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1. #510 The Hard Truth: Erections, Testosterone & Performance with Dr. Rena Malik

   3 november 2026 · 1 uur 11 min

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   What if the secret to a better sex life has less to do with performance—and more to do with your overall health? Lees meer

   This week, we're joined by Dr. Rena Malik, board-certified urologist, pelvic surgeon, and globally recognized sexual health expert whose educational videos have reached more than half a billion views and earned the trust of over 3 million subscribers.

   In this candid, science-backed conversation, Dr. Malik tackles the questions many men think about but are often too embarrassed to ask: Does size really matter? What should you know about testosterone, semen, and prostate health? What actually determines sexual performance? And how can you build a more satisfying, confident, and fulfilling sex life—for the long haul?

   With her signature combination of medical expertise, honesty, and humor, Dr. Malik cuts through misinformation and replaces outdated myths with practical advice men can actually use. From stronger erections and greater stamina to hormone health, mental confidence, and deeper intimacy, this conversation goes far beyond what happens in the bedroom.

   We explore:

   The Pillar Protocol: The simple, science-backed habits that build the foundation for lifelong sexual health, vitality, and performance.

   The Vital Sign Your Doctor Might Be Missing: Why erectile dysfunction can be an early warning sign of heart disease, diabetes, and metabolic dysfunction—and what you can do about it.

   The Performance Formula: Evidence-based strategies to improve erection quality, build stamina, and overcome the anxiety that can undermine sexual confidence.

   Mental Clarity: How porn myths, unrealistic expectations, and performance pressure affect your sex life—and how to reclaim confidence.

   The Truth About Testosterone: What actually lowers testosterone, what doesn't, and how to support healthy hormone levels without falling for the latest wellness fad.

   Better Together: How communication, connection, and practical changes can transform your relationship and create a …

2. #509 Stop People-Pleasing: How to Finally Know Your Worth with Thais Gibson

   27 oktober 2026 · 1 uur 7 min

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   What if being the “easygoing” one, always saying yes, and putting everyone else’s needs first is actually keeping you from knowing your own worth? Lees meer

   In this episode, we sit down with Thais Gibson, counselor, speaker, Ph.D., and founder of The Personal Development School, to explore the hidden connection between people-pleasing, attachment styles, and self-worth. With expertise in over 13 therapeutic modalities, Thais shares her insights into why we develop these patterns, how they show up in our relationships, and what it takes to break free from them.

   We dive into why people-pleasing is so common, how our upbringing can shape our need for approval, and the subtle ways we abandon ourselves to keep others happy. We also explore why even the most reasonable boundaries can feel uncomfortable, and how to recognize when being agreeable comes at the expense of your own needs.

   Plus, we unpack the difference between genuine confidence and conditional self-worth. Why do so many of us measure our value by how useful, successful, attractive, agreeable, or wanted we are? And how can we begin to feel worthy simply because of who we are, rather than what we do for others?

   Thais shares practical tools for building a stronger sense of self-worth, setting boundaries with greater confidence, and creating healthier, more fulfilling relationships. We wrap up with her top tips for strengthening your self-worth and learning to show up as your most authentic self.

   In this episode, we explore:

   What The Personal Development School is all about and Thais’s approach to attachment theory.

   Why people-pleasing develops and how childhood experiences can shape our patterns.

   The obvious and more subtle signs of people-pleasing.

   Why setting boundaries can feel so difficult, even when they’re completely reasonable.

   The difference between genuine confidence and conditional self-worth.

   How even highly successful and seemingly confident people can struggle with feeling worthy.

   Practical tools…

3. #508 True Dominance Starts with Mastering YOU with Justin Adams

   20 oktober 2026 · 1 uur 3 min

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   In this episode, we sit down with Justin Adams, founder of The Dominance Academy, to explore dominance as something far deeper than bedroom technique, power, or performance. A Brooklyn-based practitioner and educator, Justin approaches dominance as a discipline of character rooted in self-authored ethics, ritual, self-awareness, and the responsibility that comes with being trusted by another person. Lees meer

   Drawing on Taoism, Stoicism, and Jungian shadow integration, Justin offers a thoughtful alternative to both Manosphere masculinity and the often-sanitized conversations surrounding mainstream kink culture. We get into the psychology of power, the difference between healthy authority and pathological control, and why true dominance begins with mastering yourself.

