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TPJ 99: Motivate Kids To Get Ready To Go
25 februari 2021 · 21 min
Do you struggle to get your kids out the door in the morning? Are you ever late for things because you're arguing with your kids or having trouble getting them ready for the day? You're not alone. Kristen from our Present Play community asked for advice about how to deal with this. Lees meer
In this episode I'll discuss my thoughts and help you get back your sanity!
[00:38] Kristen's question: How can I motivate my child to get ready more quickly?
[03:37] More love isn't always the answer
[06:59] Natural consequences are great when they can play themselves out.
[07:32] Are there any morning activities that will be missed if they aren't ready in time?
[08:26] Your frustration and depleted patience is a natural consequence too.
[09:29] Try playful parenting
[11:26] Set a clear boundary and follow through
[15:37] Avoid power struggles.
If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I'd love to hear about your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @parentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!
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Book Playful Parenting by Lawrence Cohen
Full Show Notes: https://www.theparentingjunkie.com/99
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TPJ 98: Help Your Toddler Play Independently
22 februari 2021 · 12 min
Do you have a little toddler at home and you're tearing your hair out, trying to find ways to keep this person busy without always resorting to screens? Lees meer
If so, I've got you. I totally feel it. And I am here with five ways that toddlers generally love playing independently and that you can use today to keep your little person occupied and busy without screens.
[00:53] #1 - Sensory Play
[04:30] #2 - Movement
[06:17] #3 - Music
[07:21] #4 - Dressing up
[08:52] #5 - Pretend play
If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I'd love to hear about your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @parentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!
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Those shiny 5-star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly, they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can leave one here.
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Download your Childhood Design Guide
Full Show Notes: https://www.theparentingjunkie.com/98
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TPJ 97: Can Babies Play Independently?
15 februari 2021 · 17 min
Can babies play independently? Is that even possible? Or is it something that only develops later (if at all)? The answer is...they can! And in this episode I'm going to talk about 10 ways they can play and how to encourage them to do so. Lees meer
[01:05] #1 - Don't entertain your baby
[02:39] #2 - Le Pause
[04:13] #3 - Don't overstimulate - keep it simple
[06:23] #4 - Don't interfere
[07:52] #5 - Keep things low
[09:20] #6 - Keep trying
[10:59] #7 - Try different times
[12:43] #8 - Try different positions
[13:38] #9 - Make sure they're comfortable
[14:21] #10 - Experiment with music
If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I'd love to hear about your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @parentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!
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Those shiny 5-star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly, they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can leave one here.
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Join our free Facebook community, Love Parenting with Avital
How To Create A YES space (video)
Book "Secrets Of The Baby Whisperer" by Tracy Hogg
Book "Bringing Up Bébé" by Pamela Druckerman
Full Show Notes: https://www.theparentingjunkie.com/97
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TPJ 96: How To Sleep Better During Pregnancy
8 februari 2021 · 16 min
When you're pregnant, it can be so hard to get enough sleep. Between the hormones and feeling so uncomfortable, it can be very hard to sleep. And if you have other children or issues in the mix, it can be even more challenging to get the rest we need. Lees meer
While there certainly are some things outside of our control, there are quite a few things that are within our control. In that light, I'd like to offer 10 suggestions to help you prioritize sleep so you can get more rest.
[01:39] 1. Keep your bedroom clean and tidy
[03:11] 2. Use calming fragrances
[03:37] 3. Use comfy PJs and sheets
[04:58] 4. Keep your room cooler
[06:11] 5. Use comfy pillows
[06:51] 6. Reduce light exposure
[10:04] 7. Talk to your health care provider about sleep supplements
[11:25] 8. Drink more water in the morning and less in the evening
[12:05] 9. Try out some gadgets and gizmos
[13:36] 10. Go to bed earlier
If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I'd love to hear about your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @parentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!
Are you subscribed to my podcast? Subscribe here so that fresh episodes are delivered directly to you.
Those shiny 5-star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly, they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can leave one here.
Want to connect to like-minded parenting junkies?
Join our (free & awesome) FB community Love Parenting with Avital.Resources:
Join my membership, Present Play!
Join our free Facebook community, Love Parenting with Avital
Full Show Notes: https://www.theparentingjunkie.com/96
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TPJ 95: 10 Reasons You Might Hate Parenting (And What To DO About It)
1 februari 2021 · 28 min
Do you ever hate this whole parenting thing? There's absolutely no shame here...I think most parents feel this way at some point in their parenting journey. Lees meer
In this episode I'm going to cover 10 reasons you might hate parenting, and most importantly what you can do about it.
[00:53] 1 - haven't come to terms with your own childhood
[03:02] 2 - You're still waiting to be parented yourself
[05:39] 3 - Your home is a mess
[07:29] 4 - You haven't stepped into your leadership role yet
[10:06] 5 - You're giving waaaay too much of yourself
[13:40] 6 - You're not addressing key behaviors that are disruptive
[16:06] 7 - You're not sleeping enough
[19:00] 8 - You're not making it fun for you
[22:33] 9 - You're comparing yourself to others
[25:18] 10 - You have a fixed mindset
If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I'd love to hear about your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @parentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!
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Those shiny 5-star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly, they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can leave one here.
Want to connect to like-minded parenting junkies?
Join our (free & awesome) FB community Love Parenting with Avital.Resources:
Join my membership, Present Play!
Join our free Facebook community, Love Parenting with Avital
Check out the book Parenting From The Inside Out by Dan Siegel
Check out the book Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck
Full Show Notes: https://www.theparentingjunkie.com/95
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TPJ 94: How To Ward Off Depression
25 januari 2021 · 19 min
Let's talk depression. First I want to say that I have gone through seasons where I needed professional help, and there's absolutely no shame in that. If you feel you need some help, please don't hesitate. It can make a world of difference. Lees meer
But even if you're not feeling clinically depressed, it's common to go through seasons of feeling "the blues" or feeling down. Thankfully, there are some things we can do to help bolster our mood and help us feel better!
In this episode I'm going to give you 15 things you can do when you're feeling down.
[00:45] 1 - Normalize
[02:56] 2 - Express don't suppress
[04:23] 3 - Seek professional help
[05:54] 4 - Do "The Work" by Byron Katie
[06:40] 5 - Get outside
[07:18] 6 - Get a listening partnership
[08:33] 7 - Get enough sleep
[09:14] 8 - Move your body
[10:09] 9 - Laugh (watch some comedy)
[10:47] 10 - Pamper yourself
[11:25] 11 - Eat well
[12:58] 12 - Check if you need supplements or a dietary change
[13:14] 13 - Cleanse your mental diet
[14:41] 14 - Take a break from social media
[15:10] 15 - Help others
If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I'd love to hear about your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @parentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!
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Those shiny 5-star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly, they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can leave one here.
Want to connect to like-minded parenting junkies?
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Book "Loving What Is" By Byron Katie
Join my membership, Presen…
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TPJ 93: 10 Ways To Feel Less Overwhelmed As A Mom
18 januari 2021 · 20 min
Do you feel overwhelmed by your life at home with young children? I'm a mother of 5, I run my own business, I homeschool part-time...I have a lot on my plate (and I'm sure you do too). Lees meer
It can be so easy to feel overwhelmed! But we're not helpless. There are things within our control that can make a big difference and reduce the overwhelm in our lives.
In this episode I'll give you 10 tips to help you reduce the overwhelm.
[00:52] #1 Declutter
[02:37] #2 Create storage systems
[03:58] #3 Clean as you go
[06:01] #4 Batch your cooking
[08:03] #5 Develop consistency & routine
[10:18] #6 Buy things in sets
[12:05] #7 Store similar things together
[14:21] #8 Create a family color pallette
[16:36] #9 Get clear on your vision
[17:53] #10 Put systems in place
If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I'd love to hear about your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @parentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!
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Those shiny 5-star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly, they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can leave one here.
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Podcast episode 90 about creating a great atmosphere at home
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TPJ 92: How To Feel Phenomenal When You're A Mom
11 januari 2021 · 22 min
In our culture it's quite acceptable to wear yoga pants all day, have cheerios in your hair, have spit up on your shirt, and always look a little bit like a hot mess once you become a mom. Lees meer
And you know what? It's OK if you do! Being a mom is exhausting and demanding.
