The One Inside: An Internal Family Systems (IFS) podcast
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The Stories We Tell Ourselves with Jodie Benveniste
1 maart 2025 · 37 min
On today's episode I chat with Jodie Benveniste, an IFS-trained psychologist and author. Through her personal healing journey using IFS she discovered how fiction writing and storytelling can be a powerful path to self-understanding and emotional healing. Lees meer
Jodie and I talk about her debut novel, Never, Not Ever, a YA romance that integrates IFS therapy into the story. We explore how fiction can serve as a safe space for transformation, why romance novels tap into Self Energy, and how the creative process mirrors the IFS journey. This conversation is all about the power of stories—both the ones we tell ourselves and the ones we read. I think you're going to love it!
Key Takeaways:
"Parts all have stories, don't they?" Jodie shares how working with her parts allowed her to embrace fiction writing and how characters in a novel are not so different from the inner characters we meet in IFS.
How does storytelling create a safe container for healing?
Story is a powerful adjunct to IFS therapy
"I had a teen part who made me watch a rom-com 20 times!" -- How reconnecting with her younger parts helped shape her writing process.
Teen fiction can support adult mental health, too!
Why romance is the world's most popular genre—and how it invites readers to expand their hearts and tap into Self Energy.
What can we learn from the stories our parts tell us? Jodie and I reflect on how parts hold onto old narratives and how fiction can help us imagine new possibilities.
How fiction can invite teens to learn about and explore mental health topics, destigmatizing therapy and showing how healing happens.
Favorite Quote:
"So, to me, the healing process is story-based, and it is imaginative. At the core of healing is a reimagining. And that's what we can do with story." – Jodie Benveniste
About Jodie: Jodie Benveniste is an author and psychologist who writes heart-expanding young adult contemporary romance. She writes about love and friendships, family relationships, wellbeing…
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The Duality of Grief with Lara Krawchuk
22 februari 2025 · 45 min
On today's episode, I'm joined by Lara Krawchuk, a grief expert and IFS certifed therapist, to explore how the Internal Family Systems model helps us understand and tend to grief. We discuss continuing bonds, meaning making, ambiguous loss, grief-worthy losses, and unbraiding current loss from exiled trauma. While I have parts that avoid thinking about and discussing grief, Lara offers such a hopeful perspective on the grieving process and I'm so excited to share this episode with you. Lees meer
Key Takeaways:
Grief is not about severing bonds, but shifting how we relate to them.
Disenfranchised grief, like the end of a relationship or loss of health, is grief-worthy too.
Grief invites us to explore the deeper meaning behind our losses and what they reveal about ourselves.
Grief is both/and -- we are allowed to feel both grief and joy.
Welcoming grief, rather than trying to "move on," is crucial for healing.
Turn towards grieving parts and allow them the space to be heard and honored.
The importance of "unbraiding" exiled pain from present losses: "Does the part know this is different from the original Exile is has always protected?"
Continued bonds with those we've lost can be a profound source of comfort.
Favorite Quote: "Self is not freaked out by grief. Self is an exquisite witness to all pain." — Lara Krawchuk
About Lara: Lara Krawchuk is the owner and clinical director of Healing Concepts in West Chester, Pennsylvania, and the co-founder of Healing Perspectives, a continuing education resource for helping professionals looking to heal themselves, help their clients, and heal a broken-hearted world. She is an IFS certified therapist and consultant, a speaker, adjuct professor, and author with a passion for supporting those living with grief.
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Starting With Self with Ralph de la Rosa
14 februari 2025 · 37 min
In this episode I chat with Ralph De La Rosa, a meditation teacher, therapist, and author of Outshining Trauma. Ralph shares his personal journey of healing from PTSD, depression, and addiction, and how IFS helped him access Self Energy beyond traditional meditation. Lees meer
Key Takeaways:
Self Energy and Buddhist concepts like Buddha-nature share striking similarities.
Meditation can be a powerful tool for parts work, offering a structured way to access Self.
What happens when Self meets our most burdened parts?
Self Energy as a reparenting force
Instead of rejecting painful emotions or defensive parts, he encourages holding them with warmth, like placing them in the sunlight of Self.
Trauma constricts and healing expands
Start with Self rather than diving directly into the pain.
Parts are just like people
Radical self-compassion as meeting every part of ourselves—including the ones that hold fear, addiction, or pain—with love, rather than trying to suppress or fix them.
Reparenting happens naturally when we turn toward our parts with compassion.
Favorite Quote:
"One thing I've learned from direct experience of Self is that it can expand to be bigger than any level of heartache, any sense of brokenness, any sense of wounding, no matter how deep, no matter how wide, no matter how big. Self-energy can expand to fill the entire room you're sitting in. If you practice with it, if you practice with it and your parts, we could begin to trust that." – Ralph De La RosaAbout Ralph De La Rosa:
Ralph De La Rosa is a psychotherapist, meditation teacher, and author of Outshining Trauma: A New Vision of Radical Self-Compassion. His work integrates IFS, neuroscience, and Buddhist wisdom to help people navigate healing and transformation.Check out his upcoming online course: www.ralphdelarosa.com/breaking-cycles-course
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Befriending Your Internal Financial System with Rick Kahler
8 februari 2025 · 41 min
On today's episode I chat with Rick Kahler, a pioneer in integrating financial planning and psychology and a certified IFS practitioner. We explore how Internal Family Systems can transform our relationship with money, uncovering hidden beliefs and legacy burdens that shape financial behaviors. Lees meer
Rick shares his journey from financial planner to financial therapist, explaining how emotions—not logic—drive most financial decisions. He introduces key concepts like money scripts, financial protectors, and the internal financial system, showing how understanding these parts can help people move from financial stuckness to greater clarity and freedom.
Key Takeaways:
Money isn't just about numbers—it's deeply tied to our emotions, beliefs, and childhood experiences.
Many financial struggles come from polarized parts—a part that wants to save and a part that wants to spend.
How do money scripts—unconscious beliefs about money—shape our financial decisions without us even realizing it?
Financial shame is often greater than other types of shame, making finances one of the hardest topics to talk about.
Legacy burdens around money are passed down through generations, influencing our financial behaviors in ways we may not recognize.
Favorite Quote:
"Every part has a good intention. Every money script is put in place, every burden is put in place with a good intention…it just doesn't know things are a little different now." – Rick KahlerAbout Rick Kahler:
Rick Kahler is a certified financial planner, financial therapist, and IFS practitioner. He is a founding board member and past chair of the Financial Therapy Association and the creator of IFS-Informed Financial Therapy. Rick has authored seven books and hosts The Financial Therapy Podcast.****************************************************************************************
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Intimacy From The Inside Out with John Palmer
24 januari 2025 · 41 min
On today's episode I'm joined by John Palmer, a certified IFS practitioner and lead trainer in Intimacy From the Inside Out (IFIO). John brings 30 years of experience working with individuals and couples to explore how IFIO applies the principles of Internal Family Systems (IFS) to intimate relationships. Lees meer
We discuss relational dynamics, including the concept of tracking sequences, differentiation, and how past experiences influence present connections.
Key Takeaways:
IFIO uses IFS principles to help individuals and partners explore relational dynamics and improve communication.
Differentiation is the ability to stay connected to your own system while maintaining connection with your partner, even during conflict.
How protectors and exiles show up in relational dances
The importance of taking responsibility for one's own parts in a relationship while remaining open to connection with a partner
How practicing Self-Led communication can transform conflict into opportunities for healing and growth.
How do past experiences shape the way we respond to our partners in the present?
Tracking sequences in relationships reveals the protective cycles that keep partners stuck and highlights the underlying vulnerabilities driving conflict.
Favorite Quote:
"There's actually some vulnerability under there that's driving this dance. And if we can learn how to help the protectors trust enough of Self to let that vulnerability emerge and be looked at and healed, then the protectors don't have to do what they do anymore." – John PalmerAbout John Palmer:
John Palmer is a certified IFS practitioner, IFIO lead trainer, and couples therapist with three decades of experience. He integrates IFS with systemic relational approaches to help individuals and partners build stronger, more compassionate connections.Episode Sponsor: IFS Institute
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Loving With Your Parts Meditation by Peter Malinoski
16 januari 2025 · 15 min
Enjoy this bonus meditation led by Dr. Peter Malinoski. In this experiential he invites you to go inside and connect with your parts to understand their assumptions, experiences, and beliefs around love. Lees meer
Be sure to check out my full interview (episode 190) with Peter here.
About Dr. Peter Malinoski:
Dr. Peter Malinoski is a clinical psychologist, IFS Level 3-trained practitioner, and co-founder of Souls and Hearts, a platform dedicated to integrating the best of psychology and Catholicism. He also hosts the Interior Integration for Catholics podcast and leads the Resilient Catholics Community, helping others navigate faith and mental health with depth and compassion.___________________________________________
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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He is a writer, counselor, and IFS Level 1 practitioner.
Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start.
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Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created music for the podcast. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott's IFS Stepping Stones Program.
