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TU64: Mindfulness Meditation with Yoga Therapist Kelly Inselmann, Bonus Episode
16 mei 2018 · 18 min
Mindfulness literally soothes our nervous system - straight up, super cool meditation. Try it and repeat.
Enjoy a straight shot of Kirtan Kriya Meditation from Kundalini Yoga Instructor and Therapist, Kelly Inselman. That's fancy for coolness and calm. Who doesn't want that? Dive right in and give yourself the gift of practicing along - we guarantee a more regulated nervous system moment. Money back guarantee. :) Lees meer -
TU63: Living with Cancer – The Six Principles of Emotional Healing with Guest Kelly Inselmann
10 mei 2018 · 40 min
Cancer sucks, no way around it. If you have it, had it or are supporting someone who does, this episode will be nourishment for you by bringing your mind and body into the healing and recovery process for cancer and trauma is so important.
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TU62: The Luv Doc – Dating and Relationship Advice from the Trenches with Dan Hardick
1 mei 2018 · 52 min
Get the Luv Doc's irreverent and bitingly honest insights on the dating scene and relationships that survive. Also known as Dan Hardick, the Doc provides a unique perspective with his decades of experience editing Personal Ads and giving cringe-worthy dating advice with his column in the Austin Chronicle. Great insights and rowdy fun. Lees meer
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TU61: It’s Not Crazy; It’s a Solution to an Unsolvable Problem – Disorganized Attachment
24 april 2018 · 36 min
The elusive 4th category of adult attachment, disorganization - and how this state of mind relates to everyone, no matter your trauma history.
Wrapping up this 3-part series (episode 59, 60 & 61) focusing specifically on adult attachment, Ann Kelley PhD and Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP discuss disorganized attachment, how it forms, how it appears in adult life, and how you can identify when you fall in a pocket of it to organize yourself internally and externally. Learn how to adjust back into an organized and more secure state of mind and begin to conquer your disconnection through focusing on grounding your mind, developing coherence and building solid relationships! Lees meer -
TU60: Preoccupation in Relationships – Signs and Solutions to Anxious Attachment
16 april 2018 · 35 min
Dr. Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP discuss the Insecure Preoccupied, or Anxious/Ambivalent side of the attachment spectrum. This discussion can stand alone, but it also continues as a soft Part 2 from last episode TU59: Are You Cool or Just Cut Off – Dismissing Attachment. The hosts begin to really go into how to use the attachment spectrum and use it to identify where you might fall and how to move towards a more secure place. Lees meer
Find out how preoccupied attachment is formed and passed on, as well as how starting anxious effects relationships later in our adult life. You’ll learn how to manage relationships better by turning inwards and regulating yourself rather than focusing on others to calm you down. Ann Kelley & Sue Marriott, co-hosts, will also provide basic tips towards identifying where you are on the attachment spectrum and moving from preoccupation towards security.
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TU59: Are You Cool, or Just Cut Off? Dismissing/Avoidant Styles of Relating in Adulthood
3 april 2018 · 35 min
This episode is especially for those "talk to the hand" kind of people, or those that love them. You know, the uber-independent, rational, left-brain, excel spreadsheet person that sees others emotions as needy and weak.
Co-hosts Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP and Ann Kelley PhD translate decades of research and clinical experience into easy to understand usable points to help you improve your understanding of why people appear so irrational at times. Lees meer -
TU58: Improving the Interpersonal World of the Internet for Both Kids and Adults with Guest Catherine Knibbs
28 maart 2018 · 1 uur 3 min
Enjoyable one - learn the problematic and adaptive psychology behind online social interactions as Therapist Uncensored host Ann Kelley interviews the delightful UK-based psychotherapist. Catherine Knibbs coined the phrase “cyber trauma” and is author of The Darker Side of the Internet for Children And Young People. This is not conservative doom and gloom, they get into attachment and neuroscience and provide realistic recommendations to help your children navigate the web, unpack myths, identify cyber bullying, discuss consent and provide proactive strategies that lead toward towards integration and health. Lees meer
Respond more adaptively to the to the internet and social media rather than swinging guardrail-to-guardrail with unkept promises and overreactions. Explore the positive and negative elements of having a global “village” you can access instantly, anywhere via our phones and discuss the impact of the internet on developing minds and the interpersonal realm of young people and adults.
