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Never Fast the Week Before Your Period! The Shocking Science About Intermittent Fasting & Women’s Health
21 september 2023 · 53 min
In this episode, researcher, respected expert on intermittent fasting, and bestselling author of Fast Like A Girl, Dr. Mindy Pelz, is here to explain fasting—and, in particular, how it impacts women’s hormone health. Lees meer
Men and women’s hormones are different, and because of that, women MUST fast differently than men.
Dr. Mindy is the first person who explained this to me, and this is why I wanted to have her on.
I had no idea that fasting would screw up my estrogen and progesterone. Why? Because I first learned about fasting from a male.
When I tried intermittent fasting, I wasn’t seeing the health benefits that everyone talks about. Now I know why.
You’ve seen fasting advice trending on TikTok and in health articles; even your friends are talking about it (just like mine), and after this episode you will know exactly what fasting is, why you might want to do it, and what every woman needs to know to get started.
I want you to get the right information from a respected female expert in this field.
Everyone needs to hear this.
This conversation is loaded with research and resources, and as always, extensive show notes are available on melrobbins.com. You can find them for this episode here. (www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-103)
Today, Dr. Mindy Pelz reveals:
The scientific protocols you need so you can fast the right way.
How to fast with your 28- to 30-day cycle for hormonal, physical, and mental health (and what to do if you’ve lost your cycle, like me).
The hormone science about how the female body operates (no one talks about this).
How to manage PMS and why intermittent fasting may help.
The research that explains why fasting tanks your progesterone
How this relates to you if you are in menopause and have an irregular cycle.
What the 30-day reset is, and its powerful ability to transform your health.
How to incorporate fasting into your life (and never miss a good meal with your family and friends).
Why coffee doesn’t break a fast, but a frap…
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6 Intermittent Fasting Protocols for Fat Loss, Mood, Energy, and Improving Your Overall Health
18 september 2023 · 1 uur 7 min
In this episode, renowned holistic health expert and intermittent fasting devotee Dr. Mindy Pelz is here to explain the 101 of fasting for better health. You’ll learn the empowering science behind why it works and how it can help you achieve so many health goals. Lees meer
Dr. Mindy is fascinated by our body’s ability to "heal itself" and how fasting protocols can activate some remarkable results based on extensive research studies.
If you’re tired of diets that leave you feeling like sh*t, health improvements that cost money, or just hate feeling out of control of your body, this is the one zero-cost tool that could have a significant impact on your health.
Dr. Mindy is on a mission to help people understand and harness their healing abilities through fasting. And today, she’s told all the Olympic athletes, Academy Award-winning actors, and Silicon Valley CEOs that she works with to step aside because she’s got an appointment with someone more important: you.
This episode is a guide to 6 recommended and researched fasting protocols. You’ll learn about each one and how they unleash your body’s natural ability to heal itself, reset the gut, and even get rid of damaged cells in the body.
Dr. Mindy breaks it all down with significant research, stories, and shocking statistics.
She’ll teach you:
What fasting even is and why it’s different from a "diet".
The 6 different fasting protocols and their researched-backed benefits.
The 3 easiest ways to start fasting at any point.
What the two energy systems in your body are and how fasting helps you tap into both.
What is biologically happening when you follow a fasting protocol?
What Keto really stands for and why the term "Keto-friendly" can’t be trusted.
The 9 cellular healing benefits of fasting and how it can help cure disease.
The fasting protocol that will help you lose belly fat (for good).
I can’t wait for you to learn from Dr. Mindy about this free tool that may just be what you’ve been looking for. Get ready t…
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Raw and Refreshing Advice on Navigating Anxiety, Insecurity, Popularity, & Peer Pressure in Your Teenage and 20-Something Years
14 september 2023 · 55 min
Lately, I’ve been getting a ton of questions from listeners about how to best support high schoolers and 20-somethings. There are lots of questions about anxiety, peer pressure, and getting young adults to open up. Lees meer
So, in this episode, I have a pile of your questions in front of me as my son, Oakley, and I go through them rapid-fire style, so you get both of our perspectives on the topics everyone worries about but is too afraid to talk about.
I have to say, Oakley really showed up for this conversation for you. He has hilarious and heartfelt thoughts on topics he has first-hand experience with.
We cover it all. From academic pressure to body image to bullying, this conversation is full of tools and strategies and is raw, unfiltered, and filled with relatable stories (and only a few f-bombs).
You will learn:
What teens and 20-somethings really need (and don’t need) from their parents.
(If you only get one thing from this episode, make it this…) How to encourage the young men in your life to open up.
The ONLY thing you need to do when your young adults come home in a bad mood.
How to get unhooked from toxic popularity and cliques and find your people in school or in life.
3 smart strategies to use when your child is getting bullied that will strengthen your bond with your kid.
An 18-year-old's surprising take on when to give your kid a cellphone.
The must-use hacks for introverts who want to be more confident in school.
How to get your kid to do chores (and still like you).
Strategies for handling your kid’s anxiety without yelling or freaking out.
The best way to navigate curfews and late-night parties with your teen.
I can’t wait for you to hear this. I loved the questions and the advice. And as a mom, I couldn’t be more proud of Oak for how much wisdom he shared.
I’d love for you to listen with your teens and 20-somethings. In fact, at the end of the episode, Oakley gives specific advice (including exactly what to say) to get your kids to listen.
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The Best Advice I Ever Heard: From Motivation to Paper Plates, 10 Genius Hacks for Keeping Yourself and Your Home Organized
11 september 2023 · 52 min
In today’s episode, I welcome back KC Davis, therapist, and bestselling author. Lees meer
The episode before this featured her relatable, hilarious, and breakthrough ideas about everything from laundry to loading a dishwasher and giving yourself the freaking break that you deserve.
That episode was so insanely popular, we moved this up in the queue.
The verdict is in.
You love KC Davis. So today she's answering your deeply personal and surprising questions.
In just 50 minutes, KC’s genius hacks and smart approach to everyday tasks will not only help you manage your to-do list, but give you back the time to rest without feeling guilty.
She also reveals the single most helpful item you can bring to someone when they are going through a very difficult time.
You ask the questions and she's giving you the step-by-step plan. She covers so much it’s hard to summarize, but here is my best attempt:
The shocking truth about “getting everything done”
Why you need to stop saying you’re fine - you’re BETTER than fine
How to divide chores at home (yes, there is a right way!)
Her “Fair Rest” rule for couples
7 genius tips to build momentum (stop waiting for motivation)
The ONE thing to do for a family or friend who is struggling with grief or depression (don’t cook them a meal)
Her unique take on self-compassion that will leave you in action
How to maximize your free time so you can finally start that project (you know, that one you keep thinking about) or collapse on the couch and do nothing
Steal her scripts and her hacks.
You asked for more time with KC Davis, and we delivered.
Thanks for sharing this with all your friends and family that need it.
Xo, Mel
In this episode, you’ll learn:
2:00: What does the research say about motivation?
4:00: Let’s unpack what happens when you have ZERO motivation.
8:20: Shame causes paralysis, so cultivate this emotion instead.
10:30: Here’s how to look at your home when you have chronic illness.
13:20: Let’s role play what to d…
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11 Crazy Facts About Laundry, Showering, & Getting the “Little Stuff” Done That Will Make You Laugh (and Prove You’re Doing Better Than You Think)
7 september 2023 · 1 uur 2 min
In today’s episode, best-selling author and therapist KC Davis answers the question, "How can you be successful in many areas of your life but fall short on getting the laundry, dishes, or grocery shopping done?" Lees meer
Which begs the question: why are all the "little tasks" so hard?!
Because when it’s time to get them done, they don’t "feel" so little.
KC’s advice, breakthrough ideas, and research will make you realize you’re not the only one who feels like you’re drowning.
And her compassionate, hilarious approach and simple tools will help you take better care of your home and yourself immediately.
If you’ve ever said:
Why can’t I get it all done?
Why does everyone else do this without a struggle, and I am FAILING?
I should really have my act together….
All the answers you need are in this episode.
And if you (or someone you love) is having a moment where even taking a shower or brushing your teeth feels like climbing Mount Everest, KC Davis is an angel sent from the heavens to lift you up.
This is one of my favorite conversations of all time. It’s so wide-ranging in topics and deeply relatable, laugh-out-loud funny, poignant, and actionable.
Talking to KC is like having an old friend show up at your house with a mug of tea, a mop, and a casserole you can stick in the fridge.
There are so many life-changing realizations that will restore your sanity—and the functionality of your home—that this is only Part One of your time with KC and me.
Today’s episode will change your entire life. You will learn:
A shocking approach to laundry and anything else in life that changes everything. (This one is so goooood!)
3 rules for self-care made simple
A 5-step tidying method that will improve your life
A genius trick for when the dishes or laundry are piled sky-high
KC’s "momentum-building trick" that will make your brain work for you
Making relaxation your right, not your reward
Leveraging self-compassion as a motivational tool
KC’s favorite phrase to say whe…
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The Most Important Wake-Up Call You’ll Ever Hear
4 september 2023 · 38 min
You need to hear today’s episode. Lees meer
I have something profound to share with you. It is a deeply personal message, straight from my heart to yours.
This is not a pep talk. It’s not a motivational speech. This is a goddamn wake-up call.
Your life is like a melting ice cube.
Your excuses are endless, but time isn’t.
Stop waiting for the perfect time.
Stop waiting to feel ready.
While you’ve been full of excuses, waiting for someday to come, time has been passing you by.
So, if you’re sick of standing still or talking yourself out of the changes you want to make and the goals you dream of achieving, this one's for you.
My mission is to make today the someday you’ve been waiting for.
This is the coaching you need.
And you need to hear it right now.
Xo, Mel
In this episode:
3:30: Can you relate to Cathy’s self-doubt?
6:15: If you hear anything today, let it be this.
10:55: This is how you actually reach your goals.
12:35: Worried about what others will think of you? Listen to this.
13:25: Steps 1 and 2 when you have a dream you want to make REAL.
15:00: Stop wasting your time and energy on this.
18:20: Frozen because you don’t have experience?
23:00: Is your schedule already full? Switch your mindset this way.
28:40: I told myself the very same excuses you do!
32:30: Filling your time with things that have nothing to do with your goals?
34:00: How do you start focusing on yourself once and for all?
Want more resources? Go to my podcast page at melrobbins.com.
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New Research: The Surprising Psychology Behind the Secrets Everyone Keeps & What Your Secrets Say About You
31 augustus 2023 · 1 uur 4 min
In today’s episode, you and I are discussing the fascinating science of secrets: why you keep them and how keeping secrets directly impacts your relationships, your self-esteem, your health, and holds you back from living the life you deserve. Lees meer
Dr. Michael Slepian is a bestselling author, psychologist, associate professor of leadership and ethics at Columbia Business School, and former scholar at Stanford. He has been researching secrets for over a decade and will help you understand what secrets are, why we keep them, and the harm of holding them inside.