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Personality, IFS, and the Enneagram with Dan Siegel
11 januari 2025 · 53 min
On today's episode I chat with Dr. Dan Siegel, renowned author and founder of Interpersonal Neurobiology, and my friend, Joan Ryan, Enneagram expert and educator. We explore the intersection of the Enneagram, Internal Family Systems (IFS), and Dan's Patterns of Developmental Pathways (PDP) model. Our conversation dives into the science behind personality, the pathways that shape our inner worlds, and the ongoing journey toward integration and wholeness. Lees meer
Dan explains how his PDP model offers a scientific lens to understand personality dynamics, while the Enneagram and IFS provide tools for personal exploration and healing. They discuss how personality acts as a filter.
Key Takeaways:
Personality is a dynamic filter shaped by temperament, experience, and protective strategies.
The PDP model identifies three core motivational vectors: agency, bonding, and certainty.
How do the Enneagram and IFS complement each other in helping us explore and integrate our inner worlds?
Protectors and exiles align with motivational pathways, and how integration allows us to move from survival strategies to thriving.
Integration invites us to shift from limiting patterns into greater freedom and possibility.
Wholeness is not about escaping personality but embracing all parts of who we are.
"Your home base is wholeness. But personality is kind of just a filter that keeps you at times from experiencing that wholeness." – Dr. Dan Siegel
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About the Guests:
Dr. Dan Siegel is the Founder and Director of Education of the Mindsight Institute and founding co-director of the Mindful Awareness Research Center at UCLA, where he was also Co-Principal Investigator of the Center for Culture, Brain and Development and Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the School of Medicine. An award-winning educator, Dan is the author of five New York Times bestsellers and over fifteen other books which have been translated into over forty languages. Learn more about Dr. Siegel at:…
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Self Help with Gabby Bernstein
3 januari 2025 · 36 min
On today's episode I welcome Gabby Bernstein back to the podcast. Gabby is a #1 New York Times bestselling author and Level 2 trained IFS practitioner. We dive into her new book, Self Help, which introduces readers to IFS in an accessible and transformative way. Lees meer
Gabby shares how working with managers in a safe and gentle way can help readers connect to Self Energy and begin their healing journey. We talk about manifesting through IFS, the importance of unblending from parts, and how small glimmers of Self can create lasting change.
Key Takeaways:
Self Help is designed to make IFS accessible to readers unfamiliar with the model, offering a gentle introduction to working with protectors.
Recognizing and respecting protectors can create a safe foundation for growth.
Manifesting through IFS involves healing belief systems and adjusting your internal world, creating freedom and alignment with Self Energy.
"Curiosity is contagious and has momentum—it's enough to bring people back for more."
How can small moments of connection with Self lead to lasting transformation?
About Gabby Bernstein:
For more than eighteen years, Gabby Bernstein has been transforming lives—including her own. The #1 New York Times bestselling author has penned ten books, including Self Help, The Universe Has Your Back, Super Attractor, and Happy Days. Gabby was featured on Oprah's SuperSoul Sunday as a "new thought leader." The New York Times identified Gabby as "a role model for a new generation of spiritual seekers." In her weekly podcast, Dear Gabby, she offers up real-time coaching, straight talk and conversations about personal growth and spirituality. For more, visit https://gabbybernstein.com/eventsEpisode sponsors:
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An IFS Update with Dick Schwartz
20 december 2024 · 36 min
Episode Summary:
On today's episode I welcome back to the podcast Dick Schwartz, founder of the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model. We had such an important conversation that I'm excited to share with you. Lees meerWe begin remembering Derek Scott, who passed in February. Dick offers new details on the rupture and repair of their professional relationship over the years, and reflects on the moving final session they shared weeks before Derek's passing. (If you haven't watched the video yet, I highly recommend you do -- it's beautiful). Dick opened up about his concerns and the challenges of maintaining the integrity and safety of the IFS model while balancing the high demand for trainings. He also discussed his personal journey of integrating spirituality more into his writing and work. Dick shared his vision for the future of IFS, including continuing to expand its reach beyond traditional therapy and into leadership, education, politics, and articifical intelligence (AI). We ended on a fun and sweet note: he reminisced about meeting his wife, Jeanne, and the beginning of their relationship.
Key Takeaways:
Derek Scott's passion for making IFS accessible left a lasting legacy.
IFS continues expanding into non-clinical domains, including leadership training, educational systems, and AI-driven tools
How to maintain the "do no harm" ethos of IFS as it grows and evolves
The difficult decision to tighten IFS training admissions requirements
Plans for brinigng IFS more into the public domain
Dick discusses the potential of IFS to address legacy burdens collectively, envisioning a broader cultural impact.
Spirituality in IFS: helping individuals connect to guides and Self Energy in deeper ways.
Dick plans to be much more explicit about IFS in areas like spirituatlity and psychedlics
The IFS model's potential to transform individuals and society--a ripple effect
His version of the first meeting and long-distance courtship with his wife Jeanne (her version is here)
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Loving With Your Parts with Peter Malinoski
14 december 2024 · 54 min
On today's episode I speak with my friend and fellow podcaster Dr. Peter Malinoski, a clinical psychologist, IFS Level 3-trained practitioner, and co-founder of Souls and Hearts. Peter shares his journey of integrating Internal Family Systems (IFS) with his Catholic faith, and building bridges between these two communities through his work with the Resilient Catholics Community and his Interior Integration for Catholics podcast channel on YouTube Lees meer
We talk about understanding parts, healing attachment wounds, and embracing love. At around 26 minutes in Peter offers a wonderful experiential exercise/meditation where he invites you to go inside and connect with your parts to understand their assumptions, experiences, and beliefs around love.
Key Takeaways:
IFS provides a powerful healing framework that integrates beautifully with Catholic spirituality.
Why is it often so difficult for parts to feel safe being loved or offering love?
Protectors can play critical roles in bridging internal and external relationships when approached with curiosity and respect.
Healing relational wounds begins with internal harmony—inviting all parts to participate in Self-Led love.
Self Energy serves as a secure base for engaging with exiles, protectors, and divine connection.
About Dr. Peter Malinoski:
Dr. Peter Malinoski is a clinical psychologist, IFS Level 3-trained practitioner, and co-founder of Souls and Hearts, a platform dedicated to integrating the best of psychology and Catholicism. He also hosts the Interior Integration for Catholics podcast and leads the Resilient Catholics Community, helping others navigate faith and mental health with depth and compassion._______________________________________________________________________________
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Leadership, Legacy, and Loss with Mel Galbraith
6 december 2024 · 37 min
On today's episode I chat with Mel Galbraith, Chief Operating Officer of IFSCA (Internal Family Systems Counselling Association), to discuss her journey of grief, leadership, and transformation following the passing of Derek Scott, founder of IFSCA. Mel shares deeply personal stories about her connection with Derek, the legacy he left behind, and how stepping into a leadership role has shaped her life and relationship with her parts. Lees meer
Our conversation touches on the complexities of grief and the ways IFS has been instrumental in navigating Mel's professional and personal challenges. She also discusses exciting new initiatives at IFSCA, including advanced courses and community connection opportunities, ensuring Derek's vision continues.
Key Takeaways:
Grief often reveals deep attachment wounds, serving as a trailhead for healing and growth.
Leadership through a Self-Led lens involves embracing imperfection, authenticity, and connection with all our parts.
How can grief and loss act as a catalyst for personal transformation and deeper connection to Self?
IFSCA's new offerings like Stepping Deeper and Demo Days
Authentic connection and shared passions can create profound bonds
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About Mel Galbraith:
Mel Galbraith, MSW, RSW, is a Certified IFS Therapist and Chief Operating Officer of IFSCA (IFS Counselling Association), a leadership role she inherited from the late Derek Scott. With a deep commitment to community and IFS education, Mel continues to build on Derek's vision while navigating her own journey of grief and transformation._______________________________________________________________________________
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Unburdened Eating with Jeanne Catanzaro
27 november 2024 · 54 min
In this episode I chat with Jeanne Catanzaro, an IFS therapist, educator, and author of Unburdened Eating: Healing Relationships with Food and Body. We talk diet culture, internal critics, and the societal pressure to view our bodies as projects. Legacy burdens, cultural messaging, and our protectors shape our relationship with food and body image. Jeanne explains how healing these parts with IFS can lead to a more compassionate and Self-Led approach to eating and wellbeing. Lees meer
Key Takeaways:
Diet culture is deeply rooted in legacy burdens; how can we begin to unburden parts influenced by societal expectations?
Many of us start the day with critical voices driving us—learning to identify and soothe these critics is a key first step.
Healing our relationship with food begins with curiosity, not judgment.
Self-led eating involves negotiating with parts and focusing on what your body needs in the present moment.
Unburdened eating is not a diet—it's about building trust with our parts and moving away from perfectionism.