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TU57: Healthy Dating for Women Who Love Women with Guest Pam Greenstone LPC
12 maart 2018 · 58 min
This episode is for everyone – all genders and sexualities - but today we focus on same-sex oriented women in the LGBTQ community. Learn to get out there and enjoy yourself as you peruse your choices.
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TU56: How We Come to Define Ourselves – Attachment Research Over Decades with Guest Alan Sroufe
6 maart 2018 · 1 uur
Pick the brain of a leading attachment researcher to more deeply understand how attachment styles from infancy are both stable and can change over time. Dr. Sroufe leads us through his 40 years of research to give us his reflections on what is important in parenting and in relationships to grow security. Lees meer
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TU55: Feeling Empty? Demoralization and the Fight Back to Caring Again.
14 februari 2018 · 33 min
Hopelessness, loss of meaning, and existential distress – these are the characteristics not of depression as one might think, but of demoralization. They are different syndromes with different directions for intervention. Find out more in this episode where co-hosts Ann Kelley PhD and Sue Marriott LCSW CGP discuss how transitioning from taking an active stance towards either situation can be beneficial. Learn how you can develop both internal and external coping mechanisms against demoralization. Lees meer
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TU54: The Stress Response System (Attachment) Across the Lifespan
31 januari 2018 · 32 min
Neuroscience continues to document our ability to change and grow throughout our life. This episode takes a wide-angle look at attachment throughout one’s life, discusses how one’s environment affects their system’s response to stress, and how that stress response system impacts us from infancy to the autumn years. Learn how to adjust set stress “pathways” and move towards more secure relating in adult relationships, and also unravel the parallels that exist between attachment in infants and the elderly. Lees meer
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TU53: Complex Trauma and Managing Dysregulation with Guest Robyn Gobbel
17 januari 2018 · 41 min
Whether it's your own history or someone you love, let's be honest - it can be challenging to be in committed close relationships when early attachment injuries have been layered and ongoing. Threat and unrepaired ruptures lie in our biology and our neurological systems. This episode addresses both children and adults with complicated attachment histories and gives ideas about how to manage. Lees meer
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TU52: Using Mindfulness, Movement and Yoga to Manage Arousal with Guest Kelly Inselmann
8 januari 2018 · 47 min
Conquer your stress and worry using the neuroscience-backed techniques in this episode. Movement and yoga can enhance the depth of therapy and assist in reducing your upset no matter where you are. Also see the bonus track that accompanies this episode, a 12-minute high-quality meditation that you definitely want to give a try! Don't be scared, you'll be surprised you like it. Lees meer
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TU52.5: Bonus Episode: Meditation to Reduce Stress and Worry
8 januari 2018 · 13 min
Yoga master and psychotherapist, Kelly Inselman, shares with us a 12-minute meditation we think you'll love! Check it out, and listen to the companion podcast Episode 52, Using Mindfulness Movement and Yoga to Manage Stress and Worry with Guest Kelly Inselmann. Lees meer
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TU51: Conquer Shame by Understanding the Science Behind the Feeling, with Guest Expert Dr. Steve Finn
15 december 2017 · 59 min
Shame, the good, the bad and the ugly! In this podcast, learn how to recognize the various forms of shame and how guilt can be an antidote to this pit in the stomach feeling. Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP, Dr. Ann Kelley and guest Dr. Stephen Finn engage in a wide-ranging discussion about the least favorite feeling in most people – the collapsed feeling of shame! Lees meer
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TU50: The Psychology of an Entrepreneur -Surprising Insights with Guest Krisztina ‘Z’ Holly
7 december 2017 · 53 min
Get your own dormant entrepreneur excited with this podcast, which delves into the psychology of these successful leaders. Also find out how to increase the "luck" factor in getting your goals accomplished.
