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TPP 312: Todd Adams on How Men Can Better Show Up for Their Kids and Families
22 november 2022 · 41 min
This episode explores the subject of vulnerability, male culture, and parenting specifically in the context of heteronormative relationships and how men can show up as better dads to their differently wired children. And I have the perfect guest to explore this topic with — Todd Adams, half of the duo of Zen Parenting Radio, and a leadership coach for men and the executive director of the international men’s organization, Men Living.
Todd and I looked at the societal norms and pressures on men that get in the way of their being vulnerable in their relationships, feel more connected at home, and hold emotional space for their families, especially in families with neurodivergent kids and where the demands on relationships (emotionally, mentally, and physically) may be more intense. We also talked about what women can do to support and encourage their male partners to do inner work and show up as dads in a way that will better support their relationships and their family as a whole.
Things you'll learn from this episode Lees meerWhat the a “man box” is (and how it differs from “toxic masculinity”)
The barriers in a heteronormative relationship that stand in the way of men feeling connected, including the additional challenges when raising a differently wired child
How families can benefit from men showing up and being more vulnerable in their relationships
What women can do to encourage their male partners to do the work and how they can support them through it
How dads can find other like-minded dads and connect with them
Resources mentioned for dads, the "man box" and how men can better show up for their kids and families
Men Living
Zen Parenting Radio (Todd and Cathy Adams’ podcast)
Todd Adam’s Coaching Site
Getting Aligned Through Parenting and Marriage Challenges, with Todd and Cathy Adams (Tilt Parenting Podcast)
Cathy Adams on Zen Parenting in an Unpredictable World
The ManKind Project
The Mask You Live In
Jennifer Siebel Newsom
A New Earth: Awakening to …
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TPP 145a: What Coaches Need to Understand About Their Differently Wired Athletes
18 november 2022 · 41 min
If you have a differently wired child who is athletic and/or is into sports, this episode is for you. My guest is Susan Stout, the founder Own Beat Athlete, a new resource aimed at helping athletic coaches understand their athletes who march to a different beat. Susan knows from personal experience as an athlete herself, a former coach, and the parent of an athletic differently wired child, that many great athletes can be challenging to coach because of their wiring—they can be easily frustrated, disruptive, forgetful, inconsistent. But she also knows that they can be a teams’ greatest asset. Susan’s goal is to equip others with what she wishes she knew when she was a coach, and support and bring out the best in the many athletes who didn’t fit the mold, with a specific focus on athletes with ADHD, learning differences, and anxiety.
This is a really interesting conversation and Susan’s resources are a great starting point for listeners who want to bridge that gap of knowledge between their child’s behavior and their sports coach. I hope you enjoy it.
Susan Stout is an advocate for athletes who are wired differently and struggle to participate or reach their potential in sports. She specializes in ADHD, learning differences and anxiety. Susan is the founder of Own Beat Athlete, a project to provide athletic coaches with the understanding and tools they need to help their differently wired athletes thrive. She brings to the work her perspective as a swimmer, coach, teacher, lawyer and mom to an avid and talented young athlete with ADHD and dyslexia. Lees meerThings you’ll learn from this episode
How and when parents should let athletic coaches know about a child’s wiring
What kind of unique gifts differently wired athletes bring to their sports
What the common challenges are for differently wired kids participating in sports
How parents can talk with their kids about learning how to self-advocate for themselves with their coaches
Susan’s thoughts on how willing coaches …
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TPP 311: Deb Dana on Befriending Our Nervous System Using Polyvagal Theory
15 november 2022 · 43 min
If you are a regular listener of this show, you will be familiar with Polyvagal Theory, as it’s coming up in multiple interviews. But this episode is the first one dedicated solely to exploring this powerful theory. And to explore it with us, I’m thrilled to be talking with Deb Dana, a clinician, consultant, and author who is known for being a translator of Polyvagal Theory, which was developed by Dr. Stephen Porges in the mid-1990s.
In this episode, Deb Dana gives us a primer of the key points of Polyvagal Theory, and in doing so, explains the ways in which it can support the way we parent our differently-wired kids. Deb explains the nervous system pathways, why co-regulation is essential to our survival, what befriending and listening to our autonomic nervous system looks like in practice, and the benefits of having a breathing practice. We also talk about why these concepts can change our relationships to our daily life even if our circumstances stay the same.
Deb Dana, LCSW is a clinician, consultant and author specializing in complex trauma. Her work is focused on using the lens of Polyvagal Theory to understand and resolve the impact of trauma, and creating ways of working that honor the role of the autonomic nervous system. She is a founding member of the Polyvagal Institute, consultant to Khiron Clinics, advisor to Unyte, and developer of the signature Rhythm of Regulation Clinical Training Series. Deb is well known for translating Polyvagal Theory into a language and application that is both understandable and accessible for clinicians and curious people alike.
Deb’s clinical work published with W.W. Norton includes The Polyvagal Theory in Therapy: Engaging the Rhythm of Regulation, Polyvagal Exercises for Safety and Connection: 50 Client Centered Practices, the Polyvagal Flip Chart: Understanding the Science of Safety and the Polyvagal Card Deck: 58 Practices for Calm and Change.
Things you'll learn from this episode
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TPP 052a: Dietitian and Nutritionist Jill Castle with the Facts About ADHD and Nutrition
11 november 2022 · 41 min
For this episode about ADHD and nutrition, I spoke with one of America’s leading experts in the field of childhood nutrition, Jill Castle. Jill is a registered dietician / nutritionist with over twenty-five years of experience working with babies, toddlers, children, and teens, in a variety of settings from private practice and consulting to author and writer. Her specialty is taking the current research in pediatric nutrition and shaping it into practical, sane advice for parents and healthcare providers. Jill writes the blog, “Just the Right Bite” and hosts a childhood nutrition podcast called The Nourished Child.
In today’s conversation, Jill shares her insights about what we know about the relationship between ADHD and nutrition, the impact of nutritional deficiencies in kids, and how to not get overwhelmed at the thought of making changes in your family and, more specifically, your child’s diet. She also shares some great tips for how to get started in making small changes that can have a big impact. Jill truly is an expert in her field, and I learned a lot in this conversation. I hope you enjoy it!
Jill Castle is a registered dietitian/nutritionist and a childhood nutrition expert. With over 25 years of experience with babies, toddlers, children and teens, in a variety of settings from private practice and consulting to author and writer, and as a mother of 4, Jill is sought after as one of America’s leading experts in the field of childhood nutrition.
Things you’ll learn from this episode Lees meerWhat the current research says about ADHD and nutrition
The common types of nutritional challenges and deficiencies faced by kids with ADHD
How to address nutritional concerns with your child without getting overwhelmed
Thoughts on dealing with shame or guilt surrounding a child’s nutritional habits
Whether or not good nutrition can be a substitute for medication when it comes to treating a child with ADHD
Tips for making small, positive nutritional changes in your ho…
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TPP 310: A Conversation with Dr. Norrine Russell About Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) & ADHD
8 november 2022 · 43 min
I’m really excited to bring you this conversation with Dr. Norinne Russell on a new topic we haven’t covered before on this show and one that only came into my radar last year, and that is rejection sensitive dysphoria or RSD, a dysphoria commonly experienced by people with ADHD. We talked about what rejection sensitive dysphoria is and how it’s different from mood disorders or emotional dysregulation, what the early signs are and examples of triggers from Norrine’s own experience with her son, and how to support children with RSD. I’m sure this conversation will resonate with many of you and hope you find this new topic interesting and valuable to your family. Lees meer
About Dr. Norrine Russell
Dr. Norrine Russell is the founder of Russell Coaching for Students, which uses an innovative method of coaching for complex students, including those who are 2E; have ADHD, Autism, or Anxiety; and those with learning differences. This innovative method, Connected Coaching, has proven successful for hundreds of students since 2009. She is the author of the recently published guide for parents, “Asking the Right Questions Before, During, and After Your Child’s ADHD Diagnosis.”
With twenty years of experience creating positive youth development and parenting education programs, Dr. Russell has extensive knowledge of child development, learning styles, special needs, and positive parenting philosophies. She blends this knowledge to provide students and parents with comprehensive support and the tools they need to grow and thrive.Things you'll learn from this episode
What rejection sensitive dysphoria or RSD is and how it presents
What the early signs of rejection-sensitive dysphoria are and examples of triggers for children and adolescents
The difference between RSD, mood disorders, and “typical” emotional dysregulation that neurodivergent children might experience
How to support children with RSD
Resources mentioned for Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) & ADHD
Dr. Norrine R…
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TPP 140a: AuthorJulie Lythcott-Haims on How Parents Can Help Their Kids Successfully Launch
4 november 2022 · 47 min
My guest for this episode is the brilliant Julie Lythcott-Haims., the author of the New York Times’ bestselling, and in my opinion, majorly game-changing-in-the-parenting-space book, How to Raise an Adult. She wrote it after noticing that prospective college students at Stanford University, where she was dean of admissions, were being over-parented and as a result, were lacking the resources to develop the resilience, resourcefulness, and inner determination necessary for success.
In this episode, Julie and I talk about what it takes for a child to be successful—looking at how we define success along the way—and explore what we as parents can do to help our child develop the agency they need to become self-actualized adults. I loved having this conversation with Julie and am still noodling on the many takeaways and aha moments I experienced. I hope you get a lot out of it.
Julie Lythcott-Haims' How to Raise an Adult has been published in over two dozen countries and gave rise to a TED talk that became one of the top TED Talks of 2016 with over 3.5 million views and counting, as well as a forthcoming sequel on how to be an adult, for young adults. Two years later Julie published Real American: A Memoir, a critically-acclaimed and award-winning memoir which examines racism through her experience as a Black and biracial person.
