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057: Tiffany McLain on The Money Mindset for Therapists
14 augustus 2018 · 46 min
As children, we grow up with money messages that we don't even realize are being implanted in us. We often have a hard time knowing how to explore or challenge the psychology of money and how it impacts each of us in a personal way. Lees meer
As therapists, especially in private practice, we must have a deeper understanding of money both for our business and for our personal lives. In this episode Tiffany McLain talks about the psychology of money, how fear holds us back, having the life we want, talking with clients about money, setting fees and much more.
Tiffany McLain is a therapist in private practice in San Francisco. She is the founder of heytiffany.com which is a wealth of resources to help therapists make more money.
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy. Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes! If you enjoyed the episode please leave a rating and review on iTunes.
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Learn more about the membership site for Couples Therapists and get on the list at https://couplestherapistcouch.com/work-with-me/
Don't forget to visit heytiffany.com for more resources
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056: Gottman and Infidelity with Jennifer Lagrotte
7 augustus 2018 · 48 min
There is so much to consider when working with couples after an affair. The partner who feels betrayed is having a traumatic experience. They feel like the very person the depend on to support them is the one who has done something to hurt them more than anything. It is very important as therapists for us to have a clear sense of how we are helping people heal and recover from these situations. Lees meer
Dr. Jennifer Lagrotte describes the method for dealing with affairs that is taught by the Gottman Institute. The process involves the steps of Atone, Attune, Attach and she goes into detail as to what this looks like in our work with clients.
Dr. Jennifer Lagrotte, DMFT, LMHC, LMFT, a therapist in practice in Parkland, FL, specializes in working with couples. She is an expert on showing couples how to stop fighting and start communicating. Her passion is couples, and she has dedicated her work to exclusively working with couples. Her speciality is affair recovery and uses the Atone/Attune/Attach Method, learned from in-person training with Julie and John Gottman. Learn more about her style at www.facetofacetherapy.com
If you want to find out the top 10 reasons people cheat or take a quiz on infidelity you can take a look here https://www.facetofacetherapy.com/therapy-services/infidelity/
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy. Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes! If you enjoyed the episode please leave a rating and review on iTunes.
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Learn more about the membership site for Couples Therapists and get on the list at https://couplestherapistcouch.com/work-with-me/
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055: Attachment vs. Differentiation Debate with Nathan Hardy and Adam Fisher
31 juli 2018 · 50 min
This conversation explores the debate between differentiation and attachment. This episode is with the authors of an article entitled Attachment vs. Differentiation and in that article they use Emotionally Focused Therapy (Sue Johnson) vs. Crucible Therapy (David Schnarch) to compare these two models. We talk about whether these two developmental theories are compatible and whether or not it is effective for a therapist to try to integrate aspects of them at the same time, in our work with couples. Lees meer
Nathan Hardy, PhD is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and professor at Oklahoma State University.
Adam Fisher, PhD is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist and professor at Brigham Young University.
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy. Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes! If you enjoyed the episode please leave a rating and review on iTunes.
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Check out their article here: Attachment vs. Differentiation
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054: Love Worth Making with Stephen Snyder
24 juli 2018 · 51 min
As Couples Therapists we know that most people just don't talk about sex. Because of this, when people face sexual issues it can feel overwhelming, anxiety provoking and stressful. In this episode, Dr. Stephen Snyder M.D. talks not only about how to help guide couples to reduce their anxiety about sex, but how to help them have ridiculously great sex. Lees meer
Dr Snyder has specialized in sex and relationship therapy for over 30 years in Manhattan, where he's helped over 1,500 individuals and couples regain closeness and satisfaction in their relationships.
Dr Snyder is also the author of one of the most acclaimed sex and relationship books of our time, LOVE WORTH MAKING: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship (St Martin's Press, 2018).
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy. Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes! If you enjoyed the episode please leave a rating and review on iTunes.
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Check out Stephen's website at sexualityresource.com
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053: Money Conversations and Couples with Kiné Corder
17 juli 2018 · 49 min
When couples come to us with issues related to money they often feel completely stuck. One partner might want to save for the future and one partner might want to give their children valuable experiences in the present. There is often a multitude of stuff going on beneath the surface that couples are only partially aware of. Lees meer
In this episode with Kiné Corder we go into detail about how to help couples listen and understand each other's values without compromising their own. We talk about how to help couples not only communicate, but also to make a plan that they can both feel good about and provide them with structure about how to work through difficult money conversations.
Kiné Corder is a best-selling author, international speaker, and psychotherapist specializing in financial therapy. She is the host of the Love and Money Podcast.
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy. Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes! If you enjoyed the episode please leave a rating and review on iTunes.
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To learn more check out kinecorder.com
Connect with Kine on Facebook: http://kinecorder.com/facebook
Connect with Kine on Instagram: http://kinecorder.com/instagram
Get the free money course: http://kinecorder.com/free-course
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052: Harville Hendrix on Imago Couples Therapy
10 juli 2018 · 56 min
This episode explores fundamental questions like why do we fall in love, why do couples fight and how can couples work through conflict? Harville Hendrix has been on the forefront of teaching about relationships for decades. He is the founder of the couples therapy model called Imago Couples Therapy. Lees meer
Harville Hendrix Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt Ph.D. are internationally-respected couple's therapists, educators, speakers, and New York Times bestselling authors. Together, they have written over 10 books with more than 4 million copies sold, including the timeless classic, Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples. In addition, Harville has appeared on the Oprah Winfrey television program 17 times.
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy. Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes! If you enjoyed the episode please leave a rating and review on iTunes.
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To learn more check out harvilleandhelen.com
and relationshipsfirst.org
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051: How to Have an Amazing First Couples Therapy Session with Shane Birkel
3 juli 2018 · 27 min
As Couples Therapists we all know that Couples Therapy is much different that Individual Therapy. It is easy to get off track and wrapped up in content. It is very important that we have the ability to stay still and redirect the couples we work with to stay with the conversations of process. Lees meer
As we begin to collect data in the first session it is important to have a mental framework in mind for us to think about how we are conceptualizing the case. We must also make sure to get each person's perspective separately. In this episode Shane Birkel goes into detail about how to manage that first session and how to make sure each partner feels heard in the process.
