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{REPLAY} Lisa Dion on how Regulation Does Not Equal Calm
13 januari 2023 · 56 min
***This episode originally aired on May 18th, 2021*** Lees meer
What if I told you that calm isn't best? Calm isn't what we are working toward! And prioritizing calm gives other states of the nervous system a bad wrap!
Calm is just a byproduct of an attempt to regulate! In fact, there are risks to focusing on calm as our primary goal.
On today's episode, I'm thrilled to introduce you to Lisa Dion, LPC, RPT-S, is an international teacher, creator of Synergetic Play Therapy, founder and President of the Synergetic Play Therapy Institute, and host of the Lessons from the Playroom podcast. She is the author of Aggression in Play Therapy: A Neurobiological Approach for Integrating Intensity and is the 2015 recipient of the Association for Play Therapy’s Professional Education and Training Award of Excellence.
Lisa and I have a lovely time discussing the difference between regulated and calm, including the risks of pretending to be calm when we aren't. As parents and clinicians who care for kids with a history of trauma, it's important to negotiate ways within ourselves that we can be honest and congruent with our true experiences (maybe we are mad!) while still remaining regulated and offering felt-safety.
Wait what?! Regulated and mad?!?!
Yup. Regulated and mad. Have a listen to see what Lisa has to say about this!
You can find more of Lisa's work over at Synergetic Play Therapy Institue, including her book for clinicians, Aggression in Play Therapy.
To read the full summary or the full transcript visit: https://robyngobbel.com/lisadion/
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{REPLAY} Trauma Behavior? Or Just Regular Kid Acting-Up Behavior?
10 januari 2023 · 45 min
***This episode originally aired on May 11th, 2021*** Lees meer
You’ve asked yourself “Is this a behavior that’s coming from my child’s trauma? Or is this regular acting out kid behavior???”
Sometimes it’s pretty obvious but if you’re asking yourself that question, you’re probably in a situation where it isn’t obvious.
What if I told you it doesn’t matter?
Hear me out.
Why do you want to figure that out? Usually because it feels like you’ll handle the situation different based on the answer.
But actually, it doesn’t matter. And it’s impossible to determine anyway.
What you really want to think about is- how dysregulated is my child?
And then respond to that!!
There are some core truths about humans- regulated, connected kids who feel safe do well. So if you’re child isn’t doing well- ask yourself if this is about regulation, connection, felt-safety or some combination of those.
Then, based on your child’s level of arousal/dysregulation, you can intervene in a way that will calm their arousal and bring back their owl brain.
I explore this in depth in today’s episode! If you want to learn more about this way of looking at behaviors, watch this free masterclass online www.RobynGobbel.com/masterclass
To view the full summary or the full transcript visit: https://robyngobbel.com/traumabehavior/
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{REPLAY} What Does Co-Regulation Really Look Like?
6 januari 2023 · 55 min
***This episode originally aired on May 24th, 2022*** Lees meer
There’s a lot of confusion about what co-regulation really is. Parents often say to me something like “OK, I get it- I’m supposed to give co-regulation instead of a consequence. But- what does that really mean? Like- what does co-regulation actually look like in real life?”
Listen to the episode to learn:
What regulation really is
What co-regulation really is
The ‘ingredients’ of co-regulation
An example of in-real-life co-regulation (with an older child)
Active vs. passive co-regulation
You can read a longer summary AND get a full transcript over at https://robyngobbel.com/coregulation
In this podcast, I mention:
Is it really about trust? Or not enough co-regulation? Building the Tower of Self-Regulation
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{REPLAY} Not Flipping Your Lid...When Your Kid Flips Theirs
3 januari 2023 · 35 min
***This podcast episode originally aired on January 5th, 2021*** Lees meer
How do we not flip our lids when our kids are going bananas? It's HARD. Because dysregulation is quite literally contagious!! And if we flip our lids too then it's usually pretty hard to deescalate the situation. Offering connection, regulation, and felt-safety to our kids is a lot easier if we don't flip our lids! (Although for sure- perfection in parenting is never ever ever required and sometimes, I flip my lid, too!)
In this episode, we will look at steps you can take- IN THE MOMENT- of a stressful parenting experience (assuming no one is in literal danger!) that will help you stay regulated (not calm!) so you can tackle the real problem. The real problem is probably your child's regulation, connection, and/or felt-safety!
To read the full summary or the full transcript visit: www.RobynGobbel.com/notflippingyourlid
If you are new to this model of brain-based parenting, you can watch my free 45 minute masterclass on Regulation, Connection, and Felt-Safety here: www.RobynGobbel.com/masterclass
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{REPLAY} Self-Compassion Keeps You Regulated
30 december 2022 · 31 min
***This episode originally aired on December 22nd, 2020*** Lees meer
I love love love talking about self-compassion for two main reasons.
Self-Compassion is solidly anchored in the relational neurosciences- and you know how much I love...and need...for things to be anchored in science.
Self-compassion has tenacity. There's no way out. Self-compassion has an answer for all your reasons why you aren't worthy of self-compassion. I love that about self-compassion (probably because people describe me as tenacious- especially, relationally).
