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Depression and SA... When medication is your best option
9 oktober 2015 · 38 min
Dr. David Lake talks about how depression can be related to social anxiety, and about the different kinds of depression. He speaks of the kind that gets results, and the kind of depression for which you need medication. Here are a few quotes (this is a MUST listen if you're depressed): Lees meer
"When people have "melancholic depression" and they just drag themselves around and they can't think and they can't do anything at all, they're absolutely exhausted all day long that's actually a nasty business and is very very serious. And it's important to recognise it because ordinary psychological treatments don't work at all. Not at all. Not in the slightest. Whereas with the other kind of depression, where people are reactive to life, either over a long period or fairly quickly, reactive to negative events, you can often use psychological treatments very successfully. Especially the energy therapy treatments."
"Doctors and alternative practitioners speak about how depression can be treated psychologically. They actually think that you either give medication or you shouldn't. If it's mild or moderate you can try treating your depression with psychological techniques. But if it isn't mild or moderate, but it's moderate or severe, you should really consider taking medication."
"We need the best of both worlds, we need the best of orthodox medicine and we need the best of natural medicine."
"Medication doesn't treat an underlying problem, but it gives you an opportunity to address all these personality issues that people bring to the table when they have depression."
"A lot of people don't realise that anxiety and depression often coexist. And even that depression can drive anxiety. So when you actually treat the depression properly a tremendous amount of anxiety may well resolve quite quickly."
David's show notes page (www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/daviddepression/)
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An amazing new technique and system for personal development
2 oktober 2015 · 51 min
This is a very powerful and super simple technique to experience change. There are a few techniques I use over and over, next to tapping. Logosynthesis is one these. Lees meer
It's been developed by Willem Lammers, a psychologist and a licensed psychotherapist who trained in bioenergetics, TA, hypnotherapy, NLP and energy psychology. Since 2005, he created Logosynthesis®, an amazing new tool for personal development, and this is what he'll be sharing on this show.
Interesting is that Willem is an introvert himself, and he shares some great insights (and resources) to help you understand yourself better, and be more at peace in the world.
Enjoy!
Willem's show notes page (www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/willem/)
Free report on how to overcome social anxiety COMPLETELY
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www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/Warm regards,
Sebastiaan van der Schrier_________________________________________________________________
Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others?
And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself?You're not alone.
I've been there. It sucks. Big time.
But there's hope. I've been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety...
... and I've helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too.Thankfully, there's a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it.
It won't happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly.
And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free.
Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears.Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence?
Here are your first steps:
1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes!2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you'll also…
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The importance of Self Love
24 september 2015 · 41 min
Brad Yates explains how social anxiety is there to serve us. And why it can be so challenging to overcome it. Lees meer
And he then shares the big picture steps to overcoming it.
He goes into why we don't love ourselves, common blocks to loving yourself, and we talk about exposure therapy at great length.
He shares an easy-to-understand visual metaphor that helps you see how forcefully facing your fears is futile, and that there are smarter, more efficient ways to overcome your fears.
QUOTE: "if we're not good enough to love ourselves, how on earth are we even good enough for other people to love us? If we think poorly of ourselves, we're naturally going to expect others to think poorly of us."
Brad's show notes page (www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/brad/)
My homepage
www.social-anxiety-solutions.comContact me directly:
www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/Warm regards,
Sebastiaan van der Schrier_________________________________________________________________
Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others?
And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself?You're not alone.
I've been there. It sucks. Big time.
But there's hope. I've been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety...
... and I've helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too.Thankfully, there's a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it.
It won't happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly.
And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free.
Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears.Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence?
Here are your first steps:
1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes!2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you'll also get my FR…
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Check out this powerful and simple healing technique
17 september 2015 · 40 min
It's amazingly light and simple and easy and brings you more and more peace and self-confidence and just a sense of ease in being who you are. Lees meer
The words of Tapas Fleming, a Licensed Acupuncturist in practice since 1987, and the developer of TAT; a powerful and easy-to-use technique to clear past stressful or traumatic experiences in an easy, gentle way.
TAT in awesome Energy Psychology technique you would love knowing about so you can start using it to shed your social anxiety.
Tapas shares: "A lot of people feel like "oh I really want to release this, why haven't I released this, what's my problem why am I holding on to it?!".. but it's not something a person is doing consciously. It's not in conscious control unless you've got a technique, unless you've got a way to connect with that (referring to what you want to release). It's kind of like talking to your computer and saying "turn on!" and then complaining "why is it not turning on? why is it not working? what's wrong with me?" But you need a keyboard to be able to turn it on. You have to have a way in. TAT is a way to get in.
