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Lost in the Haze: A Primer on The Perfect Storm of Teens, ADHD, and Marijuana, with Dr. Mariely Hernandez

12 december 2024 · 55 min
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A significant number of parents in the Hopestream community find themselves facing three major issues with their kids: ‘unfinished’ adolescence brains, heavy use of marijuana, and ADHD. That probably shouldn’t be surprising; kids with ADHD are more likely to use substances earlier and more dangerously than neurotypical kids. Fortunately, though, my guest today has studied the intersection of substance use and ADHD for years.

In addition to her academic knowledge, Dr. Mariely Hernandez brings a lot of personal ADHD experience to the table: her own diagnosis, parenting a son who has been diagnosed, and a business practice that helps adults with ADHD recognize and play to their strengths.

In this episode, Mariely gives a wide-ranging explanation of all these issues, including the symptoms and experience of kids with ADHD who use, the catch-22 that makes it hard for them to get treatment, specific issues faced by girls, structural supports parents can offer, and why messages of delaying substance use can be more powerful than messages of abstinence.

If your child is experimenting with substances and you suspect - or know- they have ADHD, do not miss this enlightening episode!

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Twitter & Instagram: @DrMarielyh

Flare Calmer Ear Buds

Dr. Hernandez Researchgate profile

Marijuana & psychosis article - Child Mind Institute

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The Family Black Sheep: Understanding The Overlooked Child, A Marijuana Tipping Point & Embracing Self-Discovery, with Matt LeBris

5 december 2024 · 41 min
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Matt Lebris spent his early college years on the Dean's honor list, putting on a suit and smoking weed every morning. But after a minor traffic accident, mixing marijuana and muscle relaxers sent him to the hospital in an intense panic attack.

Since then, Matt has embarked on a mission to share not only the joys of sobriety but the incredible benefits of therapeutic self-work that have helped him come to terms with the emotional deficits of his youth. Matt is currently the host of the "Decoding Success Podcast", where he invites leaders in various fields to share their inner journeys -- especially how they've used their challenging life experiences to fuel massive success.

In this episode, Matt and I discuss marijuana use and addiction, what it's like to be "doing the work" on yourself as a male in modern society, and the hidden power of being a black sheep.

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Matt’s website

Matt’s podcast, Decoding Success

Matt on Instagram

This podcast is part of a nonprofit called Hopestream Community
Learn about The Stream, our private online community for moms
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Download a free e-book, Worried Sick: A Compassionate Guide For Parents When Your Teen or Young Adult Child Misuses Drugs and Alcohol

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Embracing the Uncomfortable Space Between Expectation and Reality When Your Child Struggles with Substances and Mental Health, with Brenda Zane

28 november 2024 · 15 min
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This Thanksgiving, join me for a heartfelt exploration of life's most challenging moments. When our carefully constructed and curated expectations shatter like dishes crashing from a flipped table, how can you find grace, gratitude, and grounding? Lees meer

In this short solo episode, I draw from a deeply personal reflection sparked by loss and uncertainty. This episode speaks directly to anyone feeling untethered—parents struggling with family challenges, individuals navigating unexpected life transitions, or anyone wrestling with the gap between what is and what we thought life (or Thanksgiving) would be.

Gift yourself 15 minutes and find ways to embrace your current journey compassionately, sit with discomfort, and discover that being "okay" looks different for everyone.

This podcast is part of a nonprofit called Hopestream Community
Learn about The Stream, our private online community for moms
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Download a free e-book, Worried Sick: A Compassionate Guide For Parents When Your Teen or Young Adult Child Misuses Drugs and Alcohol

Hopestream Community is a registered 501(c)3 nonprofit organization and an Amazon Associate. We may make a small commission if you purchase from our links.
Wandering Spark: From Youth Rebel to Law School and Ultra Athlete, with Kyle Robinson

21 november 2024 · 48 min
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Kyle Robinson first represented someone in court at the age of 18 years old. He was representing himself, defending against charges of assault, disorderly conduct and disturbing the peace – for a fight that hadn’t even happened. If that’s not foreshadowing I don’t know what is.

Kyle had certainly been in a few fights before this particular arrest. The physical and emotional abuse he’d endured from his stepfather since the age of four had driven him to rebellion, fighting, misusing substances, and a 1.0 high school GPA. But he had checked himself into rehab at the age of 17, and was trying his best to stay out of trouble as a legal adult.

Kyle’s courtroom defense was successful. The acquittal made him feel as though he was putting himself on the right track. But when he was accepted to college against all odds, everything changed again.

In this recovery episode, Kyle shares the journey laid out in his new memoir, “Wandering Spark.” You’ll hear how he went from a jail cell to law school, how writing the book made him come to terms with the reasons he had used substances in the first place and the incredible importance of adults who take the time to encourage young people who are struggling. This episode is another great reminder that there is always hope!

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Kyle’s website

Wandering Spark on Amazon

No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz (IFS)

Self-Therapy: A Step-by-Step Guide to Creating Wholeness Using IFS, A Cutting-Edge Psychotherapy, 3rd Edition

This podcast is part of a nonprofit called Hopestream Community
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Download a free e-book, Worried Sick: A Compassionate Guide For Parents When Your Teen or Young Adult Child Misuses Drugs and Alcohol

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A Groundbreaking, FDA-Cleared Approach to Opioid Use Disorder, with Jeff Lott

14 november 2024 · 39 min
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In 2020, a documentary film titled "The Final Fix" introduced the public to a new treatment for opioid use disorder. The claims of the neuroelectric therapy (NET) device are bold: opiate detox in 3-5 days with little or no withdrawal symptoms, discomfort, or cravings. Since the film’s release, I have personally known three people who acquired NET treatment for their kids, including two from the Hopestream community. All have had great experiences. Lees meer

In 2021, double-blind trials of more than 100 people experiencing opioid use disorder began and the NET Device for OUD treatment was approved by the FDA in May of this year.

In this episode, I spoke with Jeff Lott, director of communications at NET Recovery. We discussed the surprising origins of this medical technology, how NET was accidentally discovered by a Scottish surgeon working in Hong Kong, the fact that its groundbreaking results are not a panacea for recovery, and plans for the future of the NET Device for widespread adoption and use in the treatment industry.

EPISODE RESOURCES:

A randomized, sham-controlled, quintuple-blinded trial to evaluate the NET device as an alternative to medication for promoting opioid abstinence

Revolutionary Kentucky-based opioid use disorder treatment device receives FDA approval

NET Recovery website

Isiah House NET Recovery Information

This podcast is part of a nonprofit called Hopestream Community
Learn about The Stream, our private online community for moms
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Download a free e-book, Worried Sick: A Compassionate Guide For Parents When Your Teen or Young Adult Child Misuses Drugs and Alcohol

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Releasing Resentment and Guilt Through “Pungent Boundaries,” with Nancy Landrum

7 november 2024 · 58 min
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When Nancy Landrum’s son was hospitalized with congestive heart failure, doctors didn’t expect him to live through the night. His misuse of amphetamines for more than a decade had left his heart double its normal size and generally wreaked total chaos on his life.

Nancy’s parents and other family members told her that her son’s substance use was her fault. And for a while, she believed them. It’s not surprising that she developed her own addictions to food and rescuing her son. But these dysfunctional coping mechanisms bred a resentment that plunged her into near-suicidal depression.

Nancy is now a highly sought-after relationship coach with a master's degree in spiritual psychology and the author of eight books. In this episode, we look back over the 15 years she spent parenting a child misusing substances to share the most important truths she’s taken away from the experience. We discuss the specific ways she learned to set and keep boundaries - without guilt - the relationship between resentment and depression, releasing the guilt parents often have about their child’s behavior and more.

