The One Inside: An Internal Family Systems (IFS) podcast
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IFS and Moving Towards with Jenna Riemersma
22 oktober 2021 · 53 min
I'm super excited to welcome back to the podcast my friend, Jenna Riemersma. Jenna and I were chatting about her concept of 'Moving Towards' and decided to do another episode together. Jenna is such an amazing teacher, and I am thrilled that she shares her wisdom with us. Lees meer
I felt so much Self energy and calmness in the middle of the podcast I forgot to ask about her 'Three Steps!'. Thankfully, she reminded my parts who got back online quickly.
Here is an outline:
- Burdened parts move against
- Move against in our culture (politics, covid)
- The Power of the Self and the IFS model
- The 8 C qualities of Self= What Love does and What Love looks like
- Move towards starts with me then moves to we
- Living a Move Toward kind of life - especially in our advocacy
- Betrayal Trauma (Jenna explains the role of parts for both parties)
- Psychological theories and Trauma
- Attachment (External and Internal) ---This is SO GOOD!
- Three Steps of Moving Towards
- All Together You - her book about Moving towards in Faith Communities
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I took so many notes.
Check out her website for SO MANY free resources:
Jenna Riemersma - Jenna Riemersma
Sign up for my email list to see my book cover REVEAL in November and get a free 'get to know a should part of you':
Home - The One Inside-by Tammy Sollenberger
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Jenna says, "We are way more than the Burden of One (or some) of our parts. We are the Self behind that."
Enjoy!
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IFS and Beyond Hopelessness and Despair with Jim Abrams
30 september 2021 · 33 min
On today's episode I chat again with my first guest ever, Jim Abrams. Jim is a frequent program assistant at IFS trainings so he is well known by many. Jim emailed me checking in and sharing lessons he is learning, and we wanted to share them with you! Lees meer
Outline:
1. When a problem becomes real.
2. Changing ones experience of the circumstances.
3. Holding and honoring parts who feel sad, grief, worry and joy simultaneously.
4. Sometimes we need someone else.
5. Polarities- Life is hard and life is joyful
6. It is scary to be hopeful.
7. Holding the parts who hold the pain.
Here is my favorite quote:
"We are not asking the part to be hopeful. We are asking the system to bring comfort and connection to that part so its experience of the circumstance changes."
You can email Jim at Jim.abrams.456@gmail.com
You can connect with me here: Home - The One Inside-by Tammy Sollenberger I LOVE hearing from you!
Enjoy!
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IFS and Hope with OCD with Alessio Rizzo and Robert Fox
17 september 2021 · 1 uur 3 min
On today's podcast I chat with Alessio Rizzo and Robert Fox about having hope when treating and living with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. Lees meer
Alessio is a fully accredited Gestalt psychotherapist in the UK and a psychotherapy lecturer. He is a Level 3 IFS therapist and has been a PA for Derek Scott on the Stepping Out Program. He is working towards his IFS certification.
Rob is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor who practices in Woburn, Massachusetts. He is a IFS level 3 trained and Certified and an EMDR Certified Therapist. He presented at the 2018 IFS Conference on the topic of treating OCD with IFS Therapy. He was a guest on the IFS Talks podcast about his own personal challenges with OCD and what helped him.
Listen to the episode here:
A Talk with Robert Fox on OCD type Parts | IFS (internalfamilysystems.pt)
Here is an outline of this episode- all times are ish:
- 11 - Their stories and their passion for OCD
-18 - Other tx modalities (ERP is Exposure Response Prevention)
- 24- Trauma and suffering as an invisible and consistent occurrence
- 26- Rob's personal story and Alessio's metaphor (Drop of water on a hard rock)
- 35- Frederick Penzel OCD workbook.
- 37- Recognizing patterns for OCD: repressed anger, a lot of shame, no witnessing adult, shame about OCD.
*OCD parts need to be a powerful enough distraction to keep you away from intense shame
39- Their upcoming workshop (link below- November 27, 2021)
45- Lack of availability of OCD therapists and treatment, Stigma of OCD
51- HOPE
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To sign up for the OCD workshop:
IFS & Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) - Sistemas de la Familia Interna (institutoifs.com)
To connect with Alessio:
Therapy with Alessio
To connect with Robert:
Home: Family Therapy | Couples Therapy | Woburn, MA 01801 (jobstresssolutions.com)
To connect with me:
Home - The One Inside-by Tammy Sollenberger
Enjoy!
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IFS and Self Led Civility and a lot of Funk with David Medeiros
27 augustus 2021 · 1 uur 1 min
On today's episode I chat with David Mederios, Level Two trained IFS therapist. David has been a program assistant for multiple level one and level two trainings. He has presented at several annual IFS conferences. He spent a year working with Dr. Richard Schwartz and co-presented their experience treating someone diagnosed with Schizophrenia at an annual IFS Conference. David collaborated on the production of Good Grief, which toured nationally. Lees meer
David and I have a lot of a laughs throughout this '101' episode.
Here is a bit of an outline:
How we met and importance of Dance Parties
His presentation and experience with his patient with Schizophrenia
Drumming Lessons: asking for help and life lessons
His book. Civility and Responsibility. Working with Families struggling in Domestic Violence
His goal in writing his book- especially in light of the 2020 election, Capital Riots, and Covid.
The Foundation for Self Leadership Web series- He is co-leading the first one. STARTS 9/3/21
I tell a little bit about my upcoming book, "The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self."
He plays the drums for us to close us out.
This is a 'funky' episode!
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To find out more about the upcoming web series with the foundation:
https://foundationifs.org/bridge
To read a Great article about IFS where David is interviewed:
https://elemental.medium.com/inside-the-revolutionary-treatment-that-could-change-psychotherapy-forever-8be035d54770
To see a little bit about Good Grief (there performance was unforgettable!):
Good Grief Performances in Boston | IFS Institute (ifs-institute.com)
David's website:
http://www.davidmedeiroslicsw.com/
Connect with me and get a free parts meditation:
https://tammysollenberger.com/
Enjoy!
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IFS and No Bad Parts with Richard Schwartz
9 juli 2021 · 54 min
Here we are! - Together for the 100th episode with Dick Schwartz. Lees meer
Dick has always been supportive and kind to me- from meeting him when I came out of a consultation group and he was standing in a hallway alone, to an unfortunate situation at a conference. He has been open and available for this podcast, and I am so grateful.
Dick has a new book out this week called "No Bad Parts," which we planned to talk about. And we do- a little bit.
What happened during our chat was we just started catching up. Then this transitioned to us both sharing some things 'off the record.'
And, of course, Dick does not want to just TALK about the model- he wants to do it. So he says to me, "We can do a little piece of work if you want ..." How could I not agree!?
So, that is what a big piece of this episode is- a demo of the model. You get to hear Dick doing the model and you get to hear me working with my parts.
My hope for you is that you are able to go down your own trailheads as you listen. My hope for you is you learn something about this model. My hope for you is you get to witness the founder of IFS facilitate a session.
Here is a bit of an outline:
- Checking in
- Trailheads
- Dick's 'obsessed with IFS' part
- Demonstration of the Model (from about 15 minutes until about 40 minutes)
- The book- No Bad Parts
- Bigger Plans for IFS
Check out the silly faces we made on my social media pages :)
Connect with me on Instagram, Twitter and Clubhouse @ifs.tammy and on The One Inside Facebook page.
Go to my website to get a free parts meditation Home - The One Inside-by Tammy Sollenberger and get news about my new BOOK called "The One Inside: 30 Days to Connect to Your Authentic Self'- coming out late fall 2021!
Enjoy!
