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50 - A New Mind, A New Heart to Meet the Pandemic
25 mei 2020 · 9 min
The pandemic has changed the world as we have known it. What Anthony de Mello offers in this podcast is a change of mind, a change heart that opens to a new way of looking at the world, a new way of looking at life, at everything. It is a simple way of being in which peace and happiness become your constant companions, even as you relate to all the changes the Pandemic imposes. Lees meer
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49 - Having Trouble with Relationships?
6 mei 2020 · 6 min
Are you having trouble with people? You find somebody selfish, moody, unreliable, rejecting, stupid, intolerable, irresponsible, insulting? Think of the troubles you have with human relations. Do you know the root of all of those problems? Hold onto your chairs. Lees meer
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48 - A Guided Meditation for the Pandemic
9 april 2020 · 11 min
Yesterday you had occasions to be happy that you weren’t even conscious of. Do you see them now? It is inconceivable that anyone could be grateful and unhappy. Thank the Lord for each event of yesterday and notice the effect this has on you. And the things you call unpleasant, undesirable — search for the good that comes from these … the seeds for growth they carry … and find reason to be grateful for them too. Finally, see yourself moving through each portion of today in gratitude —and happiness. Lees meer
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47 - Have You Ever Felt Disgusted with Life?
5 maart 2020 · 4 min
Have you ever felt disgusted with life, sick at heart of constantly running away from fears and anxieties, weary of your begging rounds, exhausted from being dragged about helplessly by your attachments and addictions? Have you ever felt the utter meaninglessness of working for a degree, then finding a job, then settling down to a life of boredom; or, if you are an achiever, settling down to a life of emotional turmoil caused by the things that you are chasing after? If you have, and is there a single human being who hasn't, the divine flame of discontent has arisen within your heart. Lees meer
Now is the time to feed it before it gets stamped out by the routine chores of life. Now is the Holy Season when you simply must find the time to get away and look at your life, allowing the flame to grow as you look, refusing to let anything distract you from this task.
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46 - The Positive Side of Suffering
29 februari 2020 · 5 min
Think of some of the painful events in your life. For how many of them are you grateful today, because thanks to them you changed and grew? Here is a simple truth of life that most people never discover. Happy events make life delightful but they do not lead to self- discovery and growth and freedom. That privilege is reserved to the things and persons and situations that cause us pain. Lees meer
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45 - How to Drop Attachments
29 februari 2020 · 4 min
How does one drop an attachment? People try to do this through renunciation. But to renounce some bars of the music, to blot them out of one's consciousness creates exactly the type of violence, conflict and insensitivity that clinging does. Once again you have hardened yourself. The secret is to renounce nothing, cling to nothing, enjoy every thing and allow it to pass, to flow. Lees meer
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44 - The Love in a Tree, a Rose and a Lamp
29 februari 2020 · 10 min
God makes his sun to shine on good and bad alike and makes his rain to fall on saints and sinners alike; so, you must be all goodness as your heavenly Father is all goodness." Contemplate in astonishment the sheer goodness of the rose, the lamp, the tree, for there you have an image of what love is all about. How does one attain this quality of love? Lees meer
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43 - What Does It Mean to Love
21 februari 2020 · 3 min
What does it mean to love? It means to be sensitive to life, to things, to persons, to feel for everything and everyone to the exclusion of nothing and no one. For exclusion can only be achieved through a hardening of oneself, through closing one's doors. And the moment there is a hardening, sensitivity dies. Lees meer
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42 - The Big Lie We Were Told
19 februari 2020 · 5 min
A big lie that we were told when we were kids is the following: You need to be loved. When you’re a kid, yes, granted, that’s okay. Let’s not quarrel about that. But what if you’re sixty-four years old? You’re twenty-five years old? They’re still telling you that you need to be loved. You need to be a success. You need to be approved. You need to be appreciated. It's rubbish yet everybody’ goes on believing this. There’s only one emotional need you have and that is to love. Lees meer
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41 - You Have Been Programmed for Unhappiness
8 februari 2020 · 10 min
Has it ever struck you that you have been programmed to be unhappy and so, no matter what you do to become happy, you are bound to fail? If you wish to be happy the first thing you need is not effort or even goodwill or good desires but a clear understanding of how exactly you have been programmed. This is what happened:your society and your culture taught you to believe that you would not be happy without lots of money, power, success, approval, a good reputation, love, friendship, spirituality, God. What is your particular combination? Lees meer
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40 - Listen and Unlearn
8 februari 2020 · 7 min
Some of us get woken up by the harsh realities of life. We suffer so much that we wake up. Other people keep bumping again and again into life. They still go on sleepwalking. It doesn't occur to them that there may be a better way. If you haven’t been bumped sufficiently by life, and you haven’t suffered enough, then there is another way: to listen. Lees meer
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39 - Is There Any Way to Know You Are In Touch With Reality?