One of the cool things about TAT is that you don't have to talk about it, think about it, or figure anything out. You don't have to look for any deep inner causes, you don't have to dig or search, you just deal with whatever's up. Ow, I feel like I can't breathe when I'm in a group of people.. and I start to sweat.. well, then you just work with that; you work with whatever's there for you."
QUOTE: I recommend you keep a journal and take notes because you can get so much better so fast that it's hard to relate to where you were an hour ago, or 20minutes ago.
Tapas' show notes page (www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/tapas/)
My homepage:
www.social-anxiety-solutions.comContact me directly:
www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/Warm regards,
Sebastiaan van der Schrier_________________________________________________________________
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The healing power of forgiveness
10 september 2015 · 35 min
"It brings peace it brings love and it brings closeness and it has so much of a benefit to forgive." Lees meer
The words of Mary Llewellyn, a Hypnotherapist and Psychotherapist who uses Energy Therapies and Art Therapy, and one of the only 29 EFT Founding Masters.
She talks about transferring a positive feeling of confidence from one area of your life to another, about not having any emotions to tune into, and she shares various empowering quotes to understand forgiveness.
She goes into why people struggle with forgiveness so much and details the benefits of forgiveness.
Mair's show notes page (www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/mair/)
My homepage
www.social-anxiety-solutions.comContact me directly:
www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/Warm regards,
Sebastiaan van der Schrier_________________________________________________________________
Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others?
And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself?You're not alone.
I've been there. It sucks. Big time.
But there's hope. I've been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety...
... and I've helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too.Thankfully, there's a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it.
It won't happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly.
And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free.
Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears.Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence?
Here are your first steps:
1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes!2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you'll also get my FREE "7 Secrets to Social Confidence" Mini Course.
3.) Let's connect!
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How to make dating comfortable and safe
3 september 2015 · 1 uur 1 min
"People now react differently to me" Lees meer
The words of Cathy Vartuli, who didn't date for 13 years because she's a 320 pound woman who was afraid to get rejected for her weight. She did a session with an expert and two weeks later she was dating and has been on hundreds of dates since.
In this interview, Cathy (who is a sex-positive Emotional Freedom Coach who helps people transform their traumas into their greatest strengths using love, laughter and inner guidance) shares her story. She for example says:
"I had all the fears about how I looked. As I worked through it, I realised all of us have insecurities. And that was a big A-HA moment. I thought I was the only person in the world that felt awkward and out of place and everybody else was fine. Because I can't see in other people's heads, I had this belief that they had it all together and it was just me that's messed up. When I started letting go of that enough to get closer to people I realised everybody feels awkward."
And she also shares:
1. How much self acceptance has to do with dating
2. What she did to make dating safe for herself and how you can make it safe and fun
3. How to take the pressure off datingQUOTE: I showed the thing I most wanted to hide and when I did that people were inspired and my life has transformed since then.
Cathy's show notes page (www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/cathy/)
My homepage
www.social-anxiety-solutions.comContact me directly:
www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/Warm regards,
Sebastiaan van der Schrier_________________________________________________________________
Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others?
And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself?You're not alone.
I've been there. It sucks. Big time.
But there's hope. I've been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety...
... and I've helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too.Thankfully,…
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Is massive change too good to be true?
27 augustus 2015 · 57 min
"There are various stages of transformation, which have an order to them" Lees meer
The words of Sue Beer, who is an originally trained in psychodynamic psychotherapist, an experienced Hypnotherapist, NLP Master Practitioner, EFT Founding Master and AAMET Master Trainer of Trainers.
Sue shares how to get started with big change so that you maintain your motivation. She shares how to go from despair to hopeful. She explains the difference between "white knuckling change" (using ongoing will-power) versus true transformation.
She says: We get what we focus on. Beliefs are not truths and they haven't come out of thin air. They don't just descend on us. We attach to them usually as a consequence of a decision we make when something happens to us.
These beliefs are not what we really are. But as long as we hold on to them we get what we're expecting. We attract people who kind of confirm and give us evidence that we're not good enough.
She shares in this interview the one thing you should focus on to make the biggest change that lasts.
QUOTE: "Can we change our identity? YES! Everything that is connected to what we believe is only appearing to be real because we believe it, so we can change it."
Sue's show notes page (www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/sue)
My homepage:
www.social-anxiety-solutions.comContact me directly:
www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/Warm regards,
Sebastiaan van der Schrier_________________________________________________________________
Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others?
And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself?You're not alone.
I've been there. It sucks. Big time.
But there's hope. I've been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety...
... and I've helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too.Thankfully, there's a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it.