In this episode, we will explore the science of self-compassion. We'll look at why compassion is the neurobiology of change. Why you deserve compassion. Why compassion is how the brain heals and changes. Compassion can feel risky- and I'll give you the science that might help you feel safe enough to take the vulnerable step toward self-compassion.
To read the full summary or the full transcript visit: robyngobbel.com/selfcompassion
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{REPLAY} Why Do I Get So Dysregulated?
27 december 2022 · 39 min
***This episode originally aired on March 2nd, 2021*** Lees meer
Or mad? Or scared? Or overwhelmed? Or shut-down?
Why do I make a mountain out of a mole hill? Why can’t I keep it together?
Being ignored (or yelled at or cussed at or disrespected or refusing to eat or do a chore or or or or the list is endless) is never going to feel good. But- have you ever wondered why your brain goes into full on attacking watch dog mode when the reality is- refusing to do a chore, go to school, or even being ignored or yelled at, isn’t life threatening?
If it isn’t life threatening, why does our brain go to attack mode?
We talk about two reasons in today's episode:
Decreased window of stress tolerance
Implicit memory awakenings
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I talk about a LOT of resources in this episode!
Blog articles:Finding Playfulness
Self-Compassion
No Behavior is Maladaptive
Read the full summary or the full transcript at: https://robyngobbel.com/whydoigetdysregulated/
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{REPLAY} Why Good Times Can Suddenly Go Bad
23 december 2022 · 23 min
***This episode originally aired on May 25th, 2021*** Lees meer
I'll bet you are familiar with this baffling phenomenon.
Everything seems great. Fun! Even laughter and real good times.
And all of the sudden- completely dysregulation and melt-down.
Sometimes even just the anticipation of something fun can lead to dysregulation.
I know that understanding the why doesn't exactly solve this problem, but I definitely find that understanding the why can open up compassion and keep us more regulated. Which then means we can respond instead of react.
In today's episode we are looking at the science behind why this happens.
It's science- not sabotage! Promise!
In this episode you hear me mention a F R E E three-part video series on Trauma, Memory, and Behaviors. You can find that at https://robyngobbel.com/videoseries
If you are ready to take a deep-dive into parenting a child impacted by trauma through the lens of regulation, connection, and felt-safety, you'll want to check out my self-paced, comprehensive, and all online digital course Parenting after Trauma: Minding the Heart and Brain. You can find that at https://robyngobbel.com/parentcourse
Read a full summary or the full transcript at: https://robyngobbel.com/goodtimesgobad/
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{REPLAY} Child Always Dysregulated? Try this!!!
20 december 2022 · 35 min
***This episode originally aired on February 16th, 2021*** Lees meer
Connection. Empathizing. Offering choices. These parenting ideas sound good in theory but if you are living with a child who seems chronically angry or won’t get out of bed or is otherwise pretty much always unhappy or dysregulated- none of those parenting suggestions seem to do much good. So…what should you do instead???
This episode takes you through the three places I always recommend parents start first when they are trying to support their child who feels chronically dysregulated.
1. Food, water, and movement
2. Structure, routing, and predictability
3. Stick closeThese may or may not help your child to decrease their level of arousal and dysregulation but they are always where I recommend parents start first!
Read a full summary or the full transcript at: www.RobynGobbel.com/alwaysdysegulated
For an introduction to tracking arousal instead of behavior, read this blog: www.RobynGobbel.com/watchdogbrain or listen to episode 4
Parenting after Trauma: Minding the Heart and Brain online course: www.RobynGobbel.com/parentcourse
You can watch the free masterclass on Regulation, Connection, and Felt-Safety right on my website! www.RobynGobbel.com/masterclass
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Ep. 106: Bringing Regulation to Educators with Emily Daniels
13 december 2022 · 1 uur 6 min
A conversation with Emily Daniels who has developed a trauma-informed training for schools that equips teachers to cultivate conditions for felt-safety in the classroom. Lees meer
In this episode, you’ll learn:
What's happening in schools now
How felt-safety is different than what we usually think about in regards to school safety
Why we should offer an abundance of cues of safety in this time of politicization and mass shootings
Why it's important for educators to befriend their nervous systems first
Previous podcast interview with Emily Daniels: https://robyngobbel.com/regulatedclassroom/
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Emily's book and resources: https://regulatedclassroom.com/collections/the-regulated-classroom
Read a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/regulatedclassroom2
Connect with Emily here:
Website: https://regulatedclassroom.com/
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Ep. 105: Caring for our Tender Parts with Ilyse Kennedy
6 december 2022 · 47 min
An interview with Ilyse Kennedy, author of The Tender Parts about how parts work can help us build trust in how our inner system (and our children's systems) are unfolding and healing. Lees meer
In this episode, you’ll learn:
About Internal Family Systems as a therapy modality and way of being
Some of the language used to describe parts work
How parts work can help parents
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Ilyse's book The Tender Parts
Find on Amazon
Upcoming training
Presence and Patience
Read a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/tenderparts
Connect with Ilyse here:
Website: www.movingpartspsychotherapy.com
Instagram: @MovingPartsPsychotherapy
Facebook: @MovingPartsPsychotherapy
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Ep. 104: Being Adopted with Amy Wilkerson
29 november 2022 · 46 min
A transnational and transracial adoptee, therapist and author of Being Adopted, discusses the importance of providing authentic representation and accurate reflection of the adoption experience Lees meer
In this episode, you’ll learn:
The importance of providing an authentic mirror for little adoptees
How we can allow parts of your child's spirit to breathe
Why "fixing it" isn't the most powerful intervention
How to reconcile when child hasn't had mirroring from their community
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Amy's book Being Adopted
Find on Amazon
Read a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/beingadopted
Connect with Amy here:
Website: www.growhealblossom.com
Instagram: www.growhealblossom.comWe can't wait to review your application for the BBTI's Immersion Program for Professionals.