4 februari 2020 · 6 min
Is there any way you can know that what you are in touch with is Reality? Here is one sign: What you perceive does not fit into any formula whether given by another or created by yourself. It simply cannot be put into words. So, what can teachers do? They can bring to your notice what is unreal, they cannot show you Reality; you will have to walk out there all alone and discover for yourself. To walk alone-that means to walk away from every formula-the one given to you by others, the ones you learned from books, the ones that you yourself invented in the light of your own past experience. Lees meer
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38 - How to Transform Your Being
30 januari 2020 · 14 min
Anytime you have a negative feeling toward anyone or anything, you’re living in an illusion. There’s something seriously wrong with you in need of correction. You’re not seeing reality. Something inside of you has to change. But what do we generally do when we have a negative feeling? “He is to blame, she is to blame. She’s got to change. The situation needs to change” No! The world’s all right. The one who has to change is you. So how do we transform our being? This podcasts provides a way. Lees meer
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37 - What You Call Happiness ... Isn''t
23 januari 2020 · 12 min
From Anthony DeMello's book The Way to Love. Narration by Paul Coutinho. What you call the experience of happiness is not happiness at all but the excitement and thrill caused by some person or thing or event. True happiness is un-caused. You are happy for no reason at all. And true happiness cannot be experienced. It is not within the realm of consciousness. It is un-self-consciousness. Lees meer
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36 - An Exercise in Dying
15 januari 2020 · 4 min
Buddhism says, "May all beings practice dying." Why? Because when we transcend the fear of death, we become more alive. This podcasts offers an exercise in dying to become more fully awake and alive.
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35 - Perfect Love
8 januari 2020 · 5 min
Can you be said to love me if you cling to me and will not let me go, if you will not let me be? Can you be said to love me if you need me psychologically or emotionally for your happiness? This is not love; it is craving and wherever there is craving there is a threat and where there is a threat there is fear, and where there is fear there is no love because we always hate what we fear. But where there is love there are no demands, no expectations, no dependency, and no fear because perfect love casts out fear. Lees meer
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34 - God
21 december 2019 · 7 min
It is said that God was in the world for the world was created by Him but the world did not recognize Him. We have made images of God that are more unlike Him than like Him. Therefore, the first thing we need to do if we want to find God is have the readiness to realize that our ideas of God are all inadequate. Then the second thing we need to do is listen, hear, and see in a special way called heart listening, heart hearing, heart seeing. That’s all we have to do. DeMello explains how in this podcast. Lees meer
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33 - Suffering is a Sign
2 december 2019 · 5 min
Suffering is a sign given to you that you might open your eyes to the truth, that you might understand that there’s falsehood somewhere. Suffering occurs when you clash with reality. When your illusions clash with reality, when your falsehoods clash with truth, then you have suffering. Otherwise there is no suffering. What leads to growth is painful experiences. Suffering points up an area in you where you have not yet grown, where you need to grow and be transformed and change. Lees meer
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32 - Turning Desire Into Preferences
2 december 2019 · 3 min