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IFS and Authenticity with Frank Anderson
2 juli 2021 · 45 min
On today's episode I chat with Frank Anderson. His new book, "Transcending Trauma" has been out for a month or so now, and he has done a few podcasts. I wanted to talk to him about how he is doing and what is going on in his life. Lees meer
So! This is not just about trauma or his book. This is not about what is happening in the IFS world since Frank is an insider. This is not about Frank's workshops and IFS manuals and all those things.
This episode - the 99th episode- is about authenticity.
We talk about the book, of course. And, we talk about trauma. Mostly, we talk about family, love, and connection and their power to heal all of us.
Frank says, "Love Heals What Trauma Blocks."
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You can connect with Frank on Instagram @frank_andersonmd, Twitter @frankandersonmd, and Clubhouse @frankandersonmd.
I'd love to connect with you @ifs.tammy on Instagram, Twitter, and Clubhouse. You can join The One Inside Facebook Page and you can get a free parts meditation when you go to tammysollenberger.com.
Enjoy!
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IFS and Psychedelics with Norma Stevens
25 juni 2021 · 51 min
On today's episode I chat with Norma Stevens who is an LCPC in private practice in the Baltimore/DC area. She is a Research Lees meer
Therapist for a Clinical Trial for Psilocybin Assisted Therapy for Depression in Cancer Patients and a Therapist for the MAPS Expanded Access Program for MDMA Assisted Psychotherapy for PTSD at the William Richards Healing Center in the Aquilino Cancer Center in Rockville, MD.
She is a Certified IFS therapist and an Approved IFS Supervisor for Certification. She has worked as a program assistant extensively for Level 1, 2, and 3 IFS trainings and was a presenter at the 2019 IFS Annual Conference.
We talk about:
- Processes and essential steps of this treatment
- What brought her into psychedelic assisted therapy (such a great story!) and her current work at the Healing Center
- Healing potential of psychedelic therapy and what is needed to administer it safely (all the S's- screening, set, setting, skill, and support)
- IFS and Psychedelics: A powerful combination (self healing exiles)
- Concerns: What about addiction? Don't psychedelics bypass protectors (and how they do)? What if someone has a history of psychosis? What about "bad" trips?
- Importance of Integration and follow up
Norma calls this Sacred Work, and I loved hearing her story and her passion.
To connect with Norma check out her Linkedin page: (25) Norma Stevens, MS, NCC, LCPC | LinkedIn and her email at norma.stevenslcpc@gmail.com.
To connect with me, listen to a Parts Meditation, and hear past episodes: Get a Free Meditation - The One Inside-by Tammy Sollenberger
I'd also love to connect over all the socials: at The One Inside Facebook page and ifs.tammy on Twitter, Instagram and Clubhouse.
Enjoy!
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IFS as a Spiritual Practice with Gabby Bernstein
18 juni 2021 · 41 min
On today's podcast I talk with New York Times Best Selling Author, Speaker and lover of IFS Gabby Bernstein. Lees meer
For over fifteen years, Gabby has been transforming lives—including her own. The #1 New York Times bestselling author has penned eight books including The Universe Has Your Back, Super Attractor and the latest, her first Audible Original, You Are the Guru.
In her weekly podcast, Dear Gabby, she offers up real-time coaching, straight talk and conversations about personal growth and spirituality with unique and inspiring guests. What started as hosting intimate conversations with twenty people in her New York City apartment, Gabby has grown into speaking to tens-of-thousands in sold-out venues throughout the world.
Gabby was featured on Oprah's SuperSoul Sunday as a "next-generation thought leader." The Oprah Winfrey Network chose Gabby to be part of the "SuperSoul 100," a dynamic group of trailblazers whose vision and life's work are bringing a higher level of consciousness to the world. The New York Times identified Gabby as "a new role model."
She co-hosted the Guinness World Records' largest guided meditation with Deepak Chopra, and appears regularly as an expert on Today and Good Morning America, among other
publications. She connects with her community through her books, her podcast, her Miracle Membership, the Spirit Junkie app, social media, digital workshops and e-courses, and live
events.
I was thrilled when I found out about Gabby and heard her speak in such a clear, understandable way about IFS. I had to have her on the podcast and am so thankful that she was open to do it. And, that she turned out to be such a warm, kind, and lovely person.
It is amazing when we find people talking our same language outside of the IFS community and that is what I thought about Gabby.
I highly recommend you check out her website which is full of free resources. On this episode I mention her TED talk and her Super Soul Session which can be found …
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IFS and All things Couple's Therapy with Liz Phillips
11 juni 2021 · 54 min
On today's episode I chat with Liz Phillips. Liz comes to couples therapy after four decades of observing and experiencing couple disconnection, and one decade training in couples work to ensure she could be of service. She completed her Level 1 in IFS and Level 2 in IFIO and now runs IFIO-informed workshops to introduce the model to other couples therapists. IFIO stands for Intimacy from the Inside out, and it is the 'couples division' of IFS. Lees meer
Currently based in Toronto, Liz is a self proclaimed coffee snob, a committed IFIO advocate, and a lover of rescue dogs.
Liz sent me a book in the mail after we recorded this podcast so she is my new best friend. I feel seen.
We talk about:
Emotional Focused Therapy
Neurobiology
Attachment
Parts in relationship
You turns (Liz gives detailed explanation- so good.)
Finding My Soul's Home (in IFIO and IFS)
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Liz shares her own personal story of searching and finding her soul's home, and she is vulnerable about her parts and her relationships.
To find out more about Liz and her upcoming workshops go to:
Liz Phillips Therapy
To listen to my friends Naomi Rather and Deb Curtis' podcast that is ALL about EFT go to:
That Relationship Show
To get on my email list to get a free meditation (coming soon) and to keep in touch go to:
Home - The One Inside-by Tammy Sollenberger
Connect with me @ifs.tammy on Instagram, Clubhouse and Twitter and on The One Inside Facebook page. I will see you there.
Enjoy!
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IFS and Mom Guilt with Leslie Petruk
4 juni 2021 · 44 min
On today's episode I chat with Leslie Petruk, Assistant trainer with the IFS Institute. Leslie is a parenting EXPERT and I am thrilled she took time out of her busy schedule to hang out. Lees meer
This is Leslie's third time as a guest on the podcast and all my parenting parts are thrilled to have her on again.
Even though this is titled "mom guilt" this episode is for any parental/adult figure who is raising little ones.
We talk about:
- I am Bad. -Ways shame shows up in moms
- Importance of Repair (and learning to apologize well)
- "Not what you did but what you do after."
- Kids and Covid
- Kids and Technology
-You turn as a parent
- Setting up intentions
- The work-life balance myth
- What are managers need from us and importance of perspective
- You can't afford to NOT do self care
- Working from home
- Importance of judgment free community and having a tribe
- Kids have good intuition and bad interpretation (Mommy is crying ... I must have done something wrong).
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Find out more about Leslie here:
Home - The Stone Center – Charlotte, NCThe Stone Center – Charlotte, NC (thestonecenternc.com)
Leslie H. Petruk | MA, LPC-S, NCC, BCC (selfleadership.org)
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Enjoy!
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IFS and MEN-tal Health (Men's Issues) with Justin Martin
28 mei 2021 · 54 min
On today's episode I chat with Justin Martin, an IFS therapist who lives in FL where he enjoys avoiding Disneyworld, taking advantage of the abundance of palm trees, and writing incredible poetry. Lees meer
Justin has been IFS informed for a few years and is finishing his level one IFS training.
We talk about all things MEN. I so appreciate Justin's openness and vulnerability during our conversation.