About Jeanne Catanzaro:
Jeanne Catanzaro is an IFS therapist, educator, and author specializing in helping individuals heal their relationships with food and body. Her new book, Unburdened Eating: Healing Relationships with Food and Body, offers a compassionate guide to transforming these dynamics through an Internal Family Systems lens. In addition to her role in helping to lead the IFS Institute, she offers workshops and retreats on Unburdened Eating and IFS. www.jeannecatanzaro.comThank you to Pisgah Coaching Institute for sponsoring this episode.
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Psychedelics and Honoring Derek Scott with Michelle Glass
23 november 2024 · 39 min
In this episode I chat with Michelle Glass, a certified IFS practitioner, licensed psilocybin facilitator, and author of Daily Parts Meditation Practice®. We dive into the fascinating intersection of Internal Family Systems (IFS) and psychedelic-assisted therapy. Michelle shares her expertise in using IFS as a framework for understanding and navigating non-ordinary states of consciousness, both with and without psychedelics. Lees meer
Key Takeaways:
Non-ordinary states are accessible both through IFS and psychedelic therapy, providing deeper connections to our inner world.
IFS creates a natural "roadmap" for working with protectors, exiles, and self-energy, making it an ideal companion for psychedelic journeys.
Gaining permission from protectors is essential before engaging in psychedelic-assisted therapy.
Psychedelics can act as a "key" to unlocking deeper Self Energy and facilitating healing.
Grief and legacy burdens often emerge as trailheads in both IFS and psychedelic journeys, opening opportunities for healing.
Integration is crucial after any journey—checking in with parts regularly helps sustain the benefits and deepen the healing process.
Favorite Quote:
"IFS provides for natural healing, so it can provide that transformation of the wounds, of our exiles, the burdens, and the shifting of roles of protectors." – Michelle Glass.About Michelle Glass:
Michelle Glass is a Level 3 IFS practitioner, licensed psilocybin facilitator, and author of Daily Parts Meditation Practice: A Journey of Embodied Integration for Clients and Therapists®. She combines her expertise in IFS and psychedelics to help individuals navigate deep healing experiences safely and effectively. Find out more about Michelle here.Thank you to Pisgah Coaching Institute for sponsoring this episode.
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Compassion Fatigue and Burnout with Cece Sykes
19 november 2024 · 27 min
Episode Summary:
In this episode I chat with Cece Sykes, an IFS lead trainer and author, about an experience many of us share: compassion fatigue and burnout. More than just feeling tired, burnout shows up as depletion of energy, hope, and satisfaction, affecting our internal and external systems. Lees meerWe explore how our protectors keep us going, while our firefighters might lead us to distractions that don't truly nourish us. We also discuss how burnout builds up over time, the role of chronic stress, and why it's so important to listen to the signals our parts are sending.
For a deeper dive on the topic of burnout and compassion fatigue, Cece is teaching a workshop through Life Architect December 5 and 6, 2024 called An IFS Lens on Therapist Burnout.
Key Takeaways:
Burnout isn't just about doing too much; it's about the chronic depletion of our internal resources.
Protectors often keep us in overdrive, while firefighters offer temporary relief that doesn't actually restore us.
How can we better support our parts before they reach the point of burnout?
True self-care goes beyond surface-level practices; it's about understanding where our energy is going and making choices aligned with our values.
Creating boundaries and allowing ourselves to rest can help break the cycle of overwork and exhaustion.
Favorite Quote:
"Burnout is depletion—it's the depletion of energy, of hope, of peace of mind, and of satisfaction." – Cece SykesAbout Cece Sykes:
Cece Sykes, LCSW, is an IFS Senior Trainer, therapist, speaker, and author known for her expertise in working with complex trauma and addiction. Her book: IFS Therapy for Addictions: Trauma Informed Compassion-Based Interventions for Substances, Eating, Gambling and MoreEpisode Sponsor: Life Architect
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Tree As Self Meditation with Natalie Thomas
16 november 2024 · 7 min
Enjoy this bonus meditation by Natalie Thomas called Tree As Self. Be sure to check out the full episode (# 180) with Natalie, Ecotherapy: Finding Self in Nature. Lees meer
Dr. Natalie Thomas is a psychotherapist and philosopher specializing in climate distress and ecological grief.
Learn more:
Climate Cafes
Natalie's article in Parts & Self magazine
Natalie's website
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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He is a writer, counselor, and IFS Level 1 practitioner.
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Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created music for the podcast. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott's IFS Stepping Stones Program.
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IFS and Misophonia with Kresta Dalrymple
10 november 2024 · 47 min
In this episode I chat with Kresta Dalrymple, a licensed marriage and family therapist, IFS Level 1 therapist, and certified brainspotting practitioner specializing in complex trauma and misophonia. Lees meer
Misophonia, a strong aversion to specific sounds, can trigger intense fight-or-flight responses, including rage and physical pain. Kresta shares her personal journey with the misophonia and how it led her to create the Misophonia Freedom Lab, a space for exploring treatment and educating others on this often misunderstood condition.
She shares how Internal Family Systems (IFS) has been transformative in helping clients uncover the root of their misophonic triggers, often linked to legacy burdens or childhood trauma. We discuss the importance of attuning to protective parts, understanding the deep-seated pain behind triggers, and using IFS as a non-pathologizing framework for healing.
Key Takeaways:
Misophonia isn't just an aversion to sound; it's a complex trauma response rooted in the nervous system.
Using IFS as a trailhead can uncover deeper parts burdened by past trauma, leading to more effective healing.
Rage responses in misophonia are often protective parts trying to guard against pain; understanding them can foster compassion and relief.
"When we turn towards our triggers with curiosity rather than avoidance, we open up a path to healing."
How can we view misophonia not as a disorder, but as an invitation to explore deeper, unprocessed trauma?
Legacy burdens and inherited sensitivity can play a significant role in misophonia; IFS provides a framework for unpacking these connections.
Favorite Quote:
"I like to think of misophonia as a really powerful trailhead. When we use it as a trailhead, we often find parts of us that have been forgotten, that are hurting, and that need attention. As we start to unburden those parts, the misophonia triggers get less and less." – Kresta DalrympleAbout Kresta Dalrymple:
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Rupture and Repair with Jory Agate
1 november 2024 · 44 min
Episode Summary:
On today's episode I chat with Jory Agate, IFS trainer, Approved IFS Clinical Consultant, and IFS Certified Therapist. We explore two of Jory's favorite topics and areas of expertise: rupture and repair, and grief. She will be offering a two-day workshop on grief through Life Architect in November 15 and 16 called IFS is Grief Work: Healing Unattended Losses. Lees meerKey Takeaways:
Rupture and repair are natural parts of all relationships
IFS offers a path to engage with parts that arise during conflict
Repair involves accountability and listening rather than just apologizing
The importance of centering the impacted person's needs in the repair process
Grief work is a core component of IFS
Self does not get overwhelmed; it can be with anything
How can we hold space for our grief without feeling overwhelmed?
"When we can acknowledge our exiles and help protectors relax, we open the door to real healing."
Grieving unmet needs or past hurts allows us to unburden exiles and foster self-compassion.
My Favorite Quote:
"Rupture is inevitable, but repair is a choice that builds stronger relationships. When we show up with self-energy, we're more likely to meet others' self-energy in return." – Jory AgateAbout Jory Agate:
Jory Agate is a certified IFS trainer and therapist based in Cambridge, Massachusetts. With a background in parish ministry, Jory brings her commitment to healing, relationships, and community into her IFS practice and teaching.Episode Sponsor: Life Architect
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Cabin with the Ancestor Meditation led by Tamala Floyd
25 oktober 2024 · 10 min
Tamala Floyd leads us on a beautiful healing mediation to help us connect with an ancestor. It's a clip from episode 177, "Listening When Parts Speak with Tamala Floyd." Lees meer
Listen to the full episode here
Tamala Floyd is a psychotherapist, author, IFS lead trainer, consultant, and retreat leader with over 25 years of experience. Her latest book, "Listening When Parts Speak: A Practical Guide to Healing with Internal Family Systems Therapy and Ancestor Wisdom," focuses on healing personal and generational trauma.
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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He is a writer, counselor, and IFS Level 1 practitioner.
Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start.
Sign up for Tammy's email list and get a free "Get to know a Should part of you" meditation on her website
Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created music for the podcast. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott's IFS Stepping Stones Program.
If you are interested in sponsoring an episode of The One Inside Podcast, contact Tammy at tammysollenberger@comcast.net
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Self-Led Parenting with Susan Bauerfeld and Chris Parrott
19 oktober 2024 · 47 min
In this episode I chat with Chris Parrott and Susan Bauerfeld about parental anxiety and Self-led parenting. They offer practical advice for parents struggling to regulate their emotions and remain present with their kids, and for IFS practitioners working with parents and families. Lees meer
Chris and Susan are co-presenting a session at next week's 2024 IFS Annual Conference titled, Get Your Shift Together: Self-Led Parenting in a Culture Shaped by Worried Parts, which I'm super excited about.
Key Takeaways:
Worry pulls attention inward, creating disconnection from the present moment. How can parents shift from worry to curiosity about what their children really need
IFS provides a pathway for parents to unblend from worry and engage with Self Energy to stay calm and compassionate
Is worrying really an act of love, or a protective part trying to manage discomfort?