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Ep. 103: How to be a Cycle Breaker with Mindi Kessler
22 november 2022 · 48 min
Mindi Kessler, therapist and author of Cycle Breaker: A Guide To Transcending Childhood Trauma. talks about breaking general cycles of abuse and trauma Lees meer
In this episode, you’ll learn:
What is a trauma reenactment
How our children trigger our own childhood wounds
Ways to begin healing ourselves
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Mindi’s new book, Cycle Breaker
Find on Amazon
Emotional Freedom Techique
Brad Yates on Youtube
Read a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/cyclebreaker
Connect with Mindi here:
https://www.mindikessler.com/
https://www.instagram.com/mindikessler/We can't wait to review your application for the BBTI's Immersion Program for Professionals.
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Ep. 102: Telling the Truth to Adopted Kids- Even When it's Hard with guest Marcella Moslow
15 november 2022 · 57 min
In this episode, you’ll learn: Lees meer
How to talk with kids about tricky topics like
Why they were relinquished for adoption
Why they can’t see their family
Why their family doesn’t want to see them
Why their family has gone on to have a new family
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Marcella’s new podcast! Adoptees DishListen on Spotify
Follow on Instagram
Robyn’s podcast series on memory
https://robyngobbel.com/traumamemorybehavior/
https://robyngobbel.com/mentalmodels/
Robyn’s eBook and video series on memory
https://robyngobbel.com/course/traumamemorybehaviors/
Read a summary or the full transcript at: https://robyngobbel.com/adoptiontruth
Connect with Marcella here:
https://marcellamoslow.com
On Instagram at @marcellamoslowWe can't wait to review your application for the BBTI's Immersion Program for Professionals.
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Ep. 101: How to Influence- Not Control- Behavior
8 november 2022 · 26 min
Understanding the difference between having influence over behavior vs. control can help you get clear on what to focus on. Lees meer
One of the trickier parts of the work I do is talking so much with parents about attachment, their role in co-regulation, and felt-safety, without snagging into parent’s shame about every parent's deepest worry- that their child’s baffling behaviors are all their fault.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
What it means to influence, not control
What your real responsibility is in influencing behavior
Responsibility does not equal blame
How to acknowledge influence without shame
Read a summary or the full transcript at:
robyngobbel.com/influencebehaviorsWe can't wait to review your application for the BBTI's Immersion Program for Professionals.
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Ep. 100: What Does it Mean to Be With?
1 november 2022 · 33 min
We talk about ‘being with’ our kids and each other and our clients. Lees meer
But what does it mean to be with?
And why is it important?
In this episode, you’ll learn:
What it means to 'be with'
Why it matters
What is require to be with
The role of 'tools' in being with
Read a summary or the full transcript at:
robyngobbel.com/beingwithkids
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Ep. 99: Loving Someone with Baffling Behaviors (& a neuroimmune condition)
25 oktober 2022 · 58 min
This is episode 3 in a 3-part series on neuroimmune conditions. Lees meer
Today I'm bringing to you a solo-episode about what it's been like to love someone and be in a committed relationsihp with someone who has big, baffling behaviors.
Last week, I introduced you to my husband Ed and he described his experience with chronic Lyme disease, nervous system dysregulation, and yes- big, baffling behaviors.
Those of us who love people with big, baffling behaviors have our own unique and oftentimes traumatic journey.
I know my journey is very different than yours, but I hope that there's moment or two in this episode where you feel seen and less alone.
Thank you for offering my family the felt safety to record these episodes for you.
Read a summary or the full transcript at:
https://robyngobbel.com/neuroimmunecaregiverResources
PANDAS physician network https://www.pandasppn.org/
Neuroimmune Foundation https://neuroimmune.org/
ASPIRE: The Alliance to Solve PANS and Immune Related Encephalopathies https://aspire.care/We can't wait to review your application for the BBTI's Immersion Program for Professionals.
