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TU115: Improving Your Emotional Health – the Challenge & the Update with Ann Kelley PhD and Sue Marriott LCSW CGP
19 februari 2020 · 28 min
30-Day Emotional Health Challenge Update
In this episode of Therapist Uncensored, co-hosts Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott discuss their progress in their 30-Day Emotional Health Challenge.
If you haven’t joined us in the 30-Day Challenge, you can start today by CLICKING HERE! No sales no gimmicks, just support for you to change!
Positive, Humbling, and Frickin’ Hard Lees meerAnn discuses the positive activation around sharing and discussing the 30-Day Emotional Health Challenge.
Sue shares about the Challenge of the Emotional Health Challenge
A bit ambitious because it is a deeply held unconscious learningWorking on Changing Adaptations From Early Childhood
The consensus in the Facebook group and among our Patrons is that we're picking something that was an adaptation from our early life. It was important that we learn to do it, but it's not necessarily helping us now.
The problem is it was laid down in our bodies so early and really without conscious thought, so even just thinking about it doesn't necessarily change it. Instead, we adapt to it, repress it, etc.
This leads to a cycle of recognizing something, acknowledging that it isn’t working, and then repeating the behavior, which is induces shame.Relief and Frustration
These behaviors are implicit (unconscious) not explicit (conscious), which makes them really hard to change.
The Process:Community connection
Trying to teach ourselves to do something new
Picking one thing, not everything, with love, compassion, and curiosity
Examine the symptom or behavior that is no longer serving us
Just learning about it and becoming more aware
Not trying to repress or change it
Try something new and continue to learn
Are we resistant to changing? Reluctant to give up the old behavior? EtcAdjusting the Emotional Health Goal
Sue discusses the zig-zag process of scaling her goal up and down based on her exploration process and how her thoughts about it changed after attending a conference with Bruce Eckert on Memory Reconsolidati… -
TU114: Take the 30 Day Emotional Health Challenge!
4 februari 2020 · 39 min
Nobody is perfect. Let us support you in doing something you KNOW you need to do but may not know how. For 30 days, choose ONE old habit you want to let go of, focus on understanding where it comes from, challenge tired old troublesome beliefs, risk learning something new and updating your old map. Change can look like: insight, more compassion, new behavior, it can be small or large, but it's gotta change. We discuss examples and tie this into the Modern Attachment-Regulation Spectrum and the colors you may lean toward to help you pick something. Lees meer
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TU113: Integrating Self-Defense, Neuroscience and Affirmative Consent to Build Empowerment and Heal Trauma
23 januari 2020 · 51 min
"Yes means yes is the new no means no!" Often we doubt our gut instinct, question our right to take up space in the world, and live governed by fear -especially when we've experienced trauma. Meet the Safety Team, a group of ordinary women doing extraordinary work teaching women how to build resiliency and re-claim their sense of agency. Lees meer
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TU112: The Life-Changing Science of Memory Reconsolidation with Guests Bruce Ecker & Tori Olds
7 januari 2020 · 1 uur 1 min
Memory reconsolidation brings awareness to old maps and traumatic emotional learning and gives us a clean slate to build new learning pathways. Powerhouse clinicians Bruce Ecker & Tori Olds join co-host Sue Marriott in a discussion on the science behind this process and Coherence Theory, which brings these ideas to life. Be sure to see the shownotes for great articles and an excellent PDF brief on the subject. Lees meer
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TU111: Navigating Narcissistic Relationships – Gaslighting Manipulation and Grandiosity Called Out
24 december 2019 · 43 min
It can be surprisingly hard to identify the reality that your spouse or best friend has serious narcissism - find out why!
Are you lost in a narcissistic relationship?