Emotional discomfort is part of life—how can parents help their children develop resilience without removing all discomfort from their experiences?
"When you name it, you tame it"—learning to name parts reduces their intensity and fosters emotional regulation.
Self-regulation in parents sets a foundation for children to build their own coping skills.
How shifting parental focus from worry to connection creates better outcomes for children.
"Worry disconnects us from our parts, from our own Self Energy, and it disconnects us from our kids, and the greatest resource that our children have is the connection that they have with us" -- Chris Parrott
About Chris Parrott and Susan Bauerfeld:
Chris Parrott studied in London earning her MSc and Post MSc degree to become a BPS Chartered Counseling Psychologist. Parrott co-founded Your Self Series, a teen identity development program, and YourChatMat, tools to engage families in meaningful conversation. She is a Level 1-trained and Board Certified Life Coach working with emerging adults and with parents of pre-teens.
Susan Bauerfeld, PhD is a Licensed Clinical …
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Tenacious Parts: Befriending Grief, Anger, and Hope with Audrey Davidheiser
11 oktober 2024 · 35 min
In this week's episode I chat with Audrey Davidheiser, licensed psychologist and Certified IFS therapist and IFSI-approved clinical consultant about working with grief and anger through the Internal Family Systems lens. Lees meer
We discuss:
How tenacious parts like grief and anger hold on, often because they feel they are protecting something important, like legacy or family loyalty. What can we learn by befriending these tenacious parts rather than fighting them?
How your cultural background can influence your emotional experience, and how you can work with legacy burdens in your healing process
Grief as a multi-dimensional experience – it's not just about sadness, but can include anger, regret, or even relief
Religious Grief and Trauma – how religious trauma can exile parts of ourselves, such as those feeling grief or anger, and the need for compassionate acknowledgment of them
All parts grieve differently and how to welcome all parts into the grieving process. How can understanding the different ways we grieve help us heal?
Honoring angry parts – befriend anger by understanding its role in protecting something important
IFS and Grief – how IFS uniquely holds space for grief
Favorite Quotes:
"It's not just that everybody grieves differently, but every part of you grieves differently as well."
"Angry parts are there because they are protecting something valuable."
About Audrey Davidheiser:
Audrey Davenheiser is a licensed psychologist, certified IFS therapist, and the author of the forthcoming book, Wholehearted Grieving. She specializes in working with trauma survivors, with a focus on grief and spiritual abuse.Audrey is leading a session at the 2024 IFS Annual Conference, October 24-25, 2024, called Working With Grieving Parts.
Audrey's website: AimForBreakthrough.com
Follow Audrey on Instagram: @DrAudreyD
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Parts Journaling (and dating) with Kylie Feller
4 oktober 2024 · 36 min
On today's episode I chat with Kylie Feller, a Canadian clinical counselor and Level 3 Certified IFS therapist specializing in complex trauma. We chat about two topics she's passionate about: parts journaling and dating. (Our dating convo begins at 15:50). Lees meer
First, Kylie shares tips on connecting to our parts through journaling. Her book, IFS Daily Parts Journal, offers a structured method which she first developed as her own self-care tool. We explore how journaling can be a valuable way to check in with our parts, unblend, and create inner openness, and why it isn't always as easy as it seems.
Then we switch gears to explore dating through an IFS lens. Sharing personal insights from her experience in the dating scene, she shares how dating presents opportunities to notice trailheads, meet new parts, and practice Self leadership.
We discuss:
Journaling with our parts can be like having a self-led therapist, helping us track, check in, and create openness towards different parts of ourselves.
Resistance to journaling or parts work is common, and it's helpful to approach these resistances with curiosity and compassion.
There is no one-size-fits-all approach to IFS practices; journaling, singing, art, and even walking can be ways to connect with parts.
Dating offers a unique opportunity to explore our parts, activating trailheads that can lead to greater self-understanding and healing.
Kylie's approach to dating with IFS emphasizes self-love, curiosity, and the importance of building internal relationships before seeking external connections.
The concept of trusting one's system and allowing for natural growth and change in relationships is key to healing through IFS.
Kylie will be presenting at the 2024 IFS Annual Conference in a session titled: Parts Journaling: Develop The Habit of Checking in With Your Parts.
About Kylie Feller: Kylie is a Canadian clinical counselor, digital nomad, and Level 3 Certified IFS Therapist. She has personally experienced the …
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Ecotherapy: Finding Self in Nature with Natalie Thomas
28 september 2024 · 32 min
In today's episode I chat with Dr. Natalie Thomas, a psychotherapist and philosopher specializing in climate distress and ecological grief. Natalie, a presenter at the 2024 IFS Annual Conference, explains how nature influences our internal parts and the role of Self Energy in healing, both individually and globally. We explore the connection between humans, animals, and the planet, and how slowing down to engage with nature can shift how we relate to ourselves and the world around us. Lees meer
We discuss:
How can we reconnect with nature and access our self-energy for healing?
The concept of ecotherapy, which includes "walk-and-talk" therapy, inter-species healing, and other outdoor- and nature-focused approaches
How nature can be a third entity (triad) in the therapeutic process
Simple practices for connecting with Self in nature, including forest bathing and engaging the senses
Animals have parts too
What is "inter-species" healing?
Parts-driven vs. Self-led activism, and how inner healing can lead to more effective, compassionate, and sustainable actions
Climate Cafes: hosting a safe space for eco-emotional healing
One of my favorite quotes from the episode:
"When we're in nature, we can access our Self Energy and our parts in a different way—it's like being part of a larger ecosystem, both inside and out." — Natalie Thomas
To learn more:
Climate Cafes
Natalie's upcoming session on ecotherapy and climate distress at the 2024 IFS Annual Conference.
Natalie's article in Parts & Self magazine
Natalie's website
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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He is a writer, counselor, and IFS Level 1 practitioner.
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Drawing On Self Energy with Sacha Mardou
20 september 2024 · 34 min
On today's episode I chat with Sacha Mardou, a graphic novelist and artist, known in the IFS community for her IFS-inspired webcomics. In her new graphic memoir, Past Tense, Sacha brings readers along on her deeply personal, years-long journey to heal trauma, uncover legacy burdens, and connect to her true Self. Lees meer
She began illustrating her IFS and therapy experience privately in her sketchbooks. Those evolved into webcomics vividly depicting her inner system and healing process which she shared with the world through social media, and now in her new graphic memoir.
We discuss:
How her private therapy session sketches grew into webcomics and a book
How IFS can shift our inner world and multi-generational family dynamics
Breaking the chain of legacy burdens for her daughter
Sharing her family members' private details and stories in her comics
Using comics to visually represent the complexity of therapy and inner healing, making the IFS therapy process more tangible, relatable, and approachable for many people
One of my favorite quotes from this episode:
"How many of us carry shame or trauma that isn't even ours to begin with? Legacy burdens, passed down through generations, shape who we are until we take the courageous step to face them." – Sacha Mardou
Sacha will join in a discussion hosted by Dick Schwartz and Jeanne Catanzaro at the 2024 IFS Annual Conference in a session called, Bringing IFS to Life, where they will discuss how Sacha's comics have helped demystify the IFS therapy process for clients.
You can connect with Sacha on her website, on Facebook and Instagram @Mardou_Draws
Learn more about her new book, Past Tense, here: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/714479/past-tense-by-sacha-mardou/
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Embodiment Meditation with Kay Gardner
16 september 2024 · 22 min
Enjoy this lovely embodiment meditation led by IFS lead trainer Kay Gardner. And be sure to check out ep. 171: IFS and Legacy Burdens to listen to my full interview with Kay.
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Befriending Addictive Parts with Mary Kruger
13 september 2024 · 50 min
My guest today is Mary Kruger, an IFS lead trainer and therapist specializing in addiction and eating disorders. Mary helped develop the IFS Level 2 training for addiction recovery and treatment. This episode is a re-release from Season 2. Lees meer
Episode Summary:
In this episode Mary shares her own story of finding IFS and her personal experience of the healing power of its integration with the 12-step model.We explore:
How can we shift the way we approach addiction, eating disorders, and shame?
Have traditional approaches to addiction recovery, such as AA or 12-step programs, left us demonizing our behaviors rather than understanding them?
What happens when we stop viewing addiction as a "moral failure" or "genetic defect" and instead see it as a system out of balance
What role does shame play in maintaining cycles of addiction, and how can IFS help us unburden that shame?
How can we learn to work with, not against, our addictive parts?
Can group work enhance healing by reducing shame and helping us feel connected to others with similar struggles?
Favorite Quote:
"What if we stopped demonizing our addictive behaviors and instead asked, 'What are they trying to teach us?' When we befriend the parts of us that struggle, we unlock the door to true healing."