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Ep. 98: From the Inside Out- My husband's journey with a neuroimmune condition
18 oktober 2022 · 53 min
I invited an adult with a neuroimmune condition onto the podcast to discuss his experience and provide listeners with some insight on what children with PANS/PANDAS and other neuroimmune conditions may not have the words to describe. This special guest happens to be my husband, Ed. This episode is part 2 in a 3 part series. Next week, you'll hear me discuss my experience as a caregiver. Lees meer
In this episode, you’ll learn:
What a child with a vulnerable nervous system may long for you to know, but doesn't have the ability to tell you verbally
What kind of caregiver response really helps (sometimes)
How the Dysregulation - Shame Cycle feels
Read a summary or the full transcript on my website: https://robyngobbel.com/neuroimmuneinsideout
Resources
PANDAS physician network https://www.pandasppn.org/
Neuroimmune Foundation https://neuroimmune.org/
ASPIRE: The Alliance to Solve PANS and Immune Related Encephalopathies https://aspire.care/
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Ep. 97: Neuroimmune Disorders and Big, Baffling Behaviors with Dr. Qazi Javed
11 oktober 2022 · 1 uur 4 min
The first episode in a three-episode series on neuroimmune disorders and big, baffling behaviors. Even if you don't suspect neuroimmune disorders are impacting your family, I invite you to keep listening! Lees meer
Today's discussion with Dr. Qazi Javed highlights the complex relationship between trauma, vulnerable nervous systems, baffling behaviors, and neuroimmune disorders.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Common symptoms
When to get assessed- especially if your child has a history of trauma or other causes that could lead to nervous system vulnerabilities
How to get assessed/how to find a provider
Read a summary and full episode transcript at: https://robyngobbel.com/neuroimmune/
Resources
PANDAS physician network https://www.pandasppn.org/
Neuroimmune Foundation https://neuroimmune.org/
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Ep. 96: What to do about Manipulation
3 oktober 2022 · 40 min
No one likes to feel manipulated. It feels gross and yucky and we instinctively want it to stop. Lees meer
In this episode, you’ll learn:
What manipulation really is
Why children manipulate
How you can help your child find their voice and decrease manipulation
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{BONUS} Helping Kids with Toxic Shame
30 september 2022 · 14 min
A short note from Robyn... Lees meer
This episode is a recording of a social media post and a post I made in The Club a while back.
Loving someone who is held captive by toxic shame is so so hard. I hope this short episode gives you a little understanding of toxic shame and self-hatred, as well as a few practical ideas about how to be with a child who is stuck in a pit of toxic shame.
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Ep. 95: When Parenting is Traumatic
27 september 2022 · 39 min
No matter how much effort we put into understanding behavior, seeing our kids for who they truly are, and connecting with their infinite worth, for those navigating the baffling behaviors of kids who have experienced trauma, or have sensitized stress response systems and/or vulnerable nervous systems, parenting can be traumatic Lees meer
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why the experience of trauma in parenting isn't being talked about
The kinds of experiences that make parenting traumatic
Signs of toxic stress and trauma in parenting
Ways to get your nervous system what it needs to heal
Read a summary and full episode transcript at: https://robyngobbel.com/parentingistraumatic
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{BONUS} When Parenting Advice Hurts
23 september 2022 · 11 min
A short note from Robyn... Lees meer
This episode is a recording of an email I previously sent out.
Sometimes good parenting advice can actually leave us feeling more alone, isolated, and yes- hurt.
It's not bad advice. It's just not enough.
In this episode I mention my interview with Marshall Lyles about Ableism and Parenting, as well as my ow memes and reels (LOL- oh the irony) over on Instagram.
Read the transcript at https://robyngobbel.com/whenparentingadvicehurts/
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Ep. 94: Stress Response System
20 september 2022 · 44 min
Another important piece of understanding what is underneath your child's big, baffling behaviors is the Stress Response System. Our Stress Response System plays a huge role in our children's behaviors and also how we perceive those behaviors. Lees meer
In this episode, you’ll learn:
What stress is and how to differentiate good stress from bad stress
The impact of trauma and toxic stress to the Stress Response System
How to build resilience in a sensitized Stress Response System
A reframe to shift your own Stress Response System
Read a summary and full episode transcript at: https://robyngobbel.com/stressresponse/
Check out my recent series on Building the Foundation of the Brain mentioned in this podcast HERE
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{BONUS} A Kayak Fell on My Head
16 september 2022 · 10 min
A short note from Robyn... Lees meer
This episode is a recording of an email I previously sent out.
New skills- like hoisting a kayak over your head or staying regulated in the face of utter chaos- take a lot of practice.
Sometimes shame gets in the way of continuing to practice, and I easily feel the tug toward 'it's too hard. I should give up...'
It is hard. Sometimes you need to rest. Sometimes you can keep going. Sometimes a kayak falls on my head.
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Ep. 93: Help for Sensory & Emotional Challenges with Jessica Sinarski
13 september 2022 · 54 min
Jessica Sinarski is a highly sought-after therapist, speaker, and change-maker. Extensive post-graduate training and 15+ years as a clinician and educator led her to create the resource and training platform–BraveBrains. She makes brain science practical, helping parents and professionals become healers for hurting children. She is the author of the award-winning Riley the Brave series, Hello, Anger, and more. Lees meer
I asked Jessica to come on the podcast to talk about her newest Riley the Brave children's book and parent resource all about sensory processing challenges.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
What our senses are (There's more than the 5 you learned in kindergarten!)
How our experience of our senses impacts behavior
Ways to empower your child to get their sensory needs met
Riley the Brave's Sensational Senses will be released on October 6th, 2022. You can preorder now through October 5th and receive special bonuses at https://www.rileythebrave.org/senses. You can also find Jessica at http://bravebrains.com/blog/ and learn more about her course for therapists at https://bravebrains.com/moving-beyond-trauma-informed/
Read a summary and full episode transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/senses
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{BONUS} But- have you grieved?
