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BONUS: Rahul Jandial on why we dream
8 mei 2024 · 50 min
As we’re preparing for Season 6 of the Therapy Works podcast, I wanted to share a special episode here where I spoke with Rahul Jandial, famous Neuroscientist, speaker, author, and friend. Rahul is a dual-trained neurosurgeon and neurobiologist, and the author of “This is Why You Dream” which is what we spend most of our time discussing. Lees meer
We get in depth about how dreams reflect our waking life, the interconnectedness of dreams, creativity, and the human brain. Rahul shares insights on the science of dreaming, its effects on problem-solving and creativity, and the impact of dreams across various stages of life including the significance of erotic dreams and nightmares.
The conversation also touches on the exploration of the dreaming brain's activities, the interpretation of dreams, and the profound relationship between dreaming and death. This conversation was so delightful to have. Being able to talk for so long about the importance of dreaming was utterly fascinating for me, and I hope you find it fascinating as well.
Apologies for the audio quality, as we faced considerable technical difficulties. If you’re interested in the topic of dreaming, I know you’re going to love Rahul’s new book “This is Why You Dream,” which you can find here:- https://www.penguin.co.uk/books/454635/this-is-why-you-dream-by-jandial-rahul/9781529909449
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Agony Aunties: How to handle mood swings
3 mei 2024 · 8 min
For this week’s Agony Aunties episode, we were asked how to handle mood swings. And to answer that, as usual in these episodes, we have a few different angles to approach. The first thing we suggest is to bring awareness to the sympathetic and parasympathetic systems within us, and to ground our approach towards mood regulation in the physical. If our bodies and nervous systems are dysregulated, we can experience a range of affective states, both positive and negative, and so finding ways to regulate ourselves first - be it through rest, diet, or exercise - is one approach to settle the body and to manage these mood swings. Lees meer
We also recommend a sense of self-compassion here, as there are negative connotations to mood swings, and we hope that you don’t adopt any self-blaming language while trying to regulate your nervous system, but to approach your needs with a sense of softness and care. And, as always, we thank you for your questions here and for your prompts to these conversations. We really enjoy exploring these topics with you, so do please keep sending in your questions, and we’ll do our best to answer as many of them as we can.
Please email your questions to jsamuelpod@gmail.com or DM Julia on her Instagram @juliasamuelmbe.
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BONUS: Josephine Hughes on supporting your child through gender identity discovery
1 mei 2024 · 34 min
As we just wrapped up Season 5, and we’re ramping up for Season 6, I’d like to share with you a bonus episode with you all this week. Emily speaks to Josephine Hughes, who shares her deeply personal experience as the mother of two transgender daughters. She discusses the initial shock and adjustment period after her daughters came out, the challenges they faced, and the broader societal reactions. Josephine emphasises the importance of parental support and understanding through this transformative journey. She also touches on the misconceptions and struggles associated with transgender identity and how it affects both the individual and their family. Through her narrative, Josephine provides insight and guidance to other parents navigating similar experiences, advocating for acceptance and informed support. Lees meer
Resources:
Josephine’s Podcast - https://gloriouslyunready.com
And here’s the handout she mentioned in the episode:- https://gloriouslyunready.com/transgender/
DISCLAIMER: We are psychotherapists and are not in the position to provide medical advice. If you require support for you or your children, please find more advice here: https://www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe/sex-relationships/gender-identity/
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Agony Aunties: How to help build self-esteem
26 april 2024 · 9 min
In this week’s episode of Agony Aunties, a new therapist asks how she can help her clients develop more self-esteem. And while the three of us practice differently with our clients, what we all agree on is the importance of exploring the client’s relationship with their self-esteem. Where does that struggle with come from? Adding some context to the moments of struggles with self-esteem, especially through practices of mindfulness and journaling, can be helpful for us to notice when our esteem is suffering, and - moreso - when these challenging thoughts arise, we can also choose to not overly identify with them.We’ll talk about this and more in this week’s episode. I hope you find it helpful. If you have any questions you’d like us to answer, please do send them over, as we love taking on your suggestions and seeing what the three of us come up with. Lees meer
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Caitlin Moran on the power of words and why masculinity is in crisis
24 april 2024 · 1 uur 27 min
In this special episode, I’m delighted to be speaking with Caitlin Moran seeing as my daughters and I are huge fans of her writing. In this episode, she reflects on her tough upbringing and speaks about the power and joy she found with words. She also shares her opinions on masculinity and the challenges men face in society. With her characteristic humour and sharp wit, Caitlin discusses the cultural and personal implications of men's roles, offering a fresh perspective on what it means to navigate manhood in today's world. Lees meer
Key Points Discussed:
The Power of Words: As Caitlin is a very skilled and prolific writer, she shares her love of writing, the power of writing, and how us finding the language to express ourselves can impact the world.
The Language We Use Around Children: Caitlin offers her thoughts on how younger generations are facing challenges, especially after hearing how the adults around them speak about the state of the world.
Masculinity in Crisis: Caitlin explores the crisis of masculinity, noting how societal expectations and traditional roles can lead to emotional suppression among men, resulting in a range of mental health issues.
Impact of Feminism on Men: She discusses the impact of feminism on men, arguing that while feminism has empowered women, it has also inadvertently highlighted the lack of emotional tools available to men, contributing to a generational disconnect.
I really enjoyed this conversation and found myself laughing a lot with Caitlin. I hope you enjoy this episode as much as I did!