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Nancy’s website and books

This podcast is part of a nonprofit called Hopestream Community
Learn about The Stream, our private online community for moms
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Download a free e-book, Worried Sick: A Compassionate Guide For Parents When Your Teen or Young Adult Child Misuses Drugs and Alcohol

Hopestream Community is a registered 501(c)3 nonprofit organization and an Amazon Associate. We may make a small commission if you purchase from our links.
Your Child's Struggle Isn't Yours to Fix, with Kristina Kuzmič, Author of "I Can Fix This"

31 oktober 2024 · 53 min
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Kristina Kuzmič had harbored some denial about her oldest son's depression, anxiety and substance use. "Lots of kids have problems. Maybe everything will work itself out," she thought. That denial ended abruptly the night she had to call the police.

Neighbors she hadn't even met yet stared from their driveways as her son was pushed into a police car, swearing loudly at her. Her three-word response to the shame and guilt she felt that night may just help change the way you view the world.

Kristina went on to write the book "I Can Fix This: And Other Lies I've Told Myself While Parenting My Struggling Child". Her son, now in recovery, encouraged her to write every gritty detail of the family's struggles -- and wrote the final chapter himself.

In this interview, Kristina brings the charm and humor that won Oprah's reality TV show to crucial issues facing parents with kids who are struggling. We discuss the power of shared experience in support groups, why she danced the night away as her son was in the psych ward, why the "good kids" in families often suffer in silence, and how parents can connect to them despite their sibling's struggles. And so much more!

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Kristina’s YouTube Channel

Kristina’s website

Kristina’s Facebook

Kristina’s Instagram

This podcast is part of a nonprofit called Hopestream Community
Learn about The Stream, our private online community for moms
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Download a free e-book, Worried Sick: A Compassionate Guide For Parents When Your Teen or Young Adult Child Misuses Drugs and Alcohol

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The Influence Factor: How Parents Can Use Leverage and Raise the Bottom for Treatment-Resistant Kids Struggling with Substance Misuse, with Jared Murray

24 oktober 2024 · 41 min
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The chaos of Jared Murray's substance use got him expelled from the University of Alabama and banned from campus. How then, did he go on to eventually running the university's collegiate recovery program? You’ll have to listen to find out.

Jared now spends every day talking with young adults and their parents about addiction, mental health and sober life at Momentum Recovery in North Carolina. Many of those parents are in a position that you might be familiar with - desperately trying to convince their young adult child to pursue treatment and recovery.

In this episode, Jared brings his personal and professional experiences to bear on considerations around when it’s time to seek help, whether youth have to be open to treatment to realize benefits, whether relapse is inevitable, and why interventions don't have to look like anything you've seen on TV.

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Momentum Recovery website

This podcast is part of a nonprofit called Hopestream Community
Learn about The Stream, our private online community for moms
Find us on Instagram here
Watch the podcast on YouTube here
Download a free e-book, Worried Sick: A Compassionate Guide For Parents When Your Teen or Young Adult Child Misuses Drugs and Alcohol

Hopestream Community is a registered 501(c)3 nonprofit organization and an Amazon Associate. We may make a small commission if you purchase from our links.
Stepping Into Acceptance When Your Child Misuses Substances and Struggles with Mental Health, with Brenda Zane

17 oktober 2024 · 12 min
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In an unplanned and heartfelt episode, I decided to share some thoughts on the importance of acceptance in the face of life's challenges. I discuss how resisting difficult experiences can hinder personal growth and highlight the beauty of transformation that comes with accepting reality. Lees meer

You'll also hear a story of a life saved recently by one of our members, made possible by the support of Hopestream's scholarship fund. This episode takes place during our Seeds of Hope Giving Campaign for 2024, which you can learn more about at hopestreamcommunity.org/donate. If the Hopestream podcast has been helpful for you and your family, please consider a donation to our 501(c)3 nonprofit organization to keep it on air and, importantly, ad-free.

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Hopestream’s Seeds of Hope Giving Campaign

This podcast is part of a nonprofit called Hopestream Community
Learn about The Stream, our private online community for moms
Find us on Instagram here
Watch the podcast on YouTube here
Download a free e-book, Worried Sick: A Compassionate Guide For Parents When Your Teen or Young Adult Child Misuses Drugs and Alcohol

Hopestream Community is a registered 501(c)3 nonprofit organization and an Amazon Associate. We may make a small commission if you purchase from our links.
How Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation Plays A Role in Treating Anxiety, Depression, PTSD and More, with Martha Koo, M.D.

10 oktober 2024 · 52 min
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Transcranial magnetic stimulation (TMS) is a highly effective but obscure treatment in psychiatry. It received its first FDA clearance for the treatment of depression in 2008 but has since proven itself to be effective for a host of other issues – depression, OCD, smoking cessation, bipolar, PTSD, cognitive impairment, and even autism. And a huge bonus? Side effects are practically non-existent.

If that doesn’t get your attention, consider this: The FDA recently cleared TMS for depression in adolescents aged 15 and up, with studies currently being conducted on efficacy for substance use disorders.

In this episode, I speak with Dr. Martha Koo, president of the TMS society's board of directors. Martha received her degrees from Princeton and UCLA and is double-board-certified in psychiatry and addiction. She has also participated in the evolution of TMS for decades. She’ll explain who TMS is for, how it works, what it’s capable of, and why there may be an explosion of its use in the coming years.

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Neuro Wellness Spa

Your Behavioral Health

Clear Behavioral Health (Mental Health & Addiction Services)

TMS Society (find a provider)

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Download a free e-book, Worried Sick: A Compassionate Guide For Parents When Your Teen or Young Adult Child Misuses Drugs and Alcohol

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Wellspring of Hope: Whole-Person Recovery for Girls and Their Families, with Dr. Marcy Russo and Sara Osborne

3 oktober 2024 · 51 min
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As a mom of four boys, I confess to knowing very little about raising girls. But my guests today have an intimate understanding of the specific emotional needs and experiences of adolescent girls, young women, and gender diverse individuals grounded in decades of therapeutic work.

Dr. Marcy Russo and Sara Osborne advocate for a whole-person approach to residential treatment for many of the most common mental and behavioral health issues -- anxiety, depression, trauma, eating disorders -- and the substance use disorders that sometimes result.

In this episode we'll discuss the perfect storm of issues, from Covid to social media, that has left so many young women feeling they cannot navigate social expectations or develop healthy, supportive relationships. We also talk about the use of relational and somatic therapeutic tools to help girls find authenticity and self-understanding for long term wellness and recovery.

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Wellspring website

Angelus House website

This podcast is part of a nonprofit called Hopestream Community
Learn about The Stream, our private online community for moms
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Download a free e-book, Worried Sick: A Compassionate Guide For Parents When Your Teen or Young Adult Child Misuses Drugs and Alcohol

Hopestream Community is a registered 501(c)3 nonprofit organization and an Amazon Associate. We may make a small commission if you purchase from our links.
CRAFT: Help Your Teen or 20-Something Kid Choose Recovery, with Brenda Zane

26 september 2024 · 29 min
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Community Reinforcement and Family Training (aka CRAFT) is a system for helping friends and family members change the way that they interact with someone they love who has an unhealthy and/or dangerous relationship with substances. Lees meer

CRAFT teaches family members how to stay connected, increase communication, and effectively encourage their loved one toward treatment, while taking care of themselves in the process.

This episode centers around what parents need to know about CRAFT to have the best possible chance at having their child accept help for their substance misuse. It's one where you may want a notebook to capture the steps and actions involved in this very important process.

This podcast is part of a nonprofit called Hopestream Community
Learn about The Stream, our private online community for moms
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Download a free e-book, Worried Sick: A Compassionate Guide For Parents When Your Teen or Young Adult Child Misuses Drugs and Alcohol

Hopestream Community is a registered 501(c)3 nonprofit organization and an Amazon Associate. We may make a small commission if you purchase from our links.
Mental Fitness: Athletic Success Beyond Substance Use, with Georgia Tech's Dr. Steedy Kontos

19 september 2024 · 42 min
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Even before he became a teenager, it seemed to Dr. Steedy Kontos that he was good at anything he tried to do - especially sports. He shined in football, baseball, basketball, wrestling and track, and recruiters were starting to take notice. It seemed he was well on his way to becoming a professional athlete.