Things you’ll learn from this episode Lees meerWhat is at the root of fear-based parenting
Why Julie says most parents are raising kids from a place of love, ego, and fear
Challenges and hardships every child should face in order to be ready to be an adult
How we do our children a disservice when we “become” their default executive functioning
How we can (and need to) redefine what success looks like
The connection between successful adults and a child doing chores (and how to get started if you’re not doing it now)
Why happiness in our kids stems from love
The benefits of hands-on work for kids developing a sense of agency
How to help our kids…
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TPP 309: Anya Kamenetz on Her Book The Stolen Year and the Impact of COVID on Children
1 november 2022 · 38 min
Author and reporter, Anya Kamenetz is back on the podcast to talk about her new book The Stolen Year: How Covid Changed Children’s Lives, And Where We Go Now. The Stolen Year is a powerful look at how the pandemic disrupted children’s lives — their learning, mental health, and overall well-being. The Stolen Year isn’t written specifically for parents of differently wired children, but I thought it was important to really explore what the research and data shows the cost of the past two years has been for our most valuable resource – our children, as well as consider the question – where do we go from here?
During our conversation we talked about the trends on decreasing graduation rates, the impact of food scarcity on children and adolescents, and caregiver depression. We also talked about the kinds of resources families need to recover from the pandemic, especially within marginalized communities and more severely impacted populations, and much more.
Anya Kamenetz has covered education for many years, including for NPR, where she also co-created the podcast Life Kit:Parenting in partnership with Sesame Workshop.
Kamenetz is the author of several acclaimed nonfiction books: Generation Debt ; DIY U ; The Test: Why Our Schools Are Obsessed With Standardized Testing, But You Don’t Have To Be, and The Art of Screen Time: How Your Family Can Balance Digital Media and Real Life.
Things you'll learn from this episode Lees meerWhat the long-lasting effects of COVID in children’s lives are according to Anya’s research
Where we should be focusing our energy — our kids’ learning loss or their mental health and wellbeing
The trends on decreasing graduation rates and how that might play out in the next few years for young people
Whether experts consider the pandemic to be an ACE (adverse childhood experience)
The impact of food scarcity on children during COVID
What resources families need to recover from the pandemic, especially for marginalized communities
Resources mentioned f…
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TPP 073a: Non-Violent Communication, Whole-Person Learning, and Neurodiverse Students
28 oktober 2022 · 49 min
This week I’m talking with Zach Morris, the executive director and development of curriculum and instruction at LEARN Inc. LEARN Inc. is an non-for-profit school in Missoula, Montana in the United States which is approaching education in a thoughtful and alternative way, and with powerful results, especially for their neurodivergent students, which make up to 75% of the student body. Their mission is to facilitate individualized learning opportunities that honor neurodivergence, encourage social collaboration, and foster whole-person growth. And as a result, the kids at LEARN are getting the opportunity to develop with confidence and feeling seen for who they are.
I know that this education piece—figuring out how to help our child develop a love of learning and reach their full potential—is one of the most challenging pieces of raising differently wired kids, and I just have to say that talking with Zach left me feeling inspired, hopeful, and motivated. Zach believes there is a different way, and he’s doing his part to push the needle forward. Together we talk about the the philosophy of nonviolent communication, what can happen for our kids when we practice compassion with them, and how parents like us can bring some of Zach’s philosophy into our lives to support our kids. This was one of those mind = blown conversations for me. I hope you like it.
Zach Morris M.Ed is a leader in education. He holds a Montana State educators license, he is HANDLE level 1&2 certified, and he is an active pursuant of Non-Violent Communication practices. His current research targets neurodiversity and learning. Lees meerThings you’ll learn from this episode
What it looks like when education is grounded in compassion and the principles of nonviolent communication, ecological literacy, and whole person learning (social, emotional, physiological, and academic)
Why Zach believes the key to education is individualization and diversity within the system
How a child can be shifted from feeling t…
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TPP 308: Joyfully Parenting & Experiencing Gifted and 2e Children, with Marc Smolowitz
25 oktober 2022 · 41 min
For today’s episode, I’m bringing multi-award-winning director, producer and executive film producer, Marc Smolowitz, back on the podcast. It was four years ago that Marc first came on the show to talk about a movie he was working on called The G Word, a feature-length documentary about giftedness that asks the urgent equity question – In the 21st century, who gets to be Gifted in America and Why? Marc is currently working on the post-production of the movie so I wanted to invite him back to talk about what the last 4 years have been like in the giftedness community. What has changed? What are the things we need to be looking out for and what initiatives have been created?
AND, I also wanted this show to be a part of celebrating the 2nd annual Gifted / Talented / Neurodiversity Awareness Week, a week-long celebration created by Marc and which is happening this very week. The theme for this year’s awareness week is Gifted JOY, and I really love the idea of connecting the concept of joy and empowerment to the conversation surrounding giftedness.Marc Smolowitz is a multi-award-winning director, producer, and executive producer who has been significantly involved in 50+ independent films. His films have been screened at the world’s top-tier festivals such as Sundance, Berlin, Venice, Tribeca, Locarno, Chicago, Palm Springs, SF FILM, AFI Docs, IDFA, and DOC NYC, among others. In 2009, Marc founded 13th Gen, a San Francisco-based company that works with a dynamic range of independent film partners globally to oversee the financing, production, post-production, marketing, sales, and distribution efforts of a vibrant portfolio of films and filmmakers.
In 2022, Marc is currently in post-production on THE G WORD – a feature-length documentary about giftedness that asks the urgent equity question – In the 21st century, who gets to be Gifted in America and Why?Things you’ll learn from this episode Lees meerHow the conversation surrounding giftedness and neurodivergence have changed in…
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TPP 049a: Simone Davies on Setting Up Your Home to Support Your Child's Growth
21 oktober 2022 · 42 min
In this episode of Tilt Parenting, I bring back to the show Simone Davies, a Montessori teacher and parent educator who runs a Montessori playgroup in Amsterdam for babies, toddlers, and preschoolers up to four years old. Through her online business, The Montessori Notebook, Simone focuses on helping parents learn how to bring Montessori into their home.
Today Simone and I are talking about the “spaces” in our home—specifically how we can best design and set them up to support our differently-wired kids. I’ve watched as Simone developed her virtual e-course, Setting Up Your Home Montessori Style, and I was struck by how the approach she talks about in her course directly relates to the things we as parents can do to support our kids in developing those crucial executive functioning skills, like task initiation, time management, planning, and organizing, as well as fostering independence. In this episode, we’ll talk about how we can set up our homes—our kitchen, bedroom, shoes and coat area, homework space—to support our children in fostering these skills.
Simone Davies is also the author of The Montessori Toddler, a comprehensive guide to raising your toddler in a Montessori way. It includes Montessori activities, how to set up your home, and how to encourage cooperation from your children, and The Montessori Baby.
Things you’ll learn from this episode Lees meerHow to set up the shoes and coat area to help kids “get out the door” with success and independence
How making checklists for our kids can instill in them a sense of responsibility while also easing transitions
What parents who aren’t naturally organized can support themselves
The gifts of decluttering and clearing our space
The importance of making a homework space inviting and distraction-free
Tips for setting up spaces to foster more independence in children
Why making things attractive, cozy, and comfortable benefits our kids
Resources mentioned for supporting children’s growth at home
The Montessori Not…
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TPP 307: Eliza Fricker Talks Parenting a Child with PDA
18 oktober 2022 · 38 min
On today’s episode I’m talking to Eliza Fricker about PDA or pathological demand avoidance – and in fact I know many people interpret PDA as persistent desire for autonomy. I’ve done a few episodes on PDA before but never from a parent’s perspective so after reading Eliza’s book, The Family Experience of PDA, I knew I wanted to share her perspective with the Tilt community. During this episode, we talked about how demand avoidance is more extreme in a child with a PDA profile vs. the inflexibility and rigidity we might see in other neurodivergent kids, what Eliza has learned about herself parenting a child with PDA, and what her resistance was to the changes needed to her parenting style. Eliza also gave out some great tips for teachers who have a PDA student in their classroom and for parents who are struggling with family, friends, or people close to them who aren’t willing to understand what PDA is and what that means for their family.Eliza Fricker is the illustrator behind “Missing the Mark” a deeply personal and all too human exploration of a mother’s journey navigating the education system and everyday life with a child who can’t go to school. Eliza’s latest book, Can’t Not Won’t will be published by Jessica Kingsley Publishers in December 2022.Things you'll learn from this episode Lees meer
What makes demand avoidance more extreme in children with PDA
Eliza’s experience in changing her parenting ways to become more flexible
Tweaks teachers can use to work with children who have PDA in a classroom setting
How PDA may look different than “typical demand avoidance” that we might see in some neurodivergent children
What Eliza has learned about herself from parenting a child with PDA
Advice for parents who are raising a child with PDA
Resources mentioned for PDA
Eliza Fricker’s website
The Family Experience of PDA by Eliza Fricker
An Intro to PDA brought to you by Harry Thompson and Laura Kerbey, illustrated by Eliza Fricker
Eliza Fricker / Missing the Mark on F…
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TPP 051a: Asher and Debbie Talk About Handling Parent-Child Conflict
14 oktober 2022 · 29 min
Today’s episode is a Kid’s POV Special episode featuring another conversation with 12-year-old Asher. Our topic? Conflict. More specifically, handling parent-child conflict between the two of us. We’re tackling this topic because I’ve been getting questions from listeners who want to know a) if we even have conflicts at all and b) if so, how we handle them.
The easy answer to the first part of that question is DEFINITELY. We DEFINITELY have conflict. I’m very human in that way, as is Asher. Today, we’ll spend the episode answering the second part of that question. We’ll talk about the kinds of things that crop up and cause conflict between us, and then we’ll share with you what that actually looks like in our world—what I do, what Ash does, and most importantly, how we move through and past it.
Pro tip: This is a good episode for co-listening! When Asher and I listen to podcasts, we dump a puzzle out on the dining room table and listen while building the puzzle. It makes for a nice combination!
Debbie Reber is the founder and CEO of Tilt Parenting and the host of the TiLT Parenting Podcast. 12-year-old Asher is Debbie’s child and is regularly featured on the podcast. Find out more by visiting the About Page.
Things you’ll learn from this episode Lees meerThe benefits of talking through and getting clear on expectations (for all members of the family) prior to leaving for a vacation
A strategy for using the collaborative problem solving approach to identify, address, and pre-solve concerns ahead of time
How to make departure day go more smoothly
The benefits of exploring and researching aspects of a vacation time well in advance of the trip (including accommodations, activities, etc.)
