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1. 16 Hard Truths About Why You’re Still Stuck - Hakim Tafari - #028

   3 november 2026 · 1 uur 22 min

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   Hakim Tafari is a Buddhist Scholar and Mindfulness Teacher. Lees meer

   He has collaborated with notable brands that include Nike, Adidas, Lululemon, Jaybird, Whoop, and Google to name a few, bridging an intersection between mindfulness, sports, and social justice.

   But beyond the titles, this is the most open hearted, loving man I have ever met. His heart is that of a man who aliveness is the consequence of having died a thousand deaths on the path to inner liberation. What a magical conversation this was, and I feel honored to be sharing it with you.

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   Chapters

   00:00 Introduction

   01:21 The Seven Awakening Factors

   02:14 How to See Your Life in 4K

   04:42 Energy That Doesn't Come From Coffee

   07:49 Losing His Marriage, Home, and Kids

   11:19 He Chose to Sit Facing a Wall For an Hour

   21:16 Why Rock Bottom is a Powerful Place

   22:35 The Four Divine Abodes

   25:51 Billy on Lacking Compassion for Himself

   33:00 Billy on Trying to Fix Instead of Feel

   34:06 The Second Arrow: Pain vs. Suffering

   35:32 Beginner's Mind and Intergenerational Healing

   37:50 His Daughter at His Father's Deathbed

   42:47 Don't Be Afraid to Soften

   44:51 Billy on Needing a Ritual to Slow Down

   49:22 Billy on Monkey Mind

   50:25 What Tai Chi Teaches About Letting Go

   52:00 Why Meditation Feels Like It's Not Working

   53:08 Billy's Epiphany

   55:56 How You Block Your Own Blessings

   57:04 Make Being With Yourself a Non-Negotiable

   1:00:25 What It Means to Live in the Middle

   1:01:50 Praise, Blame, Gain, and Pain

   1:03:16 Exposing Yourself Over and Over to Annihilation

   1:06:19 Becoming an Ambassador of Awakening

   1:09:58 A Thousand Deaths in Every Breath

   1:11:53 The Four Things That Make Life Harder

   1:13:27 Verified Faith vs. Blind Faith

   1:14:53 Letting It Go in Real Time

   1:19:59 Where to Find Hakim

2. The Good Boy Trap: How to Stop People-Pleasing in Love - Preston Smiles - #027

   27 oktober 2026 · 2 uur 29 min

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   What if the thing you’re most afraid to say out loud is the very thing that would save you? Lees meer

   I opened this conversation with a line from the Gospel of Thomas: “If you bring forth what is within you, what you bring forth will save you. If you do not bring forth what is within you, what you do not bring forth will destroy you.”

   Preston's response was exactly what I didn't know I needed.

   Preston has spent two decades as a transformational coach, speaker and author. He is a father of four, and for more than a decade he’s led The Bridge Experience alongside his wife, Alexi.

   For Preston, bringing forth what’s within you isn’t only about your purpose or your mission. It’s moment to moment. It’s the first hit in your body, and whether you act on it or talk yourself out of it. Every time you override it, you erode trust within yourself.

   So in this conversation we went looking for it. We talked about how we were trained from childhood to outsource our power to our parents, our teachers and our priests long before we knew we were doing it, and why intuition is almost always the first thought, not the fifth. He explained why God, to him, is like electricity, and why the real question is whether you’ve built the infrastructure for what you’re asking for. And he told me how scheduling play into every single day, right in the middle of a launch, doubled his business.

   We talked about brutal honesty versus artful honesty in relationships, what actually creates safety in a woman’s body, why arguing more brought him and his wife closer, and how to hold your ground without people pleasing or running.