But Steedy had also begun experimenting with marijuana and alcohol at the age of 12. When he was caught skipping class in high school, his coach informed him that he would be required to attend extra summer conditioning on top of the school's disciplinary program. He refused, giving up his promising career, and redirected his energies to drugs, alcohol and partying.

In the years since he began his own recovery, Steedy has obtained a doctorate in clinical psychology, served as a collegiate recovery program coordinator, and a staff therapist at Division 1 school Georgia Tech. For the first time on the Hopestream podcast, Steedy walks us through the specific challenges and needs of student athletes in recovery.

We'll discuss the role that parents sometimes play in the intense and unhealthy pressure on D1 athletes, imposter syndrome at elite schools, and the academic benefits of collegiate recovery programs.

EPISODE RESOURCES:

InTown Psychology, Atlanta, GA

Assoc. Of Recovery In Higher Education (Collegiate Recovery)

Georgia Tech Collegiate Recovery Program

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Demystifying AA For Young People: Spirituality, Rock Bottom, Fellowship and Nicotine with Three Young Adults

12 september 2024 · 46 min
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Listeners of Hopestream get to hear from lots of amazing doctors, therapists, specialists, and academics. We can't underestimate how valuable their insights are, but we also need to listen to the voices of young people who have misused substances and come out the other side.

That's why our recent guest speakers session for members of Hopestream Community featured an AMA (ask me anything) with three young people who are living healthy lives after facing extreme forms of substance misuse. Each found their path in the 12-step program, which may be the most common treatment program in the country, but can also be totally unfamiliar to parents suddenly thrown into the world of addiction and recovery.

In this conversation, they answer questions posed by the parents of the Hopestream community, including the controversial concept of "rock bottom", the power of peer support and parents' united front, and whether recovery can (or should) include nicotine use.

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Find an AA meeting here
Find a recovery high school here
Connect with Young People in Recovery here
Search locally for an "Alternative Peer Group" in your city

This podcast is part of a nonprofit called Hopestream Community
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Download a free e-book, Worried Sick: A Compassionate Guide For Parents When Your Teen or Young Adult Child Misuses Drugs and Alcohol

Hopestream Community is a registered 501(c)3 nonprofit organization and an Amazon Associate. We may make a small commission if you purchase from our links.
Unmasking Trauma's Role in Addiction and Family Healing, with Dr. Amy Hoyt

5 september 2024 · 51 min
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For those who haven't seen their child's life endangered by the misuse of substances, calling the experience "trauma" may sound like an exaggeration. But my guest today says that the effects on the body and mind are almost identical.

Dr. Amy Hoyt has been working in the field of trauma for 10 years, with studies ranging from genocide to addiction. But her understanding isn't just academic. After suffering sexual abuse in her teens, Amy repressed the memories and began drinking before high school classes every morning. With the help of a good friend and parents who were willing to step in, she has been in recovery for many years.

Over the course of her career, Amy has learned that toxic and vicarious stress mimic the effects of trauma in the body and mind. Constant stress changes our gene expression, and can even "turn on" experiences of pain, gut symptoms like IBS, autoimmune disorder, fibromyalgia, and serotonin issues.

In this episode, Amy reviews some of the current research on stress and trauma relevant to kids using substances AND their parents, proven methods to down-regulate an overworked nervous system, and why psychological pain isn't "all in your head."

EPISODE RESOURCES:

The Mending Trauma Podcast

Dr. Hoyt’s website

Dr. Hoyt on Instagram

Peace After Trauma Membership

This podcast is part of a nonprofit called Hopestream Community
Learn about The Stream, our private online community for moms
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Watch the podcast on YouTube here
Download a free e-book, Worried Sick: A Compassionate Guide For Parents When Your Teen or Young Adult Child Misuses Drugs and Alcohol

Hopestream Community is a registered 501(c)3 nonprofit organization and an Amazon Associate. We may make a small commission if you purchase from our links.
Ten Parenting Patterns That May Prolong Your Child's Struggle with Substances, And What To Do Instead, with Brenda Zane

29 augustus 2024 · 31 min
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Parents sometimes fall into patterns that can unintentionally prolong their child's struggle with substance use. In this eye-opening solo episode, Brenda Zane reveals ten common parenting pitfalls that might be keeping your family stuck on the Roller Coaster Ride. I emphasize that recognizing these behaviors doesn't make someone a bad parent but rather, presents opportunities for growth and positive change. Lees meer

In just 30 minutes, you'll discover practical strategies to shift your approach and create the conditions for positive change – without the guilt or shame. And many of them you can implement today!

Key points covered in the episode:

The importance of self-care and not running on fumes

Why shaming, blaming, or yelling is ineffective

The need for consistent parenting approaches between partners

Understanding addiction as a health issue, not a character flaw

Moving beyond the "rock bottom" myth

Avoiding information overload and lecturing

Not engaging when your child is under the influence (and two other times)

Recognizing when "it's just a phase" thinking is harmful

The dangers of being a "fixer" and preventing natural consequences

The benefits of seeking support and community instead of isolating

Join me for practical tips, resource recommendations, and encouragement. And don't miss the helpful PDF download in the show notes where you can dive deeper into each of the ten pitfalls and find links to resources.

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Click here to download this episode's free resource guide

This podcast is part of a nonprofit called Hopestream Community
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Download a free e-book, Worried Sick: A Compassionate Guide For Parents When Your Teen or Young Adult Child Misuses Drugs and Alcohol

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There Are No Bad Parts Of Us: Understanding Internal Family Systems (IFS) for Addiction, with Cece Sykes

22 augustus 2024 · 49 min
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Everyone knows the experience of internal dialogue and conflict about who we are and how we will respond to the world around us. It can feel as if there are parts of us at war with each other. For kids using substances, these parts can become extremely polarized – for instance, part of them wants nothing more than to use, and another genuinely desires self-control.

My guest today says that while their inner parts are engaged in this debate about use, it's hard for them to see the underlying cause of the substance use or addictive behavior, whether that be loneliness, anxiety, or shame.

Cece Sykes saw her first client almost 45 years ago, and since then has been doing incredible work with young people suffering from addiction and trauma. Cece is one of the first practitioners of Internal Family Systems (IFS), a framework for understanding the roles each of these parts are playing, discovering what role they play in our coping, and gaining a deeper understanding of our kids' needs and motivations.

Interestingly, understanding IFS can change our relationship with ourselves as well. We all have these parts, and the self-examination that this framework provides can help us move beyond the unhealthy dynamics that often develop between parents and kids using substances. In this episode, Cece explains how that works, and how we can help our kids recoginze all the parts of them, without shame, and with more self-compassion.

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Cece Skyes, LCSW website

IFS Therapy for Addictions

“We All Have Parts,” by Colleen West

“No Bad Parts,” by Dr. Richard Schwartz

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Keep Coming Back: A Hollywood Director Finds Art, And Healing Through His Daughter’s Recovery, with Mark Rosman

15 augustus 2024 · 47 min
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After years of producing feature films and TV shows about family life like Cinderella Story, Perfect Man, Lizzy McGuire, and many others, Mark Rosman was forced to face the reality of problems in his own family.

Mark and his wife spent some time in denial about their daughter's substance use. Even after two trips to the emergency room, they decided against professional advice to get her into treatment immediately. They chalked everything up to ordinary teen rebellion and experimentation, sending her to a traditional boarding school instead. Less than one month later, she was in the emergency room again after downing a bottle of Listerine. Thus began the roller coaster we're all familiar with: periods of hope and sobriety, followed by lapses into chaos and returns to use.

Like many parents, Mark instinctively rejected the notion of "self care", or any form of detachment from his daughter's behavior and state of mind at any given time. Finally, in what seemed like his 100th parent group meeting, he admitted to himself (and everyone else there) the utter hopelessness he was feeling. This was the beginning of the entire family's recovery.