Resources:
Get Caitlin’s new book, now in paperback: “What About Men?” - https://amzn.eu/d/cSlWgWt
American Institute for Boys and Men - https://aibm.org
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Agony Aunties: How to be happy when someone you love is depressed
19 april 2024 · 10 min
For this week’s episode of Agony Aunties, a listener asks an important question: how can they be happy when someone in their family is deeply depressed? And so, to answer this, we’re not going to discuss what the listener can do to fix their family member’s problems, even though that might be the urge that arises in us instantly. Instead, we’ll talk about ideas of codependency, and highlight the importance of not anchoring our emotional wellbeing on the state of other’s. Finding ways to take care of ourselves is very important, so that we can be better resourced. We’re not going to help our depressed family member by getting depressed as well, and it can be very easy to catch the emotions of others. So, please make sure that you’re finding ways to find your own happiness as well. Lees meer
Resources mentioned:
Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM) - https://www.thecalmzone.net
Mind - https://www.mind.org.uk
Samaritans - https://www.samaritans.org/
Papyrus - https://www.papyrus-uk.org
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Heather Bailey on being a mother of a child with profound disabilities
17 april 2024 · 50 min
In this week’s episode of Therapy Works, Heather shares the deeply emotional and challenging journey of raising her daughter, Lizzie, who has profound and multiple learning disabilities. Heather's story is one of love, loss, resilience, and the constant navigation of a life profoundly different from what she once envisioned. Through her journey with Lizzie, Heather illuminates the deep, often unspoken realities faced by families navigating similar paths. Lees meer
Key Points Discussed:
Living with Profound Disabilities: Heather describes Lizzie's condition, underscoring the daily realities of caring for someone who is entirely dependent on others for their needs, coupled with the significant intellectual disabilities that shape their interactions with the world.
Grief and Acceptance: The conversation delves into the grief that accompanies the loss of the life Heather expected for Lizzie and herself, and how acceptance and acknowledgment of this grief have been crucial for moving forward.
Finding Meaning and Coping: Heather reflects on how acknowledging Lizzie's condition and the accompanying challenges have allowed her to find meaning, cope better, and thus provide better care.
Community and Representation: Highlighting the importance of representation and community support, Heather discusses the value of connecting with others who understand their family's experience and the ongoing battle for visibility and understanding in a broader societal context.
This episode stands as a powerful testament to the complexities of love, the weight of unfulfilled expectations, and the strength found in community and understanding. Heather's insights offer invaluable perspectives for anyone seeking to understand the nuances of caring for a loved one with profound disabilities.
Read Heather's letter to Lizzie: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1QjCGIa85aS_8jBUQUbKCdi1F0aakf1RkwvIIZQQavH4/edit?usp=sharing
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Agony Aunties: Navigating your child's dislike for a new partner
12 april 2024 · 10 min
In this week’s episode of Agony Aunties, we’re answering a viewer who is struggling with their 10-year-old daughter's dislike for their new partner. We’ll talk about how to empathise with the complexity of the situation, and we’ll offer some insights and advice on handling such family dynamics. The daughter’s resistance might stem from feelings of loss and change rather than a genuine dislike for the new partner. Lees meer
Another important point is to ensure continued one-on-one time with the daughter, to maintain open and non-judgmental communication, and to slowly integrate the new partner without forcing acceptance. It’s important to allowing the daughter to express her feelings and fears about the new family dynamic, and for the parent to with manage their expectations for the transition period. Growth is non-linear, after all.
And on that note, if you’re interested in more discussions about blended family dynamics, here’s the podcast Emily mentioned - https://open.spotify.com/show/2olc42wsIsoLyGuqrAYQns
If you have any questions for the Agony Aunties then please do email them to jsamuelpod@gmail.com.
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Dr Rachel Clarke on NHS challenges and finding meaning in end of life care
10 april 2024 · 1 uur 3 min
In this week’s episode of the Therapy Works podcast, Dr. Rachel Clarke shares her journey through the peaks of the COVID-19 pandemic, her transition from journalism to palliative care medicine, and her ongoing advocacy for better end-of-life care. Reflecting on the paradox of human existence—the intertwining of love, death, and the essence of being—she discusses the daily challenges within the NHS, the psychological cost of providing care in an overburdened system, and the deeply personal impact of her father's passing. Lees meer
Key Points Discussed:
Navigating NHS Challenges: Rachel details the struggle of providing compassionate care during Covid and emphasises the psychological toll it had on her and the healthcare professionals she knows.
Personal Growth Through Adversity: She reflects on her path from philosophy to medicine, highlighting how facing death and vulnerability has shaped her perspective on life and her practice in palliative care. For someone that’s confronted by death so often, hearing Rachel’s perspective on death, and outlook on life, is enlightening.
The Power of Human Connection: Rachel shares insights on the significance of sincerity and presence in the face of mortality, underscoring the importance of embracing life's dualities. When we are on our deathbeds, we don’t regret not sending more emails or earning more money. What matters to us most is the connections we have.
Legacy and Advocacy: Through her books and involvement in healthcare debates, she advocates for systemic change, particularly in palliative care, driven by her experiences and the profound lessons learned from the dying.
This episode underscores the importance of compassion, resilience, and the pursuit of meaning amidst life's greatest challenges.
If you’d like to know more about Dr Rachel Clarke’s experience, you can find her book “Breath taking” on Amazon - https://www.amazon.co.uk/Breathtaking-UKs-human-story-Covid/dp/0349144567/
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Agony Aunties: Finding purpose after children leave home
5 april 2024 · 5 min
In this week’s episode of "Agony Aunties," our discussion focuses on a parent finding their purpose as their children have grow up and left home. And so, we’ll talk about the importance of starting with self-awareness and exploration, and how mindfulness can help, along with small steps towards activities that bring joy or spark curiosity. On a broader scope, we’ll also talk about a concept that we’ve covered a few times already - the fertile void - where we transition from the end of one major undertaking to another. And we’ll also mention the importance of self-compassion at this time, and how it might be useful to look for inspiration from others' paths. Lees meer
Resources:
Here’s more from Kristin Neff: https://self-compassion.org
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Lily Pickard on the healing powers of humour and community
3 april 2024 · 1 uur 1 min
In this week’s episode of Therapy Works, Lily Pickard shares her heart-wrenching journey through her husband Cole's terminal cancer diagnosis, the emotional upheaval it brought to their family, and the profound loss felt after his passing. She discusses the importance of hope, humour, and community support in navigating such a devastating experience, offering insights into the complexities of grief, parenting through loss, the importance of a dog’s love, and finding resilience in the face of unimaginable sorrow. Lees meer
Key Points Discussed:
The Shock of Diagnosis: Lily recounts the initial turmoil following Cole's unexpected cancer diagnosis, emphasising the drastic change it brought to their lives.