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TU49: Five Strategies to Manage Intense Emotions & Why Emotional Regulation Matters
28 november 2017 · 28 min
Become a master not a disaster at relationships! Quick tips to help you regulate emotions in yourself and others. Deepen your skills at deciphering these things we call feelings (ack!) and learn how to use this information to co-regulate yourself and those close to you. Lees meer
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TU48: Tensions Around #MeToo – Bridging Gender in This Conversation
21 november 2017 · 59 min
Can healthy dialogue around the #MeToo phenomena cross genders? We explore the tensions felt by both men and women in understanding one another and strategies to help listeners balance power and create safety together
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TU47: Attachment Insecurity and Secure Parenting with Guest Tina Payne-Bryson
30 oktober 2017 · 46 min
Let's get real about not being a perfect parent or partner so we can do both better! Regulation before reflection! Lees meer
NYT best-selling author Tina Payne Bryson talks with Sue Marriott, co-host of Therapist Uncensored about being honest about parenting (& partnering) when you don't have a secure background yourself. They cover constructing a coherent narrative and why that's not really enough, and what needs to be added to the equation. they get into what healthy integration means and how it helps us navigate under stress and in the heat of an argument. They also discuss the grief process in relation to our own parents and how that can open up possibilities of mending old ruptures and creating new growth. Finally they really get into the role of the body over the mind in creating the bottom line, a healthy regulation of self to help others.
Tina Payne Bryson is co-author with Dr. Dan Siegel of The Whole Child Brain, The Yes Brain and No-Drama Discipline and founder of The Center for Connection in Pasadena. Dr. Bryson keynotes conferences and conducts workshops for parents, educators, and clinicians all over the world, and she has written for numerous publications, for example mom.me, SkillForKids and the PBS series “This Emotional Life.” She has also co-hosted a web-based parenting show and makes frequent media appearances at venues like TIME, “Good Morning America,” Huffington Post, Redbook, The New York Times, and Real Simple. She is the Child Development Specialist at Saint Mark’s School in Altadena, the Director of Parenting Education at the Mindsight Institute, the Director for Child Development for Camp Chippewa in Cass Lake, Minnesota, and the Child Development Director for Lantern Camps. Tina earned her LCSW and Ph.D. from the University of Southern California, where her research explored attachment science, childrearing theory, and the emerging field of interpersonal neurobiology.
Listen to the first one, Episode 27 Raising Secure Children here.
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TU46: Redefining Infidelity – Guest Esther Perel on Love and Desire in Modern Relationships
24 oktober 2017 · 51 min
Guest Esther Perel shares her research on love, desire and infidelity in modern relationships. Update your model of relational and sexual health, and widen your perspective on the erotic, which is the difference between a relationship that just survives, and one that thrives! Lees meer
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TU45: Music, Emotion and Therapy- Interview with Bob Schneider, Austin Music Legend
18 oktober 2017 · 1 uur 3 min
Not only does Bob Schneider (professional musician and wicked Creative) share his navigation of emotion as he writes music, in this in-depth conversation he also shares personal information about his therapy and recovery with Sue Marriott. He goes on to describe mediocre versus great therapy, how to train your critical brain like your dog, and taking in tons of information like a whale and spitting out “song turds” from his unconscious. Blending anecdotal stories, neuroscience and attachment theory, this interview both entertains and educates. Lees meer
Bonus section: Sue discusses an extended excerpt of Schneider’s song, “Let the Light In” from an attachment perspective.