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Listening When Parts Speak with Tamala Floyd
7 september 2024 · 47 min
On today's podcast, I chat with Tamala Floyd, a psychotherapist, author, IFS lead trainer, consultant, and retreat leader with over 25 years of experience. Her latest book, "Listening When Parts Speak: A Practical Guide to Healing with Internal Family Systems Therapy and Ancestor Wisdom," focuses on healing personal and generational trauma. Lees meer
We discuss:
Ancestor wisdom in personal and generational healing
Accessing the internal system with guided imagery meditation
The importance of therapists and practitioners doing their own internal work
Her love of travel and legacy burden work and combining the two
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Mentioned in this episode:
IFS Institute 2024 IFS Annual Conference
Loch Kelly's Free 90 minute workshop
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To find out ALL the amazing things Tamala is doing:
tamalafloyd.com
Listening When Parts Speak (Amazon)
Conversation with the Author
LWPS BIPOC Consultation Group
LWPS BIPOC Retreat: Healing Legacy Burdens with Ancestor Wisdom
Healing the Wounded Child & Wounded Mother
Empower You App
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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He is an IFS Level 1 Practitioner.
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Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start.
Sign up for Tammy's email list and get a free "Get to know a Should part of you" meditation on her website
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Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created music for the podcast. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott's IFS Stepping Stones Program.
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If you are interested in sponsoring episodes of The One Inside please contact Tammy at tammysollenberger@comcast.net
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IFS and Dissociation with Joanne Twombly
30 augustus 2024 · 56 min
On today's episode I chat with Certified IFS Therapist Joanne Twombly. This episode, which premiered in Season 3, is one of the most popular and most downloaded of the entire series. Lees meer
We discuss:
Why we still need coping skills
The "Fire Drill" exercise to quickly unblend from parts
Integrating IFS into Phase Oriented Treatment
Why diagnosis is helpful - Burdens (and Self!) in Managers, Firefighters, and Exiles
Safe spaces - Hypnosis and trance states
TW: We discuss trauma in this episode. There is discussion about 49 minutes into the episode that may be upsetting to some.
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Get Joanna's book here: Trauma and Dissociation Informed Internal Family Systems: How to Successfully Treat C-PTSD, and Dissociative Disorders: https://a.co/d/icIF2ja
Joanne wrote a chapter entitled "Integrating Phase Oriented Treatment of Clients with Dissociative Disorders" in the IFS: New Dimensions book, found here: https://a.co/d/aMQWiMJ
Learn more about Joanne here: https://joannetwombly.net/
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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He is an IFS Level 1 Practitioner.
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Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start. You can purchase it here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books or wherever books are sold.
Sign up for Tammy's email list and get a free "Get to know a Should part of you" meditation on her website
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Somatic IFS with Susan McConnell
2 augustus 2024 · 45 min
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This episode is a re-release from November 2020.
On today's episode I speak with lead trainer with the IFS Institute, Susan McConnell. Her book, Somatic Internal Family Systems Therapy: Awareness, Breath, Resonance, Movement and Touch in Practice is one of my all-time favorites.
In this episode we cover:
Reconnecting Mind and Body: what disconnects us?
Importance of Embodying for Self energy
Witnessing through the body
Body systems and what they may teach us
The elements' connection to the body
Susan also offered a somatic IFS embodying meditation to begin the episode, which you can find on The One Inside Youtube channel: Somatic IFS embodiment meditation with Susan McConnell (youtube.com)
You can visit Susan's website here : Home | embodiedself
Enjoy!
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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He is an IFS Level 1 Practitioner.
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Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start. You can purchase it here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books or wherever books are sold.
Sign up for Tammy's email list and get a free "Get to know a Should part of you" meditation on her website
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IFS, Inner Critics, and Attachment with Chris Burris
19 juli 2024 · 52 min
This episode is sponsored by Pisgah Coaching Institute founded by IFS-trained Master Coach, Brian Jaudon. Enrollment is now open for 2025 season! To learn more go to: Landing Page | Pisgah Coaching Lees meer
This episode is a re-release from Season 2
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On today's episode I chat with Chris Burris, a lead trainer with the IFS Institute.
Grab your notebook and pen and plan to hit the pause button because this epi is jammed packed.
Here is a little taste of what is inside:
- therapist burn out
- working with inner critics
- the critic, shame, and firefighter cycle
- attachment wounds, object constancy, and attempts to complete unfinished business from our past
- befriending our parts helps them feel seen, heard and valued
- parts are fluid, not static
It is so good. Enjoy!
To check out what Chris is up to go to Meet Chris | Burris Counseling | IFS Consultation
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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He is an IFS Level 1 Practitioner.
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Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start. You can purchase it here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books or wherever books are sold.
Sign up for Tammy's email list and get a free "Get to know a Should part of you" meditation on her website
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Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created music for the podcast. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott's IFS Stepping Stones Program. You can follow Jack at bonzemusic on Instagram.
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IFS and Climate Change with Steffi Bednarek
28 juni 2024 · 42 min
On today's podcast I chat with Steffi Bednarek, climate psychologist and author of the new book "Climate, Psychology, and Change." Lees meer
In this episode we discuss:
Climate change as an unintended consequence of Western mindsets and culture
Individual and collective denial, distraction, and trauma responses to climate change through an IFS lens
The importance of acknowledging collective silence around climate change and our role in maintaining or addressing it
Bringing more awareness to exiled parts of ourselves and considering what therapists and practiioners leave at the "office door"
The challenges of action-oriented responses to climate anxiety and the need for holistic, systemic solutions are examined
Steffi invites listeners to get involved by having uncomfortable climate conversations and experimenting with new approaches
With over 25 years of work experience in systemic change and trauma therapy, Steffi supports individuals, organisations and teams to address the urgent need for regenerative change in ways that go beyond the mere correction of what is visible on the surface.
More about Steffi:
https://www.climatepsychologyandchange.com/
Steffi Bednarek - Climate Psychologist and Keynote Speaker
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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He is an IFS Level 1 Practitioner.
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Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start. You can purchase it here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books or wherever books are sold.
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IFS and Polarizations with Ann Sinko
21 juni 2024 · 20 min
On today's epsiode I chat with Ann Sinko about identifying and working with polarizations. We discuss: Lees meer
Polarizations occur when systems fall out of balance, leading to power struggles and a cycle of yes/no energy
The importance of recognizing and working with polarizations in IFS and how they can lead to chronic stuckness
Inherited polarizations as legacy burdens
Polarization as a sign of movement and change
Ann will host a workshop on June 27, 2024 with Life Architect on working with polarized parts. Use this link to register so they know you heard about it on The One Inside:
Free webinar: How to work with Polarized Parts with Ann Sinko (lifearchitect.com)
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Ann L. Sinko, LMFT is a senior IFS trainer, teacher and ceremonialist. She lives in the lovely Connecticut River Vally and is in Private practice in Portland, CT. Ann is passionate about experiential teaching and easily creates an inviting safe learning environment. She loves being in nature, gardening, travel and her animals.
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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He is an IFS Level 1 practitioner.
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Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start. You can purchase it here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books or wherever books are sold.
Sign up for Tammy's email list and get a free "Get to know a Should part of you" meditation on her website
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Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created music for the podcast. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott's IFS Stepping Stones Program. Y…
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IFS and 'Inside Out 2' with David Polidi
18 juni 2024 · 34 min
EVERYONE is talking about the new movie Inside Out 2 and we wanted to share our take, too! I'm joined by fellow podcaster and IFS therapist, David Polidi, to study the movie from an IFS perspective, name our favorite parts (no pun!), and debate which characters and elements represent Self. Lees meer
Learn about David here: Empowered Through Compassion | therapy
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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He is currently enrolled in an IFS Level 1 training.
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Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start. You can purchase it here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books or wherever books are sold.
Sign up for Tammy's email list and get a free "Get to know a Should part of you" meditation on her website
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Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created music for the podcast. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott's IFS Stepping Stones Program. You can follow Jack at bonzemusic on Instagram.
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If you are interested in sponsoring an episode or two of The One Inside Podcast please contact Tammy at tammysollenberger@comcast.net
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IFS and Legacy Burdens with Kay Gardner
14 juni 2024 · 40 min
On today's podcast I chat with Kay Gardner, lead trainer for the IFS Institute. Kay is an LCPC psychotherapist in Chicago, Illinois. She's been involved with IFS since the beginning of the trainings, and was around for their development. As a Hakomi therapist, she was partially responsible for bringing the body into IFS therapy. Lees meer
We talk about:
the importance of working with legacy burdens
step by step how to work with legacy burdens
how to bring in well and good ancestors
practical steps to connect to your own spirit guide
As a bonus, Kay leads us through her own daily embodiment meditation which you can find here
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This episode is sponsored by Pisgah Coaching Institute founded by IFS-trained Master Coach, Brian Jaudon. Enrollment is now open for 2025 season! To learn more go to: Landing Page | Pisgah Coaching
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Watch video Clips from select episodes on The One Inside Podcast - YouTube
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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He is an IFS Level 1 practitioner.
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Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start. You can purchase it here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books or wherever books are sold.