A strategy for using written schedules coupled with frequent reviews during a vacation keeps everyone’s expectations in check
The benefits of bringing a child into the planning process (and letting them determine some of what will happen on vacation)
Why it’s useful to work with your chi…
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TPP 306: Laura Vanderkam Shares How We Can Find Tranquility by Tuesday
11 oktober 2022 · 43 min
My guest today is author, productivity guru, and mom of 5, Laura Vanderkam. Laura is the author of several time management and productivity books, including the one we are discussing today, Tranquility by Tuesday: 9 Ways to Calm the Chaos and Make Time for What Matters. She is also the host of the Before Breakfast podcast and the co-host, with Sarah Hart-Unger, of the Best of Both Worlds podcast.
I’ve long been a fan of Laura’s books, and so I was excited to talk with her about Tranquility By Tuesday, and honestly, since reading it, I’ve started incorporating a few of her strategies into my world as I try to be more mindful and aware of how I spend my time. The results have been pretty great. That’s why I wanted to share Laura’s work with my community because I know so many of you are dealing with overwhelm and burnout. And my hope is that you’ll take away one or two nuggets that you can play with in your daily life to move the needle closer to tranquility.
During our conversation, Laura shared her definition of tranquility, the common myths that get in the way of building more peace in our lives, and why it’s so important for families to have adventures together. She also shared multiple strategies that I promise are easy enough to implement. And again, even though they might seem like small shifts, they can have a big impact in your world.
Laura is the author of several time management and productivity books, including the forthcoming Tranquility by Tuesday: 9 Ways to Calm the Chaos and Make Time for What Matters. She is the host of the Before Breakfast podcast and the co-host, with Sarah Hart-Unger, of the Best of Both Worlds podcast. She lives outside Philadelphia with her husband and five children. Lees meerThings you'll learn from this episode
Laura’s definition of tranquility and pushing back against the perception of not having enough time
Advice for parents who want to better manage their energy
The barriers and myths that get in the way of building peace and t…
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TPP 117a: Angela Pruess on Supporting Children's Fledgling Self-Regulation
7 oktober 2022 · 44 min
This week’s episode features a conversation with Angela Pruess, a licensed clinical therapist and mom of three who wants to help all parents raise emotionally healthy kids that will change the world, by explaining the he(art) and science behind our child’s development and emotional regulation.
For this episode, we focus on that elusive thing so many of us are trying to help develop in our kids, but can be very difficult to know exactly where to start and what we should expect over our child’s developmental timeline—self-regulation and emotional regulation.
Today we dive deep into what it is, why it’s an important skill for our kids to develop, the different ways we as parents and caregivers and teachers can support our kids in nurturing these skills, and more.
Things you’ll learn from this episode Lees meerWhat self-regulation / emotional regulation actually is and what it can look like when kids struggle with it
Why self-regulation can be developed over time, even when the time line looks different
How we might expect development of self-regulation to progress at different ages
The importance of modelling self-regulation for our children
How we can best support teachers in being our partners in developing our kids’ self-regulation
How parents can most effectively do in supporting our kids in learning these skills
Strategies for what to do when children are resistant to working on self-regulation
Top tips for jump-starting our child’s self-regulation
Resources mentioned
Parents With Confidence
Parents With Confidence on Facebook
Children’s Mental Health Rocks on Facebook
How to Raise an Emotionally Intelligent Child That Will Succeed in Life
How to Be the Best Parent to Your Emotionally Intense Child
Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child: The One Mistake You Want to Avoid
Emotional Intelligence Flashcard Bundle
Self-Reg: How to Help Your child (and You) Break the Stress Cycle and Successfully Engage with Life by Stuart Shanker
Dr. Ross Greene
Dr. Dan S…
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TPP 305: Stuart Shanker on What Self-Regulation Is, Why It Matters, and How to Help Our Children (and Ourselves) Do It Better
4 oktober 2022 · 47 min
We are kicking off this season with a conversation with Dr. Stuart Shanker, who I first learned about through my friend Seth Perler as he’s been part of the TEFOS Summit. I love Stuart's message and recently devoured his book Self-Reg: How to Help Your Child (and You) Break the Stress Cycle and Successfully Engage With Life, and wanted to dive deeper with Stuart about it. In this episode, we get into the ways in which the brain controls the levels of stress, the difference between self-regulation and self-control, and the difference between stress behavior and misbehaving. Stuart also walks us through his 5 steps to Self-Reg, and talks about the power of us as parents and caregivers and educators doing our own self-reg work so we can support the kids around us.
Dr. Stuart Shanker (D.Phil) is a Distinguished Research Professor Emeritus of Philosophy and Psychology, the Founder & Visionary of The MEHRIT Centre, Ltd., and Self-Reg Global Inc. One of his many books, Calm, Alert and Learning: Classroom Strategies for Self-Regulation (2012), is a top-selling educational publication in Canada. Self-Reg: How to Help Your Child (and You) Break the Stress Cycle and Successfully Engage With Life (2016), has garnered enthusiastic reviews and media attention throughout North America and has also been published in the United Kingdom, the United States, Poland, Germany, China, South Korea, Japan, the Netherlands, Georgia and the Czech Republic. His latest books are Self-Reg Schools: A Handbook for Educators (2019) and Reframed: Self-Reg for a Just Society (2020)
Things you'll learn from this episode Lees meerHow the explosion of stress-related problems in recent years among children has augmented the need for additional self-reg resources for parents and educators
How the brain controls the levels of stress and simple strategies that can be used to calm the nervous system response
Why self-reg practices for parents and teachers other adults begin with learning how to regulate ourselves…
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TPP 072a: A Conversation with Debbie About About Her Homeschooling Curriculum and Schedule
2 september 2022 · 46 min
This is the third installment in a series of solocasts specifically about homeschooling 2e children. I know many families of 2e and differently wired kids end up going down the homeschooling road, whether they’re reluctant homeschoolers and they felt “forced” into the decision because they ran out of other options or whether they knew they would homeschool from the moment their child was born. Whatever the case, this episode is for you.
In this episode, I share how Asher and I structure our school, what kind of classes he takes, how I figure out what he’s going to focus on, and what a typical school day looks like for us. I wanted to talk about these things because I know that designing a curriculum can be one of the most overwhelming pieces of this puzzle.
A quick note: If you haven’t already done so, I encourage you to listen to the two other solocast episodes I’ve done on homeschooling 2e children. In Episode 42 I talk about how I made the decision to homeschool even though I had a LOT of resistance to the idea, and in Episode 48, I talk about the actual transition to homeschooling … basically how we survived that first rocky year.
Debbie Reber, MA, is a parenting activist, bestselling author, podcast host, and speaker who moved her career in a more personal direction in 2016 when she founded Tilt Parenting, a top resource for parents like her who are raising differently wired children. The TiLT Parenting Podcast has grown to be a top podcast in Kids & Family, with more than 4 million downloads and a slate of guests that includes high-profile thought leaders across the parenting and education space. A certified Positive Discipline trainer and a regular contributor to Psychology Today and ADDitude Magazine, Debbie’s newest book is Differently Wired: Raising an Exceptional Child in a Conventional World. In November 2018, she spoke at TEDxAmsterdam, delivering a talk entitled Why the Future Will Be Differently Wired. In the summer of 2020, she co-created the Parent… Lees meer -
TPP 304: Special Episode on Updated College Vetting & Admissions Process for Differently Wired Students
30 augustus 2022 · 1 uur 22 min
To close out this Summer season I’m bringing you a special double episode all about college, specifically, how families can navigate the application process and what’s changed since Covid, as well as understanding the ways in which colleges may, or may not, support their neurodivergent students and what families should be looking for when exploring potential schools.
In the first half of this episode, you’ll hear me talking with Eric Karlan, the co-founder of Ivy Experience, a company providing academic tutoring, standardized test preparation, and essay consulting services. Since 2010, Eric has consulted thousands of high school and graduate school students on their college and graduate school application essays and resumes across the country and around the world. He gave a TEDx Talk in 2018 called “What do I need to know about you?” inspired by his work brainstorming with students on their college application essays. Eric and I talked about what’s different in the college admissions process today as a result of the Covid pandemic, and whether or not those changes are here to stay. Eric explains what “test-optional” and “test-blind” policies are and how they affect some students more than others, what schools are doing to bring in more diversity to their student body, and how students might choose to disclose their neurodivergence, disability, or other parts of their identities in their college application. Then in the second half of the episode, I’m joined by Elizabeth Hamblet, an expert in college disability services and helping neurodivergent high school students successfully transition to college. Elizabeth began her career as a high school special education teacher and then began working at the college level in the late 1990s. She is now at her third university, where she helps students with time management, organization, reading, and study skills. She offers programs on preparing students for successful college transition. Elizabeth’s newest book, Seven Steps… Lees meer -
TPP 039a: A Conversation with 12-year-old Asher About Goal Setting
26 augustus 2022 · 31 min
In this special kid’s POV edition, Asher and I talk about having ADHD and goal setting, a topic near and dear to my heart, but also an issue we hear from parents about a lot. Asher is someone who always seems to have a lot of projects he’s working on and he sets often ambitious goals centered around those projects. Yet because of the way Ash is wired, he can often get distracted or derailed, which results in him being frustrated with himself.
I know a thing or two about goal setting — it’s actually the topic of a book I wrote for teen girls in 2015 called Doable, and so I am committed to using what I know about goals to help Asher learn how to successfully set and reach his own goals while also developing his planning, organizational, and time management skills. If you have kids with lots of ideas for things they’d like to do but seem to get stuck before they finish, or maybe even struggle to begin in the first place, this would be a good episode to listen to with them.
