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EP 186: Helping Siblings Understand "Unfair" Parenting
9 juli 2024 · 46 min
Do you have kids who feel like the way you parent their sibling (the one with the worst behavior!!!) is unfair? Lees meer
We’ll be tackling different topics on how to support siblings over the next month.
In this episode, you’ll learn
The five things to consider when thinking about how to help siblings understand ‘unfair’ parenting
Are you parenting all your kids thru the lens of regulation, connection, and felt safety?
Do all your children know about owls, watchdogs, and possums (or some other way to understand the brain and conceptualize behaviors)
Do your school-age and older child understand vulnerable nervous systems and sensitized stress response systems (overactive watchdog and possum brains)
Do your children (siblings of kids with special needs) feel really, truly seen by you?
Is this actually more about unresolved grief (yours and/or theirs)
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Is Understanding Behavior Just Excusing It? {EP 109}
Stress Response System {EP 94}
What Does Vulnerable Nervous System Mean {122}
Grief in Parenting Kids with a Vulnerable Nervous System {EP 129}
Can I teach my kids about their brain? {EP 114}
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/unfair
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EP 185: Setting Boundaries that Stick with Juliane Taylor Shore and Therapist Uncensored
2 juli 2024 · 1 uur 3 min
Something new and unexpected here on The Baffling Behavior Show! Lees meer
This episode is actually from the Therapist Uncensored Podcast with Sue Marriott and Ann Kelley. Sue and Ann interviewed one of y'alls FAVORITES- Juliane Taylor Shore.
Juliane was on The Baffling Behavior Show a long time ago, talking about psychological boundaries and verbal aggression. This is one of my most played episodes EVER.
Juliane just published a new book on boundaries so when Sue and Ann asked if I wanted to do a podcast feed swap, I knew y'all would LOVE to hear from Juliane.
In this episode, you'll hear Sue and Ann interview Juliane all about Setting Boundaries that Stick.
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Setting Boundaries that Stick by Juliane Taylor Shore
Therapist Uncensored Podcast with Sue Marriott and Ann Kelley
Boundaries with Verbal Aggression podcast episode #115 with Juliane Taylor Shore
Read the full transcript at:RobynGobbel.com/boundariesthatstick
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EP 184: How to Not Care what Other People Think
25 juni 2024 · 49 min
Parents of kids with baffling behaviors are CONSTANTLY being judged by others. Lees meer
How do we get to a point where we don’t care as much about what other people think?
In this episode, we’ll explore:
Some of the most common judgments that parents of kids with baffling behaviors receive
How it’s actually not possible to not care at all, but we can care LESS
Three things we can do so that the judgment from others doesn’t impact us as much as it does now
For a script on how to set boundaries with folks expressing judgment, go to: https://RobynGobbel.com/notcare
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
How Self-Compassion Changed Things For This Mom {EP 78}
Influence Behaviors, Not Control {EP 101}
Is Understanding Behavior Just Excusing It? {EP 109}
Boundaries With Verbal Aggression With Juliane Taylor Shore {EP 115}
Secure Relating With Guests Sue & Ann From Therapist Uncensored {EP 175}
Juliane's Book! : Setting Boundaries That Stick
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/notcare
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REPLAY: How Behavior Changes
21 juni 2024 · 32 min
“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” ~Carl Rogers Lees meer
You know, one of my favorite things about studying relational neuroscience is discovering the science that proves things we’ve known all along.
Not everyone needs the science, and I know some think the science detracts from the powerful truths that people have been brave enough to say and believe without having science to back it up.
I think both approaches are fine. I just happen to like the science.
And yup, the science backs it up.
Acceptance really is needed if we want behavior to change.
I find this truth to both a bummer and also quite liberating.
How do we accept something without sending the message the it’s ok, no big deal, and there’s no need for it to change?
It’s hard, but possible. You’ll hear my own journey toward this truth and a couple tips on how to do it yourself in this episode.
Read a long summary of this episode here: https://robyngobbel.com/howbehaviorchanges
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EP 183: Is Watchdog and Possum Behavior Always Protective?
