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Episode 346: Carl Lentz Has a New Book on Overcoming Infidelity. Should He Have a Platform?
29 oktober 2026 · 1 uur 28 min
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Can a pastor bounce back from scandal and reclaim the spotlight? Sheila and Rebecca unpack Carl & Laura Lentz’s book Overcoming Infidelity, exploring the difference between forgiveness and accountability, the privilege of celebrity pastors, and what genuine healing after betrayal requires. We also ask some bigger questions about evangelical celebrity culture, who deserves a platform, and why supporting the betrayed partner matters just as much as believing in redemption.
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LINKS MENTIONED:
People Magazine article on Carl Lentz
Carl & Laura Lentz’s book, “Overcoming Infidelity”
The Whole Story puberty course
Daniel Silliman’s book analysis article on Roy’s Report
Jay Mallow substack article
Carl's convo with Lauren DeMoss
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Episode 345: Why is the Old Testament So Cavalier about Abuse of Women? feat. Dr. Helen Paynter
22 oktober 2026 · 48 min
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What do we do with Bible passages that seem to portray God as indifferent to violence against women? Sheila sits down with Dr. Helen Paynter of the Centre for the Study of Bible and Violence to explore disturbing Old Testament stories, the historical context of biblical laws, and the difference between describing violence and endorsing it. Together, they consider how reading Scripture through the lens of Jesus can help us wrestle honestly with difficult questions, take survivors' experiences seriously, and rediscover God's care for the vulnerable.
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LINKS MENTIONED:
Journal for the Study of Bible & Violence
Rev. Dr. Helen Paynter’s bio
Dr. Helen’s book on Judges 19
Dr. Helen’s blog post on Judges 19
Bare Marriage Podcast Episode 299 with Dr. Helen Paynter
The Miss.Judged study on marginalized women of the Bible
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Episode 344: Do Only Wives Have to Act Like Jesus in Marriage? (A Look at Kathy Keller)
15 oktober 2026 · 1 uur 1 min
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Is Philippians 2 a biblical argument for male headship, or is it a call for ALL Christians to give up status and power in the way Jesus did? In this episode we unpack Kathy Keller’s teaching in “The Meaning of Marriage,” examining the assumptions behind complementarianism, the difference between sacrificial love and unequal authority, and what it really means to take Scripture seriously. Join us as we ask whether our ideas about gender roles reflect the upside-down kingdom of Jesus - or preserve the very power structures He came to challenge.
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LINKS MENTIONED:
CBE International Paper
N.T. Wright podcast
Mr. Jambo reel
The Marriage You Want, our book with a study guide, small group resources, premarital curriculum, and more!
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Episode 343: Called to Serve - Are We Burying Women's Talents in the Ground?
8 oktober 2026 · 1 uur 13 min
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What happens when women who simply want to serve Jesus keep running into barriers to ministry? First, Hannah Hunt joins us as we hear the remarkable stories behind Called to Serve. Then we talk with Dr. Adam Harbaugh about what it actually takes for churches to rethink theology, history, bylaws, and leadership structures around women in ministry. It's an episode about calling, courage, disruption, and the hopeful possibility of a church where women and men can serve side by side - with Jesus at the center.
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LINKS MENTIONED:
Called to Serve book
Called to Serve website
Called to Serve stories & podcast
The Whole Story Sex and Puberty Course
Dr. Adam Harbaugh’s dissertation
Dr. Adam Harbaugh’s website
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Episode 342: Mica Miller’s Death and “The Sex Is For Men” Problem
1 oktober 2026 · 47 min
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Mica Miller’s Death and “The Sex Is For Men” Problem
The tragic Mica Miller documentary The Death of a Pastor’s Wife reveals a deeply evil pastor husband with entitled, misogynistic views about sex. But those views didn’t come out of nowhere. In this interview that Sheila did with Called to Peace Ministries, she connects the dots of how evangelical teaching around sex centers the male experience, feeds entitlement, and creates breeding grounds for abuse.
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LINKS MENTIONED:
Called to Peace Ministries
Called to Peace on Facebook
Called to Peace on Instagram
The Whole Story Sex and Puberty Course
Friday Roundup on the Miller case
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Check out her books:
The Great Sex Rescue
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The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
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Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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Episode 341: What’s the Dignity Line? Feat. Dawn from The Minimal Mom
24 september 2026 · 1 uur 13 min
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In this episode, we sit down with Dawn from The Minimal Mom to talk about the “dignity line,” a simple framework for recognizing if our relationships are characterized by respect, accountability, trust, and safety - and why patterns matter more than labels. We also dig into the complicated reality of marriage advice, boundaries, divorce, and the pressure Christian women can feel to keep trying no matter what. Then Rebecca joins in for a fiery discussion of a pastor’s sermon on sex and asking whether Christian conversations about sexual generosity actually account for women’s experiences. This week is a wide-ranging conversation about dignity, discernment, healthy relationships, and why sometimes the most important question isn’t “How do we save this marriage?” but “How do we help people become safe and whole?” This is one you don’t want to miss!
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LINKS MENTIONED:
Dawn’s Website, “The Minimal Mom”
Dawn’s Dignity Line Resources
The Big Reasons For Divorce - Podcast Episode 212
The Power of a Praying Wife Review - Podcast Episode 197
Our Love & Respect Deep Dive Series
Elissa Yukiko Weichbrodt’s book, “Look Like a Lady”
Friday Roundup on Ryan Visconti
Ryan Visconti full sermon
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Episode 340: Live, Laugh, Love with Kristin Du Mez
17 september 2026 · 1 uur 26 min
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What if many of the ideas we’ve been taught about “biblical womanhood” have a much stranger history than we realized? We sit down with historian & author Kristin Du Mez to unpack the fascinating—and sometimes surprising—story behind Christian womanhood, from Hannah Whittall Smith and Elisabeth Elliot to Christian fiction, publishing, blogging, and today’s influencer culture. What happens when we stop sanitizing the past, let go of formulas that promise happiness, and make room for a faith that can actually grapple with reality? Let’s find out together!
