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257: Emotional Repair with Andrea Dindinger
25 augustus 2025 · 48 min
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In this episode, Shane talks with Andrea Dindinger about emotional repair. Andrea is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the Creator of Relationship Reboot: The Ultimate Couple's Training to Reignite Your Relationship and Transform How You Communicate. Hear how to help couples repair emotional disconnect, how to come up with an emotional repair plan, the importance of taking ownership & accountability in a relationship, when to bookmark conversations for a better time, and the benefits of talking through everything in your head with your partner.
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TherapyWithAndrea.Love
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256: Brain Science & Attachment with Dr. Dan Siegel
19 augustus 2025 · 54 min
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In this episode, Shane talks with Dr. Dan Siegel about brain science & attachment. Dan is the Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the UCLA School of Medicine, Executive Director of the Mindsight Institute, and Author of numerous books & articles on mindfulness & neurobiology. Hear how interpersonal neurobiology applies to couples therapy, why our brain plays such a big part in our relationships, how much attachment influences the present, the benefits of mindfulness, and how to work on the emotional health of your clients.
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DrDanSiegel.com
MindsightInstitute.com
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255: Resentment in Relationships with Shane Birkel
11 augustus 2025 · 29 min
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In this solo episode, Shane talks resentment in relationships. Hear how to help couples let go of resentment, how to make healthy decisions based on compassion for your partner, what couples should do after they get past the honeymoon period, how to grieve a sacrifice you've made in your relationship, and how to help clients come up with compromises.
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254: Boundaries & Neurobiology with Juliane Taylor Shore
5 augustus 2025 · 45 min
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In this episode, Shane talks with Juliane Taylor Shore about boundaries & neurobiology. Juliane is an Educator, Therapist, and Writer inspiring people to shift their relationships with self, others, and the world. She's the Author of "Setting Boundaries That Stick: How Neurobiology Can Help You Rewire Your Brain to Feel Safe, Connected, and Empowered." Hear how our salience network works, how our emotions & history influence our actions, how to witness yourself doing therapy, why you're a gift to the clients you work with, and how we can work with our brains to learn how to witness our minds.
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JulianeTaylorShore.com
JulianeTaylorShore.com/Book
You can also listen to Juliane on Episode 199 of The Couples Therapist Couch
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253: Relationships & Control with Shane Birkel
29 juli 2025 · 42 min
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In this solo episode, Shane talks relationships & control. Hear all the things we can't control in life, how to help your clients respect the autonomy of their partner, what makes people become controlling, the healthy way of talking through feelings, and how to help a client who's on the receiving end of controlling energy.
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252: Trauma & Relationships with Dr. Janina Fisher
21 juli 2025 · 41 min
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In this episode, Shane talks with Dr. Janina Fisher about trauma & relationships. Janina is an Author, Clinical Psychologist, and Educator on the forefront in the field of trauma. Hear the history of trauma research & trauma therapy, how working with trauma compares to other types of therapy, how to help couples focus on the reactions in their bodies, what the healing process looks like from trauma, and why we have a phobia of interrupting.
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JaninaFisher.com
Janina's Book: Healing the Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors: Overcoming Internal Self-Alienation
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251: Compassion in Encounter-centered Transformation (EcT) with Hedy Schleifer
14 juli 2025 · 34 min
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In this episode, Shane talks with Hedy Schleifer about compassion in Encounter-centered Transformation (EcT). Hedy is a Master Relationship Builder, Motivational Speaker, and the Creator of EcT. Hear how to help your clients feel the emotions, how Hedy's EcT process works, how to think of yourself as a guide, how to embrace fear & compassion, and how to calm your clients' nervous systems.
To learn more about Hedy Schleifer, visit:
HedySchleifer.com
You can also listen to Hedy on Episode 19, Episode 71, and Episode 250 of The Couples Therapist Couch
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250: Encounter-centered Transformation (EcT) with Hedy Schleifer
7 juli 2025 · 1 uur 2 min
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In this episode, Shane talks with Hedy Schleifer about Encounter-centered Transformation (EcT). Hedy is a Master Relationship Builder, Motivational Speaker, and the Creator of EcT. Hear how EcT was born, how Hedy & Yumi used their relationship as a lab, the unique workshops she's facilitated around the world, the different types of listening, and EcT-inspired exercises you can do with your clients.