Navigating Treatment and Embracing Hope: Despite the grim prognosis, Lily and Cole's determination to explore every possible treatment option highlights their unwavering hope and the lengths they went to fight the disease.
The Role of Humour and Community: The discussion underlines the therapeutic power of laughter and the significant role of a supportive community in coping with the challenges faced during Cole's illness.
Grieving and Moving Forward: Lily reflects on the grieving process, the impact of loss on their son Ethan, and the ways in which they've sought to honour Cole's memory and legacy.
This episode is a poignant reminder of the strength found in love, the healing power of community, and the importance of facing grief with hope and dignity. It offers a compassionate perspective on dealing with terminal illness and loss within a family, providing comfort and understanding to those navigating similar paths.
Resources:
For single parents and their children, check out Gingerbread - https://www.gingerbread.org.uk
Child Bereavement UK which helps children, parents and families rebuild their lives when a child grieves - https://www.childbereavementuk.org
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Agony Aunties: Parenting an unmotivated child
29 maart 2024 · 7 min
In this week’s episode of Agony Aunties, we’ll be addressing a concern from parents about their son's lack of motivation. We’ll explore the challenges of transitioning to adulthood and suggest the approach of trying to understand his perspective rather than pushing him, as pushing him might not offer the results you’re looking for. Lees meer
Our conversation also touches on how the parents can support each other and accept their children's journey and the extended maturation process of the younger generation. For a more detailed exploration of the topic and additional insights, you might find Jeffrey Arnett's work on Emerging Adulthood, including his TED talk and book, particularly enlightening, offering a broader understanding of the challenges faced by young adults today.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fv8KpQY0m6o
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Kirsty Young on embracing vulnerability and recognising the value of imperfection
27 maart 2024 · 1 uur 6 min
In this very special episode of Therapy Works, I have the pleasure of sitting down in-person with the remarkable Kirsty Young, a beloved figure in Scottish television and radio. Renowned for presenting the iconic show Desert Island Discs and her role in hosting prestigious events such as the Queen's jubilee and funeral, Kirsty brings a wealth of wisdom and insight to our conversation. Lees meer
Key Discussion Points:
Childhood Influences: Kirsty opens up about the formative experiences of her childhood, shedding light on feelings of abandonment and inadequacy that have shaped her journey.
Career Drive and Coping with Stress: We delve into Kirsty's innate drive for success and how she navigates high-stress periods, finding balance amidst the demands of her career.
Embracing Imperfection: Kirsty shares her perspective on prioritising the present moment over the pursuit of perfection, finding joy in embracing life's imperfections and uncertainties.
Confronting Anxiety and Vulnerability: With refreshing candour, Kirsty discusses her childhood battle with anxiety.
Lessons in Growth: Through her own health journey, Kirsty offers profound insights into the power of self-compassion and acceptance. She emphasises the importance of embracing imperfection and finding liberation in simply being.
Join us as Kirsty Young shares her journey of growth, resilience, and self-discovery, offering invaluable insights into embracing imperfection and finding strength in vulnerability.
Resource Mentions:
Rachel Yehuda: A notable figure in the field of psychology, known for her work on intergenerational trauma and the role of epigenetics. Please find her study here: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6127768/
Highly Sensitive People Project: Explore this initiative dedicated to understanding and supporting highly sensitive individuals at HSPerson.com.
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Agony Aunties: The ex factor
22 maart 2024 · 5 min
In this episode of "Agony Aunties," we’re responding to a listener's question about maintaining a relationship with their son's ex-girlfriend. While it’s understandable to want to maintain a connection with someone that you personally don’t have any issues with, and while we don’t know all of the ins and outs of the situation, what arises in us is the importance to be aware of the complexity of such dynamics post-breakup, to consider the son's feelings, and to be aware of the the potential for confusion on the ex's part. Lees meer
We’ll be expanding on these ideas in the episode, so give it a listen, and if you have any questions of your own, please send them in to jsamuelpod@gmail.com.
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Petrina Barber on living with a stoma and defying all odds
20 maart 2024 · 1 uur 1 min
In this week’s episode, I’ll be delving into Petrina Barber's harrowing journey with cancer, diagnosed shortly after the birth of her son. Petrina shares the complexities of her battle, not just with the disease itself but also with the incurable condition that arose from her treatment, drastically impacting her and her family’s life. While Petrina lost a sense of autonomy over her body and acknowledges the profound losses it brought, she has been able to show such tremendous strength, and physically accomplish what no doctor thought possible. In doing so - she is redefining what is possible for people with stomas. Lees meer
Key Points Discussed:
• The Initial Shock: Petrina's “perfect” life was upended with a cancer diagnosis at a young age, changing everything she knew and planned for her abd her family's future.
• Treatment and its Aftermath: The severe side effects of cancer treatment led to the development of Pelvic Radiation Disease (PRD), significantly altering Petrina's life quality and leading to numerous medical emergencies.
• Advocacy and Self-Care: Learning to advocate for herself and focusing on the quality of life became Petrina's priority, shifting from a survival mindset to one of living fully despite the circumstances. What Petrina has been able to achieve in the face of all of her health challenges, is incredibly impressive.
• Strength and Resilience: Despite numerous challenges, Petrina's story is a testament to human resilience, the power of family support, and the importance of finding joy and purpose even in the face of life-altering adversity.
Petrina's narrative is a touching reminder of the unpredictable nature of life, the strength found in vulnerability, and the power of hope and relentless love in navigating the most challenging moments. This episode illuminates the deep impact of health crises on personal identity, family dynamics, and the journey toward finding new meaning and strength amidst loss.
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BONUS: Julia and her daughters discuss Charles Spencer's interview
15 maart 2024 · 19 min
For this week’s episode of the Therapy Works podcast, we released a very important conversation with Charles Spencer, where he opens up about his experience of childhood sexual abuse in boarding school. In this bonus episode, the three of us talk about our takeaways from that conversation, and what really resonated in us when we heard Charles’ story. Lees meer
Key Points Discussed:
Complexity of Disclosure: They explore the difficulties victims face in disclosing abuse, especially sexual abuse, due to societal disbelief and the inherent shame tied to these experiences.
Impact of Abuse on Identity and Relationships: The dialogue delves into the effects of abuse on self-perception, the struggle with shame, and the obstacles to forming intimate and trustworthy relationships.