Compared to the childless life, it's a lot harder to look and feel phenomenal as you're running around after toddlers all day, taking care of newborns all night, chauffeuring kids around all day, preparing lunches, making loads of meals, washing loads of dishes, cleaning all the time, and the list goes on. I get it. I really get it.
I'm not a lifestyle, fashion and makeup guru, but I do know this: when I feel put together, somewhat taken care of, and I like the way that I look, I operate better. I'm a much more patient, upbeat, and positive person.
So I happen to think that it's an incredibly powerful parenting tool to make yourself feel like the best version of yourself. When we feel good and feel confident going out into the world we have more energy to show up for our children with more love, patience, energy, space and joy! We just have more of ourselves to give.
In this episode I'll give you 8 tips to help feel phenomenal as a mom with littles!
[02:33] #1 - Don't snooze
[05:07] #2 - Get dressed in the morning
[06:51] #3 - Do something to take care of yourself in the morning
[08:29] #4 - Add fragrance to yourself and/or your home
[09:41] #5 - Play music you love
[11:00] #6 - Make food you love
[13:55] #7 - Take time to do little things for yourself throughout the day.
[15:58] #8 - Take care of yourself at night
[19:03] Speaking of nighttime...go to bed earlier!
[20:42] Feeling phenomenal as a parent is a form of good parenting!
If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I'd love to hear about your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @parentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram…
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TPJ 91: What To Do When Your Kids Use Inappropriate Language
4 januari 2021 · 32 min
In this episode I'll be addressing a question from a member of our Present Play community. Lees meer
Tracy from Georgia asked what to do when your children use rude or inappropriate language, and also how to address their negative self-talk.
Thank you for your question Tracy! You are certainly not alone in this struggle. All parents are presented with these challenges (including myself).
There are a few ways to go about it, but I'd like to talk about my preferred approach.
[04:59] Keep in mind: Childhood development is a slow process. Changes are gradual and it takes time, repetition, and consistency.
[06:22] Typical approach #1: Authoritarian Approach
[09:02] Typical approach #2: Permissive Approach
[11:20] 3rd option: Be calm but firm and address the situation.
[12:16] We have to be responsive to the situation, but not reactive.
[12:30] Step 1: Pause, breathe, and calm yourself down. Then state clearly and calmly to yourself and your child what you DO want to see.
[13:23] Say to yourself "I will respond when I've gathered myself and collected my thoughts."
[15:14] Step 2: Calmly explain what will happen if they continue. Just a logical consequence for continuing.
[17:00] It's not a threat or punishment. We're trying to teach them what the results of certain behaviors are.
[17:34] Step 3: Follow through immediately.
[21:13] How to address a child's negative self talk.
[22:38] Center yourself. This is a normal part of childhood and every child needs to work through it.
[25:22] Help them focus on the right things.
[25:53] We're trying to teach our children what advances their agenda and what takes away from it.
[30:36] The energy at which we have these interactions is the most important factor.
If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I'd love to hear about your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @parentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try …
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TPJ 90: Practical Ways To Create A Great Atmosphere At Home
14 december 2020 · 28 min
When you're home with young children it can feel really overwhelming and stressful. Between all the messes, the tantrums, the whining, the noise, and the smells, it can make your home a place you want to escape from instead of a place to escape to. Lees meer
In this episode I'll give you 10 practical tips to bring more pleasure, peace, joy, fun, and energy into your home.
[02:07] #1 - Add some plants
[04:51] #2 - Play music
[06:23] #3 - Use aromas and fragrances
[08:11] #4 - Keep surfaces clear
[11:06] #5 - Decorate with affirming words
[12:55] #6 - Print and display family photos
[14:49] #7 - Use neutral colors
[17:46] #8 - Use natural and soft lighting
[20:15] #9 - Add beautiful objects (and remove ugly objects)
[24:31] #10 - Comfortable furniture pieces
If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I'd love to hear about your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @parentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!
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Those shiny 5-star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly, they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can leave one here.
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Join our (free & awesome) FB community Love Parenting with Avital.Full Show Notes: https://www.theparentingjunkie.com/90
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TPJ 89: Create A Family Vision
7 december 2020 · 12 min
Do you ever feel like you don't want to do this anymore? This parenting thing, I mean. The nagging, the fighting, the wining, the dishes, the laundry, feeling tired and drained and sometimes, hopeless. Angry. Vengeful. Lees meer
Exhausted.
We all go through seasons like this. But the good news is we don't have to stay there. One thing that can make a huge difference and give you the extra push to get through the lows is to create a vision for your family.
That's what I want to talk about today.
[02:53] What do we do when we don't feel like we can keep going?
[04:37] That's why it's so important to have a vision.
[05:35] We need to understand what it's all for.
[06:07] We all need a vision for our families
[06:57] If you don't already have one, it's time to start working on it!
[07:18] Examples, to get the creative juices flowing...
[07:54] It needs to be meaningful. Something to get you up in the morning. Something worth fighting for.
[08:44] If you'd like help crafting yours, I've put together a package to guide you through the process step by step.
Creating a big juicy vision for your family will help you push through the challenging times. It'll provide a north star, a guiding light, taking you closer to what you really want for you and your family.
If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I'd love to hear about your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @parentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!
Are you subscribed to my podcast? Subscribe here so that fresh episodes are delivered directly to you.
Those shiny 5-star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly, they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can leave one here.
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TPJ 88: Not "What", But "How"
30 november 2020 · 15 min
Many people find they lose aspects of their identity when they have kids. Can you relate? This year has certainly made it more challenging to hold onto our identities. Many things in our lives have been "lost" (or put on hold) during the pandemic, and it has been hard. Lees meer
If you're feeling like you've lost yourself, this episode is for you.
[00:36] Join me in my free challenge, Finish Strong!
[05:34] Ready to create the vision for your family?
[05:39] Many of us feel a loss of identity as we enter parenthood.
[05:56] Let's evaluate the source of our identity
[06:57] Changes in life can change our identities.
[08:05] The things we are or do make for superficial identities.
[09:48] Where else can we find our identity?
[12:36] Start focusing more on the "how" and less on the "what"
As we start to focus more on how we show up, how we go about our days, we'll find that our identities are much more stable and steady in the face of adversity. The "what" might change, but how we show up remains constant.
If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I'd love to hear about your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @parentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!
Are you subscribed to my podcast? Subscribe here so that fresh episodes are delivered directly to you.
Those shiny 5-star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly, they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can leave one here.
Want to connect to like-minded parenting junkies?
Join our (free & awesome) FB community Love Parenting with Avital.Resources:
Join me in my free challenge, Finish Strong!
Ready to create the vision for your family?
Full Show Notes: https://www.theparentin…
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TPJ 87: Rethinking Mistakes And Failures
23 november 2020 · 14 min
Everyone makes mistakes and experiences failures. We all have shortcomings, weaknesses, and areas of lack. And many people are stuck in a fixed mindset, thinking that it's just how they are. Lees meer
But not everyone.
Some people have adopted a growth mindset, and see mistakes and failures in a different (and positive) light. Do you want to be one of them?
Join me in this episode as we discuss how to do just that.
[00:36] Join me in my free challenge, Finish Strong!
[02:36] Do you feel like there have been some mistakes either on your part or other people's part?
[03:20] Many people are stuck in a Fixed Mindset
[04:31] We can decide to change and grow.
[05:23] How my 97 year old grandma stays young and vibrant
[06:32] It's tragic when people say things like "that's just how I am"
[06:42] Our brains have plasticity and we can continue to change and learn
[07:07] Adopt a growth mindset
[07:47] Successful people view their mistakes and failures as learning opportunities.
[08:36] Do you beat yourself up over mistakes and failures?
[09:25] Everything is in a constant state of change.
We don't have to stay stuck. We can change, adapt, and grow (and so can our kids). Let's start to view our mistakes and failures as learning opportunities and continue to improve and develop.
If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I'd love to hear about your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @parentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!