Dr. Slepian's research is shocking: studies prove you are keeping 13 secrets right now. 5 of which you’ve never told a single person. Not your mom. Not your best friend. No one. Even more shocking is the impact they have on your life.
My mission today is to help you free yourself of the burden of secrets.
Listen and you’ll understand how the secrets we have shape our physical and psychological well-being, who we are, how we connect with others, and how we cope with our challenges.
You will also learn:
The most common secret that 61% of you are keeping right now.
Why you always feel shame, isolation, and uncertainty when you keep a secret.
The fundamental difference between secrecy and privacy, and why privacy is better for your health and relationships.
Why the shame of secrecy kills your self-esteem.
How to use guilt to get rid of shame (yup).
How babies learn to keep secrets from their parents and caregivers.
The one person you should REALLY tell your secret to.
Keeping a secret is the easy part; the hard part is having to live with it.
Let’s change that today.
Xo, Mel
In this episode:
2:00: The jaw-dropping secret that inspired this conversation today.
9:45: Curious about the kinds of secrets people keep? Here are the top 10.
11:50: How exactly do we define a secret?
14:45: Are there any good secrets?
15:45: Don’t feel too bad; we’re not the only animals that keep secrets.
18:00: Keeping th…
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Get Your Sh*t Together: This 85-Year-Old Badass Does More Than You & Me (Steal Her 7 Amazing Secrets to Life)
28 augustus 2023 · 44 min
In this episode, you will meet Judie, a total badass who has it all figured out, from killer biceps to fulfilling friendships to staying mentally sharp, spunky, and sexy. She’s got it all together. Lees meer
Who is Judie? She’s my 85-year-old mother-in-law.
You don’t need a library full of books filled with the science of staying young forever. Today you are getting the cliff notes for living a long, happy, healthy, fulfilling, and purposeful life.
She will teach you:
The reason moments of joy are fleeting for you and how to make them last longer.
The most important relationship you need to foster in your life.
The surprising thing you can do this week to create purpose in your life.
Why you need friends that are younger AND older than you.
How to create a killer morning routine that fuels your busy life.
The 3 ways to keep your mind young at any age.
The reason YOU need to be the first one to pick up the phone.
Today Judie is sharing her 7 secrets to longevity and coaching you on how to get the life you deserve. She spills her no-BS secrets on how to take care of your mind, body, and relationships.
Backed by research and 80 years of experience, her love of life and ability to embrace moments of joy and give back are what make her such an inspiration.
I am so excited to introduce this wonderful person to you. I want you to take a page out of her playbook.
You’re never too young or too old to start living life the way you want.
And it is NEVER too late to be the badass you were meant to be.
Xo, Mel
In this episode:
4:02: How to create a killer morning routine that fuels your busy life.
8:18: One mantra that you need for purposeful intention.
10:14: When Judie first started working out (it’s not too late).
11:30: Judie’s #1 for feeling less depressed and isolated as you age.
12:13: Why you need friends that are younger AND older than you.
14:41: The surprising thing you can do this week to create purpose in your life.
17:44: The reason YOU need to be th…
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5 Ways to Improve Your Breathing for Better Health With the #1 Breath Expert in the World
24 augustus 2023 · 55 min
In today’s episode, the incredible Patrick McKeown, international bestselling author of ten books on breathing and founder and CEO of The Oxygen Advantage, a world-leading breathwork training program, breaks down all things breathing. Lees meer
This is not a lecture; it is a masterclass. His decades of research will blow you away, so let’s slow down and learn from the best in class.
You need this, and I need this. Why? Because you and I have been breathing all wrong.
Today Patrick is revealing the 5 ways breathing through your mouth hurts your health and leaves you feeling more anxious and stressed.
You and I are getting coached by the world's leading expert on functional breathing for better health, more focus, less pain, better sleep, and, honestly, a better you.
This is information that should be shouted from the rooftops. AND taught to parents, teachers, and health professionals everywhere.
These steps are so simple, and yet they’re incredibly impactful on ALL parts of your life: your work, your ability to play and have fun, and your relationships.
Best of all, this advice is ZERO-cost to you.
You will learn:
What happens when you breathe through your nose.
How breathing through your mouth stresses you out.
How breathing through your nose improves your memory and focus.
What your breath has to do with back pain.
How nose-breathing boosts your immune system.
What sleep apnea in children has to do with special education needs.
3 simple yet powerful exercises that will leave you breathing easier.
Why the hell should you want to tape your mouth shut.
The study that found shallow breathing can lead to anxiety.
An exercise that will help you get more oxygen into your lungs.
Why your exhalation is the most important part of relaxation.
How breathing the right way can stop snoring.
Why the way you breathe during the day impacts your sleep at night.
The science proves that the quality of your breath determines the quality of your life.
So let’s dive in.
Xo…
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6 Steps to Navigating Major Change Like a Pro (a Hilarious Guide to Back-to-School and College Drop-Off Season!)
21 augustus 2023 · 39 min
In today’s episode, you are getting a relatable and hilarious guide to navigating major transitions like a pro. Lees meer
Join me in a real and raw conversation with my friends and colleagues, Amy and Lynne, as we unpack the major mistakes and 6 lessons learned from "horrible" college drop-off experiences (both our own and the ones we had with our kids) and the fear that comes with any major transition in your life.
Whether you’ve got kids or not, these 6 lessons apply to you. Everyone is going through some kind of transition right now: back to school, back to work, and dropping out of college. It’s a time of saying goodbye, of saying hello to new chapters, and of helping people move into new dorms and apartments and transition to new jobs or a new grade.
That means it is the perfect time to learn the 6 lessons I learned (the hard way) about managing big life transitions without losing your sh*t.
Listen and Learn:
The RIGHT way to empower someone who is drowning in self-doubt.
The #1 thing to say to help anyone move forward with confidence.
The 4 words that will help you or your child commit to change.
A science-backed "bridging" tool to help any child feeling nervous.
The 2 most important qualities you have to let your child borrow from you.
Why feeling scared and anxious before a big change is mentally healthy.
Xo, Mel
In this episode:
2:30: Hear one mom’s mistake after dropping her child off at college.
4:30: And what this mom did differently for her second child.
7:30 The drop-off experience that I wish I’d done differently.
10:30: Say THIS to your kids to help them ride the wave of emotions.
11:30: What you think you will feel is different from reality and that’s ok.
14:30: The #1 tool you have to let your child borrow from you..
18:10: Use this preschool trick from psychologists when you leave your kids.
29:00: Remember this the next time you start to overthink.
29:20: Recapping 4 major takeaways.
31:00: A fighter pilot shares how to gain control …
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These 4 Words Will Silence Your Self-Doubt: A Life-Changing Conversation
17 augustus 2023 · 44 min
In this episode, you and I are dismantling one of the most crippling forms of self-doubt. Lees meer
"Imposter Syndrome" is when you think you’re not good enough and that everyone else is smarter, more successful, and has more to contribute than you do. Everyone feels it. It’s so common that the Harvard Business Review found that even 70% of the world’s top executives have struggled with it.
My mission today is to convince you that Imposter Syndrome is actually a GOOD thing. And I’ll use an example from my own life to prove my case.
Come backstage with me to a huge music festival, where my daughter Kendall, an aspiring singer-songwriter, comes face-to-face with the famous musicians who inspired her career.
Cue the panic.
Self-doubt almost made her bail on what turned out to be a life-changing weekend in her career.
She turned it around (you’ll hear how) and, as a result, was invited impromptu to perform twice with Grammy-winning musicians!
Listen and learn how to be more courageous and confident in those moments that really matter. I can’t wait for you to hear:
The 4 words Kendall repeated that crushed self-doubt and got her on stage.
The powerful mantra to say when you’re nervous walking into a room.
How to use humor (and tuna sandwiches) to connect with anyone.
Why being a "nobody" is the most amazing "somebody" you could be.
It’s time to hit delete on your self-doubt forever.
This one is so good and so relatable that you’ll be yelling, Encore!
Xo, Mel
In this episode, you’ll learn:
2:15: Harvard Business Review says imposter syndrome is #1 fear of executives.
3:40: Kendall puts us at the scene of her own paralyzing episode of self-doubt.
5:30: Imagine being surrounded by everyone you’ve admired your entire life.
11:30: This is the message you need to hear if you’re deep in self-doubt.
12:45: My own story of feeling like an imposter before I became a speaker.
19:30: Here’s how to start shifting your mindset and boost your confidence.
20:20: The piece o…
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Something Scary Happened the Other Day, and I Wanted to Talk About It With You (and a PhD Trauma Researcher)
14 augustus 2023 · 51 min
A few days ago, I was the witness to a very tragic accident, and the experience affected me very deeply. Lees meer
I reached out to a renowned trauma specialist, and the advice she gave me changed my life.
In this episode, you will hear that incredible advice because she allowed me to record it.
Dr. MaryCatherine McDonald, PhD, a best-selling author and professor, reveals the 5 essential things you need to know about trauma so you can finally move forward with your life.
Listen, and I will help you pick up the remote control for your brain and turn OFF the trauma loop.
What’s the trauma loop? You may be in it and not know it: if you get triggered and have no idea why (and this expert says we almost never know why), have flashbacks playing in your head over and over again, the trauma loop is at play.
With the help of our expert, Dr. MaryCatherine, you and I unpack (in real time) the accident I witnessed and how it affected me.
With compassion and clarity, she explains what trauma really is and how to heal from it. You will learn and benefit from her decades of research and clinical experience. And she’ll help you understand what steps you need to take so that your brain does not store an experience as "trauma".
Dr. McDonald is one of the few experts who explains trauma and how to heal it in a way that is easy to understand, and her 5 truths will change the way you relate to yourself forever.
The strategies and science in this episode will help you:
Know what to do 4–24 hours after the traumatic event occurs.
Understand the ‘trauma loop’ so you can identify when you are stuck and how to get out.
Properly process traumatic events, even if they were deep in the past.
Spot myths about trauma that even psychologists don’t understand.
Know what narrative psychology is and why it’s proven to work.
Uncover and heal from your flashbacks, looped thoughts, and triggers.
Learn why you and your siblings have different memories of the same events.
How to calm your nervous …
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Research From Princeton: 13 Proven Hacks That Boost Your Influence & Make You More Confident
10 augustus 2023 · 53 min
In this episode, you’re getting a crash course in 13 essential hacks that will help you be more successful, and they’re backed by surprising research out of Princeton. Lees meer
Vanessa Van Edwards is the founder of the behavior lab The Science of People, a behavioral investigator, body language expert, and bestselling author who specializes in the kind of science-based people skills most of us never hear about.
Vanessa’s research proves that anyone can learn these practical skills, earn the trust of others around them, and become more confident, competent, and reliable.
News flash: You don’t have to be an extrovert to be successful.
Whether you want to be a better leader, land your dream job, achieve big goals, or align your life with what you want, this is the episode for you.