The term narcissism is easily tossed around, especially in this world of selfies. However if you are deeply connected to someone with the personality disorder narcissism it is a very real, painful and a seriously disruptive experience. It is also surprisingly difficult to identify when you are immersed in it, and difficult to disengage the pattern of supporting their world-view. We break it down here! Lees meer -
TU110: Story Follows State – Investigating Polyvagal Theory with Guest Deb Dana
5 december 2019 · 57 min
In this episode of Therapist Uncensored, co-host Sue Marriott explores the intersection of Polyvagal Theory, neuroscience, and attachment with Deb Dana. We will investigate how the mind creates stories from information relayed by the nervous system, and how we can rewrite the script to move toward security. Lees meer
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TU109: THIS is Resilience in Action With Guest Alphanso Appleton
22 november 2019 · 35 min
One man's incredible story from unthinkable trauma to healing and recovery using non-Western approaches. Alphanso Appleton's story of civil war, Ebola and tragic loss will bring trauma are resilience into sharp focus - you will be moved by this young man's story. Lees meer
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TU108: Judgment and Self-Criticism Unchecked – a Great Interpersonal Defense
15 november 2019 · 21 min
Judgement says more about the judg-er than the judg-ee. It's not Judgement = Bad. It's Judgement = Interesting!!
Everybody judges and in truth, we unconsciously evaluate good/bad all the time - both positively and negatively. It's our brains appraisal system. However unchecked it's also a very handy interpersonal defense. Today we explore one aspect of insecure functioning, unchecked judgement and harsh self-criticism. Lees meer -
TU107: What is Somatic Experiencing With Guest Abi Blakeslee
30 oktober 2019 · 1 uur
TU107: What is Somatic Experiencing With Guest Abi Blakeslee
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TU106: What Actually Heals in Therapy with Psychoanalyst Nancy McWilliams
18 oktober 2019 · 45 min
Evidence-based treatment sounds good but it has nothing to do with deep life-changing work of psychoanalytically-oriented attachment therapies. Dr. Nancy McWilliams takes on the issue of insurance and other institutions trying to define your issue and the care you deserve. She also tackles trauma, narcissism and the training of therapists. Lees meer
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TU105: Narcissism – What is Going on Under the Defense with Sue Marriott and Ann Kelley
3 oktober 2019 · 45 min
This season we will be unpacking both narcissism and borderline personality disorder over time. Today we delve into the range of the issue, the types and compassionately look at what is going on inside the person who needs this defense. Hint: it's about their need to develop a false self. Lees meer
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TU104: Attachment Science & the Single World With Becki Mendivil (Replay)
25 september 2019 · 55 min
Candid and hilarious conversation about translating the relational sciences to work and parenting by a single listener ready to challenge the premise!
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TU103: Curiosity – One of the Most Powerful Tools For Connection (Replay)
16 augustus 2019 · 41 min
Curiosity - It's much more than a quest for knowledge, not as simple as it seems, & is one of the most powerful relationship tools we have!
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TU102: Finding Neurological Safety through Relationships, with Guest Bonnie Badenoch (Replay)
1 augustus 2019 · 51 min
Bonnie Badenoch discusses how exercising “happy humility” and compassion can allow for an ideal presence in our lives using our autonomic nervous system.
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TU101: Treating Attachment Disruptions in Adults With David Elliott (Replay)
14 juli 2019 · 49 min
We talk to Dr David Elliott about treatment for adults with attachment disruptions and much more! Check out the show notes for excellent resources!
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TU100: Reflections and Favorites From 100 Episodes
8 juli 2019 · 54 min
We made it to our 100th episode! Here's a look at some of the favorite episodes of our listeners as well as our own over the last 3 seasons!