Navigating the Healing Process: The importance of therapy, acknowledging one’s experiences, and finding a narrative to differentiate the past from the present are emphasised as crucial steps towards recovery.
The Role of Acknowledgment in Healing: The power of acknowledging harm done, either through direct conversation or letters, as a pivotal step for both victims and perpetrators towards addressing intergenerational trauma.
For more information, please visit the National Child Traumatic Stress Network - https://www.nctsn.org
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Charles Spencer on speaking out about his experience of child sexual and physical abuse
13 maart 2024 · 57 min
In this episode, I’m speaking with Charles Spencer, who shares his traumatic experiences at a boarding school where he faced physical, emotional, and sexual abuse. Charles discusses the profound impact these childhood experiences have had on his life, the complex process of healing, and the importance of speaking out to help others. Lees meer
Key Points Discussed:
Enduring Abuse: Charles recounts the harrowing abuse he endured during his time at a particularly abusive boarding school, including sexual abuse, and the lasting impact on his mental health.
The Healing Journey: The conversation delves into Charles's extensive journey through therapy, including EMDR, and the role of writing his book as a form of therapy.
Impact of Trauma: Charles reflects on how the trauma influenced his views on trust, relationships, and self-worth, emphasising the importance of working through past pain for personal growth.
Advocacy for Change: Highlighting the importance of advocating for the protection of children and raising awareness about the long-term effects of abuse, Charles discusses his hope that his story will inspire others to seek help and speak out.
This episode offers hope and solidarity to others who have experienced similar traumas. Charles Spencer's openness provides valuable insights into the complexities of healing from childhood abuse and underscores the power of vulnerability and truth in overcoming the shadows of the past.
Buy Charles's book: https://amzn.eu/d/8KndO4s
Follow Charles on X: @cspencer1508
Follow Charles on Instagram: @charles.earl.spencer
Watch the full podcast episode on Julia's Youtube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCX3RmDaV8ZzsLuQzsi-4hAA
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Agony Aunties: Navigating life's unexpected turns
8 maart 2024 · 11 min
For this week’s episode of Agony Aunties, we’re taking a bit of a different direction. While I do much prefer to answer your questions, and to connect with what’s alive in you, this week I’m going to share something that has happened to me. Namely, I am currently going through a series of health challenges. I broke my shoulder in a fall, and needed a couple of surgeries for it. On top of that, I have a rare condition called Ramsay Hunt Syndrome, the symptoms of which have flared up and paralysed half of my face, and this is affecting the way I look and speak. I thought it might be odd if I just appeared on video without explaining what happened, as I do look and sound different than before. Lees meer
However, while I do appreciate the kindness and support I have received from so many of you already, I don’t want the focus of my content to be on me and this situation I’m in. I’m very motivated by the work that I’m doing, by these talks that I’m having, and these stories that I’m sharing. And I also find great meaning in sharing this work with you, and in the community that we’re all developing. I am going to continue doing what I find most meaningful. Thank you. Next week we’ll get back to answering your questions again, so do please continue to send them in.
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Tom Shakespeare on shattering stereotypes and redefining disability
6 maart 2024 · 49 min
In this insightful episode, I speak with Professor Tom Shakespeare, a distinguished figure in the fields of disability research and bioethics. Their conversation delves into the profound aspects of disability, societal perceptions, and the intrinsic value of diversity and acceptance in human connections. Tom, with his rich background and personal experiences, offers a unique perspective on living with disability and the universal challenges of human existence. Lees meer
Key Points Discussed:
The Finite Nature of Life: Tom discusses the challenge of balancing a desire to achieve against the finite nature of life, highlighting the constant struggle to meet demands within limited time and the personal incidents that bring this reality into focus.
Disability and Society: The dialogue explores the deep-rooted societal prejudices towards disability, emphasising the need for a shift in perception to recognise the common humanity and vulnerabilities shared by all, regardless of physical or mental differences.
Embracing Limitations: We discuss the importance of acknowledging and embracing human limitations, framing disability within a broader context of human fragility and the societal barriers that exacerbate these challenges.
The Power of Rest and Laughter: Tom shares personal strategies for managing life's pressures and pains, such as the rejuvenating power of napping and the therapeutic value of humour in facing adversity and fostering connection.
This episode is a testament to the resilience, diversity, and unity of the human spirit. Tom's narrative is a reminder that our shared vulnerabilities and limitations are not weaknesses but are essential to our collective identity and humanity. It encourages us to embrace diversity, practice acceptance, and find joy and meaning in our shared human experience.
Find Tom Shakespeare:
https://farmerofthoughts.co.uk/biography/
Find Julia Samuel:
Website: https://juliasamuel.co.uk/
Instagram: @juliasamuelmbe
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Agony Aunties: Only children and teen friendships
1 maart 2024 · 12 min
In this episode of Agony Aunties, Julia, Emily and Sophie share insightful perspectives on the topic of "only children." Julia critiques the term itself, emphasising that it carries a derivative implication, suggesting that an only child is somehow insufficient. Emily adds that regardless of family configuration, there are both pros and cons, and having just one child can offer unique benefits, allowing the child to receive undivided attention and care. The conversation touches on the complexities of family structures and challenges the notion that only children face disadvantages. Lees meer
The discussion then shifts to supporting a teenager on the edge of friendship groups. Emily points out the natural fluctuations in teenage friendships and acknowledges the pain parents feel when they can't easily intervene. Sophie contributes from her own experience, urging parents to reflect on their own past and potential projections onto their children. The importance of understanding the difference between the parent's and the child's experiences is highlighted, emphasising open communication and shared vulnerability in navigating teenage friendships.
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Henrietta Copeland on the silent grief of childlessness
28 februari 2024 · 58 min
In this emotionally charged episode, Henrietta opens up about her journey through permanent childlessness and shares the complexities of her grief. Henrietta describes how there isn't a singular reason for her childlessness – not meeting the right partner and the element of luck being 50% out of her control. She recalls making a promise to herself, keeping the door half-shut, and the heartbreak that then followed. Lees meer
Key Points Discussed:
Confronting Sadness:
Exploring the depths of her grief, Henrietta opens up about the sadness that accompanies the longing for children never conceived. The challenges of feeling alienated and misunderstood during the second year of her journey come to the forefront.