Listen, and you'll learn:
3 things you must do in the first ten seconds of a Zoom call to appear trustworthy and reliable
How to nail any interview by building unstoppable confidence
Why do you keep getting passed over for a promotion?
The words you need to get the bonus or raise you deserve
Why a second impression is just as important as the first
How a fake smile will ruin your reputation
The simple mistake we all make when asking for what we want
How do you spot a liar?
This is an encore episode that is packed with tools, tips, and scripts to boost your chances of success. With new and exciting insights from me at the top of the episode, you will leave feeling more confident for your next interview, first date, or wherever you are upleveling in your life.
You owe it to yourself to learn how to cultivate unstoppable confidence and influence, and you can do that in just a few minutes.
Xo, Mel
In this episode, you’ll learn:
2:23: The shocking research from Princeton about how people size you up.
4:50: What exactly IS charisma and what does it look like?
6:58: Why high achievers can’t just rely on their intelligence.
8:15: Two types of awkward people and how to tell.
14:14: Are y…
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Optimize Your Brain: 3 Important Habits for Productivity, Memory, and Longevity (Based on 200,000 Brain Scans)
7 augustus 2023 · 49 min
In this episode, world-renowned brain specialist Dr. Daniel Amen reveals the secrets to a happier life, and it all starts with... (surprise!) your brain. Lees meer
Dr. Daniel Amen is a medical doctor with 40 years of experience as a psychiatrist, 12 New York Times bestselling books, and he’s conducted over 200,000 brain scans, all of which back up the simple, proven tactics he’s about to share with you.
Dr. Amen shares the 3 most important habits you can start today to make your brain work better for you, based on decades of research.
Whether you’re dealing with anxiety, addiction, or stress, the information in this episode will forever change the way you think about your brain.
No boring and complicated science here.
Learn simple, practical changes to improve your brain, like:
What to say first thing in the morning to keep your brain strong
The 5 most important foods to eat for optimal brain health
The 2 most important vitamins to take every day
How to tell when your vital hormones are off
Why strength training is better than cardio for your health
3 most important words to keep your brain sharp
The breathing technique Dr. Amen recommends for an anxious mind
This is your zero-cost guide to better brain health!
This is an encore episode with new and exciting insights from me at the top of the episode. You keep asking about how to improve your mental health, and it starts with improving your brain health.
In under an hour, you’ll learn everything you need to be sharper, smarter, and more successful—by maximizing the power of your brain!
Xo, Mel
In this episode, you’ll learn:
0:52: Today, you have an appointment with one of the world’s leading experts on brain health.
05:28: The craziest brain scan Dr. Amen has ever seen
07:17: Brain health 101: What you need to know about your brain today
09:34: The simplest habit you can incorporate today to protect your brain
10:53: The first thing you need to say every morning to keep your brain strong
13:01: The 2 m…
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Dial Down Family Drama: 5 Ways to Reduce Conflict With the Ones You Love
3 augustus 2023 · 1 uur 15 min
In this episode, you’ll get 5 effective strategies to help you improve your family dynamics, resolve almost any conflict like a pro, and create a better bond. Lees meer
Spending time with family is awesome, but it can also be challenging because, as much as you wish everyone could get along, different personalities and opinions don’t always mix well together.
When family drama starts, don’t allow yourself to get sucked into it. You can learn how to dial down the drama and build trust and connection.
Today I invite you to sit on the couch next to me and my family here in Vermont as our three adult kids discuss all the ways Chris and I have screwed up as parents and the things we did that built trust and brought us closer.
I can’t wait for you to hear the truth bombs our kids are dropping. They’re shockingly insightful and will change your relationships for the better.
Listen, and you’ll learn:
The mistakes we (and other parents) made and how to fix them.
How to set powerful boundaries that everyone knows and respects.
The most tactical way to deal with difficult relatives and their BS.
The 6 words that increase trust in any relationship.
What to do when you repeat the same toxic relationship patterns.
5 secret words that will get your kids (or anyone) to tell you the truth.
One simple tool that makes discipline and boundaries easier for you.
(and your kids)
Share this episode with your family, and consider listening to it WITH your kids. It’ll definitely spark an interesting conversation because we get real and raw, and hold nothing back.
If you’re looking to get closer to someone you love, this episode is exactly where you should start.
I can’t wait to hear what you think!
Xo, Mel
In this episode, you’ll learn:
02:40: My daughter recently schooled me in a conversation about boundaries.
10:40: Ladies and gentlemen… my family.
13:25: A listener asks, “Are your kids really that open in real life?”
16:05: What we said to our daughter that knocked down barri…
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The Shocking Science and Benefits of Taking a Simple Walk: Research From Oxford-Trained Neuroscientist Dr. Shane O’Mara
31 juli 2023 · 58 min
In this episode, a renowned Oxford-trained neuroscientist teaches you the most incredibly simple, science-backed hack that will change every single part of your life in just 10 minutes. Lees meer
Professor Shane O’Mara, academic writer, author, and Experimental Brain Researcher at Trinity College in Dublin, walks us through the mind-blowing research behind, of all things, walking.
You’ll be shocked to learn how the right kind of walking can lower depression and anxiety without medication.
Professor O’Mara explains 3 different types of walking: one way will boost your creativity, another will make you more productive, and a third way will make you a rockstar problem solver.
You’ll also learn about the incredible cognitive, mechanical, and physiological chain reaction that happens in your brain and body during a simple walk.
The research and neuroscience will empower you to use walking to help you:
Conquer your fears.
Make your brain younger.
Reduce your stress and feel happier.
Double the number of your creative ideas.
Be more focused and productive at work.
Turn off anxious thoughts.
Decrease inflammation in your body.
Improve your relationship with yourself and others.
If you’re short on time, bullshit. Put your earbuds in and get outside.
Are you ready? Hit play, and let’s walk.
Xo, Mel
In this episode, you’ll learn:
05:29: Want a younger brain? Start moving.
09:48: You won’t believe these benefits of a 10-minute walk.
11:29: Is your environment working against you?
16:28: Here’s how walking is just as good, if not better, than your antidepressant.
17:20: This is what happens when you get outside and into nature.
20:50: What the heck is a “walking mind”?
23:54: Walking makes you more creative if you do this.
31:34: Turn up your energy while you walk using this incredible metaphor.
32:56: The shocking study that explains how walking changes your personality.
36:07: Don’t have enough time for a walk? I call BS. Here’s why.
39:00: Professor O’Mara …
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From PMS to Menopause: How to Hack Your Hormones and Use Science to Lose Weight, Sleep Better and Get Your Mojo Back
27 juli 2023 · 1 uur 3 min
In this episode, double-board certified Dr. Amy Shah is here to explain the science of hormones, how they impact a woman's body, and more importantly, what you can do about it. Lees meer
If you’re tired of PMS, bloating, mood swings, hot flashes, the belly "bread basket," or the brain fog of menopause... grab your pen and get ready to take notes.
Dr. Amy, a medical doctor trained at Harvard, Cornell, and Columbia, is an immunologist and leading expert in women’s hormonal health and nutrition.
She is here to explain it all in a way that you can understand and apply to your life.
Today, Dr. Amy Shah reveals:
What hormones are and how they work.
What’s going on in a woman's body from first period to menopause.
Why hormone therapy won’t help you lose weight.
What 4 things you need to help you naturally boost estrogen.
Why walking is better than HIIT or running if you’re in menopause.
3 simple changes for a better night’s sleep.
How sleeping in a pitch-dark room helps you lose weight.
How to hack your 28-day cycle for more confidence and resilience.
I can’t wait for you to learn from Dr. Amy. You are going to feel so empowered!
And please share this with all the women you care about in your life: your mothers, sisters, daughters, wives, and girlfriends, because we all deserve to know what the heck is going on and how to feel better in our bodies.
Xo, Mel
PS: For all of our readers who are men, do NOT stop reading. You have to live with us, so this will help you too. (And will make you wonderful when you forward it to all the women in your life). Plus this research and advice on hacking hormones is just downright fascinating!
In this episode, you’ll learn:
02:27: Why the hell do I always feel so tired?
04:52: What happens in our bodies during PMS and menopause?
09:10: Best metaphor to help you understand what’s going on in your body.
11:37: How to optimize your health in every phase of hormone change.
15:02: When in your cycle you should train and eat like an…
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You Are a Badass: Unlock Your Most Authentic Self in 4 Proven Steps
24 juli 2023 · 1 uur 1 min
In this episode, renowned researcher, bestselling author, and total badass Ritu Bhasin will help you step into your power. Lees meer
Her work proves that a better life begins when you stop trying to fit in and start showing up as your authentic self.
Does this sound like you?
You say yes to fit in.
You stay silent and let others talk over you during meetings.
You never ask for that raise you’ve earned.
You let your partner and friends make all the decisions.
You don’t have big goals because you’re afraid to fail.
Before you waste another day of your life pretending to be someone you're not, listen to this life-changing episode.
You deserve better.
This episode will teach you how to make the rules and be who you want to be.
Ritu and I will teach you how to claim your confidence and live a bolder, badass life in 4 simple steps.
Game ON.
This is your time. Take it.
Xo, Mel
In this episode, you’ll learn:
05:27: Why Ritu wanted to make an entire video about how to pronounce her name.
09:08: What it means to stand in your power.
12:53: Are you masking your true identity?
18:32: Feeling comfortable with yourself vs. hiding who you really are…
22:24: The pressure to perform shows up in the body in these ways…
27:02: The #1 thing Ritu did to bring more belonging and authenticity into her life.
29:24: 3 steps to conquer uncomfortable situations.
31:42: The mantra that Ritu repeats to herself to stay in control.
37:11: The only thing you can control are your actions.
43:48: The most important version of your “self” looks like this..
47:32: How to make others feel like they belong, too, and why that matters.
49:52: You have 3 versions of your "self" - here’s what they are.
52:54: We are all adults stuck in a middle school brain.
58:38: The #1 takeaway I want you to get from this conversation.
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Turn Anxiety Into Power: A 3-Step Process to Master Your Emotions From a Harvard Psychologist
20 juli 2023 · 47 min
In this episode, Harvard professor Dr. Luana Marques is going to teach you 3 simple steps to turn anxiety into power. And she’s not fooling around; in the first few minutes, she even called me out. Lees meer
If you want to be more successful and effective in getting what you want out of your life or career, learning how to master your emotions, especially in difficult situations, is an essential skill.
And Dr. Luana is a sought-after expert who will teach you how.
If major life changes crush you with overwhelm and anxiety, this is for you.
If stress and frustration are holding you back at work, you need her 3-step method.
If your palms start to sweat just thinking about…
Downloading the dating app.
Applying for a better job.
Moving in with your significant other.
Filing for divorce.
Your kids leaving for college or to live on their own.
Not anymore.
Dr. Luana Marques is a popular Harvard professor here to teach you that change is not only a necessary part of life but an incredibly powerful part of creating the life you want.
And even cooler, she is going through a MAJOR career change right now (and using her 3-step process to do it).