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TU44: Your Brain on Music – How Music Affects Your Mind, Memory and Happiness
9 oktober 2017 · 35 min
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TU43: Sexual Vitality – Six Principles of Sexual Health with Doug Braun-Harvey (Part 2 of 2)
26 september 2017 · 39 min
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TU42: Sexual Vitality, Refreshing our Understanding of Sexual Health with Doug-Braun Harvey (Part 1 of 2)
19 september 2017 · 52 min
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TU41: The Dark Side Of Therapy – Recognizing When The Therapeutic Relationship Goes Bad
31 augustus 2017 · 40 min
IN THIS EPISODE:
The Dark Side Of Therapy: Recognizing When The Therapeutic Relationship Goes Bad
Show Note Lees meerQueue Darth Vader music… we admit it, not all therapy is good therapy. Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott discuss the potential negatives in the therapeutic relationship – focusing on how a client might distinguish between good therapy, that’s tough at times and a genuinely dysfunctional relationship. The difference between healthy dependency and one that erodes your sense of self is unpacked, as well as the idea of safe vulnerability that leads to change. Finally, they name the truth that one can feel held hostage by the therapist and the darker more harmful effects that can happen when therapy goes bad.
Timeline
0:00 – Intro/Podcast Conference
2:48 – Recap on Episode 39 Therapeutic Relationship
3:41 – Introduction to dark side of therapy
4:12 – Types of discredited therapies: Conversion Therapy (coercive therapy that intends to change someone’s sexual orientation) Good therapy intends to assist self-exploration and colorful self expression
5:16 – Repressed memory therapy – Not helpful therapy and has potential to have traumatic outcomes.
6:12 – Sometimes therapists abuse role in exploitative way – Make sure your therapist is licensed and accredited
7:17 – What is good therapy that is hard and what is a dysfunctional relationship? It can be hard to tell the difference. Those who have experienced relational injuries and then begin to feel safe with the therapeutic relationship might feel unsafe and begin to evoke and enact what they need help healing. Therapists want to help you listen to your gut.
10:12 – Go for the connection in the therapeutic relationship and talk about relationships and attachment. Having a new experience where patient can unfold and be more themselves and be understood & recognized for who they are is in essence, therapy. Beginning to know what you think and feel already begins work on trauma.
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TU40: Meditation And Neuroplasticity Provide a Path To Healing – An Interview With Sarah Peyton
22 augustus 2017 · 38 min
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Meditation And Neuroplasticity Provide a Path To Healing: An Interview With Sarah Peyton
Show Notes Lees meerPatty Olwell interviews Sarah Peyton, author of Your Resonant Self: Guided Meditations & Exercises to Engage Your Brain’s Capacity for Healing on the neuroscience of language and emotions. Their discussion covers Sarah’s background in non-violent communication and her more recent work with the impact of specific interventions and meditations to foster brain plasticity and empathy towards ourselves and others. They explore what kinds of language can we use that lets brains relax and move into a space of fluidity? How does this relate to healing from trauma? What kind of language do we use with ourselves to develop empathy? How do we develop an inner voice of understanding rather than self-criticism?
Timeline
0:00 Intro
1:44 – What drew Sarah Peyton to this work – First non-violent communication (Marshall Rosenberg) Rosenberg weekend – first time hearing that use of language
3:51 – How non-violent communication works like therapy – a place where people listen rather than just try to problem solve – what happens when you use feeling words & how it changes the activity of the amygdala – (Matthew Lieberman)
4:40 – Matthew Lieberman study of facial expressions –when you accurately name the facial expression/emotions you’re seeing, the activity in the amygdala falls by half- people using language differently put Peyton into a space of fluidity (there is always an amygdala response to intense facial expressions)
5:29 – Daniel Siegel – Name it to tame it – Why does this work?
6:02 – What kinds of language do we use that lets brains relax and move into a space of fluidity? How does this relate to healing from trauma? How are brains impacted by trauma? Language as the neurotransmitters of human-ness – Verbal & nonverbal communication between two people
8:45 – Shift of focus from communication to brains – Daniel Siegel’s The Developing Mind, The Neurobiology o… -
TU39: Getting What You Want From Therapy – The Essentials Of A Therapeutic Relationship
14 augustus 2017 · 39 min
IN THIS EPISODE:
Getting What You Want From Therapy: The Essentials Of A Therapeutic Relationship
Show Notes
Dr. Ann Kelley, Sue Marriott & Patty Olwell chat about the importance of building a strong therapeutic relationship with clients. We’ll discuss how feelings of love, hate, disappointment, excitement and more between a therapist and a patient are not only normal, but even potentially essential to working towards healing. They break-down counter-transference and how mutual influence works to help clients grow.