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Those shiny 5-star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly, they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can lea…
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TPJ 86: Living with Duality
16 november 2020 · 12 min
Kids (and adults, if we're being honest) often have a rigid way of thinking. It's often black or white, all or nothing. We see our truth, and find it hard to understand that someone else may have a different truth. Lees meer
But life (and people) are much more complex and nuanced than that, and we often live with a duality that can be hard to cope with. Today we're going to talk about a hallmark of maturity that can help us (and our kids) deal with this.
[01:14] Join me in my free challenge, Finish Strong!
[02:50] Children often have a rigid way of thinking
[04:16] The ability to hold 2 conflicting truths at the same time is a hallmark of maturity.
[05:09] Let's replace the word "but" & "or" with "and"
[06:44] Sometimes we can feel both a like and dislike for the same thing. What do we do with that?
[08:01] It's immature to reduce things or people down to just one thing, all or nothing.
[08:32] Let's try to coach our kids and introduce them to other perspectives.
As we experience challenges and difficult circumstances (and difficult people), Let's try to use "and" more than "or" or "but". Let's give people space for their complex views and truths and realize that we all live with some duality in our lives.
If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I'd love to hear about your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @parentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!
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Those shiny 5-star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly, they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can leave one here.
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TPJ 85: Grief And Finding Silver Linings
9 november 2020 · 16 min
Are you going through something tough in your life? A big transition, problems at home or in your relationships, financial struggles. Maybe you haven't had the support you're used to and you feel like you're drowning. It could even be a series of trivial things that normally wouldn't amount to much, but with the year we've been having...let's just say it's been hard on many of us. Lees meer
When we experience challenges, we often go through a process of grief (even on "small" stuff). There's a typical progression of 5 stages that most of us go through, and today I want to talk about that and what CAN come after stage 5.
[02:43] Has 2020 been a rough year for you? Are you longing for some change (in the right direction)? Join me in my free challenge, Finish Strong!
[04:53] Stage 1: Denial
[06:22] Stage 2: Anger
[06:48] Stage 3: Bargaining
[07:39] Stage 4: Depression
[08:19] Stage 5: Acceptance
[09:26] What comes after acceptance?
[10:57] Stage 6: The silver lining
[14:45] How we can coach our children through this.
We certainly are justified staying in any stage. But we can choose to move forward and search for the silver lining in our challenges, finding the gifts and blessings that are there for the taking.
If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I'd love to hear about your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @parentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!
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Those shiny 5-star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly, they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can leave one here.
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TPJ 84: Processing Events To Avoid Trauma
2 november 2020 · 21 min
Have you (or your child) experienced rough times? Are you having a hard time dealing with them? If so, this episode is for you. Lees meer
[01:29] Has 2020 been a rough year for you? Are you longing for some change (in the right direction)? Join me in my free challenge, Finish Strong!
[05:58] Mindset is so important when it comes to challenges we've faced.
[07:18] Integrate any trauma we have experienced.
[09:31] When someone has made sense of their narrative, they go a long way toward healing.
[10:27] How can we use this today?
[12:08] Here's an example: When a child falls down
[14:14] Talk through what happened.
[14:51] But wait...do we really want to relive trauma?
[17:01] Eventually it becomes boring (or at least loses it's edge).
[17:41] Example from my life: Childbirth trauma
[19:55] Start working through the story of this past year.
It's time to put in some work! Start working through your story, talking about what happened, and begin to integrate it into your narrative. It'll begin the healing process and you'll find it'll start to lose it's sting.
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TPJ 83: Parenting & Leadership - You Are The CEO
19 oktober 2020 · 9 min
For some reason we sometimes downplay our roles as parents. We often say things like "I'm just a mom/dad", and at times don't approach it with the same zest and zeal we would in our career or other leadership role. Why is that? Lees meer
Today I want to discuss parenting and how I think our role as a parent is like being a CEO.
[00:31] Parenting is a high stakes "job" (I know it's a relationship and not a job...but hear me out).
[01:02] But we often downplay our role as a parent.
[01:53] As parents, we're CEOs of our families.
[03:46] The work we do as parents is meaningful and important.
[04:35] Let's start thinking of ourselves as CEOs
[04:51] Let's show up with zest, joy, and interest.
[05:00] Let's take pride in the work we're doing. We're not "just" moms or dads. We're leaders.
[05:54] We should invest in ourselves like a CEO. Read books, listen to podcasts, learn more about our craft.
[07:01] People who are "successful" aren't necessarily more talented. They're often relentless in their pursuit of growing in their craft.
Let's approach our parenting like we would a CEO role in a business, and work toward mastery in our craft!
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TPJ 82: Teaching Critical Thinking Skills
12 oktober 2020 · 35 min
We all want our kids to be resilient. We want them to be critical thinkers. We want them to be respectful, to value diversity, and be tolerant of various lifestyles and backgrounds. Right? Lees meer
Just like our immune system needs to be challenged by foreign substances, our values, beliefs, and opinions are bolstered and improved by being challenged.
In this episode I'm going to discuss why our kids need to be exposed to alternative points of view in order to become healthy, functioning adults.
[00:43] Have you seen "The Social Dilemma"?
[04:05] We are living in an echo chamber.
[08:18] Each of us are living in our own little universe online
[10:25] If we want our kids to develop critical thinking skills, they must be exposed to alternative points of view.
[12:24] We need to resist the urge to "protect" our kids from any views or opinions that we don't agree with.
[13:32] Shielding your child from an idea makes them more vulnerable to that idea.
[15:43] We want our children to learn how to discern.
[16:23] We want our kids to develop balanced and nuanced opinions.
[17:34] Even some of the best ideas, when taken to the extreme, can become unhealthy.
[19:04] If we want to stay balanced, we need to be exposed to alternative viewpoints.
[20:30] Hearing alternative points of view can bolster yours.
[22:33] I want to teach my children that everyone is at least worth listening to.
[23:23] We want our kids to develop empathy and diversity.
[25:25] I want my kids to understand that it's ok for others to believe differently, live differently, vote differently, etc.
[28:06] I use a Socratic method of asking questions to help my kids think through an idea or opinion.
[29:15] There's always something to learn from other people.
[29:54] Ideas are something that we can contend with.
[31:48] I want my children to understand that we all have more in common with others than what divides us.
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TPJ 81: Call Out Culture - We've Got It All Wrong
5 oktober 2020 · 36 min
Have you ever been shamed or humiliated in front of people? Whether it was during school, a social event, or even online, most of us have been publicly shamed at some point. Lees meer
How did it make you feel? Did it make you want to change? Did it feel good? Did it feel like they had your best interest at heart? Odds are good your answer is no.
So why do some think that it's ok to continue this into adulthood, especially online?
In this episode I'm going to discuss the call-out culture and what we can do instead.
[01:53] The "callout culture" is spreading like a wild fire...even though public shaming was done away with as a legal form of punishment.
[05:37] What's true in the micro is true in the macro.
[06:35] "How we live each day is how we live our entire lives."
[09:10] Why do some believe you shouldn't publicly shame children, but have no problem doing it to adults?
[10:34] The trend of publicly shaming & calling people out online.
[11:59] What child psychology tells us about public shaming.
[14:29] Why is it ok to publicly shame adults?
[18:47] What should we do when we see or hear something we don't like?
[20:50] Often inaction is the "higher road".
[23:20] Let's make a culture and society that allows a margin for error.
[24:11] In the moments where you need to say something, let's call people in.
[28:15] Let's be curious, humble, and give others the benefit of the doubt.
[29:53] We don't influence our children (or anyone) by attacking them or shaming them.
The call-out culture is unhealthy for us, public shaming doesn't work (and was outlawed for a reason) and people react negatively to being humiliated. Let's all do our part to end the call-out culture.
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TPJ 80: Personal Growth Hacking - The Difference Between Adults & Grown-Ups
28 september 2020 · 1 uur 8 min
Do you ever feel like you're struggling under the weight of being an adult? Managing your time, finances, relationships, emotions, children, etc...sometimes life can feel so out of control. Lees meer
Then you add in anxiety, fear, and worry about things going on around you and in the world at large...it's no wonder so many people are suffering and feel stuck.
In this episode I'll discuss these challenges and talk about what we can do to overcome them.