If you just suppress your desire and you attempt to renounce the object of your desire, you are likely to be tied to it. Whereas if you look at it and see it for what it is really worth, if you understand how you are preparing the grounds for misery and disappointment and depression, your desire will then be transformed into what I call a preference. When you go through life with preferences but don’t let your happiness depend on any one of them, then you’re awake. Lees meer
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31 - The Harder You Try to Change, the Worse It Get
29 november 2019 · 5 min
Spiritual greed makes us attached to peace. We are saying, “Unless I’m peaceful, I won’t be happy.” Did it ever occur to you that you could be happy in tension? Before enlightenment, I used to be depressed; after enlightenment, I continue to be depressed. You don’t make a goal out of relaxation and sensitivity. Have you ever heard of people who get tense trying to relax? If one is tense, one simply observes one’s tension. You will never understand yourself if you seek to change yourself. The harder you try to change yourself, the worse it gets. You are called upon to be aware. Let tension or the calmness take care of itself. Step by step, let whatever happens happen. Real change will come when it is brought about, not by your ego, but by reality. Awareness releases reality to change you. Lees meer
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30 - God, Love and Attachments
26 november 2019 · 5 min
God is love, so what is love? Love is sensitivity, love is consciousness. A loving heart is sensitive to the whole of life, to all persons; a loving heart doesn’t harden itself to any person or thing. Love entails clarity of perception, objectivity; there is nothing so clear-sighted as love. But the moment you become attached, then you’re blocking out so much of life. You’ve got eyes only for the object of your attachment; the heart has hardened. It can no longer see life as it is. Lees meer
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29 - The Only Way to Change
26 november 2019 · 6 min
The only way to change is by changing your understanding. But what does it mean to understand? How do we go about it? Consider how we’re enslaved by various attachments; we’re striving to rearrange the world so that we can keep these attachments, because the world is a constant threat to them. How liberating it is not to depend emotionally on anything. If you could get one second’s experience of that, you’d be breaking through your prison and getting a glimpse of the sky. Someday, maybe, you will even fly. Lees meer
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28 - What You Need Most of All
13 november 2019 · 5 min
Life is a banquet and the tragedy is that most people are starving to death. Why? We’ve been brainwashed into believing what isn't true. Wake up and see the truth. Heaven is here and now. Don’t suffer with the pain of the past; it happened when you were asleep. Wake up! Put on a new mind. Take on a new way of looking at things! Awakening is in direct proportion to the amount of truth you can take without running away. To do that, what you need most of all is the readiness to learn something new. Lees meer
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27 - The Great Block
12 november 2019 · 4 min
This podcast is about what it means to really begin to live and what blocks us from living fully. DeMello offers an exercise to unblock ourselves that is so simple that you might think it couldn't possibly produce a change in you that changes everything for you . . . but it does. Lees meer
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26 - The Lost Ability to Love
8 november 2019 · 3 min
Society drugged us when we were kids. They didn’t bring us up on the healthy, wholesome nourishment of play and work and the pleasures of the senses, and as we grew older, the pleasures of the mind. Instead, they addicted us to a drug called “approval.” A drug called “success.” A drug called "money" and "reputation" and "making it to the top" and "never feeling good enough or having enough." As a result, we've lost our ability to love. Lees meer
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25 - The Parable of the Bells
8 november 2019 · 5 min
This is Anthony DeMello's parable about listening for the singer in the song, looking for the dancer in the dance, experiencing the life inside the moment.