Debbie Reber is the founder and CEO of Tilt Parenting and the host of the TiLT Parenting Podcast. 11-year-old Asher is Debbie’s child and is regularly featured on the podcast. Lees meerThings you’ll learn from this episode
The connection between ADHD, executive functioning challenges, and goal planning
Asher’s strategy for setting, measuring, and reaching goals
How Asher uses both daily and weekly goal planning to keep him on track
What typically derails Asher when he’s pursuing a goal
The power of the daily check-in
Asher’s tips for other kids looking to set and reach their personal goals
Resources mentioned for ADHD & goal setting
Debbie’s book Doable: The Girls’ Guide to Accomplishing Just About Anything by Debbie Reber
A Conversation with 11-year-old Asher About His Game-Changing Morning Routine (podcast)
Understood.org
Productivity Planner from Intelligent Change
Download a copy of Asher’s Goal Planning Worksheet
The Color Run (series of 5k races)
Support the showConnect with Tilt Parenti…
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TPP 303: Dr. Joseph Lee Talks About the Importance of SEL / Social and Emotional Learning
23 augustus 2022 · 46 min
Have you ever wondered if SEL (social and emotional learning) in school and classrooms really matters? I’ve been exploring this question a lot about over the past year, as well trying to understand the recent increase in parental and political pushback in the US specifically that is putting the future of SEL in schools at risk.
I wanted to get into a deep conversation about SEL for the show, and so I reached out Dr. Joseph Lee, a psychiatrist with a special interest in social and emotional learning and helping people achieve what he calls optimal mental healthiness.
We had exactly the conversation I was hoping we would, as we got into so many important topics, including the state of children and young adult’s mental health today, demystifying what SEL or social emotional learning actually is, why SEL matters, how it’s best introduced in schools, the limitations in the current educational model for social emotional learning curriculums, what the pushback against SEL is really about, and what it’s at stake if our children aren’t provided with social and emotional learning opportunities. I think this is such an important and timely conversation – I hope that you enjoy it and that you help me amplify this episode by sharing it in your communities.
Dr. Joseph Lee, MD., is a Psychiatrist in private practice in Redondo Beach, California. He is also an educator in social and emotional learning (SEL) and provides individual and group supervision to licensed therapists looking to add mental healthiness and SEL principles to their own practices. Dr. Lee has a medical doctorate from University Of California, Los Angeles, School Of Medicine.
Things you'll learn from this episode Lees meerWhat Joseph Lee is seeing in his practice regarding and his thoughts on the state of children and young adult’s mental health today
What SEL or social emotional learning actually is
Ways that SEL can be weaved into traditional educational curriculum as well as the use of specific SEL curriculum
What…
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TPP 038a: Dr. Jenna Flowers on How to Practice Conscious Coparenting
19 augustus 2022 · 40 min
In this episode of the Tilt Parenting Podcast, I sit down with Dr. Jenna Flowers, a licensed marriage and family therapist, author, and speaker, and the woman behind the fantastic new book, The Conscious Parent’s Guide to Coparenting: A Mindful Approach to Creating a Collaborative, Positive Parenting Plan.
Dr. Jenna’s book is aimed at helping parents who are no longer together design a healthy alliance and share their parenting responsibilities in a way that best supports their children. In our conversation, we talk about the extra considerations for those parenting differently-wired kids, kids for whom consistency and support is critical to their healthy emotional development. Dr. Jenna also explains how parents of atypical kids can foster a structured, supportive environment in both homes, as well as shares her advice for things parents can do right now to strengthen their relationship with their co-parent, whether together or apart.
Dr. Jenna Flowers is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Author, and Speaker. She completed her undergraduate studies at the University of Michigan. She then graduated with her MA in Spiritual Psychology from the prestigious University of Santa Monica, and Doctoral Degree in Psychology from the professional psychology school American Behavioral Studies Institute. Upon completing her Marriage and Family Therapy licensing board examinations in 2006, she has been in private practice in Newport Beach, California. Lees meerThings you’ll learn from this episode
What exactly conscious coparenting is
The importance of repairing hurts from our childhood in order to become more present with our own children
How to help a child not take on responsibility or blame for their parents’ breakup
What to do when both parents aren’t on the same page
What a designed alliance with a coparent actually looks like
Resources mentioned for conscious coparenting
Dr. Jenna Flowers’ personal website
The Conscious Parent’s Guide to Coparenting by Dr. Jenna …
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TPP 302: Online Learning & the Future of Education with Outschool Founder Amir Nathoo
16 augustus 2022 · 35 min
In this conversation with Outschool co-founder and CEO Amir Nathoo, we discuss alternative education models and why they’re so critical in preparing all kids for the future, as well as get an inside look into the mission and vision for Outschool, learn more about they successfully create community through virtual classes, ways in which classes are designed to support students with different learning styles and much more.
If this conversation sparks you to explore and enroll in classs at Outschool classes, be sure to use the code TILT to get a $20 credit towards your first class.
Amir Nathoo is CEO of Outschool, a marketplace for live online classes for K-12 learners. Amir worked at Square, leading the development of Square Payroll. Previously, he served as CEO and co-founder of Trigger.io, a development platform for creating native mobile apps. He holds an MEng in Electrical and Information Sciences from The University of Cambridge. Amir lives in San Francisco with his wife Kirsty and their two children.
Things you'll learn from this episode Lees meerHow Outschool grew through COVID and how online learning has changed in the past 2 years
How alternative ways of learning are helping prepare our kids for the future
The crucial part that community plays into Outschool’s platform and what they offer to families
How Outschool supports different types of learners and why it has attracted neurodivergent learners from the start
How Outschool finds and onboards teachers and how they develop their classes
Amir’s tips for parents on vetting online learning programs to determine if they are right for your child/ren
Resources mentioned for Outschool and Online Learning
Outschool
Dr. Joseph Lee Talks About the Importance of SEL / Social and Emotional Learning (podcast episode)
Dr. Joseph Lee
How to Prepare Differently Wired Kids for an Uncharted Future
Matt Barnes on Embracing a New 21st Century Learning Model
Nurturing Creativity to Help Children Thrive, with Terry Roberts
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TPP 088a: Jessica Lahey Talks About the Gifts of Failure for Our Kids
12 augustus 2022 · 47 min
My guest is Jessica Lahey, an educator, writer, and speaker, and the author of one of my favorite parenting books, The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed. Jess shares her insights about how we can best prepare our kids for an independent, successful adulthood in the way we practice autonomy supportive parenting versus overparenting, what it means to let our kids “fail” to help them thrive, how we can help our kids learn how to “sit with frustration,” and much more.
Jessica Lahey is an educator, writer, and speaker. She is an English and writing teacher, correspondent for the Atlantic, commentator for Vermont Public Radio, and writes the “Parent-Teacher Conference” column for the New York Times. Jessica earned a B.A. in Comparative Literature from the University of Massachusetts and a J.D. with a concentration in juvenile and education law from the University of North Carolina School of Law. She lives in New Hampshire with her husband and two sons.
Things you’ll learn from this episode Lees meerThe difference between overparenting and “autonomy supportive parenting"
How many parents underestimate their kids and might be unknowingly fostering learned helplessness in them
How we can build scaffolding for our kids
What Jessica wishes parents of atypical kids knew about teachers
Jessica’s advice for how we can best advocate for our kids in school
How we can foster more of a growth mindset in our children, especially those who are perfectionist, as well as how to NOT foster “learned helplessness”
Resources mentioned about the gift of failure
Jessica Lahey’s website
The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed by Jessica Lahey
Why Parents Need To Let Their Kids Fail (The Atlantic article)
Dr. Ross Greene Talks About Collaborative and Proactive Solutions (podcast episode)
The Opposite of Spoiled: Raising Kids Who Are Grounded, Generous and Smart About Money by Ron Lieber
Am Writ…
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TPP 301: Navigating Big Life Transitions with Differently Wired Children (a Solocast)
9 augustus 2022 · 36 min
I haven’t done a solocast in a while, but when you talk, I listen, and this topic has been requested by many of you, so I decided to dedicate this episode to talk about navigating big life transitions with differently wired kids. Our family has gone through our fair share of big changes, which you’ll hear all about in this episode, so this is something that I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about. Especially as a parent of a differently wired kid, I know that there are some extra challenges that might come up when their routines, environment, life circumstances, or supports change, and our kids are also more likely to be resistant to changes (even if they are beneficial). So today I’ll be sharing the strategies I’ve personally found helpful while going through big transitions with Asher.
In this episode, I talk about key things such as why being honest when communicating with your kid is so important to help them understand and process change, how being vulnerable can be a way to show support, how to validate our kids’ feelings about the changes or transitions, and how to identify their concerns so you can make plans to address them in advance. I also share about what adjustment disorder is and the kind of extra support you might need during transitions.
Tilt Parenting Founder & CEO Debbie Reber (MA) is a parenting activist, bestselling author, podcast host, and speaker. A certified Positive Discipline trainer and a regular contributor to Psychology Today and ADDitude Magazine, Debbie’s most recent book is Differently Wired: Raising an Exceptional Child in a Conventional World. Debbie’s Tilt Parenting Podcast is the top performing podcast for parents, caregivers, educators, and professionals raising and supporting neurodivergent children, and has more than 4 million downloads. In November 2018, she spoke at TEDxAmsterdam, delivering a talk entitled Why the Future Will Be Differently Wired. In the summer of 2020, she co-created the Parenting in Place Masterclass ser… Lees meer -
TPP 029a: How to Live a Satisfying Life While Raising a Differently-Wired Kid, with Samantha Ettus
5 augustus 2022 · 32 min
In this episode of the TiLT Parenting Podcast, I talk with Samantha Ettus, a renowned work-life balance expert, author, radio show host, and media personality. Sam is passionate about helping people, and especially moms, find create a more fulfilled, healthier, and more satisfying life. She writes about her ideas in her new book The Pie Life: A Guilt Free Recipe for Success and Satisfaction.
I was excited to talk with Sam about her new book and ideas behind what she refers to as “embracing the mess and bumps” that come hand-in-hand with living a truly fulfilled life, since messiness and bumps seem to a part of any parent raising a differently-wired kid’s experience. In our conversation, we talk about everything from self-care and intentional parenting to getting our partners up to speed since often moms seem to be the ones holding onto a lot of the information relevant to our kids’ day-to-day life.