9 september 2022 · 12 min
This episode is a recording of an email I sent out yesterday. Lees meer
More people have responded to this email than ever before, so I wanted it to reach as many people as possible.
There is much grief in loving someone who struggles. Have you grieved?
https://robyngobbel.com/haveyougrieved
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Ep. 92: Child Can't Handle No
6 september 2022 · 39 min
When your child can't handle hearing 'NO' or gets really dysregulated when a boundary is set, it can be really hard on the whole family. Understanding the role of Frustration Tolerance in your child's reaction to hearing 'NO' can help you set them up for growing this developmental skill. Lees meer
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why some kids are delayed in developing this complex developmental skill
The impact of trauma on frustration tolerance
The role of mental models and memory processing in developing frustration tolerance
How we can set our kids up to grow this developmental skill
Read a summary and full episode transcript at: https://robyngobbel.com/frustrationtolerance/
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Ep. 91: Trauma, Memory, Behavior Part 2- Mental Models and Behavior
30 augustus 2022 · 50 min
Understanding your child's Mental Models, a specific kind of Implicit Memory, can help you make sense of your child's behaviors and helps you know what experiences they need from you to change their beliefs about themselves, relationships, and their sense of safety in the world. Lees meer
In this episode, you’ll learn:
What a Mental Model is and how it influences our perceptions and behaviors
How our Mental Models are developed
What conditions can create Mental Models that contribute to big, baffling behaviors
How we can change Mental Models
How to discover your child's Mental Models
Read the summary or full transcript at https://robyngobbel.com/mentalmodels
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Ep. 90: How Trauma Impacts Memory and Behavior
23 augustus 2022 · 1 uur 13 min
What if understanding memory science and the impact of trauma on memory processing would help our children’s behaviors make sense? Lees meer
You know trauma impacts behavior, but there's a fascinating link between trauma and memory that will give you an even greater understanding of what's shaping your child's confusing behaviors. Understanding memory science helps you respond with more compassion, empathy and boundaries.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Complex memory science in a way that makes sense
What happens when memory processing is disrupted by trauma
Why disruptions in memory processing lead to difficult behaviors
Clarity on what our children need in order to ‘jump start’ the memory processing system and ultimately decrease difficult behaviors
Read a summary of this episode and access the full show notes at RobynGobbel.com/TraumaMemoryBehavior
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Ep. 89: Facing Impossible Decisions Big & Small with Guest Laura Strohm
16 augustus 2022 · 1 uur
Laura Strohm, LCSW is a therapist, colleague and dear friend. If you are in The Club or Being With, you already know Laura is my right hand everything. I asked Laura to come on the podcast to discuss a profound post she recently made in The Club Forum about impossible questions, impossible situations, and impossible decisions. You know, the kind of decisions and circumstances that those of you who are parenting kids with histories of trauma, kids with big, baffling behaviors, kids with vulnerable nervous systems, are facing constantly. Laura's words resonated so deeply for me and also for everybody in The Club, I really wanted to share this with as many humans as possible. Lees meer
In this episode, Laura and I discuss
What it really feels like to face impossible questions, situations and decisions
How connection helps us anchor and tolerate the impossible, even when there are no right answers
The quality of grief and gratitude that can arise in those moments
Read a summary of this episode and access the full show notes at RobynGobbel.com/Impossible
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Ep. 88: How to Parent a Bottomless Pit of Needs
9 augustus 2022 · 37 min
Sometimes it feels like our kids have a hole in the bottom of their heart. No matter how much love and attention is put in, it seems like it’s never ever enough. Lees meer
These kids cannot hold onto the feeling of presence and connection. When it’s there, it’s great. When it’s not, it’s like it was never there to begin with and they’ll never get it again. They don’t have a string that connects them to all the moments of connection they’ve had in the past and all the moments they will have in the future.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
What whining and clinging behavior means
Why some kids seem like a bottomless pit of needs
Steps to fill your child’s connection cup
Read a summary of this episode and access the full show notes at: RobynGobbel.com/BottomlessPit
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Ep. 87: Creating Brave Spaces with Selma Bacevac
2 augustus 2022 · 51 min
Selma Bacevac is a psychotherapist, author, and coach who specializes in helping Balkan women and parents heal from trauma and anxiety. She is an expert in healing parent/child relationships. You’ll love listening to Selma because she really just embodies secure attachment. Lees meer
In this episode, you’ll learn
What a brave space is
How importance brave spaces are in parent/child relationships
The inspiration behind Selma’s new children’s book
You can read a longer summary AND get a full transcript over at https://robyngobbel.com/bravespace
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{BONUS} Writing My Book: Behind the Scenes
31 juli 2022 · 37 min
I submitted my book on June 30, 2022 after 18 months of actively writing THIS book. Lees meer
The story of this book actually starts with me writing another book in 2020. A book that isn't done but I do hope I'll finish and publish one day!
Writing a book was a lot and I really wanted to just process the whole experience with you.