In this episode, Mark talks about how this realization helped him to learn to set boundaries and how – now five years into his daughter's recovery – he’s making his own story into a feature film which, for the first time, focuses on the experiences of parents.

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Keep Coming Back Film

Keep Coming Back Instagram account

This podcast is part of a nonprofit called Hopestream Community
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Download a free e-book, Worried Sick: A Compassionate Guide For Parents When Your Teen or Young Adult Child Misuses Drugs and Alcohol

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The Anxiety Factor: Untangling the Adolescent Anxiety And Substance Use Knot, with Jarell Myers. Ph.D.

8 augustus 2024 · 1 uur 1 min
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When Dr. Jarrell Myers took his first job out of grad school, he loved working with children suffering from anxiety disorders, as well as their families. It was a calling he’d already been pursuing for years. But there was a big problem: many kids who needed needed help for their anxiety couldn’t become patients in his program because they were using substances.

While this made some clinical sense (for reasons Jarell will explain), it also failed to acknowledge that substance use was woven into their anxiety, often as a coping mechanism. This is what finally led him to the Center for Motivational Change (CMC).

CMC publishes the book I recommend more than any other to parents of kids struggling with substances – Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change. Today I finally have a chance to speak with Dr. Myers about some of the core principles it contains.

In this episode, we discuss the nature of anxiety, why it makes sense that anxious kids to turn to substances, how parenting those kids may trigger our own fear and anxiety responses, and how to give our families the best fighting chance in the face of these realities.

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Center for Motivation and Change

Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change

Beyond Addiction Workbook for Friends and Family

This podcast is part of a nonprofit called Hopestream Community
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Navigating Trauma and Healing When Parenting a Child Who Misuses Drugs or Alcohol, with Christopher O'Reilly

1 augustus 2024 · 52 min
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Christopher O’Reilly says it’s a mistake to think that we can just understand our way out of trauma. But he claims that healing—once we understand how to receive it—can bring intimacy and connection with other human beings in a way we might never know without those challenges.

After surviving his own struggles with substance use, Christopher should know. When he discovered the power of mindfulness meditation to examine his own choices and motivations, Christopher chose the path of change. He has spent the past 20 years helping others do the same.

After earning his master's degree, Christopher pursued certification in multiple forms of trauma and addiction counseling. He teaches mindfulness-based stress reduction classes at Brown University, but the center of his professional life is serving as Vice President of Clinical Services at Onsite’s residential trauma treatment program, Milestones.

In this episode, Christopher and I discuss the anxiety and trauma of parents who have kids misusing substances, why our children can be reluctant to talk about their own anxiety and trauma, and why substance use is sometimes their best option – for a while.

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Milestones website

Onsite website

Christopher O'Reilly on LinkedIn

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Six Ideas When You're Looking For The Escape Hatch While Parenting A Child Struggling With Drugs and Alcohol, with Brenda Zane

25 juli 2024 · 28 min
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Upon returning from vacation, I started to notice a theme in our community and my friend groups - there are a lot of exhausted, brain-fried parents who are looking for an escape from the day-to-day strain of having a child who misuses or is addicted to substances. From spouse and partner relationships to our kids themselves, we sometimes need time to tap out and escape.

This episode will give you six simple (not necessarily easy) things you can do when you’re looking for an escape hatch to help navigate through difficulties. You’ll also hear about our upcoming Signature Fall Retreat: Restoration Mom and an invitation to dads who may want an escape of their own.

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Episode 174 on boundaries with Cathy Cioth

Onsite retreats and intensives

Evoke Intensives

Restoration Mom retreat, Oct. 1-4, 2024

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Coaching Episode: A Season of Grief and Loss Reveals the Seeds of Hope, with Leah

18 juli 2024 · 47 min
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We all have more going on in our lives than just kids who are misusing substances. But Leah is currently facing an overload of grief and loss including caring for her father-in-law through in-home hospice, the loss of her first grandchild as a newborn, and now caring in-home for her mother and sister-in-law, both of whom are suffering from alzheimers and dementia. Her oldest son, who’s been struggling with substance misuse for eight years, has recently been expressing suicidal ideation. All of this while Leah is working and raising her youngest, a 14 year old son.

It’s hard to overstate the stress and trauma this Hopestream mom has dealt with over the past year. Despite all of this, Leah moves forward with positivity and hope. Some days though, the anxiety pushes her to work herself to exhaustion to gain some control - any control - over a world that seems increasingly unpredictable and scary.

In this episode, Leah and I discuss the best perspective she can take on this season of her life, the good it will bring about, how she wants to look back on it in the future, and why the loss of her newborn grandchild may have been a turning point for her oldest son.

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Hopestream Community

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Filling the Accountability Gap: Taking Parents Out Of Being The “Sobriety Police,” with AJ Diaz

11 juli 2024 · 50 min
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When AJ Diaz left his sober living home after a year-long stay, he got the same thing everyone else did - a sheet of paper that essentially said, "Here is your relapse prevention plan.We wish you the best." AJ felt in his gut this was insufficient to support people in early recovery, and after years of working in the field, he now knows he was right.

AJ says staying sober within the four walls of treatment isn’t all that hard. Individuals receive hot meals, supportive staff, structure and routine, and socialization with others facing the same challenges. It's when people - especially young people - leave treatment that the world hits them like a ton of bricks. They come face to face with relationships and complications that can disregulate everything they've been practicing, and without the buffer of substances to help them cope.

Seeing a desperate need for continuing outpatient care, AJ and his business partner created a supportive early-recovery program called Accountable. In this episode, AJ and I discuss the most common issues families face with a young person in early recovery (many will sound very familiar), why Accountable removes the responsibility of drug testing from parents and spouses, and why fathers often find it difficult to participate in approaches like CRAFT.

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Accountable website and phone: 646-450-7641

Read: Dear Opiates: A True Story Of How A “Harmless” Addiction Took Over My Life

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Letters To My Son In Prison: A Father’s Spiritual Path Through Unthinkable Tragedy, with Ken Guidroz

4 juli 2024 · 43 min
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Ken Guidroz's son hit a Los Angeles bicyclist while high on heroin, killing the man before his body hit the ground. Ken's son fled the scene but turned himself in less than 24 hours later.

What followed this tragic accident was a long period of pain and loss not only for the widow of the deceased but for Ken's entire family, as his son was sentenced to years in prison. Ken had given much of his life to God, making sacrifices to serve nearly a decade as leader of congregations and raise his three sons in the best way he knew how. With an innocent man dead, one son in prison, and the other two making bad decisions, where was God now?

In this episode, Ken and I discuss how a long period of brokenness and loss began to transform into forgiveness and healing, culminating in his memoir, Letters to My Son in Prison: How a father and son found forgiveness for an unforgivable crime. In this conversation, we discuss the art of blending quiet intuition with the voice of God, how Ken pulled through a crisis of both faith and confidence and a "near-hallucinogenic" experience of catharsis in his darkest hour.

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Ken’s website

Letters to My Son In Prison - Ken’s Book

Subscribe to Ken’s Substack

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Gone in a Snap: Inside Snapchat’s Teen Opioid Crisis, with Paul Solotaroff

2 juli 2024 · 46 min
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Over 35 years of reporting on the terrible consequences of both drugs and the war on drugs, Pulitzer Prize finalist Paul Solotaroff developed deep contacts with DEA, Homeland Security, and other branches of law enforcement across the country. Paul had already seen the deadly wave of fentanyl-spiked heroin in 2013-2014, so when a top official at the DOJ called him last year sounding more desperate than ever before, he knew there was a serious crisis.

Paul was informed that 5-10 children were dying every day from a new scourge: fake pharmaceuticals like Adderall and Oxycontin made from fentanyl. Even more disturbing, he discovered that kids no longer even have to know a dealer to obtain the pills. In his lengthy new article in Rolling Stone, Paul details how Snapchat - a platform designed for its content to disappear - has been helping dealers find kids who might otherwise have never bought illegal drugs.