To learn more about Hedy Schleifer, visit:
HedySchleifer.com
You can also listen to Hedy on Episode 19 & Episode 71 of The Couples Therapist Couch
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249: Parents of Teenagers with Marie Vakakis
1 juli 2025 · 44 min
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In this episode, Shane talks with Marie Vakakis about parents of teenagers. Marie is a Therapist, Mental Health and Relationship Educator, and Host of the This Complex Life podcast. Hear the pros & cons of family therapy vs. couples therapy, how to work through parenting struggles in couples therapy, how to navigate differing parenting styles with clients, the language parents should use when communicating with their teenagers, and whether it's okay to show vulnerability as a parent.
To learn more about Marie Vakakis & This Complex Life, visit:
MarieVakakis.com.au
This Complex Life podcast
Inside Social Work podcast
Marie Vakakis on LinkedIn
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248: Imposter Syndrome with Dr. Jill Stoddard
23 juni 2025 · 51 min
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In this episode, Shane talks with Dr. Jill Stoddard about Imposter Syndrome. Jill is a Speaker, Author, Podcaster, Psychologist, and Coach on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). Hear what Imposter Syndrome looks like in couples, how to help your clients embrace their authentic emotions, what to do when a client feels insecure, the 5 personas under the Imposter Syndrome umbrella, and the power of relationships.
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Dr. Jill Stoddard on LinkedIn
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247: Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) with Dr. Jill Stoddard
17 juni 2025 · 54 min
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In this episode, Shane talks with Dr. Jill Stoddard about Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). Jill is a Speaker, Author, Podcaster, Psychologist, and Coach on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. Hear what ACT is, how to help your clients be their authentic selves, how to practice being uncomfortable, how to give your clients clarity on their thoughts, and how to focus on your message & serving others.
To learn more about Dr. Jill Stoddard, her books, her podcast, and her Substack, visit:
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Dr. Jill Stoddard on LinkedIn
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246: PACT Informed Couples Therapy with Michelle Garraway
10 juni 2025 · 48 min
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In this episode, Shane talks with Michelle Garraway about PACT Informed Couples Therapy. Michelle is the Founder & Clinical Director of The Relationship Agency, where she specializes in PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy). Hear what makes the PACT model fun & different, how the PACT process works with couples, what you can learn when couples face towards each other, some of the most common PACT exercises, and when it's time to have your clients focus on soothing.
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TheRelationshipAgency.com
Instagram @Relationships.Are.Everything
ThePACTInstitute.com
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245: The Vagina Whisperer and Floored with Dr. Sara Reardon
3 juni 2025 · 40 min
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In this episode, Shane talks with Dr. Sara Reardon about being The Vagina Whisperer and her new book, Floored. Dr. Sara Reardon is a Board-Certified Pelvic Floor Physical Therapist and Mom of 2. Hear why the pelvic floor can have a big impact on relationships, how to help couples navigate the topic of painful sex, the shame that occurs when you're having issues with your pelvic floor, why it helps to talk through pelvic floor concerns as a couple, and signs you should visit a Pelvic Floor Physical Therapist.
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Floored
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244: The Science of Revenge with James Kimmel, Jr.
27 mei 2025 · 1 uur
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In this episode, Shane talks with James Kimmel, Jr. about The Science of Revenge. James Kimmel, Jr., JD is a violence researcher, psychiatry lecturer, and author who explores the science of revenge, addiction, forgiveness, and violence. He's the author of 3 books on revenge and forgiveness, the latest being The Science of Revenge. Hear why we naturally want to seek revenge, what goes on in our brain when we seek revenge, why revenge addiction is like drug addiction, how to move your clients away from violence, and how to help them understand how they can truly be healed.
