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The Storm You're Standing In
9 juni 2026 · 48 min
When life gets genuinely hard, the advice to "be present" can feel less like wisdom and more like an instruction to sit quietly in pain. This episode is for the people who are currently inside something difficult — not after it, during it — and finding the usual answers insufficient. Lees meer
Using a quietly profound passage from Haruki Murakami's Kafka on the Shore as its starting point, this episode explores why the instinct to search for the exit is so deeply human, what presence actually means when the present moment is the source of the pain, and what the storm is doing to you that ease never could.
Taoism doesn't promise a way out. But it does offer something real: a different quality of company for the journey through.
Also in this episode: a listener question about what Kit's daily life actually looks like as someone who practices Taoism — and whether the practice has made any visible difference at al
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Weekend Check In: What Taoism Is and Isn't
5 juni 2026 · 15 min
Many people discover Taoism during a difficult season of life. A relationship ends. Work becomes overwhelming. Anxiety starts taking up more space than it used to. Naturally, we begin looking for something that can fix the problem. Lees meer
But Taoism was never meant to be a problem solver.
In this Weekend Check-In, we explore one of the most misunderstood aspects of Taoist practice: the difference between solving life's challenges and learning how to meet them with clarity, presence, and less resistance.
The difficult conversation still has to happen. The uncertainty is still there. The challenge doesn't magically disappear. What changes is the quality of your relationship with it.
We'll look at the "second layer" of suffering that so many of us add to our difficulties through judgment, urgency, self-criticism, and resistance, and why Taoism is far more interested in that layer than in providing quick solutions.
If you've ever wondered why spiritual practice didn't make your problems go away, this episode may help you see what it was actually offering all along.
Taoism won't fix your life.
It can, however, prepare you to face it.
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The Unfixed Mind
2 juni 2026 · 51 min
What if not everything requires a response? Lees meer
And what if not every meaningful moment needs to be recorded?
In this episode, we explore Chapter 49 of the Tao Te Ching and the Taoist idea of the “unfixed mind” — a mind that meets life openly instead of arriving with reactions already prepared.
From social media arguments and news cycles to our constant urge to document experiences before they’ve fully happened, modern life encourages us to react quickly and capture everything. But what might become available if we slowed down long enough to simply receive what’s in front of us?
This episode examines the hidden cost of compulsive responding, the difference between experiencing and documenting, and why Lao Tzu believed genuine wisdom begins with openness rather than certainty.
A practical exploration of attention, presence, and learning to let some things pass through your life without needing to comment on them, save them, or turn them into something else.
Listen now and join the conversation.
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Weekend Check-In: The Monday Dreads
29 mei 2026 · 11 min
Why do so many people start suffering for Monday before Monday even arrives? Lees meer
In this Taoist Check-In, we explore the familiar feeling of Sunday dread and the habit of mentally living in the future before it happens. From work stress and unfinished tasks to the simple fear of another busy week, the mind often turns tomorrow into a problem long before tomorrow gets here.
Drawing from Taoist principles, this episode looks at the difference between responsibility and resistance, why anticipatory suffering drains so much energy, and how returning to the reality of the present moment can change your relationship with the week ahead.
A practical reflection on anxiety, attention, and learning to stop carrying tomorrow before it's time.
Listen now and join the conversation
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The Strength You Were Born With
26 mei 2026 · 48 min
What if the exhaustion you feel isn’t coming from doing too much… but from forcing too much? Lees meer
In this episode, we explore Chapter 55 of the Tao Te Ching and one of Lao Tzu’s most surprising images: the newborn child.
Not as innocence. Not as weakness.
As a picture of natural strength.
We look at what happens as we grow older and slowly trade ease for performance, natural response for self-management, and real strength for the exhausting work of holding ourselves together. Why do some forms of effort leave us energized while others quietly drain us? And what happens when the version of ourselves we maintain starts costing more than the life we’re actually living?
This episode is about harmony, depletion, identity, and the possibility that the strength you’re searching for may not need to be built at all.
It may already be there.
Listen now and join the conversation.
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Weekend Check-In: Desire vs Need
22 mei 2026 · 10 min
We spend a surprising amount of life treating desires like needs. Lees meer
Not because wanting things is wrong, but because somewhere along the way we begin believing peace can only arrive once the next thing does.
In this Taoist Check-In, we explore the difference between desire and need, why modern life constantly blurs the line between them, and how attachment quietly turns ordinary wants into sources of suffering.
This isn’t about giving things up or pretending not to care. It’s about learning how to pursue what matters without making your inner stability dependent on the outcome.
A short reflection on sufficiency, attachment, and one simple question that can change the way you move through life.
Listen now and join the conversation.
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The Waiting is the Hardest Part
19 mei 2026 · 51 min
What makes waiting so painful? Lees meer
Not just bad news. Not failure. The space before knowing.
In this episode, we explore the uniquely difficult experience of living in uncertainty — waiting for answers, outcomes, decisions, change, or the next version of your life to begin. From pending medical results to major life transitions, Taoism offers a perspective that goes far beyond “just be present” or “let go.”