We cover:
- Men's competitive parts
- Messages men get throughout their life and the need to exile vulnerable parts to fit in with the system around them
- Dating
- 'Nice Guys'
- The term 'Toxic Masculinity'
- Authenticity and Attachment
We end with Justin sharing several of his writings that are vulnerable and intimate.
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Check out Justin's website here:
IFS Therapist in Winter Park, FL | Parts of Me Therapy
Follow Justin on Instagram @partsofmetherapy
As always, I'd love to connect with you @ifs.tammy on Instagram, Twitter, and Clubhouse. And, on The One Inside Facebook Page. You can find past episodes and keep in touch with me at Home - The One Inside-by Tammy Sollenberger I love hearing from you!
Enjoy!
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IFS and Shame and Addiction with Mary Kruger
21 mei 2021 · 51 min
On today's episode I chat with Mary Kruger, a lead trainer with the IFS Institute and one of the developers of the Level Two Addiction training. Lees meer
Mary shares her own story of finding IFS and her personal experience of the healing power of its integration with the 12 step model.
We talk SO MUCH about Shame.
We talk about the 12 steps as a Spiritual Path and working with parts who have difficulties with 12 step programs.
We talk about addiction as 'disease' and where this idea comes from. Disease is disharmony; IFS restores harmony.
We talk about family and trauma.
We talk about the connection and shame reducing power of group work.
Mary talks about looking inside, even though a part may fear the badness and shame that may be found there, and the healing when we take back in who we are truly intended to be.
She says that curiousity and compassion are our biggest healing agents.
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Connect with Mary at Marykruger@sbcglobal. net or on her website: Home Page (mpkruger.com).
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Enjoy!
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IFS and Intuitive Eating with Kim Daniels
14 mei 2021 · 1 uur 6 min
On todays episode I chat with Kim Daniels, Level 2 IFS Therapist. Kim is a Clinical Psychologist, Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor, and Emotional Eating Coach who's on a mission: to create an army of women who never deny themselves the food they love, who treat themselves with the compassion and respect they deserve, and who value themselves and their bodies. And who never. Diet. Again. Lees meer
Doesn't that sound A- MA- ZING?!
I so enjoyed our chat about all things Intuitive Eating and IFS.
We check in until about the 11 minute mark and then jump into all the good stuff:
diet culture
set point theory
health at every size
polarized parts (restrictive and overeating)
why diets do not work- biologically
legacy burdens and messages from culture and family
At about the 30 minutes mark we dive a bit more into Intuitive Eating:
body food congruence
moral meaning and shame around food
'play food'
And, a lot about working with all of our parts
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Kim has a group coaching program called Food and Body Freedom that's starting in June--the link is https://www.subscribepage.com/foodfreedom_copy.
She has an email challenge called the Intentional Eating Challenge--the link is https://bit.ly/intentionallyeat.
And she has a free E-Course called Diets: Why They Don't Work and How to Quit Them for Good. That link is https://bit.ly/exitingdietculture.
Her website is yourweightisnotyourworth.com, and you can connect with her on Instagram @kimdanielspsyd.
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Enjoy!
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IFS and Is Gender a Part? with Nic Wildes
7 mei 2021 · 1 uur 6 min
On todays episode, I chat with Nic Wildes about 'Is Gender a Part?' Nic spoke on this topic at the 2018 IFS Annual Conference and that is where we met -also when I decided my next step was to start a podcast :) Lees meer
Nic Wildes, LMHC (Pronouns: they/them/theirs) is a White queer nonbinary Certified IFS therapist based in the Boston area. They are in private practice and are co-director of SAYFTEE, a
group practice devoted to working with LGBTQI+ people and their loved ones. Nic is especially passionate about how IFS can be used to empower queer, transgender, nonbinary, and gender
diverse people.
Nic offers individual and group consultation. They have recently started IFS consultation groups for those wanting to connect and learn in LGBTQI+ affinity. SAYFTEE, their group practice, is also
a great resource for LGBTQI+ people, families and clinicians wanting more connection. SAYFTEE is currently expanding their training capacity to support more folks providing gender affirming care and have a lot they are doing to create community locally.
Nic is also looking to connect and build community with other trans, nonbinary, and gender expansive IFS therapists /practitioners. If this applies to you, they would love to hear from you.
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We talk -Nic is wise and I ramble...- about:
Nic's story
All of our own experiences of gender
"Who can I be in what spaces"
Gender messages we ALL get as kids
Laws and Violence against Transgender women
Pronouns (The trauma of being misrecognized)
Trans Visibility (In History and Movies)
Camp for kids
Get curious about our own experience with gender
'There is something wrong with me.'
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Nic can be reached at nicwildes@gmail.com.
To find out more about Nic and the meditation we discuss go to:
Resources | Nic Wildes, LMHC
The camp info:
Camp Aranu'tiq of Harbor Camps for Transgender Youth (camparanutiq.org)
The podcast we talk about:
The Laverne Cox Show: Moving Beyond the Gender Binary w/ ALOK on Apple Podcasts
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IFS and Tuning Into Needs with Non Violent Communication with Spencer Thompson
30 april 2021 · 57 min
On todays episode I chat with Spencer Thompson, a Level 2 IFS Practitioner. He practices what he calls 'Self-Leadership Coaching,' emphasizing how IFS and Self-Leadership can impact us daily. He is passionate about group dynamics and creating unique container spaces that invite people into situations to practice and share in Self-leadership with others. He also loves helping people communicate for their parts and listen for the parts of others. Lees meer
We talk about 'What is NVC' and walk through OFNR (which is like the 6 F's in IFS).
We talk about Being IFS vs Doing IFS.
We talk about parts (a lot!).
And, we talk about lots of stuff in between.
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To find out more about Spencer, check out: https://self-leadership-coach.com/
Spencer will have a video demonstrating the integration between IFS and NVC and other resources here: (12) Spencer Thompson, Self-Leadership Coach | Facebook
As always, I'd love to connect with you at The One Inside Facebook Page and @ifs.tammy on Instagram, Twitter, and Clubhouse. You can join my growing mailing list at Home - The One Inside-by Tammy Sollenberger
Enjoy!
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IFS and Why Christians Talk So Much About Love But Often Fail to be Loving with Molly LaCroix
23 april 2021 · 52 min
On today's episode I talk with Molly Lacroix, a certified Level 3 IFS therapist, about her new book, "Restoring Relationship: Transforming Fear into Love Through Connection." Lees meer
I love this title so much I keep repeating it throughout the show...
Outline:
1. Reasons she wrote the book
2. Her introduction and journey with IFS
3. IFS and Christian Spirituality
4. Outline of the book:
- Judging, legalism and over reliance on cognitive parts
- Why are we so vulnerable? (development and attachment)
- The way forward (IFS)
- IFS with common causes of distress
5. Her Breast Cancer journey
6. Finding connection in the social media/publishing 'game'
7. A New Spiritual Practice (loving ourselves, unblending)
8. How IFS and Christianity Enhance one another
9. New book project: How to Heal Our Divides. Her chapter is How IFS Helps Heal our Inner Divides.
Check it out here: https://howtohealourdivides.com/
Connect with Molly here: https://mollylacroix.com/ and on Facebook and Instagram.
As always, I'd love to connect with you at The One Inside Facebook Page and @ifs.tammy on Instagram, Twitter, and Clubhouse. You can join my growing mailing list at tammysollenberger.com - maybe I will send you an email one day soon.
Enjoy!
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IFS and Hope for Injured Athletes with Heidi Armstrong
16 april 2021 · 57 min
On today's episode I chat with Heidi Armstrong- IFS Informed super warrior, super star, and all around one of the most resilient human beings I have ever met. Lees meer
Her story is tragic and hopeful and inspiring.