   We also unpack nice guy syndrome and how people-pleasing, fear of rejection, and unspoken expectations can undermine confidence, intimacy, and sexual dynamics. Is dominance something every man can benefit from learning, even if he doesn't identify as kinky? And what separates a man who simply likes being in control in the bedroom from someone who understands the responsibility of wielding power?

   From building trust and practicing healthy dominance to exploring how BDSM can foster deeper communication and stronger relationships, Justin shares practical insights for anyone interested in becoming more intentional in their relationships and sexuality.

   We also discuss his forthcoming book, Way of Surrender: The Tao of BDSM, which explores a compelling paradox: the Dominant surrenders to the Tao, while the submissive surrenders to the Dominant. Plus, we talk about his work giving submissives a platform to share their own experiences and perspectives, challenging the tendency to speak about them rather than listen to them.

   In this conversation, we explore:

   Dominance as a discipline of character rather than a collection of techniques

   The difference between healthy dominance, control, and manipulation

   Why dominan…

4. #507 Blow Me Away: Advanced Oral Skills with Alicia and Erwan Davon

   13 oktober 2026 · 1 uur 5 min

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   This episode is with repeat guests Alicia and Erwan Davon and is all about upping your blowjobs skills. #258 was all about using hands and mouths for oral pleasure. Now let’s get more advanced! We discuss: Lees meer

   *The common issues/fears people have around giving blowjobs

   *The common issues penis owners have around receiving

   *Basics/1.0 level skills people should know about

   *How Tantra can it take oral sex even deeper/to the advanced level

   *Advanced oral sex tips for the giver

   *Advanced oral sex tips for the receiver

   *Whether actions such as swallowing and the money shot matter

   More about our guests: Erwan and Alicia Davon are the foremost Tantra teachers in the San Francisco Bay Area and the creators of the Davon Method, their signature approach to love, intimacy, and connection.

   For over 22 years, this married couple has taught more than 22,000 students through group programs, retreats, and private sessions — guiding singles into lasting relationships and helping couples thrive. Their method blends academic backgrounds in psychology with the principles of Zen Buddhism into a holistic path for deepening connection with yourself and others. As the Bay Area's go-to teachers for all things romantic and sexual, they now reach students worldwide through online learning.

   Erwan studied psychology and graduated with honors, drawing on both a challenging childhood and an early immersion in therapeutic work. He went on to live and study in a Zen monastery, direct a yoga ashram, train in cutting-edge sensual practices, and teach personal development at one of the world's largest personal-growth organizations. In 1995, his passion for teaching led him to found the Davon Method, dedicated to helping people build extraordinary romantic relationships.

   Alicia holds a Master's degree in Integral Psychology, with a focus on women's romantic and sexual expression. She has led numerous women's groups devoted to female pleasure and fulfillment across career, relationship, and life…

5. #506 Pucker Up! Let’s Talk Kissing with Ashely Randall

   6 oktober 2026 · 56 min

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   Let’s Talk About Kissing! 💋 Lees meer

   In this episode, we’re joined by repeat guest Ashley Randall (aka Irreverent Femme) for a deep dive into one of the most underrated parts of intimacy: kissing.

   We’re talking all things making out—from different kissing styles and techniques to neck kissing, full-body kissing, and how to figure out what your partner actually likes. We also explore why kissing and making out can so often disappear from long-term relationships, what you can do to bring it back, and why kissing can be such an important part of intimacy and connection.

   Plus, we get into what to do (and what not to do!) when it comes to being a great kisser, how to learn your partner’s unique kissing style, and how to keep things playful, connected, and exciting.

   About our guest:
   Ashley Randall, also known as Irreverent Femme, is a certified Sex, Intimacy & Kink Coach, Dominatrix, and erotic perfumist. She offers transformative coaching for individuals and partners seeking deeper intimacy, sexual confidence, and authentic connection.

   💋 Ready to up your kissing game? This episode is for you.