In this episode, he shares the terrifying truth about the latest fentanyl crisis, how social media companies have facilitated underage drug use, and the upcoming legal battles to hold them accountable.

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Rolling Stones article

Social Media Victim’s Law Center

Kids Online Safety Act

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Of Course Your Kid Doesn’t Want To Go To Treatment; Meeting Treatment-Resistant Youth With The CRAFT Approach, with Lara Okoloko

27 juni 2024 · 47 min
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Lara Okoloko wants parents to understand something important:

The majority of treatment options were designed for older adults with severe substance use disorders. She says we shouldn’t be surprised that young people with mild to moderate disorders are not interested in identifying with a permanent label of “addict” or “alcoholic” and swearing lifelong abstinence.

The standardization of treatment for older adults has also led parents to believe that anyone with a substance use disorder is destined for jail, institutions and death unless they find sobriety. Lara says this just isn’t true for kids and young adults.

As a 15-year practitioner and teacher of the CRAFT approach, Lara should know. She has served as a licensed clinical social worker for kids who are at-risk, in foster care, and drug-dependent, and now works with parents and families as well.

In this episode, we discuss in more detail why teens can be resistant to treatment, how the TV show “Intervention” changed our entire concept of treatment, the enduring myth that most kids are using substances, and why, despite its proven track record, CRAFT still isn’t the standard approach recommended and used for helping a loved one.

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Lara’s website

List of CRAFT-trained therapists in WA State

WA State healthy use survey

Find a CRAFT-trained provider or organization at the Helping Families Help website

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Do I Really Need A Community? Who is Hopestream for? All The Answers You Need, with Cathy Cioth

20 juni 2024 · 38 min
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If you’re a loyal podcast listener, or just new to our space, you might be curious about what the Hopestream Community membership is all about, and if it would be helpful for you.

Because we get questions about this all the time, Hopestream co-founder, Cathy Cioth and I decided to dedicate an episode to answering them. We cover questions like, is my kid bad enough (or too bad) for this community? What if my kid is already in treatment and I have great support there? What if I’m a mental health professional or a prominent member of my community and I don’t want people to know I’m there for help? Tune in to find out answers to these questions and more.

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Hopestream Community membership info

Johnny’s Ambassadors

Laura Stack on Hopestream

Krissy Pozatek website

The Parallel Process book

The Stream’s Restoration Mom Retreat Webpage

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Afraid to Let Go: Overcoming Codependent Patterns to Support Your Child's Recovery, with Dr. Mary Crocker Cook

13 juni 2024 · 48 min
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"Codependent" is one of the many words that has moved from the mental health field into casual, daily conversation. Unfortunately, its broad use has left most of us without a grounded understanding of what codependency really is, how it can affect our lives, and what to do about it.

Mary is the Faculty and Program Coordinator at San Jose City College Alcohol & Drug Studies Program, the Co-Founder and Clinical Director of Recovery Connections Treatment Services, and far too many other programs to list here. Her expertise on attachment and codependency led her to a simple principle: people develop a secure attachment to substances to self-soothe when key adults can’t see them or respond to their needs appropriately.

After decades of clinical work and academic instruction, Dr. Cook is uniquely qualified to explain the connection between codependency and substance misuse. In this episode, we'll cover the three components of codependency - development, behaviors, and physiological consequences - how they’re connected to substance use and our ability (or inability) to set appropriate boundaries, and the crucial concept of "lifting the bottom up" for people struggling with substance use disorders.

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Afraid to Let Go: For Parents of Adult Addicts and Alcoholics

Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find – and Keep – Love

Awakening Hope: A Developmental, Behavioral, Biological Approach to Codependency Treatment

Mary’s email: marycook@connectionscounselingassociates.com

Mary’s YouTube Channel

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Coaching Episode: A Quick Pivot; Navigating an Early Return Home From Residential Treatment

6 juni 2024 · 40 min
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When Heather discovered that some significant changes were happening in her daughter's residential program, she began to worry the family was not receiving what they were promised. After an unproductive discussion with the program director, Heather made the difficult choice of bringing her daughter home early. Now what?

When we spoke for this coaching episode, Heather's daughter had been home for just one week after spending seven months in residential treatment. There are new boundaries to determine - from big issues like driving and employment to simple matters like cleaning up messes in the house.

In this session, Heather and I discuss how to assist her daughter in avoiding a return to THC use, while also preventing her own relapse into old, unhealthy patterns of communication.

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Partnership to End Addiction

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The Complex Relationship Between Substance Use and Eating Disorders, with Alice Baker

30 mei 2024 · 52 min
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In this episode, we delve into the complex relationship between eating disorders and substance use and how the principles of CRAFT and The Invitation to Change can apply to both. Alice Baker, a Stream community parent who is also a licensed professional counselor, dietician and certified eating disorder specialist, guides us through these three issues. In her high school days, Alice Baker was drawn to the world of competitive dance. The importance of body image in the sport sparked an eating disorder that would linger until she began learning about nutrition in her freshman year of college. Her new understanding of our body’s relationship to food would set her on a lifelong study of dietetics, eating disorders, and their effects on the lives of young people. Lees meer

Alice joined our Hopestream Community in 2022 when her son developed a substance use disorder, compulsively using marijuana and struggled in school. It was here that she began to realize how the principles of The Invitation to Change approach could also be employed in her field.

In this episode, we discuss the connections between substance use and eating habits, the serious dangers of “drunkorexia” and other combinations of the two, how parents can identify warning signs, and what we can change within ourselves to help our kids in their eating disorder recovery.

EPISODE RESOURCES:

When Your Teen Has An Eating Disorder (Mulheim)
How to Nourish Your Child Through an Eating Disorder: A Simple, Plate-by-Plate Approach® to Rebuilding a Healthy Relationship with Food
Sick Enough: A Guide to the Medical Complications of Eating Disorders

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Turning Obstacles and Suffering into Successful Recovery, with Patrick Babcock

23 mei 2024 · 51 min
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After 14 treatment centers, 10 jails in six different states, and solitary confinement at Rikers Island prison, Patrick Babcock is lucky to be alive. Lees meer

His parents were barely adults themselves when he was born, dealing with their own alcoholism, physical abuse, and abandonment issues. Patrick’s own substance use began early, sneaking his father's Heinekens at age 7 and smoking marijuana with his friend's parents at age 10. He went from an Ivy League kindergarten to running "feral" in the streets of New York, attending the debaucherous Studio 54 at only 14 years old. Though he managed to get a degree in finance, his life was soon further destroyed by heroin.

Patrick's sobriety required a "spiritual awakening" that finally came while sitting alone in a car after escaping the police, drinking the dregs of a wine bottle he'd found in the street. He never returned to substance use after that night. But when the horror of 9/11 changed his life forever in a very personal way, he started down a path to help young people who had suffered in the same way he had.

In this episode, you'll hear why the program Patrick founded and runs, Foundation House, believes in failure, the unexpected power of the "inmates running the asylum," and how parents' own "dark inner rascals" may set their kids up to fail.

RESOURCES:

Foundation House website

Chinese Farmer Hopestream podcast episode with Dina Cannizzaro

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Raising the Bottom: The Unlikely Story of a Grade-School Alcoholic Turned Recovery Crusader, with Roy Duprez

16 mei 2024 · 46 min
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Roy Duprez began drinking whatever alcohol he could get his hands on at the incredibly young age of 7. He managed to stay sober for two of his high school years, but then returned to using alcohol and drugs for 12 years more years.

Roy sees lots of young men with trauma-related substance misuse come through his outdoor adventure recovery program, but for him, drinking was part of an imagined lifestyle of success. He didn't drink to escape, he drank to have *even more* fun. He fully embraced the identity of "alcoholic" without ever connecting his use to the chaos that his life had become.