This episode looks at why the mind runs endless scenarios during uncertain periods, how waiting exposes our lack of control, and what the Tao Te Ching actually means when it speaks about attachment to outcomes.
Not abstract philosophy. Real life. Real uncertainty. And a grounded Taoist approach to moving through it without losing yourself in the process.
Listen now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Amazon Music, iHeartRadio, and all major podcast platforms.
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Weekend Check-in: Do Without Depending
15 mei 2026 · 14 min
Chapter Two of the Tao Te Ching contains a simple line that becomes harder and harder to ignore once you really understand it: Lees meer
“Do without depending.”
In this Taoist Check-In, we look at how modern life trains us to attach our peace to outcomes, validation, praise, attention, and control. Laozi points in another direction entirely.
This episode explores the difference between caring and depending, why emotional attachment to results exhausts people, and how Taoism teaches us to move through life with more steadiness and less grasping.
Not passive. Not detached. Just no longer emotionally chained to every outcome.
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Is Forgiveness Always Required?
12 mei 2026 · 50 min
For years, we’ve been told the same thing: Lees meer
You have to forgive in order to heal.
But what if that isn’t always true?
In this episode, Kit takes a direct and deeply honest look at forgiveness, emotional healing, and the pressure people feel to “move on” before they’re actually ready. Instead of treating forgiveness like a moral requirement or spiritual achievement, this conversation explores a more grounded Taoist perspective:
What if healing isn’t about forcing forgiveness at all?
What if there’s a difference between forgiving… and simply releasing?
This episode examines the danger of performative forgiveness, the natural role of anger and grief, and why some wounds change us permanently. It also explores the difference between healthy processing and resentment that has calcified into identity.
No clichés. No forced positivity. Just an honest conversation about pain, healing, and allowing inner processes to move at their own pace.
Topics include:
• The cultural pressure to forgive
• Releasing vs. forgiving
• When anger is still serving a purpose
• The Taoist view of emotional healing
• How resentment quietly spreads into unrelated parts of life
• Why some healing cannot be rushedPlus:
A listener question from Camilla in Erie, PA about whether we ever truly get “through” suffering, and this week’s Taoist Assignment focused on breath, awareness, and carrying emotional weight without forcing resolution.New episodes every Tuesday.
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Weekend Check In - Do What You Have To Do
8 mei 2026 · 15 min
Most people are not exhausted from doing too much. They’re exhausted from resisting what they already know needs to be done. Lees meer
In this weekend’s Taoist Check-In, we explore how avoidance, distraction, and endless internal negotiation create unnecessary suffering in modern life. From unfinished tasks to constant phone scrolling, we’ve become experts at delaying direct participation in our own lives.
This episode looks at the Taoist idea of simplicity through action. Not hustle culture. Not grinding. Just learning how to stop fighting reality long enough to handle the next right thing cleanly and directly.
Because peace is often closer than we think.
Sometimes it begins the moment we stop avoiding our lives and finally step back into them.
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What Our Phones Are Stealing From Us
5 mei 2026 · 56 min
We talk about phones like they’re stealing our time. That’s not really the problem. Lees meer
In this episode, we take a Taoist look at what’s actually being lost. Not productivity. Not focus. Something quieter, and a lot more important. Your ability to fully be in your own life while it’s happening.
Drawing from the teachings of Zhuangzi, this episode breaks down how constant checking and scrolling reshapes your attention at a deeper level. It’s not just distraction. It’s a shift in how you experience moments, conversations, and even memory itself.
You’ll start to see the small ways your attention leaves the present. The reflex to reach. The discomfort with stillness. The habit of treating every moment like something to move through instead of something to actually live.
And more importantly, you’ll learn how to interrupt that pattern. Not with rules or restrictions, but with simple, practical awareness you can apply immediately.
This isn’t about quitting your phone. It’s about getting your life back from the quiet places where it’s been slipping away.
Listen now: https://linktr.ee/daoananda
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Weekend Check-In: What We Can Control
1 mei 2026 · 11 min
Something goes wrong. You try to fix it. It doesn’t move. And before you know it, you’re carrying it around all day. Lees meer
This episode is about what actually frustrates you in those moments. It’s not the situation. It’s the loss of control.
We look at what’s really yours to handle and what never was. Not as an idea, but as something you can apply immediately when things start to spiral.
This is a grounded take on wu wei. No mysticism. No passivity. Just clear action when it’s time to act, and the discipline to stop when it’s not.
If you’ve been stuck replaying something, pushing for answers, or trying to force a resolution, this will reset your approach.
New episodes every Tuesday.
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The Weight of Self
28 april 2026 · 50 min
You don’t get tired from doing too much. You get tired from maintaining who you think you’re supposed to be. Lees meer
There’s a version of you that’s been built over time. The capable one. The calm one. The reliable one. It didn’t come out of nowhere. It came from real experience, real effort, real feedback from the world around you.
But at some point, that version stopped being something you express and started becoming something you protect.
That’s where the weight comes from.
In this episode, we look at how self-image quietly becomes a full-time job. The constant monitoring, adjusting, and maintaining that most people don’t even realize they’re doing. And why that kind of effort never actually leads to stability.