[03:08] Wednesday's workshop, 9/30/20 @11a Eastern Time
[06:07] What does it mean to be an adult?
[13:15] The difference between adults and grown-ups.
[13:49] Grown-ups have their emotional life in order.
[15:53] Grown-ups have their psychological life in order.
[20:52] Grown-ups have their spiritual life in order.
[21:31] Immature people are obsessed with themselves and others' thoughts and opinions.
[27:18] The key to finding meaning and joy in life is to grow ourselves up.
[31:33] How do we grow up? Mindset work.
[32:40] How do we get our emotional life in order?
[33:13] We must start to take responsibility for feelings and emotions, and start making different choices.
[33:52] How do we get our psychological life in order?
[38:49] How do we get our spiritual life in order?
[43:23] What does it look like to "show up"?
Q&A Section
[55:41] How many people are in the group coaching sessions?
[56:08] Is this coaching for kids or parents?
[56:39] How do you manage a relationship with a family member who is an adult but not a grown-up?
[59:30] How do you break out of these immature cycles when you feel stuck there?
This sort of work (mindset work) is where real change takes place. It's what takes us to the next level and helps us work toward levels of peace, enjoyment, and fulfillment we all crave and deserve. Let's get to work!
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TPJ 79: Mindset Is Everything
21 september 2020 · 39 min
Do you ever struggle with fear, frustration, worry, anxiety, or negative thoughts? Lees meer
There can be this running voice in our heads that constantly makes us feel like we're not enough, like we're messing up, like we're a failure. It can be so easy to feel offended, feel like a victim, feel upset, worried, anxious, scared, fearful, doubtful, etc.
In this episode I'm going to talk about how our mindsets are everything, and share a little bit about my own personal story of how my mindset helped me turn things around. And more importantly, how you can too.
[03:43] I used to be so easily offended and shaken up.
[06:13] Our mindset and how we frame things is a huge differentiator in how we experience life.
[14:43] Framing things in a positive light can be very challenging, however.
[17:37] External circumstances don't necessarily link directly to a person's internal experience.
[20:51] How can two people who've been through the same traumatic experience turn out so differently?
[24:07] What mindsets can help us turn things around when we feel stuck, frustrated, hurt, etc.?
[27:22] People have the capacity to change when they want to.
[29:32] We must start to think about how we think about things.
[31:54] In any given situation, we have a choice about our mindset around it.
[32:08] There's a difference between reacting and responding.
[33:20] We can't control much of what happens in the world, but we can control ourselves and how we respond.
We can choose to stay stuck in a fixed mindset, or we can adopt a growth mindset and become the people we want to be. The choice is ours. What will you choose?
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TPJ 78: Criticism, Critique, & Critical Thinking
7 september 2020 · 22 min
There seems to be some confusion in our culture between criticism and critique. While criticism can be unhelpful and hurtful, critique is necessary to help us grow, develop, and make wise choices. It's how things improve! Lees meer
You've probably heard the saying "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all." I sometimes get feedback like this when I talk about school or issues in parenting. And I agree! We should always be kind. But perhaps we need to redefine what's "nice."
In this episode I want to discuss the differences between criticism and critique, and how I think critique is necessary and helpful.
[02:24] What design school taught me about criticism.
[05:47] It can be helpful to de-personalize critiques & criticism.
[06:59] We shouldn't say something if it isn't nice, but perhaps we need to redefine what's "nice."
[07:50] We need to be able to discuss the merits and the downsides of various things.
[08:39] Before you speak, ask yourself if what you are going to say is true, is kind, is necessary, is helpful. If the answer is no, maybe what you are about to say should be left unsaid." -Bernard Meltzer
[09:38] Differences between criticism and critique.
[13:49] Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. -Dalai Lama
[13:54] It's possible to point out things that need to be changed or improved without being unkind.
[14:42] We need to be less fragile, and handle critique.
[16:01] We don't have to shut down conversations just because there's critique involved.
[16:42] The ability to critique is an incredible skill to have.
[18:38] Critique is how we learn & grow, and it's a sign of maturity.
Critique is something we all need to be open to hearing, and open to giving. It's a skill we can develop, and can greatly enhance our lives and the lives of our children.
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TPJ 77: The 6th Love Language
31 augustus 2020 · 28 min
How do you express your love? Is it the same way you receive love? How do your kids experience your love? In this episode I'll discuss the five love languages coined by Gary Chapman and add my take on them. PLUS I'm adding a 6th one to the list. Lees meer
[02:13] Gary Chapman's "The Five Love Languages"
[03:19] This can help us understand each other and improve our relationships.
[06:06] These can change as we change.
[07:42] Avoid feelings like you're not good enough.
[09:54] Words of affirmation
[11:50] Physical touch
[13:46] Quality time
[16:23] Acts of service
[20:08] You may not excel at every single one...and that's ok! Most of us are stronger in some and weaker in
[20:34] Gift giving
[22:13] My addition (love language #6): Visionary Leadership
I know sometimes it can feel futile, putting all this work into taking care of and loving our children.
It can leave us wondering whether they'll remember any of it and if it will make a difference. I believe it will make a BIG difference! You're embedding this into their being.
They may not realize it until they're older, but at some point you'll see the fruit of your hard work!
If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I'd love to hear about your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @parentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!
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TPJ 76: These 7 Limiting Beliefs Are Sabotaging Your Marriage
24 augustus 2020 · 1 uur 1 min
Marriage should not be a cause of pain and suffering. OR AT LEAST, should not ONLY be a cause of pain and suffering. Lees meer
It should also be a source of great energy and joy, and should be enhancing and boosting our life. It should make life easier and more enjoyable, having this companion and life partner by our side.
But so often I'm seeing the opposite. Instead of being mostly good with some challenges, I'm seeing big challenges and lots of stress, with very little joy.
In this episode I want to take you through a set of common beliefs about marriage, and why I think they're wrong.
[04:27] Limiting belief #1: Marriages don't work out.
[09:12] Limiting belief #2: The ONLY way to improve your relationship is with counseling.
[15:01] Limiting belief #3: You chose the wrong partner.
[22:56] Limiting belief #4: My partner will never change.
[26:46] Limiting belief #5: It would be easier alone.
[32:26] Limiting belief #6: I'm too tired and/or busy to do ALL the work.
[44:02] Limiting belief #7: What if I try and it doesn't work?
[46:52] Marriage is like Mt. Everest.
[50:10] So how do you do it? What do you do to build the relationship of your dreams?
[52:30] https://theparentingjunkie.com/parentinlove
Q&A
[54:52] If we're already in Present Play, can we join Parent In Love too?
[55:17] Do you get the coaching if you're already in Parent In Love?
[55:58] Is there a payment plan for Parent In Love?
[56:23] Is Parent In Love applicable if my partner doesn't go through the course?
[58:34] How much does it cost?
If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I'd love to hear about your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @parentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!
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TPJ 75: Happily Ever After [Kids] - How To Fall Back In Love
19 augustus 2020 · 1 uur
Has your relationship suffered after children were thrown into the mix? Chances are good that it has. I've certainly gone through ups and downs, and my friends and clients have too. While challenges certainly are inevitable, life-long suffering in your relationship doesn't have to be. Lees meer
In this episode I'm going to ask some questions and even give you a little tough love to inspire and encourage you to do what it takes to turn things around!
[01:03] How did your relationship change after having kids?
[04:26] We often neglect the relationship with our partner
[07:02] Deep down we all know our relationships are important. But many people underestimate just how important they really are.
[11:40] The relationship with our partner is the most important relationship of our life.
[17:03] We have to admit when things aren't going well before we can start to turn things around.
[17:43] Most of us weren't taught how to have successful relationships.
[22:17] It's hard, but worth the fight! It's worth what it takes!
[23:12] Myth: We should put our kids before ourselves.
[24:18] Your relationship becomes the "relationship curriculum" for your children.
[27:02] Relationships are like plants. Take care of them, or they wither and die.
[29:47] We have to stop hiding behind our children.
[31:49] It's time to wake up! The plant is wilting and needs attention.
[33:22] If there's something you're wishing for or desiring, it's safe to assume your partner has a similar wish or desire.
[34:40] It's not too late to start making changes!