Disenfranchised Grief:
Henrietta sheds light on the disenfranchised grief experienced by childless individuals, where the loss remains invisible and delegitimized. She addresses the staggering statistic that one in five people faces this unacknowledged sorrow.
Creating a Supportive Tribe:
Discovering solace in a newfound community, Henrietta emphasises the significance of creating spaces for childless women to openly discuss their pain. She underscores the power of validation and the healing that can occur when individuals facing similar struggles come together.
Existential Anguish:
Henrietta bares her soul, sharing moments of anger and betrayal intertwined with the existential loneliness that accompanies childlessness. She articulates the ongoing struggle of holding onto the idea of having her own child.
This episode serves as a powerful testament to the often silent grief of permanent childlessness. It provides a compassionate space for validation and understanding. Henrietta's story unfolds as a narrative of resilience and strength in the face of unseen struggles.
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Agony Aunties: The complexities of parenting adult children
23 februari 2024 · 12 min
In this episode, a listener seeks advice on parenting adult children. The Agony Aunties encourage active listening, allowing for diverse perspectives without necessarily agreeing. They suggest using feedback formats, like expressing what one hears, sees, feels, and relates, to avoid judgement. The conversation explores the importance of compromise, acknowledging emotional subtext in disagreements, and understanding the generational shift in parenting dynamics. Lees meer
They emphasise the evolving nature of the parent-adult child relationship, acknowledging the dance between letting go and remaining close. They reflect on the challenge of finding a balance between abandonment and enmeshment, offering insights into the worry that comes with children growing into adulthood. The episode concludes with wisdom on processing loss, accepting the evolving roles, and trusting adult children to navigate their lives while providing a supportive presence. If you're navigating the complexities of parenting adult children, this episode offers thoughtful guidance and relatable perspectives.
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Annabel Croft on navigating the shock of a sudden diagnosis
21 februari 2024 · 1 uur 6 min
In today's deeply moving conversation, I am honoured to be joined by the incredible Annabel Croft. Annabel graciously shares her poignant journey through the rapid and tragic loss of her husband to cancer. We delve into the realms of loss, love, and the indomitable spirit of hope that persists in the face of grief. Lees meer
In this episode, we discuss:
Sudden Diagnosis and Profound Journey: Annabel recounts the shocking moment they learned of her husband's terminal diagnosis, marking the beginning of a profound journey through grief and acceptance. She discusses the brutal reality of receiving such news, the swift progression of her husband's illness, and the emotional turmoil that ensued for her and her family.
Brutal Delivery of News: We explore the brutal way in which healthcare practitioners handled their situation, making what's already devastating worse. We reflect on the lasting impact it has on individuals and families facing terminal illnesses.
Strength in Vulnerability: Annabel's courage to be vulnerably open, allowing her emotions to be seen and felt, offers a beacon of understanding for anyone navigating the turbulent waters of loss.
Therapeutic Power of Dance and Hope: The conversation highlights the importance of hope, the therapeutic power of dance in Annabel's life, and the significance of finding joy and meaning despite the presence of grief.
Annabel's Reflections: Reflecting on her experience, Annabel's story serves as a testament to the strength found in vulnerability and the resilience of the human spirit. Though uniquely hers, it echoes universal truths of love's depth, the pain of loss, and the enduring quest for solace and understanding.
As we share in Annabel's journey, let us remember the capacity of the human heart to heal, to find light amidst darkness, and to continue loving in the memory of those we've lost.
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Agony Aunties: Love, trust and navigating the rollercoaster
16 februari 2024 · 16 min
In this special episode of our Agony Aunties mini series, our wise trio – Emily, Sophie, and Julia – dive deep into the intricacies of love and relationships. The first question addresses the delicate balance of approaching a new relationship with both excitement and caution. Emily's candid response reminds us that every relationship comes with its share of risks, emphasising that the beauty of love lies in its unpredictability. She encourages embracing the vulnerability that comes with love rather than succumbing to the fear of potential hurt. Lees meer
Moving on to the challenge of maintaining the spark in long-term relationships, Sophie shares invaluable insights. Recognising the monotony that can set in, she suggests cultivating personal sources of joy and excitement. Whether it's engaging in a dance class or enjoying time with friends, maintaining an individual sense of fun and spontaneity can breathe life back into the relationship. The trio concludes with Julia addressing the difficult subject of grief around Valentine's Day. She emphasises the importance of acknowledging the pain, legitimising emotions, and seeking support, offering a compassionate approach for those navigating the complexities of love and loss. Tune in for a heartfelt episode filled with wisdom, laughter, and guidance on matters of the heart.
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Josiah Hartley on depression as an illness and not a personal failure
14 februari 2024 · 50 min
In today's conversation, I am joined by Josiah Hartley, who generously shares the complexities of his struggle with depression, emphasising the pivotal importance of early recognition of signs and the transformative power of self-kindness and professional support. His story serves as a testament to vulnerability, resilience, and the gradual path to recovery, offering valuable insights for both individuals facing similar challenges and parents seeking to connect with their children going through depression or having suicidal thoughts. Lees meer
Key Discussion Points:
Understanding Depression: Delving into the subtle onset of depression, Josiah recounts the critical moment when he shifted his perspective, recognising depression as a mental illness rather than a personal failure. This realisation became a turning point, steering him towards the path of recovery.
The Role of Support: Josiah highlights the pivotal role of a trusted psychiatrist who guided him through the complexities of treatment, underscoring the transformative potential of compassionate professional care. This discussion emphasises the need for empathy in healthcare interactions and the profound impact it can have on a patient's journey.
Daily Self-Care and Mindfulness: Emphasising the significance of self-care and mindfulness practices, Josiah shares how simple acts of kindness towards oneself played a foundational role in his healing process. From daily routines to mindful practices, these small but impactful steps collectively contributed to a profound improvement in his mental health.
This episode stands as a powerful testament to the resilience of the human spirit, the importance of seeking help, and the possibility of leading a fulfilling life despite the challenges posed by mental illness.