Today you’ll learn to:
Stop running away from your feelings.
Silence your self-doubt.
Figure out what’s most important to you (so you can run toward it).
Jump into new situations using a powerful metaphor.
And you’ll get a practical and simple 3-step framework to master any transition in your life.
Grab your notebook, your pencil, and hit play.
Xo Mel
In this episode, you’ll learn:
02:36: Why are transitions so damn hard?
06:45: The exercise you need to find your values, according to research.
09:24: What happens when ambition no longer serves you?
13:17: What happens when success comes at a cost?
16:21: How values have shifted post-pandemic.
20:54: Holding space for discomfort with your loved ones is essential.
23:58: Feel your feelings; it’s okay to not feel okay.
28:41: The one thing you need to add to your calen…
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Change Your Relationship With Alcohol – How to Control Your Urge to Drink
17 juli 2023 · 1 uur 1 min
Today on the podcast, you and I are having a deeply personal and eye-opening conversation about alcohol and your relationship to it. Lees meer
Rachel Hart is a best-selling author and master coach who has helped thousands of people re-examine their relationship with alcohol, and that’s exactly what she is going to help you do today.
Rachel knows the surprising reason you (and I) crave a drink (or have the urge to shop, vape, play video games, scroll on social media, or want something sweet).
She’ll also explain that weird cycle of emotions you experience after drinking.
Did I drink too much last night? Did I do anything I regret? Should I stop drinking altogether? Should I detox this week before the wedding next weekend? How do I drink less? Maybe it’s time I stopped altogether.
You’ll learn that this agitation and conflict about alcohol are normal. The question is, how do you change it?
Rachel says it’s by examining the desires underneath the urge.
Today, Rachel will help you unpack urges and desires and teach you why boundaries go right out the window when you feel an urge.
Today you’ll learn:
What your drinking might really be all about. (it’s not what you think)
Why feeling conflicted about drinking is normal.
Where do urges really come from, and how do you ignore them?
How your first experience with alcohol impacts your relationship with it.
What your desires are trying to tell you.
How to ditch the shame once and for all.
The complicated messaging around alcohol.
The 30-day plan Rachel uses with all her clients.
Not sure if you have a problem with alcohol? Worried about someone else who does? You're not ready to quit alcohol all together, but you wish you’d not reach for the glass of wine most nights. Wonder if maybe you should stop?
Perfect. Listen in.
You can change your relationship with alcohol.
After this episode, you’ll know how.
Xo, Mel
In this episode, you’ll learn:
02:12: Why is my relationship with alcohol so confusing?
05:43: The sham…
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Is It Too Late? How to Repair a Broken Relationship With Your Friend or Family Member
13 juli 2023 · 1 uur 2 min
In this episode, you’re going to learn that it is never too late to try to repair a broken or difficult relationship. Lees meer
Research shows that estrangement is not only on the rise but that the majority of us have at least one extended family member or friend who is estranged.
I know this is true in my own extended family, and I also have friends who are estranged from their parents.
Whether you’re the person who’s cut off contact or you're the one wondering why someone you love did, our episode today will give you the language, tools, and context to start moving toward understanding and healing.
Dr. Joshua Coleman is a psychologist and best-selling author who works with families to repair broken bonds and help them reconcile and improve difficult or estranged relationships.
In fact, according to Dr. Coleman, the strategies he shares work, and the statistics are in your favor.
I hope you share this with anyone you know dealing with a difficult relationship. It is very common, especially after a divorce and when there is a new spouse or significant other.
When someone you love suddenly pulls away or cuts you out of their life, you need a playbook to help you know when to reach out and when not to reach out, and what exactly to say and not say.
Today you’ll learn:
Why estrangement is on the rise.
What some therapists do wrong that can make things worse.
What to do if you’re the sibling caught in the middle.
How to take responsibility, even if you don’t think you should.
Early mistakes we make that can lead to estrangement.
Early steps we can take to avoid estrangement.
How long it takes to reconcile and where to even begin.
The pain of separation is real, but it doesn’t have to be forever.
Xo, Mel
In this episode, you’ll learn:
01:04: The silent epidemic that’s happening right now is estrangement.
02:10: What is estrangement?
04:42: How "cancel culture" is impacting relationships
09:07: The horrible advice for estrangement Dr. Coleman got in therapy.
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Where Did All My Friends Go? A Simple Guide to Finding Your People (Steal This!)
10 juli 2023 · 47 min
In this episode, I show you how to find your people, have more fun, and create meaningful friendships as an adult in a very simple way. Lees meer
And it starts with your morning coffee.
Plus, I’m sharing 4 opening lines and tactics you can use when approaching a potential new friend.
Can we just be honest? Making new friends as an adult is so hard. And I believe that we are all struggling with it.
So I’m going to share the strategies that I have used in the last year to go from moving to a new town and feeling like I have "no friends" to taking the steps to create an awesome new circle of adult friends.
Today you’ll learn:
The ONE practical and life-changing tool you need to create adult friendships
A fun framework for friendship that involves the 4 different types of coffee shops in your area
The lies we all tell ourselves about friendships that keep us thinking we have none
How remote work has changed the friendship game
The single best place to park yourself on a Saturday morning to find your people
How to approach a stranger (potential friend) without coming across as weird, creepy, or awkward
What I’m sharing today works because this is how I found my people in the last 12 months.
Xo Mel
In this episode, you’ll learn:
2:37: Today I feel like I’m living in an adult summer camp; it wasn’t always this way.
4:31: It is within your power to create community and connection.
7:13: What happens when you look through the lens of loneliness?
8:55: The #1 mistake I made with my friendships.
10:15: If you want the flower to grow, you need to plant the seed. Let me explain.
14:05: The lie you’re telling yourself when it comes to friendships.
18:44: Why making friends feels so hard nowadays.
20:07: A fun framework for friendship that involves the 4 different types of coffee shops in your area.
27:58: The coffee shop I go to and why it’s been a gamechanger for meeting potential friends.
31:28: I challenge you to do this the next time you get a coffee.
33:08: F…
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Therapist Reveals Why You Struggle With Relationships & How to Let More Love Into Your Life
6 juli 2023 · 1 uur 4 min
In this episode, you are going to learn why you struggle in certain relationships and how to let more love in. Lees meer
Whether you struggle in your friendships or your romantic relationships, or you don’t feel connected to your family or the community where you live, today's conversation will give you the insight and tools that you need to create better and more loving relationships everywhere.
Dr. Marisa Franco is a NYT bestselling author, award-winning therapist, and professor of psychology at The University of Maryland. She dedicated her professional practice to the study of connections and systemic loneliness.
What will really catch your attention is her research on attachment styles and what they look like in real time, which has been an incredible game changer for me and my personal relationships, particularly with my husband.
Attachment style theory goes way beyond "love languages," and once you know yours, you’ll be less triggered by others around you.
Understand the attachment styles of others, and you’ll take things less personally.
In today’s episode, you’re getting a complete guide to:
What attachment styles are and how they look in real life.
The questions to ask yourself to figure out what your style is.
How to tell if you’re hanging out with the right people.
The one thing avoidant attachment people have a really hard time doing.
How your attachment style determines who you’re attracted to.
Why you might be confusing being triggered with being in love.
Key strategies to start developing a secure attachment style yourself.
After listening to this episode, you’ll see the people in your life through an entirely new lens and with an abundance of compassion.
Xo Mel
In this episode, you’ll learn:
4:00: Let’s begin with the first style. What is a secure attachment style?
5:10: What does anxious attachment look like?
6:00: Avoidant attachment-type people have a hard time trusting.
6:30: Those who experienced high-trauma situations are more likely…
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5 Things the Men in Your Life Aren’t Telling You but Need to Talk About
3 juli 2023 · 54 min
In today’s episode, you will learn the 5 things that men secretly struggle with and how you can open up the conversation to better support them. Lees meer
I’m proud to introduce you to my husband, Chris, who is the founder of a men's retreat, Soul Degree. He has been leading these retreats for the past 6 years and has worked with everyone from veterans, executives, and first responders to college students.
Chris has incredible insight into the secrets that men keep and the struggles they’re facing alone.
Hearing Chris unpack these challenges is very compelling. He not only shares insights from leading retreats for 6 years but also from his coaching practice and his work as a death doula.
Many of the struggles that he witnesses in other men are the exact same struggles that he has worked through as well.
This is an episode every man, boy, or anyone who identifies as male needs to hear, and so do the people that love them.
It’s not just we women who struggle with self-love; everyone struggles with loving themselves.
If you don’t know what’s going on with the men in your life, let me talk to them and let them know it’s okay.
That’s why I am teaching you how to start loving yourself with a simple habit that you can add to your routine.
Today you’ll learn:
The 5 shocking things that most men in your life are struggling with
One habit that has helped hundreds of thousands of people to start showing self-love
Why it’s so hard to love yourself and the secret to self-love
The science behind why this habit is transformative
The profound insight my husband Chris had when he took the 5-day challenge
Love is not something you feel; it’s something you must demonstrate.
Xo, Mel
In this episode, you’ll learn:
2:25: The 5 shocking things that most men are struggling with
4:57: Do you put others' needs above your own? Do this exercise.
14:24: Why my husband, Chris, thought this habit was ridiculous at first
18:11: When in his life Chris started to feel like a failure
25:…
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Happiness Is an Option for You: 4 Easy Habits That Make Your Life Better Based on Research
29 juni 2023 · 54 min
In this episode, you’re going to learn the 4 happiness habits that, based on research, are scientifically proven to make you happier in 21 days. Lees meer
Happiness is not only possible; it is an option for you.
Our guest today is one of the most respected happiness researchers in the world. Shawn Achor is the author of 4 New York Times bestsellers and has created the largest happiness training program in the world. He is here to prove to you that happiness is not only possible but also an option for you.
This conversation is packed with practical and proven tools that you can put to work in your life immediately. We will also dig deep into the research that supports everything that you are about to learn.
Shawn goes deeper than he has ever gone in an interview, discussing his struggle with depression and how these 4 habits have helped him climb out of it.
Get out your notebook because we are drilling into decades of psychological research that will ladder up to more meaning in your life.
Today you’ll learn:
How to find happiness amidst pain and fear
The 4 simple habits that create more happiness
What Shawn calls the ‘turning point’ for his struggle with depression
How to be happy even when you’re lonely and the importance of connection and community
The first step YOU need to take to living a happier, more meaningful life
Happiness is not an emotion; it is a framework, and that framework is getting built today!
Xo Mel
In this episode you’ll learn:
2:04: What is the definition of happiness?
3:12: Where can you find happiness amidst pain and fear?
10:41: What happens when you become fearful that you will never be happy again?
12:53: Step #1 to claiming happiness is recognition. This is why.
14:05: This is YOUR starting point for living a happier life.
15:49: These 4 simple habits for 21 days will change your life.
17:53: What kept Shawn going: the habits that pulled him out of a depression.