Samantha Ettus is a work-life expert whose goal is to find the spark within each one of us and turn it into a fire. She is a best-selling author, a writer for Forbes, a sought after speaker, a Harvard MBA, and host of a nationally syndicated call-in radio show. Sam has shared her advice on hundreds of television shows and media outlets including The TODAY Show, Access Hollywood, NBC Nightly News, CNN, The Doctors, and Fox and Friends, and in The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times and USA Today. Lees meerThings you’ll learn from this episode
Why working moms are, in many ways, set up to fail
Thoughts on being a more intentional parent, embracing empathy, and seeing our kids for who they are
What’s reasonable to expect when designing a healthy, fulfilled life, and how to find work-life balance
How to get your parenting partner on-board / up-to-speed on important matters related to our children
Why self-care is so critical for mothers and how to build self-care practices into daily life
Sam’s thoughts on juggling work and the unpredictable nature of raising a differently…
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TPP 300: Executive Function Coach Seth Perler on What Is / Isn't Working in School
2 augustus 2022 · 51 min
I wanted to have a frank and honest conversation with my friend, executive function coach, and frequent guest of the pod, Seth Perler, about what is and is not working in schools right now, especially as we are once again in that back-to-school season. Of course there have been many changes in education since the start of COVID, including the inclusion of technology in almost every aspect of learning and the increased testing that students are being subjected to since returning to campus. And we know that neurodivergent kids tend to be impacted by these changes more than other students. So what can we do as parents? Where should we be putting our energies? That’s what Seth and I get into in this episode.
Seth Perler is an Executive Function Coach and Consultant with extensive experience addressing extraordinarily diverse learning needs. Seth was a teacher for 12 years, working with a diverse range of Gifted and Twice Exceptional (2E) students in charter schools for 8 years, and teaching students with ADD, ADHD, Dyslexia and other executive function challenges, as well as students with developmental disabilities. He’s been an Executive Function coach for middle, high school and college students since 2010.
Things you'll learn from this episode Lees meerSeth’s opinion on what is working and what is not working in schools right now
Advice on how to push back on the increase in testing that has started since students returned to in-person lessons
What Seth would say to parents who have kids with ADHD who are checked out of their school day
Ideas for getting educators on board in shifting the paradigm
How to collaborate with a student who insists executive functioning strategies don’t actually work for them
Practical strategies or ideas for parents who are dealing with that challenge of technology being useful but full of distractions and how to tailor the approach if a kid is showing resistance
Seth’s thoughts on school refusal and children’s mental health
Resources men…
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TPP 142a: Kayce Hughlett Talks About Her Differently Wired Son's Drug Addiction
29 juli 2022 · 47 min
My guest is Kayce Stevens Hughlett, a psychotherapist, life coach, spiritual director, and speaker, and the author of three books. Kayce and I have been friends for many years, and she was a compassionate listener and empathetic friend as I was going through some of my most challenging years with Asher. At the time, Kayce was a few years ahead in her journey with her own differently wired son, who was in his early twenties.
I wanted to bring Kayce onto the show to talk about what she and her family went through when her son, as a young teen with an ADHD diagnosis, got involved with drugs. I know that this is a possibility many parents with atypical kids fear, and in fact some listeners may be in this very situation today. Hearing Kayce tell her story and share how she not only got through it, but how her family emerged on the other side more engaged and connected, is incredibly powerful. I hope you find her story as inspiring as I do.
Kayce Stevens Hughlett started her writing career as a blogger in the early 2000’s and found her voice as a contributor to several collections and online publications. Now she is the author of three varied yet beautifully intertwined and popular books. Her 2012 nonfiction book, As I Lay Pondering: Daily Invitations To Live a Transformed Life, is a lyrical and lucid treasure that invites readers to new awakenings throughout the year. Blue: a novel, an award-winning study of three women in the Pacific Northwest, released September 10, 2015. Her journey memoir, SoulStroller: experiencing the weight, whispers, & wings of the world, was published in November 2018. Lees meerThings you’ll learn from this episode
Kayce’s story of being the mom of “that kid” in a time when being differently wired was less acceptable
The importance of listening to our gut in conjunction with “experts”
Why we want to always choose from a place of love (and not fear) when making parenting decisions
The power of community to get through difficult times with our childr…
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TPP 299: Dr. Jonine Nazar-Biesman on Navigating the Neuropsych Evaluation Process
26 juli 2022 · 45 min
The neuropsych assessment process can be daunting and complicated to navigate, especially in recent years as a result of COVID, so I’m excited to share my conversation with pediatric and adolescent young adult neuropsychologist, Dr. Jonine Nazar-Biesman. Jonine’s work is about taking into consideration the whole child and the big picture when assessments are being done.
In this episode, we talk about what parents should think about when vetting psychologists to assess their child, the difference between a neuropsych, a psychoeducational, and a psychological assessment, and how parents can navigate getting a better assessment if they believe their child got the wrong diagnosis. We also talked about what to do with all the feedback parents get from an evaluation and how that feedback can best be relayed to our kids, and to their schools.
Dr. Jonine Nazar-Biesman has over 25 years of experience specializing in assessing and treating children, adolescents, and young adults with neurodevelopmental disorders such as Autism, ADHD, learning differences, and genetic conditions. She works closely with families, treatment teams, schools, and the community to ameliorate social-emotional, behavioral, and educational challenges.
Things you'll learn from this episode Lees meerWhat parents should think about when looking for someone to do an assessment for their child, as well as tips for vetting evaluators
The difference between a neuropsych, a psychoeducational, and a psychological assessment
How Jonine works with students and adjusts the evaluation process during the assessment in response to what she’s discovering
How parents can navigate getting a better assessment if they believe their child got the wrong diagnosis
Whether or not a neuropsych evaluation would benefit every neurodivergent child
How feedback is ideally shared with parents, kids, and schools after an assessment has been completed
How the COVID pandemic has impacted the assessment process
How parents can best use…
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TPP 091a: A Conversation With Steve Silberman About His Book “Neurotribes”
22 juli 2022 · 45 min
My guest this week is Steve Silberman, an award-winning science writer who authored the 2015 book NeuroTribes: The Legacy of Autism and the Future of Neurodiversity, a brilliant book that upends conventional thinking about autism and suggests a broader model for acceptance, understanding, and full participation in society for people who think differently. In our conversation, Steve and I talk about neurodivergence, autism, acceptance, tolerance, changing cultures, systemic change, and so much more.
Steve Silberman is an award-winning science writer whose articles have appeared in Wired, the New York Times, the New Yorker, the Financial Times, the Boston Globe, the MIT Technology Review, and more.and the author of NeuroTribes: The Legacy of Autism and the Future of Neurodiversity (Avery 2015), which Oliver Sacks called a “sweeping and penetrating history…presented with a rare sympathy and sensitivity.” In April 2016, Silberman gave the keynote speech at the United Nations for World Autism Awareness Day. He has given talks on the history of autism at Yale, Harvard, MIT, Oxford, the National Academy of Sciences, Queen Mary University, Apple, Microsoft, Google, the 92nd Street Y, Imperial College London, the MIND Institute at UC Davis, and many other major institutions. His TED talk, “The Forgotten History of Autism,” has been viewed more than a million times and translated into 25 languages. Lees meerThings you’ll learn from this episode
The impetus for Steve’s book NeuroTribes
How and why the anti-vaccine movement has negatively affected the autistic community
The real impact of language like “epidemic” in relation to neurodifferences like autism
How Steve’s book NeuroTribes has been received by members of the autistic community
Steve’s thoughts on how parents raising neurodiverse kids can best support the neurodiversity movement
The importance of autistic peer mentoring
Resources mentioned for Steve Silberman, autism, and neurodiversity
Steve Silberman’s website
Ne…
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TPP 298: Pat Harvey on DBT and Strategies for Parenting Emotionally Intense Teens
19 juli 2022 · 39 min
Parenting a differently wired child can be challenging and as I sat down with my guest, clinical social worker Pat Harvey, to have this conversation, I wanted to acknowledge and validate the experiences we have as parents as much as we do the same for our kids. As you’ll hear from Pat, her work centers around helping parents navigate raising kids who have highly intense emotions …the kind of emotions that can cause big disruptions at home.
In this conversation, Pat talks about her book Parenting a Teen Who has Intense Emotions, how she supports families using Dialectical Behavior Therapy or DBT, the three priorities within the DBT framework, some of the critical things to understand to effectively parent emotionally intense kids, and where to start if you are looking for more support for yourself.
Pat Harvey, LCSW-C, ACSW, has been a clinical social worker for one 30 years, currently focusing on supporting and guiding parents of kids with emotional challenges using a DBT framework. The co-author of 2 books on parenting, Parenting a Child Who Has Intense Emotions and Parenting a Teen Who has Intense Emotions, a book for siblings and a book for clinicians, she has also spoken nationally and in Canada about DBT and about working with parents.
Things you'll learn from this episode: Lees meerThe similarities and differences between cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT)
How DBT prioritizes the three core tenets of safety, treatment, and quality of life
Why is DBT so effective in helping teens who are engaging in risky behaviors, including self-harm, suicidal ideation, or past suicide attempts
Critical things to be aware of in order to effectively parent emotionally intense kids
The biggest roadblock for parents that prevent them from leaning into DBT
Where to start and the things to pay attention to if you are parenting an emotionally intense kid
Resources mentioned for DBT & Parenting Emotionally Intense Teens:
Pat Harvey’s website
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TPP 139a: Psychologist Scott Barry Kaufman, PhD on Redefining Giftedness and Intelligence
15 juli 2022 · 46 min
My guest Scott Barry Kaufman PhD, a psychologist, author, and podcaster who is passionate about changing, or perhaps expanding, the way intelligence is defined and measured. In our conversation, we talk about his ideas about intelligence, potential, and what it actually takes for our children to develop into self-actualized adults.
Scott is a cognitive scientist and humanistic psychologist exploring the mind, creativity, and the depths of human potential. He is a professor at Columbia University and founder and director of the Center for the Science of Human Potential. Dr. Kaufman received a B.S. in psychology and human computer interaction from Carnegie Mellon, an M. Phil in experimental psychology from the University of Cambridge under a Gates Cambridge Scholarship, and a Ph.D. in cognitive psychology from Yale University. He is also an Honorary Principal Fellow at the University of Melbourne’s Centre for Wellbeing Science.