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy. Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes! If you enjoyed the episode please leave a rating and review on iTunes.
Click here to join the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group
Check out Shane's practice website at shanebirkel.com
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050: Ian Kerner on Treating Sexual Issues in Couples Therapy
26 juni 2018 · 46 min
Some of the most popular episodes on the podcast have been about working with sex in the context of Couples Therapy. There are so many dimensions to explore beyond the physical aspect of what is going on sexually. In this episode Ian Kerner talks about a range of ways to explore sexuality in more depth. Considerations include where clients fall in the life span, cultural, family of origin, medications, psychological issues, internalized beliefs interpersonal and relational issues. Lees meer
Also during this episode we talk about using a science based approach, the PLISSIT model, low desire, mismatch libido, erotic temperament, sexual function issues, and the willingness window.
Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT is a licensed psychotherapist and nationally recognized sexuality counselor who specializes in sex therapy, couples therapy and working with individuals on a range of relational issues. Ian is regularly quoted as an expert in various media, with appearances on The Today Show, The Dr. Oz Show, and NPR. He lectures frequently on topics related to sex and relationships.
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy. Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes! If you enjoyed the episode please leave a rating and review on iTunes.
Click here to join the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group
Check out Ian's website at iankerner.com
Ian's Books
She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman
He Comes Next: The Thinking Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man
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049: Ellyn Bader on The Developmental Model of Couples Therapy
19 juni 2018 · 51 min
This episode is packed full with advice for how to do good couples therapy. Some of the topics covered are the 6 types of confrontation, rethinking 1st sessions, and how to incorporate attachment theory, differentiation, and neuroscience. Lees meer
Dr. Ellyn Bader is the co-founder of the Developmental Model for Couples Therapy. She and Dr. Peter Pearson co-wrote the book, In Quest of the Mythical Mate. They were pioneers in the field of couples therapy at the time and have since educated numerous therapists on how to work effectively with couples.
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy. Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes! If you enjoyed the episode please leave a rating and review on iTunes.
Click here to join the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group
Check out the free gift from Ellyn at couplesinstitute.com/therapist.couch.podcast
Books
In Quest of the Mythical Mate: A Developmental Approach to Diagnosis and Treatment in Couples Therapy
Tell me no Lies: How to Stop Lying to Your Partner - And Yourself - In the 4 Stages of Marriage
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048: Kinky Folks and Non-Traditional Couples with Heather Garner
12 juni 2018 · 49 min
As therapists there is a lot we can do to make people feel more comfortable and safe to open up. Doing our own work to challenge biases is an important part of helping other people grow. Part of what is helpful is to be kink aware and come at any sexual conversation with a spirit of openness, understanding, and without judgement. Lees meer
In this conversation with Heather Garner, she talks about how to get educated as therapists and continue to grow in order to make people feel safe and accepted. Heather is the founder of Garnering Change Psychotherapy, a group practice near Baltimore, MD. She has a passion for working with sexual minorities.
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy. Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes! If you enjoyed the episode please leave a rating and review on iTunes.
Click here to join the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group
Check out Heather's practice website at garneringchange.net
Resources
Black Rose: http://br.org/br/
National Coalition for Sexual Freedom: https://www.ncsfreedom.org/
Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns by Phillip Miller and Molly Devon
Documentary: BDSM: It's Not What You Think http://www.bdsmdocumentary.com/
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047: George Faller on Pursuers and Withdrawers in EFT
5 juni 2018 · 49 min
Many couples fall into a predictable dance that neither one of them want to be in. They end up being stuck in this pattern and can't seem to free themselves. One partner is the pursuer and one partner is that withdrawer. The more the pursuer pursues, the more the withdrawer withdraws. In order to make progress, both partner must be able to give up their stance in this situation. Lees meer
George Faller has seen this pattern play out time and time again and has helped couples to be understanding of each other and make new moves that enable them to be free of the vicious cycles they get stuck in. George teaches couples that they can understand the pattern and work together. It is all about trusting the other partner and being able to change the dynamic.
George Faller is a husband father, therapist, educator, speaker, writer, and global leading in helping people reconnect and strengthen their relationships. He is a certified Supervisor/Trainer/Therapist in EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) and founder of the New York Center for Emotionally Focused Therapy, where he serves as president.
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy. Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes! If you enjoyed the episode please leave a rating and review on iTunes.
Click here to join the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group
Check out George's website at georgefaller.com
Find out more about George's book Sacred Stress
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046: Millennials and Gen Zs in Love with Shadeen Francis
29 mei 2018 · 56 min
Expectations for relationships are changing faster than ever. What was considered "normal" for our grandparent's generation is being challenged and evolving all the time. Lees meer
In this interview with Shadeen Francis, we talk about the ever changing realities of relationship expectations for Millennials and Gen Zs. Much of what we discuss is helpful and important for any relationship.
Shadeen Francis, MFT, is a marriage and family therapist, professor, and author. She has over 7 years of experience training, supporting, and collaborating with non-profit organizations, medical schools, homeless shelters, and university counseling centres. Her work allows people of all backgrounds to improve their relationships and live the lives they desire.
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy. Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes! If you enjoyed the episode please leave a rating and review on iTunes.
Click here to join the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group
Check out Shadeen's website at shadeenfrancis.com
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045: Multi-Heritage Couples with Melvin Escobar
22 mei 2018 · 53 min
When we assume that someone is right and someone is wrong, we are already setting ourselves up to be frustrated in the conversation. Instead of proving who is right, it is much more effective to be understanding and compassionate, especially with our partners. Lees meer
Melvin Escobar beautifully describes the dynamics of power, privilege, internalized oppression, and cultural (in)sensitivity. Melvin has a private practice in Oakland, CA. He is also a registered yoga teacher. Melvin identifies as a queer cisgender man of color and second-generation El Salvadorian.