Using Chapter 7 of the Tao Te Ching as the foundation, this is a direct look at what happens when you stop trying to hold a fixed version of yourself together and start responding to life as it actually is.
No performance. No maintenance. No constant self-checking.
Just a different way of moving through the world that costs a lot less.
If you’ve ever felt drained after simply being around people, or caught yourself replaying conversations to make sure you “showed up right,” this one will land.
Follow the show for more episodes each week, and if you’ve got a question or a situation you’re working through, send it in. It might end up in a future episode.
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The Simplicity of Thought - Weekend Check in
24 april 2026 · 14 min
This weekend, simplify your thinking. Lees meer
Not your schedule. Not your environment. Your thinking.
Most of the weight people carry isn’t coming from what actually happens. It’s coming from what gets added on top of it. A moment happens, and almost instantly it’s interpreted, personalized, and expanded into something bigger than it needs to be.
In this Taoist Check-In, we go straight at that.
Using a simple line from Chapter 19 of the Tao Te Ching as the foundation, this episode breaks down the difference between what actually happens and what you decide it means, and why blending those two is what creates most of the tension people feel day to day.
Through real examples, you’ll see how quickly the mind fills in gaps, assigns meaning, and builds unnecessary weight out of simple situations. More importantly, you’ll learn how to separate those layers without trying to control your thoughts or shut anything down.
This is not about thinking less.
It’s about thinking clean.
A simple, practical way to move through your weekend with more clarity, less reaction, and a lot less mental noise.
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What is Awareness, Really?
21 april 2026 · 48 min
Most people think awareness is something you build. Lees meer
Something you get better at by paying closer attention, thinking more clearly, or watching yourself more carefully.
But that’s where things start to go wrong.
In this episode, we draw a clean line between awareness and overthinking. Not as an idea, but as something you can recognize in real time.
Because they can look almost identical from the outside.
Both involve attention. Both feel like you’re “doing the work.” But one is simple and direct, and the other is the mind stepping in to manage what was already clear.
We break down:
why awareness gets replaced so quickly
how the mind turns it into effort
what it actually feels like when you’ve stepped out of it
and how to catch that shift before you lose it
This isn’t about thinking less.
It’s about recognizing the moment when thinking is no longer helping.
There’s also a listener question on navigating Taoism around family and belief systems, and a simple assignment to bring this out of theory and into practice.
If this episode resonates, follow the show so you don’t miss new episodes every Tuesday and the Taoist Check-In on Fridays.
And if you’ve got a question or something you’re working through, leave a review and include it. Some of them make it into future episodes.
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Weekend Check-In - Making Decisions
17 april 2026 · 10 min
You’re not stuck because you have too many options. Lees meer
You’re stuck because you don’t trust the first clear signal.
In this Taoist Check-In, we take a direct look at hesitation, what happens when multiple good paths are in front of you and thinking takes over. What feels like careful decision-making is often just resistance in disguise.
Using grounded insight from the Tao Te Ching, this episode cuts through analysis paralysis and brings you back to something simpler. The next step is usually already clear before you start trying to prove it.
This is a short reset for the weekend. Less thinking. More movement.
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Stop Owning Your Negatives
14 april 2026 · 47 min
We say it all day without thinking. Lees meer
“My back.”
“My anxiety.”
“I’m just this way.”
“I’ve always been like this.”It sounds harmless. It sounds honest.
But the moment you attach a negative to “my” or “I am,” you’ve already set the expectation. You’ve already decided how the next moment is going to go.
In this episode, we take a hard look at how people turn passing conditions into fixed identity, and how that quiet shift shapes decisions, lowers standards, and keeps them stuck.
This isn’t about ignoring reality or pretending problems don’t exist. It’s about seeing the difference between something that’s happening… and something you’ve decided you are.
Through a Taoist lens, we break down:
How language locks in limitation
Why people hold onto identities that work against them
How false identification quietly drives behavior
And the simplest way to start changing it immediately
No mindset tricks. No forced positivity.
Just one clear shift:
Stop owning your negatives.
If something’s there, it’s there. But it’s not “my,” and it’s not “I am.”
And that small change might be the difference between staying stuck… and finally moving again.
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Mondays, Am I Right?
7 april 2026 · 45 min
Why do you keep needing Monday to start over? Lees meer
Every week follows the same pattern.
You come in strong. Clear. Focused. Ready to finally lock things in.And then somewhere in the middle… it slips.
Not all at once. Quietly. A delay here. A push to later. A small break in continuity that turns into distance. By the end of the week, you’re already telling yourself the same story:
“Next week will be different.”
But nothing reset.
In this episode, we break down the real issue. It’s not discipline. It’s not effort. It’s your inability to continue once things stop feeling clean.
Through a Taoist lens, this isn’t about starting stronger. It’s about staying in motion when conditions aren’t ideal. Learning how to move from where your feet actually are, not where you wish they were.
Because the moment you step out, you create the need for a reset.
And the moment you stop stepping out, the cycle disappears.This episode is about continuity.
About staying connected to the work.