   We went deep on money too. Why money is the spoon, not the food. Why he sent back a $30,000 payment from a client he didn’t want to coach. How writing a book called Spiritual Millionaire took him down to his last $20,000. How to pick the one thing that moves the needle and put everything else down. And why he can sit at a table with men who have far more money than him and feel like…

3. Master of Creativity: How to Create Meaningful Art - IN-Q - #026

   19 oktober 2026 · 1 uur 26 min

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   I left this conversation more inspired, uplifted and connected to the texture of my existence than I have felt in a long time.IN-Q is an emmy-nominated poet, multi-platinum songwriter, world renowned keynote speaker, and best-selling author.This is an intimate window into his creative process, the perspective he adopts to create meaningful art, and a live demonstration of a few poems, both his and mine, that have touched the lives of many. It was a pinch me moment to have the opportunity to sit across from and read poetry to a man who has been the core icon I have looked to for inspiration when translating my world into words. I believe you will be touched by this conversation, and if you are, please let me know. I am committed out of my mind to bringing you conversations that offer you a deeper sense of belonging to yourself and the world. It is an honor to have you tuning in. You belong here. - Billy xFollow IN-Q: https://www.instagram.com/inqlife/?hl=enFollow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/?hl=enFollow You Choose Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/?hl=enChapters:0:00 Intro2:05 Having an Alias Gave Him Courage5:09 Inside Out vs. Outside In Creativity6:43 Write What You Wishe Someone Had Said8:26 Finding Flow9:24 Curiosity, Then Passion, Then Purpose12:28 What Does It Mean to Be Human?13:21 Math and Magic: Three Rounds of IVF16:37 The Duty of Finishing a Poem21:23 IN-Q Performs "Life Is All About You"24:36 Is the Art More Important Than the Artist?25:34 Do You Have to Suffer to Create?27:08 Why You Have to Learn Some Lessons Twice28:51 The Nine Breakup Poems30:53 How Your Art Becomes Your Mantra32:15 You Can Tell the Truth and Still Be Lying36:21 Anchors vs. Kites: Family and Success38:35 What a Good Mentor Actually Does39:35 Why Society Looks Up or Down, Not At41:47 IN-Q Performs "Right Before I Die"46:07 How a Single Idea Becomes a Poem48:47 Where "Life Is a Game" Came From50:35 How Long a Poem Takes to Write55:51 Don't Make It G… Lees meer

4. "Lock In" Masterclass: The Full Protocol For Men To Level Up - Santa Cruz Medicinals (Brendan Ruh) - #025

   7 oktober 2026 · 1 uur 59 min

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   Brendan, the founder of Santa Cruz Medicinals, may be the most influential voice in the world for young men right now. He walks down the street and cars pull over so kids can yell "Santa Cruz!" out the window. He funds his own content, he doesn't take the gambling money, and he shows people exactly how he lives. Lees meer

   I didn't sit down with him to talk about supplements. I wanted to talk about the inside of a young man's life, because I believe that's where the real crisis is. The loneliness. A dating world that feels rigged. A brain so cooked by the scroll that it feels nothing and everything at the same time.

   We spoke about larping, looksmaxxing, mogging, mewing, monk mode, rage baiting, sexual market value, AI girlfriends, sports betting and the manosphere itself. A few of his answers surprised me!

   If you're a young man who feels stuck, lonely, or like the game is rigged against you, this one is for you. And if you love one, send it to him.

   I hope you enjoy, and if you do, let me know by liking, commenting, and subscribing to the show.

   I am committed out of my mind to bringing you conversations that alter the direction of your life, leading you to a deeper sense of belonging in the context of the world.

   This episode includes a conversation about those who contemplate taking their life. If you're struggling, you are not alone. In the US, call or text 988 to reach the Crisis Lifeline. Outside the US, findahelpline.com lists free support near you.

   The views expressed are those of the guest, and this conversation is intended for general informational purposes only. It should not be used as a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice.