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy. Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes! If you enjoyed the episode please leave a rating and review on iTunes.
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Check out Melvin's practice website: melvinescobar.com
Resources
The People's Institute For Survival and Beyond
Beyond the Culture of Separation
Showing Up For Racial Justice
The UNTraining
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044: Building an Online Presence through Social Media with Dr. Julie Hanks
15 mei 2018 · 44 min
Most therapists don't like the idea of being in front of dozens, hundreds, or even thousands of others. We feel right at home with one or two people in our office, but we need to build confidence in showing up and getting our message out to the world. Lees meer
Some of the best ways to do this is to have a fantastic website, being present on social media and reaching out to the media at large. Dr. Julie Hanks talks all about how to do this and what strategies to focus on as you begin to build your influence in the world.
Dr. Julie Hanks is the author of The Burnout Cure and The Assertiveness Guide for Women. She is a private practice consultant and helps therapists grow their private practices and group practices. She has a website and facebook group called the Private Practice Toolbox. She teaches Rock the Media School for therapists.
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy. Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes! If you enjoyed the episode please leave a rating and review on iTunes.
Click here to join the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group
Check out DrJulieHanks.com
Check out Julie's practice website at wasatchfamilytherapy.com
Julie's website for therapists, privatepracticetoolbox.net
and for the Rock the Media School
Click here to join The Private Practice Toolbox Facebook Group
connect @DrJulieHanks on social media
Video of Julie Singing
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043: Beyond Mars and Venus with John Gray
8 mei 2018 · 1 uur 28 min
50 years ago men and women were more likely to know what each of their different roles were and feel competent to fulfill their partner in the relationship. In the last few decades women have become more empowered in their careers and men have become more involved at home. This has been a positive evolution for humans, but has led to a lot of stress on relationships. Lees meer
John Gray is the author of the most well-known and trusted relationship book of all time, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus. USA Today listed his book as one of the top 10 most influential books of the last quarter century. In hardcover, it was the #1 bestselling book of the 1990s. Dr. Gray's books are translated into approximately 45 languages in more than 100 countries and continues to be a bestseller.
Dr. Gray has written over 20 books. His most recent book is Beyond Mars and Venus. His Mars/Venus book series has forever changed the way men and women view their relationships.
John helps men and women better understand and respect their differences in both personal and professional relationships. His approach combines specific communication techniques with healthy, nutritional choices that create the brain and body chemistry for lasting health, happiness and romance.
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy. Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes! If you enjoyed the episode please leave a rating and review on iTunes.
Click here to join the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group
Check out John's website at marsvenus.com
and marsvenuscoaching.com
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042: Katherine Woodward Thomas on Conscious Uncoupling
1 mei 2018 · 51 min
Going through a break up, separation or divorce is one of the most difficult things people ever have to face. In this episode, Katherine Woodward Thomas discusses how this process can be done with respect, care, and love so that everyone involved is less negatively impacted. This is especially important when children are involved. She outlines a 5 step process for couples to work together as they experience their uncoupling. Lees meer
Katherine Woodward Thomas is a licensed marriage and family therapist and teacher to thousands from all corners of the world in her virtual and in-person learning communities. She is the originator of the Conscious Uncoupling process made famous by Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin as well as creator of the Calling in "The One:" 49 Days to Love online course.
She is the author of the New York Times Bestseller Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After, which was nominated for a Books for a Better Life Award, and the national bestseller, Calling in "The One:" 7 Weeks to Attract the Love of Your Life. Links to those books below.
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy. Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes! If you enjoyed the episode please leave a rating and review on iTunes.
Click here to join the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group
Check out Katherine's website at consciousuncoupling.com
Find out more about Katherine at katherinewoodwardthomas.com
Books:
Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After
Calling in "The One:" 7 Weeks to Attract the Love of Your Life
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041: Alexandra Katehakis on Sex Addiction and Healthy Sex
24 april 2018 · 49 min
When looking at sexual betrayal, many people in our society simplify it down to the fact that the betrayer is bad, wrong, and should be cut off. This leaves out the opportunity of a much more complex way of viewing these situations. To think about this with a more open mind is not to say that there is no accountability on the part of the betrayer, but to hold them accountable while at the same time bringing understanding to them as a person. Lees meer
In this conversation with Dr. Alexandra Katehakis we talk all about healthy sex, sex addiction, love addiction, and how to work with couples facing these issues.
Alexandra Katehakis, PhD is the Founder and Clinical Director of the Center for Healthy Sex in Los Angeles and the author of several books which I will list below with links. She is an LMFT and clinical supervisor at the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists and a clinical supervisor and member of the teaching faculty for the International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP), a national certifying body for sex addiction therapists. She is a prominent writer and expert panelist at sexuality conferences and public events.
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy. Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes! If you enjoyed the episode please leave a rating and review on iTunes.
Click here to join the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group
Check out Alex's website at centerforhealthysex.com
Books:
Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot, Healthy Sex While in Recovery from Sex Addiction
Sex Addiction as Affect Dysregulation: A Neurobiologically Informed Holistic Treatment
co-author of the award-winning daily meditation book, Mirror of Intimacy: Daily Reflections on Emotional and Ero…
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040: Polyamorous Relationships with Jonathan Burstein
17 april 2018 · 1 uur 3 min
There are more and more people who might be defined as sexual minorities and it is as important as ever for therapists to be educated and sensitive all types of people they are working with. In this episode Jonathan Burstein discusses polyamorous relationships and how we might become more culturally competent as therapists. Lees meer
Couples need to feel like their therapist won't pathologize their lifestyle choices and make "poly" the problem when they are actually coming in for other relationship issues. There are some important considerations for couples who are considering opening up their partnership.
Johathan Burstein is a licensed marriage and family therapist in Berkeley California. He specializes in working with LGBTQ and alternative relationship communities.
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy. Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes! If you enjoyed the episode please leave a rating and review on iTunes.