Timeline
0:00-0:27 Intro Questions
0:27- Possibilities for Therapist-Client relationship (potential for harm from power differential in the relationship OR neural sculpting) – When choosing a therapist, be prepared to be changed by this new relationship. Therapists are permanently changed once attached to clients – mutual sculpting
1:53 –Old analytic model of psychotherapy – therapist as flat, neutral agent. Therapist actually can influence the client. Relationship as we know it now is not unidirectional – the most healing agent is the relationship in psychotherapy.
2:30 – How to pick a therapist – interview several
2:54 – What to do if you’re experiencing love, hate, disappointment, excitement, etc. in a relationship with your therapist The General Theory of Love – it’s normal to feel these feelings and it also may be essential to the healing agent
4:36 – Now that you understand these feelings are normal – what next? Talk about them with your therapist – express your feelings, then let process begin – However this experience may be regressive and if the therapist isn’t willing to help you may have to move on
6:44 – How to discern when emotional events are part of the therapeutic process of working through past trauma or when it’s harmful and retraumatizing
Hope to have a different outcome than in the past – We can learn that we have difficult feelings or conflicts but it doesn’t have to end the relationship. It is possible to talk about and process thes… Lees meer -
TU38: The Blended Family – How to Create Strong and Lasting Step-Family Relationships
26 juli 2017 · 55 min
IN THIS EPISODE:
The Blended Family: How to Create Strong and Lasting Step-Family Relationships
Show Notes Lees meerThis episode breaks it down by debunking the most popular myths and giving specific do’s and don’ts to help you create secure long-lasting families no matter their origin.
Blended Family Myths
Wicked stepmothers and red-headed step children – our psyche with the help of Disney often portrays step-families through a suspicious lens. However, only 23% of families are made up of two heterosexual biological parents in their first marriage. So called “weird” families such as blended, same-sex parents, adoption and foster, grandparents parenting, polyamorous and so on are the new normal. Adults living with biologically unrelated children have unique challenges, and in this episode we focus specifically on blended families. Dr. Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott discuss common myths as well as tips toward achieving a healthy blended family bond. We unpack the tensions that often emerge as two cultures come together and deliver practical solutions for how to avoid pitfalls and build a foundation that helps the process of reconstituting a new gaggle go smoother. Also, gender and developmental differences are discussed –
you may be surprised that sons and daughters respond differently. Finally same-sex headed families are also discussed, the unique strethgs and challenges within these families. Hey glbtq – headed parents out there – don’t worry we totally have your back. We
are all about it and are working on an entire episode on the beautiful and unique gifts of glbtq families coming to your podcast player soon.
Timeline
0:50 – Intro
2:27–Blended family
3:52–Myth 1 of Blended Families: Stepfamilies are not as healthy as “real” families.
5:50–Why children struggle more than those in first-marriage, intact families andhow to prevent it
7:26–Effect of divorce on children–socio-economic drop and severe change of
routine should be prevented
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TU37: Organizing The Disorganized – Understanding The Elusive Attachment Category
18 juli 2017 · 26 min
IN THIS EPISODE:
Organizing The Disorganized: Understanding The Elusive Attachment Category
Show Notes Lees meerDisorganized attachment states of mind happen to us all. We temporarily get lost in a jumble and it’s difficult to track what is happening… but for some this is a more serious concern that can reflect much of how we feel much of the time. By popular request, we begin to unravel the last attachment category and update current thinking that includes those who have unresolved trauma, loss or have had caregivers who were frightening.