Dr. Kaufman hosts the The Psychology Podcast, and his writing has appeared in The Atlantic, Scientific American, Psychology Today, and Harvard Business Review. He is the author and editor of 9 books, including his latest book Transcend: The New Science of Self-Actualization.
Things you’ll learn from this episode Lees meerWhy Scott believes traditional markers of intelligence are missing the mark
The problem with assessing for “labels” instead a child’s highest strengths
Scott’s thoughts on how we can create a better educational model
Why potential in our children is a “moving target”
How gifted education as a construct has a “fixed mindset”
Scott’s ideas for expanding the definition of intelligence through a multiple manifestations of intelligence lens
Why we should focus on self-actualization as opposed to excellence
What qualities we should be helping our children develop to become self-actualized
Resources mentioned for redefining giftedness
Scott Barry Kaufman’s website
Scott at Scientific American Magazine
Scott’s podcast, The Psycholo…
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TPP 297: Jennifer Natalya Fink on Disability Lineage — What It Is and How it Impacts Families
12 juli 2022 · 44 min
In this conversation with Jennifer Natalya Fink, we explore the nuances of her fascinating new book, All Our Families: Disability Lineage and the Future of Kinship. The premise of Jennifer’s book is that disability is often described as a tragedy, a crisis, or an aberration, even though more than 1 in 5 people worldwide have a disability. She wanted to explore the question: Why is this common human experience rendered exceptional?
Instead, Jennifer is advocating for a reclamation of disability as a history, a culture, and an identity. She is pushing for a world where families see disability in the context of a collective sense of belonging, as cause for celebration, and is a call for a radical reimagining of carework and kinship.
We went deep into this idea of a disability lineage, and Jennifer shared what’s at stake if we don’t know and claim our family history. We also discussed why getting a disability diagnosis can be traumatic for families and how it’s accentuated by how our society thinks about disability. Lastly, Jennifer shared her thoughts on making the care system more equitable by embracing disability as a collective experience rather than something individual families have to deal with.
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Jennifer Natalya Fink is director of the Program in Disability Studies and a professor of English at Georgetown University. She is the author of 6 books and founder of the Gorilla Press, a nonprofit promoting youth literacy through bookmaking. Fink is the winner of the Dana Award for the Novel and the Catherine Doctorow Prize for Innovative Fiction, as well as a finalist for the Lambda Literary Award. First and foremost, she is a mother; the transformative experience of parenting her autistic daughter is the center of her work. Lees meerThings you’ll learn from this episode
How Jennifer’s own family story led her to be interested in researching disability and disability lineage
What a disability lineage is
Why getting a disability diagnosis can be traumatic for families a…
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TPP 046a: Anders Ronnau Talks About His Powerful Approach to Transforming ADHD
8 juli 2022 · 45 min
My guest is Anders Ronnau, a master coach, hypnotherapist, trainer, and writer, and the ADHD coach behind the Transforming ADHD Movement. Anders is the leading ADHD coach in Denmark, and for the past seven years has been teaching both parenting programs and been an ADHD coach trainer. He recently launched his online community and business, Transforming ADHD.
Anders has a unique approach to working with his clients, who are anywhere from six years old to adults, and I was really intrigued to learn more about his work and find out what its implications are for our children. His focus is on development his client’s cognitive skills and behaviors to help them be better at managing their time, focus, and temperament, as well as rebuilding their self-worth. Lees meerThings you’ll learn from this episode
A look at whether or not positive behavior systems work in the long-term for kids with ADHD
How to gain access to the inner world of a child
How “externalization” helps change behavior and leads to transforming ADHD
Why a differently-wired person’s inner negative self-talk is their biggest hurdle as they get older
Ander’s tips for things parents can do at home to help their kids
How the magic question—What were you trying to do?—allows us to reach out with curiosity instead of blame or anger
Resources mentioned for transforming ADHD
Transforming ADHD (Ander’s website)
Special TiLT page on Transforming ADHD
Transforming ADHD on Facebook
Transforming ADHD YouTube Channel
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TPP 296: A Conversation with Dr. Marcia Eckerd on Nonverbal Learning Disorder (NVLD)
5 juli 2022 · 42 min
This week I'm talking about nonverbal learning disorder, also known as NLD or NVLD, with Dr. Marcia Eckerd. I learned so much from this conversation, including what NVLD actually is, examples of how it might show up in kids, and why it’s important to recognize if your child has NLD instead of thinking their behavior is the result of something else like ADHD or social anxiety. Marcia also shared how she works with families making sure the child’s self-esteem is taken into account and not making them feel they are less than others because they process things differently. Marcia Eckerd, Ph.D. is a licensed psychologist with over 30 years’ experience. As a therapist and provider of neuropsychological evaluations, she identified and worked with many children with Non-Verbal Learning Disability. She serves on the CT Autism Spectrum Disorder Advisory Council and the professional advisory boards of SmartKidsWithLD and NeuroClastic.com, a nonprofit providing creative educational resources on autism. She has a regular blog on Psychology Today, “Everyday Neurodiversity” as well as writing professional articles on autism and articles for multiple websites and magazines on NVLD, autism, evaluations and executive functions, such as SmartKidsWithLD.org, Autism Parenting Magazine and Thinking Person’s Guide to Autism. She’s spoken extensively on NVLD and autism in national conferences for educators, clinical professionals and parents.A former Director of Clinical Programs at the New Learning Therapy Center, she also helped establish the Norwalk Hospital-Yale collaboration Pediatric Development and Therapy Center. She continues to be on the Associate Medical Staff at Norwalk Hospital.Things you’ll learn from this episode Lees meer
How Marcia describes her work of being a “translator” between individuals with NVLD and the world around them
What nonverbal learning disorder is and how it might show up in kids
Why it’s so important to distinguish NVLD from things like autism, ADHD, or social …
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TPP 086a: Dr. Michael Postma of SENG on the Plight of Gifted and 2e Kids
1 juli 2022 · 43 min
This is a deep dive into the world of gifted and 2e children, with Dr. Mike Postma, a writer, consultant and presenter specializing in the education and well-being of twice exceptional and intellectually gifted students and their families. Mike is also the Executive Director of SENG, which stands for Supporting the Emotional Needs of the Gifted, an organization whose mission it is to empower families and communities to guide gifted and talented individuals to reach their goals: intellectually, physically, emotionally, socially, and spiritually, as well as the author of the new book, The Inconvenient Student: Critical Issues in the Identification and Education of Twice-Exceptional Students.
Mike and I talked about the challenges facing gifted and 2e / twice-exceptional students, especially social and emotional challenges, and this is one of those episodes that just might leave you feeling pensive, concerned, and ignited all at the same time. Lees meerDr. Michael Postma is an educator, author, speaker, coach and consultant dedicated to the holistic development of the gifted/twice-exceptional (2e) community. Over the last two decades, Dr. Postma has served as a gifted teacher in the classroom, as an administrator and leader of gifted schools – both public and charter schools in multiple states, and was the architect of the Minnetonka Navigator Program, a magnet school in Minnesota specifically designed for highly gifted and twice-exceptional students. He currently is the President and co-founder of Gifted and Thriving, LLC .
Things you’ll learn from this episodeMike Postma’s personal story of growing up a gifted and 2e kid with very little support
What “holistic development” means in the context of 2e children
Why Mike says social emotional development has to be one of the foundations for academic and intellectual potential
Where society is with regards to understanding asynchronous development
How schools can make small accommodations to make school more successful for…
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TPP 295: Dr. Gwen Palafox on Supporting and Empowering Neurodivergent Young Adults in the Transitions to Adulthood
28 juni 2022 · 48 min
My guest for this conversation is Dr. Gwen Palafox, a psychologist who has been supporting disabled and neurodivergent young adults in the transition to adulthood for more than twenty years. I brought Gwen on the show to talk about helping our teens and young adults “launch” into adulthood, specifically how to prepare for and help them acquire the skills and support that would help them move into the version of independent living that’s right for them. In our conversation, we looked at some of the common challenges neurodivergent teens face in the transition to adulthood, how we can navigate systems and conversations with our kids to help them feel empowered and capable and have agency, and how to respond to our own concerns and fears about what comes next.
Dr. Gwen Palafox is a licensed psychologist who has been actively (and obsessively) supporting disabled and neurodivergent individuals for over two decades. She’s known to be laser-focused on taking the guesswork out of adult preparedness, helping teens and young adults find their most fulfilled and joyful lives. She is honored to be a part of the lives of her wonderfully complex, unique, and awesome clients and their families.
Things you’ll learn from this episode Lees meerThe underlying philosophy for the way Gwen supports young adults
The critical skills neurodivergent young adults need in order to launch successfully
Examples of replacing automated support aids with self-management systems as a way to gain independence
The power in engaging teens in small, daily chores as a way to shift responsibility and build skills
How parents can support teens who are feeling scared and anxious about leaving home, especially in times of Covid
The common challenges neurodivergent teens face when transitioning into adulthood
How Gwen’s Bright Life System helps pinpoint the skills teens need to work on before leaving the school system
Resources mentioned for a Neurodivergent Transition to Adulthood
Dr. Gwen’s Meaningful Gro…
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TPP 128a: Digital Media and Technology Expert Devorah Heitner on Helping Kids Be Screenwise
24 juni 2022 · 49 min
This weeks’ episode is a must-listen to if your child uses technology and screens of any sort and your spending energy managing your kids’ screen time. My guest this week is Dr. Devorah Heitner, an expert on young people’s relationship with digital media and technology. Devorah is the author of Screenwise: Helping Kids Thrive (and Survive) in Their Digital World and founder of Raising Digital Natives, and her mission is to cultivate a culture of empathy and social/emotional literacy. Devorah did a fascinating TEDx talk a few years back called The Challenges of Raising a Digital Native, which I highly recommend you check out.