Here is a brief outline of the show:
Her story and lessons learned along the way (0-30 minutes)
Recipes for Success (30 minutes on- )
Steps people can do now (So practical)
For therapists and supports of injured athletes
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Check out more of Heidi's story and her offerings here: https://injuredathletestoolbox.com/
Email her at Heidi@injuredathletestoolbox.com
I'd love to hear from you! Connect with me on Instagram, Twitter and Clubhouse @ifs.tammy and with the community on Facebook at The One Inside Podcast.
Check out my website at tammysollenberger.com. More to come there soon!
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IFS and Working with Children's and Parents' Parts with Lois Ehrmann
2 april 2021 · 54 min
On today's episode I chat with Lois Ehrmann, a Level 3 IFS therapist and frequent staff member for Susan McConnell's Somatic IFS trainings. Lees meer
Lois is a grandmother extraordinaire; I want to drop the boy off at her house for a week. Or, drop off all my exhausted, overwhelmed parenting parts.
Lois has integrated IFS and Attachment therapy with families struggling with trauma. She developed a narrative method to teach parents and children the concepts of IFS which has empowered children to use the method of Insight as well as Direct Access. She is now mostly doing training and consultation as she co parents her own 3 year old granddaughter.
I LOVED this conversation with Lois.
Update and FYI- We recorded this right after the Capital Shootings. I checked with Lois this week and she is vaccinated and back at home with her family.
Email Lois at loisehrmann@gmail.com to get copies of her INCREDBILE Parenting and kids workbooks.
I'd love to hear from you @ifs.tammy on Instagram, Twitter, and Clubhouse. Or, on The One Inside Podcast Facebook page. Don't forget to subscribe, like, follow, etc.
Enjoy!
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IFS and Living in Delight with Gale West
26 maart 2021 · 59 min
On today's episode I chat with Gale West, MA, MFA. Gale is the author of the IFS- and Akashic Records-inspired bestselling book, Money Come Dance With Me. Lees meer
A certified IFS practitioner, she has 30 years of experience in IFS, has presented at numerous conferences and was in a consult group with Dick for 15 years. The first training was in her apartment in 1996.
A former psychotherapist in private practice, for the past ten years Gale has been providing individual and group coaching to conscious entrepreneurs and creatives inspiring joy, purpose and financial expansion while transforming their relationship to money and success. Also an artist, she delights in beauty and grand adventures.
I ALMOST titled this with 'delight with money'- but honestly, the theme that runs throughout ALL we talk about is DELIGHT in our whole life. Here is a bit of an outline:
The Self of Money
The Self of Business
The Burden of Money
The Lessons from her Strokes
The Joy of finding higher meaning in our Jobs
The biggest ah ha- My Body is Housing my Soul
The Importance of being aware of your Transceiver
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Gale asks, Is my heart desire, my head desire and my soul desire aligned?
To find out more about Gale and to purchase her book:
https://successwithsoul.com/about-gale/
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Enjoy!
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IFS and Who's at the Table? with Diana Richards
19 maart 2021 · 59 min
On today's episode I chat with Diana Richards, registered dietitian, Anusara yoga teacher, and who is certified in IFS. Diana offers workshops, consultation groups, and Intuitive Eating groups. She is a frequent staffer at IFS trainings and partnered with Jeanne Catanzaro in the IFS Continuity Program about Self Led eating and using IFS to heal food and body concerns. Lees meer
On this episode we talk about:
- Diana's own personal story
- "It is not about the food at all."
- A parts driven approach
- Impact of family, culture and society
- Self led Eating
- Manager, Firefighter and Exile roles in the eating cycle
Check out Diana's website here to find out about ALL of her amazing offerings:
https://namastenutrition.net/
Follow Diana's on Instagram @dianarichards and on Facebook @Dianaduganrichards
Also, this is the workshop in June I mention in the intro. Sign up here:
Blog Archives - Therapy Training Boston
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IFS and Spirituality, Self, and Connection with Seth Kopald
12 maart 2021 · 59 min
On today's podcast I chat with Seth Kopald, IFS Practitioner. This is Seth's second appearance on the podcast! Lees meer
He has a PhD in organizational leadership and has a long history in education. He is Level 3 trained in IFS and is well known for his presence on the IFS and Parenting and Arts Facebook pages. He also stars in the IFS Parenting webinar videos put out by the Foundation for Self Leadership.
On this podcast, we wanted to talk about Spirituality and Self. Of course, we talk about SO MANY things!
We chat about:
- Incorporating IFS into your spiritual practices
- Being aware of Spiritual Bypass
- Deepening our Understanding of Self Energy
- Connected with Guides
- When supernatural becomes common enough to be natural
- Moving from our Head to our Heart (this was beautiful!)
At the end, Seth stresses the importance of a daily practice- checking in with Self energy.
Check out many of Seth's offerings here:
https://www.sethkopald.com/
I'd love to hear from you at The One Inside Facebook Page and @ifs.tammy on Instagram, Twitter and Clubhouse. Check out my website at https://tammysollenberger.com/
Friend- Follow- Subscribe .... Connect :)
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IFS and Living from Self with Loch Kelly
5 maart 2021 · 1 uur
On today's episode, I chat with Loch Kelly, an IFS trained psychotherapist, a well known meditation and awakening leader, author of 2 incredible books, and all around super amazing, warm and friendly person. Lees meer
Loch's approach to accessing Self is different then Dick's, and Loch suggests asking the F's, which we normally ask of parts, to one's Self.
Loch teaches us to ask: Who is aware and Who is the one asking?
Loch explains and then leads us in a meditation around, "What is here when there is no problem to solve?" You will find a copy of this in its own podcast to listen to on repeat when necessary.
We talk about three common Self-like parts.
To find out about ALL the amazing things Loch has to offer go to https://lochkelly.org/
I'd love to hear from you at The One Inside Facebook Page and @ifs.tammy on Instagram and Twitter. I'm also on Clubhouse now and talking to a few friends about having chats in rooms... friend-follow- subscribe... Connect :)
Enjoy!
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IFS and Unblending Into Self Meditation with Loch Kelly
4 maart 2021 · 8 min
Here is a copy of a meditation from the longer full episode with Loch. Lees meer
For more of Loch's offerings check out:
https://lochkelly.org/
Enjoy!
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IFS and Inviting Curiosity with Racist Parts with Daphne Fatter
19 februari 2021 · 53 min
On today's episode, I chat with Dr. Daphne Fatter, certified IFS therapist and a licensed psychologist in private practice in Dallas, Texas. She teaches workshops on white racial socialization for therapists, in addition to teaching on trauma treatment for TZK seminars. She is a trained facilitator by Challenging Racism to lead conversations on race and racism. Lees meer
This is the last episode in the Heirloom Summit Series, and I'm excited to this with Daphne who walks through the Six Stage White Racial Developmental Model by Janet Helms.
We also discuss teaching kids about whiteness, privilege and racism. The book that she mentions is "Raising White Kids: Bringing up children in a racially unjust America" by Jennifer Harvey. Daphne has a ton of resources on raising kids to be anti-racist on her website.
We talk about trailheads to our protective parts around racism and the parts who try to separate, numb, and disconnect from racism and parts who engage in 'white saviorism.' A list of trailheads is on her website too.
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Find out more about Daphne here:
https://www.daphnefatterphd.com/
Her email is: info@daphnefatterphd.com
Find out about the workshop she co-leads here:
https://www.daphnefatterphd.com/treating-racial-trauma-series.html
More Information about the White Racial Developmental Model by Jennifer Helms here:
https://libguides.du.edu/c.php?g=1046908&p=7596766
https://coatescbc.files.wordpress.com/2016/07/helms-white-racial-identity-development-model.pdf
She suggests this podcast on Whiteness that is 'too good not to share': https://www.sceneonradio.org/seeing-white/
For more about 'Calling in' check out: https://www.learningforjustice.org/magazine/spring-2019/speaking-up-without-tearing-down
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I'd love to connect with you @ifs.tammy on Instagram and Twitter and on Facebook at The One Inside Facebook page.