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TU99: Food, The Body, Trauma, & Attachment With Guests Paula Scatoloni & Rachel Lewis-Marlow
27 juni 2019 · 1 uur 1 min
What if we flipped the script and learned to see our body as a messenger that needs to be heard rather than an obstacle to be conquered when it comes to our relationship with food? Using a somato-psychosocial model, we learn that the body has much to say not only about food but also emotional regulation and our basic human needs for attachment and defense. Lees meer
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TU98: Dive Deeper into a Model of Attachment Science (the DMM) by Ann Kelley & Sue Marriott
13 juni 2019 · 27 min
Dive deeper into this new (to us) model of interpreting attachment science and discover how to apply it in your daily life. Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP and Ann Kelley PhD have fun breaking down the last two episodes where Dr. Patricia Crittenden so generously shared her strategies of adaptation model known as the Dynamic Maturational Model (DMM). Focus is on personal and clinical importance in this last of a 3-part series on the DMM. Lees meer
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TU97: The Dynamic Maturational Model (DMM) of Attachment With Guest Patricia Crittenden (Part 2)
30 mei 2019 · 56 min
Discover a new voice and unique perspective in the treatment and assessment of attachment injuries. Dr. Patricia Crittenden shares her model, the Dynamic Maturational Model of Attachment and Adaptation, and uses her rich international background to deepen our understanding of culture and context on self-survival strategies. Lees meer
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TU96: Treating Attachment & Self-Protective Strategies With Guest Patricia Crittenden(Part 1)
15 mei 2019 · 42 min
Discover a new voice and unique perspective in the treatment and assessment of attachment injuries. Dr. Patricia Crittenden shares her model, the Dynamic Maturational Model of Attachment and Adaptation, and uses her rich international background to deepen our understanding of culture and context on self-survival strategies. Lees meer
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TU95: Oxytocin & Dogs (& Pets in General) as Attachment Figures
1 mei 2019 · 33 min
Want a totally free, no-hangover naturally produced cuddle-drug?
Oxytocin provides a boost of the best bonding drug possible and is the natural love drug our bodies make at key relational moments such as child-birth, nursing, orgasm and falling in love. In this episode we discuss how to create this moral molecule without even needing complicated human relationships by connecting mutually to our companion pets. What's not to love about that? Lees meer -
TU94: The Science of Self-Regulation – Breaking Down Polyvagal Theory
17 april 2019 · 31 min
The science of relaxing into love, this episode continues the exploration of Polyvagal Theory by bringing it to life through discussion and real-life examples. Sue Marriott and Ann Kelley continue to break down one of the most important theories of our generation when it comes to trauma and psychological treatment. Lees meer
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TU93: Polyvagal Theory in Action – The Practice of Body Regulation With Dr Stephen Porges
10 april 2019 · 1 uur
Dr. Stephen Porges, the neuroscientist behind Polyvagal Theory & Sue Marriott discuss mechanisms in the brain that create an array of psychological symptoms. Learn how to regulate your nervous system and co-regulate those you love. Full version.
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TU92: Understanding Addiction and Attachment-Informed Treatment With Guests Brad Kennedy & Vanessa Kennedy
15 maart 2019 · 1 uur 15 min
Learn 3 distinct features that make one vulnerable to addiction and understand the varied dynamics through the lens of attachment with guests Brad Kennedy and Dr. Vanessa Kennedy. By getting curious about our behaviors and understanding why we do what we do, we can begin shifting our narrative from one of shame to one of compassion. Lees meer
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TU91: Curiosity – One of the Most Powerful Tools For Connection
1 maart 2019 · 39 min
Have you ever just sat back and observed a small child as they learn something new? There is this profound sense of awe and wonder with each new discovery they make. Kids are naturally curious. As adults, we tend to take what we know about the world for granted. But, through the eyes of a child, the world is an exciting mystery just waiting to be discovered! What if we told you that it is possible to experience that childlike curiosity in your day-to-day life, starting right now? What if we also told you that curiosity is one of the most powerful relationship tools we have? Curiosity is much more than a quest for knowledge and is not as simple as it seems. Lees meer
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TU90: Attachment Avoidance and the Difficulty Opening Up, with Robert T. Muller
14 februari 2019 · 44 min