Today Devorah and I talk about kids’ relationship with screens, everything from the specific challenges related to screens and technology for differently wired kids to how we as parents can start being effective mentors for our child when it comes to helping them develop healthy screen habits. I asked Devorah the big questions I hear all the time from parents, like how much time spent on screens is too much, does the type of activity ours kids are doing make a difference when setting limits, and much more.
An expert on young people’s relationship with digital media and technology, Dr. Devorah Heitner is the author of Screenwise: Helping Kids Thrive (and Survive) in Their Digital World and founder of Raising Digital Natives. Her mission is to cultivate a culture of empathy and social/emotional literacy. She has a Ph.D. in Media/Technology & Society from Northwestern University and has taught at DePaul and Northwestern. She is delighted to be raising her own digital native. Lees meerThings you’ll learn from this episode
Why it’s important that we focus on tech literacy in our kids rather than specific apps
The most common challenges for differently wired kids when it comes to their relationship with technology and “managing” their screen time
How we might use their skills and interest in tech to bridge into areas of strength
The challenges stemming f…
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TPP 294: Zach Morris Talks About Somatic Therapy for Processing Trauma in Differently Wired Kids
21 juni 2022 · 55 min
My guest today is Zach Morris, a semi-frequent guest of this show. I always love my conversations with Zach, so I was so happy to bring him back to talk about somatic therapy, and how this modality can be especially powerful in supporting differently wired kids struggling with anxiety and depression and recovering from both big and little T trauma. In our conversation, we get into the Polyvagal Theory, what somatic therapy is, what it looks like in practice with kids, the underlying power of somatic healing, and how it can help kids develop resilience, even in the face of stressful situations.
Zach Morris is a thought leader in education. He is committed to helping people increase compassion, collaboration, and learning. Zach supports individuals, families, and organizations who aim to develop a greater sense of safety and empowerment in themselves, in their relationships, and in their communities.
Gently guiding humans through the resistance they encounter is at the core of Zach’s work. He is inspired by the science of how people learn and change, and he aims to translate this to help individuals and communities improve awareness, communication, and structural support. Zach has 10+ years experience in the classroom, ranging from inner-city public school to rural therapeutic boarding school, and from non-traditional private school to individual co-op homeschool. Zach now serves as a learning consultant and communication coach, and he is most at home in the mountains of Montana, where he lives and works.
Things you’ll learn from this episode Lees meerWhat Zach has been seeing among neurodivergent kids in response to the disruption of the past few years
What the Polyvagal Theory is and how the sympathetic system works when our flight, freeze, fight, or fawn response is activated
What “little t” traumas are and these may reflect the experience of many neurodivergent kids
What somatic therapy is and how it helps kids foster and develop resilience around stressful situations…
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TPP 015a: A Conversation with 11-year-old Asher About Travel and Vacation Strategies
17 juni 2022 · 30 min
In this special kid’s POV edition of the podcast, Asher and I share our best tips and strategies for making travel run more smoothly and having successful vacations with neurodivergent kids. As much as many families and their children may love going on vacation, the change in routine, different foods, shifting expectations, and new stimuli can even turn a trip to “The Happiest Place on Earth” (Disneyland) into one full of stress, anxiety, meltdowns, and other challenges. And while we know this rings true for pretty much any and every family, for parents raising differently wired kids, the extremes highs and lows can bigger.
In this episode, Asher and I share what we’ve learned over the years when it comes to making sure everyone’s needs and expectations on any given vacation are met, or at the very least, addressed, and walk listeners through the different schedules and planners we’ve we incorporated into our vacation prep. Lees meerThings you’ll learn from this episode
The benefits of talking through and getting clear on expectations (for all members of the family) prior to leaving for a vacation
A strategy for using the collaborative problem solving approach to identify, address, and pre-solve concerns ahead of time
How to make departure day go more smoothly
The benefits of exploring and researching aspects of a vacation time well in advance of the trip (including accommodations, activities, etc.)
A strategy for using written schedules coupled with frequent reviews during a vacation keeps everyone’s expectations in check
The benefits of bringing a child into the planning process (and letting them determine some of what will happen on vacation)
Why it’s useful to work with your child to discover what they need most on vacation and then incorporating it into your daily plan (ie: rest, chill time, etc.)
Resources mentioned for successful vacations with neurodivergent kids
Download a PDF of our Family Goals Worksheet
Download a PDF of our Vacation Concerns Workshee…
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TPP 293: Catherine Newman on How Kids Can Learn Social Skills and Ways to be a Good Human
14 juni 2022 · 41 min
Today’s episode is all about social skills, but from an updated lens that really speaks to the lived experiences of today’s kids. My guest is writer and journalist Catherine Newman, and we’re going to dive into her new book, What Can I Say? A Kids Guide to Super Useful Social Skills to Help You Get Along and Express Yourself.
What Can I Say is aimed at kids ages 10 and up, and it includes practical and accessible advice to help kids and teens learn social skills, including everything from introduce themselves, express empathy, be persuasive, and apologize to compromise, ask for help, be grateful, and comfort a friend.
In this conversation, Catherine and talk about why learning social and interpersonal skills are more important than ever for our kids, despite the fact that their lives are evolving to include more time spent online. We also talk about the climate for social emotional learning and ways parents and educators can to reinforce the social skills our kids are learning.
Catherine Newman is the author of the memoirs Catastrophic Happiness and Waiting for Birdy, the middle-grade novel One Mixed-Up Night, the kids’ craft book Stitch Camp, the how-to books for kids How to Be a Person and What Can I Say? and the novel We All Want Impossible Things (forthcoming, Harper, November 2022). She edits the non-profit kids’ cooking magazine ChopChop, writes the etiquette column for Real Simple magazine, and is a regular contributor to the New York Times, O, The Oprah Magazine, Parents magazine, Cup of Jo, and many other publications. She lives in Amherst, Massachusetts, with her family. Lees meerThings you’ll learn from this episode
Why it’s still important to learn social skills and interpersonal skills even though our kids’ lives are evolving to include more time spent online
Why it’s important to spend time learning social skills just as we would learn any other type of skill like algebra or singing
The importance of learning interpersonal skills that focus on empathy, set…
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TPP 013a: Margaret Webb Shares Tools & Mindsets for Surviving Summer Break
10 juni 2022 · 42 min
Margaret Webb helps parents find more peace in parenting the child they didn’t expect when they were expecting, and part of her work is supporting parents survive summer break. Many parents (and not just parents raising differently-wired kids) limp across the finish line of a long school year only to find themselves facing the stress of summer — new schedules and routines, different expectations, wants, and needs for everyone in the family, and lots of other changes.
In our conversation, Margaret shares her personal strategy for not only surviving summer break, but thriving. She walks us through her Summer Survival Skills Package, a free toolkit comprised of MP3s and worksheets designed to help struggling parents have a summer that works for the whole family.
Margaret Webb is a certified Master Life Coach, parenting coach, nature-based coach, former teacher, wife and mother. As a life and parenting coach, she weaves together her experience as an elementary education teacher with the tools she’s learned in Martha Beck’s Life Coach Training, Sagefire Institute’s Nature-Based Coach Training, and what she’s applied to her own life as a mom of a child with special needs. Lees meerThings you’ll learn from this episode
How “reality versus expectations” creates unnecessary stress for many parents over the summer
Why having “leadership energy” as a parent can help a family thrive
The importance of getting clear on both your personal needs as a parent and your child’s needs and wants for the summer break
What scheduling, mapping, and tracking have to do with surviving summer holidays
How focusing on our own experience and fostering personal self-care actually supports our children
Why nature can be so restorative for parents raising differently-wired kids
How to envision your ideal day as a way to begin creating a more peaceful reality
Resources mentioned for surviving summer break
Margaret Webb’s Summer Survival Skills Package — download link
The Families That Can’t Affor…
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TPP 292: Dr. Devon Price on His New Book, "Unmasking Autism: Discovering the New Faces of Neurodiversity"
7 juni 2022 · 46 min
This week I'm talking about Dr. Devon Price, a social psychologist, professor, author, and proud autistic person, and the author of the new book, Unmasking Autism: Discovering the New Faces of Neurodiversity. In this conversation, Devon and I talk about what masking is, what it looks like, and whether it is something that autistic people choose to do or not. We also talk about why masking is more complex for people of color, the relationship between masking and gender, and what integration looks like for a neurodivergent person.
Devon Price, PhD, is a social psychologist, professor, author, and proud Autistic person. He is the author of Unmasking Autism: Discovering the New Faces of Neurodiversity. His research has appeared in journals such as the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, and the Journal of Positive Psychology. Devon’s writing has appeared in outlets such as the Financial Times, HuffPost, Slate, Jacobin, Business Insider, LitHub, and on PBS and NPR. He lives in Chicago, where he serves as an assistant professor at Loyola University Chicago’s School of Continuing and Professional Studies. Lees meerThings you’ll learn from this episode
What “masking” is, what it looks like, and why most often it’s not a conscious choice
Why the decision to mask or not mask is more complex for autistic people of color
Devon’s thoughts on the recent explosion of neurodivergent kids coming out as trans and the relationship between masking and gender
Devon’s take on ABA therapy and alternatives ways of supporting autistic kids
Considerations regarding language in the neurodivergent and disability community
What integration is and what it looks like for a neurodivergent person
Strategies for ways parents can help their autistic children move through the world more authentically without masking
How Devon see our society currently changing in neurodivergence awareness and inclusion
Resources mentioned for Unmasking Autism
Devon…
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TPP 089a: The Truth About IEPs & Accommodations in College, with Elizabeth Hamblet
29 april 2022 · 48 min
Have you ever wondered if your child can have an IEP and/or accommodations in college? My guest for this episode, Elizabeth Hamblet, has the answer to this and many more questions about the high school to college transition for differently wired students.
Elizabeth began her career as a high school special education teacher and case manager, and then worked as a learning disabilities specialist at Simmons College and Rutgers University. She is now a learning specialist at Columbia University, where she helps students with time management, organization, reading, and study skills. She also offers programs to families and professionals on transition to college for students with disabilities, speaking locally and at national conferences.This episode is about the transition to college for a differently-wired student, from the point of view of an educator and consultant who specializes in helping atypical kids be successful before, during, and after this transition.