It won't happen overnight, but with certain tec…
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How to become comfortable with sex and sexuality
20 augustus 2015 · 1 uur 7 min
"Generally, people feel at peace after a first session because they realise it's possible to get out of this." Lees meer
The words of Yves Wauthier, psychotherapist, trainer, author, supervisor of therapists, and a sexologist specialising in brief therapy, complex trauma and attachment disorders.
Yves shares practical tips for men and women to overcome sexual dysfunction and how to become comfortable with sex and your sexuality.
He talks about other energy therapy techniques aside from EFT that are simple and very powerful. He says "I realised a client can achieve real deep change more easily than with other classical therapy."
He says: With energy psychology you don't have to go so deep into the sensations, the emotion. You need to be connected, but it's not so hard. Energy psychology for me was the best solution. It changed my life.
He further shares a breathing exercise to quickly decrease anxiety as well as a simple trick to quiet your thoughts.
Yves' show notes page (www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/yves)
My homepage:
www.social-anxiety-solutions.comContact me directly:
www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/Warm regards,
Sebastiaan van der Schrier_________________________________________________________________
Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others?
And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself?You're not alone.
I've been there. It sucks. Big time.
But there's hope. I've been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety...
... and I've helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too.Thankfully, there's a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it.
It won't happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly.
And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free.
Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears.Ready to get started on your journey to Social Conf…
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How to stop worrying and take control of your mind
12 augustus 2015 · 56 min
Whatever your situation is, there's someone that's gotten over that. For certain. Lees meer
The words of Phil Parker, Master Trainer of NLP, Expert in the psychology of health, happiness & genius, Hay House Author, PhD Researcher and Designer of the Lightning Process.
He shares two simple and effective techniques you can use immediately to let go of worrying and release stress. He says:
Anxiety relies on triggering sympathetic nervous system consistently, which is the part of your nervous system that is all about fighting beasts. It triggers adrenaline, it triggers cortisol, noradrenaline and dopamine as well… but is is very linked to the speed at which we talk.
Your breathing is linked to your internal voice speed. Slow your internal voice speed down and your breathing will slow down. Slow down your breathing and your nervous system will start to settle and get back to balance.
QUOTE: If you start to use the pathway towards calm more and more then what will happen is the connection to the stress pathway will start to fade. The gap will increase between that pathway and the stress pathway. And, the gap between that pathway and the happiness and calm pathway will get smaller. And so more and more nerve pathways will start to develop into happiness calm and relaxation.
Phil's show notes page (www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/phil)
My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here):
www.social-anxiety-solutions.comContact me directly:
www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/Warm regards,
Sebastiaan van der Schrier________________________________________________________________
Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others?
And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself?You're not alone.
I've been there. It sucks. Big time.
But there's hope. I've been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety...
... and I've helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles t… -
Amazing: Why stopping porn could reduce your social anxiety
6 augustus 2015 · 45 min
Your social anxiety can be the result of a porn addiction… Lees meer
In this fascinating interview Gary Wilson, author and researcher on Pornography and it's addiction, shares the science behind how internet porn addiction could be the CAUSE of your social anxiety.
He shares how hundreds of guys who stopped porn reported their social anxiety released.
And how non-anxious people's desire to socialise increased, their confidence increased, they became more social. And, how some with diagnosed social anxiety and medication saw improvement or full remission of their condition by stopping porn.
This goes into the science behind it in an easily understood way.
And he also shares:
What to do to increase your will power and decrease your social anxiety within 8 weeks.
Why socialising or small talk can become boring (and how this can be reversed
Why you could be having trouble being disciplined
What sexual dysfunctions out there (erectile disfunction, unable to ejaculate, bizarre fetishes, etc) are the result of porn and how these can be reversed
QUOTE: Many studies have pointed to the dopamine system being important in socialising. Studies on social anxiety have found that maybe less dopamine is being produced or people with social anxiety have less dopamine receptors. There are also experiments on animals and even humans where they'll purposely decrease dopamine and you'll see a rise in anxiety and a rise in avoiding other animals or social contact. So it's clear that the dopamine system is very important cause the dopamine system is the system that is motivating you to go out and seek rewards. The primary rewards for all social animals are of course food and water, but also sex and of course socialising. Maybe addiction-related brain changes are reversed when people give up porn and then they seek out normal rewards such as socialising.
Gary's show notes page (www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/gary)
My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here):
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How to build strong self-respect
30 juli 2015 · 1 uur 6 min
"I was less worried about what others thought of me and more oriented around what I thought was important." Lees meer
The words of Andy Bryce (EFT Master) after he started improving his self-respect after decades of low self esteem and little respect for himself.
Andy shares what self-respect is, how to regain respect for yourself, how to build strong self-respect from the inside out, and how to build on top of that and create a forward momentum that makes your self-respect rock-solid.