It's hard enough to unfold yourself in therapy, but when your life experience has challenged you, avoidance is sure to follow. It is difficult to open up if you found safety in being cloaked - but that cloak can clog up our current adult relationships. Dang it. Sorry to tell you what we imagine you already know. :) Gotta lose the cloak, friend. Lees meer
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TU89: Neurofluency – with Dr. Lou Cozolino, Applied Neuroscience Made Understandable
31 januari 2019 · 51 min
This episode breaks down and enhances your neurofluency - the basics of neuroscience as it relates to human beings in relationship. This skill will help you with your boss, your teacher, your student, your child, you client or you spouse. Learn to use the solid findings from interpersonal neuroscience in therapy on either side of the couch, as clinician or patient, and across varied life experiences. Co-host Sue Marriott interviews Dr. Lou Cozolino, a master psychologist, researcher, and world renown author of a boat load of books and original articles on the subject. Please hit play and enjoy! Lees meer
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TU88: 6 Steps to Building Security & Self-Confidence You Can Do On Your Own
24 januari 2019 · 30 min
Building security by yourself can seem near-impossible, so for today we are ditching the heady neuroscience to break down 6 quick tips to improve self-confidence entirely on your own. It's what to do, not why to do it. You’ll discover how this handful of minute steps can vastly improve the way you feel internally and the way you carry yourself externally. Lees meer
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TU 87: Treating Complex Trauma and Attachment with Guest Dr. Daniel Brown
10 januari 2019 · 54 min
This episode is packed! Learn about complex trauma, debunk myths of false memories from an expert witness of child sexual abuse, and revisit the 3 Pillars Model of effective treatment for attachment disturbances! Also special offer included.
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TU86: Mentalization and Regression, Responding to Listener’s Questions with Sue Marriott
21 december 2018 · 33 min
We end the year by co-host Sue Marriott addressing in depth 2 questions from our audience. These focus on mentalization, the attachment spectrum and regression. We look at how we can lose the capacity to mentalize when we are in a dismissing state of mind and what happens when we regress into early modes of functioning - fun juicy topics! Enjoy! Lees meer
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TU85: Attachment in the Classroom with Guest Linno Rhodes
14 december 2018 · 50 min
Using the science of attachment, mentalizing and emotional regulation in the classroom. A look at the take-aways from a tour of relational science experts, guest Linno Rhodes joins co-host Dr. Ann Kelley as they look at applying the skills learned in one's life and the workplace. Lees meer
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TU 84: Why Do We Over (or Under) React? The Neurobiological Underpinnings of Attachment Categories
30 november 2018 · 55 min
Neurobiological differences can be detected between secure and insecure relating, and even between the two organized insecure patterns of attachment (Dismissing and Preoccupied)! Cool, huh!?
In this Therapist Uncensored episode, co-hosts and real therapists Dr. Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP begin to the question – why are there only 3-4 categories established in the largest body of attachment research given the zillions of different experiences across the globe? We point to the neuroscience behind our attachment strategies that limit our biology in responding to stress and threat.
This is cool because we can understand it and begin to gain mastery over our primitive reactions (& help regulate those close to us – quite a perk!).
As always, we love to hearing from you! Uncensor you feedback, comments & discussion – get in touch, or better yet, leave us a live Voicemail that we can respond to by clicking the side button on our website (add your email to enable us to message back)!
In this episode, TU84, we discuss: Lees meerWhat is social engagement and what is the neuroscience behind it?
The role of Oxytocin in positive interaction seeking behaviour
Discrepancies in how information gets encoded between different partners can lead to difficulties with couples, especially with how future social information is encoded
The link between attachment and threat
The role of re-appraisal & neuroception
The difference between emotional and cognitive mentalization
How mentalization looks across the attachment spectrumJoin the Conversation
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This week’s question (for our private online Facebook group – join here if you are a neuronerd and would like interesting, supportive, non-solicitive engagement with other neuronerds!)
Question: What 1-2 specific take-aways did you get from this episode? (ie. What do you want to remember or for other people to be sure to hear?)