Elizabeth has worked as a learning disabilities specialist in college disability services offices for two decades. In addition to working at a university, she is a nationally-requested speaker on preparing students with disabilities for successful college transition. Hamblet is the author of Seven Steps to College Success: A Pathway for Students with Disabilities and a concise guide on transition, and her work has appeared in numerous journals and online platforms. She offers advice and information on her website at www.LDadvisory.com and shares resources on numerous social media platforms. Lees meerThings you’ll learn from this episode
The real story behind if, and how, colleges and universities support their differently wired students
The difference between accommodations and services in the university setting
Whether or not universities recognize IEPs and 504 Plans
How to find the best university for your child when it comes to how well their needs will be supported
How students can best set themselves up for…
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TPP 291: What is Dyslcalculia? Laura Jackson on Her Family's Journey With a Math Disability
26 april 2022 · 45 min
What is dyscalculia? If you’re wondering if your child has this often misunderstood math disability, this episode is for you. My guest is Laura Jackson, a mom, writer, and advocate who helps families struggling with dyscalculia move from confusion and overwhelm to understanding and connection. Laura’s passion is to provide advocacy, coaching, and encouragement for overwhelmed parents and discouraged children who feel alone in their journey with dyscalculia.
In this conversation, Laura shares insights from her new book, Discovering Dyscalculia: One Family’s Journey with a Math Disability, which was inspired by her own family’s journey of getting her daughter’s diagnosis, how they navigated working with the school, and finding strategies that work for her beyond her education. Laura also shared many, many strategies and resources for parents who want to learn more about dyscalculia and the early signs that they can look out for if they suspect their child might be struggling with it. Lees meerThings you’ll learn from this episode
What the early signs of dyscalculia are that parents can look out for
How Laura navigated the journey of getting her daughter evaluated at school and what she did to help educate the special ed department about dyscalculia
Why some schools avoid suggesting an evaluation to parents but instead wait for parents to ask for their child to be evaluated
Laura’s favorite researchers and resources on dyscalculia
Examples of the adjustments Laura made at home to accommodate her daughter
Resources mentioned for discovering dyscalculia
Laura Jackson’s website
Discovering Dyscalculia: One Family’s Journey with a Math Disability by Laura Jackson
Laura’s online class for parents: Your Dyscalculia Adventure
Download a free chapter of Discovering Dyscalculia
Ronit Bird, Dyscalculia Specialist
Ronit Bird’s YouTube channel
Dr. Schreuder / Dyscalculia Services
The Dyscalculia Network
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TPP 055a: Dr. Devon MacEachron on Assessing and Supporting Twice-Exceptional Children
22 april 2022 · 40 min
Dr. Devon MacEachron, a clinician, researcher, author, and speaker who specializes in assessing and supporting twice-exceptional, or 2e, learners founded a private psychology practice in New York City where she meets the psychoeducational, assessment, and education planning needs of the families of bright learners. Her mission is to help position these awesome students to achieve their goals and dreams, and to help parents feel confident their doing their best for their children. And that’s what we get into in this episode.
Devon MacEachron, PhD provides comprehensive neuropsych and psychoeducational assessments focused on discovering the student’s unique profile of cognitive strengths and weaknesses and identifying how individual differences impact learning, achievement as compared to ability, social, emotional, and behavioral functioning, and interests and affinities. As a specialist in twice-exceptional and gifted learners, dyslexia, ADHD, Asperger’s, and academic motivation with a positive psychology focus on strengths and interests, Dr. Devon is an expert diagnostician who provides an actionable game-plan to families enabling students to achieve their highest potential. Lees meerThings you’ll learn from this episode
How 2e or “twice exceptional” is defined
How parents can recognize when something is “off” with their child or they suspect they may be 2e
Why it’s important to look at a child’s behavior and their environment when doing a neurological assessment
What the optimal age is for an assessment to determine if a child is twice exceptional
Why there usually isn’t a good school option for kids who are 2e
How parents can best support their twice-exceptional children, even if they are in a traditional school setting
Resources mentioned for supporting 2e learners
Dr. Devon MacEachron’s website
Email Dr. Devon
Dr. Devon on Facebook
Dr. Devon on Twitter
Cattell-Horn-Carroll Theory of Intelligence
Bright Not Broken: Gifted Kids, ADHD, and Autism by Diane M. …
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TPP 290: Katie Hurley on Supporting Stressed Out Kids and Adolescents
19 april 2022 · 41 min
Child and adolescent psychotherapist, parenting educator, public speaker, and writer Katie Hurley, LCSW, talks about supporting stressed out kids and adolescents, and the current state of kids' and teens' mental health.
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TPP 116a: Psychologist and Author Dr. Dan Peters on Parenting with Purpose and Intention
15 april 2022 · 44 min
My guest this week is Dr. Dan Peters, a licensed psychologist, author, co-founder and Executive Director of the Summit Center, and the co-founder of the Parent Footprint Awareness Training. Dan’s mission is to foster more parenting with intention and purpose, and in today’s conversation, we explore just what that means, what it looks like, and how we can do the work on ourselves that can benefit our children and the family dynamic.
We also take a deep look at Dan’s Parent Footprint Awareness Training, a unique, new, virtual online experience that supports parents in guiding our child’s future by becoming aware of our own parenting beliefs. I had a chance to go through the program already and found it to be powerful, quickly resulting in some game-changing aha moments for me. As you’ll hear from our chat, there is a very close synergy and alignment in Dr. Dan’s philosophy and approach with my mission at TILT Parenting — I have a hunch you will find him just as inspiring as I do.
Dr. Dan Peters is a licensed psychologist, author, co-founder and Executive Director of the Summit Center. Dr. Dan has devoted his career to the assessment and treatment of children, adolescents, and families, specializing in overcoming worry and fear, learning differences such as dyslexia, and issues related to giftedness and twice-exceptionality. Dr. Dan is author of Make Your Worrier a Warrior: A Guide to Conquering Your Child’s Fears and From Worrier to Warrior: A Guide to Conquering Your Fears. He is also co-author of Raising Creative Kids, and is a regular contributor to the Huffington Post and Psychology Today. Lees meerThings you’ll learn from this episode
How our children benefit when we as parents are mindful about our lives and experiences
The connection between the values of compassion and kindness and our footprint in society
Why creating a more compassionate world starts in the home
How our energy as parents and caregivers is connected to our child’s behavior
The role our own past…
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TPP 289: Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart on Breaking Harmful Generational Cycles
12 april 2022 · 44 min
Pediatric psychologist and parent coach Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart talks about trauma and generational cycles, and offers ideas for why and how to break harmful cycles to help children and families heal.
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TPP 020a: Casey O'Roarty on Positive Discipline and Neurodivergent Children
8 april 2022 · 50 min
In this episode, I’m talking with Casey O’Roarty of Joyful Courage, Positive Discipline trainer and parent coach who is not only passionate about the power of positive discipline, but is a fierce believer in supporting parents in becoming courageous and joyful as they navigate the ups and downs of raising kids.
Because I’ve personally experienced the profound impact of positive discipline in my relationship with Asher, I was excited to sit down with Casey for a deep dive into the heart and soul of the positive discipline parenting philosophy and neurodivergent children— respectful communication, fostering connection, and supporting a child in growth and learning through a marriage of kindness and firmness. I believe wholeheartedly that positive discipline is an incredibly effective approach for all parents, but especially for parents raising differently wired kids. I have a hunch that after listening to this episode, you’ll feel the same way.
Casey O’Roarty is a Positive Discipline trainer and parent coach in the Pacific Northwest who teaches parent classes and leads teacher trainings. She is the founder of Joyful Courage, an online business featuring a blog, videos, and e-courses, as well as the host of the Joyful Courage Podcast. Lees meerThings you’ll learn from this episode
What Positive Discipline is as a parenting and teaching philosophy
Why it’s critical that our kids feel connected
Why a parent’s emotions are their biggest clues as to what’s going on with their “misbehaving” children
How the balance of kindness and firmness works so well for children
Why positive discipline isn’t a “permissive” parenting style
Why “punishments” and time outs don’t help our children develop skills
Resources mentioned for positive discipline and neurodivergent children
Casey O’Roarty’s website, Joyful Courage
The Joyful Courage Podcast
Positive Discipline by Jane Nelson
Positive Discipline for Children with Special Needs: Raising and Teaching All Children to Become Resilie…
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TPP 288: Natasha Daniels Talks About How to Help Kids with Anxiety or OCD
5 april 2022 · 44 min
Author, child anxiety and OCD therapist, and founder of AT Parenting Survival Natasha Daniels talks about the way anxiety and OCD show up in children, and how parents can best support children who are struggling.
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TPP 033a: A Conversation with 12-year-old Asher About Being a Kid with ADHD
1 april 2022 · 35 min
In this special kid’s POV edition, my 12-year-old son Asher and I get real about the impact of ADHD in our world. We’ve known since Asher was five that he has ADHD, yet the learning for both him and us continues.
In our conversation, Asher shares how he felt when he first found out he had ADHD, what it means to him, and the areas of his life where it impacts him the most. I talk about my steep learning curve with understanding ADHD when I first began homeschooling Asher, and reflect on the ways in which I’m still struggling to embrace all aspects of his ADHD. We also have a frank conversation about why Asher has chosen to not take medication for ADHD and what he’s doing instead.
Debbie Reber is the founder of Tilt and the host of the Tilt Parenting Podcast. 12-year-old Asher is Debbie’s child and is regularly featured on the podcast. Find out more about Debbie and Asher by visiting the About Page.
Things you’ll learn from this episode Lees meerHow it feels to have to fidget in order to focus, from a kid’s POV
What Asher wishes all teachers, and parents, understood about ADHD
Strategies Asher is currently using to help him calm his mind and focus
Why many kids with ADHD are too hard on themselves
The power and truth in the quote: “Kids would do better if they could”
Resources mentioned about being a kid with ADHD
Blocked to Brilliant (ADHD Coaching)
ADHD Video Club
ADHD Kids Rock
Debbie and Asher’s Miracle Morning Routine (podcast)
The Productivity Planner
The Creative Process (image)
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