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The Science of Revenge
MiracleCourt.com
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243: Commitment in Couples Therapy with Shane Birkel
20 mei 2025 · 23 min
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In this solo episode, Shane explores commitment in couples therapy. Hear how to help couples on the brink of divorce, the challenges of discernment counseling, what to do when one partner is leaning out, why you should talk goals & expectations from the beginning, and how to get some level of commitment from a client.
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242: The Go-To Relationship Guide for Gay Men with Tom Bruett
13 mei 2025 · 45 min
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In this episode, Shane talks with Tom Bruett about The Go-To Relationship Guide for Gay Men. Tom Bruett, LMFT is a therapist, trainer, consultant, and author who works extensively with the queer community. He is the founder of the Queer Relationship Institute, which provides therapy for queer folx and training for therapists who work with queer relationships. Hear how to be more open & sensitive with your clients, the 7 stages of relational development, why you should trust your intuition with your clients, how to work better with queer couples, and how to model that these types of conversations are okay.
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The Go-To Relationship Guide for Gay Men
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241: 'Til Stress Do Us Part with Elizabeth Earnshaw
6 mei 2025 · 38 min
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In this episode, Shane talks with Elizabeth Earnshaw about the themes from her new book, 'Til Stress Do Us Part. Elizabeth is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and Clinical Fellow of The American Association of Marriage & Family Therapy. She also founded A Better Life Therapy, where she sees couples in her tailored weekend intensives. Over the past 15 years, she's become one of today's most trusted relationship teachers. Hear why couples fight when they love each other, how to help clients manage stress, how to get them to be more compassionate towards each other, the most common stressors as parents, and how to help your clients internalize concepts with metaphors, analogies, and pictures.
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ABetterLifeTherapy.com
'Til Stress Do Us Part
Instagram @LizListens
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240: Emotional Abuse with Shane Birkel
29 april 2025 · 35 min
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In this solo episode, Shane dives into emotional abuse. Hear why emotional abuse is so complicated, how it compares to physical abuse, how different family environments impact the potential for emotional abuse, examples of boundary violations, and how to stick to the principle of non-violence with your clients and yourself.
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239: Neurodiversity & Relationships with Dr. Matt Zakreski
22 april 2025 · 44 min
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In this episode, Shane talks with Dr. Matt Zakreski about neurodiversity & relationships. Dr. Matt is a seasoned clinical psychologist and professional speaker renowned for his expertise in serving neurodivergent individuals (people with different brains such as gifted, ADHD, Autism, and dyslexia), and is the author of Neurodiversity Playbook. Hear how to navigate neurodiversity with your clients, how generations differ when they're diagnosed, why knowledge is the key to everything, communication considerations when a couple or partner is neurodivergent, and how to help your clients keep perspective.
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Neurodiversity Playbook
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238: The 3 Situations When Couples Therapy Won't Work with Shane Birkel
15 april 2025 · 32 min
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In this solo episode, Shane explores the 3 situations when couples therapy won't work: addiction, serious mental health issues, and acting-out behaviors. Hear why couples therapy is not always helpful, the different types of addiction, why you might be a client's last chance, the one case where you truly can't do couples therapy, and the difference in abuse in adults and children.
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237: Transformative Couples Therapy (TCT) with Dr. David Mars
8 april 2025 · 43 min
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In this episode, Shane talks with Dr. David Mars about Transformative Couples Therapy (TCT). David is the Director of the Transformative Couples Therapy Institute and has presented workshops, courses, webinars, and online supervision worldwide for over 30 years. Hear how he created Transformative Couples Therapy, the issues he saw with traditional couples therapy, how we can improve couples therapy by learning from babies & children, how sessions work for Transformative Couples Therapy, and the role meditation can play in sessions.
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TCTInstitute.org
Transformative Couples Therapy In-Person Training on May 30-31, 2025 in Charlottesville, VA
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236: Trauma Bonds with Dr. Laura Copley
1 april 2025 · 42 min
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In this episode, Shane talks with Dr. Laura Copley about trauma bonds. Laura is a trauma therapist, international speaker, and author of the relationship self-help book, Loving You Is Hurting Me. Hear the stigma around trauma bonds & toxic relationships, how trauma bonds work, how to help your clients face their fears, the similarities between trauma bonds & addiction, and how to give hope to your clients' relationships.