Explore these Resources from this episode:Neuroscience of S…
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TU83: Establishing Neurological Safety through Relationships with Guest Bonnie Badenoch
7 november 2018 · 53 min
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TU82: The Paradox of Masculinity with Guest Esther Perel
25 oktober 2018 · 29 min
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TU81: How Good Boundaries Actually Bring Us Closer, with Guest Juliane Taylor Shore
17 oktober 2018 · 50 min
Interpersonal co-regulation requires boundary setting. Most of us haven’t been lucky enough to learn to be good at boundary setting naturally, by good examples, so we have to literally be taught how to do this important skill. Well today we are in luck! Jello will be your friend. 🙂
Therapist Uncensored co-hosts Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott join the founder of IPNB Psychotherapy of Austin, Dr. Juliane Taylor Shore, in a discussion on interpersonal neurobiology and how it relates to boundaries. We’ll explore the three types of boundaries, how to co-create boundaries and how to stay regulated using internal mechanisms. After this podcast, you may very well be on your way towards building your own “Jello wall” and better co-regulating yourself when you’re overwhelmed!
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Some background on Juliane Taylor Shore: Founder of IPNB Psychotherapy of Austin with interests in interpersonal neurobiology, neuroscience, philosophy, biology and physics.
How are boundaries defined and what sort of connotations come with boundaries? How can the connection between boundaries and interpersonal neurobiology actually bring people closer?
The Three Types of Boundaries
External, Behavioral Boundary: “I don’t want to talk to you when you raise your voice at me.” Or “I’d love to see you but I can’t right now.” The concept of having to say “no”.
Psychological Boundary: separation between people, difference between true self and parts of self (“air” between people, your truth and my truth are allowed to be different) “Jello Wall”
Containing Boundary: (individually deeming what’s okay leading up to healthy shame) Boundary that stops you from acting out.
Co-creating boundaries between two people is a great way to negotiate disagreements and find a middle ground.
“Fucked up people will try to tell you otherwise, but boundaries have nothing to do with whether you love someone or not. They are not punishments, judgments or betrayals. They’re a purely peaceable thing. The basic principles yo… Lees meer -
TU:80 Nervous Systems in the News: Dr. Blasey Ford, Sexual Trauma Stories and the Power of Patriarchy
4 oktober 2018 · 24 min
We joke around a lot on this show, but when it hits the fan we are serious therapists devoted to treating real people and all kinds of survivors. Today we give our best guess on they science behind why people are responding overwhelmingly to Dr. Ford's testimony - calling national and local crisis hotlines in unprecedented numbers. We speak in this moment not from a political perspective, but from a somatic, nervous system perspective. Something has stirred in the American public even different than the #MeToo movement, and we speak to it on this episode.
We also touch on the science of memory, implicit and explicit, mirror neurons, stress hormones and threat responses and most importantly the power of patriarchy to harm both women and men, both political parties and our democracy as we know it. Lees meer -
TU79: Attachment Spectrum and the Nervous System, Quick Review with Updates
2 oktober 2018 · 28 min
A guide to secure relating and using the attachment sciences and regulation theory to improve your understanding of yourself and others in your day to day lives. Today we review what we've discussed so far on the podcast about the attachment spectrum and add more detail about the nervous system. Lees meer
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TU78: The Stress Response System (Attachment) Across the Lifespan – (Replay)
26 september 2018 · 33 min
FAVORITE EPISODE!!! This one takes a wide-angle look at attachment throughout one’s life, discusses how one’s environment affects their system’s involuntary response to stress, and how that stress response system impacts us from infancy to the autumn years. In this episode, co-hosts Ann Kelley Phd and Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP discuss attachment across the lifespan, specifically looking at the elder years and how our attachment system affects us as caretakers of our parents or as the senior who may be undergoing the various losses inherent in aging. Lees meer
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TU77: Understanding the Mind with Guest Dr. Dan Siegel (Replay)
11 september 2018 · 59 min
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TU76: Behind the Scenes with Ann and Sue, Reflections and a Look Ahead
30 augustus 2018 · 10 min
Sue and Ann walk the walk by bringing authenticity and vulnerability to their listeners and seeking connection, engagement and feedback. They also request listener feedback and input to help them co-create an exciting and high quality Season 3 of Therapist Uncensored. Lees meer
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TU 74: Mentalizing – A Critical Component For Secure Relating With Tina Adkins (replay)
22 augustus 2018 · 48 min
Mentalizing seems easy – but actually it is quite complex. Thinking accurately about our own and others minds is such a core skill that many consider it a pre-condition for self-soothing, empathy and other facets of emotional intelligence and social-emotional maturity. Lees meer
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TU73: Building Grit Through Self-Compassion With Dr Kristin Neff (replay)
15 augustus 2018 · 1 uur
Self Compassion is an antidote to shame, the underpinning of narcissism. Lees meer
It is fierce accountability that is core to psychological health… who knew? Most of us think of it as being soft on yourself, but our guest will reveal the surprising power and science of self-compassion in this episode.