Click here to join the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group
Check out Jonathan's website at jonathanburstein.com
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039: Lynn Grodzki on Building Your Private Practice
10 april 2018 · 46 min
In grad school we learn all the essentials to become a great therapist. Unfortunately, most therapists come out of that experience lacking any sort of preparation for running a successful business. Lees meer
It is essential for therapists to know how to run their business in order to serve as many people as possible and not have the financial stressors that impact their ability to do good work.
This is a bonus business episode with Lynn Grodzki, a practice building expert who has helped hundreds of thousands of therapists and helping professionals build the practice they want. Lynn has written 6 books listed below including best seller, Building Your Ideal Private Practice.
She has a new book coming out in May called Therapy With a Coaching Edge.
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy. Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes! If you enjoyed the episode please leave a rating and review on iTunes.
Click here to join the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group.
Check out Lynn Grodzki's website at privatepracticesuccess.com
Click here to see all of Lynn's books
See Lynn's site for her new book called Therapy With a Coaching Edge
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038: Terry Real on Relational Life Therapy
3 april 2018 · 45 min
Traditional therapy has done a great job of providing clients with a warm, loving, compassionate environment to heal. Unfortunately, it falls short when it comes to bringing up difficult truths to people when that is necessary. Lees meer
In this episode, Terry Real talks about the three phases of his model, Relational Life Therapy (RLT), the first of which is joining through the truth. In this way he begins the process of creating quick, profound change in the individuals and couples he works with.
During the conversation we get into stance-stance-dance, empowering the latent, using a lot of pause, grandiosity, inner child work, and many of the other aspects of Terry's model for couples therapists (RLT).
Terry Real is a leader in the field of couples therapy. He has written 3 books which are linked below, numerous articles, and has been featured in countless interviews with media outlets. He is the founder of the Relational Life Institute and continues to work with couples as well as train therapists. For more information on his upcoming level one training click the link below.
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy. Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes! If you enjoyed the episode please leave a rating and review on iTunes.
Click here to join the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group.
Check out Terry Real's website at terryreal.com
Click here to learn more about RLT level 1 training
Books
The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work
How Can I Get Through to You? Closing the Intimacy Gap Between Men and Women
I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression
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037: Janis Abrahms Spring on Healing After an Affair
27 maart 2018 · 52 min
How do unfaithful partners typically respond differently than hurt partners after an affair? What constitutes an affair - intercourse? Instant messaging? Flirting? How can unfaithful partners take responsibility for the damage they caused and earn forgiveness? Lees meer
These are just a few of the many questions that leave couples feeling confused about what to do after there has been an affair. Janis Abrahms Spring, PhD has beautifully answered these questions in her book, After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful. She normalizes and reassures couples about what they are going through in a way that gives them hope.
That book has been incredibly successful and has sold over 500,000 copies. In addition to that she has written two other books which are linked below. She has been in practice for over 40 years in Westport, Connecticut.
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy.
Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes! If you enjoyed the episode please leave a rating and review on iTunes.
Click here to join the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group.
Check out Dr. Spring's website at janisaspring.com
Books
After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful
How Can I Forgive You? The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not To
Life with Pop: Lessons on Caring for an Aging Parent
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036: Co-Parenting through Divorce with Karen Bonnell
20 maart 2018 · 1 uur
Some of the most challenging couples we see in Couples Therapy are those who are no longer even in a relationship. When children are involved, it is not possible to ever completely be free of one's ex partner. Lees meer
In these situations it is incredibly important for these co-parents to work together in order to support the children in the best way possible. Karen Bonnell is an expert at helping these co-parents work through these situations in a way that is healthy for everyone.
Karen is a collaborative divorce coach who has been helping families for the last 30 years. She teaches parents the best ways to support their children, strengthen their co-parenting, and discover the necessary tools to skillfully create a two-home family.
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy.
Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes! If you enjoyed the episode please leave a rating and review on iTunes.
Click here to join the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group.
Check out Karen's website at coachmediateconsult.com
Books
Get a copy of The Co-Parenting Handbook: Raising Well-Adjusted and Resilient Kids from Little Ones to Young Adults through Divorce or Separation
Get a copy of The Parenting Plan Workbook: A Comprehensive Guide to Building a Strong, Child-Centered Parenting Plan
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035: Stan Tatkin on A Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy
13 maart 2018 · 52 min
Stan Tatkin says that being a Couples Therapist is like being a good Jazz Musician. With a jazz performance, the musicians follow the flow and play in the moment. They're not following a rehearsed piece. No concert is the same. With jazz, it's the many years of practice and expertise, that give each performance its unique identity. Lees meer
As Couples Therapists we bring our own experience and training to each couple we work with. The best Therapists have the ability to be present and trust their instincts to guide couples to what they need.
Stan Tatkin is the creator of A Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy. He is the author of several books for couples which are listed below with links.
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy. Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes! If you enjoyed the episode please leave a rating and review on iTunes.
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Check out Stan's website at thepactinstitute.com
Stan's TED Talk called Relationships Are Hard, But Why?
Stan's books:
Wired for Dating
Wired for Love
Your Brain on Love (6 CD set)
Love and War in Intimate Relationships
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034: 10 Ways to Make More Money in Your Private Practice
8 maart 2018 · 31 min
This is the 6th edition of the bonus business episodes that are released the first (or second) Thursday of each month. This is a solo episode with Shane Birkel that is all about steps you can take if your practice isn't quite where you want it to be yet. Lees meer
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy.
Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes! If you enjoyed the episode please leave a rating and review on iTunes.
Click here to join the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group.
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033: EFT and Attachment with Anabelle Bugatti
6 maart 2018 · 53 min
People often have a hard time feeling heard and understood, especially in their relationships. In this episode of The Couples Therapist Couch, Anabelle Bugatti talks about attachment and how that influences how we are in relationships. Lees meer
Anabelle works with couples using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and discusses important considerations for using EFT with couples and how this framework is one of the best ways to get results in couples therapy.