21:22: Reminder: Happiness is a team sport.
29:24: What lonelin…
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Stop Taking Things So Seriously: A Hilarious Story About Wedgies, Wardrobe Failures, Art Museums, & Having More Fun
26 juni 2023 · 39 min
In this episode, you are going to learn the art of having more fun. Lees meer
I share a hilarious story about a major wardrobe malfunction with you and two podcast crew members.
You’ll laugh along at all the ridiculous details, but the takeaway is serious:
Learning how to laugh at yourself is a superpower, and research says people who have a sense of humor are more respected and are viewed as more confident and intelligent by their peers.
Today you’ll learn:
How having fun in life is an art form
How to turn something embarrassing into something hilarious and relatable
How humor increases power and status
Why it’s important to not take yourself too seriously
How to create a bond and change the tone in any social situation
Why it’s imperative to never buy a bodysuit that is too small
Seriously? You need to laugh more. Let’s start today.
Xo Mel
In this episode, you’ll learn:
01:26: The best feeling in the world: taking your bra off at the end of the day
3:52: Chris tells us what the equivalent feeling is for men.
5:33: The major wardrobe failure I had yesterday.
9:23: Pro tip: always test drive a cool outfit before an event (especially if it includes shapewear).
12:09: The worst wedgie that I have ever had.
14:41: I can’t believe I just admitted this, but don’t we all do this?
19:20: How turning something embarrassing into something hilarious and relatable tightens bonds.
21:18: Let everyone in on the joke, it will change the dynamic.
22:24: My ultimate moment of relief.
26:22: How turning something embarrassing into something hilarious and relatable tightens bonds.
31:09: Why does Amy do stand-up comedy, and can you develop a sense of humor at any point?
33:52: According to research, the funnier the person, the more respect and power you hold.
38:08: I invite you to do this one thing: laugh at yourself.
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How to Hack Hunger and Cravings Using Science With a Doctor Trained at Harvard, Columbia, and Cornell
22 juni 2023 · 1 uur 16 min
Why do you always crave dessert after dinner? Or a snack mid-afternoon? Lees meer
Today we’re digging into the science of cravings:
-Why you have them
-How to tell the difference between a craving and actual hunger
-How to eat your way to better health and a happier life.
Dr. Amy Shah is a double-board certified medical doctor with training from Cornell, Harvard, and Columbia Universities and an expert on intermittent fasting, hormones, and food cravings.
And today, I got you and me an appointment with her for free! Let’s friggin’ goooo!
If you want to understand your body and how to make your metabolism work for you, Dr. Amy has the research and the tools to help you kick your cravings to the curb once and for all.
In today’s episode, you will learn:
*when to drink coffee in the morning so you stay energized all day
*how cravings relate to dopamine and how to curb them so they never come back
*why your sugar cravings are so strong and how to stop them
*the truth about probiotics and which ones your body needs right now
*what ghrelin and leptin are and why they are the secrets to a healthy metabolism
*the shocking research that compares antidepressants to food and exercise
*how to stop overeating
Our bodies are complicated, but your health doesn’t have to be. Let Dr. Amy empower you to live a more vibrant, fulfilled, and energized life.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
2:45: So what’s the difference between hunger and cravings?
6:00: Many of our poor food choices are not our fault.
19:30: So how do we fix our eating habits if we’re not always in control?
20:30: Food and exercise are more effective than drugs for anxiety and depression?!
23:20: So what are some of the foods that will boost natural hormones?
28:30: Drinking enough water during the day makes you eat less.
37:30: Here’s what food companies know about dopamine.
41:40: Do this when you want to stop overeating.
44:45: Why does dopamine work better when you reward yourself at random times?
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6 Surprising Signs of Adult ADHD
19 juni 2023 · 50 min
More and more adults are being diagnosed with ADHD, so today, we are unpacking the 6 surprising signs of ADHD. I also tell you why so many women, in particular, go undiagnosed. Lees meer
This episode is deeply personal, but my story is shared by so many women.
I lived my entire life with symptoms of ADHD and crushing anxiety because of it. But I was never diagnosed until the age of 47—and I found out by fluke!
So in this episode, I go deep into what ADHD is: a neurological disorder that affects the brain structurally and chemically. I explain the signs and the science behind what is going on in your brain to help you live a better life.
If you ever wondered if you have ADHD, if you feel like menopause is making it worse, or if you struggle with anxiety, an eating disorder, or low self-esteem, you have to listen. All these might be symptoms of ADHD.
This episode goes way beyond an inability to focus, because ADHD is so much more. This is an education in how your brain works, how focus works, and how to help yourself or someone in your life who may have ADHD.
I’ve been wanting to record this episode for MONTHS, but I didn’t want to do it until I had first-class resources for you. Because every time I talk about my ADHD story, we get an avalanche of questions from listeners.
I have regrets about that lost time when I did not know I had ADHD, and I don’t want you to have them, too.
Today you’ll learn:
*why women have been profoundly underdiagnosed
*four key differences between genders with ADHD
*why my diagnosis was both a blessing and a curse
*the surprising way most women find out
*six symptoms of ADHD that most people don’t catch
*the connection between anxiety and depression and ADHD
*resources and hacks to help you take charge over your symptoms
Xo Mel
In this episode, you’ll learn:
2:44: The surprising backdoor way I was diagnosed with ADHD.
6:30: What I learned about the “lost generation” that has blown me away.
7:45: A terrifyingly important statistic…
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Harvard Professor Says THIS Is the Secret to Success (It’s Not What You Think)
15 juni 2023 · 56 min
According to Harvard professor Dr. Luana Marques, there is one sneaky habit that holds every single person back – and no one knows what it is. Lees meer
When she reveals the habit that holds you back, your first reaction will be to stop and think.
And as you listen to her explain it and give you examples, you’ll be shocked that you’ve never before seen it in yourself or heard anyone else point it out to you… until now.
You’re not the only one.
I didn’t know about this habit until I was introduced to Dr. Marques’ work.
What you learn today will change how you think about success, influence, mindset, and even anxiety and procrastination.
This sneaky habit has been holding you back and you didn’t even realize how pervasive it is in your life.
It’s not self-doubt. It’s not fear. It’s something even deeper.
I want you to listen, because she’s the world’s leading expert on the topic, and this is one of those episodes that will make you never look at life the same again.
Xo Mel
In this episode, you’ll learn:
1:00: The sneaky habit that’s holding you back, according to Dr. Luana Marques
3:00: Dr. Marques’ story will inspire you and explain how she discovered these tools.
7:30: Why this specific habit is keeping you from your best life.
9:00: How this habit leads to anxiety and panic at work.
13:00: Dr. Marques’ turning point in finding the success she has, against all odds.
22:00: Unpacking exactly what this habit is and how it holds you back, including your body’s response.
27:30: The lie you keep telling yourself.
30:00: This is how your brain is working against you.
33:00: Simple tools from CBT Therapy research that make a difference.
36:00: Exactly what to do when your thoughts spin and how to change your mindset immediately.
42:00: This approach works even if you don’t believe it.
43:30: How do you stress less and find more peace?
47:00: The first thing Dr. Marques does when helping her clients change.
50:00: How these strategies apply to parenting and f…
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The Science of Gratitude & 6 Surprising Ways You’re Getting It Wrong
12 juni 2023 · 49 min
Today we are digging into the research on gratitude. Gratitude is a critical life skill, yet most of us are practicing it wrong. Lees meer
That’s right.
According to the research, there are 4 essential elements of genuine gratitude. Without all 4, you can’t unlock the powerful physiological, neurological, and psychological benefits of genuine gratitude.
For example, if you’re just thinking about what you’re grateful for or writing a list before you go to bed, you’re probably not getting the full impact of its power.
Once you know the 4 steps, you can use genuine gratitude to actively rewire your brain!
Next, we’ll discuss the “Toxic Gratitude Theory” and the 6 ways you probably use gratitude in a backhanded or manipulative way – and don’t even know it!
I’m guilty of all 6 types of toxic gratitude (ouch) and now that I see it, I can stop doing it.
So today, let’s learn how to unlock gratitude and all its profound power. You’ll also learn…
The 4 neurotransmitters involved in a science-backed gratitude practice
The important difference between being just “thankful” versus genuinely “grateful” and why it matters
How using one specific word is critical to building up your resilience
What to say to someone who’s going through a really tough time
And because I’m so genuinely grateful for you, I have started rolling out a fun bonus with each episode, Mel Robbins Podcast Bloopers, so listen all the way through for a good laugh!
Xo Mel
In this episode, you’ll learn:
6:00: Ever met someone who just makes you feel so loved and grounded?
12:20: What happens in your body when you feel more gratitude?
16:00: What’s the difference between being thankful vs. gratitude?
21:40: Here are the four important elements of genuine gratitude.
25:00: Are you using gratitude in a toxic way? Hear these six types of toxic gratitude.
26:00: Let’s unpack the #1 way we engage in toxic gratitude.
28:10: The #2 type of toxic gratitude is actually resentment in disguise.
29:45: This #3 ty…
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How a Waitress at Denny’s Built a Billion Dollar Beauty Brand: This Incredible Story Will Unlock Your Purpose!
8 juni 2023 · 1 uur 10 min
If you’ve ever dreamt of doing something big, today's episode will get your head spinning, open your heart, and inspire you to take the leap. Lees meer
It doesn’t matter how young or how old you are.
You are meant to go big, to swing for the fence, and to do something no one has ever done before.
No more small plans. You have something big to do.
And there’s no better person to inspire you to make big plans than my friend and IT Cosmetics Founder, Jamie Kern Lima.
Jamie went from serving up stacks of pancakes at Denny’s to creating a product that would help millions of women around the world feel confident in their own skin.
Today you’ll hear the story of how she transformed the beauty industry, created the most successful product launch in QVC history, and ultimately sold IT Cosmetics to L’Oreal for 1.2 billion dollars (becoming the first female CEO at L’Oreal in their history).
If you think Jamie had it easy on the way there, you’d be wrong. And you won’t have an easy time either, but so what?
Her story is a rollercoaster of rejection and disappointment, fear, self-doubt, and near bankruptcy.
But when you’ve got big plans, you just keep going. Jamie never lost faith, and today she is teaching you how to never give up on your big plans either.
In today’s episode, you will learn
What to do when you have no idea what you’re doing.
Why it’s okay to do something that’s been done plenty of times.
What it’s like to pitch live on QVC.
How to handle someone saying “Women won’t buy from someone who looks like you.”
How to believe in yourself when nobody else does.
A truth about success we rarely ever hear about.
What to do when QVC says “NO you can’t sell that way.”
How to react when some idiot tells you they won’t invest in you.
How to break into an industry event and pitch your idea.
How to harness belief in yourself when you want to give up.
Wow. Just wow.
If you don’t know what to get the graduates in your life, send this episode because it’s a real gift.