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   Chapters

   0:00 Mental and Physical Health Are The Same Thing

   1:23 Why Gambling and Alcohol Run the Internet

   4:29 The …

5. Identity Shifting Masterclass: Start A New Life In 9 Months- Charlie Rocket - #024

   30 september 2026 · 2 uur 48 min

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   You are under no obligation to be the same person you were yesterday. Lees meer

   These are Charlie Rocket's recipes for reinvention.

   Not many are more qualified to speak on this than Charlie.

   He got fired twice in the music business, then went on to manage 2 Chainz. At 29, he was 300 pounds with a brain tumor. Nine months later, he was a Nike athlete. He then left that world behind to build a multinational charitable organization called the Dream Machine Foundation, where he travelled the country making people's dreams come true. He has since established himself as a global speaker, and in this episode talks openly about his next phase of reinvention: becoming a NYT Bestselling Author.

   He is a testament to the power of delusional optimism, as well as the profound humility to begin again, time and time again.

   His life is vibrant because he has been willing to choose again when his spirit longs for something new, and this conversation invites you into the 'how' behind it all.

   Enjoy :-)

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   Chapters:

   0:00 Why Charlie Rocket Calls Himself Crazy1:56 The Recipes Behind Every Reinvention4:31 Having a Brain Tumor, 300 Pounds, and Total Loneliness6:40 Why Everything Wrong With You Is a Gift12:18 The Alter Ego Effect14:39 The Science of the Batman Study16:26 The Golden Circle of Identity18:37 Dress the Part, Becoming CEO Charlie22:39 Why Success in Music Left Him Empty27:31 Becoming a Nike Athlete33:13 How Your Reticular Activating System Filters Reality35:18 The Winning Streak38:52 The Backwards Manifestation Method48:41 The Law of 6258:12 The 20 Hour Rule1:02:04 Why Imposter Syndrome Means You're on Track1:07:20 Tell No One or Tell Everyone?1:15:37 Abracadabra: Speaking Nike Into Existence1:20:22 People Treat Your Dream How You Do1:22:27 The $10 Million Dumpster Test 1:28:30 How to Make Embarrassment Your Fuel1:3…

6. The Art of Being Ruthlessly Authentic - Grayson Hart - #023

   22 september 2026 · 2 uur 10 min

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   Grayson Hart had the life we're all told to want. Professional Rugby player, founder of a company worth millions, a wife on the cover of magazines...and he burned it all down in the name of truth.This a public sharing of what years of devotion to truth, authenticity, and the courage to be who you are will afford you.It won't be comfortable, but comfort is never what your soul wanted anyway. Comfort is why you're deeply uncomfortable. As the age old saying goes: The truth will set you free.I KNOW this conversation will touch many people, as it did me. There is nothing more important to a fulfilling life than honoring what's true, even and especially when that truth hurts to admit.Enjoy, and let us know by subscribing and commenting if you do :-)Follow Grayson: https://www.instagram.com/graysonjonhart/Check out Hart Workshop: https://hartworkshop.com/Follow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/Chapters:0:00 Introduction1:35 We Are Not Separate 2:55 The Paradox of Belonging5:05 All You Have to Do Is Be True7:17 Whatever Falls Away Is a Blessing8:25 The Dolphin on the Beach13:17 Reframing the Ten Thousand Hour Rule15:15 Billy on Athletes Who Look Too Relaxed21:15 Conor McGregor and Israel Adesanya26:17 Your Own Being Is Your Home27:08 The First Step to Being True Is Being Fake29:33 How Do You Know What's True?30:12 Truth Is a Knowing, Not a Belief33:51 The Myth of Personal Responsibility40:28 Crazy Story About Boarding School44:30 How Grayson Became Untouchable48:13 Words Are the Least Purveyor of Truth51:47 You Don't Have to Change Anything54:46 Choosing the Hard Truth After 8 Years of Marriage1:00:02 Let It Be a Possibility First, Then Decide1:02:13 Inauthenticity Often Gets Rewarded by the World1:06:51 Be Your Whole Self, Unapologetically1:12:51 Life Will Show You the Answer1:16:15 The Illusion That Love Lives in Another1:19:37 How to Be Charismatic While Inside a Committed Relationship1:21:12 Stop Giving Your Energy Away1:30:52 Making Love to the Universe… Lees meer