Anabelle Bugatti is an LMFT and certified EFT Couples Therapist. She has a practice near Las Vegas, Nevada. She is currently pursuing a PhD in Marriage and Family Therapy.
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy.
Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes! If you enjoyed the episode please leave a rating and review on iTunes.
Click here to join the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group.
Check out Anabelle's practice website at lasvegasmarriagecounseling.com
Check out her videos for therapists and couples at wehearttherapy.com
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032: How Parenthood Impacts Relationships with Elly Taylor
27 februari 2018 · 1 uur 1 min
In our society, we do a terrible job of preparing new parents for what is to come in their relationship with each other. 92% of parents report increased disagreements after the baby is born. Adding to the huge amount of stress experienced in the transition to parenthood is the perception that we are not good enough or that we are doing something wrong. Lees meer
Elly Taylor has made it her mission to help couples better prepare for the journey of becoming their new version of "us". She has broken it down into 8 steps for families to understand in order to be able to thrive.
Elly Taylor is an Australian relationship counsellor, independent parenthood researcher and author of the award winning book Becoming Us. Elly is the founder of Becoming Us, an organisation created to teach helping professionals her research and evidence-based approach to the transition into parenthood and to support mothers, fathers, partners and families to thrive.
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy.
Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes!
Click here to join the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group.
Check out Elly's website at ellytaylor.com
Buy Elly's book: Becoming Us: 8 Steps to Grow a Family that Thrives
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031: Premarital Counseling with Mayi Dixon
20 februari 2018 · 43 min
As couples therapists we know how important a good foundation is. Educating couples about relationship skills right from the beginning can set them up for a lifetime of fulfillment. Unfortunately, we are not taught nearly enough about what it takes to have a happy, healthy relationship in our society. Lees meer
Mayi Dixon helps couples with this by offering premarital counseling in her private practice in Atlanta, Georgia. She works with these couples to learn how to have a fulfilling relationship and gain understanding right from the beginning.
Mayi has worked in the mental health field for over 10 years. Mayi specializes in Marriage and Family Therapy and Play Therapy. She works a lot with adults recovering from infidelity, attachment, adult parent child relationships, and healing from sexual trauma with an emphasis on attachment.
Currently, Mayi host her own relationship show on Blog Talk Radio entitled the "Heart and Soul of Relationships". Mayi works as an Adjunct Professor at Mercer University and is a doctoral student at Mercer University studying Counselor Education and Supervision.
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy.
Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes!
Click here to join the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group.
Check out Mayi's website at premaritalbliss.com
Follow Mayi on instagram at http://www.instagram.com/innovcounseling
Follow Mayi on facebook at http://www.facebook.com/innovcounseling
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030: Helping Couples Cope After Infidelity with Terri DiMatteo
13 februari 2018 · 53 min
Everyone knows someone who has been impacted by infidelity. It is such a prevalent reality in our society, yet there is still so much taboo and limited understanding in the way that we talk about it. There tends to be a lot of shame and judgement involved which can make it even more difficult for couples to work through it. Lees meer
In this interview with Terri DiMatteo we talk about how to help couples affected by infidelity and betrayal. We go into detail about how to guide couples to have a different perspective and learn to trust and depend on each other again.
Terri DiMatteo is a Licensed Professional Counselor in New Jersey and the founder of Open Door Therapy. She spent many years as an Early Childhood Specialist where she learned about the work of John Bowlby and Attachment Theory. She brings that understanding into her work with couples. She specializes in helping couples cope with infidelity.
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy.
Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes!
Click here to join the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group.
Check out Terri's practice website at opendoortherapy.net
Check out Terri's blog loveBONDS
Here is a link to her podcast on iTunes. It is called Love Bonds
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029: Love Your Paperwork with Maelisa Hall
8 februari 2018 · 48 min
*Bonus business episode. We all have trauma from being in school and getting a big red X on a paper. When people mention the word paperwork it can definitely trigger an anxiety response in a lot of people. Lees meer
Maelisa Hall, with her business QA Prep is not only making paperwork more fun, but also making it meaningful to enhance the work we do with clients.
Maelisa is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist who has created educational programs to help therapists make paperwork a valuable part of the work that they do in therapy. She is also the co-founder of My Biz Bestie with Amber Hawley.
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy and once a month there is an episode about the business of private practice.
Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes!
Click here to join the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group.
Check out QA Prep at qaprep.com
Get your free private practice paperwork Crash Course
Check out My Biz Bestie
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028: Exploring EFT with Jim Thomas
6 februari 2018 · 1 uur 1 min
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) is one of the most well regarded models being used by couples therapists today. In this episode Jim Thomas offers a glimpse into some of the aspects of EFT that make it so powerful when used well with couples. Lees meer
Jim Thomas has received supervision from the founder of EFT, Sue Johnson and is an ICEEFT Certified EFT Trainer and a member of the ICEEFT Strategic Planning Committee dedicated to spreading the word about EFT. He still does a lot of work with couples, much of which is in intensive therapy sessions. Jim also does a lot of workshops and trainings for therapists. Jim is facilitating an EFT externship on May 30-June 2 in Denver.
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy.
Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes!
Click here to join the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group.
Check out Jim's practice website at www.jimthomas.care
Find out more about the EFT Externship Jim is leading.
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027: Harriet Lerner on Apologizing
30 januari 2018 · 47 min
A meaningful apology can transform a relationship. A lackluster apology can just as easily lead to major problems in people's ability to connect. Lees meer
For the past 2 decades, Dr. Harriet Lerner has studied the art of the apology and recently just published her latest book called Why Won't You Apologize?
Harriet Lerner is one of the nation's most loved and respected relationship experts, renowned for her scholarly work on the psychology of women and family dynamics. She has written 12 books including the New York Times bestselling The Dance of Anger, which has sold several million copies.
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy.
Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes!
Click here to join the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group.
Watch Harriet's TED talk on apologizing: TED Talk
Find out more about Harriet's book, Why Won't You Apologize?