Roy has now been sober and in a healthy life of recovery for nearly two decades. In that time, he’s obtained a Masters of Eeducation, worked with countless community organizations and at-risk youth, and founded his own adventure recovery program, Back2Basics, in picturesque Flagstaff, Arizona.

In this conversation, we discuss:

what it's like to run into his mom at their local AA meeting

the limitations substance misuse puts on life, and the power of inviting young people into a new world of possibilities

why Roy still believes we should "trust the process"

RESOURCES:

Back2Basics - Roy Duprez’s adventure recovery program in Flagstaff, AZ

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I See You; Honoring Moms of Kids Misusing Drugs and Alcohol, with Brenda Zane

9 mei 2024 · 11 min
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It's Mother's Day week, 2024. I'm personally counting my blessings because my kids are all healthy and our family is in a positive and safe place. It wasn't always this way. There were Mother's Days when I wanted to crawl even deeper under the covers and not show my face. There were Mother's Days when I didn't know where my oldest son was.

Today, I want to honor those who may not be looking forward to Sunday, the ones who are feeling the weight of having a child who struggles with substance misuse and mental health challenges. I see you. I was you. I understand.

And for the single dads out there - this is for you, too. You hold both ends of the rope and I recognize how challenging and complex life is for you today as well. Sending much love, peace and comfort to you all this week.

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Coaching Episode: Drawing the Line with Grace - Confident Boundaries and Open Communication, with Jane

2 mei 2024 · 43 min
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Jane isn't exactly sure at what age her older son began using substances regularly, but the degree of misuse seemed to come in waves. He stayed in therapy until he left for college - which is just when her younger son began having the same issues. He cycled through four high schools, attended a wilderness program, and eventually enrolled in the therapeutic boarding school where he is today.

Jane's family's relationship is pretty good, thanks to the many tools she's been learning and practicing in The Stream. Her sons are honest with her, they respect each other, and Jane's husband actively participates in their recovery process. But after both sons were home for a holiday visit, Jane realized she needed to address a boundary violation that occurred during their stay. We spoke for this episode the day her son was coming home, and the conversation could potentially happen - but should it?

Jane needed to talk through how she might approach this difficult conversation and wanted to consider whether acknowledging the boundary violation would throw her family’s relative calm into chaos. We also discuss strategies she can use to step outside the anxiety of imagining worst-case scenarios and getting sucked into future trips. In this coaching episode, Jane and I talk through three specific tools to address issues that so many parents find themselves confronting with a child who struggles with substance misuse.

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Demystifying Men's Apprehension Towards CRAFT and Therapeutic Support, with Steve Andrews

25 april 2024 · 55 min
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It probably doesn’t surprise you that the majority of Hopestream Community members are moms. About 70% of therapists are women, as well, and women are significantly more likely than men to seek out their services.

Last year, we launched The Woods, our private community for dads, stepdads, and male co-parents. And as much as we would love to help more dads who have kids struggling with substances, they don’t come flocking to our services.

I wanted to dive into this imbalance and asked Steve Andrews to join me for a conversation. As host of The Woods, Steve brings a lot of harrowing personal experience to the table. When his son first began misusing DXM, Kratom, alcohol, and marijuana in middle school, he had no idea how bad things would get. (To hear his whole story, check out his first appearance on the show at the link below.)

Now, with his son in full recovery, Steve is a practicing therapist. He’s seen this gender dynamic play out within himself, in The Woods, and the world of therapeutic practice. Today, he gives us his best take on why men seem to have a natural aversion to approaches like The Invitation to Change and CRAFT and how we can reframe those ideas in a more accessible way.

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Steve’s Story, Hopestream Episode 183

Never Split The Difference, book by Chris Voss

Steve's website

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A Powerful Combo of Proven Tools for Families When Your Child Misuses Drugs and Alcohol, with Dr. Jennifer Fernandez

18 april 2024 · 44 min
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The behavioral symptoms of young people caught up in substance misuse can be disheartening: open hostility, lying, cheating, stealing from family, and others. These symptoms can be hard to view as a result of the substances, and parents may instead blame their child for being “bad.”

My guest today, Dr. Jennifer Fernandez, is a proponent of a compassionate model that sounds more complex than it is - the "biopsychosocial model." This model aims to contextualize all factors contributing to someone’s reliance on substances - not just genetics. She says this type of analysis can help those who love someone struggling with substances understand behavior that would otherwise seem irrational. And when we know more, it leaves room for the empathy we need to parent young people who can appear out of control.

Dr. Fernandez is a doctor of clinical psychology and the founder and Clinical Director of the California Center for Change. She’s an expert in CRAFT (Community Reinforcement and Family Training), motivational Interviewing, and harm reduction, a concept many parents struggle with. She oversees psychotherapy and support groups founded on nonjudgmental principles.

In today's wide-ranging episode, Jennifer and I discuss whether harm reduction is really just enabling, the power of motivational interviewing, what we can learn from a person’s “drug of choice”, and the importance of parents presenting a unified front.

EPISODE RESOURCES:

California Center for Change website

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Parenting Through a Child's Substance Use With Clarity, Compassion And Your Own Therapist, with Patrick Balsley

11 april 2024 · 50 min
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Patrick Balsley's substance use began with alcohol in middle school and ended 11 years later with heroin- and cocaine-induced psychosis. But instead of talking to Patrick about who he used to be, today I'm talking to him about the incredible things he's been doing with his life since then and what he's learned while helping so many other families in their pursuit of recovery. Lees meer

Patrick founded Sana Counseling and Sana House, a recovery residence for men. He sits on the board of recovery high school Emerald School of Excellence, which began with two students and has grown to about 35 kids, most graduating and moving on to college or work programs. He also serves on the board of the PIVOTPoint WNC therapeutic adventure program and the advisory board at the Atrium Health Foundation. As you can tell, his incredible range of experience - both personal and professional - makes him an incredible source for parents.

In this episode, Patrick and I discuss why many parents have the "it's just a phase" mindset during their child's experimentation, the compounding dangers of parents self-medicating to deal with their family dynamics, and the importance of early intervention for kids - and therapy for everyone.

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Sana Counseling

Sana Recovery - young men’s sober living in Charlotte, NC

About Patrick Balsley

Emerald School of Excellence - Charlotte, NC recovery high school

Archway Academy, Houston, TX recovery high school

Association of Recovery Schools

Generation Found documentary

CRAFT-Certified Therapist List (from Dr. Bob Meyers)

Find CRAFT-practitioners at Helping Families Help

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The Difficult Realities of Using The Invitation To Change With A Child Struggling With Drugs or Alcohol, with Brenda Zane

4 april 2024 · 23 min
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Because I sit at a vantage point of seeing many parents working to understand and implement the Invitation To Change Approach (ITC) with their child who struggles with substance misuse, I see things others don't. I hear the frustrations and the celebrations, and I know that while an approach like the ITC is very powerful and effective, it isn't a magic wand. Lees meer

Sometimes, the more difficult aspects of using a compassion and empathetic-centric approach to a very scary and challenging problem don't get talked about. In today's short, solo episode I wanted to highlight and pick apart some of the more difficult and less-discussed challenges you may be facing. There's also a short but important pep talk just in case you're feeling a bit deflated at the moment.

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Beyond Addiction; How Science and Kindness Help People Change - buy it here

Learn more about The Invitation To Change approach here

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Un-Addiction: A Mind-Changing Conversation on How We Think About Addiction and Risk, with Nzinga Harrison, M.D.

28 maart 2024 · 49 min
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When Dr. Nzinga Harrison was recently approached by her son, a high school senior, about going to his first party, she consented. He was unsurprised by her followup question: “Do you think there will be drugs there?” As an addiction psychiatrist and M.D. specializing in addiction medicine, Dr. Harrison had been talking with him about substances since he was very young, so the question wasn’t awkward. “Yeah, probably,” he replied. As her stomach twisted, she realized that the years of preparation for this stage of his life were about to be tested – if not at the party, then sometime soon afterward. Lees meer

In the two years since our favorite doctor was last on the show, Dr. Harrison has organized much of her extensive knowledge about the roots of substance use disorders into a new book: Un-addiction: 6 Mind-Changing Conversations That Could Save a Life. The framework is comprehensive and data-driven, but also plainly written and easy to understand. I tried using sticky notes to mark the best parts, but gave up when I realized I was marking almost every page.