Co-host Dr. Ann Kelley interviews Dr. Kristen Neff, an Associate Professor at the University of Texas at Austin and a foremost author and expert on Self Compassion.
Self Esteem vs Self Compassion
This is not feel-good, la-la, therapy-talk, it’s real science. Learn the important distinction between self esteem and self compassion, and how one can lead to psychological instability, self-criticism, stress, competition and difficulty within ourselves, our relationships and our culture. You really want to get this right and may be surprised! Treating yourself as your own best friend.
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TU72: Attachment Parenting Vs. Attachment Science – Clearing up Misconceptions
4 augustus 2018 · 38 min
Finding the middle ground between constantly attending to your child versus letting them learn to self-soothe is a challenge that all parents must face. In this episode, Therapist Uncensored hosts, Dr. Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP, break down the difference between “Attachment Parenting” and the science of actual Attachment theory. They share key elements from research outcomes that surround many common misconceptions of applying the theory itself.
You’ll learn that the ideals setup by Dr.William and Martha Sears and Richard Ferber might not fully translate in today’s world of parenting and that the way you respond to your child’s needs is a determining factor in how secure they will be later in life.
Thank you to our sponsor! Lees meerEpisode brought to you in part by Theranest, they help keep us on the air and being able to offset the costs of producing this show. Please visit their website and check out their services, you have nothing to lose and produUtivity to gain!
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Introduction
Attachment Parenting is mostly associated with Sears & Sears
Modern research shows that providing children love, kindness and responsiveness results in a more well adjusted person
Attachment Theory: how a child learns that their primary caregiver can safely respond to them when they’re distressed
Attachment parenting by Sears and Sears asserts the importance of the three B’s: Breastfeeding, Baby Wearing, and Baby Sleeping
Attachment is a two-way process between parent and child
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The three essentials for developing secure functioning
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TU71: Speakably Sexy – Communicating to Make Sex Hotter and Relationships More Alive
24 juli 2018 · 37 min
What makes the ins and outs of sexuality so hard to talk aboout?
It turns out, if couples do talk about sex, the conversation is often mostly about frequency. However, what is missing are the zillion of other thoughts and feelings we have about intimacy (or lack there of), desire (or lack thereof), fantasies (or lack thereof), pleasure (or lack therefo) and, oh yeah, the mechanics of sex as well.
But don’t sweat it, in this episode Therapist Uncensored co-host Dr. Ann Kelley joins guest Dr. Susan Ansorge to talk about talking about sex.
Learn to overcome the difficulties of opening up to yourself and your sexual partner about these very personal and understandably anxiety-filled conversations.
Dr. Susan Ansorge is a practicing psychologist in Austin, TX. Her interest, training and experience in working with sexual issues began during her tenure as a staff psychologist at the UT Counseling and Mental Health Center, and has continued through her 17 years of private practice. Dr. Ansorge was also member of the Austin Women’s Psychotherapy Project, bringing leaders in the field of gender-aware Psychotherapy to the Austin area, as well as presenting locally and nationally on topics in the areas of gender and sexuality as they relate to psychotherapy. Her written work has appeared in the National Center for PTSD Quarterly.
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General difficulties in discussing sex with your partner
Learning to talk about talking about sex
Desire discrepancy and more complicated questions/conversations about sex
The difficulty in beginning a discussion that you are afraid might be hurtful to your partner Lees meer10:00-20:00
How best to get dialogue going with your partner about desires and likes/dislikes
When and where is the right place and time for the right conversation about your shared sex life?