Sign up for Tammy's email list and get a free "Get to know a Should part of you" meditation on her website
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Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created music for the podcast. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott's IFS Stepping Stones Program. You can follow Jack at bonzemusic on Instagram.
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If you are interested in sponsoring an episode or two of The One Inside Podcast please contact Tammy at tammysollenberger@…
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IFS for Caregivers with Cheryl Field
7 juni 2024 · 53 min
This episode is sponsored by Pisgah Coaching Institute founded by IFS-trained Master Coach, Brian Jaudon. Enrollment is now open for 2025 season! To learn more go to: Landing Page | Pisgah Coaching Lees meer
On today's episode I chat with Cheryl Field, a nurse, author, and speaker who has worked in healthcare for over 35 years. She cared for seniors needing rehabilitation after hospitalization, and later applied that passion to clinical technology companies. International Best-selling author of Prepared! A Healthcare Guide for Aging Adults, Cheryl spends her empty nesting time speaking at grand rounds for clinical teams, local libraries, 55+ communities, and senior centers on a variety of topics related to senior care.
We talk about:
How she uses IFS in her nursing work to help heal trauma in healthcare professionals and promote self-care
Befriending parts with self-doubt and fear of embarrassment while training for a half marathon
Noticing and getting to know parts
Small, intentional acts of joy and self-care for caregivers' resilience
Prioritizing self-care to prevent burnout
Caregivers should identify what recharges them and prioritize it, even if it means saying no to other requests
Recognizing and addressing trauma in nursing
The importance of having a plan for managing health transitions, especially for those over 50
Find out more about Cheryl here: CherylField
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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He is currently enrolled in an IFS Level 1 training.
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IFS and Healing Through Sacred Stories with Molly LaCroix
17 mei 2024 · 38 min
On today's episode I chat with Molly LaCroix about her new book! This is Molly's second appearance on the podcast. Hear her first episode here: IFS and Why Christians Talk So Much About Love But Often Fail to be Loving with Molly LaCroix - Tammy Sollenberger Lees meer
Molly is a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in treating the impact of trauma and adversity. She earned a master's in marriage and family therapy from Bethel Seminary San Diego, where she returned as an adjunct professor. Molly is a Certified and Level Three-trained IFS therapist and clinical consultant.
We talk about:
Integrating Christian spirituality with the IFS model for personal growth and healing
Using Hagar's story to introduce Self, with emphasis on self-awareness and connection to the divine
Understanding Self and sin in Christian context, using King David as an example
Internal work impacting relationships, using Good Samaritan parable as example
The importance of internal work for spiritual growth and loving others unconditionally
Managers and Firefighters stories found in the Bible
Spiritual abuse, Enneagram, and personal growth
The power of sacred stories and the importance of diverse voices in theological discussions
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Connect with Molly here: Home | Molly LaCroix - Author
Buy her new book here: Journey to Shalom: Finding Healing, Wholeness, and Freedom In Sacred Stories - Kindle edition by LaCroix, Molly. Religion & Spirituality Kindle eBooks @ Amazon.com.
Follow Molly on social media @MollyLacroixLMFT and subscribe to her upcoming Substack "Exiled and Embraced"
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IFS and Play Therapy with Carmen Jimenez-Pride
10 mei 2024 · 47 min
On this re-released episode, I talk with Carmen Jimenez-Pride about her chapter in the Altogether Us book on Play Therapy. Lees meer
Carmen is an Lead Trainer with the IFS Insitute, the founder, and Executive Director of Outspoken Counseling and Consulting. She is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Registered Play Therapist Supervisor, Certified EMDR Therapist, Internal Family Systems Therapist, Registered Yoga Teacher, Registered Children Yoga Teacher and a Certified Daring Way™ Facilitator. Carmen is also a LEGO® Serious Play® Facilitator.
Carmen is the developer of Diversity in Play Therapy Inc.; and creator/organizer of the Diversity in Play Therapy Summit.
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We talk about:
Carmen's story
Sand Tray
Parts Mapping
Engaging with Parents (unblending from our parts and helping them identify theirs)
Challenges working with IFS and Kids
I grow, you grow, we grow together
Diversity in Play Therapy Summit
Focus on Feelings curriculum
Carmen says, "What if we can prevent the impact of the Exile? ... We are able to soften the impact of the burdens parts carry using creative means in play therapy."
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This episode is brought to you by the IFS Institute, now enrolling for their Summer Continuity Program - IFS with Children and Adolescents featuring Carmen Jimenez-Pride. Learn more here:
https://discover.ifs-institute.com/summer-continuity/?utm_source=The+One+Inside&utm_medium=banner&utm_campaign=Summer_Continuity
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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He is currently enrolled in an IFS Level 1 training.
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IFS and Attachment with David Eckel
7 mei 2024 · 50 min
On today's episode I chat with David Eckel, an accredited mental health social worker and IFS Level 2 therapist in Australia. He is currently completing his Ph.D. focused on Internal Family Systems Therapy and Adult Attachment. As part of his Ph.D. thesis, he conducted qualitative research asking the question: "How might Internal Family Systems Therapy conceptualise and treat adults with attachment avoidance and attachment anxiety?" He shares some of his findings and insights. Lees meer
In this episode we discuss:
The significance of attachment patterns and how they can change across relationships and contexts
Attachment defintion and history of the theory
Understanding attachment patterns in repairing ruptures (repair is key)
Intersections between attachment theory and IFS
Can we call IFS an attachment-based therapy?
"The Controversy" around internal vs. external attachment
His research process
Can parts have different attachment styles?
The role of Self in healing attachment wounds
Ruptures and negotiating separation and togetherness are normal and can be modeled in therapy
Anxious attachment may involve reactivity, helplessness, and pulling others in
Avoidant attachment may involve deactivation, caretaking, and self reliance
How attachment relates to parts
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Visit David on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/david-eckel-46958232/
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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He is currently enrolled in an IFS Level 1 training.
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Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start. Yo…
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IFS and the Wisdom of Our Parts with Paul Neustadt
1 mei 2024 · 56 min
This is a re-release of Season 2 Ep. 65 with Paul Neustadt. To find the Free Webinar and register for the four-week workshop from Life Architect, go to: Lees meer
Free webinar: Working with Therapist Parts to Access Self in IFS Therapy (lifearchitect.com)
IFS: Therapeutic Relationship and Power of Presence by Paul Neustadt (lifearchitect.com)
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On today's episode I chat with Paul Neustadt, a lead trainer with the IFS Institute. Paul has such a warm, engaging teaching style and I just loved our conversation.
Paul's answer to the last question, "What would you do instead?" may be my new life goal or at least a daily intention.
We discuss:
1. Creating our own inner circle - when you have a hard time accessing compassion (or Self)
2. Impacts of individualism (our culture) on our parts
3. Tapping into our own inner wisdom
4. The Gifts of our Exiles
5. Paul demonstrates Direct Access with one of my manager parts
6. Degrees of Blending
7. Inviting exiles (the younger parts of us) to 'tune into their true nature, who they really are'
8. Relational Heart Based Activism
9. When Self energy seems impossible. "What is this thing called Self and how do I get it!?"
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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He is currently enrolled in an IFS Level 1 training.
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Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start. You can purchase it here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books or wherever books are sold.
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IFS and Bringing Trauma Healing to the World with Dr. Frank Anderson
19 april 2024 · 45 min
On today's episode I chat with Dr. Frank Anderson about his new memoir, "To Be Loved." A beloved psychiatrist and leader in the IFS community, this is Frank's third appearance on the podcast. Lees meer
We talk about:
Unexpected Impact of a vulnerable personal memoir vs his other clinical themed books (3:05)
Separation of Self from intelligence Parts- "I am not just my Smart part" (3:31)
Love and disconnection from self and others (5:33)
Childhood trauma memories and healing experience with mom (11:11)
Experience of love (12:19)
Forgiveness of father and himself (17:25)
Reconciliation vs. forgiveness (19:32)
Impact on and from his siblings (22:21)
Writing as healing - he encourages writing your "moments that made me" for healing (25:54)
Music and healing - how music helped his healing journey and influenced his chapter titles (32:01)
Bringing trauma healing to more people with new initiatives like the Trauma Institute (39:15)
* The full video of this episode is available on The One Inside Podcast - YouTube
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Find out more about Frank here: Trauma Blocks Love. Love Heals Trauma. (frankandersonmd.com)
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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He completed the IFS Circle and is currently enrolled in an IFS Level 1 training.
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Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start. You can purchase it here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books or wherever books are sold.