We also discuss the value of working through emotions, what to expect when undertaking the journey back to a healthy self-respect, and much more.
QUOTE: No one can love you more than you love yourself. And no one can respect you more than you respect yourself.
Andy's show notes page (social-anxiety-solutions.com/andy)
Contact me for coaching:
www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here):
www.social-anxiety-solutions.comWarm regards,
Sebastiaan van der Schrier_________________________________________________________________
Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others?
And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself?You're not alone.
I've been there. It sucks. Big time.
But there's hope. I've been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety...
... and I've helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too.Thankfully, there's a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it.
It won't happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly.
And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free.
Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears.Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence?
Here are your first steps:
1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes!2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive acce…
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How to quickly heal painful life experiences
23 juli 2015 · 1 uur
"His panic attacks stopped. He didn't have any anymore ever" Lees meer
The words of Rehana Webster, EFT Founding Master, counsellor, an NLP Master, and AAMET Trainer of Trainers. Her area of expertise is working with trauma, PTSD, depression, panic attacks, anger, grief and other negative emotions which cause people to remain stuck and unable to develop their highest potential in life.
She's the developer of the Trauma Buster Technique, a fast, efficient and simple tool that helps trauma victims recover and lead a more functional and satisfying life again.
We talk about her technique, the results you can get with it, and she shares some amazing stories of transformation. She says:
The only pain you experience (during the use of this technique) -which you experience daily anyway- is to think about what the trauma is. This is just to get a base-line. After this you immediately start the tapping to bring down the anxiety levels.
We use what's going on in the body and the mind to elicit the response from a trauma and then "tap" so that the levels of the stress hormone come down. It's like pavlovian conditioning; it's un-pairing the response with the traumatic experience.
QUOTE: "You can expect to no longer be held back by fear, or by the worry of being judged or criticised so you can actually move on."
Rehana's show notes page (www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/rehana)
My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here):
www.social-anxiety-solutions.comContact me directly:
www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/Warm regards,
Sebastiaan van der Schrier_________________________________________________________________
Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others?
And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself?You're not alone.
I've been there. It sucks. Big time.
But there's hope. I've been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety...
... and I've helped hundreds of socially anxi… -
How to be more social and make friends easily
16 juli 2015 · 1 uur 6 min
Teun is "effortlessly socially confident". And it's likely not what you think it is. Teun is a friend I met while living in Chiang Mai. He's someone who embodies "effortless social confidence" and I've personally learned a lot from him, just by spending time with him. Lees meer
In this interview I'm asking him questions to get into his mindset, to uncover his beliefs, to see why he's so comfortable with himself, and what he does (strategies, what to say, what to do, etc) to make friends easily and have a great time socially.
Teun is someone who's traveled to a wide variety of countries, traveled from the Netherlands to India in a red disabled car (that only goes 45km per hour!), lived in various countries, and has an amazing social life with friends all over the world.
In this interview Teun shares:
How he meets new people
The one simple questions he asks when meeting someone new that's low key, no-pressure and easy
The easiest way to makes friends naturally
How he deals with disapproval
How he starts creating a new social life from scratch
What website to use to make friends easily
QUOTE: People don't judge you on on situation or one comment you make. If people do this, they're not the kind of people you want in your life.
Show notes page
12 shortcusts to social confidence and worldclass content on how to free yourself of social anxiety forever: http://www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/
Contact me directly: http://www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/
Start here:
Free 7 Secrets to Social Confidence
https://bit.ly/socialconfidencenowThis short mini-course explains:
• why social anxiety happens
• why forcing exposure often backfires
• how the fight-flight-freeze response creates anxiety symptoms
• how tapping can help release the emotions and beliefs that trigger anxietyIt's designed to help you understand what's actually driving social anxiety and give you a first experience with the tapping approach.
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How to become emotionally strong and have healthy boundaries
9 juli 2015 · 1 uur 12 min
"It is life-changing, the results are very very compelling" Lees meer
The words of Dr. David Lake, a medical practitioner, supervisor of therapists, and psychotherapist who has been in private practice since 1977.
He shares his views on energy psychology, tapping, creating boundaries, and when face to face therapy is necessary and the benefits of it.
He shares: I used to think that myself (that I would have to live with my fears for the rest of my life) as it was my evidence from the real world and it was also true in the psychological and medical profession in the usual sense. And it's been true for many many years. But, approximately 20 years ago things started to change; a whole new paradigm emerged. In this paradigm, the so-called energy psychology, it turns out that even though when you don't know exactly how it works, you can actually help three kinds of serious human emotion to minimise and even disappear.