[38:00] New mini-course: Worth The Fight
[39:11] New mini-course: Got To Grow
Q&A
[44:17] Do you have specific suggestions about how to fight?
[45:17] What is the difference between the Power Couple Workshop and the course?
[46:25] Is it worth the fight if I'm the only one who tries to work on the relationship?
[55:37] Which course is better for just starting out?
[56:19] What if my partner drinks alcohol and is very hard to be with or…
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TPJ 74: Relationship Tips - How Doing What's Fair Gets You Nowhere
10 augustus 2020 · 25 min
Do you feel like you carry the bulk of the load in your relationship? Like all the responsibility falls on you? Like the division of labor and the mental and emotional burden isn't fair? Lees meer
It's understandable...and it's also ruining our relationships.
In this episode I'm going to walk you through a series of questions to help you shift your mindset and improve your relationship with your partner.
[02:16] Are you keeping a running tab of "who does what" in your head?
[04:05] Keeping score undermines your partnership.
[07:59] A transactional approach to relationships is a major cause of division and conflict in relationships.
[13:36] Is there really such a thing as equality in a relationship?
[14:16] Do you really want things to be totally even, all the time?
[14:43] Does keeping score promote unconditional love?
[15:58] Does it feel good when you pit yourself against your partner?
[16:07] Does nitpicking your partner make you love them more or less?
[16:32] When you keep track of how much you give, does that make you a better or worse version of yourself?
[16:53] What does your partner do that you appreciate greatly?
[17:19] What does it mean to you to love someone and accept them as they are?
[17:27] How does that look, and how do you know when you're practicing that?
[17:33] Ultimately, are you displaying unconditional love through it all?
[18:10] What's the difference between trying to change someone and trying to evolve with someone and influence them?
[18:30] What does your partner appreciate in you that you might be forgetting or discounting?
[18:42] What competencies, energies, and skills do you each bring to the relationship?
[18:57] Should we be forcing each other to bring the exact same qualities to the table?
[19:23] Or should you each be contributing to the best of your abilities in our own special way?
[19:32] What's the meaning of seasons in life?
[20:01] Are you accounting for the differences in personalities, temperaments, and abi…
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TPJ 73: HOMESCHOOLING VS PUBLIC SCHOOLING: A Guide for Parents
3 augustus 2020 · 1 uur 29 min
I know there can be a lot of anxiety and indecision when it comes to the topic of school vs. homeschool. How do you know which way to go? What if I try it and it doesn't work? What if I ruin my kids?? Lees meer
In this episode I'm going to walk you through the decision making process and take you from indecision to clarity.
[10:42] "The best use of imagination is creativity. The worst use of imagination is anxiety." Deepak Chopra
[11:58] 1. Our role is to choose the environment in which our children educate themselves.
[14:04] 2. Our choices aren't right for everyone. They're only right for our own families.
[16:27] 3. Nothing is set in stone. We can make changes if something doesn't feel right.
[18:40] Use this matrix & process to help you make a decision.
[20:31] Education
[22:13] Time
[23:31] Cost
[24:39] Reliability
[26:16] Method
[28:01] Socialization
[31:50] Autonomy
[33:22] Health
[34:17] Relationships
[35:58] Intuition
[36:45] Add in any additional considerations for your unique situation.
[41:02] If you're going to homeschool, work on mindset before you go out and buy all the awesome stuff.
[42:12] Learning can only be effective when you and your child feel good about it.
Q&A:
[49:29] I want to homeschool, but my spouse thinks I'll ruin our kids.
[51:47] How old were your (Avital's) kids when you started using your Focus Time approach?
[53:03] What is a "hybrid model"?
[54:25] How do I homeschool a preschooler and still work 8 hours from home?
[56:07] What homeschool system do you recommend for non-English speakers?
[56:43] My spouse thinks socialization will suffer if we homeschool.
[58:22] I'm not a structured person and already struggle with routines...I fear it may be a little too much.
[59:55] What time are the Q&A sessions if I join Focus Time?
[49:29] I want to homeschool, but my spouse thinks I'll ruin our kids.
[51:47] How old were your (Avital's) kids when you started using your Focus Time approach?
[53:03] What is a "hybrid …
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TPJ 72: From UNSURE to UNSHAKEABLE (3 Positive Mindset Shifts)
27 juli 2020 · 36 min
So many of us have been pushing through, waiting and hoping for things to return to some sort of "normal". But with a second wave sweeping through the world it seems like it may never get back to normal. And now with the school year approaching and continued restrictions wherever we go, there's no end to the opportunities to feel anxious, fearful, and overwhelmed. Lees meer
In this episode I want to help you recommit, reenergize, and reinvigorate yourself, bolstering your resolve with 3 simple mindset shifts.
[05:58] If you're feeling frustrated, cooped up, judged, irritated, etc., you're not alone.
[08:13] How can we view everything through a more compassionate lens?
[09:21] I believe there's a better way to handle differences of opinion.
[17:11] Mindset #1: The benefit of the doubt.
[22:03] Mindset #2: Believe in yourself
[26:51] Mindset #3: Be the you that you want to be.
Rather than approaching things with anxiety, judgement, shame, and guilt, we can use these mindsets to come at things with love, grace, compassion, integrity, and make a positive impact on the world. Let's be the people who increase calmness, peace, and reason. People who promote a sense of togetherness instead of tearing us apart.
If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I'd love to hear about your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @parentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!
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TPJ 71: Dangerous Social Media Effects on Family Life
20 juli 2020 · 49 min
Does social media stress you out? Research indicates that it can cause anxiety and even depression. I've heard countless people say they felt great after taking a break from it. Why is that? Lees meer
In this episode I want to offer a breakdown of the recent social media landscape; how it may be harming us, what we can do to keep our sanity.
[04:56] Links between social media and anxiety and depression.
[10:37] Social media seems to be getting darker and the cons are beginning to outweigh the pros.
[14:23] A large part of it stems from anonymity, and losing face-to-face interactions.
[18:49] There's a major lack of accountability.
[22:52] There's a lack of discourse and an inflation of terminology.
[24:22] The main factor contributing to anxiety is catastrophizing.
[25:30] We're also losing our individuality.
[26:28] There's a major lack of diversity of thought.
[35:38] It's brought back public shaming (which we did away with in the 1800's)
[36:33] Can we start interacting online like we do with people offline?
[40:50] Social media is heavily influencing us and ultimately enslaving us.
Social media is a tool, and all tools can be used for good or evil. It can be a tool that unites us, helps us keep up with friends and family and develop bonds and connections with people we otherwise wouldn't have the pleasure of meeting.
But it can also be a major source of anxiety and depression, and can derail the relationships with people in our "real life". So let's re-evaluate our social media habits and make changes where necessary.
If we can start giving people the benefit of the doubt and treat each other with respect and dignity (like we would if we were interacting in person), we may see a shift in our interactions online.
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TPJ 70: Kate Northrup - Do Less, Get More!
29 juni 2020 · 55 min
Join me in a conversation with my friend Kate Northrup, "Do Less" author, as we talk about time-management, work-life balance, and vulnerability. Lees meer
Sometimes we feel we have to hide some part of our parenting because we're afraid of people's judgments. We fear sharing our whole, vulnerable self because disagreement is often met with hostile, dogmatic, judgmental comments.
One of the things I've worked hard to cultivate is friendships with others where it is ok, desired even, to say your honest (respectful!) opinions. And I think this conversation about vaccinations with Kate exemplifies that type of supportive friendship.
[03:18] How entrepreneurship and parenthood converge.
[04:34] The origin of "Do Less".
[09:02] We have to advocate for ourselves to get our needs met.
[12:41] Let's give our children "trust to show up for themselves".
[15:17] "Less preparation, more presence" -Adrienne Maree Brown
[17:21] Do less, so that what we do is high quality.
[19:48] Avoid "keeping score" and tallying the hours spent being mom, working, etc.
[21:47] Looking outside of ourselves for what we "should" be doing can be dangerous.
[25:44] Let's talk about vaccinations...
[32:16] How Kate handled pushback on her vaccine stance.
[38:36] We shouldn't have to walk on eggshells or be afraid of saying the "wrong thing".
[42:42] You can't "go there" with everyone, but often if we take the lead and try, we'll be pleasantly surprised.