   Learn more about Ashley at http://irreverentcoaching.com

   Follow her on IG @irreverentlovecoaching

   Check out her erotic perfums: https://www.irreverentscents.com

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6. #505 Cock Pep Talk: What Your Penis Wants You to Know

   29 september 2026 · 1 uur 11 min

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   In this episode, we’re joined by Andre Lazarus, Somatic Intimacy Guide, sex and intimacy coach, and one of the professional surrogate partners featured on the UK series Virgin Island. Lees meer

   Andre takes us behind the scenes of his unconventional work, including what it’s actually like to help people navigate intimacy challenges — and whether being a surrogate partner means, well… what you might think it means.

   We then get into the big questions around men and sex: what Andre wishes more men knew, what he wishes they’d do less of, and what he wishes more women understood about supporting the men they’re intimate with.

   We also tackle two issues that come up frequently in Andre’s work: erection difficulties and “rapid ejaculation.” Why do they happen? How much does performance pressure play a role? And what can men actually do about it?

   And finally, perhaps the most important question of all: If your penis could use a little pep talk, what should you say to it?

   Expect a candid, funny, and practical conversation about sex, confidence, vulnerability, communication, and learning to get out of your head — and back into your body.

   What a surrogate partner actually does

   Andre’s experience on Virgin Island

   Men, sex, and performance pressure

   Erection difficulties and rapid ejaculation

   What men should do more — and less — in bed

   What women can do to better support male partners

   Building sexual confidence and connection

   And, yes… what to say to your penis when it needs some encouragement

   Learn more about Andre and his work at www.coming-closer.com.

   Follow him on IG @comingcloserwithandre

   Learn more about our retreats: ⁠https://www.shamelesssex.com/retreat

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7. #504 How to Dirty Talk Without the Cringe with Dr. Shannon Chavez

   23 september 2026 · 1 uur 7 min

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   This week, we’re joined by Dr. Shannon Chavez, a leading voice in modern sexual wellness and one of the incredible experts teaching at our next Shameless Sex Couples Retreat! Lees meer

   Dr. Chavez is a licensed clinical psychologist, AASECT-certified sex therapist, professional sex coach, and founder of SHAPE Psychology. Her work brings a holistic, culturally inclusive approach to sex, relationships, and pleasure—and helps make conversations about sexuality feel more accessible, meaningful, and shame-free.

   In this episode, we’re getting into one of the sexiest—and sometimes most awkward—topics: dirty talk! How do you make it feel authentic instead of forced? What if you feel totally uncomfortable saying “naughty” things out loud? And how do you figure out what actually turns you and your partner on?

   We talk about:

   What Dr. Chavez is hearing from clients about dirty talk: Are people into it, wanting more of it, or feeling intimidated by it?

   Why dirty talk can feel so vulnerable, awkward, or difficult—even when you’re turned on

   The different styles and forms of dirty talk, and how to find what works for you

   A step-by-step approach to making dirty talk feel more natural and authentic

   How to build confidence and discover your personal dirty-talk style

   How to know what to say in the moment (without feeling like you have to perform!)

   Talking about boundaries and consent around erotic language

   How couples can create their own shared erotic language

   And how to move past shame and self-consciousness so you can actually enjoy talking dirty

   Whether you’re a seasoned dirty-talker or the mere thought of saying something sexy out loud makes you want to crawl under the covers, this episode will give you practical tools to make erotic communication feel more natural, playful, and connected.

   Learn more about Dr. Shannon Chavez at http://drshannonchavez.com.

   Follow here on IG: @drshannonchavez

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8. #503 From Selling Pleasure to Feeling It with Paigge Gilbert

   15 september 2026 · 1 uur 7 min

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   In this episode, we’re joined by our marketing director Paigge Gilbert for a deeply curious conversation about sex, pleasure, intimacy, and desire. We talk about what it’s actually like to train as a sex and relationship coach through Somatica—and dive into some big questions about how we experience and explore our erotic selves. We explore: Lees meer

   Our core desires and how to discover how you want to feel during sex

   Once you know how you want to feel, how do you figure out what you want to explore?

   How to access your erotic energy when you feel disconnected from your body—or even unattracted to your partner

   Ways to become more embodied and experience more pleasure

   Why allowing yourself to feel your erotic desire, even in public, can be powerful

   What kink and spanking can actually do for us—and why certain things turn us on

   The power of dirty talk, curiosity, and “cheerleading” someone as they share their erotic fantasies

   How to get curious about desire rather than judging it

   What sex and relationship coaching training through Somatica is really like

   This is a conversation about moving beyond the idea that there’s a “right” way to experience sexuality and instead getting curious about what makes you feel alive, embodied, connected, and turned on.