Sign up for Tammy's email list and get a free "Get to know a Should part of you" meditation on her website
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Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created music for the podcast. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott's IFS Stepping Stones Prog…
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IFS and Visual Arts Journaling with Theresa Soltzberg
12 april 2024 · 49 min
On today's episode I chat with Theresa Soltzberg, LMFT and IFS therapist. Theresa is an expressive arts therapist, mixed media artist, writer and instructor who offers her clients and students experiences that allow the intersection of their self-expression, soul healing and deep personal story. She has been guiding and instructing others in their creative process and life journey for many years. Lees meer
We talk about:
- Her story and how she came into the IFS world
- "Free to Express Me" with mixed media art journaling (12:30)
- Working with Soul pages and Rakefet Hador (14:34)
- Trauma focused: "The embodied experience of art is itself healing" (18:09)
- Setting intentions, Making Layers, Using Metaphor (20:00)
- Integrating the Enneagram (21:00)
- Creating Collage and one collective piece (22:00)
- Working with 'Art' parts (I'm not an artist!) (27:00)
- Examples of working with parts in art (30:00)
- How to do our your own/get started (34:00)
- Evolving Images of Self (38:00)
- Use of the enneagram (39:00)
AND!
- Free Resources (42) For The One Inside Listeners! Found here- TOI (theresasoltzberg.com)
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You can connect with Theresa here:
Theresa Soltzberg (@theresa.soltzberg) • Instagram photos and videos
https://www.theresasoltzberg.com/
More information about Soul pages:
Visual journal - create a visual art diary | Visual journaling with Rakefet Hadar (soul-pages.com)
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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He completed the IFS Circle and is currently enrolled in an IFS Level 1 training.
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Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The On…
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IFS and Finding Freedom from Religious Trauma with Natalie Hoffman
5 april 2024 · 45 min
On today's podcast I chat with Natalie Hoffman, author, podcast host and IFS enthusiast about her new memoir. Lees meer
One of the things I loved about this book is the IFS-y structure of it. In one section, she allows her younger parts to tell their story, their memories and she responds to each from Self. Another section is written like a play: Named parts responding and reacting to one another.
Natalie Hoffman is the author of "Is it Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage: A Christian Woman's Guide to Hidden Emotional and Spiritual Abuse" and "All the Scary Little Gods: a Memoir" as well as the host of the Flying Free podcast. She is a mother, grandmother, educator, and passionate advocate for Christian women in abusive homes and churches. Through the Flying Free Sisterhood program, Natalie empowers Christian women to discover and use their God-given voices, gifts, and freedom to make their own adult choices for their spiritual, emotional, and physical well-being.
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"Scary little gods in our lives try to control and steal our true Essence, making us feel safe but trapping us in fear." These 'scary little gods' can be organizations, family culture, or our own inner parts.
Natalie reflects on her religious, traumatic childhood experiences and how they relate to her identity and connection to her True Self and to the Creator.
We talk about her passion for helping women of faith, particularly Christian women, who are struggling with disillusionment and a lack of self-worth.
She shares about leaving toxic environments and abusive relationships and the importance of listening to our inner parts.
We talk about others 'bullying' parts and how seeing hurtful behavior through this lens helps our own systems.
We talk about ways to connect to our younger parts and how we all can live in Freedom and Choice.
It is a beautiful, rich conversation.
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Find out more about Natalie and get her books here:
Flying Free Support for Women in Abusive Relationships (flyin…
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IFS and Becoming An Ancestor with Derek Scott
22 maart 2024 · 40 min
Derek Scott and I got to meet one last time here on the podcast. I want to share with you what I know because a lot of you have asked. You will find out a lot in this episode from Derek himself. Lees meer
I was among a small group who knew he was sick and when he was passing. After we recorded the episode I got to read his book and watch a session between him and Dick Schwartz, the founder of IFS.
My understanding is you will be able to see this incredible session when you buy the book. Sign up for the launch here: Dead (Spoiler Alert): a Psychotherapist's Journey With Cancer
If you haven't heard of Derek Scott, I invite you to go to YouTube and check out his channel. Many of us in the IFS community learned so much by watching his videos.
He and I recorded a full IFS session on video three years ago. He would text me periodically and let me know how many people had watched it. I just looked -- it has 70,000 views!
Derek ran an organization called IFSCA, based in Canada, which teach IFS courses. In all the years I've known Derek he is clear to honor Dick Schwartz, the founder of IFS. He makes it known that his courses are not IFS trainings. He was always careful to distinguish that and to be so respectful of Dick.
If you go to the podcast page on my website and search for Derek Scott, you will see several episodes we did together. Over the years he would text me and say, "Hey do you wanna talk about such and such?" I'd always say yes.
Here are all the links:
Full episode between Derek as therapist and me as client:
Complete IFS Session (youtube.com)
Derek's youtube channel:
(14) Derek IFSCA - YouTube
Derek's organziation IFS in Canada:
Home - IFSCA
Other podcast episodes with Derek:
You searched for derek scott - Tammy Sollenberger
He was a friend, and I am so grateful for his presence in my life. The last text I received from him was a week before he died, and it was just this emoji … 🤸♀️
Sending you all so much warmth and compassion as you listen to this e…
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IFS and Relational Intelligence with François Le Doze
15 maart 2024 · 56 min
On today's episode I chat with Dr. François Le Doze, MD. He is a psychotherapist, an IFS therapist, and trainer and has been a neurologist for nearly thirty years in a teaching Hospital in Caen, France. He has always been interested in the relationship between the body and mind, and his knowledge of neuroscience allows him to integrate recent neuroscientific findings into his psychotherapy practice. He's actively developing a model of psychotherapy called Relational Intelligence® based on his clinical experience and expertise. Lees meer
In this episode we chat about:
How crisis caused him to reconsider his relationship with IFS and Psychotherapy
The influence of Polyvagal Theory on his Relational Intelligence Model
"This is not a Part, but a disruption in my nervous system."
"This isn't You; but a State of you."
A key clarification in the Relational Intelligence model: Self-regulation = what is happening in your body; Co-regulation = what is happening between us.
Bubble Theory: using meta-cogniton to connect and calm the nervous system
Two a-ha moments for me:
"We need to DO something TO the system and not expect the system will be able to unblend from the Inside Out."
Self Energy must be the regulator the client's system. This Self Energy can originate from either the Self of the client or the Self of the therapist. The client's Self CANNOT lead if their nervous system is dysregulated. In such cases we must tend to the saftey within the therapeutic relationship before proceeding (just as children experience Self of their parents through attachment before their own Self).
His website: SELF THERAPY TRAINING - The Relational Intelligence® model (selftherapie.com)
To learn more about and register for the training he is offering through IFSCA on March 22, 2024 go to:
Relational Intelligence: The Emerging European Model for Trauma. A synthesis of IFS, Neuroscience, Polyvagal & attachment theory Tickets in Online, ON, Canada (ticketleap.com)
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IFS and Healing Through Stories with Boo Trundle
23 februari 2024 · 47 min
On this week's episode I chat with Boo Trundle about her IFS-inspired novel, The Daughter Ship. Boo is a writer, artist, and performer whose work has appeared across various platforms and publications, including The Brooklyn Rail, McSweeney's Internet Tendency, and NPR's The Moth. She has released three albums of original music with Big Deal Records. Lees meer
I absolutely loved this book and the way she blended years of inner child work and IFS therapy to create the unique Parts perspective she uses to write the novel. She shares her process of discovering and relating to different parts and learning how to tell their stories. We identify legacy burdens, ancestral guides, and which character in the novel represents her true Self.
We talk about:
Using IFS to inform and transform her writing (3:00)
The unique storytelling of the novel telling her Parts' stories (7:00)
Her journey discovering her Parts and learning their stories (12:00)
Writing as a healing and spiritual experience (16:00)
Connecting with Self and ancestral guides during a summer writing workshop (20:00)
Identifying which character in the novel represents her true Self (33:00)
Connect with her here:
https://www.bootrundle.com
https://www.instagram.com/bootrundle
https://twitter.com/account/access
https://www.facebook.com/BooTrundle/
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Jeff Schrum is Co-Producer of The One Inside Podcast. He completed the IFS Online Circle and is enrolled in an IFS Level 1 training.
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Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start. You can purc…
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IFS and The Council for Indigenous IFS with Julia Sullivan and Gregg Paisley
16 februari 2024 · 53 min
On today's episode I chat with Julia Sullivan and Gregg Paisley, two of the authors of the Altogether Us book chapter on Embodying IFS with Native American Clients. They are members of The Council for Indigenous IFS, and this is the focus of this episode. Lees meer
Julia Sullivan, MBA (she/her) is a social activist who integrates her Latina roots (Ralámuli descent), Indigenous spirituality, and all she gained from being one of the first Latinas to earn an MBA from the Stanford Graduate School of Business. After 30 years in executive leadership and organizational development, she now brings Self leadership to people using Internal Family Systems (IFS). She co-founded the Council for Indigenous IFS to create a forum for cross-tribal learning and resource sharing. Julia convenes Self Led Leaders, a global community of coaches and consultants bringing IFS-informed practices to business, as well as Cornsilk, which brings these practices to the general public. Julia relaxes with frequent walks around a lake with her IFS-trained husband, Chris, basking in the beauty of nature.