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Giving Up Is Not an Option: The Motivation You Need to Hear Right Now
5 juni 2023 · 53 min
This is a message for every new graduate. Lees meer
Whether you’re graduating from college or graduating from a chapter in your life, you need this message today. Your dreams matter, and what happens next is in your hands.
You have a flame inside you that represents the way you were meant to show up in this world.
Today I’m teaching you how to throw gasoline on that flame.
No matter what you're going through in life, your dreams are alive and well, and they are waiting for you to wake up and turn toward them.
If you’re not ready for some Mel Robbins inspirational firepower, bookmark this for another day. Because I’m not f’ing around today.
Whether you’re ready to make your mark on the world...
Or you’re tired of your excuses...
Or if you're like Barbara, who you'll meet in this episode, and you've given up on your dreams because they haven’t materialized yet…
This may be the most important 50 minutes of your life.
I’m going to show you
-the three ways you shut down your dreams
-why jealousy is actually a good thing
-the one question to ask in the morning that will impact the entire rest of your day
And if you don’t even remember what it’s like to dream, I’ve got you.
This episode includes a free download of an incredibly powerful, science-backed tool that will help you start dreaming again.
Xo Mel
In this episode, you’ll learn:
3:30: These are the moments that define your life.
9:15: Here’s what happens before every time I reinvent myself and my life.
10:50: My first dream job never left me and eventually led to this podcast.
14:30: Watch for this evidence of your dreams still being alive in your heart.
18:15: The first way you extinguish your dreams.
18:30: The second way you pour a cold bucket of water on your dreams.
18:50: The third way you shut down your dreams.
21:45: The science-backed habit that’s going to help you start dreaming again.
22:40: Here’s a whole bunch of dream examples, if you need ideas!
24:45: What is the Zeigarnik Effect and…
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3 Steps To Finding Your North Star: An Exciting New Approach To Designing Your Life
1 juni 2023 · 44 min
Welcome to an exciting new masterclass on designing the life of your dreams. Lees meer
First, you’ll learn the process for identifying your own North Star, why this is important at the beginning of creating your new life, and how to use your North Star to guide you in the process of designing your life.
Next, you’ll dive deep into the 3-part framework: Emulate, Assimilate, and Innovate.
This framework is the backbone of the University of Southern California’s world-renowned Popular Music major taught at their Thornton School of Music.
It’s the creative process artists use to create songs, movies, and video games. The framework has helped launch Grammy-winning artists and touring musicians for the past decade.
I just learned about it a week ago and was so blown away that I had to share it with you.
When an artist creates a song, they begin with a blank piece of paper.
When you design your life, you are an artist with a blank canvas.
Today, you’re invited to tap into the artist within and learn how to find your North Star and use the creative process to bring your vision for your future to life.
Xo Mel
In this episode, you’ll learn:
3:00: Hear me describe the woman who recently became MY North Star.
6:40: Choosing this kind of person you want to choose as your North Star is best.
8:00: Shout out to Chris Sampson from the Thornton School of Music for these pillars.
10:15: If you skip Step One in this process, you’re making your life much harder.
14:15: Here’s how Jennifer Aniston made her way into our conversation.
18:10: We start unpacking what Step One of the process looks like, first with music.
21:00: Think of the space in between where you are and want to be as special.
22:15: Try using “want” instead of “need” when it comes to goals and see what happens.
25:20: This is what I did when I first started to dig myself out, but it took me much longer.
28:00: Here’s why this person is my North Star and why he puts a fire in my belly.
31:15: Let’s define the…
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The “Let Them Theory”: A Life Changing Mindset Hack That 15 Million People Can’t Stop Talking About
29 mei 2023 · 46 min
I shared the "Let Them Theory" on social media, and it went CRAZY VIRAL. 15 million views, 11,000 comments. Today, it’s your turn to learn this mindset trick. Lees meer
I’ve been using this technique for a while, so I know firsthand how powerful it is.
The "Let Them Theory" is so simple, you’re going to get it immediately.
And I have some great stories and examples to share with you, because there are three very different ways you can use it.
I can bottom line this in one sentence:
When you "Let Them" do whatever it is that they want to do, it creates more control and emotional peace for you and a better relationship with the people in your life.
Xo Mel
In this episode, you’ll learn:
2:30: My overfunctioning anxiety kicked in, until this happened.
6:30: Dr. Amy Johnson gives the best metaphor that explains our need to control.
9:20: Why do we get so upset about what we can’t do a damn thing about?
10:30: These three reasons explain why we try to control.
11:20: Two reasons why your parents and partners are so controlling.
17:00: There are times like these when the “Let Them” rule does NOT apply.
19:00: How are you supposed to let go when you’re a parent?
24:30: Can you relate to this listener who’s worn down from her expectations?
28:00: Stop making up stories about why people do what they do, and just ask.
32:10: When you’re constantly rescuing people, here’s what you teach them.
35:00: Are you actually in a relationship with a real person, or a vision?
37:15: One way we try to control someone is through jealousy.
40:00: Growing apart from a good friend? Here’s how to handle it.
43:30: It’s not your responsibility to make sure everyone else is never hurt.
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6 Signs You’re Disconnected From Your Power and How to Get It Back: Life-Changing Advice From the Remarkable Dr. Thema Bryant
25 mei 2023 · 51 min
If you feel that something’s missing from your life but have no idea exactly what’s missing or where to begin looking for it, today’s episode will help you reconnect with your power and find greater meaning in your life. Lees meer
Dr. Thema Bryant is the current president of the American Psychological Association. She trained at both Duke and Harvard, published multiple best-selling books, and has dedicated decades of her life to researching how we connect with each other by first connecting back to ourselves.
Her work has been so profound for me personally that, right off the bat in this conversation, I get emotional.
Dr. Thema is a national treasure. Her presence and her voice will put you at ease. And she has the unique gift of weaving together psychological strategies for healing with the deeper spiritual cornerstones of faith and trusting in "that which cannot be explained."
In this episode, you’ll learn:
-6 signs that you are disconnected from yourself
-what it means to be "psychologically wandering"
-how to handle people in your life who are chronically irritable and angry
-the surprising signs of "irritable depression"
-the three words to say to yourself before you can begin healing
-why self-care is critical if you are in a toxic workplace (you are more than your labor)
-why you need to stop talking about your significant other and your boss in therapy.
-where to find therapy when you can’t afford it.
You are so much more than a highway for other people to get where they’re going. With Dr. Thema’s wisdom and tactics, you’ll reconnect with yourself and take the wheel on your own incredible journey in life.
Xo Mel
In this episode, you’ll learn:
2:45: I got really emotional when I acknowledged how my life used to be.
6:30: 6 powerful signs that you are disconnected from yourself and what that means.
9:00: Even if you’ve never felt home with yourself, you can learn to be home with yourself.
11:00: The West African fable that gave me chills and should …
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4 Simple Ways to Stop Giving a Sh*t About What Other People Think of You
22 mei 2023 · 58 min
Imagine how liberating it would be to not care about what other people think of you. You’d take more risks. You’d stop holding yourself back. You’d make more money and have more fun. Lees meer
That’s what happened to me when I learned the (not-so-subtle) art of not giving a sh*t.
This is the best episode I've done so far.
I mean it. The best.
It’s hilarious. It’s relatable. It’s packed with takeaways and research. It’s entertaining and personal, and yet I still manage to empower you with 4 simple ways to stop caring about what other people think.
Want to know what life looks like when you don’t care?
I’ll go first.
You’ll hear some outrageous, not-safe-for-work stories about your friend, Mel.
And as you’re laughing at me, I’ll be laughing at me, too. One of the benefits of not caring about what other people think is that you don’t take yourself too seriously.
Why? Because you have much more important things to care about.
Xo Mel
In this episode, you’ll learn:
4:00: Hilarious story of me taking my shirt off at an LA restaurant.
8:30: Christine says you’re not supposed to show up to meetings this way.
14:30: Here’s why wearing ballet flats would have been a failure for me.
16:00: Christine’s profound point about judgment really opened my eyes.
19:00: When you stop worrying about how you look, others around you will too.
23:00: What I think about ugly troll comments so that I can rise above it.
27:00: If you’re part of a gossip loop, here’s what you need to do.
28:00: It’s not normal to wear a child-size space suit in front of your students?
34:00: Jessie could not stop laughing after I did this.
36:00: How can you give honest feedback and not sound like a jerk?
38:00: The wake-up moment for me around relationships.
38:30: My four rules about how not to give a sh*t about stupid stuff.
48:30: Kendall revealed something to me that I still can’t believe.
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How To Help Anyone In Your Life Who’s Struggling - Fantastic Strategies From A Yale-Educated Psychologist
18 mei 2023 · 1 uur 20 min
I am thrilled to share this conversation with you. It is packed with practical strategies that will help the people in your life who may be struggling. Lees meer
Dr. Lisa Damour is a clinical psychologist and author of three New York Times bestsellers. She earned degrees from both Yale and the University of Michigan and has more than 30 years of experience working with teens and families.
Her latest book, The Emotional Lives of Teenagers, has been nothing short of life changing.
Today you will learn…
-five words you need to know when someone you love is struggling
-the signs that tell you when someone is “costly coping”
-what to say that will prevent a conversation from turning into a battle
-why your kids dump all their emotional garbage on you
-when it’s time for a therapist
-why struggles are signs of being “mentally WELL”!
I started using Dr. Lisa’s strategies with my family the moment we finished recording this episode. They work!
You will leave this episode full of the resources you deserve. Plus, you’re going to love Dr. Damour (and how hopeful she makes you feel) as much as I do.
Xo Mel
And if you need to take the reins in your own life, sign up for my free Take Control mini-course to get inspiring support, guidance, and motivation.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
4:00: Two things psychologists look for when assessing mental health.
5:15: Too many people are not distinguishing between these qualities.
6:15: When exactly IS adolescence?
8:30: We’ve had the wrong idea about what it means to be mentally healthy.
12:45: What’s the difference between a “normal” reaction vs one to be concerned about?
15:10: Do you know someone who is managing by “costly coping.”
16:45: So how do you help your kid?
20:00: This is how you don’t turn a conversation with your child into a fight.
24:00: Take these steps when it’s time to confront your teen.
27:30: Here’s how I wish I’d handled Chris’s depression differently.
30:20: Let’s look at the difference in emotion…
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The Best Years of Your Life Are Ahead of You: A No BS Approach to Feeling Stuck
15 mei 2023 · 51 min
You know what you want and how to start. Lees meer
But you never make progress.
Here’s my wake up call for you today:
What’s holding you back is never what you think.
Today I am coaching a woman who says:
I can’t make myself do what I need to do. I feel like I’m in quicksand. Every time I try to move…I sink.
She has:
-put on an extra 30 pounds
-left her relationship with herself in the gutter
-no longer does the things that make her happy
-broken promises to herself time and again
I bet you can relate.
This is a must-listen if you want to:
be healthier…
go back to school..
find your dream home…
make new friends…
go for that promotion…
write a book…
land your dream job…
But you just can’t make yourself take the actions you need to take.