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24 - Stop Fixing Yourself
29 oktober 2019 · 5 min
The trouble with most people is they’re busy trying to fix things in themselves that they really don’t understand. Stop fixing yourself. Don’t interfere. Don’t fix anything. Simply watch. Observe. You're OK. These things in you just need to be understood. If you understand them, they will change and you would finally see that all is well, within you and around you. This short practice is a simple way of discovering this. Lees meer
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23 - When the Heart is Unobstructed
25 oktober 2019 · 2 min
De Mello talks about effortlessness in transformation change. He likens it to the image a sailboat. When a sailboat has a mighty wind in its sail, it glides along so effortlessly that the boatman has nothing to do but steer. He makes no effort; he doesn’t push the boat. That’s an image of what happens when change comes about through awareness, through understanding. Lees meer
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22 - Illusions About Others
21 oktober 2019 · 3 min
Can you imagine how liberating it is to never be disillusioned by people again, never be disappointed by anyone again? Imagine never feeling let down again. Never feeling rejected. If you want to wake up, if you want happiness and freedom, here it is: Drop your false ideas about people and see through people. If you see through yourself, you will see through everyone. Then you will love everyone. Otherwise you spend your life grappling with your wrong notions about others, with your illusions constantly crashing against reality. Lees meer
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021 - The Religion Called Freedom
25 september 2019 · 5 min
The religion known as freedom makes all people good, for it destroys the inner conflict that makes people devils. As you begin to understand this, you stop making demands on yourself, you stop having expectations of yourself, you stop pushing yourself and you start nourishing yourself with sunsets and nature, with a good movie or a good book. You start pursuing enjoyable work that you love, and you make time for good company. In short, you break free of the negative drives society programmed into you that has blocked you from being happy. Lees meer
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020 - There is Another Way
19 september 2019 · 3 min
Every new idea, every great idea, when it first began was in a minority of one. That man called Jesus Christ—a minority of one. Everybody was saying something different from what he was saying. The Buddha— a minority of one. Everybody was saying something different from what he was saying. I think it was Bertrand Russell who said, “Every great idea starts out as a blasphemy.” That’s well and accurately put. It never occurs to our rigidity that comes from having become dogmatic that there may be a better way. If you haven’t been bumped sufficiently by life, and you haven’t suffered enough, then waking up may require seeing that there is another way. It is the way of listening. Lees meer
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019 - Why You Don't Want Happiness
18 september 2019 · 4 min
One sign that you’ve woken up is you're asking yourself, “Am I crazy or is the whole world crazy?" We’re living on crazy ideas about love, about relationships, about happiness, about joy, about everything; and it's all been feed to us by our crazy society. The sooner we see this, the better for our mental and spiritual health. Lees meer
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018 - If You're Lucky!
18 september 2019 · 2 min
If you’re lucky and the gods are gracious or if you are gifted with divine grace - use any mystical or theological expression you like - you might one day suddenly understand who “I” is, and you’ll never be the same again. Never. Nothing will ever be able to upset you again and no one will ever be able to hurt you again. Lees meer
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017 - Enlightenment, Plain and Simple
3 september 2019 · 1 min
Some people make awakening a goal. They're determined to get there. They say, “I refuse to be happy until I’m awakened.” This forms an attachment and attachments are the source of suffering, which moves in the opposite direction of awakening. Enlightenment comes from a deeper awareness of the way you are without judging it. DeMello tells a story of a disciple who leaves his guru for the hills to attain enlightenment. Years pass, but no enlightenment; not until he gives it up. Lees meer
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0016 - I Choose Who or What I Let Into My Heart
2 september 2019 · 1 min
To say no to people—that’s wonderful; that’s part of waking up. Part of waking up is that you live your life as you see fit. And understand: That is not selfish. The selfish thing is to demand that someone else live their life as YOU see fit. That’s selfish. It is not selfish to live your life as you see fit. Lees meer
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015 - The Problem of Evil
31 augustus 2019 · 6 min
When you awaken, when you understand, when you see, the world becomes right. However, we’re always bothered by the problem of evil, aren't we. Our intellect can't explain it. There’s a powerful story about a little boy and crocodile that illuminates the nature of evil. Lees meer
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014 - How to Let Go of Negative Feelings
30 augustus 2019 · 1 min
Never identify with a negative feeling, or any feeling for that matter. A fleeting emotion has nothing to do with your essential self. Don’t say, “I am depressed.” If you want to say, depression is there, that’s fine. But to say "I am depressed is defining yourself in terms of that feeling. That’s your illusion; that’s your mistake. There is a depression there right now, there are hurt feelings there right now, but let it be, leave it alone. It will pass. Lees meer
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013 - No "Me" No Problem
30 augustus 2019 · 4 min
Reality is not problematic. Problems exist only in the human mind. We might add: problems exist only in the not-yet-awakened human mind. But reality is not problematic. Take away human beings from this planet and nature would go on in all its loveliness and violence. Where would the problem be? No problem. Lees meer
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012 - Are You Coming From Love?