Gregg Paisley, MBA (he/him) spent most of his career in the private sector, working as a senior executive in SMB, NASDAQ, and Fortune 500 enterprise software and hardware companies, as well as in professional audio/video/lighting. An enrolled Blackfeet (Amskapi Piikani band), he is one of the few American Indians fortunate enough to have walked that path. Late in life he came to the epiphany that the only possible reason the Creator would shower such undeserved blessings and resources on him is so he could help others find their own blessings. Since retiring from industry in 2003, he has focused on creating jobs, increasing tribal household incomes, and providing social services (especially for under-served tribal children) on a large Montana reservation. Gregg is a member of the Council for Indigenous IFS. In his spare time, Gregg relaxes as a musician on keyboards and guitar. He stays connected to the lan…
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IFS and Echoes of Ancestral Wisdom: Stories of Indigenous Resilience and Connection with Suzan McVicker and Pete Patton
9 februari 2024 · 49 min
On today's episode I chat with two of the four authors of the Embodying IFS with Native American Clients chapter in the Altogether Us book, Suzan McVicker and Pete Patton. The other two authors, Julia Sullivan and Gregg Paisley will be on the show next week. Lees meer
Suzan McVicker, PhD, is a long-time certified IFS therapist, teacher, and former IFS trainer whose two recent publications, an IFS article and an IFS book chapter, are invitations to build a safe bridge between Indigenous Peoples and the global IFS community. She was one of the first IFS practitioners to voice her personal experience as a Cherokee descendant in the collective narrative about the healing contributions of Indigenous worldview precepts for IFS practitioners with an initial publication through APA (American Psychological Association) in 2010.
Pete Patton is Inuit, and currently exists on the land of the Clatsop-Nehalam Tribe in Astoria, Oregon. Pete is currently a Therapist for the local Mental Health Authority in Clatsop County. Pete is also actively involved in developing a community of faith (Great Spirit Gathering) whose purpose is to support, celebrate, and embody Native American Spirituality in all its ways of being expressed/embodied.
We talk about:
- Deer Medicine and Indigenous culture (1:00)
- Indigenous perspectives on deer medicine as energy (2:00)
- Experiential storytelling in culture and used in the Chapter (10:00)
- Identity, adoption, and heritage (14:00)
- Indigenous inspired IFS and the 7 B's (34:00)
(HumBle; Right to Be, Belong, Become; Blessing; Balance; Embodied Learning; Ceremony as UnBurdening; Belly Laugh)
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IFS and Exploring Porous Minds: Spirituality, Consciousness, and the Journey Within with Bob Falconer
2 februari 2024 · 55 min
On today's epsidoe I chat with Bob Falconer, author of the book, "The Others Within Us: Internal Family Systems, Porous Mind, and Spirit Possession." Lees meer
Bob has been involved in psychological healing and recovery for over half a century now. More and more he focuses on the spiritual dimensions of this process.
We talk about:
- Our Minds are Porous. Acceptance of this idea is as impactful as accepting the multiplicty of the mind (until 16 minutes)
- Emmanual Swendenborg's influence (16 min)
- External Energies (Bob's preferred term to critters or unattached burdens) (20 min)
- Spirit Guides (31 min)
- Past Lives (think Legacy Burdens) (37)
- His many upcoming book projects, and his heart to lessen Human Suffering (43)
- Spiritual Writing and the work of Chico Xavier (45)
- UBU and Non violent communication- upcoming workshops (52)
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Check out Bob's website:
IFS Consultant - Teacher and Author - Robert Falconer
Sign up for the upcoming Master class with IFSCA on 2.16.24:
IFS and Past Lives Tickets in Online, ON, Canada (ticketleap.com)
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Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start. You can purchase it here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books or wherever books are sold.
Sign up for Tammy's email list and get a free "Get to know a Should part of you" meditation on her website: Home - Tammy Sollenberger
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IFS and Ancestral Lineage Healing with Daphne Fatter
26 januari 2024 · 57 min
On today's episode I welcome back Altogether Us author, Daphne Fatter. Lees meer
Dr. Daphne Fatter is a licensed psychologist, certified Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapist,
and IFS clinical consultant. She is also a certified ancestral lineage healing practitioner using Dr.
Daniel Foor's method for ancestral healing. Dr. Fatter guides groups, workshops and trainings
for therapists on trauma, IFS and ancestral healing worldwide. Her next IFS-informed ancestral
healing course will be offered online in November.
We cover:
- What is ancestral lineage healing?
- Why do ancestral lineage healing? When would the ancestral lineage healing be helpful
to an IFS client?
- A protocol for doing legacy unburdening by partnering with
ancestral guides.
- A protocol for a way of discerning a client has an unattached
burden or unwell deceased attached to a part
- and So much more!
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Check out Daphne's website to sign up to hear about the next IFS-informed ancestral healing course:
https://www.daphnefatterphd.com/
Check out this International directory of trained ancestral lineage healing practitioners: https://ancestralmedicine.org/practitioner-directory/
Check out Daphne's book chapter on integrating ALH and IFS: Fatter, Daphne (2023). "Ancestral lineage healing: Restoring Belonging and Reconnection with Ancestral Wisdom and Collective Self-Energy." In Riemersma, J. (Ed.), Altogether Us: Integrating the IFS Model with Key Modalities, Communities, and Trends.
Altogether Us: Integrating the IFS Model with Key Modalities, Communities, and Trends: Riemersma, Jenna, Schwartz, Dr. Richard: 9781734958423: Amazon.com: Books
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IFS and Embodying Change: Navigating Disordered Eating and Body Image with Marcella Cox
19 januari 2024 · 48 min
On today's episode I chat with one of the Altogther Us authors, Marcella Cox. Lees meer
Marcella Cox, LMFT, Certified IFS Therapist and Approved Clinical Consultant, Somatic IFS Therapist, Certified Body Trust Provider, Certified Eating Disorder Specialist - Supervisor specializes in treating disordered eating, body shame, and trauma.
Marcella contributed the chapter on IFS and Disordered Eating in Altogether Us: Integrating the IFS Model with Key Modalities, Communities, and Trends (2023). She offers professional supervision and consultation, as well as workshops and retreats to support those healing from disordered eating and body shame.
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We talk about: (approximate time stamps for navigation)
Window intro and Tammy's Big Birthday (00:55)
Messages about "Good bodies" and New Years (07:00)
Weight Bias and stigma, Diet culture, body image (11:00)
"Health" and body focus (16:45)
Family Burdens and how to have more CHOICE over how our parts protect us (23:00)
Restored embodiment, biological responses to restriction, gratitude for body (26:00)
Intuitive eating AND befriending and unburdening parts (35:00)
Body comments are harmful (39:20)
All of the closing things (43:00)
Marcella says, "What if you did not make your body a problem to be fixed."
Here is all the things you need to know!
Kindful Body - www.kindfulbody.com
IFS Telehealth Collective - www.ifstherapyonline.com
Tri-State Eating Disorder Conference, Evansville, IN, April 12-13, 2024 - https://tri-state-eating-disorder.ce-go.com/tristate-eating-disorder-conference-2024
Somatic IFS Retreat in Red Mountain Resort, Utah, May 15-19, 2024 - https://www.kindfulbody.com/somatic-ifs-retreat
Retreat in Malta, March 2025 - https://www.souliology.com/
IFS for Eating and Body Issues Google Group - is a group for practitioners (therapists, RDs, MDs, coaches, etc.) who help clients heal from food, eating and body issues using IFS Therapy. This listserv is a community to connect, collaborate, and share resour…
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IFS and Being Self Led with Seth Kopald
5 januari 2024 · 54 min
On today's podcast I chat with Seth Kopald, author of the new book "Self Led." Lees meer
Seth is a certified, level 3, Internal Family Systems (IFS) Practitioner. He holds a PhD in Organization Management with a Specialization in Leadership and a Masters in Education. His specialties include Self-led Parenting, Parts Art, Spirituality, and creating spaces where people's parts feel safe and understood.
"Self-Led walks you through the building of authentic relationships with yourself and with others. While reading Self-Led, you will gain a thorough understanding of what Internal Family Systems (IFS) refers to as your Self and your parts. You will learn how to form relationships with your parts by listening to and understanding them. You will also learn how to be Self-led in some of the most important aspects of your life: in intimate relationships, at work, while parenting, and in your own spirituality. By becoming Self-led, you will live a more harmonious life."
We talk about:
How to be in relationship with your Parts in all areas of your life (parenting, communication with partners)
Building trust between Self and parts
The importance of parts feeling deeply understood with what Seth calls Exquisite Attunement (What does it mean to be Understood?)
Being with our parts in a way that allows us to be Self-led in all aspects of life
Living life with a non-shaming approach
Check out more about Seth:
Exploration Services: Seth Kopald
Seth Kopald (@selfled_by_seth) • Instagram photos and videos
All the Places to get the book:
Amazon: https://a.co/d/h9dm8bX
Barnes and Noble: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/self-led-seth-kopald/1144403149
And signed cooies directly from Seth's website! https://www.sethkopald.com/book-store
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Follow Tammy on Instagram @ifstammy: Tammy Sollenberger (@ifs.tammy) • Instagram photos and videos and on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger: The One Inside: Internal Family Systems with Tammy Sollenberger | Facebook.
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