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Agony Aunties: Grief in relationships
9 februari 2024 · 11 min
In this heartfelt episode of Agony Aunties, the team addresses a poignant question from a listener who has recently lost their mother, with the added complication of a sister attempting to take control. Sophie sensitively navigates the complexities of grief, highlighting the common occurrence of competition among siblings when parents pass away. She delves into the intricacies of such dynamics, where the struggle for control often becomes a representation of love and value in the eyes of the departed parent. Julia adds a valuable perspective, emphasising the importance of surrendering the need for control and focusing on validating the significant relationship with the mother. The Agony Aunties also explore the grieving process in a difficult relationship, addressing a listener's question on how to honestly grieve its loss. Emily provides insights on allowing oneself to feel the range of emotions and the significance of being honest about the complexities of the relationship. Tune in for compassionate advice on navigating familial dynamics, grief, and the journey towards emotional honesty. Lees meer
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Julia Bradbury on overcoming challenges with positivity and purpose
7 februari 2024 · 1 uur 3 min
To kick off Season 5, I am joined by Julia Bradbury, a best-selling author, TV presenter, and ardent advocate for nature, health, and hiking. Renowned for her passion for the outdoors, Julia has embarked on a transformative journey following her cancer diagnosis and surgery, dedicating herself to promoting healthy living and nature therapy. In this episode, Julia shares her inspiring story, emphasising the importance of investigating our default responses to adversity and finding purpose amid life's challenges. Lees meer
In this episode we discuss:
Emphasising Self-Compassion: Julia Bradbury underscores the importance of avoiding self-blame during challenging times and encourages listeners to explore their default responses to adversity.
Navigating Medical Challenges: The episode delves into Julia Bradbury's journey with breast cancer and the emotional toll of a rigorous biopsy, shedding light on the intricacies of her medical experiences.
Tarot Wisdom: She touches on the use of tarot cards, delving into their symbolism, including the snake representing change and medicine, as part of her exploration of diverse modalities.
Action Over Stagnation: Julia Bradbury advocates for taking action in challenging situations, emphasising that proactive measures propel personal growth rather than becoming stuck.
Purposeful Living Post-Cancer: The cancer journey offers Julia a renewed sense of purpose, paving the way for a life filled with positivity.
In this transformative episode, Julia Bradbury shares her resilient journey, inviting listeners to explore their responses to adversity, navigate medical challenges and ultimately find renewed purpose and balance in the tapestry of life.
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Book: Walk Yourself Happy
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Agony Aunties: Dealing with a narcissist
2 februari 2024 · 7 min
In this episode of Agony Aunties, Julia, Sophie, and Emily tackle a poignant question from a listener: How to deal with a narcissistic mother whose behaviour seems to be escalating with age. Lees meer
The conversation explores the challenge of dealing with someone who lacks insight into how their actions affect others. They discuss the emotional toll this behaviour takes on those in a relationship with a narcissist, highlighting the importance of recognising that the issue lies with the narcissist and not the individual experiencing the effects.
They offer valuable insights on coping strategies for individuals dealing with a narcissistic parent, emphasising the significance of staying calm, taking a step back, and recognising that the behaviour is a reflection of the narcissist rather than a reflection of the individual.
This episode serves as a compassionate and informative guide for anyone navigating the complexities of relationships with narcissistic individuals, offering practical advice and reassurance for those facing the challenges of a narcissistic parent.
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Agony Aunties: Mastering boundaries
26 januari 2024 · 10 min
In this episode of Agony Aunties, the trio delves into the intricate realm of boundaries, addressing the following listener question: Lees meer
"This new stance of boundaries that have taken hold on social media. I'm in my 60s and my initial thought is that boundaries prevent mending, being vulnerable, listening and can be misused. Of course, natural normal boundaries are needed when one is suffering abuse. My instinct tells me people can use putting up boundaries as an excuse not to hear what others think and feel."
Emily acknowledges concerns around the potential misuse of therapy language and defends the enduring value of boundaries. Sophie reframes boundaries as tools for safety, self-worth, and the ability to adapt based on perceived threats. Julia emphasises the transformative power of boundaries as a form of self-care, offering clear guidelines adaptable across diverse relationships and contexts. Together, they explore the delicate balance of setting boundaries to enhance well-being and nurture richer connections. Join Agony Aunties as they navigate life's challenges with wisdom and compassion.
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Agony Aunties: Sibling struggles
19 januari 2024 · 10 min
The Agony Aunties are back with a heartfelt episode delving into the complex world of sibling relationships. Lees meer
Question 1: Dealing with an Estranged Sibling:
"How to deal with an estranged sibling who knows me and wants no contact?"
The Agony Aunties dive into the delicate realm of estrangement, exploring the often unspoken feelings of shame and guilt experienced by those with distant siblings. They share insights on the importance of self-reflection, the potential for reconnection, and the empowerment that comes with keeping the possibility of a future relationship open.
Question 2: Sibling Scapegoating and Pain:
"My brother scapegoats me and causes me pain. Should I move away?"
In response to a listener grappling with a sibling's harmful behaviour, the Agony Aunties explore the concept of being a scapegoat and the toll it takes on one's well-being. They offer guidance on stepping out of this role, establishing healthy boundaries, and discuss the liberating power of finding one's voice.
The Agony Aunties leave listeners with actionable advice and a reminder that, even in the complexities of family dynamics, personal growth and healing are possible.
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Agony Aunties: Navigating divorce and affairs
12 januari 2024 · 11 min
Join Julia, Emily, and Sophie as they delve deep into the complexities of relationships, focusing on the intricate web of divorce and affairs. With compassionate hearts and keen insights, our Agony Aunties are here to offer guidance and support. Lees meer
The Agony Aunties answer the following questions:
"My three kids are 19, 17 and 13 and they regularly ask their dad had an affair. The affair woman is now his wife and their stepmother."
"My husband had an affair and he's left the family home. We have two young children. Can you give me tips to build my strength?"
"I'm weathering divorce and an ex who moved on immediately. How do I rebuild my self-esteem?"
As the episode concludes, Julia, Emily, and Sophie reiterate the importance of self-love, open communication, and seeking support during tumultuous times.