7. The 3 RULES for getting EVERYTHING You Want - Koa Smith - #022

   15 september 2026 · 1 uur 25 min

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   This may be my favorite conversation we've had on the show so far. Koa Smith is a professional surfer who made a name for himself chasing the biggest and most beautiful waves on earth and capturing them on camera. His career and life was dramatically altered when a collision with a reef caused a traumatic brain injury. He lost his memory, sense of self and fell into a deep depression. This is a conversation on identity, on intimacy, and on integrity. It's about learning to feel again, dissolving the illusion of separate between you and another, but also between you and everything you desire. There aren't many people more equipped to talk about death, about discovering inner peace amidst chaos, and about learning how to find purpose in life again. We talk about 3 rules for life that were given to him by a shaman, 2 words that keep you from having what you desire, and 1 way of being (Hint: trying to figure it out) that keeps us in endless suffering. We also deep dive on the modalities that have changed his life, Transcendental Meditation, Psychedelics, Joe Dispenza...and the most important one, CHOICE. I am reminded that the tools are only as effective as we choose to be with the information that is revealed. That is why life is the ceremony, and the rest are just companions supporting our awareness. After awareness always comes choice, and we must CHOOSE differently if we wish to witness new and better circumstances for our life. Enjoy, and if you do, please subscribe to the show. The chances are, if not subscribed, you will miss future episodes that, I will assert, are life altering. I am grateful for all the love and support. Follow Koa: https://www.instagram.com/koasmith/?hl=enJoin Koa's Community "Spaceship to Many": https://www.skool.com/spaceshiptomany/about?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bioFollow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/?hl=enFollow the Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/?hl=enChapters0:00 Introduc… Lees meer

8. #021 - Elliot Bewick - 21 Year Old Atheist: "There is a Rise in Performative Christianity"

   8 september 2026 · 1 uur 37 min

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   Does God exist? Are all these Christian people genuine? Is Christianity the way? Are SSRIs and antidepressants harmful? What even is depression? Can I out-will the algorithm? How can I retrain myself to focus? Lees meer

   If any of these sound like questions you are asking, give the next 97 minutes your full attention.

   Elliot Bewick is a 21 year old atheist and the host of The Next Generation, a podcast for...you guessed it.

   I hope you enjoy, and if you do, let me know by liking, commenting, and subscribing to the show.

   I am committed out of my mind to bringing you conversations that alter the direction of your life, leading you to a deeper sense of belonging in the context of the world.

   The views expressed are those of the guest, and this conversation is intended for general informational purposes only. It should not be used as a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice. Never stop or change prescribed medication without speaking to your doctor.

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   CHAPTERS:

   0:00 Why He Hid the Bible

   1:28 Why Gen Z Is Flocking to the Pews

   2:34 We Have No Blueprint Anymore

   4:17 The Two Questions That Give Life Meaning

   8:33 What If There Is No Meaning?

   10:29 What Happens When You Kill God

   11:58 Is Being an Atheist Good for Marketing?

   13:15 Christianity Would Be Better for Marketing

   14:46 The Rise of the Performative Christian

   16:58 "Try Harder. You Don't Love Jesus."

   20:27 Nobody Ever Knows That God Is Real

   21:14 Faith Is the Whole Point

   22:15 Ram Dass and the Insane Asylum

   24:31 What Is Love Without God?