In this conversation, Dr. Harrison lays out these six conversations, sharing with us how the conversation with her son progressed, and covering a range of other topics, including:

Conversational scripts for talking to kids about substances

The importance of asking, “What do you know?” without judgment

The nascent idea of “pre-addiction” and how understanding it can change the trajectory for someone struggling

How your ZNA (zip code at birth) predicts health outcomes better than your current zip code

How cultural traditions and rituals can create risk factors

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Un-Addiction book

Eleanor Health

Dr. Nzinga Harrison’s website

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There Is No Such Thing As Drug and Alcohol Treatment For Adolescents, with Robert Schwebel and Lynn Smith

21 maart 2024 · 46 min
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When Dr. Robert Schwebel was approached by a local treatment agency about developing a drug program for adolescents, he was not interested. He decided to meet with the agency about the proposal, but also to share hard truths that he thought would encourage them to find someone else: Don't promise drug free kids overnight. Help them learn to make good decisions rather than telling them what to do. Incorporate life counseling. Rather than rejecting him, the program agreed to Robert’s suggestions and hired him. Lees meer

Robert hoped to find and tweak an existing treatment program that incorporated these principles, but couldn't find one. In the 1990s, residential treatment centers were cash cows, with professionals often advising parents to place their kids in inpatient treatment at the first sign of experimentation. He describes most of those programs as "watered down 12-Step programs," demanding instant and complete abstinence - which he believed was unrealistic for most adolescents. So he started from scratch. The result was the widely adopted Seven Challenges Program.

One of the many programs that have adopted this adolescent-specific model is Elements Wilderness, and Lynn Smith, co-founder, and primary therapist there joins me and Robert to share the provider experience with the Seven Challenges model. We cover:

How The Seven Challenges builds a climate of mutual respect and honest discussion

Why practitioners don't insist on drug abstinence when adolescents are engaged in the challenges

The power of asking kids what they like about drugs

Why "come back when you hit rock bottom" is the wrong approach

EPISODE RESOURCES:

The Seven Challenges website

Elements Wilderness website

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Debunking Myths and Connecting Dots Between Mental Health, Substance Use, and Gender Identity, with Jordan Held

14 maart 2024 · 38 min
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Years before his gender transition, Jordan Held still remembers the day he asked his employer if he could wear the same clothing as the male faculty. The reply: "We're not ready for that yet." Whether or not your young person is questioning their sexual identity, gender, pronouns or any other aspect of themselves, you’ll get so much from this important conversation. Lees meer

As a teenager, he had been a good student and athlete who just wanted to be the popular girl at school. He wore clothes that weren't comfortable, drank, smoked weed, hooked up with people he had no real interest in, and generally tried to fit in. But after college, Jordan met a trans man for the first time and many of the puzzle pieces from his early life began to fall into place.

While the administration of the school where he worked felt "not ready" for Jordan to dress as male faculty, he knew he couldn’t live his life as a lie forever. The administration’s denial was a catalyst for redirecting his life course.

Jordan Held now has a Masters degree in both Social Welfare and Sports Leadership, and a bachelor's degree in Kinesiology. He’s worked in residential mental health treatment, as well as the world's largest gender clinic, giving him a great deal of experience with the most pressing issues affecting teens and young adults - especially those who are exploring their sexual identity.

As a private practice therapist, Jordan has deep expertise in gender and sexual minority youth with complex histories of PTSD and trauma. Many have been in substance use treatment programs as well. In this episode, we discuss why some young people are going "stealth", the post-pandemic spread of school avoidance, why kids don't even consider marijuana a drug any more, and how parenting without shame creates bonds of trust that leave families stronger in difficult times.

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Jordan Held LinkedIn

Psychology Today

Netflix show, Disclosure

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Why Your Attachment Style Matters When Parenting a Child Who Misuses Drugs or Alcohol, with Jack Hinman, Psy.D.

7 maart 2024 · 33 min
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If you could stand outside your own life, watching your family relationships play out like a movie, what patterns of behavior might you notice about yourself? If you could see those patterns now, wouldn’t it be much easier to improve them each day? In this episode, we try to understand ourselves and our family dynamics more deeply through the lens of attachment theory. Lees meer

If you’re like me, you’d never heard attachment theory mentioned in recovery spaces or literature. But my guest today believes it has an important role to play in the families of children using substances.

Jack Hinman has provided therapeutic support for young adults for two decades across a wide variety of settings – hospitals, wilderness therapy, residential centers, and community mental health settings. Serving these different roles has provided him a holistic overview of the therapeutic experience, and has only solidified his belief that attachment theory can be a key component to improving stressful family dynamics.

Today we discuss the four attachment styles, their superpowers, how they affect our relationships with our kids and partners, and how we can change them for the better.

Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom. - Aristotle

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Engage Life Transitions website

The Attachment Project (online attachment style quiz)

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Revealing What Exactly Educational and Therapeutic Consultants Do (and don’t do), with Joanna Lilley

29 februari 2024 · 55 min
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When my son began using drugs and alcohol, I did what a lot of parents do: I dove headfirst into a world I didn't know existed, trying to evaluate all the possible programs and places he might go to get help. But there's so much to learn about the treatment world, and the knowledge is extremely specialized, making it almost impossible to sift through it effectively without a guide. On today's show, I spoke with someone who is that guide for families. Lees meer

Joanna Lilley has been an educational consultant (though she prefers "therapeutic consultant") for a decade, and has worked in all sorts of settings, from wilderness therapy programs to academic institutions. She has connected hundreds of families to treatment programs, therapists, and other resources, and you'd be hard-pressed to find someone who has a more holistic and honest view of the industry.

Joanna is notorious for her blunt transparency, and she has a lot of knowledge to share. In this episode, we discuss:

The importance of finding an independent educational consultant

The ethical standards a consultant should be held to

The role and value consultants bring to the table in a time of crisis

Information consultants have that parents will never get from their own research

The most important questions parents should always ask before engaging a consultant

Why Joanna says not every family needs a consultant

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Joanna’s website: (https://lilleyconsulting.com)

Therapeutic Consulting Assoc.: (https://www.therapeuticconsulting.org)

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Coaching Episode: Dealing With Anger and Disappointment When You Learn Your Child Is Misusing Drugs and Alcohol, with Rose

22 februari 2024 · 43 min
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Rose has three children, so she's not new to being a mom. But when her son spent six months trying every drug he could find, she stepped into a foreign world of substance misuse and increasing risk. She dealt with the utter shock and disbelief her child had been using substances at all, let alone to the degree she came to realize. Lees meer

Rose’s son was on week six of outpatient rehab when he combined most of those drugs together into a single, dangerous dose, and when we spoke for this coaching session he was, thankfully, in residential treatment.

Rose is sure that her son is not ready to come home, but unsure of the right next step. She knows that if she can find an appropriate follow-on program, she'll finally have a moment to breathe, rest, and regroup. It doesn't help that her own chronic health condition is being made worse by the stress she’s enduring with her son. She's proud of the progress she's made in the past few months, but is finding it hard to hold onto hope.

In this coaching episode, Rose and I discuss why accepting reality and letting go of controlling tendencies are the foundation of change. We also dive into the ways her self-care is a service to her entire family, and necessary to develop the stamina she needs for this marathon.