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Loving You Is Hurting Me on Amazon
Loving You Is Hurting Me on Barnes & Noble
Instagram @DocCopley
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235: The 5 Forces Destroying Your Relationship with Dr. Pat Love
24 maart 2025 · 48 min
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In this episode, Shane talks with Dr. Pat Love about The 5 Forces Destroying Your Relationship. Pat is an acclaimed therapist, speaker, and author of several books who has been a clinical practitioner of marriage and family therapy for over 40 years. Hear what's important when selecting a mate, why true love takes time, how to help your clients when their emotions get flooded, how to navigate financial stress, and why fairness is so crucial to the success of a relationship.
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FlourishTogether.com
Pat's books on Amazon
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234: Sex & Science with Emily Nagoski, PhD
18 maart 2025 · 51 min
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In this episode, Shane talks with Emily Nagoski, PhD about sex & science. Emily is a Sex Educator & Researcher and New York Times Bestselling Author of Come As You Are and other books on sex. Hear why there needs to be more sexuality education out there, the different forms of desire, how the sexual accelerator & brake work, how to bring up sex with your clients, and the most surprising findings from Emily's research.
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EmilyNagoski.com
Come As You Are Book
Come Together Book
Burnout Book
Feminist Survival Project Podcast
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233: Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with Ryan Rana
11 maart 2025 · 51 min
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In this episode, Shane talks with Ryan Rana about emotional avoidance & Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). Ryan is an ICEEFT certified EFT Trainer, Supervisor, and Therapist and has 25 years of experience in the therapeutic field in many different capacities. Hear how to start off assessing your clients, why EFT is all about risk, why blame is a survival strategy, how to avoid misdiagnosing clients, and why validation is so key.
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The Leading Edge in Emotionally Focused Therapy
ICEEFT.com
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232: Understanding Leverage in Couples Therapy with Shane Birkel
4 maart 2025 · 30 min
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In this solo episode, Shane discusses how leverage works in couples therapy. Hear the different forms of leverage, examples of leverage involving couples, how leverage can help you tackle tricky topics with clients, whether it's right to stay together for the kids, and the most important questions to ask in a couples therapy session
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231: Empowerment from Trauma with La Shanda Sugg
25 februari 2025 · 45 min
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In this episode, Shane talks with La Shanda Sugg about empowerment from trauma. La Shanda is the Founder & Chief Love Officer of Labors of Love Counseling and Consulting. As a therapist, trainer, and coach, she is gifted with the art of translating complex concepts and making them relatable and easy to understand. Hear her formula for working with couples, how to move your clients into compassion for themselves & others, how to renarrate their story, what we can learn from our inner child aka little, and how to help clients live in their full selves - not just their thoughts.
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Labors of Love Counseling and Consulting, LLC YouTube
Instagram @LaborsOfLove513
Artist Elle Marie
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230: Understanding Shame with Shane Birkel
17 februari 2025 · 32 min
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In this solo episode, Shane discusses how shame works and how to talk through shame with your clients. Hear the definition of shame, toxic shame vs. healthy shame, examples of shame between partners and children, how shame relates to compassion, and how to help your clients slow down and process the shame they're feeling
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229: Co-Parenting with Karen Bonnell
11 februari 2025 · 51 min
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In this episode, Shane talks with Karen Bonnell about co-parenting. Karen is the Author of The Co-Parenting Handbook and The Stepfamily Handbook, and has culled her knowledge and skills from 40 years as a psychotherapist & psychiatric nurse practitioner to inform her guidance for parents and families in transition. Hear how to do what's best for the kids, how to cooperate with your co-parent, how to navigate bringing a new partner into the mix, why there's no such thing as perfect parents, and how to focus on connection before correction.