   24:50 How Many Women Are on Antidepressants

   25:42 Nobody Knows What Depression Is

   26:19 The Chemical Imbalance Was Invented

   29:23 His Friend, the Meds and the Breakup

   32:24 19 Yr Old Girl DM's Elliot About Zoloft

   33:18 She Couldn't Feel Anything

   34:09 Where Most Sexual Dysfunctio…

9. #020 - Adam Jackson - Why Most Men Can't Love One Woman Fully

   1 september 2026 · 1 uur 14 min

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   If you have ever looked at a man you love and wondered what is actually going on in there, watch this. If you are raising a boy and you can feel the internet reaching him faster than you can, watch this. If you are still carrying something left unsaid with your own father, watch this for the way through. And if you're a man who has done years of work on himself and still feels broken, watch this. Lees meer

   There is a way back...and it isn't more discipline.

   Adam Jackson is the cofounder of the largest men's work organization in the world, Sacred Sons. Over 20,000 men have made their way through the Sacred Sons programming.

   There are few people more equipped to talk about men than this man.

   Expect to learn why combat is important for men, what twenty thousand men have actually admitted to him behind closed doors, why he doesn't fully trust men and what he means by that, the most important parts of manhood, of fatherhood, and of true intimacy in relationships.

   This is a timely message for anyone with a boy or. man in their life. If you listen all the way through, you'll leave with clear tools for a more empowered existence.

   Enjoy!

   CHAPTERS:0:00 Intro0:04 The Violence Already Exists4:19 The Men Who Don't Fight, Fight in Other Ways10:44 The One Thing More Important Than Honesty15:13 It All Comes Back to Mom17:01 "I Don't Know If I Trust Men"20:58 The Harm Is Happening Inside Your Own Home24:40 Why the Uncles Have to Be Cool29:15 Billy: "Part of Me Is Stuck in Boyhood"30:42 You Cannot Initiate Yourself38:18 Why He Tells His Brothers to Have More Children41:39 They Don't Stop Loving You45:48 Protect Your Children From Yourself49:40 What a Child Actually Needs From a Father53:52 The Way Back to Your Father Is Gratitude55:59 The Age of Ancestral Amnesia59:32 The Moment He Repeated the Pattern1:02:18 The One Message Men Need From Women1:05:39 Love One Woman Completely1:08:00 Choose Wisely

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10. #019 - Jules Horn - You Can't Think Your Way to Peace. Here's How to Actually Find It

    25 augustus 2026 · 1 uur 21 min

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    If you are like me and have spent the majority of your life not feeling at home inside your own skin, this conversation is for you. Lees meer

    Jules Horn spent over a decade as THE model. Chanel in Paris with Karl Lagerfeld. Magazine covers with Nicki Minaj holding his photo. Dinner tables with with A-list sitting next to him.

    Yet he calls that entire chapter a bird in a golden cage.

    He was blackout drunk most weekends, burned out flat in bed for days every couple of months, chasing one campaign for ten years that never came, monitoring every way of being in the world in case an agent didn't like his hair.

    Today, he helps people release the tension that they have carried in their fascia for decades, retrain their nervous system for safety and find a comfortable home inside their own skin.

    Jules showed me the perfect way to breathe, we talked about releasing anger and rage, where most people carry tension and how to release it, the rediscovery of God and how he accesses the divine within him.

    We also shine light on the dysfunction of the modeling industry, what he was really chasing and how he has transitioned from an endless pursuit of external validation to a love like no other, not from the world, but within himself.

    If you have been trying to think your way into peace, this episode is the other door. It's free, it's always with you, and you have the opportunity through this conversation to touch a felt sense of peace like never before.I hope you enjoy, and if you do, let me know by liking, commenting, and subscribing to the show.I am committed out of my mind to bringing you conversations that alter the direction of your life, leading you to a deeper sense of belonging in the context of the world.

    Chapters:

    0:00 Intro

    0:12 The Perfect Breath

    2:45 The $150,000 Hyperbaric Chamber Mistake

    7:11 Running Half Marathon Nose Breathing Only

    10:16 God Is Whispering, the Ego Is Yelling

    13:00 A Decade of Modeling and Shallow Breathing

    14:00 Growing Up Without Feeling Lov…

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