And maybe you want to write a book and this episode will demystify the process for you a bit.
I hope you enjoy the episode :) Send me an email and tell me what you think!
In this episode, I mention Bethany Saltman who was on my podcast last year. Check it out here: https://robyngobbel.com/strangesituation/
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Ep. 86: When Your Child Doesn’t Participate in Therapy
26 juli 2022 · 40 min
I know it feels very frustrating when you find a therapist, arrange your schedule, and find a way to pay for therapy only for your child to not participate. Often parents ask me how to get their child to participate or what to do if their child won’t participate. Lees meer
But actually what we really need to talk about is what does it look like to participate- or not- in therapy. Especially as a child.
In this episode, we’ll talk about
What therapy really is
What the right pace is for your child
How it’s not possible for your child to not participate (if the therapist is prioritizing safety)
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Ep. 85: Ableism in Trauma Informed Parenting with Guest- Marshall Lyles
19 juli 2022 · 1 uur 17 min
Marshall Lyles is a therapist, author, poet, trainer, advocate, and thought-leader. Mostly though, he is a dear friend. Lees meer
I asked Marshall to come on the podcast to talk about disability, ableism, and parenting kids with vulnerable nervous systems.
I couldn’t possibly capture the beauty of my conversation with Marshall in a short summary. This is an episode you absolutely want to listen to in order to get the full impact.
You can read a longer summary AND get a full transcript over at https://robyngobbel.com/ableisminparenting
In this episode, Marshall and I discuss:
The definition of disability
The definition of ableism
Trauma Informed Care and ableism
How ableism shows up in parenting kids with invisible, brain-based differences
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Ep. 84: Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior
12 juli 2022 · 43 min
Behavior is just what we see on the outside that tells us about what’s happening on the inside. Lees meer
If we want to change behavior, we have to change what’s driving the behavior.
This approach to behavior change rests on the idea that regulated, connected kids who feel safe behave well. If you’re curious about how I came to that conclusion, you can watch my free masterclass and download the free eBook on Focus on the Nervous System!
How many times have you felt confused because of conflicting parenting advice?
Or how often has good parenting advice worked- but only some of the time?
That’s because parenting advice is aimed at stopping a behavior. But…Read a summary of this episode and access the full show notes at: RobynGobbel.com/ChangeBehavior
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Ep. 83: How to Change People Pleasing Behavior
5 juli 2022 · 38 min
People pleasing is different from cooperation. Lees meer
People pleasing is different from cooperation.
Cooperation = connection, no loss of autonomy, requires frustration tolerance
People Pleasing = abandoning self because it is too scary or uncomfortable to regulate through the rupture in the relationship.
People pleasing is a stress-response. It’s a behavior that the “Trickster” possum uses when the possum pathway is activated.
If you aren’t sure what I mean by possum pathway, check out this podcast/blog: https://robyngobbel.com/possumbrain
I also describe the owl, watchdog, and possum brain in my free eBook, Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior
Some folks call this people-pleasing behavior “fawn.”
I call this “trickster” behavior.
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{REPLAY} How The Brainstem Heals
28 juni 2022 · 35 min
"The brainstem is developed, soothed, and repaired through experiences that are rhythmic, repetitive, relational, and somatosensory" ~ Bruce Perry, MD, PhD Lees meer
This is part 3 of the Strengthening the Foundation of the Brain series.
The brainstem is the lowest, most inside region of the brain. It sits at the base of the brain and connects the skull brain to the spinal cord. The brainstem is the first part of the brain to really wire up, flourishing with neural connections. The brainstem is organizing and developing in utero and is working pretty effectively in healthy, full term infants.
The brainstem is responsible for all the things our brain and body does automatically- in fact, it's called the autonomic nervous system.
Heart rate, respiration, and most importantly in this Strengthening the Foundation for the Brain series- the regulation of energy and arousal in the nervous system.
It can be easy to overlook the relationship between energy, arousal, and behavior because we've been taught to believe the behavior is largely deliberate, intentionally, and something we do with a lot of thinking.
The brainstem is organized and regulated- healed- through experiences that are rhythmic, repetitive, relational, somatosensory!
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{REPLAY} From Correction to Connection Based Parenting: This Dad's Journey
21 juni 2022 · 1 uur 1 min
JD Wilson- dad and host of the Empowered to Connect Podcast- believed that his reputation as a 'legend' when he was baby-sitting other people's kids meant he'd be a rock star parent. Lees meer
Then he actually became a parent :) and we all know how that went!
JD and his wife turned to connected parenting because they didn’t know what else to do. Their tools weren’t working, the way that they were parented weren’t working, and he wanted to learn a different way.
It wasn’t easy. In fact, JD said “for the first couple years of shifting our parenting, it felt like we were running through a swamp.” It was just so hard to actually put the connected parenting ideals into practice.
JD bravely, boldly, humbly, and humorously shares his journey from spankings to being the co-host of a connected parenting podcast, working and supporting other parents who are also making the journey from punitive to connection based parenting both through the podcast and his work at Memphis Family Connection Center.
We're keeping it real here today, and I hope you love JD and his story as much as I do.
If you'd like to read a thorough summary of episode, CLICK HERE.