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Dealing With Family Roles in a Taoist Way
31 maart 2026 · 54 min
Why do family relationships feel stuck… even when everyone has changed? Lees meer
In this episode, we explore why roles inside families don’t update, and how that creates tension between parents, adult children, and even the next generation. If you’ve ever felt like you revert to an older version of yourself around your parents, or noticed yourself repeating the same patterns with your own kids, this episode breaks down what’s really happening.
Learn how outdated roles shape guilt, behavior, and identity… and what it looks like to move out of those patterns without damaging the relationship.
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Do Positive Vibes Matter?
24 maart 2026 · 43 min
“Positive vibes only” sounds good… until it starts costing you something. Lees meer
In this episode, we take a hard look at what people actually mean when they say it and why it often turns into avoidance, surface-level interactions, and a quiet fear of friction.
This isn’t about being negative. It’s about understanding the difference between chasing a feeling and staying grounded in reality.
You’ll see why calm and centered has nothing to do with staying “positive,” how trying to control the tone of every situation weakens your footing, and what it looks like to move cleanly when things aren’t smooth.
Because real steadiness isn’t built on how things feel. It’s built on how you respond when they don’t.
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What Does "Be Present" Actually Mean?
17 maart 2026 · 50 min
Everyone says “be present.”
Meditation teachers say it. Therapists say it. Spiritual books repeat it constantly. Lees meerBut if someone stopped you right now and said, “Okay… be present,” what would you actually do?
In this episode of The Modern Taoist, we break down one of the most repeated but least explained ideas in mindfulness and spirituality. What does being present actually mean in real life? Why is it so difficult for people to stay in the moment? And what does presence look like outside of meditation, in conversations, work, relationships, or even on the golf course?
Drawing from Taoist philosophy, Buddhist insight, and everyday experience, this episode explores the difference between attention and presence, why the mind constantly drifts into the past and future, and how simple practices like breath, awareness, and movement help bring us back to the moment where life is actually happening.
You’ll learn:
• Why “being present” is often misunderstood
• The difference between attention and true presence
• Why the mind constantly leaves the moment
• What presence actually looks like in everyday life
• Simple ways to return to the present when your mind driftsPresence isn’t a mystical state or a spiritual achievement. It’s something much simpler.
It’s the moment when your awareness returns to the place where your life is actually unfolding.
Listen now to explore what being present really means.
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The Taoist Cure for Imposter Syndrome
10 maart 2026 · 43 min
"Imposter syndrome” has become one of the most common ways people describe self-doubt. You hear it from entrepreneurs, creators, leaders, and professionals who feel like they don’t truly belong in the roles they’ve stepped into. Lees meer
But from a Taoist perspective, the problem may not be the feeling itself. The problem may be how we interpret it.
In this episode of The Modern Taoist, we take a deeper look at what people really mean when they say they feel like an imposter. Why that feeling often appears right before real competence begins to develop. And how modern culture’s obsession with identity can make normal growth feel like fraud.
This conversation goes beyond career or professional success. Imposter syndrome shows up in relationships, parenting, spiritual practice, and even in the moment when we begin making bigger decisions about our lives.
Using Taoist philosophy as a guide, we explore a different way of understanding the experience and how to move through it without shrinking back from growth.
If you’ve ever felt like you don’t quite belong in the life you’re stepping into, this episode will help you see that feeling from an entirely new perspective.
Listen now and join the conversation.
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Over-Stimulated and Under-Clear
3 maart 2026 · 49 min
We live in an age of constant input. Lees meer
Opinions, analysis, hot takes, advice, urgency. All day. Every day.
And yet, despite having more access to information than ever before, many people feel less clear about their own lives.
In this episode, we explore what overstimulation is actually doing to your thinking, your nervous system, and your ability to make decisions. Why big choices start to feel existential. Why every move can feel heavier than it should. And why more advice is rarely the solution.
This isn’t about unplugging from society or escaping responsibility.
It’s about restoring proportion.
You’ll learn what clarity actually feels like, how to recognize when you’re deciding from a braced state, and practical ways to recalibrate before making important moves.
If you’ve been circling a decision, second-guessing yourself, or feeling mentally saturated, this episode will help you slow the tempo and return to center.
Clarity is not loud.
It’s quiet. And it’s available.
Listen now.
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Why You Are Always Frustrated
24 februari 2026 · 49 min
It shows up when progress is slow. When outcomes don’t arrive on your timeline. When reality refuses to cooperate with your expectations. Most people accept frustration as a normal and necessary part of being engaged with life. Lees meer
But what if frustration isn’t caused by circumstances at all?
What if frustration is the result of resistance, loss of control, and a conditioned pattern inside the nervous system?
In this episode, you’ll learn why frustration does not improve clarity, performance, or outcomes and why it often makes situations worse. More importantly, you’ll discover how Taoist practice approaches frustration differently. Not by suppressing emotion, but by removing the internal resistance that creates instability in the first place.