Visit Harriet's website at https://www.harrietlerner.com/
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026: Less Conflict, More Connection with Figs O'Sullivan
23 januari 2018 · 1 uur 2 min
All couples get stuck in emotional interactions and patterns that lead to them feeling hurt and wanting to be loved at the same time. It can feel very confusing when the person who we feel is hurting us is also the one who we want to love us. Lees meer
Figs O'Sullivan talks about getting beyond the content of these couples interactions to guide couples to be more understanding and feel more connected.
Figs is a Couples Therapist in San Francisco and the creator of the relationship quiz, Empathi. He has studied various couples therapy modalities, but is particularly dedicated to Emotionally Focused Therapy.
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy.
Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes!
Click here to join the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group.
Check out Figs's practice website at therapywithfigs.com
Check out the relationship quiz Figs created at Emaphi.com
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025: Love is a Verb with Bill O'Hanlon
16 januari 2018 · 1 uur 1 min
When we think about problems in our relationships we often want to place blame on our partner and attack their character. When this happens it makes people feel stuck and helpless to do anything about the situation. Lees meer
In the conversation with Bill O'Hanlon, he talks about guiding couples to express themselves by using specific examples and come up with specific solutions that empower them to break through the areas where they feel stuck.
Bill O'Hanlon is the founder of Solution-Oriented Therapy and the author or co-author of 36 books. He has given over 3500 talks in 27 countries and his work has been featured in many media outlets including an appearance on Oprah.
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy.
Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes!
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Resources
Visit Bill's website at billohanlon.com
Just Some of Bill's Books
For Couples: Stop Blaming, Start Loving, AKA: Love is a Verb
For Therapists: Rewriting Love Stories
To Use in Therapy: Couples Therapy Homework Planner
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024: Couples and Autism with Janeen Herskovitz
9 januari 2018 · 46 min
There are specific things for therapists to think about when working with a couple who has been impacted by autism. It could be a child of the couple or one of the partners who is on the spectrum, but whatever the case, there is a lot to consider. Lees meer
This conversation with Janeen Herskovitz sheds light on many of those concepts for therapists to keep in mind.
Janeen is a Mental Health Counselor in private practice in North Florida. She loves helping autism spectrum families live happier more peaceful lives.
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy.
Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes!
Click here to join the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group.
Resources
Visit Janeen's podcast website at autismblueprint.com
Visit Janeen's practice website at puzzlepeacecounseling.com
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023: Ernesto Segismundo on Creativity, Video, and Social Media
4 januari 2018 · 57 min
As therapists, we have so much to offer people, but we are often afraid. Whether it is a case of imposter syndrome or just getting stuck in the day to day, it can be easy to stay in our comfort zone. Lees meer
In this bonus business episode with Ernesto Segismundo, he talks about how to put ourselves in new situations in order to see things from a different perspective and get fresh ideas.
Ernesto is always challenging therapists to create content on social media, particularly using video. He helps therapists find their voices and share their messages with the world.
He has a facebook group for therapists who want to learn more about using video called FYLMIT.com--Video Marketing for Therapists.
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday and a bonus business episode released the first Thursday of each month.
Please rate and subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes!
Click here to join the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group.
Resources
Visit Ernesto's website FYLMIT.com
Visit Ernesto's group practice site at cavfamilytherapy.com
Click here to join the FYLMIT.com Facebook Group
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022: Gay Couples with Alapaki Yee and Salvatore Garanzini
2 januari 2018 · 1 uur 4 min
In the field of Couples Therapy there has been very little research on gay couples. Fortunately, more and more is being done all of the time. It is important for Couples Therapists to be educated on this research and also understand how they can communicate in a way that is inclusive. Lees meer
This episode was with Alapaki Yee and Salvatore Garanzini, the founders of the Gay Couples Institute with locations in San Francisco, San Diego, and New York. They created the institute because they disagreed with many of the things their gay and lesbian friends were being told in their own relationship therapy that were not based on any research.
They both have advanced training in the Gottman method and Salvatore is a Certified Gottman Therapist. They continue to do research and are at the forefront of what is working in couples therapy. Please, please, please read the article below about their work!!!
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday.
Please rate and subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes!
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Resources
Visit The Gay Couples Institute website at gaycouplesinstitute.org
Article:
Gottman Method Couples Therapy Established as Evidence-Based Treatment for Same-Sex Couples
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021: True Love is not True: Relationships Take Work
26 december 2017 · 20 min
This is the first solo episode on the Couples Therapist Couch. Shane Birkel talks about how love changes over time and normalizes how different it might feel at different phases of the relationship. In order to keep love alive with our partners, it takes a lot of work. Lees meer
As the New Year approaches it is important for all of us to set relationship goals along with all of the other areas of our lives.
Thank you all for listening in 2017. There are already lots of great episodes scheduled for 2018. I appreciate all of you!
Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes!
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020: How to Ask About Sex in Couples Therapy with Martha Kauppi
19 december 2017 · 53 min
Most Couples Therapists understand the importance of bringing sex into the conversation in couples therapy. Unfortunately, most feel unprepared to know what questions to ask, how to make clients feel comfortable, and what to do with the information once it is part of the conversation. In this episode, Sex Therapist, Martha Kauppi and I talk all about how to do that. Lees meer
She has identified 6 questions that she says should be a part of the assessment process for every couple we see. She clearly breaks down important issues that we should be specifically asking about and what to do with that information.
Martha Kauppi has a lifelong career in sexual health, counseling, and creative education. She has been a midwife, an artist, and is currently a certified sex therapist. She is the founder of The Institute for Relational Intimacy which is committed to competence working with a full array of sex issues, including sexual health concerns, alternative sexualities, problematic sexual behavior, and LGBTQAI+ related concerns.
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy.
Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes!
Click here to join the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group.
Resources
For more information visit Martha's website at instituteforrelationalintimacy.com
Sign up here for the free mini workshop.
The next 16 week course starts on February 5. Go to the website for more information.