You can find the Empowered to Connect podcast here: https://empoweredtoconnect.org/podcast/ or simply search for Empowered to Connect wherever you listen to podcasts!
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{REPLAY} Lacy Alana With Hope: Even When Things Seem Hopeless
14 juni 2022 · 1 uur 17 min
Lacy Alana beautifully reminds us that we don’t have to be perfect. Our messiness can meet each other’s messiness. We can welcome our kids’ messiness, and find the strength to keep welcoming it…even when it seems like nothing is working. Lees meer
Lacy is a therapist, program developer, trapeze artist, and improv genius who comes to the podcast as an adult who understands childhood trauma because she experienced childhood trauma, including being a youth who was in out-of-home care as a teenager. Lacy wanted to come on as a person who offers hope for all the parents and professionals out there walking this hard path of caring for a child impacted by trauma.
Find Lacy and all the amazing work she is doing in the world at www.YesAndBrain.com.
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{REPLAY} Mark Vatsaas Helps Parents Feel Seen and Heard
7 juni 2022 · 1 uur 30 min
It's hard to write a summary of this episode because it is so rich with goodness. Lees meer
Mark Vatsaas is a dad and parent coach for parents of kids with challenging behaviors. He's compassionate, clear, articulate, and has a knack for seeing straight through to the heart of the manner (that's my observation of him!!)
There are so many brilliant sound bytes in this episode. It's long but you are going to want to listen to the whole thing.
Mark gives us a peek into his process as a parent coach and describes how he often sees these four themes emerge in his work with struggling parents:
1. Attachment and our drive for survival
2. How our emotions help us navigate our world
3. Defendedness
4. How parents show up- and specifically how they send cues of safety and connection to their childrenThere are a few tears, some laughter, and by the end you will understand by Mark's business is called Seen and Heard. Just listening to this episode will help you feel both seen and heard. Promise.
To learn more about Mark's work, head to www.SeenandHeard.coach. He offers a free 90 minute consultation for parents- no obligation to schedule any additional sessions.
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Ep. 82: Scaffolding is a Form of Co-Regulation
31 mei 2022 · 48 min
What does my child need for their success to be inevitable? Lees meer
If I wanted to paint the top of a 20 foot wall, I’d rent some scaffolding. Scaffolding makes the floor higher and would get me as close to the top of the wall as I needed.
The scaffolding would help make my success inevitable. It’s not the only thing I need to be successful (paint would come in handy!), but it’s a really important piece.
In parenting, scaffolding is the support that we put in place that allows our children to be successful. Then, slowly, thoughtful, and sequentially, we decrease the amount of external support needed as our children develop that capacity to be successful on their own.
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Ep. 81: What Does Co-Regulation Really Look Like?
24 mei 2022 · 55 min
There’s a lot of confusion about what co-regulation really is. Parents often say to me something like “OK, I get it- I’m supposed to give co-regulation instead of a consequence. But- what does that really mean? Like- what does co-regulation actually look like in real life?” Lees meer
Listen to the episode to learn:
What regulation really is
What co-regulation really is
The ‘ingredients’ of co-regulation
An example of in-real-life co-regulation (with an older child)
Active vs. passive co-regulation
In this podcast, I mention:
Is it really about trust? Or not enough co-regulation? Building the Tower of Self-Regulation
Regulation Does Not Equal CalmFREE
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Ep. 80: What To Do After We Mess Up (Rupture Repair!)
17 mei 2022 · 1 uur 1 min
Our kids don’t need us to be perfect. Not only do they not need us to be perfect, it would actually be bad for them if we were. Lees meer
In fact, research shows parents are in attunement with their children about 30% of the time. 30%! That’s it!
When I teach, I often reassure parents that ⅓ of their interactions with their child are “getting it right.” About ⅓ of the time they are “getting it wrong” (whatever that even means- we all have our own, valid definitions). The rest? The remaining ⅓? Well ideally, the other ⅓ is spent in repair.
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REPLAY: Bonnie Badenoch on Healing Attachment with Safety and Presence
10 mei 2022 · 58 min
Today we wrap up this month's focus on attachment with my dear mentor and friend, Bonnie Badenoch. Lees meer
Bonnie Badenoch, PhD, LMFT is a thought-leader in the relational neurosciences. When I think about her contribution to this emerging field of study, I think ‘integrator.’ Bonnie has helped us all feel into the many different strands that are woven together to become what we now call relational neuroscience- interpersonal neurobiology, affect regulation theory, polyvagal theory, memory reconsolidation theory, attachment theory, and more. Bonnie has taken the science and created space for clinicians to make meaning of how the science comes alive in us and in our work with clients.
Bonnie knows the science of relationships better than anyone I know, but more than that she knows relationships. She’s been an integral part of my own journey- without Bonnie there certainly would not have been this attachment series or the Brilliance of Attachment eBook.
Bonnie is the author of three books- Bing a Brain Wise Therapist, The Brain-Savvy Therapist’s Work Book, and her newest book, Heart of Trauma. If you want to learn more about the amazing work Bonnie does in the world, head over to the website www.NurturingtheHeart.com
If you'd rather read a summary of the interview instead of listening on the podcast, you can head over to my blog https://robyngobbel.com/bonniebadenoch
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REPLAY: How Attachment Changes
3 mei 2022 · 38 min
Part 6 of 6 in the June series on attachment! Lees meer
The part you've probably been waiting for: how does attachment change?