How sex is initiated and finding a compatible middle ground
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TU70: Challenge Your “Busy” Identity – Gain Consciousness Over Your Pace
19 juli 2018 · 40 min
Do you use a to-do list as a way to justify the need to be busy rather then the other way around? Idleness can breed discomfort and busyness seems to help to fill in the gap. Learn how conscious busyness and idleness can generate cognitive health and happiness, while unconscious busyness just adds to the stress trap.
As real therapists, we challenge you to not believe what you think. Inquire. It’s healthy to question the stories you tell about yourself and the world… update your model. Check out your story. See if what you tell yourself is still true, or has ever been true. If it’s right there is no problem in questioning, but if you are in a mental rut you wouldn’t know it unless you cache the map and look again.
In this episode we ask you, has being busy become an identity, a badge of honor, or is it simply a fear of being idle? Perhaps an antidote to loneliness? A way to be needed? A VIP? Are you choosing your schedule or feel as if you are being handed it? Is that true? 🙂
Dive deep into an exploration of how our relationship to busyness can distance us from ourselves and those around us.
Therapist Uncensored co-hosts Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott discuss how a sense of urgency, a desire for a sense of importance, stress, and discomfort are all interrelated in dealing with idleness in your everyday lives. We’ll talk about how you can keep your mind engaged in moments of idleness and how you can make the most of your resting state by truly being idle or through purposeful activity.
0:00-10:00 Introduction Why do our minds want to be busy? How is being busy a culturally dictated status symbol? Choice and sense of urgency effect Purpose, busyness and stress
The psychological discomfort of idleness despite the natural, evolutionary desire to choose it
10:00-20:00 Choosing idleness as a primal need to conserve energy Natural aversion to idleness without purpose The appeal of mindfulness through its intent to bring you something Keeping your brain busy with new skills k… Lees meer -
TU69: Exploring Intersecting Genders – What We Can All Learn with Guest Li Brookens
10 juli 2018 · 51 min
Walk through the discovery experience of coming to understand yourself as transgender and see how this coming to know yourself relates to everyone, not just those who identify as non-binary. What's the difference between transgender and butch lesbian, sex, gender and sexual orientation, tomboy and trans... and what's the deal with the strange pronouns. Find out here. Lees meer
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TU68: Separation at the Border – Compounding Trauma and Insecurity
2 juli 2018 · 23 min
"Security" at the border? Relational science professionals have a lot to offer to understand the human rights event that is unfolding on the US-Mexico border. This podcast has been all about promoting security in ourselves and our loved ones, and a primary component to this is access to your caregiver when you are young. It effects our biology, or persistent sense of ourselves and our view of the world. But it works both ways... Stress and fear that is ongoing also has the same persistent thumbprint as well. Lees meer
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TU67: A Practical Technique to Calm and Confidence with Guest Richard Hill
25 juni 2018 · 46 min
As we continue our discussion of the relational sciences in everyday life, this episodes examines practical treatment ideas from a practitioner's playbook. Mirroring Hands is outlined and demonstrated in this episode.
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TU66: Lessons from the Single-Not-Dating World on Using Attachment Science in Real Life, with Guest Becki Mendivil
4 juni 2018 · 53 min
All the single listeners (think Beyonce!) heads up. Learn to use attachment science at work and delve more deeply into the avoidant end of the spectrum.
Attachment science isn't just about relationships, it's decades of research on how we come to see ourselves and have unconscious expectations about the world. This conversation really highlights how to think about applying it in real life scenarios, sans therapy-speak. Lees meer -
TU65: Sensorimotor Psychotherapy – Tuning Into the Wisdom of Your Body With Guest Dr. Pat Ogden
25 mei 2018 · 54 min
Learn how tapping into the depth of wisdom your body holds can have a huge impact on your sense of self. Body attunement + conscious reflection (left/right, top/bottom integration) are hallmark markers of secure functioning. Tap into your own body as a deep and abiding source of information and means of finding self-understanding and closer connection. Lees meer