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LINKS MENTIONED:
Kristin Du Mez’s book, "Live, Laugh, Love"
Kristin’s Website
Kristin’s Substack
Elissa Yukiko Weichbrodt’s website
Elissa’s book, “Look Like a Lady”
The Whole Story
Holding It Together: How Women Became America’s Safety Net
Episode 104: Jesus & John Wayne
Katharine Bushnell Episode
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Episode 339: Look Like a Lady--the 5 Visual Tropes of Womanhood that Keep Us Small
10 september 2026 · 1 uur 20 min
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What if some of the messages we've absorbed about “what it means to be a woman” have less to do with the Bible and more to do with centuries of art, culture, and storytelling? Today we have a fascinating conversation with art historian Elissa Yukiko Weichbrodt about five powerful visual tropes—the Venus, Maiden, Vessel, Mother, and Monster—and the surprising, life-giving counter-stories that have been there all along. Together, we explore what happens when we stop seeing women as objects, prizes, symbols, perfect mothers, or threats, and start seeing them as whole people invited to witness, move, create, cultivate, and partner in God's kingdom.
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LINKS MENTIONED:
Elissa Yukiko Weichbrodt’s website
Elissa’s book, “Look Like a Lady”
Elissa’s Instagram
Elissa’s Substack
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Episode 338: What if God is Like a Mother Too? (Love Like a Mother)
3 september 2026 · 1 uur 2 min
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What if the Bible has been giving us maternal pictures of God all along—and we've simply been overlooking them? Today we talk with Elizabeth Berget, author of “Love Like a Mother,” about God's compassion, childbirth, motherhood, grief, protection, exhaustion, and the surprising ways women's embodied experiences can illuminate the character of God. Together, we explore how seeing God as both Father and Mother can offer women a deeper sense of belonging, challenge unhealthy ideas about motherhood and spiritual performance, and invite the church into a fuller, more expansive theology.
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LINKS MENTIONED:
Elizabeth Berget’s Website
Elizabeth’s book, “Love Like a Mother”
Elizabeth’s Substack
Elizabeth’s Instagram
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The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
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Episode 337: Why Do Evangelicals Ask Women to Do Such Risky Things if They Say They Protect Women?
27 augustus 2026 · 1 uur 2 min
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What happens when “protecting women” actually leaves them with fewer choices, less financial security, and nowhere to go when a marriage becomes unsafe? Today we unpack the hidden risks behind certain conservative Christian teachings about gender, money, work, and submission before sitting down with Sally Hope to talk about abuse, faith, anger, healing, and her survivor resource "No Visible Scars." It’s a thoughtful - and occasionally fiery - conversation about what genuine protection looks like when the goal is not female dependence, but healthy partnership, autonomy, justice, and healing.
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LINKS MENTIONED:
CortneyGetsFit TikTok
Dynamics of Abusive Relationships Study
Sally Hope’s Website
Sally’s book “No Visible Scars”
Sally’s Always Hopeful program
Download the One-Sheet on The Empowered Wife
Bare Marriage ToolKit
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Check out her books:
The Great Sex Rescue
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!
Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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Episode 336: The Problems with The Empowered Wife by Laura Doyle
20 augustus 2026 · 1 uur 51 min
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Bethany Jantzi and Dr. Merry Lin join us in taking a very close—and occasionally incredulous—look at Laura Doyle’s The Empowered Wife, unpacking its promises, “six intimacy skills,” and insistence that women can transform their marriages by changing themselves. They explore where self-care, respect, vulnerability, and intimacy can sound appealing while still becoming dangerous when they encourage women to self-silence, ignore serious problems, or take responsibility for a husband’s behavior. Ultimately, this is a conversation about discernment: what does genuine marital intimacy actually require, and how can we tell the difference between healthy accommodation and simply learning to disappear inside a relationship? It’s a longer one, but 100% worth the listen!
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LINKS MENTIONED:
One-Sheet on Laura Doyle’s “The Empowered Wife”: https://baremarriage.com/2026/08/the-problems-with-the-empowered-wife-by-laura-doyle-a-review-with-download/
Bethany Jantzi’s Website: freefromcontrol.ca
Dr. Merry Lin’s Website: https://www.drmerry.com/
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Episode 335: If Men Are Leaders...Why Do They Need Women to Fix Them?
13 augustus 2026 · 1 uur 6 min
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What happens when “Christlike manhood” starts sounding suspiciously like Victorian gender roles, male entitlement, and a whole lot of covert nudging? This rage-read of Eric Ludy’s “Warrior Poet Manhood” article unpacks the deeper assumptions behind a theology that tells women to manage, encourage, and even manipulate men into becoming better husbands while men remain in charge. We explore gender stereotypes, power and emotional attunement, the “angel in the house,” and why the upside-down kingdom of Jesus offers a radically different picture of maturity, partnership, and servant leadership.
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LINKS MENTIONED:
Eric Ludy’s full article
Zach Wagner’s book, “Men of Virtue”
Emerson Eggerichs podcast episode
Love & Respect 3-Part Docuseries
Socioeconomic Status Study
The Marriage You Want book & Study Guide
Pre-Order Sheila’s new book “Fawn”
Support the show
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Check out her books:
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The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
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And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!
Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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Episode 334: What Should Accountability for Purity Culture Authors Look Like?
6 augustus 2026 · 1 uur 19 min
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Buckle up for the final episode of our 3-part series on purity culture! In this episode we dig into what genuine accountability actually looks like when influential Christian leaders (namely Dannah Gresh) recognize the harm their teachings have caused. Through a thoughtful discussion of repentance, public responsibility, and the lasting impact of purity culture, we continue to ask why admitting specific mistakes remains so difficult—and why doing so matters for healing and preventing future harm. Also, is Dannah’s rewrite of “And the Bride Wore White” really any better? Tune in to find out!
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LINKS MENTIONED:
Bare Marriage Episode 290 on Authoritarianism
The free book The Authoritarians (Includes the quizzes you can take to see where you score!)
Bare Marriage Facebook Page
She Deserves Better
The Whole Story resource for parents
Support the show
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!
Check out her books:
The Great Sex Rescue
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
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Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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Episode 333: Good Fruit - Are We Measuring It Right When It Comes to Christian Marriage Teaching?
30 juli 2026 · 1 uur 16 min
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What does Jesus actually mean when he tells us to judge a tree by its fruit - and what happens when we apply that idea to marriage and Christian teaching? Today Joanna, our resident statistician, joins us as we dig into the biblical meaning of “good fruit,” unpack the research behind our marriage studies, and explore what trust, spiritual fruit, and decision-making have to do with one another. We also welcome Dr. Camden Morgante and discuss her amazing book “Recovering From Purity Culture”. Settle in for Part 2 of our 3-part series to kick off this new season - you don’t want to miss this one!
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LINKS MENTIONED:
About Josh Butler’s book “Beautiful Union”
Our podcasts referencing Josh Butler:
Episode 260
Episode 301
M.J. Langham Thread link
Dr. Camden Morgante’s book, “Recovering From Purity Culture”
Dr. Camden’s Substack
Harmful Outcomes of Purity Culture Facebook Quotes
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Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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Episode 332: When Purity Culture Supporters Try to Rewrite History (Dannah Gresh Case Study)
23 juli 2026 · 1 uur 13 min
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And….we’re BACK with a fresh new season of the Bare Marriage podcast! We’re kicking things off with a lively deep dive into the debate over purity culture, asking what happens when influential Christian voices revise their past teachings, redefine the terms, and rewrite the history of what they once taught. We unpack the difference between biblical chastity and shame-based purity culture, take on straw man arguments and shifting definitions, and explore how messages about sex, marriage, authority, and obligation can shape the church in ways we may not always recognize. Real change requires more than just saying something was harmful - it requires honesty, accountability, and a willingness to pursue better fruit. This is Part 1 of a 3-part series, so let’s get to it and be sure to tune in next week!
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LINKS MENTIONED:
Friday Round-Up link on Alisa Childers
Our statement on Shaunti Feldhahn (with links to her statement)
Roys Report article on Sheila calling out Focus on the Family
The Whole Story Course
Our book, “She Deserves Better”
Dannah’s interview with Juli Slattery
Dannah’s interview with Focus on the Family
Zachary Wagner’s book, “Men of Virtue”
Support the show
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Check out her books:
The Great Sex Rescue
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!
Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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Episode 331: Keith & Sheila Respond to Crazy Clips (Is it That Jezebel Spirit Again?)
4 juni 2026 · 1 uur 13 min
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In this season finale we take a dive into social media, examining the messages behind viral clips from popular marriage and church influencers, and challenge fear-based teachings about marriage, parenting, gender, and authority. Through our thoughtful (and often hilarious) analyses and lively discussion, we hope this conversation encourages you to pursue healthier, Christ-centered relationships rooted in mutual respect, truth, and genuine spiritual freedom.
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LINKS MENTIONED:
Zachary Wagner’s Book “Men of Virtue”
Podcast Episode 262: Problems with Marriage on the Rock by Jimmy Evans
Episode 262 Blog Post
Sheila’s Substack
Alex Falcone's reel about divorce stats (he's the good one!)
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Episode 330: Men of Virtue with Zachary Wagner
28 mei 2026 · 58 min
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What does it actually mean to be a “good man” in today’s world—and does Christianity offer something deeper than dominance, leadership clichés, or internet manosphere culture? In this thoughtful and surprisingly hopeful conversation, Zachary Wagner joins us to unpack masculinity through the lens of the fruits of the Spirit, exploring everything from loneliness and power to marriage, self-control, parenting boys, and the modern crisis of meaning for men. Together, we challenge shallow cultural narratives and argue that true strength looks a lot more like love, service, courage, and emotional maturity than performance or control. Listen in as we propose a healthier vision of manhood for both men and the people who love them.
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LINKS MENTIONED:
Zachary Wagner’s Website
Zachary’s Book: “Men of Virtue”
Our conversation with Zachary about his book Non-Toxic Masculinity
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Check out her books:
The Great Sex Rescue
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!
Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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Episode 329: Parenting With Confidence Without Messing Up Your Kids with Wendy Snyder
21 mei 2026 · 1 uur 13 min
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What happens when you know the old “because I said so” parenting style isn’t healthy…but you also don’t want to raise entitled little tyrants? In this episode, parenting coach Wendy Snyder joins us for a deeply practical, heartfelt, (and hilariously honest) conversation about strong-willed kids, emotional regulation, yelling, boundaries, anxiety, and what healthy authority actually looks like in family life. Together, we unpack the difference between authoritarian, permissive, and powerful parenting—and why so many parents swing wildly between all three. From power struggles and picky eaters to shame spirals and unmet emotional needs, this episode is packed with compassionate, evidence-based wisdom that will leave you feeling both challenged and hopeful. If you’ve ever wondered how to parent with confidence without fear, guilt, or constant battles, this conversation is for you.