One is most kinds of anxiety. Two is most kinds of fear. Three is most kinds of deep hurt, related especially to trauma. I don't mean right away, or in one go, or in 10 minutes, but over time the most astounding things can happen to those feelings that have been typically out of reach for other treatments.
Other treatments, which I call outdated, typically are cognitive treatments working in the mind and most people think that's where the problem lies, but I no longer believe that. I think the problem is not in your mind, I think the problem is in your feelings which is somewhere coded or logged or anchored in your body.
It is a brand-new day when you can actually reduce anxiety fear and hurt. Your body is processing these feelings away from where they are stored. And once they are gone they are gone
When I found out I could release the fear I could actually not believe it.
This is the reason I actually entered the profession (psychotherapy), to be able to get these kind of results, and for many years I never could, I was amazed. And now that you can get the…
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How to reconnect with your true Self
2 juli 2015 · 1 uur 7 min
"Well-intentioned parents who try to make us the way society would accept are really teaching us to go outside of ourselves for our sense of approval in a sense that "if someone else approves of me then I can approve of myself" which is totally backwards from how we are meant to be. As a human being each of us is born with self worth. I want people to understand they come into the world as worthy and sovereign beings standing on their own inner land." Lees meer
The words of Rue Hass, one of the 29 EFT founding Masters, Intuitive Mentor, and Spiritual Life Path Coach.
She continues: "Life can be a deep, rich, beautiful tapestry of experience if you're willing to approach it in that way and deepen into it rather than focus on what's wrong."
In this conversation we explore the highly sensitive person (Rue believes that many people labeled as "socially anxious" have a deeply spiritual quality that she calls "sensitive intelligence") and speak about how to reframe the way we see ourselves so that we can reconnect with our true Self.
QUOTE: Anytime something is a "should" for you it's something to pay close attention to because "shoulds" usually come from what we expect what other people expect of us and it takes us away from ourselves.
Rue's show notes page
My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here):
www.social-anxiety-solutions.comContact me directly:
www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/Warm regards,
Sebastiaan van der Schrier_________________________________________________________________
Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others?
And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself?You're not alone.
I've been there. It sucks. Big time.
But there's hope. I've been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety...
... and I've helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too.Thankfully, there's a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it…
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Free yourself from your past and create social confidence
25 juni 2015 · 1 uur
"You're not born with social anxiety, it is learned" Lees meer
The words of Gwyneth Moss, an EFT Master (one of the only 29 worldwide) who holds certificates in Neuro Linguistic Programming, Hypnotherapy and the Human Givens approach to Psychotherapy.
She's studied the works of Dr Robert Scaer, a leader in the field of trauma research.
She shares:
If the way you're behaving, thinking or feeling doesn't fit what is happening in the here and now, when you're not feeling calm for no reason, when you can't think straight in a situation, or when you can't act sensibly and resourcefully...
...you're being affected by your past!
She shares in simple terms how our past affects our day to day experiences and how we can use EFT to release the hold the past has on us, so that we can free ourselves and live lives of calm confidence.
She shared how you go from re-living your past to re-telling it; no longer being emotionally connected to your past, being able to live in the now.
QUOTE: With social anxiety your animal brain is going "it's not safe, it's not safe!" and your thinking brain is trying to go "yes it is, it's ok" , but there is no trust and the two are going in opposite directions. And your animal brain always wins because it's mission is your protection and your pleasure. It wants to protect you and keep you safe. It doesn't trust the thinking mind cause the thinking mind is slow. If you were in real danger you need your animal instincts to keep you safe. In real danger you don't have time to think. When there is any sense of danger the animal brain does not trust the thinking brain.
EFT is therapy for your inner animal brain. Overcoming social anxiety is not about your thinking brain, it's not what you think. It's about your physical animal you, and helping that to feel safe.
Gwyneth's show notes page
My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here):
www.social-anxiety-solutions.comContact me directly:
www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/_____…
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The Social Anxiety to Social Confidence journey
18 juni 2015 · 46 min
It's really important for us to have a clear understanding of what the transformational path looks like as we're moving through it. It makes a big difference for people because it also gives them the ability to when we recognise these small steps we've made forward, it gives us the sense of achievement and momentum and so we keep after it." Lees meer
The words of expert "Gene Monterastelli"; a Brooklyn based EFT tapping practitioner who works with people to help them overcome limiting beliefs, anxiety, and relationship challenges.
Gene suffered from specific social anxiety: "I was totally fine performing on stage for 7000 people. But when I was engaging with a person 1 on 1 I didn't have control because the other person had more agency, they could make choices. And that unpredictability of how they would respond was crippling. For me it was the starting of conversations."