[43:22] How Kate "does it all".
[52:35] Stop beating yourself up!
If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I'd love to hear about your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @parentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!
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TPJ 69: The Helicopter Parenting Epidemic: Are You Overparenting?
22 juni 2020 · 32 min
Do you feel tired or burned out in your parenting? Do you feel like you're "on" all the time and never get a break? Do you think your child's happiness and entertainment falls squarely on your shoulders? In this episode I want to address an issue I see a lot; overparenting. Lees meer
[03:01] What is overparenting?
[07:24] A big indicator of overparenting: Burnout
[08:08] Overparenting is not good for the parents
[10:45] Don't take on other people's roles
[12:34] Overparenting is not good for children.
[15:34] Overparenting makes children weak, timid, and fragile.
[16:53] It's not your job to keep your children happy.
[20:09] It's not your job to constantly entertain your children.
[24:00] Get comfortable with discomfort.
If you find yourself in the overparenting camp, start sitting back a little more. Let some of those things go, and stop taking on roles you weren't meant to take on.
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TPJ 68: Who's to Blame for the Family Fights?
15 juni 2020 · 25 min
There's a mindset that has permeated our culture and it's causing a lot of damage. It ruins our homes and families, our relationships, and even entire communities. Which mindset? Blaming. Let's discuss. Lees meer
[03:32] The blaming mindset is rampant in our culture.
[08:41] How does blaming help?
[09:49] How a blaming mindset affects our homes.
[10:29] Blame triggers defensiveness.
[11:53] Blaming over-simplifies a problem.
[14:13] Blame makes people deflect.
[16:34] Instead, let's develop a solution mindset.
[20:19] Say "We don't blame in this family."
[21:17] Empathize
When we empathize with people and focus on finding solutions together, we'll find that there's opportunity for growth and learning, and it'll strengthen relationships instead of tear them apart.
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TPJ 67: The Power Of Words
1 juni 2020 · 29 min
Many people have been struggling with feelings of powerlessness and negativity. But what if I told you that you possess the ability to empower yourself and create positivity in your life? That's exactly what I'll be discussing in this episode. Lees meer
[03:50] Our thoughts and words are powerful.
[06:48] Culture has "watered down" certain words and concepts.
[10:54] When we use exaggerated words, it sets us up for failure.
[13:28] It's making us fragile.
[18:41] Let's disempower our negative experiences.
[21:42] Challenges make us stronger, not weaker.
[23:10] Let's be more discerning and selective with the words we're using.
[24:09] We can choose how to interpret our challenges and circumstances.
Let's reflect on the words we've been using lately. Are they exaggerations? If so, they're weakening us and holding us back. Let's commit to flipping that script and interpreting things in a way that strengthens us and finds the good in our lives.
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TPJ 66: Break These 10 Toxic Communication Habits
25 mei 2020 · 24 min
We all want to be better communicators, right? I know I do. Like most things in life, improving our communication is a process and it takes intentional work to help us break old habits and create new ones. Join me as I discuss some specific toxic patterns that we all need to break and what we can do instead. Lees meer
[04:13] Communication skills are so important to be a healthy adult.
[06:14] We often fall into old habits and patterns. To change that we have to work on learning new skills and break the old patterns...
[08:56] Interrupting
[10:38] "Shoulding" over everyone.
[11:36] Generalizing (always, never, etc).
[12:42] Yelling
[14:29] Threats and ultimatums.
[16:40] Pointing & physical intimidation.
[18:48] Criticizing & name calling
[19:46] Shaming
[20:51] Stonewalling
If you start working on these areas and push past the awkward early stages, you WILL see progress in your relationships. Don't give up!
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TPJ 65: The Choice Is Yours
18 mei 2020 · 25 min
There's a mindset that keeps parents stuck and suffering, and really holds us back. We have a lot more control in our lives than we sometimes believe, and it can take some gentle nudging (or tough love, for some of us) to help us see things for what they are. Lees meer
Changing our mindset in this one area can make a big difference in our lives and empower us as parents and leaders of our family.
[04:20] We often CAN do the things we say we can't do...we've really just chosen NOT to do them.
[09:29] Saying "I can't" breeds desperation, anxiety, and depression.
[11:05] We have nearly endless choices over the majority of things in our lives (80%).
[12:58] Why do we choose not to? Sometimes we just don't want to.
[14:10] Sometimes we aren't willing to pay the price.
[16:40] Sometimes it's just not a priority for us.
[17:08] We need to take ownership of our choices.
[19:04] Reframing our choices is empowering and can help us through difficult circumstances.
So instead of saying "I can't", which is true only 20% of the time, own your choice: Say you don't want to, you aren't willing to pay the price, or you're prioritizing other things. Then when you need to, remind yourself of the choices you're making, and why you're making them.
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TPJ 64: The Question You Should Be Asking Yourself About Homeschooling
11 mei 2020 · 29 min
Because sending kids to school is often the "default option", I'm often asked "Why do you homeschool?" Lees meer
I think it's time to start reversing that question and ask "why are you sending your kids to school?" When you really think about what your school provides (or doesn't provide), homeschooling may begin to look much more appealing and not as out-of-reach as you once thought.
Let's discuss.
[05:19] Why do I homeschool?
[08:00] Schools are a service, and we can decide if that service is right for us.
[08:50] Service 1: Babysitting
[09:29] Service 2: Education
[12:08] Service 3: Socialization & community
[14:11] With how much is at stake, the real question should be "why send your child to school?"
[16:06] You don't have to be a trained educator to homeschool.
[18:01] There are other options if babysitting is the main reason you send your kids to school.
[20:00] Many schools push rote memorization, which isn't effective.
[20:32] We can help our kids develop skills they might otherwise learn in school.
[21:01] There are ways to help homeschoolers make friends and build community with others.
[22:41] Schools often use extrinsic motivation, which isn't effective.
[23:44] They learn to compete instead of collaborate in schools.
[25:11] It may require certain sacrifices and lifestyle choices, but it's so worth it.
[26:41] It may not be for everyone, but if you want to do it, you can!
If school really is the best option for you and your family, great! But I want you to at least work through these questions and justify why you're sending them to school. Let's do what's best for our children and family, even if it means going against the default.
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TPJ 63: Unvictimize Yourself
27 april 2020 · 39 min
Even without a global pandemic, life can be hard. Bad things happen and we all experience difficulties and challenges. It's easy to feel sorry for ourselves and go through life as a victim. But I'm here to tell you that there's so much more waiting for you on the other side of victimhood, and you can decide to leave it behind. Let's discuss how. Lees meer
[04:07] Society pressures us to sacrifice everything on the altar of parenthood.
[05:36] Feeling your feelings is step 1, and victims get stuck here.
[08:01] It's ok to feel that way. But do you really want to stay there?
[10:31] Humans have the ability to overcome the craziest challenges and hardships, and can come through it stronger.
[12:49] Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional.
[15:12] If you want to stop feeling like a victim, you have to stop seeing yourself as a victim.
[17:32] Not all stress is bad.
[18:37] We need to mind our own business and focus on things we can control.
[20:36] We need to take control of our thoughts.
[23:32] We have power over our words.
[30:13] Double down on what we can control.
[32:40] Present Play is an amazing resource to help overcome a victim mentality. Join before the doors close for another year!
The choice is ours! We can stay in the suffering and live life as a victim, or decide enough is enough and leave it behind. So much of it is within our control. We are not powerless. We'll find that these simple changes will have a major compounding effect if we continually reframe our situation and choose to stop seeing ourselves as a victim.
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TPJ 62: Setting Up Your [Big or Small] Space For Independent Play
20 april 2020 · 35 min
I get messages from parents all over the world (hundreds a day) asking how they can get their kids to play independently. Lees meer
I hear things like:
My kids won't play
My kids are clingy
We live in a small apartment
My kids have very different play styles
My kids fight with each other
I'm a working parent, so it can't work for me
I'm here to tell you that those are just excuses! And to help you see that your kids are capable of independent play, I wanted to share some stories from a few of my "Present Players".
[01:14] No matter how out of control life may feel, there are always things we can control.
[06:10] Independent play is a skill that can be developed
[07:56] Independent play has incredible benefits for our children.