18 juni 2024 · 33 min
Do the Watchdog and Possum pathway only activate in protection mode? Are they always protective? Lees meer
NO! It is possible to have safe and connected Watchdog energy and safe and connected Possum energy!
Why does this distinction matter?
In this episode, you’ll learn
What safe and connected watchdog energy feels like
What safe and connected possum energy feels like
Why it’s important to remember we aren’t trying to get rid of the watchdog or the possum- we are trying to help them rest and only work hard when they need to
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Trauma Behavior? Or Just Acting Up? {EP 30}
Focus On The Nervous System To Change Behavior {Ep 84}
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/alwaysprotective
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REPLAY: Scaffolding is a Form of Co-Regulation
14 juni 2024 · 52 min
What does my child need for their success to be inevitable? Lees meer
If I wanted to paint the top of a 20 foot wall, I’d rent some scaffolding. Scaffolding makes the floor higher and would get me as close to the top of the wall as I needed.
The scaffolding would help make my success inevitable. It’s not the only thing I need to be successful (paint would come in handy!), but it’s a really important piece.
In parenting, scaffolding is the support that we put in place that allows our children to be successful. Then, slowly, thoughtful, and sequentially, we decrease the amount of external support needed as our children develop that capacity to be successful on their own.
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Ep 182: There Is Nothing Wrong With You! With Guest Janet Nordine
11 juni 2024 · 56 min
Janet Nordine is a registered play therapist, adoptee, and mental health activist working tirelessly to improve children’s mental health services, specifically in the state of Nevada. Lees meer
Janet has an important message for adoptees that I think is relevant to all kids and families who are supporting kids with vulnerable nervous systems:
There is nothing wrong with you. You’ve done nothing wrong. You can be OK.
In this episode, explore
How to help create ‘good parent messages’ for children who feel unloved and unwanted
Sitting with two conflicting feelings at once
The benefits of falling in love with yourself
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Children’s Mental Wellness Symposium- Las Vegas NV
September 26 - 29, 2024
Details and registration here: https://lasvegasplaytherapy.com/
Good Morning, I Love You by Dr. Shauna Shapiro
Read the full transcript at: https://RobynGobbel.com/NothingWrong
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REPLAY: Co-Regulation Before Self-Regulation
7 juni 2024 · 37 min
Self-regulation is a crucial developmental milestone and I’m thrilled that we are turning our eyes toward self-regulation instead of staying focused on behavior modification through rewards and consequences. At the same time, we must remember that self-regulation is developed through repeated and regular experiences of co-regulation with an attuned, regulated, present caregiver. If children are struggling to use their self-regulation skills, it’s quite possible that they aren’t regulated enough to access those skills. They are getting dysregulated too quickly and need co-regulation before they can be expected to use skills on their own. It is these experiences of coregulation that build the neural circuity for what is ultimately labeled self-regulation...so you don’t need to worry that the continued offering of co-regulation will impede the development of self-regulation- it’s exactly the opposite!!! Lees meer
Humans never outgrow their need for co-regulation! We all need connection and co-regulation! Which is exactly why I've created The Club- a virtual community for parents of kids impacted by trauma!
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EP 181: What's the "Connected Response" to {Insert Specific Difficult Behavior Here}?
4 juni 2024 · 44 min
What’s the connected response to {insert difficult behavior here}?? Lees meer
How do I respond to {insert difficult behavior here} in a connected way???
I get some version of this question almost every day. So, let’s answer it here on the podcast!
In this episode, you’ll learn
What most parents are really asking when they ask ‘what’s the connected response’?
What a connected response really is
How to trust your own intuition to answer that question
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Resources included in the blog summary go here
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EP 180: What's Up With Regression?
28 mei 2024 · 43 min
It’s normal and common for stress and dysregulation to cause kids to act younger than they really are. This happens to grown-ups too! Simply because it’s normal and common doesn’t mean it’s not very frustrating! Lees meer
In this episode, you’ll learn
A neurosequential explanation for regression
How to use regression as a cue or a clue about the state of your child’s nervous system
Ways to respond to regressed behavior that may increase regulation, connection, and felt safety
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
A NueroDevelopmental Approach: Right Intervention, Right Time {EP 47}
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/regression
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Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)