To learn more about Karen Bonnell and check out The Co-Parenting Handbook and The Stepfamily Handbook, visit:
KarenSBonnell.com
KarenSBonnell.com/Karens-Books
You can also listen to Karen on Episode 36 & Episode 73 of The Couples Therapist Couch
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228: A Soulful Marriage with Dr. Rachel Glik
4 februari 2025 · 46 min
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In this episode, Shane talks with Dr. Rachel Glik about her brand-new book, A Soulful Marriage. Rachel is a licensed professional counselor who has counseled individuals, couples, and families in private practice for over 30 years. In A Soulful Marriage, she breaks down how to heal your relationship with responsibility, growth, priority, and purpose. Hear the seemingly out-of-body experiences that can happen in a therapy room, why conflict & friction can be a good thing in a relationship, the 4 pillars of a soulful marriage, how to focus on listening & develop good communication in a relationship, and how to prioritize your partner - even after you've had kids.
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227: Beyond Fairy Tales with Dr. Mark Karris
30 januari 2025 · 50 min
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In this episode, Shane talks with Dr. Mark Karris about his new book, Beyond Fairy Tales. Mark is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) with plenty of experience working with youth, families, couples, and individuals. Beyond Fairy Tales is all about helping couples find clarity, do the work, and build a lasting relationship. Hear his thoughts on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), the role of research in couples therapy, dispelling myths about relationships, common types of attachment styles, and how to move from blame-based perspectives to mutual understanding.
To learn more about Dr. Mark Karris and check out Beyond Fairy Tales, visit:
MarkGregoryKarris.com
Beyond Fairy Tales on Amazon
Relationship Wisdom and Religious Trauma Recovery YouTube Channel
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226: Childhood Trauma & Relationships with Lisa Ferentz
19 november 2024 · 50 min
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In this episode, Shane talks with Lisa Ferentz about childhood trauma & relationships. Lisa is the Founder of The Ferentz Institute and a recognized expert in the strengths-based, de-pathologized treatment of trauma. She's been in private practice for over 40 years. Hear the huge role caretakers can play in trauma, the impact of shaming, why maintaining curiosity is so important as a therapist, how to pinpoint neglect, and why couples therapy work also means individual work.
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TheFerentzInstitute.com
TheFerentzInstitute.com/Trainings
You can also listen to Lisa on Episode 74 of The Couples Therapist Couch
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225: Boundaries in Relationships with Shane Birkel
12 november 2024 · 24 min
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In this solo episode, Shane discusses the purpose of boundaries in relationships and how to set them up. Hear why healthy boundaries create change, what to avoid when setting boundaries, when to take a walk or go in the other room, the things that make boundaries work or not work, and how boundaries can help maintain safety in a relationship.
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224: Understanding Emotionally Avoidant People with Shane Birkel
8 oktober 2024 · 40 min
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In this solo episode, Shane talks through how to understand and work with people who are emotionally avoidant. Hear how emotionally avoidant people differ from pursuers, how to avoid "right vs. wrong" conversations, how partners can help communicate what an emotionally avoidant person is feeling, whether an emotionally avoidant person can change, and the mindfulness exercise you can do every day to help.
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223: Grief and Loss with David Kessler
1 oktober 2024 · 45 min
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In this episode, Shane talks with David Kessler about grief and loss. David is one of the most well-known experts and lecturers on death and grieving today, reaching hundreds of thousands of people through his books. Hear the traumatic experiences as a child that shaped his life, how the grieving process works, how much grieving is a healthy amount, how a partner can help in grief, and how grief differs from how it's portrayed on TV.
To learn more about David and his books - including his latest, Finding Meaning - visit:
Grief.com
GriefEducator.com
David's Facebook
David's Instagram
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222: Emotional vs. Problem-Solving Communication with Shane Birkel
10 september 2024 · 29 min
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In this solo episode, Shane breaks down emotional vs. problem-solving communication. Hear why this misunderstanding happens a lot with couples, how to discuss difficult emotions, how to get partners on the same page, how long it takes to recover from an affair, and the times when it's important to problem-solve.
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221: EFT and Ketamine-Assisted Couples Therapy with Kathryn Rheem
3 september 2024 · 59 min
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In this episode, Shane talks with Kathryn Rheem about Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Ketamine-Assisted Couples Therapy. Kathryn is the Director of The Washington Baltimore Center for EFT and the Co-Founder of The EFT Cafe. Hear how Ketamine-Assisted Couples Therapy works, how it can help couples, how long the sessions are, what the conversations look like while on Ketamine, and best practices for a smooth session.