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Navigating Your Child's Substance Misuse: Six Crucial Mindset Shifts for Intentional Parenting, with Cathy Cioth

15 februari 2024 · 52 min
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Hopestream co-founder, Cathy Cioth, is back for another episode to discuss six critical mindset shifts we both believe parents need to consider when they have a child struggling with substance misuse. We share how these important pivots in our thinking impacted our families and why, even though both of us have kids in recovery, we still vigilantly adhere to them. Lees meer

And, as usual, we go on a tangent or two, so grab your dog, bike, walking shoes, or whatever you do when listening to podcasts and let’s jump in.

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Menopause episode: Surviving The Perfect Storm Of Challenging Kids, Aging And Menopause; This One's For The Mommas, with Dr. Robin Sinclair, ND (www.brendazane.com/hopestream/108)

Female Health Masterclass | Menopause, Hormone Replacement Therapy & How To Workout In Your 50’S,60’S - The Proof with Simon Hill (https://theproof.com/female-health-masterclass/)

The Partnership to End Addiction - free resources for parents including a Helpline, online support calls, coaching and trusted content (www.drugfree.org)

Sky’s The Limit Fund - nonprofit that provides scholarships for Outdoor Behavioral Healthcare for adolescents and young adults (www.skysthelimitfund.org)

Trish Ruggles episode - Decoding Today’s Adolescent Substance Use Treatment Landscape (www.brendazane.com/hopestream/202)

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Trading Control & Punishment for Respect & Emotional Intelligence, with Ann Coleman

8 februari 2024 · 58 min
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After watching her brother's life cut short by substance use, Ann Coleman was intimately familiar with its dangers. So when her son - who already suffered from anxiety and depression - started using marijuana, hallucinogens and opiates, her trauma and instincts of fear and control kicked in hard. Looking back, Ann recognizes that at the time she believed her son was solely to blame for the unraveling of the relationship. Now, she knows better. Lees meer

"There were things I screwed up," Ann shares, "but it was mainly in the way that I reacted to and thought about the things he was doing."

As her son began his healing process, Ann herself undertook a two year, self-directed study of every parenting-related topic she could get her hands on: from neurobiology to therapeutic mindfulness. In this episode, she explains how her life as a lawyer was gradually upended by the realization of just how many parents are going into this difficult chapter of life blind and without much guidance at all.

Over the course of the conversation we discuss the control-rebellion cycle (undoubtedly familiar to you), the extra complications of ADHD and anxiety, why the only thing that matters to adolescents is peer acceptance, and so much more. This episode is your opportunity to learn from Ann's mistakes -- and her knowledge -- in everyday language, with practical instruction.

EPISODE RESOURCES:

No Drama Discipline: The Whole-Brain Way to Calm the Chaos and Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind

Speaking of Teens website & podcast (https://speakingofteens.com/)

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Pivot Points - Recovery Is For Those Who Do It, with Matt Nannis

1 februari 2024 · 49 min
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When young people in recovery return to use, we often hear phrases like “failure to launch,” “regression,” or the suggestion that “recovery is only for those who want it.” Today’s guest, Matt Nannis, says it’s time to abandon these concepts altogether. Lees meer

Matt’s journey from his own addiction to being the founder of the PIVOTPoint Program looked a little different than a typical recovery story. He didn’t “do the work” in treatment to stop using substances, find a more fulfilling life, or heal relationships with his friends and family – he just wanted better snacks and more privileges.

Matt’s experience isn’t all that different from others who eventually pursue treatment, which tells us maybe we should rethink some of the things we’re told about what’s necessary for change.

Matt says the problem with concepts like “failure to launch” is they imply some fixed destination along a set path. And while he found great value in the rubric of AA, he now believes the all-or-nothing mindset implied by “regression” just isn't anchored in reality. In this discussion, we cover:

Matt’s nontraditional path through treatment and what it reveals about recovery

Why substance use often feels like it generates a safe, manageable, and consistent life

The importance of reframing “failure to launch” as “failure to fail”

Why substance use can maintain an illusion of freedom that prevents change

The importance of helping young people in recovery identify their own beacons and core values

EPISODE RESOURCES:

The PIVOTPoint Program (https://pivotpointwnc.org/)

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Insights From Honest Conversations With Treatment Programs, Consultants, and Real World Parents, with Brenda Zane

25 januari 2024 · 43 min
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I recently sat down with over 20 treatment program owners, directors, therapists, educational consultants, and 20+ parents who are or have been on the journey with their kids, and I'm sharing the insights I gleaned in today's episode. Lees meer

From insurance nightmares to difficult transitions and THC-induced psychosis, I cover a lot of territory, bringing you a boots-on-the-ground view into what's really going on today in treatment and the struggles parents are facing when they have a child who misuses substances.

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Hopestream Community (hopestreamcommunity.org)

Solutions Parenting Support (https://solutionsparentingsupport.com)

Wonder (https://www.teamwonder.org/)

Fentanyl & Teens Free Webinar with Brenda Zane and Vicenzo Narciso (hopestreamcommunity.org/fentanyl)

CRAFT Provider Directory (https://helpingfamilieshelp.com/hfh-directory)

Association of Recovery Schools (https://recoveryschools.org/)

Information on high potency THC products and impact on youth - Johnny’s Ambassadors

Delta-8 Information

Hopestream podcast episode 55 with Dr. Nicole Kosanke and Krissy Pozatek

Hopestream podcast episode 70 with Marco Narciso (Brenda Zane’s son)

The Woods Community

Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change, Foote & Wilkens

Beyond Addiction Workbook for Family & Friends, Jeffrey Foote, Kenneth Carpenter, Carrie Wilkens

H.O.M.E.: Strategies for making home a SUCCESS during and after treatment, by Hilary Moses, Jen Murphy

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Decoding Today’s Adolescent Substance Use Treatment Landscape, with Trish Ruggles

18 januari 2024 · 1 uur 8 min
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ABOUT THE EPISODE:
At some point along your child's road to recovery, you will almost certainly need to make some difficult decisions about treatment. If they’re an adolescent, this becomes an even more complicated decision. And while I do have some personal experience with treatment, it's been 9 years since my son went to a wilderness program and residential treatment, and a lot has changed since then. Lees meer

My guest on today's episode is Trish Ruggles, a licensed clinical professional counselor and therapeutic educational consultant with 15 years of experience. She has intimate, on-the-ground knowledge of the wide spectrum of mental health and substance use treatment and works with families to match the right treatment setting with a young person’s therapeutic and academic needs.

If you're a parent of an adolescent who is looking into treatment options (or you know someone who is), or just want to learn what the options are for future reference, this information will be absolute gold. By the time you're done listening, you will have a broad overview of nearly every option there is, the strengths and weaknesses of each, and professional advice about which might be right for your adolescent child.

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Pathfinder Consulting

Therapeutic Consulting Association (TCA)

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Coaching Episode: Using Self-Care and Motivation as Tools in Teen Harm Reduction

11 januari 2024 · 43 min
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Kelly’s son began smoking marijuana all day, every day after a serious trauma two years ago. Therapy and harm reduction strategies have led them to an arrangement where he is allowed to smoke occasionally, but only in the garage. Her son is smoking much less now, and in combination with therapy, reports he’s stopped using substances as a primary coping mechanism. Lees meer

Things have mostly settled down, but Kelly is still experiencing the constant mental and emotional stress of worry about his safety, and a desire to see him continue moving forward toward sobriety. After two years of being on high alert at all times, and with the potential of paying for college looming on the horizon, Kelly is reaching the end of her rope, finding it difficult to get enough sleep. Her interactions with her son have become more judgmental than compassionate, and Kelly worries about driving him away.

In this coaching episode, Kelly and I discuss:

The importance of positive reinforcement as a driver of motivation and change

Why it’s important to acknowledging the progress both Kelly and her son have made in the past few years

How to co-create new boundaries that move her son’s current harm reduction strategies toward safer behavior

How “crowding out” substance use with desired activity works better than restriction and punishment – and how the process could simultaneously improve their relationship

The “brain dump” method that might help Kelly get better sleep - something she desperately needs

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Coming to Harm Reduction Kicking and Screaming, Dee Dee Stout

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