Stop frustrating yourself by trying to solve the wrong problem.
Your dreams matter.
Today you’re learning where to find the right solution.
Pull up a seat for a conversation with a listener like you as we uncover what’s really holding her back.
Xo Mel
In this episode, you’ll learn:
2:15: This metaphor will help you understand why you’re stuck.
6:00: I bet you can relate to Ricki’s story.
8:15: The bad news that made Ricki’s face drop.
11:30: Here’s why you don’t believe your life will get better.
13:30: What happened to you earlier in your life that broke you?
18:15: Maybe you resist a part of your life because it links to something painful.
21:30: When acute grief turns into chronic, underlying grief.
31:00: You can’t invite love, joy, and connection, if you’re closed to it.
33:15: I get where Ricki is, because I used to close myself off in the same way.
39:30: Here’s my assignment for Ricki that I know she needs to do.
41:00: Give yourself permission to be happy again by connecting to this.
45:00: Here’s why I truly believe the best years of your life are ahead.
46:30: Ricki recorded an incredible update for you and me.
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FBI Trained Expert Explains How to Read Body Language
11 mei 2023 · 1 uur 12 min
In this episode, you’re going to learn how to decode body language from one of the world’s leading experts on the topic. Lees meer
Janine Driver has been trained by the FBI, CIA, and one of the world’s top hostage negotiators.
When a criminal case grabs our attention, every news network calls Janine to analyze body language and critical verbal cues that suspects, politicians, and celebrities are sending so we can tell when somebody is lying.
If you love True Crime, you’re going to love this episode, because it’s a masterclass from an expert who’s spent over three decades decoding body language for law enforcement agencies around the country.
She will teach you which hand gestures indicate that somebody may be lying, why you should grab your chin during a high-level meeting, why you should never shrug your shoulders if you want to be convincing, and the million-dollar question that you should ask at the end of every single interview.
If you’re dating, you’ll learn all kinds of incredible tactics, like why you should never sit directly across from someone on a first date.
This is an incredibly interesting, entertaining, and surprising take on how to build confidence and be smarter about the subconscious signals that other people are sending you all day long.
Xo Mel
In this episode, you’ll learn:
3:15: Janine’s early childhood trauma saved her life as a teen.
6:00: So how do you go from being a profiler with the FBI to a body language expert?
9:30: Which three groups of people can read body language really well?
10:00: The hand gesture that says “maybe” even when you’re hearing “yes.”
12:30: Listen for the word “left” when you hear it from someone else.
13:40: How Janine knew Casey Anthony was lying about her daughter’s death.
19:30: What’s your behavioral fingerprint? Here’s how to figure it out.
20:00: What is the best question to ask at the end of an interview?
21:15: How men state what they need versus how women do.
27:00: This is why a shoulder shrug migh…
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The Real Reason It’s Hard to Make Big Choices
8 mei 2023 · 44 min
Last week, I learned a really cool trick to help you go with your gut. Lees meer
I guarantee you’ve never heard gut decisions explained this way before. Because I stumbled upon it in a very random way—while touring colleges with our son Oakley!
We hit 5 schools in 4 days, and over the course of that time, it hit me. Holy smokes, that's the perfect hack for making big decisions.
You can use it anytime you feel torn, uncertain, or scared about how people might feel.
What you’re about to learn is so helpful and memorable, you’ll turn to it over and over again.
This is one of my favorite kinds of episodes, because I’m going to put you right at the scene—the moment I had the epiphany. I’ll give you all the hilarious details, and there’s even a part of the story where, I am embarrassed to say, I acted pretty cringe-worthy.
And that’s not all; as I was taping this episode, two friends chimed in with stories of their own.
So I asked them to jump on the mic and share them with you. Two stories about a moment in their lives that’s so relatable—when they ALMOST didn’t go with their gut and looking back, they’re thankful they did.
Because going with your gut always changes the trajectory of your life. It just does.
That’s why I don’t like the term "trust" your gut.
It’s not about trust. You KNOW your gut is right. You’re just scared to go with it.
So join me, Oakley, and two of my friends. I’m taking you on an entertaining and profound tour today.
Xo Mel
In this episode, you’ll learn:
3:30: The moment of my junior year in high school that changed my future.
7:00: I am not proud of this mother moment when I lost it.
11:00: The question Oakley asked is what we all do when we give up our power.
14:15: Here’s what a hard no “feels” like for Oakley.
15:45: Do you feel a “yes” in your body like this too?
17:00: What our brilliant tour guide did when he separated parents from students.
20:30: When it comes to big decisions, step away and go on your own tour.
22:00: Here’s …
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How to Make Hard Choices: Practical Tips for When Sh*t Gets Real
4 mei 2023 · 42 min
Oh…sometimes life is a real doozy. Lees meer
You make all these plans, and boom. You step right into a pile of you-know-what. And then you realize that pile was there all along—you just missed it.
Which brings us to the topic of today’s episode: making hard decisions and moving on from hard relationships.
How do you move forward when…
You feel so torn about what to do.
You don’t trust yourself.
You’re scared to make the wrong decision.
What’s best for you will impact the people you love.
How do you decide your next big move when everything you worked for evaporates before your eyes?
How do you stop thinking about your ex, especially when you might bump into them at any moment?
I’ll tell you how.
Pull up a seat and join me because you are going to love the listener, Katrina, who I’m coaching today. Her question was, "Should I stay or should I go?"
By the end of this episode, you’ll not only have the answer to whatever question YOU are grappling with, but you'll also have so many decision-making tools in your back pocket that you’re going to need more pockets.
Today, you’re getting strategies to help you
Live your life with no regrets.
Keep your cool when you see your ex.
Bounce back after rejection.
Stop feeling guilty about following your dreams.
Make courageous decisions.
The biggest takeaway? Knowing the difference between what’s right for you and the fear that’s keeping you from it
When something is right, even if it’s scary as hell to go for it, you’ll only ever regret not having tried.
Xo Mel
PS - If you’re looking to ditch your insecurities for a powerful way to launch forward on your dreams, I’ve got just the thing for you. Sign up for my FREE Take Control mini course here.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
2:20: Ever been dumped? Then you’ll relate to what Katrina is going through.
4:00: The kind of decisions that change your life don’t happen in your brain.
6:30: When you have a big decision to make, ask yourself this question.
8:15: Holding …
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Are You an “Over” or “Under” Functioner? A Hilarious and Helpful Guide to YOUR Stress Style
1 mei 2023 · 50 min
At some point, the you-know-what is going to hit the fan. Lees meer
And it happened to me the other morning when I was driving my husband to his colonoscopy.
This is the first episode without a video version because I recorded it from my iPhone after dropping my husband off at the hospital.
I promised to take you into my life; I just didn't expect it to be as a stressful situation was unfolding in real time.
When it comes to dealing with stress, best-selling psychotherapist and researcher Harriet Lerner says that being an underfunctioner or an overfunctioner is your patterned response to dealing with the alarm in your body.
It probably doesn’t surprise you that I am what researchers call an "Overfunctioner."
My husband, Chris, is an "Underfunctioner," especially on those days when he’s on the way to a medical procedure.
And learning the way YOU react to stress is a game-changer for your relationships.
An overfunctioner like me allows the alarm in my body to take over in stressful situations, becoming triggered and anxious.
And the only way to calm the alarm is to bark orders, manage the phone calls, organize the activities, make the appointments, plan the meals, and take on all the responsibilities because it gives me a sense of control.
It may be my superpower, but it also makes me a royal pain in the a$$ and takes away the chance for Chris to feel empowered.
The way Chris deals with stress is more chill and very methodical, which frustrates the hell out of me.
Listen today as we work through these two different ways of dealing with a stressful family situation so that you can understand your own approach better and, more importantly, how to ask for what you need from others before you drive them nuts.
And if you’re ready to take the next right step to live your life with more confidence and no regrets, this is your time.
Sign up for my exclusive signature course, Launch with Mel Robbins. It’s available for registration only through May 4, so grab your spot to…
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You’ve Got Money All Wrong: A Step by Step Guide to Living a Rich Life
27 april 2023 · 1 uur 18 min
You can be rich. Lees meer
(Don’t roll your eyes at me; I’m serious.)
This is not what you think.
This episode today is so digestible. So counterintuitive. One of the most enlightening conversations I’ve had with anybody.
If I had a nickel for every epiphany I had during this episode, I’d be rich.
Most of us have been thinking about money all wrong.
It turns out that the amount of money you have in the bank (or don’t have in the bank) is only a small part of your relationship with money.
I didn’t realize this until I got to sit down with the incredible Ramit Sethi.
He’s a NYT best-selling author and finance advisor with a brand new, top-ranked Netflix series called How to Be Rich, where he coaches real people about how to take control of their financial lives.
He says you’ve been thinking about money all wrong.
This is one of my favorite conversations ever.
It changed the way I think about money.
If you were told that you need to create a budget and stick to it, Ramit calls BS.
Instead, you’ll learn about your money dials, the only four numbers that matter, the 85% Rule, why the 10 Year Bucket List is so important, the one thing you should NEVER say about yourself, and best of all, what it means to live a Rich Life.
Today’s episode is going to change the way you SEE money, because when you see it differently, you’ll treat it differently.
If you’re feeling crushed by debt, you’re trying to save for a new home, you can’t stop spending, or you’re constantly getting into arguments with your partner over money issues, you need to hear this episode today.
You have to learn to feel confident around money, and Ramit has the practical tools and resources to teach you how.
And if you’re looking for another zero-cost resource to help you change your mindset around finances, I’ve got just the thing.
Sign up for my free training called Take Control with Mel Robbins.
You’ll be joining a quarter million other students who’ve signed up already and you’ll get 3 incredible …
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Incredible Research From Harvard: 4 Simple Tools to Conquer Your Fear
24 april 2023 · 54 min
A few years ago, I found this study from Harvard, and it changed my life. Lees meer
It's research about performance and feeling nervous, with a simple reframing method that you can use to never let fear stop you again.
I’ve been using this technique with my five second rule for years, and the first way I applied it was to get control of my nerves and fear of public speaking.
I’m going to teach you this new method in a super cool way... by taking you on the road, on stage, and behind the scenes with me as I deliver a keynote address to 3,000 people at the convention center in Dallas.
I’ve been wanting to bring you on the road with me for awhile, and this topic allowed me to record this episode live in multiple locations while all kinds of things were unfolding.
There’s even an impromptu guest appearance from Michelle Poler, whose entire speaking career is about teaching people how to face their fears.
This Harvard-backed technique is so cool because it leverages your body chemistry, physiology, and neural pathways to your advantage.
The #1 fear most people have is public speaking, but this technique will help you with absolutely everything, whether it’s speaking up at work, giving an incredible presentation, not choking when you deliver the toast at your best friend’s wedding, performing better on tests, or even running better.
Stop letting fear hold you back. Use science not only to reframe your fears into excitement but to conquer them once and for all.