You’ll learn:
• Why frustration is resistance to reality, not a property of reality itself
• How loss of control destabilizes the nervous system
• Why frustration feels automatic but is actually conditioned
• How frustration reduces intelligence, perception, and effectiveness
• The Taoist method for remaining clear, stable, and effective under any conditionThis episode will change how you understand one of the most common emotional states in modern life and show you how to stop participating in it.
Listen now and learn how alignment with the Tao removes frustration at its source.
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Your Mood is Not Your Boss
17 februari 2026 · 51 min
Most people live with a quiet assumption: that their moods are delivered to them by the world. Lees meer
A message arrives. Someone speaks the wrong way. The news turns darker. And suddenly the feeling appears, heavy and undeniable. It feels obvious to say, this is why I feel this way.
But Taoism asks a more uncomfortable and liberating question: what happens inside you between the event and the mood?
In this episode, we explore the hidden space most people never examine. The silent translator inside the nervous system. The reflex to blame. The protective stories the mind creates to avoid meeting discomfort directly. And the moment where responsibility quietly returns, not as guilt, but as power.
You’ll learn why moods are not commands, but signals. Why blame provides temporary relief while quietly giving away influence. And how a simple shift in awareness can return the steering wheel to your hands without denying the reality of the world around you.
This is not about suppressing emotion. It is about understanding it. Meeting it honestly. And remembering that while you cannot control every circumstance, you can always choose how you participate in what happens next.
If you’ve ever felt controlled by your moods, stuck inside reactions you didn’t consciously choose, or frustrated by how quickly blame appears, this conversation will help you see what has always been within your reach.
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Why We Care About Being Understood
10 februari 2026 · 54 min
Why do we care so much about being understood, and does that concern actually serve us? In this episode we look at the everyday experience of being misread by other people and the quiet pressure to correct every wrong impression. Instead of offering spiritual slogans, we talk about what really helps. When does explaining yourself matter, and when does it only make things worse? How do you decide who deserves the full story and who only needs a simple boundary? The conversation explores the line between connection and control, between caring about relationships and chasing approval from the crowd. Being misunderstood is part of being human, but it does not have to run your life. This episode offers practical ways to respond without shrinking yourself, and a reminder that your life can be steady even when some people never quite get you. Lees meer
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How to "Move On" and "Let It Go"
3 februari 2026 · 51 min
Most people walk through life quietly assuming something is wrong with them. The reactions they cannot control. The habits they cannot break. The emotions that seem to arrive before logic has a chance to speak. Lees meer
But what if you are not broken?
What if you are patterned?
In this episode, we take a clear look at the difference between damage and conditioning. Patterns are not personal failures. They are learned responses shaped by family, culture, fear, success, trauma, and repetition. Once you see them for what they are, something important happens. You stop fighting yourself and start understanding yourself.
We talk about how patterns form, why awareness alone is not enough to change them, and how Taoist practice invites a quieter approach. Not force. Not shame. Just steady observation followed by deliberate action.
You will walk away with practical ways to recognize your own loops, interrupt the ones that no longer serve you, and loosen the grip of the stories you have been telling about who you are.
You are not broken. You are human. And humans can change.
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Ask me Anything Vol 4
27 januari 2026 · 47 min
Rigidity, Influence, Tribalism, Nostalgia, and Finding Taoism in Real Life Lees meer
This Ask Me Anything episode answers listener questions from around the world, each one pointing to a deeper human tension beneath modern life.
We explore what the Tao Te Ching says about rigidity and death, and why flexibility is treated as a sign of life itself. We talk honestly about social media influencing, where it helps, where it harms, and what happens when identity becomes performance.
We look at why everything feels politicized now, how tribalism forms, and what Taoism offers as an alternative to hardening into sides. We also address the quiet loneliness of practicing Taoism in places where belief systems feel polarized, and how to find real connection without labels.
Finally, we explore nostalgia and memory. How Taoists hold the past without living inside it, and how remembrance becomes grounding instead of restrictive.
These are not abstract answers. They are human ones. Grounded, lived, and meant to be carried into daily life.
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Is Ambition Bad?
20 januari 2026 · 44 min
Taoism is often misunderstood as passive or anti ambition. This episode challenges that idea directly. Lees meer
Being an ambitious Taoist does not mean giving up goals or floating through life like a leaf. It means learning how to pursue growth without turning ambition into pressure, obsession, or self violence.
We explore where ambition actually comes from, the difference between aligned ambition and compensatory ambition, and how attachment to outcomes quietly turns drive into strain. We look at how ambition becomes unhealthy when it is used to regulate worth, and how Taoism offers a way to want deeply without hardening.
This episode is about ambition that can last. Direction without fixation. Growth without burnout. Effort that responds instead of dominates.
If you want to build something meaningful, change your life, or grow without losing yourself along the way, this episode reframes ambition through a Taoist lens grounded in real life.
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What Does "Go with the Flow" really mean?
13 januari 2026 · 47 min
“Go with the flow” is one of the most misunderstood phrases in modern life. People hear passivity, disengagement, or drifting. Taoism means something very different. Lees meer
In this episode, we unpack what flow actually is and why flexibility consistently outperforms force under real pressure. Not as a slogan. As a lived survival skill.