If you haven't caught the previous five episodes in this series on attachment, be sure to check them out.
In this episode, we look at
How important it is to recognize insecure attachment as protective, trusting in the truth that things only change once we stop trying to make them change
What was needed at the time- but not received- for each stream of insecure attachment
How to meet that need now, creating a possible experience for that experience in attachment to shift toward security
The power of rupture and repair in shift toward secure attachment
There’s a lot in this one episode and the whole six-part series! I made the series into a beautiful eBook so you don’t have to take notes and you can review it as often as you want. To download the F R E E ebook, click here: https://robyngobbel.com/ebook
Or even better!!! Go to my website right away and download the free eBook!!!
Yup!! I took this entire six part series and had it beautifully and professional designed into an eBook! You can download it, read it slowly, read it repeatedly- whatever you want.
Head over to https://robyngobbel.com/ebook to receive the free download.
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REPLAY: The Tragedy of Disorganized Attachment
26 april 2022 · 34 min
***Possible Trigger Warning*** Lees meer
Learning about disorganized attachment might feel overwhelming and bring up uncomfortable feelings. Listen in a place and at a time you can take breaks and seek regulation. Titrate yourself! Maybe read the article on the blog instead of listening to the podcast. www.RobynGobbel.com/disorganizedattachment
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Another episode in the June series on attachment!
Today is all about disorganized attachment. If you haven't caught the previous four episodes in this series on attachment, be sure to check them out.
In this episode, we look at
What happens when a baby's attachment system has them fleeing toward their caregiver when they are afraid, but the caregiver is who is causing the fright
Why disorganized is disorganized- it's the only attachment 'style' that isn't organized
The kinds of experiences an infant can experience as disorganizing
There’s a lot in this one episode and the whole six-part series! I made the series into a beautiful eBook so you don’t have to take notes and you can review it as often as you want. To download the F R E E ebook, click here: https://robyngobbel.com/ebook
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REPLAY: A Closer Look at Insecure Avoidant Attachment
19 april 2022 · 26 min
Another episode in the June series on attachment! Lees meer
Today is all about insecure avoidant attachment.
Avoidant attachment is in the category of 'organized' attachment- meaning, the infant figures out an organized way to get their attachment needs met in the best way possible. So smart!
In this episode, we look at
The behavior patterns that lead to avoidant attachment
The attachment needs of connection and autonomy, and which one is harder for babies with avoidant attachment
Avoidant attachment impact on regulation
The hope versus the expectation of avoidant attachment
There’s a lot in this one episode and the whole six-part series! I made the series into a beautiful eBook so you don’t have to take notes and you can review it as often as you want. To download the F R E E ebook, click here: https://robyngobbel.com/ebook
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REPLAY: A Closer Look at Insecure Anxious Attachment
12 april 2022 · 31 min
Another episode in the June series on attachment! Lees meer
Today is all about insecure anxious attachment.
Anxious attachment is in the category of 'organized' attachment- meaning, the infant figures out an organized way to get their attachment needs met in the best way possible. So smart!
In this episode, we look at
The behavior patterns that lead to anxious attachment
The attachment needs of connection and autonomy, and which one is harder for babies with anxious attachment
Anxious attachment impact on regulation
The hope versus the expectation of anxious attachment
There’s a lot in this one episode and the whole six-part series! I made the series into a beautiful eBook so you don’t have to take notes and you can review it as often as you want. To download the F R E E ebook, click here: https://robyngobbel.com/ebook
Hit subscribe to Parenting after Trauma in your podcast player so you don't miss anything in this monthly focus on attachment! In the next episode, we'll explore insecure attachment!
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REPLAY: A Closer Look at Secure Attachment
5 april 2022 · 38 min
Here we are with the THIRD episode in this monthly focus on attachment! Lees meer
Today is allllll about secure attachment.
85% of the time, a child’s attachment experience will parallel the working model of attachment of the principal person caring for her. ~Eric Hesse
Whoa. Well, if that's the case, the obviously we have to first talk about attachment in adults and caregivers.
In this episode we look at five characteristics of an adult with secure attachment.
Then we look at some of the characteristics of a child with secure attachment.
THEN we look at the inner working model that develops from secure attachment.
There’s a lot in this one episode and the whole six-part series! I made the series into a beautiful eBook so you don’t have to take notes and you can review it as often as you want. To download the F R E E ebook, click here: https://robyngobbel.com/ebook
Hit subscribe to Parenting after Trauma in your podcast player so you don't miss anything in this monthly focus on attachment! Next week, we'll explore insecure attachment!
We can't wait to review your application for the BBTI's Immersion Program for Professionals.
Go now to RobynGobbel.com/apply .
Applications are already streaming in and registration is starting to fill up!
We are waiting to read your application for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals!
RobynGobbel.com/immersion for every detail about the program you could be curious about!
Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book
Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub
Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion
Follow Me On:
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Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
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LOTS & LOT…