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Episode 328: The Billy Graham Rule and What It Does to Men Too
14 mei 2026 · 59 min
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What if the “Billy Graham rule” (or the evangelical distortion of it) says more about fear than integrity? In this episode, Danielle Strickland helps us unpack the assumptions behind the idea that men and women can’t be alone together—and ask whether it protects integrity or quietly reinforces suspicion, segregation, and control. Drawing on Scripture, leadership research, and real-world church experiences, our conversation explores how transparency—not isolation—is a stronger safeguard against abuse and moral failure. We also dig into how purity culture, pornography narratives, and fear-based systems shape the way we interpret opposite-sex friendships, mentoring, and authority. If you’re ready to rethink gender, leadership, and trust through a more Jesus-centered lens, this one will give you plenty to chew on.
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Episode 327: For Men Only by Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn Talks Lust and Sex
7 mei 2026 · 1 uur 12 min
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Welcome to Part 2 of our breakdown of For Men Only! This episode dives headfirst into the sex chapter — and quickly exposes how shaky stats and selective storytelling create misleading narratives about libido and desire. We examine why women’s sexual desire is far more contextual — and relational — than the book admits. We unpack the myth of “on-demand” desire, challenge rigid sex rules like the 72-hour expectation, and explore why libido is far more dynamic — and human — than most advice admits. We also critique popular marriage frameworks that outsource self-worth to partners and rely on oversimplified gender stereotypes rather than evidence-based relational health. Get ready for a candid, research-informed takedown of bad advice — with a clear message: real intimacy thrives on emotional maturity, not scripts.
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Episode 326: The Problems with For Men Only by Jeff & Shaunti Feldhahn
30 april 2026 · 1 uur 10 min
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In this episode, we dive into For Men Only, by Shaunti & Jeff Feldhahn, and let’s just say…we have many thoughts! We unpack some of its core claims about gender dynamics, communication, and emotional needs. Rebecca shares how this book impacted her first few months of marriage to Connor, and not in a good way!
We address major concerns with the book’s research methods, its reliance on broad gender stereotypes, and its tendency to frame women as overly emotional and men as disengaged. While it contains one of the best descriptors we’ve seen on mental load, the Feldhahns have yet to propose workable solutions that include mutual accountability and behavioral change. Sheila and Rebecca advocate for a more nuanced, evidence-informed understanding of relationships—one that prioritizes emotional maturity, shared responsibility, and meaningful communication over simplified gender narratives. This one is worth a listen and keep an eye out for Part 2 next week!
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Episode 325: I Belong to Me with Tia Levings
23 april 2026 · 1 uur 5 min
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Tia Levings is back, and this time she's brought the book so many of you have been waiting for — I Belong to Me, a survivor's guide to recovery and hope after religious trauma, and the follow-up to her memoir A Well-Trained Wife.
After thousands of women slid into her DMs asking how did you heal, how do I find myself again, Tia sat down and wrote the guide she wished she'd had. In this conversation, we get into what religious trauma actually is and why therapists are only now starting to name it, how spiritual bypassing uses faith language to invalidate your pain, and why the period right after you leave a high-control church or marriage is actually when you're most vulnerable — not most free. We also talk about why your voice and your sexuality are twin wounds that heal together, how to start building boundaries when you've never been allowed to have any, and why real recovery eventually means sitting with your own complicity — not to shame yourself, but to finally choose something different. If you've ever wondered was what I went through actually trauma, and can I actually heal from it — this episode is for you.
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Episode 324: Who Bears the Emotional Labor and Mental Load for Sex?
16 april 2026 · 1 uur 11 min
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Who's carrying the mental and emotional load when it comes to sex? Today Keith and I are breaking down all the ways evangelical marriage culture places that burden almost entirely on women: from appearance standards and contraception to performing passion on demand and suppressing her own emotions so his experience stays comfortable. We are listening to sermon clips and reading quotes from bestselling Christian marriage books that are pretty hard to hear, but really important to call out for the harm they cause to women (and marriage).
We are also talking about what we all actually want — a sex life rooted in real intimacy, where both people get to show up with everything they are.
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Episode 323: A Step-By-Step Guide to Vetting a Church's Website to See if They're Heathy!
9 april 2026 · 1 uur 25 min
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Finding a healthy church after being hurt is hard — especially when toxic churches have learned to hide what they really believe. This week, Rebecca and I walk you through our evidence-based, step-by-step method for evaluating a church's website before you ever step through the door. From homepage vibes to staff pages, statement of beliefs to membership covenants, we'll show you exactly what to look for — and what to run from.
We're also sharing real examples from actual church websites, some of them from well-known names you'll recognize, so you can train your eye to spot the difference between a church that genuinely welcomes you and one that just wants to slot you into a hierarchy. And we're connecting it all to our brand-new peer-reviewed study on internalized modesty messaging — because finding a healthy church isn't just nice to have. For girls especially, it can make all the difference.
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Episode 322: Why Is Every Man's Battle So Creepy? A Harrowing Example
2 april 2026 · 26 min
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A close look at how Every Man’s Battle ignores the impact of predation on women and girls–and is just plain creepy! Plus a new study on hostile/benevolent sexism when it comes to tradwife content. It’s our podcast and Friday RoundUp in one!
Our podcast we wanted to air this week just wasn’t ready in time–so we decided to record our Friday RoundUp a day early, and run it as this week’s podcast. So if you’re used to listening to our podcast, remember that on YouTube every week we also have a 20 minute unfiltered, unscripted Friday Roundup!