We explore why rigid people break even when they are disciplined, committed, and trying their hardest. Why force works briefly and then quietly fails. And why adaptability, not strength alone, is what keeps people moving through change.
This is not about lowering standards or giving up effort. It is about learning how to adjust without collapsing, yield without quitting, and respond instead of resisting when conditions shift.
If life has started to feel heavier, if effort is producing less return, or if pushing harder no longer works the way it used to, this episode offers a Taoist lens grounded in real examples and practical application.
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You Are Nature -You Are Not a Machine
6 januari 2026 · 49 min
We spend our lives trying to manage ourselves as if we’re machines. Optimize the schedule. Fix the mindset. Override the body. Push through the cycle. Lees meer
That approach sounds productive, but it’s the source of most exhaustion.
In this episode of The Modern Taoist, we dismantle the idea that humans stand outside of nature, observing and controlling it. You are not an exception to natural law. You are not separate from rhythm, cycles, emotion, fatigue, or recovery. You are inside the system, not above it.
We explore why modern culture treats the body like software, how Taoism views human behavior as seasonal and responsive, and what changes when you stop fighting your own biology. This is not about slowing down for the sake of it. It’s about moving with clarity instead of force.
If you’ve felt burned out, disconnected, or frustrated by self improvement advice that never sticks, this episode reframes the problem entirely.
You are not broken.
You are nature.Listen now and follow the show at:
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New Year's Resolutions And Why They Don't Work
30 december 2025 · 54 min
Not because people lack discipline, but because they aim at change without understanding what they are already repeating. Lees meer
In this episode of The Modern Taoist, we step away from motivation, goal lists, and January pressure. Instead, we look at why resolutions collapse, how identity gets forced instead of clarified, and why alignment matters more than willpower.
This is a Taoist approach to the New Year. No declarations. No reinvention. Just an honest look at how real change actually happens when attention, behavior, and direction come back into agreement.
If you’ve ever felt clear on January 1 and scattered by January 12, this episode is for you. We talk about habits, self-imposed pressure, and what it means to move forward without fighting yourself.
The year does not need a new version of you.
It needs a clearer relationship with who you already are.Listen to The Modern Taoist Podcast on your favorite platform:
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The Tao of Leadership and Parenting
23 december 2025 · 51 min
Leadership is not about control, authority, or having the right answers. It is about steadiness. Presence. And knowing when guidance turns into pressure. Lees meer
In this episode, we explore leadership through a Taoist lens, especially as it shows up in parenting, relationships, and everyday life. We look at how good intentions can quietly become force, how urgency can replace clarity, and why the people around us learn more from how we respond than from what we say.
This conversation is not about techniques or strategies. It is about internal posture. About regulating yourself before trying to shape others. About leading without gripping, correcting without tightening, and guiding without losing connection.
Whether you are a parent, a manager, a mentor, or simply someone trying to live with integrity, this episode invites you to reconsider what real leadership looks like when things feel messy, emotional, or uncertain.
Leadership starts inside. Taoism shows us how to stay steady when outcomes are unclear.
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Ask Me Anything Vol 4
16 december 2025 · 42 min
In this Ask Me Anything episode, I respond to listener questions that dig into the real texture of Taoist practice. Not theory. Not abstraction. Real life. Lees meer
We talk about Chapter 50 of the Tao Te Ching and what Lao Tzu meant by the “one in ten” who has no death place. Not as mysticism or superstition, but as a way of moving through the world without creating unnecessary friction, fear, or blind spots.
This episode is about how people get themselves into trouble without realizing it, how awareness changes the risks we face, and what it actually means to live awake instead of tense, driven, or checked out. If you’ve ever felt like life keeps knocking you sideways even when you’re trying to do the right things, this conversation brings some clarity.
AMA episodes are where we slow things down, answer real questions from real listeners, and translate Taoist ideas into language that works in modern life.
If you enjoy these deeper conversations, make sure you’re subscribed or following the podcast so you don’t miss future episodes. New episodes drop regularly, and your questions help shape what comes next.
Listen in, walk steady, and stay present.
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Why We Prefer Detours
9 december 2025 · 49 min
This week we’re talking about detours. Not the ones on a map, but the ones we build for ourselves. The distractions, side quests, and mental loops that feel safer than taking the next clear step on the path in front of us. We call them delays, but most of the time they’re protection. They keep us busy so we don’t have to face the real thing that wants our attention. Lees meer
In this episode, we look at why the straight path feels threatening, why the long way around feels comforting, and how to recognize the moment you’ve wandered. Not with judgment or pressure, but with clarity. There’s a difference between exploring and avoiding, and that difference shapes the way we move through change, choice, fear, and growth.
If you’ve been drifting, overthinking, or stalling out on something you know you need to do, this conversation will help you see it for what it is and guide you back to solid ground.