   About our guest: Paigge Gilbert has spent the last eight years figuring out how to successfully market the things the internet doesn’t always make easy to talk about: sex, pleasure, intimacy, and relationships. As the founder of Queen Media, she’s built her career developing marketing strategies for leading sex educators, relationship experts, adult stars, podcasts, and sexual wellness brands, helping them grow loyal audiences while navigating censorship, stigma, and constantly changing platforms. Now, she’s adding another layer to that expertise by completing the Somatica Institute’s Sex & Relationship Coach Certification, with the goal of bringing her years of industry experience into more direct, intimate work with c…

9. #502 Premature Ejaculation and How to Last Longer In Bed

   8 september 2026 · 1 uur 14 min

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   Why do so many men struggle to last as long as they want—and why do so many women struggle with arousal and sensation? Lees meer

   In this episode, we sit down with Jeff Abraham, CEO of Promescent, a leading sexual wellness company focused on helping people improve intimacy, confidence, and sexual health.

   Jeff shares the story behind Promescent, from discovering a groundbreaking treatment for premature ejaculation developed by urologist Dr. Ronald Gilbert to building the company into a full-spectrum sexual wellness brand with more than 5 million bottles sold and thousands of healthcare professionals recommending its products.

   We dig into some of the most common—and often misunderstood—sexual health concerns affecting men and women. Jeff explains what premature ejaculation actually means, how common it is, what qualifies as “premature,” and the different options available for improving ejaculatory control, including the surprising role of medications like SSRIs.

   We also turn the conversation toward women’s sexual health, exploring why low libido, difficulty becoming aroused, and reduced sensation are so common, what can contribute to these issues, and what options exist for improving arousal and pleasure.

   Finally, Jeff breaks down how Promescent’s doctor-developed products work, how they differ from other solutions on the market, and why making sexual wellness more accessible can have such a meaningful impact on confidence and intimacy.

   In this episode, we discuss:

   Why sexual health challenges are so common for both men and women

   What premature ejaculation is—and how it’s defined

   How common ejaculatory control issues are

   Strategies and treatments for lasting longer

   Whether SSRIs can be used to delay ejaculation

   How sexual wellness products work and what makes them different

   The most common arousal challenges women experience

   Why low libido and reduced sensation are so prevalent

   Options for improving female arousal and pleasure

   The role of sexual wellness in conf…

10. #501 Sexual Inexperience & How to Become More Confident with Celeste and Danielle

    1 september 2026 · 1 uur 2 min

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    In this episode, I’m joined by repeat guests Danielle Harel, Ph.D., and Celeste Hirschman, M.A., founders of the Somatica® Institute and creators of the Somatica® Method of sex and relationship coaching. Lees meer

    Danielle and Celeste are thought leaders in the world of sex and relationships and have trained more than 1,000 coaches in their groundbreaking approach, which helps people get out of their heads and into their bodies so they can build confidence, feel empowered to be themselves, and go after what they truly want in dating, sex, and relationships. They’re also the lead sexologists on the UK’s award-winning TV show Virgin Island, bringing their expertise to a global audience.

    In this episode, we dive into what Virgin Island is really about, how Danielle and Celeste became the show’s lead sexologists, and what they learned from working with people who feel inexperienced, insecure, or disconnected when it comes to sex.

    We talk about the fears and challenges that come with sexual inexperience—whether you’ve never had sex, have had very little experience, or have been with the same partner for 20 years. We explore the tools Danielle and Celeste use to create powerful shifts in confidence and connection, why understanding your Core Desires can transform your dating and sex life, and how you can uncover your own.

    We also get into practical advice for men and women who are dating without much sexual experience, including how to move past shame and insecurity, build confidence, and become more comfortable asking for what you want.

    Whether you consider yourself sexually inexperienced, struggle with confidence, or simply want a deeper understanding of your desires and how to communicate them, this conversation offers practical tools for becoming more embodied, confident, and connected in your relationships.

    To learn more go to https://www.somaticainstitute.com

    Take their quiz here: https://www.celesteanddanielle.com/at-your-core-quiz/

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