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Episode 321: New Research into Modesty Messaging, Sexual Harassment in Church, Plus We Answer Your Questions!
26 maart 2026 · 57 min
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Keith and Rebecca are taking over the podcast this week and are answering your questions — from how to find a healthy church community to whether complementarianism is a dealbreaker. They're refreshingly honest and a little funny about it. Then Joanna joins to dig into a brand-new peer-reviewed paper on how internalized modesty messaging affects girls' self-esteem and their risk of being sexually harassed in church as minors. What they found is both unsurprising and deeply sobering: environments that emphasize modesty messaging don't just harm girls, they actually groom boys into predatory behavior. It's research that needs to get out of their little corner of the internet and into the broader conversation, and your support made it possible.
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Episode 320: Let’s Talk Adult ADHD and GENDER ROLES!
19 maart 2026 · 1 uur 19 min
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What does it mean to have realistic expectations of a spouse with ADHD? How does gender play into how ADHD impacts a relationship? And what do accommodations actually look like—versus what do they not look like in a healthy marriage?
This week Rebecca talks about her own diagnosis of ADHD with her father Keith (a pediatrician) and good friend Daniel Forsythe (a licensed psychotherapist who works with neurodiverse marriages frequently) to dig down to discuss what the evidence actually says is possible, the risk of “caregiver burnout”, and more as Rebecca picks the brains of the actual professionals so we can all land in an evidence-based place!
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Episode 319: Did Purity Culture Cause Developmental Trauma--and Kill Libido?
12 maart 2026 · 1 uur 6 min
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What if the reason so many women struggle with desire, arousal, and orgasm has nothing to do with their bodies—and everything to do with what they were taught before they even wanted to be sexual? In this episode, Rebecca and I pull together research and real-life stories to trace a thread that runs from how we raise our daughters, to what happens on the wedding night, to why so many women are secretly faking it.
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Episode 318: You're Allowed to Want Stuff! Talking Desire with Jay Stringer
5 maart 2026 · 1 uur 8 min
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Jay Stringer, licensed therapist and author of Unwanted, is back to talk about his brand new book Desire: The Longings Inside Us and the New Science of How We Love, Heal, and Grow. Together, we unpack why so many of us — especially those from church backgrounds — were taught to fear and suppress our desires rather than develop them. We dig into enmeshment, the "provisional self," why differentiation is actually the secret to intimacy and a healthy sex life, and why low libido is never just a libido problem. If you've ever felt broken, empty, or like you don't even know what you want anymore, this conversation is for you.
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Episode 317: Famished--How Purity Culture Taught Women to Shrink with Anna Rollins
26 februari 2026 · 56 min
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Anna Rollins grew up as the kind of girl who took her faith seriously — and that's exactly why it hurt her so much. In this conversation, Anna and I dig into her memoir Famished: On Food, Sex, and Growing Up as a Good Girl, where she traces how purity culture's messages about desire, self-denial, and the body quietly fueled decades of disordered eating, compulsive exercise, and sexual pain. What strikes me most is that Anna's parents were loving, her church wasn't overtly abusive — and yet the cumulative message she absorbed was shrink yourself. I think this conversation is going to resonate deeply with so many of you.
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Episode 316: What Still Surprised Us Making the Love & Respect Docuseries
19 februari 2026 · 1 uur 11 min
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Rebecca, Joanna, and I are pulling back the curtain on what went into making the Love & Respect docuseries — including the things that didn't make the final cut.
From the bizarre Nazi torture illustration Emerson used to keep women in bad marriages, to the genuinely heartbreaking story of a little boy watching his father abuse his mother, this episode gets raw and honest about why we've been fighting this battle for seven years. We also share the stunning survey results from a church in Florida that show exactly what happens when love-and-respect-style teaching takes root in a community. And we end with a word of real hope: healthy churches exist, better books are being written, and the tide is turning.
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Bad Stats, Editing the Bible, and Recycling 1970s Ideas: A Love & Respect Deep Dive Part 2
12 februari 2026 · 1 uur 16 min
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Part two of a three-part docuseries deep dive into the best-selling evangelical marriage book Love & Respect.
LOVE & RESPECT DOCUSERIES:
Watch the video version of this
Here's episode 1.
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This podcast delves into what Love & Respect is based on--recycled ideas from a 1970s best-seller; faulty stats; misrepresented research--and editing the Bible.
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Op-ed on the history of ordination of women and the SBC
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Double-barrelled questions
Study on shoulder-to-shoulder communication
The Authoritarians book
Breakdown of Eggerichs misunderstanding marital rape and saying you can't tell if a woman is aroused
Podcast about the mystery of a woman being "turned on"
Dr. Shauna Springer's original PsychologyToday article
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Happily Never After: The Curious Case of Love and Respect (Deep Dive Part 1)
5 februari 2026 · 1 uur 17 min
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Part one of a three-part docuseries deep dive into the best-selling evangelical marriage book, Love & Respect.
THE LOVE & RESPECT DOCUSERIES:
This is a video series, so if you want to watch it in all its glory, head over to https://youtu.be/z3EEAkjwcXA!
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This podcast delves into the broken logic of Love & Respect, why so many people bought into it, and the truly bizarre nature of what passes for evangelical marriage advice.
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Andrew's book, "The Sexually Healthy Man"
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Episode 313: To Heal or To Harm: Making Sense of Weaponized Bible Verses feat. Steven Tracy
29 januari 2026 · 1 uur 17 min
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Today I'm talking with Dr. Steven Tracy, author of "To Heal or Harm," about how scripture has been twisted to keep abuse victims trapped. We're diving into passages that discuss things like, "wives submit," "God hates divorce," and "a gentle answer turns away wrath" to show what they actually mean in context. And spoiler alert: none of them tell victims to stay in abuse. If you've ever felt like the Bible was being used against you, or if you're a pastor who wants to understand how to truly help abuse victims, this conversation is essential.