To register for the Heirloom Summit and receive a discount as a listener of TOI go to http://bit.ly/theoneinside
Enjoy!
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IFS and Being with Exiles (and the Demo with Dick!) with Ty Cutner
12 februari 2021 · 59 min
On today's episode, I chat with Ty Cutner, an IFS Informed Relationship and Image Coach who has a passion for working with men. Ty will be hosting two panels with the Heirloom Summit. Lees meer
You may know Ty from a Demo he did with Dick which is on the Continuity Program in the IFS Diversity and Inclusion workshop.
Link to the Demo HERE!
If that link does not work try this one :)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Al7jnW-Z08w&feature=youtu.be
I just want to note how HUGE it is that Dick (and Sara Oberg at the IFS Institute!) allowed us to have access to this link.
We talk about the polarizations from the demo and what has happened in his system since then. Ty is vulnerable and his story is painful and beautiful. It is full of hope and motivation.
Ty continues to talk about his younger exiles throughout this episode. And, I continue to ASK- I have STRONG mothering parts who WILL NOT UNBLEND. I still notice them as I interact with Ty even now.
Ty talks about his experience and lessons learned with an ice bath in Maine. Our internet connection is not the best during this story which is about the first 8 minutes of the episode.... it gets better.
Around the 30 minute mark Ty shares his thoughts about racism.
At the 40 minutes mark we talk about how Ty is coaching men on their image and shares his own discovery of why image is so important.
Ty talks about The Gentlemen's Factory, a social club for men of color where he's a founding member in Brooklyn, NY.
Connect with Ty on Instagram and Facebook or on Ty's Image Coach Website
I'd love to connect with you @ifs.tammy on Instagram and Twitter and on Facebook at The One Inside Facebook page.
To register for the Heirloom Summit and receive a discount as a listener of TOI go to http://bit.ly/theoneinside
Enjoy!
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IFS and Embodied Antiracism with Francesca Maxime'
5 februari 2021 · 48 min
On today's episode, I talk with Francesca Maxime', an IFS informed powerhouse! Lees meer
Her passion is contagious and my hope is that you will take one of the MANY resources and challenges she gives to 'accept your assignment' while giving ALL of your parts (including your racist parts) compassion and care.
One of my favorite quotes: "We are all breathing carbon monoxide which is racism and think we are breathing oxygen... it does sicken over time."
Check out her website here: https://www.maximeclarity.com/
Check out her podcast here: https://beherenownetwork.com/category/francesca-maxime/
Check out her upcoming talk on Active Mourning:
Active Mourning: Transforming Grief, Loss, Longing, and Resentment | InsightLA Meditation
To register for the Heirloom Summit on Feb 24-26 and get a special discount as a listener of the podcast:
http://bit.ly/theoneinside
I'd love to connect with you at ifstammy on Instagram and Twitter and on The One Inside Facebook page.
Enjoy!
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IFS and Examining Whiteness with Virginia Seewaldt
29 januari 2021 · 1 uur 10 min
On today's episode I connect with Dr. Virginia Seewaldt. Lees meer
Virginia and I talk about (in order):
- Living in NYC and coping with Covid
- Her experience with IFS and her passion for racial justice
- Whiteness as the 'norm'
- Pantsuit Nation Facebook Story and 'centering the voices of color'
- Listening and learning about our own Prejudices
- White Fragility
- Whiteness and Privilege
- Worry about 'saying it wrong' is still centering 'me'
- What we do from here and having compassion for all of our parts
It is a bit long, but it is good! It was a connected, warm and engaging conversation.
For more information about Virginia:
https://racialliteracygroups.com/
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/virginia-seewaldt-new-york-ny/61162
To register for the Heirloom Summit on Feb 24-26 and get a special discount as a listener of the podcast:
http://bit.ly/theoneinside
I'd love to connect with you at ifs.tammy on Instagram and Twitter and on The One Inside Facebook page.
Enjoy!
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IFS and Masculinity and Jericho Circles with Steve Spitzer and Glenn Williams
22 januari 2021 · 56 min
On today's episode, I chat with Steve Spitzer and Glenn Williams. Steve, Emeritus Professor of Sociology at Suffolk University in Boston, has taught, researched, and written on crime, justice and social control for three decades. Lees meer
He is Level 2 IFS trained and has presented his use of the IFS model inside prisons at multiple IFS annual conferences and has written articles in the IFS newsletter, The Outlook.
In 2002, he founded the Jericho Circle Project, a non-profit organization that seeks to 'bring down the walls' by creating men's support groups in correctional facilities.
Since the project began, almost 1000 incarcerated men have sat in Jericho Circles in county, state, and federal correctional institutions in Massachusetts, Maine, and Rhode Island.
Glenn participated in the Jericho groups when he was incarcerated for 21 years and later met Steve in a different context. Glenn now 'pays it forward' with his organization, Our House Boston.
Glenn is Level One IFS trained and is passionate about spreading the word about our True Essence, especially to black men in urban settings.
Glenn is a reentry advocate and community investor who works with various individuals, families, organizations and businesses to raise awareness about and create solutions to the challenges of incarceration and prisoner reintegration.
This conversation is AMAZING. I cannot convey this in words. Here are some themes:
'Self' Discovery
Masculinity
Men's work inside prisons, power of vulnerability, and speaking for parts
'Climbing out of the man box'/Taking off masks
The importance of power in manliness for Black Men
Glenn states, "Who I pretend to be (what my community and society says I need to be in order to survive) and my Essence are not the same thing."
And, "IFS offers the opportunity for Self Discovery and Self Exploration (inside and outside of prison). Discovering that my shame and guilt are parts of me and do not have to define who I am at my core."
To find more about …
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IFS and Spirituality (and tons of other stuff!) with Frank Anderson
15 januari 2021 · 1 uur
On today's episode, I chat with Dr. Frank Anderson, a superstar in the IFS and Trauma world. You may know him as a lead trainer at the IFS Institute, by his PESI workshops, or as the co-author of the IFS Skills Training Manual. Lees meer
He is a psychiatrist and psychotherapist, and I assumed we would talk about meds and neurotransmitters.
I was wrong.
Frank is personal, engaging, and hilarious. He shares a lot of his own story and is vulnerable and real. I decided to leave in our entire conversation (instead of cutting out some of the beginning bits) because you get a feel for him right from the start.
We talk about Spirituality and the integration with Science and Research. We talk about LGBTQ plus, lots about complex trauma, and we touch on parenting and substance use. We talk about psychedelics, mediums, and ascended masters (I had to look that up afterwards).
It is a wild ride.
Frank's website is here
To register for the Heirloom Summit on Feb 24-26 and get a special discount as a listener of the podcast:
https://www.blacktherapistsrock.com/Products/Products.aspx
I'd love to connect with you at ifstammy on Instagram and Twitter and on The One Inside Facebook page.
Please take care... and enjoy!
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IFS and Suicidal Parts with Heidi Lindeman
8 januari 2021 · 1 uur
On today's episode I chat with Heidi Lindeman, a level 3 trained IFS therapist who is passionate about helping others transform their relationship with suicidal parts. Lees meer
Heidi shares her own incredible story of suffering with suicidal thoughts, obsessions, and images for years and the healing transformation she made when she began to listen to these parts and relate to them differently.