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019: Hedy Schleifer on Encounter-centered Couples Therapy
12 december 2017 · 1 uur 1 min
Hedy Schleifer has developed an deep and rich model of working with couples based on her decades of experience as a couples therapist as well as using her own relationship as a "living laboratory." Lees meer
Encounter-centered Couples Therapy is an experience for one couple to work with the therapist for two full days and connect with each other in a way they have never imagined.
This experience leads to transformational change for the couples and there is more and more research to show that the synaptic process of the brain can be changed through something called memory reconsolidation.
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy.
Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes!
Click here to join the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group.
Resources
For more information visit Hedy's website at hedyyumi.com. She has tons of resources and educational materials on her website so definitely check it out!
Here are the events Hedy has coming up.
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018: Amber Hawley on Building Your Business Community
7 december 2017 · 51 min
This is the third Bonus Business episode in a series that is release the first Thursday of each month. Lees meer
Being in Private Practice can be lonely and therapists tend to be introverts to begin with. In this episode Shane talks with Amber Hawley about how therapists can build their business community. Therapists need to do a better job of making their businesses a priority and having a business bestie (or besties) can help.
Amber Hawley is the co-host, along with Maelisa Hall, of the podcast, My Biz Bestie. She is also the owner of a group practice, licensed marriage and family therapist, business coach, ENFT, mom of three kids and avid coffee drinker.
My Biz Bestie is a podcast focused on sharing ways of connecting with other female entrepreneurs, making the most of networking, discussing helpful biz resources and having fun while being in business.
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy and a bonus episode the first Thursday of each month about the business of private practice.
Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes!
Click here to join the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group
Resources
Visit Amber's personal website at www.amberhawley.com
Visit Amber's practice website at www.fremontcounselingservices.com
Check out the podcast website for MyBizBestie
Check out the site for online resources for couples, couplesfix
Maelisa Hall's site for paperwork support for mental health professionals QAprep
Books
Get Rich Lucky Bitch by Denise Duffield-Thomas
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017: Using Gottman Interventions to Enhance Intimacy with Laura Heck
5 december 2017 · 55 min
In order to guide couples to greater intimacy it can be helpful to have a framework that is backed up by decades of research. Laura Heck talks with Shane in this episode about the fact that as a therapist, there is no substitute for experience, but having exercises and interventions can be life changing for couples when used properly. Lees meer
Laura Heck is an LMFT and Certified Gottman Therapist in private practice in Salt Lake City, UT. She is co-founder of forBetter, an action driven online coaching tool for couples that teaches the science of successful relationships through straight talking and exercises.
She co-hosts Marriage Therapy Radio where you can be a fly on the wall while two marriage therapists hash out some of the most common issues couples encounter. She is the co-developer and master trainer for the Gottman Seven Principles Program and consults as a relationship expert for corporations and media outlets.
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy.
Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes!
Click here to join the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group
Resources
Visit Laura Heck's practice website at www.laurahecktherapy.com
Check out the online coaching tool for couples at www.forbetter.us
Check out Laura's podcast, Marriage Therapy Radio
HIPPA compliant video conferencing mentioned during the show: wecounsel.com
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016: Joy Harden Bradford on Being Open to the Conversation of Privilege
28 november 2017 · 49 min
Lately in our country it seems like race and privilege are at the forefront of the media. From police shootings, to Donald Trump, to kneeling during the national anthem, these issues have a huge impact on everyone, particularly people of color. This is not new, in fact it has been going on for hundreds of years. Lees meer
In this episode, Dr. Joy Harden Bradford talks about being open to staying in the conversation. The worst thing we can do in these situations is to shut down the things that need to be discussed. We need to open up our awareness to the microagressions that happen on a daily basis all around us.
Dr. Joy is a Licensed Psychologist in Decatur, GA whose clinical specialty is helping women recover from breakups. She is the founder of Therapy for Black Girls which is a community of collegiate and professional black women who are committed to mental wellness and personal development.
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy.
Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes!
Click here to join the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group
Resources
Visit Dr. Joy's website at therapyforblackgirls.com
Check out Dr. Joy's podcast called Therapy for Black Girls on iTunes.
Find Dr. Joy Harden Bradford and Therapy for Black Girls on twitter, facebook, and instagram.
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015: Lori Gottlieb on Writing to Help Relationships
21 november 2017 · 41 min
In therapy we participate in the conversation with people as they explore the potential for their lives. As a masterful therapist, Lori Gottlieb knows this work, but she is also an expert at something that is a bit different. Lees meer
She receives letters from people who need help in their lives. She doesn't talk with them, ask questions, or get to know who they are. Using only the letter each person sends, she crafts a response that sheds light and provides amazingly in-depth insight for her column in the New York Magazine called What Your Therapist Really Thinks.
Lori is a psychotherapist and bestselling author of 4 books, most recently, Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough. In this episode she talks about the process and challenges of writing her column. She is also writing a new book called, Girl Walks Into A Therapy Room.
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy and a bonus episode the first Thursday of each month about the business of private practice.
Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes!
Resources
Visit Lori's website at lorigottlieb.com
Read articles from Lori's column, What Your Therapist Really Thinks
Lori's Books
Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough
I Love You, Nice to Meet You: A Guy and a Girl Give the Lowdown on Coupling Up
Stick Figure: A Diary of My Former Self
Inside the Cult of Kibu: And Other Tales of the Millennial Gold Rush
Click here to join the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group
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014: Addiction and Couples Therapy with Bob Navarra
14 november 2017 · 53 min
Addiction and substance abuse are significant issues that affect a huge number of relationships. Unfortunately, many therapists feel incompetent to work with couples when this is a presenting issue. Dr. Bob Navarra sheds light on this matter by giving therapists a new way of thinking about couples and addiction. Lees meer
Bob Navarra is a master Gottman Therapist and has over 35 years of experience working with couples. He has done extensive work with couples and addiction and now teaches a training to help educate therapists about how to work with this.
Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy and a bonus episode the first Thursday of each month about the business of private practice. Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes!