PLUS: A special announcement with Rebecca you won’t want to miss!
TO HEAL OR TO HARM: Get the book here!
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Episode 312: Why The Complementarian Bar for Men is in the Basement
22 januari 2026 · 1 uur 4 min
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We're tackling three really problematic things that have happened recently with evangelical leaders that show just how low the bar has gotten for men. From Jonathan Podluka announcing he wants to sleep with multiple beautiful women, to pastors responding to Philip Yancey's affair by saying "it could be any of us," to Tim Challies telling people in miserable marriages to just stick it out until they die—it's all connected to this theology that refuses to hold men accountable and tells women they just need to accept it. The common thread? A theology of male hierarchy that steals intimacy from marriages, justice from victims, and Jesus from people who are hurting.
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LINKS MENTIONED:
Tim Challies' article on if you chose poorly
My article about Philip Yancey
My reel with the clips of Jonathan Pokluda
Sheila's article about Jonathan Podluka’s 2023 sermon, and my new op ed
Sarah Diefendorf's peer-reviewed article
My recommended books on porn
Our podcast on the 5-point complementarian plan for marriage
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Episode 311: The Misleading Tactics of Complementarianism feat. Lydia Kaiser
15 januari 2026 · 1 uur 19 min
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Today I'm talking with Lydia Grace about her incredible new book, Bible Truth About Women. Lydia grew up in the ultra-conservative IBLP circles and went to seminary to answer her own questions about what the Bible really says about women's roles. What she discovered was shocking: there are ore than 120 misleading tactics that complementarians use to prop up male authority that simply isn't in the original Greek. This is the comprehensive resource we've been waiting for that addresses every major passage about women in one place.
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LINKS MENTIONED:
Get Bible Truth about Women by Lydia Kaiser! Kindle available now, or Pre-order the paperback
Bare Marriage podcast playlists for people getting introduced to our podcast
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The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
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Episode 310: Desiring God Thinks Marriage Is Like Peddling Furiously on the Back of a Tandem Bike
8 januari 2026 · 1 uur 5 min
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We're kicking off 2026 by teaching you how to think critically about Christian marriage and relationship advice! Rebecca and I walk through some really problematic articles and social media posts - from the Gospel Coalition's piece against therapy to Tilly Dillehay’s tandem bike marriage metaphor - and show you exactly why they make us feel unsafe. We'll teach you how to spot red flags, question who benefits from this advice, and why prioritizing your safety and discernment isn't selfish - it's Biblical.
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LINKS MENTIONED:
The Desiring God article on tandem bikes
The Gospel Coalition article on therapy
Our book The Marriage You Want, and the video series that goes with it
The study on followership behaviour
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The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
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Episode 309: Evangelicals Shouldn't Be Embarrassing: The Oklahoma Student's Essay and How Our Faith Has Changed
18 december 2025 · 1 uur 4 min
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We're coming full circle from our podcast on right-wing authoritarianism to talk about that viral Oklahoma student essay and why Christians rallying around bad arguments makes all Christians look terrible. Then Keith and I get vulnerable about how our faith has changed over the last few years—from realizing faith isn't just about beliefs, to understanding who Jesus actually called out (spoiler: not "the world"), to reframing the concept of sin as form of brokenness that God truly understands and has deep compassion for (as opposed to the angry God who is mad at us all the time). We’ll also share some of the exciting things coming in 2026!
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CHECK OUT THE RESOURCES MENTIONED:
The Whole Story puberty course
The Great Sex Rescue
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LINKS MENTIONED:
Our podcast on Right Wing Authoritarianism
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The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
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Episode 308: “We Respond to Crazy Pastor Clips” Pallooza!
11 december 2025 · 1 uur 18 min
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Keith and I went through 10 clips from evangelical influencers and pastors that have been driving people crazy all year. We break down why Josh Howerton's claims about conservative mental health don't hold up, why blaming women for divorce is absurd, and how complementarian teaching about male authority actually contradicts what Jesus taught.
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Help us raise money to fund our research, our new podcast docuseries, and our translation projects! Give through the Good Fruit Faith Initiative (tax deductible within the United States) or join our Patreon!
CHECK OUT THE RESOURCES MENTIONED:
The Whole Story puberty course
The Marriage You Want
Our Great Sex Rescue Toolkit to respond to pastors and friends
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LINKS MENTIONED:
2025 study on conservativism & mental health
The 2015 study on conservatives and happiness
The 2021 study on women's health in sexist churches
Our study on women's sexual health in conservative spaces
Our podcast on why women seek divorce
Report on Child Marriage in the US
Report on Child Marriage in Canada
Our article responding to Josh Howerton's claims that evangelicals have better marriages
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The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
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And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!
Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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Episode 307: How the Stories of Missionary Kids Unmask the Myths of Evangelicalism (and Purity Culture!)
4 december 2025 · 1 uur
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It's episode 307 of the Bare Marriage podcast! Holly Fletcher joins us to talk about her AMAZING new book Missionary Kids. I devoured it in one sitting. We need to listen to the stories of these kids, because they're a microcosm of white evangelicalism!