Heidi's website is here
Heidi's YouTube channel is here
To register for the Heirloom Summit on Feb 24-26 and get a special discount as a listener of the podcast:
https://www.blacktherapistsrock.com/Products/Products.aspx
I'd love to connect with you at ifs.tammy on Instagram and Twitter and at The One Inside Facebook Page.
Enjoy!
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IFS and Personal Growth with Jay Earley
18 december 2020 · 54 min
On today's episode I chat with Jay Earley, a popular IFS teacher who authored the book, "Self Therapy" and who leads ongoing IFS courses and groups. Lees meer
Our chat can be broken up into 3 sections-
1. His story, and similarities and differences between what he teaches and what Dick teaches. He shares his take on unblending and inner critics. He shares his 'GPS of the mind' program.
He states, "I am not competing with IFS."
2. Capacity Development- What are the 'capacities of Self' to be developed and discovered?
3. "The Great Turning"--- "Inner work for the world"
Here is the website to ALL the things Jay offers:
https://personal-growth-programs.com/
This is the online tool we discussed:
https://selftherapyjourney.com/
I would love to hear what you think the 'Capacity' is for the word I am trying to find in the middle of the episode. The word was 'Scarcity,' and I MEANT to ask Jay what he thought the capacity was but got lost in trying to find the word! Let me know if you can help me out on this one @ifs.tammy on Instagram and Twitter and The One Inside Facebook Page.
I will see you there.
Enjoy!
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IFS and The Power of Healing Our Own Racism with Dorothea Hrossowyc and Ingrid Helander
11 december 2020 · 1 uur 15 min
On today's episode, I chat with Dorothea Hrossowyc and Ingrid Helander. Ingrid and Dorothea along with Tyler Haaren, Joya Lonsdale, Julia Sullivan, and Paula Shulman led a workshop on "Healing Racism From the Inside Out, Unburdening our Parts around Race and Racism", at the 2016 IFS Annual Conference, and were a part of the plenary session, along with Tyler, Joya and Donna Dellal-Ferme at the 2017 IFS Annual Conference titled Self-Led Activism. Releasing Your Inner Change Agent. Lees meer
I encourage you to listen and observe your own parts' reactions. Use these as trailheads to do your own work and meet the younger parts of you who hold pain.
We talk about this book a lot-- check out this article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-author-speaks/201709/my-grandmother-s-hands
They share their own personal stories and their experiences working with their racist parts.
What is said over and over is the power of the model to heal, and the importance of following the trailheads of our own racism to get to our exiles and our own ancestors and legacy burdens.
We talk about so much- indigenous peoples, polyvagal theory, classism, capitalism, grief and shame. And, we laugh... I promise.
Read about The Dakota 38 here
Ingrid has an ebook/workbook that uses IFS and Polyvagel theory to help people with chronic worry. It is found at www.calmyourworries.com
She also will be offering a mastermind membership in 2021 to help people move from worry and self-doubt to calm self-confidence. For more information, sign up for her newsletter at Ingrid's website
Dorothea is available to work with you around Unburdening our Racists Parts or Parts Affected by Racism.
She also offers workshops on Working with Anxiety to Release Unconscious Limiting Thoughts, Working with Anger or Angry Parts as a Powerful Tool, Setting your Internal GPS... Your I-GPS, and Healing Parts around Boundaries. Find out more about Dorothea and her offerings at her website here
We talk about several handout…
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IFS and The Enneagram with Joan Ryan
4 december 2020 · 1 uur 3 min
On today's episode, I chat with Joan Ryan, an internationally recognized Enneagram expert and Leadership coach. Fortunately for our community, Joan is also Level One Trained in IFS. Lees meer
I have been looking for someone to talk to me about IFS and the Enneagram and was beyond thrilled when I found Joan.
Joan is a type 9 and I am a type 3 so we talk about these types a lot. We also talk a bit about type 8s.
Whether you are new to the enneagram or not, I think you will find our conversation interesting and informative. Like me, you may walk away with a desire to know more!
Find out more about Joan and get her amazing "Help me find my enneagram type' card set on her website here
Email Joan at joanrryan@gmail.com
Join her Facebook page Enneagram Learning with Joan Ryan
I'd love to hear what your type is and chat with you about the enneagram and IFS- thoughts, ideas, wonderings, etc. on Instagram and Twitter @ifstammy and The One Inside Facebook Page.
Enjoy!
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IFS and Altogether You with Jenna Riemersma
20 november 2020 · 54 min
On today's episode I talk with Jenna Riemersma, author of the book, "Altogether You: Experiencing personal and spiritual transformation with Internal Family Systems Therapy." Lees meer
Jenna states, "IFS helps deliver what my faith tradition promises."
I love the concept of the "Spiritualizing part" who uses God language but has a feeling of moving away and not moving towards.
We talk about Self being the God image inside us all, and the idea of thinking about sin as the burden of trauma.
Jenna talks about restoration; the restoration of our parts with our Self.
She talks directly to you, dear listener. If you come from a faith background and have parts who think IFS is a wacky cult. If you are here to talk IFS and have been wounded by the church. This episode- and her incredible book- are for you.
Jenna's website here
Dick's interview with Jenna here (This is AMAZING!)
Let me know how you are! I LOVE hearing from you.... At the One Inside Facebook Page and @ifstammy on Instagram and Twitter.
Enjoy!
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IFS and Unblending on a terrible, horrible, no good, very bad day. Solo Epi!
13 november 2020 · 20 min
On today's episode I share my experiences with my own system on a tough day. Lees meer
You will hear from my parts who like to be dramatic and exaggerate. You will hear from the parts who respond to this with eye rolling and twitching. And, you will hear how sometimes just sitting in the middle of a sidewalk is the best choice.
You will hear my dog's squeaky toy in the background over and over again.
You don't want to miss this ;)
Enjoy!
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Somatic IFS with Susan McConnell
6 november 2020 · 1 uur 5 min
On today's episode I speak with lead trainer with the IFS Institute, Susan McConnell. Susan recently published a new book on Somatic IFS and it may be my new favorite IFS book. Lees meer
Here is an outline (all of the times are 'ish')
Check in-
Meditation- 11-16:00
Reconnecting Mind and Body, what disconnects us? - 25:00
Importance of Embodying Self- 33:00
Witnessing through the Body- 38:00
Body Systems- 43:00
The Elements- 55:00
At the end of each podcast I ask guests if there is anything else they want to cover. Typically, I cut this out but I LOVE how Susan processes this question so I left it in - 62:00
I start crying at the end too... oh boy.
I loved the meditation so much I made a separate podcast for that. Thinking you (and I!) can revisit that again and again.
Want more?
Get her book "Somatic Internal Family Systems Therapy: Awareness, Breath, Resonance, Movement and Touch in Practice."
IFS Talks Podcast had Susan on twice. Check them out here
Susan's website here
UPCOMING IFS Masterclass hosted by Derek Scott with Susan on February 12 here
I would love to hear from you on The One Inside Facebook page and @ifstammy on Instagram and Twitter.
Enjoy!
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IFS and a Somatic IFS Meditation with Susan McConnell
4 november 2020 · 9 min
Here is a little gift! Lees meer
A meditation pulled from the full Somatic IFS episode which will be released in a few days.
Enjoy!
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IFS and Belonging with Milena Worsham
30 oktober 2020 · 1 uur 4 min
On today's episode I chat with IFS Practitioner Milena Worsham as she shares her incredible story of growing up biracial in Texas. Lees meer
Milena is a master story teller and I was drawn in from the beginning. I had this sensation of leaning in close as she spoke.
She states, "I grew up believing I was white.... This is a protection for the family... White is a protection. It is safe."