We go into depth on the journey from social anxiety to social confidence and Gene shares what he did to overcome his social anxiety using the tapping, and he also paints a picture of what to expect, and what mindset to take to keep going.
QUOTE: The times that I feel anxious, the times that I feel overwhelmed, the times that I feel insecure it's because I on some level have decided "my worth is determined by how someone else judges and evaluates me". When I am in a position where I recognise my own worth, and I am making that judgment myself and seeing myself as worthy because that's intrinsic about me, then navigating my day is really easy. I'm no longer trying to appease or try to live up to someone else's definition of success and I'm just simply trying to be me in this moment. And when I do that I have so much more control. And regardless of what comes I'm able to respond with so much more grace.
Gene's show notes page
My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here):
www.social-anxiety-solutions.comContact me directly:
www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/Warm regards,
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How to deal with severe social anxiety
11 juni 2015 · 43 min
"There is hope for everyone" says Sophia Cayer, one of the only 29 EFT founding Masters who has been devoted to a full-time EFT practice and has been teaching EFT since 2000. Lees meer
Sophia has had more than 12 000 client sessions and is known for finding core issues and working with tough challenges.
We go into depth on the things that prevent people from letting go their social anxiety. We go into why some people stay stuck, and what can be done to get unstuck.
She says: It takes courage to do the work but you will find it worthwhile. And what is great about EFT is the fact that you don't necessarily have to tell your story and get into detail. There are so many subtle ways to get to the situation, so if there's a concern to talk about things or reveal things that are uncomfortable, know there are gentle and subtle ways to get to these things and clear them. The process does not have to be horrifying or incredibly painful. Not saying their can't be or won't be moments where there will be intense emotion, but for the most part there things can be worked through in a gentle way and you really likely will be amazingly surprised with the process. And with EFT you can work on yourself in between sessions to help you find more calm resolve in daily situations.
We discuss the process of working with a practitioner, and dispel some of the myths and share what to expect.
QUOTE: I absolutely believe there is hope for everyone. I've seen people turn things around they thought were impossible. Whatever is causing the social anxiety, those things can be worked through. There are gentle and subtle ways to get to these things and clear them. The process does not have to be horrifying or incredibly painful. And you can find yourself amazingly surprised with the shifts that can happen.
Sophia's show notes page
My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here):
www.social-anxiety-solutions.comContact me directly:
www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/Warm regards…
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Do this and you can beat your SA don't do it and suffer forever
4 juni 2015 · 51 min
The most important thing to understand to beat your social anxiety is what we discuss today: "overcoming subconscious resistance". Lees meer
When you don't overcome this resistance, you cannot become anxiety-free. Ever.
Lindsay Kenny, one of the only 29 EFT Founding Masters, a Life Coach, and EFT AAMET Trainer of Trainers is the expert on subconscious resistance and shares her wisdom on the podcast.
She says "If you haven't been able to overcome your problem you have a subconscious resistance to change."
Consciously you want to change, but your subconscious (which is much bigger than your conscious mind) says: "We're not changing because if I go out into a social situation, I'm gonna get hurt, remember what happened last time?!"
She also guides you through an exercise to overcome this subconscious resistance easily and quickly. This is a MUST-listen.
QUOTE: Conventional psychology says "let's desensitise you from that fear by forcing you to face it, little steps at a time where you grid your teeth and bite your finger nails, have your heart pounding and your knuckles white, and you're just miserable doing it… And all the time your subconscious is yelling NO don't make me do this!! Sometimes this (forcefully facing your fears) does work, but it's so hard to do this. The simple thing is to just neutralise the subconscious resistance to changing.
Lindsay's show notes page
My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here):
www.social-anxiety-solutions.comContact me directly:
www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/Warm regards,
Sebastiaan van der SchrierStart here:
Free 7 Secrets to Social Confidence
https://bit.ly/socialconfidencenowThis short mini-course explains:
• why social anxiety happens
• why forcing exposure often backfires
• how the fight-flight-freeze response creates anxiety symptoms
• how tapping can help release the emotions and beliefs that trigger anxietyIt's designed to help you understand what's actually driving social anxiety an…
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Overcoming Fear of Rejection and expanding your comfort zone
28 mei 2015 · 55 min
Rick Wilkes is an Emotional Freedom Coach who has been guiding people for over 23 years using energy healing and EFT Tapping and has worked with thousands of individuals. He blends a unique combination of body-centered and energetic approaches to activate authentic self-expression, personal power, calm confidence, and a warm sense of self-love in his clients. Lees meer
We discuss the fear of rejection, how to overcome it and expand your comfort zone. Rather than push yourself harshly, we speak of how to gently expand it, and listen to your body's YES and NO's.