Disorganized Attachment
In this episode, Sue Marriott, Patty Olwell and Dr. Ann Kelley discuss this oft-overlooked fourth category; disorganized attachment and how it affects our adult lives. We go over it’s development and move to our current thinking on what it includes. We’ll talk about how attachment is formed as a survival skill and how loss, trauma and frightening caregivers transport individuals to disorganized spaces. Towards the end you’ll learn how relationships can provide safety and security in neurobiological terms, and how you can affect change for yourself or a loved one.
Timeline
0:00 -1:53 Intro
1:53 – 3:49 Quick review of attachment & underlying organized dynamics (Secure & Insecure) Insecure attachment (Insecure Preoccupied & Insecure Avoidant)3:49 – 4:18 Data on attachment and historical figures (John Bowlby, Mary Ainsworth, Mary Main)
4:18 – Attachment as biological imperative & cross cultural – everyone has an attachment system
4:59 Three distinct categories – The addition of the fourth distinct disorganized attachment category (The Strange Situation)
6:54 – The problem of disorganization in adults rather than children (update) – Applying data to real life individual people – Disorganization/attachment as a spectrum
7:59 – How can we begin to move towards the middle (secure) including the disorganized?
9:32 – Buckets instead of a category
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TU36: The Neuroscience Of Psychotherapy – An Interview With Louis Cozolino
10 juli 2017 · 32 min
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TU35: Sexuality From A Neurobiological Perspective
29 juni 2017 · 48 min
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TU34: Treating Attachment Difficulties with Dr. David Elliott
21 juni 2017 · 50 min
Guest Dr. David Elliott presents the Three Pillars of treatment for attachment disruptions. Besides background on why attachment matters and the prevalence of insecurity, we focus mostly on how to apply the science in trying to heal relational attachment injuries for our clients, or ourselves. Lees meer
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TU33: Adverse Childhood Experiences – A Roadmap To Understanding And Treatment
16 juni 2017 · 18 min
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TU32: Mentalizing – Breaking Down A Critical Component For Secure Relating With Tina Adkins
25 mei 2017 · 56 min
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TU31: Attachment on a Spectrum – Navigating Adult Insecurity and Security
17 mei 2017 · 40 min
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TU30: The Stages of Change – A Roadmap to Readiness
10 mei 2017 · 28 min
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TU29: Understanding Adolescent Self-Consciousness From A Brain-Wise Perspective
3 mei 2017 · 29 min
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TU28: Minding Anxiety-How To Reduce Noise In The System
28 april 2017 · 35 min
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TU27: Raising Secure Children With Guest Tina Payne Bryson
18 april 2017 · 34 min
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TU26: Live Conversation With Austin In Connection About Interpersonal Neurobiology
3 april 2017 · 37 min
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TU25: Ping Pong Vs. Catch: Turning Communication from Competition to Connection
27 maart 2017 · 30 min
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TU24: Grief And Our Body’s Wisdom On Surviving It With Candyce Ossefort-Russell
20 maart 2017 · 59 min
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TU23: Building Grit Through Self Compassion with Dr. Kristin Neff
1 maart 2017 · 1 uur
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TU22: Love Letter To Group Psychotherapy
20 februari 2017 · 9 min
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TU21: Reduce Drama in Your Life – Unpack The Victim/Perpetrator/Rescuer In Us All
13 februari 2017 · 22 min
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TU20: Developing Racial Identity With Guests Rudy Lucas And Christine Schmidt
1 februari 2017 · 50 min
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TU19: Increase Your Cool By Managing Your Ventral Vagal System
24 januari 2017 · 36 min
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TU18: Polyvagal Theory: Understanding Irrational Threat Responses in Relationships
18 januari 2017 · 27 min
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TU17: The Biology of Motivation and Habits – Why We Drop the Ball
11 januari 2017 · 31 min
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TU16: Inside The Mind Of Dr. Dan Siegel- An Interview
4 januari 2017 · 59 min