[08:55] You don't need to buy anything. You'll likely even get rid of some things.
[11:17] Hear how Elizabeth learned to prioritize play, and accommodate 2 very different styles of play for her children.
[12:46] "Strewing changed my life...It's like magic."
[15:34] She found that each of her kids have different play needs, and does what she can to encourage and protect that.
[16:18] Hear Galina's story about how she set up her zones in a tiny New York apartment.
[17:18] Overwhelmed in her small apartment with too many toys.
[18:48] Even though she has a small apartment, she has found a way to set up all of her play zones.
[21:07] "I wasn't sure if my child could play independently because he was clingy."
[23:59] Don't let excuses get in the way! If Galina can make it work, you can make it work too!
[25:11] Melissa didn't know how to organize life in the midst of chaos.
[26:01] You don't have to do everything at once
[26:10] Make sure the structure of the space makes sense for the intent of the space.
[26:31] Even in quarantine (with 6 people in a 3 bedroom house), she was able to set up a space for school work without affecting her existing play spaces.
[27:18] It eased the transition to homeschooling
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TPJ 61: Don't Bounce Back, Bounce Forward
13 april 2020 · 25 min
I know that these times have been tough for many, leaving some in a "survival mode." But others have found, in spite of the challenges and frustrations, that they're enjoying certain aspects of their time at home with their family. Lees meer
And it may leave us wondering...do we really want life to go back to the way it was before? Or is it time to make some changes to the way we live our lives? Let's discuss.
[03:19] Let's choose to find the good in a bad situation.
[05:40] Amidst the hardship and trials, you might find yourself enjoying it.
[08:23] We may find things about our lives that we want to change going forward.
[14:26] What I learned living through terrorist attacks in Jerusalem.
[17:16] It's so easy to focus on only the bad things when you're in a crisis.
[17:46] There are always gifts to be had, even during tragedy and crisis.
[20:13] Challenges we face can give us perspective and remind us of what's truly important.
[20:59] We need to create the reality we want and lead our families.
Let's not let this opportunity go to waste. Let's assess our lives and start crafting the reality we WANT to live, and not just go back to life as it was before.
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TPJ 60: Expectations = Resources
6 april 2020 · 22 min
At times in life (and for many, the present time), we'll face challenges and changes in our resources. To stay sane (or sometimes just survive), it's necessary to adjust your expectations to what's realistic given your circumstances. Lees meer
[08:53] We can choose whether or not to be a victim.
[10:29] We have to match our level of expectations to the level of our resources.
[11:17] When you lose resources, there's a transition period where you may be edgy and frustrated. Give yourself grace!
[12:11] If you're measuring against old expectations, you'll feel like a failure. It's time to adjust your expectations.
[13:34] Resources can be time, money, etc., but we must also consider physical, mental, and emotional resources.
[14:43] Assess how your resources have changed.
[15:43] In areas where there's a depletion of resources, there MUST be a depletion of expectations.
[16:49] We must be adaptable, and flexible...even in our parenting styles.
[17:58] If you're feeling overwhelmed, just focus on the next thing.
[19:07] Celebrate every win, no matter how small.
It's liberating when your expectations are adjusted to reality. You can focus on what's next, give yourself some breathing room (and grace), and look for the good in the situation we've been handed.
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TPJ 59: Tips For Homeschooling Newbies
30 maart 2020 · 53 min
Renee Jain is back for another episode! With so many parents finding themselves homeschooling, we thought we should offer some practical tips to help parents through this challenging transition and help you (and your kids) stay sane! Lees meer
[02:50] Cut yourself some slack. It's not realistic to think you'll be a homeschooling pro in a couple of weeks.
[03:05] Kids go through a "de-schooling" process; expect it to be rocky.
[05:41] Be realistic about the amount of time it takes to figure out a flow that works for your family.
[07:33] Some routine and rhythm is helpful. Try focusing on 3 "big rocks"
[12:11] What is our role in all of this?
[13:37] The highest priority is to preserve an energy for connection and family joy.
[15:31] Trying to recreate a school experience at home is a complete waste of energy and causes disconnection between us and our children.
[17:31] Let's not put academic pressure on our children during this time. They'll be able to make up for whatever was "lost".
[19:15] So what should they be doing? Play.
[19:56] This is an opportunity to show us just how capable our children are of entertaining themselves.
[22:54] Play is crucial for our children's development.
[24:24] Become a play guru!
[25:59] We can have certain rules around a few things, but for the most part, let your children be.
[27:43] We can help our children get into a state of "flow" in their play (which I call free play).
[29:44] When you're in "flow", you're not directed or rewarded by someone else. The activity is the reward.
[30:03] Don't interrupt their flow! Let them be.
[31:54] This also teaches them responsibility for using their time well.
[33:36] Experiment with strewing!
[35:52] Boredom is a choice. If they're bored, put it back on them. Help them in age appropriate ways, but let them figure it out.
[37:22] There's a difference between encouraging independent play and being disconnected.
[38:00] Give your full attention during care-giving activities, but othe…
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TPJ 58: 3 Questions To Guide Parents During The Coronavirus Pandemic
18 maart 2020 · 36 min
As we face the COVID-19 Pandemic, there's a lot we can't control. It can cause major fear, anxiety, and worry...but it doesn't have to. This episode is from a live video I did where I shared 3 questions you can ask when you're facing a crisis, and I wanted to share it with you in hopes it will help you through these uncertain times. Lees meer
[02:49] Question 1: Who do I want to be?
[06:53] It may not come naturally...you'll likely have to work to be the person you want to be.
[07:16] I try to imagine what my older and wiser self would say about the situation.
[09:48] You can be doing the right "whats", but the "how" will make a big difference in your experience.
[10:55] Question 2: How can I help? What can I [practically] do?
[13:22] Our kids are looking to us to learn how to handle crises.
[16:09] If you're not on the front lines, focus on what you can actually do. Spend your energy there.
[21:02] Question 3: Look for the blessings in your situation.
[26:59] Challenges make us stronger...if we let them.
We don't have control of this situation. And to a large extent we can't control how it develops and how it changes life as we know it. But we can control our perspective and how we respond. The choice is ours.
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TPJ 57: Interview with Renee Jain of GoZen!
9 maart 2020 · 53 min
Hi friend! Do your kids ever get angry or throw tantrums? Do YOU ever get triggered by their tantrums and lose it? Lees meer
🙋🏻♀️I do. We all do.
In this episode you'll get to hear from the amazing Renee Jain of GoZen as we discuss how to "handle" emotions in both our children AND in ourselves.
[05:37] What is GoZen in a nutshell?
[09:20] We have to make peace with the idea that stress and difficulties are a part of our humanity.
[09:42] Feelings aren't good or bad. They're neutral.
[11:24] Create a character (a name) for each emotion (such as "Fury" for anger).
[14:30] Emotions come and go. They're not permanent.
[14:44] We need to have a relationship with the [seemingly negative] emotion and see the upsides.
[19:23] Anger/fury usually pops up for protection, or when boundaries have been crossed.
[22:10] Don't try to teach your children things "in the moment."
[22:48] We need to model what it looks like and stop trying to control our children's emotions.
[27:28] In those moments, try putting on your detective hat.
[31:24] Play is so important, even when they're throwing angry tantrums.
[32:51] Progress should be measured in years, not days.
[34:44] Practice or role play (outside of the moment) to teach them how they can respond differently when they're in the moment.
[41:21] It's a marathon, not a sprint.
[44:52] We can't be afraid of feelings and try to always suppress and control them.
[48:26] Get a stuffed animal for each of the 4 main emotions and use them for role play.
The work never really ends, but if we'll remember that progress is measured in years and not days, that it's a marathon and not a sprint, and implement some of the tips that Renee mentions, we'll start to see some lasting change in ourselves and in our children.
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TPJ 56: The 6-Step Parent In Love Blueprint
2 maart 2020 · 50 min
So many of us want to improve our relationship with our partner. The love, romance, and fun we once had evaporated when kids came along, and we're left scratching our heads, wondering if we made a mistake or if we can ever get that back. I'm here to tell you that it's possible! And that it's normal to go through these seasons of challenges in a relationship. Lees meer
In this episode I'm going to give you the blueprint from my Parent In Love course and give you some actionable steps you can take to make changes in your partnership, even if you don't sign up for my course.