The first half of the episode is her and her family's story. The second half is about her connection to feminism and the performing arts. We talk about the womb and the legacy burdens we take on in the womb. We talk about family loyalty and family secrets. We talk about what we are 'allowed' to be as women.
I am not going to be able to tell you or share with you here the power of her story and her voice!
I decided to sum it all up with the "Belonging."
Just listen! I think you will walk about feeling moved and empowered.
Check out Milena's website to learn more about her. You can email her at milenaworsham@gmail.com.
Come say Hi to me at The One Inside Facebook page or @ifstammy on Instagram or Twitter. I would love to hear from you.
Enjoy!
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IFS and Wisdom of Our Parts with Paul Neustadt
23 oktober 2020 · 1 uur 1 min
On today's episode I chat with Paul Neustadt, a lead trainer with the IFS Institute. Paul has such a warm, engaging teaching style and I just loved our conversation. Lees meer
Paul's answer to the last question, "What would you do instead?" may be my new life goal or at least a daily intention.
Here is a bit of an outline:
1. Create our own inner circle - when you have a hard time accessing compassion (or Self)
2. Impacts of individualism (our culture) on our parts
3. Tapping into our own inner wisdom
4. The Gifts of our Exiles
5. Paul demonstrates Direct Access with one of my manager parts
6. Degrees of Blending
7. Inviting exiles (the younger parts of us) to 'tune into their true nature, who they really are'
8. Relational Heart Based Activism
9. When Self energy seems impossible. "What is this thing called Self and how do I get it!?"
You can email Paul at probneus@gmail.com for information about the Challenges of Applying IFS: Mastering the Basics Seminar which runs about 8 months once a year.
Please subscribe, like, comment- all the things to the podcast.
The podcast is now on YouTube!
Don't forget to come say HI to me @ifstammy on Instagram- and now on Twitter! - and The One Inside Facebook page.
Enjoy!
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IFS and Befriending Brain Injured and Pandemic Parts with Laura Schmidt
16 oktober 2020 · 1 uur 4 min
On today's episode I chat with Laura Schmidt who bravely shares her story of a "life changing event" with openness and vulnerability. It is heartbreaking and inspiring. It is a story of acceptance and hope, of yielding and the need for patience. Lees meer
There are many parallels between the lessons she learned over the past decade and many of our own struggles with the Covid Pandemic.
Put your pens down on this one and notice your parts- your sensations, your feelings, and your thoughts. Notice and be with, letting those parts feel your presence and attention as you begin to befriend whatever comes up.
Laura has been a Certified IFS therapist for 10 years. She is a PESI Seminar Speaker, Approved Consultant for IFS Certification, and an AAMFT Supervisor. She loves teaching IFS and leading workshops, consultation, and process groups. She is committed to supporting healers doing their own work so they can be more Self-led, effective and energized.
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Laura's website here Or check out https://lauraschmidtlmft.com/
Laura's Caring Bridge site here
Join Laura for Pause for Calm and Connection 1st Wed of each month at noon PT. Sign up on her website.
Email Laura at Laura@lauraschmidtlmft.com
Join Laura's Facebook page Laura Schmidt LMFT and on Instagram @ pausewithlaura.
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*Laura would love to hear from you after you listen to the podcast. Let her know which of your parts resonated with her story.*
And, of course, join The One Inside Facebook group and follow me @ifstammy. I'll see you there.
Enjoy!
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IFS and An Introduction to IFS with Derek Scott
9 oktober 2020 · 41 min
On today's episode, I chat with Derek Scott about "What is IFS?" Lees meer
Do you want the people in your life to know what this 'IFS thing' is all about? Well, here you go!
I am THRILLED to give this to you, and hope it is a gift you give to your friends, family, co-workers, and strangers on the street.
Derek teaches with humor and wisdom and warmth. I interrupt a lot so that is fun.
We also talk about how perfectionism, need to try harder, need to get it right, need to never make a mistake, etc. parts may form and why.
We talk about being 'too' sensitive, loud, quiet, etc., and how we can get the message, "It is not safe to be me, I need to Dim My Light as a way of being in the world."
To find Derek's info and an abundance of videos, workshops, etc. go to:
Parenting tools
IFS counseling association
You Tube
Let me know what you think about this episode @ifstammy on Instagram or on The One Inside Facebook Page here.
Enjoy!
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IFS and Self Led Sexuality with Patricia Rich
2 oktober 2020 · 1 uur 13 min
On today's episode I chat with Patricia Rich about Self Led Sexuality. Patricia is a certified IFS Therapist and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and Supervisor. She brings her expertise, her vulnerability, and her warmth to teach us about this new model based on IFS. Lees meer
I had to get a few of my parts to settle down before this episode. I speak for some of them at the beginning, like my giggling Middle School part and my 'Don't say too much personal stuff!' part.
Patricia and I spend the first 30 minutes on process and connection and the last half on content. We talk a lot about 'internal consent' and the importance of knowing, hearing from and being with your own parts. You may find you also need to work with your own parts as you listen to the episode. I appreciate Patricia's gentle care and check in's with me and the listener throughout.
My favorite part of this episode is towards the end when Patricia pulls it all together with how the six S's of Sexual Self Energy help us assess for Self leadership. Then, she teaches how we can use the 6 F's of IFS to get to know the parts of us who get 'between' us and the S's. It will all make sense!
Patricia says when we do this work, the shift in ourselves is revolutionary and worth it.
Find out more about Patricia here
Email Patricia at prich@relatingwellcenter.com
Look forward to her upcoming Self Led Sexuality Facebook group!
Check out the IFS Institute's Continuity Program here
Come say HI to me @Ifstammy on Instagram and The One Inside Facebook page.
Enjoy!
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IFS and Parenting with Leslie Petruk
25 september 2020 · 54 min
On today's episode, Leslie Petruk, Assistant Trainer with the IFS Institute and I get real and honest about parenting. Leslie is a parenting EXPERT- I'm thrilled to have her on the show! Lees meer
I don't know anyone who is not struggling in this area right now and am just so thankful to Leslie for sharing her Self and her wisdom.
I hope you walk away feeling hopeful and empowered.
Let me know what your parenting intention is at The One Inside Facebook page or @IFSTammy on Instagram. I share mine in the intro.
Parenting revolution- Free Parenting Videos from Derek Scott's IFSCA (ifsca.ca). This is HOT off the presses- I can't wait to dive in.
Email Leslie to find out more about upcoming workshops and keep abreast about her upcoming book, "Oh My God, I Sound Just Like My Mother" at leslie.petruk@gmail.com
Join the IN-Sight parenting: Compassionate Parenting from the Inside Out page on Facebook
Check out the Parenting course led by Leslie with the IFS Institute
Enjoy!
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IFS, Marriage and Stepfamilies with Marushka Glissen
18 september 2020 · 1 uur 2 min
Marushka Glissen, an assistant trainer with the IFS Institute is returning to the podcast to talk about one of her other passions, marriage (See episode 33 for our first chat about Legacy Burdens). Lees meer
Here is a bit of an outline of the show:
1. Gratitude towards partner (esp during Covid)
2. Appreciation of partner (again, Covid)
3. Complications in 2nd marriages and blended families
4. Adult children dealing with intense feelings of loss and avoidance parts (We pause to deal with my parts who are triggered... this is about 23-28 min mark.