29 augustus 2019 · 2 min
You’ve got to make sure of your “being” before you swing into action. You have to make sure of who you are before you act. Unfortunately, when people who are not awake swing into action, they simply substitute one cruelty for another, one injustice for another. And so it goes. Meister Eckhart says, “It is not by your actions that you will be saved” (or awakened) "but by your being. Lees meer
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011 - Are You Suffering? Try This!
26 augustus 2019 · 2 min
Think of anything that's causing you pain, worry or anxiety. First, can you see the desire under that suffering? Make no mistake, there’s something you desire keenly or else you wouldn’t be suffering. What is that desire? Second, it isn’t simply a desire; there’s an identification made. You have said to yourself, “The very well-being of my existence is tied to fulfilling this desire.” Open to it and it will reveal how all suffering is caused by identifying with something within or outside you. Lees meer
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010 - Negative Feelings Toward Others
22 augustus 2019 · 1 min
Anytime you have a negative feeling toward anyone, you’re living in an illusion.
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009 - Giving is Receiving
21 augustus 2019 · 1 min
A good is never so good as when you have no awareness that you’re doing good. You are never so good as when you have no consciousness that you’re good. Or as the great Sufi would say, “A saint is one until he or she knows it.” Unselfconscious!
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008 - Listening as an Attitude of Openness
21 augustus 2019 · 3 min
Are you listening, as most people do, in order to confirm what you already think? Or are you listening with an attitude of openness? Are you listening to learn something new? That's what's important!
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007 - A Practical Spirituality
21 augustus 2019 · 1 min
We’ve been taught to look for our happiness in outside things: money, power, romance, approval. That’s the first thing we need to understand if we want to come awake, which is the same thing as saying: if we want to love, if we want freedom, if we want joy and peace and spirituality. In that sense, spirituality is the most practical thing in the whole wide world. I challenge anyone to think of anything more practical than spirituality as I have defined it—not piety, not devotion, not religion, not worship, but spirituality—waking up, waking up! Lees meer
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006 - Self Worth
18 augustus 2019 · 2 min
Tony De Mello on where self-worth comes from? He asks: Do you get it from success in your work? Do you get it from having a lot of money? Do you get it from attracting a lot of men if you’re a woman or a lot of women if you’re a man? How fragile all that is, how transitory. Lees meer
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005 - How Happiness Happens
18 augustus 2019 · 2 min
Happiness is your natural state. It is coming home to yourself simply by observing yourself. Does that sound a bit tedious? It's not. Self-observation is such a delightful and extraordinary thing. After a while you don’t have to make any effort, because, as illusions begin to crumble, you begin to know things that cannot be described. It’s called happiness, which is the experience of your essential nature. Everything changes and you become oriented to awareness instead of to suffering. Lees meer
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004 - Introduction to Tony DeMello - Embracing True Nature
10 april 2019 · 5 min
Sooner or later there arises in every human heart the desire for holiness, spirituality, God, call it what you will. One hears mystics speak of a divinity all around them that is within our grasp, that would make our lives meaningful and beautiful and rich, if we could only discover it. Lees meer
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003 - Introduction to Tony DeMello - The Shift from Awareness to Understanding
10 april 2019 · 4 min
Sooner or later there arises in every human heart the desire for holiness, spirituality, God, call it what you will. One hears mystics speak of a divinity all around them that is within our grasp, that would make our lives meaningful and beautiful and rich, if we could only discover it. Lees meer
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002 - Introduction to Tony DeMello - Wake-up to happiness
10 april 2019 · 4 min
Sooner or later there arises in every human heart the desire for holiness, spirituality, God, call it what you will. One hears mystics speak of a divinity all around them that is within our grasp, that would make our lives meaningful and beautiful and rich, if we could only discover it. Lees meer
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001 - Introduction to Tony DeMello - Wake Up to What?
10 april 2019 · 2 min
Sooner or later there arises in every human heart the desire for holiness, spirituality, God, call it what you will. One hears mystics speak of a divinity all around them that is within our grasp, that would make our lives meaningful and beautiful and rich, if we could only discover it. Lees meer