To learn more about Kathryn, visit:
WashingtonBaltimoreCenterForEFT.com
RheemClark.com
TheEFTCafe.com
You can also listen to Kathryn on Episode 209 of The Couples Therapist Couch
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220: Pregnancy, Parenthood, and Relationships with Hilary Waller
27 augustus 2024 · 46 min
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In this episode, Shane talks with Hilary Waller about pregnancy, parenthood, and relationships. Hilary is a psychotherapist who supports new parents as they navigate pregnancy and parenthood. Hear the best way to support couples who are new parents, what to recommend for people who just found out they're pregnant, why community plays such a big role, how often parents should check in with each other, and the most challenging cases she's worked on.
To learn more about Hilary and her books - Dropping the Baby and Other Scary Thoughts and The Perinatal Patient - visit:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/hilary-waller-fort-washington-pa/1251531
https://www.amazon.com/Dropping-Baby-Other-Scary-Thoughts/dp/0367223902
https://www.amazon.com/Perinatal-Patient-Compassionate-Postpartum-Depression/dp/1683736567
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219: Internal Family Systems and Couples with Tammy Sollenberger
20 augustus 2024 · 40 min
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In this episode, Shane talks with Tammy Sollenberger about Internal Family Systems (IFS) and couples. Tammy is a licensed clinical mental health counselor and an Internal Family Systems Certified Supervisor. Hear the different parts we're made up of, how IFS works in our heads, how our parts trigger each other, how to recognize your feelings and characteristics, and how to stay grounded in the true foundation of a relationship.
To learn more about Tammy, The One Inside podcast, and The One Inside book, visit TammySollenberger.com
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218: Imago and Polyvagal Therapy with Hayley Hoffman
6 augustus 2024 · 50 min
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In this episode, Shane talks with Hayley Hoffman about Imago and polyvagal therapy. Hayley is a Certified Imago Relationship Therapist and a psychodynamic mental health counselor supporting clients in making meaning out of daily events while living life on life's terms. Hear how to figure out why things bother you, how to stay present, how Imago therapy works, how to improve your relationships, and how polyvagal therapy overlaps with Imago therapy.
To learn more about Hayley and her workshops, visit ImagoCenterDC.com and HayleyHoffman.com
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217: Stop Trying to Be Right in Your Relationship with Shane Birkel
30 juli 2024 · 19 min
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In this solo episode, Shane shares why you should stop trying to be right all the time in your relationship. Hear why this creates a stuck situation for both the couple and the therapist, the reason people get defensive, how to have good boundaries, when it's healthy to feel guilty, and the problem with perfectionism.
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216: Beyond Mars and Venus with John Gray
23 juli 2024 · 1 uur 4 min
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In this episode, Shane talks with John Gray about Beyond Mars and Venus and what he's been up to since his last time on The Couples Therapist Couch. John is one of the most well-known relationship experts of the past 40 years and also wrote the iconic bestseller, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus. Hear how to keep your libido at any age, why partners lose interest in sex, how to keep that spark as a married couple, why grief is actually addictive, and what he learned from his wife's passing.
To learn more about John and his coaching, visit MarsVenusCoaching.com
Check out John's book, "Beyond Mars and Venus"
You can also listen to John on Episode 43 of The Couples Therapist Couch: https://www.couplestherapistcouch.com/blog/043-beyond-mars-and-venus-with-john-gray
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215: ADHD and Couples with Anita Robertson
18 juni 2024 · 52 min
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In this episode, Shane talks with Anita Robertson about ADHD (Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder) and couples. Anita is an ADHD & Relationship Therapist and the Author of "ADHD & Us: A Couple's Guide to Loving and Living with Adult ADHD." Hear how ADHD impacts couples signs of ADHD, how to approach therapy with clients who have ADHD, some games she brings into sessions, and the importance of getting support.