5. Guilty parts in 2nd marriages
6. 'Do you want to be right or do you want to experience closeness and love'
7. Using phrases "In my opinion"/"From my perspective"
8. Partners often ask us to stretch... we are better for it
9. Seeing pain (exile) behind partners 'a-hole' behaviors (protector)
10. How to stay when it is really hard? Or separate in a connected way.
11. Five practical tips on communication (about 50 min)
12. Embracing the Suck (the parts of my partner I don't like)
13. Be Curious, Not Furious
I share way too much personal information in this episode- about my family of origin (a blended family) and about my marriage. I took a long time editing this and checking with my parts about how comfortable they felt putting this out there. So, here it is. I may take it down immediately ;)
You can find out more about Marushka here: Marushka Glissen
Enjoy!
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IFS and Drag Therapy with Leon Silvers
11 september 2020 · 57 min
Welcome back! Here we are - season 2. Lees meer
On today's episode, I chat with Leon Silvers, founder of Drag Therapy and STAR of Drag Heals (well, he is the star of epi 2, season 2).
I'm curious how your parts reacted to the title of this episode. I imagine some of your parts are like, 'What is that?' And some are like, 'Oh, gosh.' And some are like, 'How fun!'
I hope you can be with all those parts, those voices inside, and listen to this episode. I promise it is FULL of creativity and energy and fun.
I was surprised about what Drag therapy is and what it isn't. I was surprised by how open and creative I began to feel just talking to Leon.
Here are some of the gems inside the episode:
- Expansive play (how this helps me appreciate one of my critics)
- Freedom and creativity
- Opening up to all the parts inside
- Power of embodying parts and giving them voice
- Using fiction to allow 'managers' to loosen up (Meet my manager Tom the lawyer who is dressed in a suit- about 20 min mark)
- Wilderness therapy and playing with 'category' (about 40 min mark)
Check out:
Leon's website
Drag therapy website
Leon's episode of Drag Heals (season 2, epi 2), coming out in October
TED talk with Amy Cuddy about the Superman pose (part of me thinks there may have been some controversy around her after this?)
Need some help with your website? Check out a special deal for The One Inside listeners here
Enjoy (and welcome back!)
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IFS and Parts Work with Tom Holmes
14 augustus 2020 · 1 uur 10 min
On today's episode, I talk with Tom Holmes. He and his wife, Lauri wrote the book, "Parts Work: An Illustrated Guide to Your Inner Life." Sharon Eckstein created incredible illustrations which are in the book and the Inner Active cards. Lees meer
The book and the Parts Work Inner Active cards are some of my favorite IFS tools. I can't express how much I love- and use- the parts cards!
Tom has been around the IFS community for a long time- Dick mentions him in the epi we did last fall. Tom tells us his journey with IFS and how his personal work helped him with burnout (we have heard that many times of this podcast).
He describes the origin of the book and cards and describes how he has seen over and over again the power of these very special cards across cultures.
Tom now travels the world teaching IFS or what he sometimes calls Parts Work, Internal Systems Therapy, or Integrated Internal Systems Therapy.
Tom is passionate about integrating Spirituality and IFS and is working on his next book exploring spiritual paths.
I wrote down so many quotes of Tom's such as:
"As a person gets centered in Self, their spiritual life awakens and deepens."
We can "water the seeds of Self" (through spiritual rituals, meditation, nature, etc).
"When we bring peace to our inner system, we bring peace to the world."
"If we can help people tap into and access Self/Spirit/Connected Energy- what else is more important?" (That is a loose quote!)
Email Tom at tomholmes42@gmail.com if you want to talk with him about teaching IFS at your organization.
Tom's website has many videos of him teaching and with a demonstration of the Parts Work Cards. My son and I love the video of Tom using the Inside Out Puppets!
If you want to connect with me, I am at #ifstammy on Instagram and at The One Inside Facebook page. I will see you for Season 2 in September!
Enjoy and take care!
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IFS and Vulnerability in Race Conversations with Nydia Guity
31 juli 2020 · 1 uur
On today's episode, the final for honoring minority mental health month, I talk with Nydia Guity, an IFS therapist, podcaster, writer, and natural hair enthusiast. Lees meer
I had no idea ("but didn't I?," says a part) the 'emotional baggage that comes with hair,' whatever your race, culture, or background.
Nydia shares her story- her parents are originally from Honduras and celebrate the Garifuna culture, she grew up in NYC speaking Spanish as her first language, went to college in Vermont, and currently lives in Atlanta.
I appreciate her vulnerability and openness as we connect. I ask a lot of dumb white girl questions. Parts of me are embarrassed and I wanted to erase them all.... but I did not.
We talk about moms and hair (do you have a mom and hair story? I do too!).
We talk about how personal development is a process that does not end and how working with our parts helps tolerate polarizations (all or nothing).
We talk about the question, 'What does it mean to be right?'
And we talk about hair and all the messages, stigma, and complexities that come along with it.
Check out Nydia's website where you can find her writings and podcast!
A new deal from brighter vision for The One Inside listeners here!
Enjoy-
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IFS and Your Powerful Voice with Radhalisa Zarzuela and Deran Young
24 juli 2020 · 57 min
On today's episode I speak with Radhalisa Zarzuela and Deran Young. Radha and Deran met at a level one IFS training in Harlem, NY. Lees meer
Radha shares her story with us which is touching and courageous. I felt inspired by her and think you will too.
We talk about 'rules' which may come from our cultures and the legacy burdens we carry.
We talk about "code switching" as a person of color.
We talk about the impact of domestic violence and the power of coming out of this with "trauma residue" and with a strong voice.
And we talk about being in the Miss America pageant (I bet you didn't think I was going to say that!).
This may be the last in the minority mental health series for this month! I hope you have been encouraged and challenged.
Enjoy!
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IFS and Racism Impacts with Requina Barnes and Deran Young
17 juli 2020 · 1 uur 6 min
On today's episode I speak with Requina and Deran who share their different stories and life experiences. Requina is the friend Deran mentions in our first podcast so I am excited she was able to join today. Lees meer
Requina Barnes, LICSW specializes in relationships, attachment and trauma. Through her Boston, MA private practice, she works primarily with men, women, and couples of color. Requina is a member of the Foundation for Self Leadership Board of Directors. And she is the VP of the BTR Board of Directors.
She is available for IFS consultation and supervision- her email is strengthinc4@gmail.com
Deran Young, LCSW, is the Founder of Black Therapists Rock, an organization that includes over 20,000 professionals committed to reducing intergenerational trauma in marginalized communities. Earlier this year, she was personally recruited by Brene Brown to consult on the inclusiveness of her current Belonging Statement and to inspire other corporate leaders to operationalize diversity in their organizational practices and policies.
It is eye opening and interesting, and I definitely walked away with a trailhead or two.
To find out more about Black Therapists Rock click here
Enjoy!
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IFS and Black Therapists Rock with Deran Young
10 juli 2020 · 59 min
On today's episode, I speak with Deran Young, President and CEO of Black Therapists Rock and the IFS Institute's Online Ambassador. Lees meer
We met to record this at the beginning of May. We were still feeling the isolation and challenge of Covid-19 and George Floyd was still alive.
We had no idea what was to come.
I'm thrilled and honored to give you the first of four episodes devoted to Minority Mental Health Awareness.
Today is some of Deran's story- why she created BTR, her experience as a military psychotherapist, the challenge of dealing with divorce, health issues, and becoming a single mother, and her introduction to IFS. She talks about the origins of her younger 'self esteem' part and the freedom and power of unburdening and healing her.
And so much more.
She is funny and kind and fun and lovely. I'm glad we are going to get 3 more hours (at least!) with her this month.
Here is what Deran is reading:
You are a Badass at Making Money
A Framework for Understanding Poverty
Dare To Lead
To get more info about BTR:
Black Therapists Rock
Find the incredible work Deran did around her own legacy burden here: Deran and Dick Legacy Burden demo
New Deal for The One Inside Listeners from Brighter Vision here!
Enjoy!