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BONUS: How do I know when it's time to end therapy?
5 januari 2024 · 5 min
In this special bonus episode of Therapy Works, we tackle a critical question many individuals grapple with: "How do I know when it's time to end therapy?". We navigate the complexities of concluding a therapeutic journey, discussing the nuanced factors that contribute to recognising the right time for transition. We explore scenarios where individuals may feel they've achieved specific goals or addressed particular challenges, as well as moments when unexpected issues arise, prompting a desire for continued therapeutic support. We emphasise the significance of mutual recognition between therapist and client, discussing the gradual reduction of sessions and the importance of fostering open communication throughout this process. Lees meer
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BONUS: How can therapy help me?
29 december 2023 · 8 min
In this special bonus episode of Therapy Works, we demystify the question, "How can therapy help me?". We underscore that therapy isn't a magic wand but a transformative journey that offers a confidential space to explore patterns, relationships, and life's complexities. Whether navigating destructive relationship patterns or monumental life events, therapy serves as a unique relationship characterised by empathy, trust, and confidentiality. Lees meer
Highlighting the multifaceted benefits of therapy, we discuss its relevance across different stages of life and emphasise its distinct role in providing personalised support.
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BONUS: A guide to navigating Christmas
22 december 2023 · 20 min
In this special bonus episode, Julia and Emily offer listeners insightful strategies for navigating the complexities of Christmas. The discussion covers a range of topics, including gracefully handling awkward questions from family members, embracing the experience of spending Christmas alone, and managing the overwhelming pressures that often accompany this festive period. Julia and Emily provide practical advice on setting boundaries, fostering self-care, and cultivating meaningful connections, whether with family or within oneself. Additionally, the episode emphasizes the importance of recognizing and appreciating peaceful moments amidst the holiday chaos. Lees meer
This episode aims to empower listeners with the tools and understanding needed to navigate the emotional landscape of the festive season, fostering resilience and well-being in the midst of family gatherings, solitude, and societal pressures.
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Alain de Botton’s insights on psychotherapy, love and navigating Christmas
20 december 2023 · 59 min
To mark the end of a wonderful series, I am joined by the insightful Alain de Botton, an author, respected philosopher and founder of The School of Life. Get ready for a journey through the history of psychotherapy, the nuances of the true and false self, and the power of the inner child. Lees meer
In this episode, we discuss:
The Gift of the Modern Age: Unveiling the History of Psychotherapy
We explore the evolution of psychotherapy as a novel concept in the modern age, delving into its transformative power as both an idea and a treatment.
The Annoying Power of the Inner Child
We unpack the concept of the inner child and its significant influence on adult behaviour, and our desire for 'the tender heart of a small child and the wisdom of an old man.'
Navigating the Layers of Identity
We engage in a thoughtful discussion on the duality of the true and false self, examining the impact of understanding these layers on personal growth and authenticity.
The Senses as Gateways to Emotion: Art as the Conduit to Self
We explore how the senses shape emotions, both positively and negatively, uncovering the profound connection between art and the journey of self-discovery.
A Unique Perspective on Breakdowns
Gain insights into the concept of 'mental reversals' and their influence on mental health, receiving original perspectives on coping with breakdowns and the potential benefits they might offer.
Love and Self-Sabotage
We delve into the complexities of love and the common tendency to sabotage our deepest desires, exploring strategies to overcome self-destructive patterns when it comes to love.
Navigating the Challenges of Christmas
Alain ends the conversation with practical perspectives on navigating the challenges presented by the festive season.
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Gabby Logan on her strength beyond sports
13 december 2023 · 54 min
Today's guest is the remarkable Gabby Logan, a prominent sports and radio presenter with a wealth of experience. In this insightful conversation, Gabby brings forth her intelligence, empathy, and articulate perspectives as we explore the powerful intersection of sports, strength, and life. Lees meer
In the episode, we discuss:
Physical and Mental Strength: Discover the profound link between physical and mental strength as Gabby reflects on her journey in sports. Learn how the lessons of discomfort, growth, and stepping out of the comfort zone in sports translate into valuable life skills.
Discipline, Endurance, and Commitment: Uncover the tools of discipline, endurance, practice, and commitment cultivated through sports, which have been pivotal in guiding Gabby through life's challenges.
Grief and Transformation: Delve into the profound impact of the tragic death of Gabby's brother Daniel, exploring how such significant loss shapes one's personal and professional life. Understand the transformative journey of grief and personal growth.
Generational Perspectives on Trauma: Explore the generational differences in responding to trauma, acknowledging the limitations faced by Gabby's father in accessing therapy and the evolving dynamics of seeking support.
Marriage and Love as a Practice: Gain insights into the complexities of marriage as Gabby emphasises the importance of choosing to love and the ongoing practice of honesty within relationships.
Humour and Lightness: Despite the serious themes, experience moments of humour and lightness in this conversation that touch the heart and leave a lasting impact.
Tune in for a compelling episode that navigates the intricacies of life, resilience, and the transformative power of strength with Gabby Logan.
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Lesley on the impact of unearthing family secrets
6 december 2023 · 58 min
In this riveting episode, Lesley takes us on a profound journey into the unexpected consequences of contemporary DNA tests. What's marketed as a tool to uncover "ancestry, traits, and health" for informed health decisions can, in reality, deliver life-altering bombshells. Lees meer
Lesley's experience began innocently enough with a DNA test given to her on her birthday. Little did she know, this seemingly fun present would shatter her sense of self and family. The revelation that her father wasn't her biological dad sent shockwaves through her life.
Key Discussion Points:
Impact of How Bad News is Delivered: Lesley shares insights into how the delivery of life-altering news can exacerbate its emotional impact.
Secrets in Families: The complexities surrounding family secrets and the turbulence that arises when these secrets are unveiled.
Reconfiguring Identity: The emotional journey of reconfiguring one's sense of self when faced with the revelation that a parent is not biological.
Managing Unanswered Questions: Strategies for navigating the challenges of unanswered questions that emerge from these revelations.
Navigating the Search for "New" Family: The emotional rollercoaster of seeking and meeting newfound family members, from the underwhelming to the overwhelming.