To learn more about Anita, visit AnitaRobertson.com
Check out Anita's book, "ADHD & Us: A Couple's Guide to Loving and Living with Adult ADHD"
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214: Working with High Intensity after an Affair with Shane Birkel
11 juni 2024 · 25 min
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In this solo episode, Shane breaks down how to work with high intensity after an affair. This topic stems from a question that came up in the Couples Therapist Inner Circle. Hear how to help clients recover after an affair, the emotions both partners are going through, how long it typically takes people to recover from an affair, how to get someone to stop having affairs, and how to help a client avoid getting into a shame spiral.
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213: Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Attachment with Dr. James Hawkins
4 juni 2024 · 48 min
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In this episode, Shane talks with Dr. James Hawkins about Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and attachment. James is a Licensed Counsellor, and an ICEEFT-certified trainer, supervisor, and therapist. Hear how success and vulnerability are tied together, how to bring the most important things to the forefront, how love and protection fit together, why validation is so key, and how often he sees a typical client.
To learn more about James, visit DocHawkLPC.com
Check out James's podcast, The Leading Edge in Emotionally Focused Therapy
You can also listen to James on Episode 132 of The Couples Therapist Couch
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212: Implicit Psychotherapy and Couples with Dr. Abi Blakeslee
28 mei 2024 · 47 min
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In this episode, Shane talks with Dr. Abi Blakeslee about implicit psychotherapy and couples. Abi is the founder of Implicit Psychotherapy and senior faculty at Somatic Experiencing International. Hear how to help people find deeper healing, how implicit memory works, how somatic experiencing fits with implicit memories, how childhood trauma impacts relationships years later, and how small changes can make a big impact over time.
To learn more about Abi, visit:
AbiBlakeslee.com
ImplicitPsychotherapy.com
You can also listen to Abi on Episode 169 of The Couples Therapist Couch
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211: Peace and Healing in Couples Therapy with Dr. Sabrina N'Diaye
21 mei 2024 · 43 min
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In this episode, Shane talks with Dr. Sabrina N'Diaye about peace and healing in couples therapy. Sabrina is a therapist, storyteller, and peacebuilder with over 3 decades of service to the underserved. Hear how to get your clients to slow down and breathe, the role of a couples therapist when it comes to divorce, how to model acceptance, how to look at a marriage in different stages, and when to be direct with your clients.
To check out Sabrina's book, Big Mama Speaks, visit: BigMamaSpeaks.com
To learn more about Sabrina's practice, visit: TheHeartNest.com
You can also listen to Sabrina on Episode 172 of The Couples Therapist Couch
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210: Narcissism in Couples Therapy with Wendy Behary
14 mei 2024 · 50 min
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In this episode, Shane talks with Wendy Behary about narcissism in couples therapy. Wendy is the Bestselling Author of "Disarming the Narcissist" and the Founder and Director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The Schema Therapy Institutes of NJ-NYC and DC. Hear how she became interested in the study of narcissism, how to approach narcissism as a therapist, how to use Schema Therapy, whether it's okay to interrupt your clients, and how to avoid getting triggered.
To learn more about Wendy and check out her book, visit:
DisarmingTheNarcissist.com
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209: Trauma in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with Kathryn Rheem
7 mei 2024 · 45 min
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In this episode, Shane talks with Kathryn Rheem about trauma in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). Kathryn is the Director of The Washington Baltimore Center for EFT. Hear how she got over her Impostor Syndrome, how our nervous system is impacted by trauma, how to teach people to be able to receive love, how to connect with someone who's angry and defensive, and the power of empathy.
To learn more about Kathryn, visit:
WashingtonBaltimoreCenterForEFT.com
RheemClark.com
TheEFTCafe.com
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208: Dr. Sue Johnson on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
30 april 2024 · 1 uur 5 min
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In this interview from nearly 5 years ago, Shane talks with Dr. Sue Johnson, the creator of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). Hear how she came up with EFT, the patterns she noticed in her clients, how emotion organizes your inner world, the impact of working with someone in EFT, and the qualities of a good EFT therapist.
Learn more about the life of Dr. Sue Johnson at https://drsuejohnson.com/in-remembrance-of-dr-sue-johnson/