And one more thing. My free, brand new, research-backed training called "Take Control with Mel Robbins" is live and waiting for you. Get 3 incredible video trainings plus a 21-page workbook, and all you have to do is sign up here.
Already a quarter of a million students are taking the course for free.
I’m just waiting for you!
Xo Mel
In this episode, you’ll learn:
5:00: I’m always asked how I got into public speaking. Here’s the story.
10:15: The question YOU need to ask when someone asks how much you charge.
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Take Control of Your Mindset: Master Your Mental Habits for a Happier Life
20 april 2023 · 45 min
In this episode, you’re learning a simple but powerful way to take control of your mindset. Lees meer
You need to get serious about your mindset. The way you think and talk to yourself has serious consequences.
Your thoughts become your beliefs.
Your beliefs turn into actions.
Your actions become habits.
And your habits determine who you are and what you achieve in life, or not.
That’s why you need a Mindset Reset.
Imagine if your thoughts were positive, empowering, clear, and encouraging. Imagine if your beliefs inspired the best in you.
If you’re tired of listening to a voice that beats you down, fills you with doubt, and argues against your goals and dreams, it’s time to change your thinking.
Today, you’ll learn how to do it for yourself and start programming a more positive, empowering, and confident mindset.
So pull up a seat as I coach two people through the process.
I’m so confident you’re going to be fired up after listening to this episode that I have a free gift to help you take your current mindset to the next level.
I have a brand new, free, 3-part training called "Take Control with Mel Robbins."
It will provide you with the coaching, structure, and support you need to hit reset, take control, and level up your life.
It features 3 brand-new training videos, two hours of research-backed curriculum taught by me, and a 21-page workbook. Plus you’ll be with hundreds of thousands of other students taking the course for free around the world.
All at zero cost to you. Why? Because you deserve it, and it’s my way of thanking you for being here with me.
You’ve got nothing to lose and everything to gain. Why not take advantage of this opportunity? I’ll see you in the course!
Xo Mel
In this episode, you will learn:
5:00: What does your default critical soundtrack sound like in your mind?
7:30: Here’s the mantra I want you to start your day with.
9:45: This is one of my easiest and favorite tools for dealing with a critical voice.
16:00: This is the #1 …
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5 Easy Steps to Make Your Home and Your Mind Clutter-Free
17 april 2023 · 53 min
This episode blew my freakin’ mind. Lees meer
After you meet our expert today and learn her revolutionary approach to simplifying your life, you will never approach the topic of picking up, cleaning up, or organizing the same way again.
Whether it’s your desk or closet that is overwhelming you, or like me, you are guilty of constantly starting projects and putting things in piles, only to run out of time or get flustered, creating bigger projects to deal with in the future, today’s episode will change your entire life.
I had no idea how simple it could be to feel organized and in control.
I learned from our expert today that I was attacking organization completely wrong, and that was the problem.
Her 5 steps are so life-changing that from the moment I finished talking to her, I started putting them into practice, and the results are incredible.
Get ready to laugh and learn as I confess the details of what a disaster I am (my husband even rats me out).
Luckily, the incredible Dana K. White, founder of the hit blog, A Slob Comes Clean, and author of How to Manage Your Home Without Losing Your Mind, is here to help us all.
And that's not all.
Don’t forget to sign up for "Take Control with Mel Robbins."
It’s free. It’s my gift to you for supporting this podcast.
It features 3 brand-new training videos, two hours of research-backed curriculum taught by me, and a detailed 21-page workbook.
This training will provide you with the coaching, structure, and support you need to hit reset, take control, and level up your life.
And if you combine this training with Dana’s advice about decluttering, you, my friend, won’t even recognize yourself in a week.
All at zero cost to you. Why? Because you deserve it, and it’s my way of thanking you for being here with me.
You’ve got nothing to lose and everything to gain. So why not take advantage of this opportunity?
Sign up for free at melrobbins.com/takecontrol now.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
2:00: What Chris thinks about …
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The Toolkit for Healing Anxiety, Part 2
13 april 2023 · 1 uur
Today’s episode is a continuation of our exclusive two-part series with world-renowned medical expert Dr. Russell Kennedy. Lees meer
If you thought Part 1 of this series was life-changing, buckle up! Part 2 of this Toolkit brings you even more strategies and tools as we take questions from three more listeners of the podcast.
Is anxiety impacting your ability to sleep?
Tired of the negative loop of thoughts in your mind?
Is anxiety affecting your kids?
Is it genetic?
Are there surprising signs of adult anxiety?
Did your parents struggle with it, and you never knew?
How do you break generational cycles?
Dr. Kennedy answers these questions and so many more. You’ll also learn what most therapists get "wrong" about anxiety.
You'll find Dr. Kennedy’s approach both revolutionary and effective. As a medical doctor and neuroscientist, he will coach you on the critical difference between "coping” with anxiety and his protocol for "healing" it once and for all.
And for anyone in your life who may be struggling, please share this exclusive series generously; it could provide the life-changing answers and guidance they need to finally heal.
If you are looking for more free resources and support, I’ve got you! I have a brand new, free 3-part training called "Take Control with Mel Robbins."
This training will provide you with the coaching, structure, and support you need to hit reset, take control, and level up your life.
It features 3 brand-new training videos, two hours of research-backed curriculum taught by me, and a detailed 21-page workbook. Plus, you’ll be taking the course with over half a million other students around the world.
All at zero cost to you. Why? Because you deserve it, and it’s my way of thanking you for being here with me.
You’ve got nothing to lose and everything to gain. So why not take advantage of this opportunity?
Sign up for free at melrobbins.com/takecontrol now.
Xo Mel
P.S. And if you haven’t yet listened to The Toolkit for Healing Anxiety…
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The Toolkit for Healing Anxiety, Part 1
10 april 2023 · 52 min
Today’s episode is my gift to you and anyone in your life who struggles with anxiety. Lees meer
I created this exclusive series, "The Toolkit for Healing Anxiety," because of the number of questions I am receiving from listeners asking for more resources on this topic.
Part 1 is packed with tactical takeaways and features Dr. Russell Kennedy, one of the world's most respected medical experts on anxiety.
Dr. Kennedy is a medical doctor and neuroscientist who has a revolutionary and effective approach to helping his patients understand and heal anxiety.
(He's also been our most popular expert on the podcast to date.)
Dr. Kennedy teaches you the truth about where anxiety comes from and the mistake that most therapists make when treating it.
You’ll also have a front-row seat as he coaches listeners on the critical difference between "coping with anxiety" and his protocol for "healing it" once and for all.
I can’t wait for you to listen and apply the advice in this life-changing series.
And for anyone in your life who may be struggling, please share this exclusive series generously; it could provide the answers and guidance they need.
If you have follow-up questions, send them to me in the DMs or through the podcast topic link on melrobbins.com/podcast. We read them and use them to program future episodes (this toolkit is an example of that).
This episode is not meant as a replacement for therapy, but if you’ve been seeing a therapist for a while and aren’t seeing yourself improve, you may want to forward this series to them for guidance too.
Xo Mel
Didn’t get to listen to Dr. Kennedy’s first interview? Check that out here.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
· 5:00: I bet you haven’t heard this definition of anxiety before. .
· 6:15: So where exactly does anxiety come from?
· 7:30: This is a revolutionary way of thinking about how to heal anxiety.
· 8:45: If you’re waking up this way, that’s a red flag.
· 9:45: A trauma response isn’t directed outward- it’s here ins…
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5 Ways to Take Your Power Back When People Disrespect You
6 april 2023 · 1 uur 15 min
Today, you and I are calling BS on partners, friends, siblings, colleagues, and roommates who ride on your coattails, mooch off your generosity, and love the fact that you do everything. (While they do next to nothing.…) Lees meer
It’s time to take your power back with 5 actionable takeaways to get people in your life to step up and do their part.
I’m not messing around. The first person you’ll meet in this episode is tired of being the only one holding her family together.
And during the second coaching session I get even more intense with a woman whose boyfriend hasn’t had a job in three years.
Hear me loud and clear: by enabling other people, you are part of the problem.
There are 5 things you need to know that will change this dysfunction now.
Clear your schedule for the next hour because you and I have an appointment where you, my friend, will learn how to lay down the law and start putting yourself first.
Xo Mel
Can’t ask for what you need? Listen to “How to Speak Up for Yourself.”
In this episode, you will learn:
3:00: Do you have people in your life who rely on you a little too much?
4:30: Maybe you’re being used or maybe it’s this instead.
7:00: Is it time for you to be the parent now?
10:00: This is how to get your entire family on the same page.
14:00: Your siblings will understand your expectations if you do this.
17:15: Do this to make people feel that they’re doing the right thing.
21:30: Have a partner that isn’t pulling their weight? You need to hear this.
35:00: This is how you start a conversation when it’s time to set boundaries.
38:30: In a toxic partnered relationship? This is the truth bomb you need.
40:15: Has it become more important to be loved than to love yourself?
44:45: Let me coach you through this exercise to help you change your future.
48:00: Another truth bomb you need to hear today, no matter what you’re doing.
51:45: Listen to Brooke set a courageous boundary for the first time.
54:00: Keep little ears away, because …
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How to Handle Negative People: 6 Strategies to Protect Your Peace
3 april 2023 · 40 min
In this episode, you and I are talking about how to protect your peace. Lees meer
You already spend a lot of time trying to be positive - so today I want to remind you that it is just as important to protect your energy from people and situations who suck it dry.
You know the ones.
The friend who is so n-e-g-a-t-i-v-e, about everything!
The rude person at the coffee shop.
The colleague who’s always stirring the pot.
The toxic dynamic with certain family members.
Negative people are like dogs who have just jumped into a muddy pond. They come running up to you smelling all nasty and as soon as they get next to you - boom - they shake all that crap all over you.
It’s time to protect yourself.
Today’s podcast episode will teach you six super easy science-backed strategies to help you create an impenetrable force field against bad energy (and muddy dogs).
You can’t allow that crap to get on you - because your positive life force deserves your protection!
And today I’m teaching you how. Force fields up! Positive energy out!
Because that, my friend, is something to feel great about!
Xo Mel
In this episode, you’ll learn:
2:00: Jumping right in with Veronica’s question about emails that ruin her day.
3:50: You probably have your own stories of entitlement like this one.
7:30: This technique I use when somebody’s mood is getting all over me.
9:15: The “snow globe” works best when you’re getting attitude.
12:30: I know this about people when they explode into a tantrum.
14:30: Science explains why our bodies stress when we’re around bad moods.
17:20: Work in a toxic environment? You have these two choices.
22:40: Dealing with a curmudgeon? I got you. Use the law of reciprocity.
26:00: Here’s how I melted the ice when I became a legal analyst with CNN.
29:30: Gossip is bad for your brain and body. Here’s why.
31:30: Here’s the #1 strategy to stop your gossip today.
33:30: Once you see triangulation, you’ll look at your relationships differently.
36:00: This on…