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The Truth About Simplicty
2 december 2025 · 44 min
Life gets loud fast. We stack responsibilities, expectations, and distractions until we can’t tell what actually matters and what we picked up out of habit. This episode looks at what happens when you strip things back to their real weight. Simplicity isn’t about owning less or doing less. It’s about seeing clearly. It’s about removing the noise that keeps you from noticing what is already working. Lees meer
We talk about the pressure to complicate our lives, why people are afraid of quiet, and how simplicity sharpens both awareness and action. There is a difference between a full life and a cluttered one. There is a difference between peace and numbness. This episode opens those distinctions in a grounded way that you can feel in your day to day.
If you’ve been overwhelmed, scattered, or pulled in ten directions, this is the reset. A reminder that simplicity is not a downgrade. It is a return.
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There is No Shame in Starting Over
25 november 2025 · 46 min
Starting again is not a failure. It’s part of being human. In this episode, we look at why we treat fresh starts like admissions of defeat and why that story needs to change. There’s no shame in resetting your path, shifting your direction, or admitting that something isn’t working. The Tao teaches us that movement is natural, seasons change, and nothing stays fixed. We talk about how to release the old storyline, how to return to yourself without guilt, and how to take your next step with clarity instead of pressure. This is a conversation about patience, honesty, and beginning again without carrying the weight of who you were yesterday. Lees meer
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Learning to Let Go of Expectations
18 november 2025 · 45 min
Expectation is invisible until it breaks.
You think you’re just hoping, planning, preparing — but underneath, you’re building a world that has to go your way in order to feel right. And when it doesn’t, it hurts twice: once for what happened, and again for what you imagined. Lees meerIn this episode, Kit explores how expectation quietly distorts our lives — in love, in work, in friendship, even in the way we see ourselves. Why we hold others to invisible standards, why we’re crushed when they don’t meet them, and how the Tao teaches balance through restraint.
Lao Tzu wrote, “Better to stop pouring than to fill to the brim.”
That’s the heart of this conversation — learning when to stop pouring, how to release the need for control, and how to meet life without the weight of constant prediction.This isn’t about lowering your hopes or becoming indifferent.
It’s about holding them lightly — doing your work, showing up fully, and stepping back before it spills.If you’ve ever found yourself disappointed and couldn’t explain why, this episode might show you where that story really began.
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The Tao of Change: How to Handle Life's Big Shifts
11 november 2025 · 49 min
Change doesn’t wait for your permission — it just arrives. Sometimes it’s a move, a breakup, a loss, or the slow unraveling of what used to make sense. We call it chaos, but in the Taoist view, it’s simply life doing what life does: shifting form. Lees meer
In this episode, Kit unpacks what really happens when everything familiar starts to move. Why we resist even the changes we secretly asked for, how our evolution ripples through the people around us, and what it means to keep walking when there’s no going back.
This isn’t about “embracing change” or pretending it doesn’t hurt. It’s about learning to move through it with honesty — to stop negotiating with the past, to trust the current, and to notice what remains when everything else falls away.
If you’re in the middle of a major life shift — or standing on the edge of one — this episode is your reminder that change isn’t the end of stability. It’s the return of movement.
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The Tao of Feelings
4 november 2025 · 48 min
What happens when we stop fighting our feelings and start listening to them? In this episode, we explore what Taoism teaches about emotion — not as weakness, but as movement. Anger, sadness, joy, frustration… they all flow through the same current if we let them. The trouble starts when we dam the river, name it “bad,” and try to control its course. Lees meer
Through the lens of Taoist practice, we look at how to sit with what arises without turning it into identity. You’ll hear why emotional balance isn’t about staying calm all the time — it’s about being honest enough to feel everything without drowning in it.
This one is for anyone who’s ever been told to “get over it,” “stay positive,” or “calm down.” Sometimes the most Taoist thing you can do is feel something all the way through.
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How To Stop Caring What Other People Think
28 oktober 2025 · 42 min
We spend so much of our lives chasing approval — from family, friends, co-workers, even strangers online. Sometimes it comes sharp, in the form of criticism, and sometimes it’s imagined, a chorus of voices we rehearse in our own heads. Either way, the weight of other people’s opinions can bend us away from our own path. Lees meer
In this episode of The Modern Taoist, we look at why approval-seeking takes such a toll, where those voices really come from, and how Taoist practice can help us hear them without carrying them. You’ll learn how to notice the difference between truth and noise, how to retrain the reflex to seek validation, and how to walk your path without apology.
Because freedom doesn’t come from getting everyone to clap — it comes from not needing the applause in the first place.
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Ask Me Anything Vol 2
22 oktober 2025 · 45 min
In this second AMA, I’m answering your questions head-on. We talk about how Taoism meets the weight of grief, where to find guidance when you don’t have a mentor, and the very real challenge of telling your boss “no” without burning the bridge. These aren’t abstract concepts, they’re the kinds of moments that test us in everyday life. Lees meer
No script, no filter — just an open conversation about how Taoist practice shows up when life gets heavy, complicated, or unfair.
Listen in, and maybe you’ll hear a piece of your own question in the mix.