Rick shares "We coach around helping people build enough resilience so they can be out in the world with real people, but also have healthy boundaries that say "ow, you didn't like what I said? Ow I wasn't saying it for you".
QUOTE: Many people that have gone through this kind of process (tapping) become much more confident than your average person because you're building up your resilience.
Rick's show notes page
My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here):
www.social-anxiety-solutions.comContact me directly:
www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/Warm regards,
Sebastiaan van der SchrierStart here:
Free 7 Secrets to Social Confidence
https://bit.ly/socialconfidencenowThis short mini-course explains:
• why social anxiety happens
• why forcing exposure often backfires
• how the fight-flight-freeze response creates anxiety symptoms
• how tapping can help release the emotions and beliefs that trigger anxietyIt's designed to help you understand what's actually driving social anxiety and give you a first experience with the tapping approach.
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If you'd like practical tools you can start using right away:
Fast Social Anxiety Relief
https://www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/fast-social-anxiety-relief/--------------------------------------------------
About Seb
Seb struggled with severe social anxiety himself for many years. Since 2009 h…
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Self acceptance - a key to social comfort
21 mei 2015 · 55 min
Steve Wells is a psychologist. He has trained to the highest level in provocative therapy, has extensive training and experience in brief strategic therapy, and has been training counsellors and therapists for over 20 years. Lees meer
Together with Dr David Lake he also conducts personal development seminars and professional training workshops in Advanced EFT and Provocative Energy Techniques.
He and Dr Lake developed Simple Energy Techniques (SET) and the unique advanced Energy-based approach Provocative Energy Techniques (PET).
Steve shares his 30 day self acceptance journey, and let's you know how overcoming your social anxiety has to start with acceptance because non-self acceptance is a guaranteed way to keep your negative cycle of social anxiety happening.
And paradoxically accepting yourself (starting with accepting where you are) is the beginning point of recovery.
QUOTE: A lot of people are doing exposure therapy, feel the fear and do it anyway, and that's good, but you know what, for some people that's really harrowing, it's really tough, and what techniques like tapping do is at the very least they take the edge off at the beginning so that it becomes a little bit easier. And over time, it becomes a lot easier.
Steve's show notes page
My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here):
www.social-anxiety-solutions.comContact me directly:
www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/Warm regards,
Sebastiaan van der SchrierStart here:
Free 7 Secrets to Social Confidence
https://bit.ly/socialconfidencenowThis short mini-course explains:
• why social anxiety happens
• why forcing exposure often backfires
• how the fight-flight-freeze response creates anxiety symptoms
• how tapping can help release the emotions and beliefs that trigger anxietyIt's designed to help you understand what's actually driving social anxiety and give you a first experience with the tapping approach.
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If you'd like pra…
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Loving your sensitivity and feeling safe being vulnerable
14 mei 2015 · 44 min
This may forever shift your perspective on sensitivity and vulnerability and place it in a perspective that empowers and inspires you. Lees meer
Tom's my close buddy and is an ex-professional MMA fighter. He practices a combination of Energy Psychology and intuitive physical therapy to facilitate deep levels of acceptance.
He's been on (and still is) a long journey of intense self-exploration, has lived in the jungle for 6 months, has done a 10 meditation retreat, and is the ideal man to speak to when it comes to owning your sensitivity and feeling safe enough to be vulnerable.
We talk about the necessity of owning your sensitivity and getting yourself to a place where it becomes safe to be vulnerable. Tom grew up in the UK and sensitivity was seen as weak and pathetic. Same for where I'm from. This has set us both on a journey to exploring our sensitivity.
QUOTE: Being sensitive and being vulnerable is really a huge part of being able to connect with people. The more vulnerable and sensitive you allow yourself to be the more connected you feel with people.
Tom's show notes page
My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here):
www.social-anxiety-solutions.comContact me directly:
www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/Warm regards,
Sebastiaan van der SchrierStart here:
Free 7 Secrets to Social Confidence
https://bit.ly/socialconfidencenowThis short mini-course explains:
• why social anxiety happens
• why forcing exposure often backfires
• how the fight-flight-freeze response creates anxiety symptoms
• how tapping can help release the emotions and beliefs that trigger anxietyIt's designed to help you understand what's actually driving social anxiety and give you a first experience with the tapping approach.
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If you'd like practical tools you can start using right away:
Fast Social Anxiety Relief
https://www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/fast-social-anxiety-relief/----------------------------…
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Bullying - how to overcome its negative effects
7 mei 2015 · 49 min
Tania suffered from social anxiety for the longest time and has completely resolved it. Lees meer
She's an NLP Trainer, EFT founding Master and Trainer, TAT Professional Trainer, Hypnotherapy Trainer and Practitioner.