Resources
Visit Bob's website at robertnavarra.net
Visit the facebook page called Couples Recovery
Check out the trainings and resources available at the Gottman Institute
Assessments mentioned
Alcohol Use Disorders Identification Test (AUDIT)
CAGE questionnaire
Click here to join the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group
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013: Law Enforcement Couples with Cyndi Doyle
7 november 2017 · 50 min
When working with couples where one partner is a first responder there are specific issues to be aware of that can help make the work in therapy much more beneficial. Whether one works as a law enforcement officer, for the fire department, or as an EMT, there are common themes that can be extremely important for the partner as well as the therapist to understand. Lees meer
During this interview, Cyndi Doyle goes into great depth about how we can be more aware of and sensitive to specific challenges that first responders and their partners face. Cyndi has a podcast called Code 4 Couples, which is specifically for law enforcement officers and their relationships.
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy and a bonus episode the first Thursday of each month about the business of private practice. Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes!
Resources
Visit Cyndi's podcast website called Code 4 Couples
Visit Cyndi's practice website at Pecan Branch Counseling
Books mentioned:
A CHiP on my Shoulder by Victoria Newman
I Love a Cop: Revised Edition: What Police Families Need to Know by Ellen Kirschman
Emotional Survival for Law Enforcement: A Guide for Officers and their Families by Kevin Gilmartin
Click here to join the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group
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012: Building an Instagram Following with Silvy Khoucasian
2 november 2017 · 53 min
There is a growing movement of therapists who are using various social media platforms to connect with the people who need them. In this incredible interview with Silvy Khoucasian, we talk all about using Instagram in order to market your private practice. This is the second bonus business episode for the purpose of helping therapists grow their private practices. Lees meer
Silvy has been able to grow her Instagram following to over 16,000 followers in under a year. Because of this, she has a way to provide value to people to help them in their relationships. Potential clients have the opportunity to get to know her before deciding to work with her. She has tons of amazing tips for listeners to be able to grown their reach by building an Instagram following.
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy and a bonus episode the first Thursday of each month about the business of private practice. Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes!
Resources
Visit Silvy's website at silvykhoucasian.com
Follow Silvy on Instagram at silvykhoucasian
Click here to join the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group
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011: Pragmatic/Experiential Therapy for Couples with Brent Atkinson
31 oktober 2017 · 57 min
When we think about relationships, we often minimize how much work it takes to maintain the happy, healthy connection with our partner. We often feel like love should just come naturally or that if we are with the "right" person everything will just fall into place. What good couples therapists know is that being in a satisfying relationship absolutely does take a lot of effort. Lees meer
In this interview, Dr. Brent Atkinson talks about how there is often too much insight and understanding as the focus in couples therapy and too little focus on repetitive practice. He proposes that we are all programmed in a way that makes it very difficult to get unstuck when unhealthy patterns play out with our partner. We need to learn to recalibrate the way that we interact with our lover in order to be capable of communicating in a different way.
Dr. Brent Atkinson is the principle architect of Pragmatic/Experiential Therapy. This approach translates new knowledge about how the brain processes emotion into practical methods for improving relationships and increasing personal success. He is Professor Emeritus of Marriage and Family Therapy at Northern Illinois University and his ideas have been published in several journals and magazines. He continues to facilitate trainings and has been the keynote speaker at many professional conferences.
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy and a bonus episode the first Thursday of each month about the business of private practice. Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes!
Resources
Visit Dr. Brent Atkinson's website at The Couples Clinic
Check out several articles by Brent in The Psychotherapy Networker magazine
Train with Brent in Houston this February in this 5 day intensive training for menta…
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010: Parenting Issues in Couples Therapy with Mallory Grimste
24 oktober 2017 · 51 min
One of the main issues that couples bring up in therapy is disagreements about parenting. The way people parent is often related to the way they were brought up by their own parents. That makes these ideals deeply ingrained and particularly triggering for people. Adding to that is the reality that we are impacting our children in a way that will affect them for the rest of their life. Lees meer
The amazing teen therapist, Mallory Grimste joins The Couples Therapist Couch today to talk about the children's experience during these parenting struggles. Mallory has a passion for helping teen girls feel more emotionally confident. Her clients often come to her complaining of anxiety and loneliness. They leave therapy feeling better about their relationship with themselves and others. They are no longer afraid of the uncomfortable and have the skills to create a life they love living.
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week.
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Resources
Visit Mallory's website at mallorygrimste.com
Get your FREE downloadable meditation at mallorygrimste.com/couplestherapistcouch
Book Recommendation: Untangled by Lisa Damour about guiding teenage girls into adulthood.
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009: Clay Cockrell Talking Online Counseling with Couples
17 oktober 2017 · 46 min
When it comes to doing online counseling a lot of therapists feel overwhelmed by everything there is to consider. On this episode, Clay Cockrell does an amazing job talking about all of the ins and outs when it comes to working with couples online. Lees meer
Clay Cockrell is a therapist in New York City. He gained a lot of publicity for starting to do walk and talk therapy in central park. His latest project is building an online counseling directory where therapists can sign up to have a profile searchable by potential clients.
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week.
Resources
Visit Clay's online counseling site at onlinecounselling.com
Visit Clay's walk and talk therapy site at www.walkandtalk.com
Check out Clay's podcast called The Online Counselling podcast.
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008: Nazanin Moali on Sex in Couples Therapy
10 oktober 2017 · 54 min
Sex is such an important part of couple relationships and comes up all the time in our work. Dr. Nazanin Moali gives couples therapists tons of insight into how to work with the sex issues that couples bring up during sessions. She is a Psychologist in California and works with couples and people struggling with addiction. Lees meer
In her podcast called Sexology, Nazanin untangles the science of sex and pleasure. She helps individuals and couples improve their sex lives and achieve deep and passionate connections with their partners. She is dedicated to educating people around the world to embrace sexuality as an essential aspect of life and eliminate the stigma associated with it.
The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week.
Resources
Visit Nazanin's website for her podcast, Sexology
Email Nazanin at drmoali@sexologypodcast.com
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