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Taoism in the World of AI and Robots
21 oktober 2025 · 48 min
Artificial intelligence and robotics are no longer science fiction—they’re part of our everyday lives. But how do we meet this new world without fear or fantasy? In this episode, we explore the Taoist perspective on technology: how to remain human in a time of machines, how to adapt without losing balance, and how to practice Wu Wei—effortless alignment—even when the pace of change feels overwhelming. Lees meer
We’ll look at the difference between working with the flow of innovation versus being consumed by it, and how to ground yourself in Taoist practice while navigating the reality of automation, algorithms, and artificial companions. This isn’t about resisting the future or blindly embracing it—it’s about walking the middle path, where wisdom and presence shape how we live with AI and robots.
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Surviving the holidays (With a Little Taoist Wisdom
14 oktober 2025 · 44 min
The holidays can feel like celebration and stress at the same time. In this episode, we look at Taoist ways to navigate the season with perspective — noticing what nourishes you, letting go of what drains you, and finding presence in the middle of it all. Lees meer
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Why Taoism Says Not Every Race Is Worth Running
7 oktober 2025 · 42 min
Competition is everywhere—at work, in school, in sports, even in how we measure our own worth. But what does Taoism really say about competing with others? In this episode of The Modern Taoist, we explore how competition shapes our lives and why the Tao offers a very different perspective. Lees meer
We’ll look at the ways rivalry can drain us, how comparison steals clarity, and why forcing ourselves to “win” often leads us away from balance. More importantly, we’ll dig into how Taoist practice invites us to move without striving, to improve without obsessing, and to find strength without turning life into a constant contest.
This is not about rejecting achievement—it’s about shifting the lens. Taoism shows us how to step out of endless competition and step into flow, presence, and alignment with the Tao itself.
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Ask Me Anything (Vol1)
30 september 2025 · 50 min
In this special Ask Me Anything episode of The Modern Taoist, we set aside themes and verses to answer your questions directly. From the simple to the mysterious, from daily practice to the afterlife, Taoism has room for it all. Lees meer
In this bonus conversation, I take on questions like:
🌿 What does a Taoist daily practice look like for a beginner?
🌿 How do you find Tao in the middle of a city of concrete?
🌿 Do Taoists believe in destiny, or is it all chance and choice?
🌿 What does Taoism say about the afterlife?
🌿 Do Taoists fast—and if so, why?
🌿 Who created the yin–yang symbol, and why does it appear in so many traditions?
Taoism doesn’t always give neat, final answers—but it offers ways to live into the questions. My hope is that in hearing these, you’ll discover your own questions echoed, and maybe even sparked anew.
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Escaping the Chronic Negative: Taoism and Breaking Free from the Drain
30 september 2025 · 47 min
Negativity has a way of digging in deep. It can become a habit, a lens, even an identity—and when that happens, it colors everything around us. In this episode of The Modern Taoist, we explore what it means to live with “chronic negative” energy, how it takes root, and why Taoist practice offers a different way forward. Lees meer
Instead of fighting darkness with more darkness, Taoism teaches us how to step aside, to create distance, and to let light in without force. We’ll look at real-world situations, everyday habits, and practical Taoist tools to break the cycle—without falling into toxic positivity or denial.
This is an episode about clarity, compassion, and reclaiming your own presence.
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Quieting the Hum of Unease
23 september 2025 · 44 min
There’s a low sound many of us live with — not in our ears, but in our lives. A restlessness that hums beneath the surface. It’s not quite fear, not quite anger, not quite exhaustion. It’s that steady unease that keeps us scrolling, keeps us moving, keeps us from ever really settling. Lees meer
In this episode, we explore what Taoism has to say about that hum. Where it comes from. How modern life amplifies it. And most importantly, how Taoist practice — breath, balance, and clarity — can help you quiet it without forcing it away.
This isn’t about ignoring the world. It’s about moving differently within it. Because the hum doesn’t disappear when you pretend it isn’t there. It softens when you learn to flow with the Tao.
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What Taoism and Superheroes Have in Common
16 september 2025 · 37 min
Are There Taoist Superheroes? Lees meer
A listener asked a playful but serious question: “Are there any Taoist superheroes?”
In this episode of The Modern Taoist, we dive into ancient Chinese legends, modern comic book icons, and the Tao itself to explore what heroism really means. From Zhong Kui the demon-queller to Doctor Strange on the big screen, we ask: what does Taoism teach us about strength, restraint, and clarity in a world obsessed with domination?
You might not find a Taoist in a cape, but you will find a different vision of heroism — one rooted in balance, humility, and compassion. And maybe, you’ll see that Taoist superheroes aren’t just in myths or movies… they can live in the choices you make every day.
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Taoism on Hate: Meeting Anger Without Absorbing It
16 september 2025 · 39 min
Hate is loud. It shows up in politics, in online arguments, in family conversations, and in the quiet ways people carry bitterness in daily life. The question is: how do we live alongside that energy without letting it become ours? Lees meer
In this episode of The Modern Taoist, we explore Taoist ways of meeting hate with clarity instead of fear, and with balance instead of absorption. We’ll talk about the difference between compassion and approval, why distance is not weakness, and how to walk away without shame when the world demands you fight every battle.
This isn’t about pretending hate doesn’t exist. It’s about remembering that hate belongs to the one who carries it — and you don’t have to pick it up.