[03:54] Why is it so hard to make your vision or dream for your relationship a reality?
[06:30] Why I talk about improving our relationships.
[12:26] It only takes one person to make significant changes in your relationship.
[13:34] Step 1: Mindset
[17:00] If you have any thoughts about leaving, that needs to be addressed first.
[18:18] Step 2: Communication
[23:52] Step 3: Teamwork
[30:13] Step 4: Vision
[31:56] Learn how our own childhood and past experiences influence our partnership and parenting.
[34:48] Make time for some deep conversations.
[35:34] Step 5: Connection
[40:45] Step 6: Leadership (how we parent together)
If we don't put some time and effort into changing ourselves, our partnership won't change. Sure, our partners have things to work on...but so do we. And if we work on ourselves and how we react and respond, we'll start to see changes in how our partner reacts and responds too. It only takes one person to make big changes in a partnership.
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TPJ 55: C.R.E.A.T.E Family Bliss
17 februari 2020 · 21 min
In this episode I'm going to give you a framework that you can use to create anything you want in your marriage, family, and life. Lees meer
[02:52] You can create family bliss
[02:59] We want people to move from just consuming our content to creating.
[05:31] What do we mean by "create"?
[06:11] Commit
[09:39] Reframe
[12:03] Educate
[13:58] Action
[15:54] Trust
[17:22] Envision
It's a cycle...when you commit to making changes, reframe your circumstances, educate yourself, take action, trust the process, and envision what life could be, it fuels the process and creates more energy to continuously propels you through C.R.E.A.T.E process.
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TPJ 54: Michelangelo Can Transform Your Relationship
10 februari 2020 · 29 min
Mindset is so important when it comes to growth, challenges, and the daily "grind." In this episode I want to share a mindset shift that we can use to reframe the work it takes to create great relationships. And it comes from a surprising source...Michelangelo. Lees meer
[03:21] Our shortcomings can leave us feeling broken, overwhelmed, and frustrated.
[05:55] Sometimes we look to others to model what we should do, and over-work ourselves trying to fit someone else's mold.
[10:27] Move toward a model that feels more organic and whole.
[11:47] There's a "power couple" inside of you and your partner.
[13:49] We are "figures slumbering in the stone."
[14:34] Focus on chipping away at those things that don't serve us.
[16:53] You're the sculptor. No one else can do it for you.
[18:16] It's more helpful to focus on what you need to take away vs. what you need to add.
[22:10] Chip away at our "low vibe mindsets."
[23:52] Chip away at our toxic patterns and behaviors.
[25:25] Chip away at our misaligned choices
When we start to chip away at these areas, we start to reveal our inner power couple. You'll find that if you focus more on removing what doesn't serve you, your relationships will transform and you'll see real, lasting change.
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TPJ 53: Ignorance is NOT Bliss
3 februari 2020 · 28 min
When it comes to your relationship with your partner, do you ever feel like you're just managing? Like you're just roommates? You may even feel downright miserable. Lees meer
If you've ever experienced disappointment, frustration, unmet expectations, loss of passion, mediocrity, or misery, you're not alone! Many people have experienced this, including myself.
In this episode we'll discuss how ignorance and the desire to maintain the status quo may be holding you back from your dream relationship.
[05:17] Why I talk about partnering & relationships.
[06:07] Is ignorance really bliss?
[08:36] Staying ignorant keeps us stuck in place, stuck in the status quo, and holds us back from our hopes and dreams.
[12:34] Ending the relationship is not your only option.
[14:15] Feeling like there's something missing and wanting more isn't wrong and doesn't mean you're broken.
[17:52] You can't force someone else to change. The answer is to roll up our sleeves, get to work, and create the bliss we desire.
[21:45] Either way you're expending energy...you might as well put it into activities that will improve your relationship!
Redirect the energy you're putting into staying unhappy to things that will move you forward. You'll soon notice a difference and will build momentum in the right direction.
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TPJ 52: From Plotting Your Escape To Power Couple
27 januari 2020 · 43 min
How would you rate your relationship with your partner? Is it everything you dreamed of having? Or are you planning your escape? Lees meer
Whether you're miserable or fairly satisfied with your partnership, I'm here to tell you that it's possible to have the relationship you've always wanted, EVEN if you're ready to throw in the towel.
In this episode we're going to discuss the 5 rungs of the "Partnership Ladder", how you can assess where you're at in 3 key areas of your relationship, and the mindset shift that needs to occur in order to climb the ladder.
[05:16] Divorce/breaking up can often be avoided with intentional work on our part.
[08:07] Let's switch from a fixed mindset to a growth mindset regarding our relationship.
[13:29] Key area number 1: Teamwork.
[15:11] Key area number 2: Parenting styles.
[16:56] Key area number 3: Connection.
[18:09] The 5-step "Partnership Ladder."
[18:50] Rung 1: It's miserable.
[21:28] Rung 2: It's stressful.
[22:21] Rung 3: It's manageable.
[24:49] Rung 4: It's satisfying.
[26:22] Rung 5: It's blissful.
[32:54] The places where we have the least amount of energy and capacity are often the places that need it most.
[33:26] Our partnership influences every other area of our lives (for better or worse).
[36:53] Life isn't a fairytale. It won't end happily ever after by chance. It's takes work! But it is possible.
It's important to assess where we are in each key area, and commit to getting to the next rung in at least 1 key area. If you adopt a growth mindset and put in the work, you'll be well on your way to having the relationship you've always wanted!
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TPJ 51: Potent, Free, and Available to All
20 januari 2020 · 38 min
Would you like to know one thing you can do today to radically change your relationship with your partner? Lees meer
Do you want to take your relationship to the next level? Instead of just treating symptoms and avoiding pain, can you work on improving your relationship into "peak performance" and make it the best it can be? And is it worth that level of effort?
Yes and yes!
In this episode we'll discuss how we hold the power to make this kind of change in our relationships, and the choice is ours.
[06:46] What I learned from HypnoBirthing (and how it can improve our relationships).
[11:39] We get to choose the story we tell ourselves, good or bad.
[15:54] This is a key way to create power in our relationships
[17:01] What words are you currently using to describe your partner?
[18:09] Speaking poorly of others is very damaging.
[19:16] Before we speak, ask ourselves these questions.
[20:07] The power of not gossiping.
[21:35] If you wouldn't say it to their face, don't say it behind their back.
[24:36] Drop the negative labels and words we use for our partner and relationship.
[25:57] Use "I" statements.
[27:09] Refrain from using hyperboles (exaggerations).
We hold the power. We can choose to flip the switch, to focus on the positive instead of the negative. We can change the words we speak over our relationships, and in the process, change those relationships. The choice is ours!
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TPJ 50: Do You Want Your Parent's Marriage?
13 januari 2020 · 28 min
We've all inherited a blueprint for relationships from our parents, whether we've acknowledged it or not. And unless we examine it further, we're destined to have the same relationship as our parents. Lees meer
Some of us may have been blessed with a great model for how to properly treat others, communicate, and resolve conflicts. But many were not so blessed, and even if you were, there are likely things about your parent's relationship that you would do differently.
In this episode we're going to discuss the process of examining our parent's relationship and how we can create the relationship and family we've always wanted (plus set up our kids for relational success!).
[02:52] Ask yourself: Do I want my parent's relationship?
[04:48] Our parent's relationship formed a sub-conscious blueprint for our own relationships.
[07:07] If we don't address it, we're likely to repeat it.
[08:35] Or we reject it completely and try to do the exact opposite.
[11:08] Our kids learn how to interact with others from the way they see us interact with our partner.
[15:26] Pick the best from our parent's marriage, and find alternatives for the rest.
[17:57] Look at your parent's marriage with an external, objective viewpoint.
[19:46] Envision the relationship and family you want to create.
[22:27] Develop the skills necessary to make our dream a reality and start making small changes to our thoughts, words, and actions.
We owe it to ourselves and our children (and their children!) to put in the work to create the marriage and family of our dreams. There will be a cascading effect that will change generations.
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