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LINKS MENTIONED:
Check out Missionary Kids by Holly Berkley Fletcher
Holly's Substack: A Zebra Without Stripes
Holly on Blue Sky
Instagram
Threads
Etsy
Our book She Deserves Better
Support the show
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The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
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Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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Episode 306: Thalidomide, Bad Marriage Books, and a Jesus Who Laughs
27 november 2025 · 1 uur 4 min
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Happy American Thanksgiving! We're rerunning one of my favorite episodes from four years ago where Rebecca and I talk about what God is actually like—spoiler: He laughs and takes joy in life, not just suffers on the cross. We also dive into why our Great Sex Rescue research matters and address all those critiques about our methodology (and yes, we're now peer-reviewed, so that critique doesn't really work anymore). Plus, we tackle that awful Missouri pastor story about "trophy wives" and explain why harmful marriage advice is like thalidomide—it might help some people, but that doesn't mean it's not causing serious damage to others.
THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSOR
Order Dorothy Greco's book For the Love of Women! Learn why it can feel so difficult to be female in our society, and what we can do about it.
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LINKS MENTIONED:
Check out The Great Sex Rescue!
Gretchen Baskerville's book The Life Saving Divorce
Check out our new YouTube channel, with our five short videos you can share on key topics we keep returning to time and time again!
Our peer reviewed article in Sociology of Religion
A longer article I wrote on the Thalidomide analogy
Support the show
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Check out her books:
The Great Sex Rescue
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
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Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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Episode 305: All the Problems with Complementarianism in a Nutshell--And How They Try to Make it Sound Pretty
20 november 2025 · 1 uur 8 min
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Complementarians use a lot of really nice-sounding words to describe their beliefs about gender roles, but when you actually break down what they mean, they're not talking about roles at all—they're talking about hierarchy. In this episode, Keith and I decode all the euphemisms like "different roles," "servant leadership," and "his headship is for your protection" to show what complementarians are really saying: that men should be in authority over women. The problem is, when you actually implement these beliefs in marriage, we see relationships struggle—and the statistics bear that out. And we work directly against the gospel, putting the husband in the place of Jesus.
THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSOR
Order Dorothy Greco's book For the Love of Women which just launched this week!
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LINKS MENTIONED:
"The Marriage You Want" book on Amazon, or get the curriculum and video series from Baker Books
"The Bible vs. Biblical Womanhood" by Philip Payne
"How God Sees Women" by Terran Williams
Rebecca Groothuis essay on "Equal in Being, Unequal in Function"
Previous podcast episode on John Piper's "harsh husband" advice
Support the show
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Check out her books:
The Great Sex Rescue
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!
Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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Episode 304: Francine Rivers' And the Shofar Blew Part 2: What Can We Learn from Christian Fiction?
13 november 2025 · 58 min
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We're diving into part two of our discussion on Francine Rivers' "And the Shofar Blew.” While Christian fiction can be inspirational, this novel reinforces dangerous theology about marriage, telling abuse victims to stay and suffer "better," portraying women who report pastoral abuse as liars, and presenting an incredibly sexist view of women's roles in the church as normal and godly. Join me and my friends Merry, Sarah, and Joanna as we unpack why books like these—even though they're just fiction—profoundly shape how Christian women understand marriage, faith, and their own worth.
THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSOR
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LINKS MENTIONED:
Find Sarah McDugal on Facebook
Sarah's help for women healing from betrayal trauma: www.wildernesstowild.com
For women navigating high-conflict divorce or custody: My Freedom Navigator
Find Dr. Merry Lin's book "Rebecoming" and listen in to her Bare Marriage podcast episode!
Support the show
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!
Check out her books:
The Great Sex Rescue
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!
Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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Episode 303: Francine Rivers' And the Shofar Blew—Let’s Examine Christian Romance Fiction Part 1
6 november 2025 · 1 uur 3 min
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We're doing something we've never done before—looking at a Christian fiction book to explore how fiction shapes our theology of marriage. Today we're discussing Francine Rivers' "And the Shofar Blew.” We're talking about how fiction doesn't give explicit advice but still profoundly influences our worldview about faith and marriage, and how even books with problematic messages can become part of our theological foundation without us realizing it.
THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSOR
Order Dorothy Greco's book For the Love of Women which just launched this week!
TO SUPPORT US:
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LINKS MENTIONED:
Find Sarah McDugal on Facebook
Sarah's help for women healing from betrayal trauma: www.wildernesstowild.com
For women navigating high-conflict divorce or custody: My Freedom Navigator
Find Dr. Merry Lin's book "Rebecoming" and listen in to her Bare Marriage podcast episode!
Support the show
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!
Check out her books:
The Great Sex Rescue
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!
Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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Episode 302: For the Love of Women feat. Dorothy Greco
30 oktober 2025 · 1 uur 4 min
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Ever been told you're complaining too much about how women are treated because "things are so much better now"? Yeah, me too. In this episode, I sit down with journalist and author Dorothy Greco to talk about her new book For the Love of Women, and we dig into why sexism is absolutely still alive and well—and how it's affecting all of us in ways we might not even realize. This conversation is going to help you connect the dots, give you language to talk about it, and remind you that no, you're not crazy.
THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSOR
Order Dorothy Greco's book For the Love of Women which just launched this week!
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LINKS MENTIONED:
Dorothy Greco's website
Dorothy's Substack: "What's Faith Got to Do With It"
The song Not All Men by Morgan St. Jean
Support the show
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!
Check out her books:
The Great Sex Rescue
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!
Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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Episode 301: The 4 Categories of Euphemisms about Sex--that All Drive Us Batty!
23 oktober 2025 · 1 uur 9 min
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We're diving into the euphemisms used in Christian marriage books and by evangelical pastors, and when you translate them into actual language, it gets real creepy real fast. From Kevin Leman's "Mr. Happy" to Josh Butler's semen theology, these authors hide harmful messages behind flowery or vague language. When authors tell women to "give him a gift" while she's bleeding heavily or recovering from childbirth, they're actually telling her to perform sex acts while in pain—and that's just wrong. Most disturbing? The euphemisms that hide sexual assault and make it sound normal.
THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSOR
Pre-order Dorothy Greco's book For the Love of Women which launches next week!
Our Courses
Check out The Whole Story!, our puberty course for parents/kids
Check out our Orgasm Course!
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OUR BOOKS WE MENTIONED:
The Marriage You Want (and the new video series that goes with it!)
She Deserves Better
LINKS MENTIONED:
Fred Stoeker's Focus on the Family interview
Josh Howerton and the Shady Little Girls in Miniskirts
Our article on Josh Butler's book A Beautiful Union
Support the show
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Check out her books:
The Great Sex Rescue
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!
Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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Celebrating Episode 300! With the Best of Becca's Bloopers and One Liners
16 oktober 2025 · 1 uur 8 min
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We're celebrating episode 300 with a "Best of Becca" compilation! Rebecca and I react to her most memorable moments from the past six years of podcasting—from rabid raccoons to pooping in the shower to Gerald not being able to slay dragons. We also reflect on how the evangelical landscape has shifted since we started, why we're no longer in "please speak up" mode but in "shake the dust off your feet" territory, and how our focus has evolved from "fix the church" to "help people take radical accountability for their own health and wellbeing.”
ALL NEW Marriage You Want Video Series:
The complete Marriage You Want curriculum, with the paperback, study guide, and now small group video series!
UPCOMING EVENTS:
October 25th: Join Keith and Sheila marriage conference in Oshawa, Ontario
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TOP 5 PODCASTS OF AL TIME:
The Problems with Power of a Praying Wife featuring Sarah McDugal & Gretchen Baskerville
The Problems with Every Young Man's Battle featuring Andrew Bauman & Zachary Wagner
Groomed for an Abusive Marriage: Alyssa Wakefield's Story
How the Authors We Critiqued Responded to The Great Sex Rescue
The Uncomfortable Truth about Waiting for Marriage for Sex
SHEILA'S FAVOURITE PODCASTS:
The All About Obligation Sex Podcast
The Myth of the Magic Penis
Male-Centric Sex
Support the show
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!
Check out her books:
The Great Sex Rescue
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!
Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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Episode 299: What Does the Bible Say about Divorce for Abuse? Feat. Helen Paynter
9 oktober 2025 · 1 uur 6 min
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Does God really tell women they need to submit to abuse and stay in marriages where they're being raped and harmed? Today's interview with Dr. Helen Painter is one you need to hear—whether you're stuck in an abusive marriage getting horrible advice from your pastor, or you know someone who is. We're diving deep into what the Bible actually says about abuse and divorce, and spoiler alert: God does NOT require women to stay in abusive marriages. Please share this episode with anyone who needs to hear this life-saving truth.
CONTENT WARNING: This episode contains detailed discussion of marital rape, sexual abuse, and domestic violence
HELEN PAYNTER'S BOOK:
"The Bible Doesn't Tell Me So", from Helen's organization or from Amazon
UPCOMING EVENTS:
October 25th: Join Keith and Sheila marriage conference in Oshawa, Ontario (near Toronto!)
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LINKS MENTIONED:
Naghmeh Panahi's Facebook Post
The original recording of the Calvary Chapel pastor (at around 59:35)
The Center for the Study of Bible and Violence:
Mentioned Scholar: David Instone-Brewer (rabbinical thought on divorce)
Support the show
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Check out her books:
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She Deserves Better
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The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex
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Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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Episode 298: Purity Culture, Date Rape, and Porn: plus Joash Thomas and the Justice of Jesus
2 oktober 2025 · 1 uur 7 min
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Two major studies today prove what we've been saying: purity culture makes people unable to recognize marital and date rape as actual rape, and male porn use hurts women regardless of their attitude toward it—though religious women suffer more because of the scripts we've been given. Then I interview Joash Thomas about his book The Justice of Jesus, where he explains how Western Christianity lost biblical justice because colonizers taught a purely "spiritual" gospel to benefit themselves. We've got to understand that following Jesus costs us something!
EVENTS
October 4th: Book launch for "The Justice of Jesus”
October 25th: Keith and Sheila marriage conference in Oshawa
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LINKS MENTIONED:
The Justice of Jesus book
The study of purity culture and rape myth acceptance
The study on how religious women see porn
Sheila's list on recommended books on porn recovery
For Our Daughters Film
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She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!
Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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Episode 297: The Myth of Good Christian Parenting
25 september 2025 · 1 uur 34 min
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It's The Great Sex Rescue--but for parenting!
The Christian parenting industry has been feeding us garbage for decades, and Keith and I sat down with Marissa Burt and Kelsey Kramer McGinnis, authors of "The Myth of Good Christian Parenting," to talk about how we got here.
THE MYTH OF GOOD CHRISTIAN PARENTING
Pre-Order the book now--and claim your amazing pre-order bonuses!
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LINKS MENTIONED:
Instagram: @mburtwrites | @kelseykmcginnis
Threads: @mburtwrites | @kelseykmcginnis
Facebook: @mburtwrites | @kelsey.kramermcginnis
Bluesky: @mburtwrites | @kkramermcginnis
TikTok: @mburtwrites | @kelseykmcg
Substack: @mburtwrites | @kelseykramermcginnis
YouTube: @mburtwrites
Website: Marissa
My article on spanking and sexual arousal
My article on the research on spanking effects
The article about those who hid Jews during the Holocaust
Support the show
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!
Check out her books:
The Great Sex Rescue
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!
Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.