She's featured on the BBC TV show Inside Out, as well as on a Swedish TV Show where she helped someone overcome a binge eating disorder.
She has extensive experience working one on one with clients clearing fear and nerves in public speaking, including those who experience panic attacks, blushing and social phobia.
We go into depth on bullying, share out own personal experiences, and give simple and effective techniques to eliminate (yes, not ease, not manage, eliminate!) the negative effects of bullying.
QUOTE: "To me it's not about "managing it" (the social anxiety), you really want to go for the full deal; it absolutely can be shifted"
Tani's show notes page
My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here):
www.social-anxiety-solutions.com
Contact me directly:
www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/Warm regards,
Sebastiaan van der SchrierStart here:
Free 7 Secrets to Social Confidence
https://bit.ly/socialconfidencenowThis short mini-course explains:
• why social anxiety happens
• why forcing exposure often backfires
• how the fight-flight-freeze response creates anxiety symptoms
• how tapping can help release the emotions and beliefs that trigger anxietyIt's designed to help you understand what's actually driving social anxiety and give you a first experience with the tapping approach.
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If you'd like practical tools you can start using right away:
Fast Social Anxiety Relief
https://www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/fast-social-anxiety-relief/--------------------------------------------------
About Seb
Seb struggled with severe social anxiety himself for many years. Since 2009 he has helped people work through social anxiety using a calm, structured approach that combine…
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Why this podcast and my story
1 mei 2015 · 17 min
This show is for you when you're suffering from social anxiety and the standard tips don't work. You're frustrated, and worried you'll have to live with your social anxiety for the rest of your life. This podcast is for you. Lees meer
You'll hear from the super stars of the therapy and psychology world who have been originally trained psychologists or psychotherapists who have incorporated energy psychology into their practice. They share their most effective techniques, empowering solutions, and unbelievably inspiring stories of transformation and perspectives that help shortcut your journey to social confidence massively.
Each show we discuss a social anxiety related topic (shame, self acceptance, sensitivity, bullying, fear of rejection, connection, loneliness, etc) and you'll get specific action steps to move forward each episode.
In this intro podcast I share my story from social anxiety to social confidence. What worked for me and what didn't. And what you can do to make progress today.
Thank you for listening.
My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here):
www.social-anxiety-solutions.comContact me directly:
www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/Warm regards,
Sebastiaan van der SchrierStart here:
Free 7 Secrets to Social Confidence
https://bit.ly/socialconfidencenowThis short mini-course explains:
• why social anxiety happens
• why forcing exposure often backfires
• how the fight-flight-freeze response creates anxiety symptoms
• how tapping can help release the emotions and beliefs that trigger anxietyIt's designed to help you understand what's actually driving social anxiety and give you a first experience with the tapping approach.
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If you'd like practical tools you can start using right away:
Fast Social Anxiety Relief
https://www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/fast-social-anxiety-relief/--------------------------------------------------
About Seb
Seb struggled with severe soc…
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How to overcome shame
1 mei 2015 · 51 min
Emma is an ex-social anxiety sufferer, and a therapist with decades of experience. She's dealt with shame extensively both personally (a blushing problem) and professionally as she specialises working with highly sensitive areas such as trauma and sexual abuse. Lees meer
Emma is an EFT Master and Master Trainer, Clinical Hypnotherapist and NLP Master Practitioner.
We address shame in detail, and share how to overcome it.
Emma is the co-founder of Integrated Energy Techniques (IET), which brings together Energy Psychology and the very best ways of working with Ericksonian Hypnosis, NLP, Coaching, Psycho-spiritual approaches and Cognitive Psychotherapy.
QUOTE: "Don't waste time thinking you're stuck, thanks to this you can now take control of your life and change it faster than you might think"
Emma's show notes page
My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here):
www.social-anxiety-solutions.comContact me directly:
www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/Warm regards,
Sebastiaan van der SchrierStart here:
Free 7 Secrets to Social Confidence
https://bit.ly/socialconfidencenowThis short mini-course explains:
• why social anxiety happens
• why forcing exposure often backfires
• how the fight-flight-freeze response creates anxiety symptoms
• how tapping can help release the emotions and beliefs that trigger anxietyIt's designed to help you understand what's actually driving social anxiety and give you a first experience with the tapping approach.
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If you'd like practical tools you can start using right away:
Fast Social Anxiety Relief
https://www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/fast-social-anxiety-relief/--------------------------------------------------
About Seb
Seb struggled with severe social anxiety himself for many years. Since 2009 he has helped people work through social anxiety using a calm, structured approach that combines psychology with EFT tapping.
No forced exposure.
No pressure…