Nature vs. Nurture Dance: An exploration of how our family experiences, both biological and chosen, shape our identities.
Supportive Communities: Lesley highlights the supportive power of podcasts and Facebook communities in connecting with others who share similar experiences.
Lesley's honesty, warmth, and openness make this episode a compelling exploration of family, change, identity, and love.
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Lorraine Candy on unravelling, menopause, and the power of identity
29 november 2023 · 1 uur 3 min
In this insightful episode, I sit down with Lorraine Candy, former Editor of Elle, Cosmopolitan, and Style Magazine, who has spent her career thinking about, writing about, and interviewing women. Despite external markers of success, including a successful career, a husband, and four children, Lorraine candidly shares her journey, revealing that life isn't always as sussed as it seems. Lees meer
Key Discussion Points:
The Unravelling in Mid-Life: Lorraine opens up about the shaming and frightening experience of unravelling in mid-life, challenging the assumptions tied to external success.
Navigating Menopause: The episode delves into the often misunderstood and myth-laden topic of menopause. Lorraine sheds light on the importance of accurate information about Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) and the alarming statistics linking hormone imbalances to mental health challenges, including suicide.
Identity at the Heart of Change: Explore the core principles of identity and how understanding ourselves plays a crucial role in navigating change, particularly for Lorraine as a parent.
Adaptability and Change: The conversation emphasizes the importance of embracing adaptability and change in all aspects of our identities, with a spotlight on Lorraine's experiences as a parent.
Slowing Down and Making Space: Discover the significance of slowing down, learning to say no, and creating space for curiosity—a concept referred to as 'a fertile void.' Lorraine advocates for making space to explore new possibilities in our lives.
The Role of Humor and Friendship: Lorraine highlights the importance of humor and the support of friends in maintaining mental and emotional well-being.
Routes to Safety and Connection: Learn about personal routes to a sense of safety and feeling at home in our bodies. This can include activities such as cold water swimming, reading, dancing, and embracing the power of human connection through hugs.
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Gulsom Gohar on survival, hope and crossing borders
22 november 2023 · 51 min
Welcome to a truly unique episode that transcends the boundaries of a traditional therapy session, offering a gripping narrative more akin to a drama. Join us for a revealing and compelling conversation with Gulsom, a story that is sure to stir your emotions. Lees meer
In this episode, Gulsom shares poignant aspects of her life:
Independence Against Odds: Gulsom's remarkable journey from a poor, uneducated farming family to becoming a qualified solicitor in Afghanistan.
Traumatic Escape: An intense account of how her life changed during the shocking Taliban military offensive in Afghanistan, leading to a terrifying escape to London.
Navigating Trauma and Grief: Gulsom delves into the depths of the trauma she experienced and the profound grief of leaving everything behind.
Resilience and Hope: Discover what fuels Gulsom's resilience and the audacity to hope as she fights for a new future.
As you listen, you'll find yourself reflecting on the privileges often taken for granted in our lives. This episode serves as a powerful reminder that it's not the events that define us, but our responses to them that truly shape our lives.
We've all experienced those transformative moments that divide our lives into a distinct "before" and "after." This episode magnifies such a moment, emphasising how life can undergo seismic shifts in an instant. It's crucial to recognise that while these moments can be swift, the journey to rebuild and reshape our lives afterward can span a lifetime.
Additional Links:
Breaking Barriers charity: https://breaking-barriers.co.uk/
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Website: https://juliasamuel.co.uk/
Instagram: @juliasamuelmbe
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Izzy Judd on music, motherhood, and finding light
15 november 2023 · 58 min
In this heartfelt episode, I have the pleasure of speaking to Izzy Judd, a violinist, and author, but above all, a devoted mother to three children. Through Izzy's gentle honesty, she provides a relatable narrative for parents facing their unique challenges, offering a blend of insight and self-compassion. Lees meer
Key Discussion Points:
Infertility and Miscarriage: Izzy delves into the complexities of infertility and miscarriage, addressing the physical and psychological aspects, as well as the challenges they pose for couples. These experiences often strain relationships and create unique dynamics, particularly when contrasted with those who appear to effortlessly build their families.
Emotional Load: We explore the emotional weight carried in the realms of life, love, and parenting, which inevitably intersects with one's personal history. Izzy shares her insights into managing these intersecting emotional facets.
Anxiety and Control: The conversation touches upon the relationship between busyness and anxiety, highlighting how periods of quiet can send anxiety soaring.
Befriending Anxiety: Izzy opens up about anxiety as an unwelcome companion that can be understood and even befriended. She shares her experiences and strategies for navigating anxiety in daily life.
Important Conversations: Izzy emphasizes the significance of engaging in important conversations with strangers, in-laws, family, and friends. These conversations have the potential to shed light, offer insights, and provide strength in the face of life's challenges.
This episode showcases the power of vulnerability, resilience, and the capacity for growth and understanding. Izzy Judd's journey is both informative and deeply moving.
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Kit Vincent on finding courage and humour in the face of adversity
8 november 2023 · 1 uur 1 min
In this extraordinary episode, we welcome Kit Vincent, an award-winning filmmaker who faced a profound and life-altering diagnosis at the age of 24 when he was told he had a brain tumour with a life expectancy of 4-8 years. Despite the gravity of Kit's situation, this conversation is anything but bleak—it's a testament to the power of humour, courage, and warmth. Lees meer
Kit's story is an inspiring lesson on how to live life to the fullest, even in the face of adversity.
We explore:
Rearranging One's Identity: Kit discusses how the diagnosis has fundamentally changed who he is, leading to an internal "rearrangement." He shares the challenge of "grieving oneself" and the complexities of fitting one's life into the lives of others.
Prioritizing What Matters: A time-limited future sharpens one's focus on what truly matters, both in significant life decisions and in the everyday. We delve into the impact on priorities and the absence of easy answers.
Family and Relationships: The ripple effects of a terminal diagnosis are felt by everyone in the family, including Kit's girlfriend, Isabel. We explore the testing, the difficulty, and the way it has also forged stronger bonds.
Silent Internal Conversations: Kit shares the internal turmoil of a 24/7 silent conversation that can alienate someone from the rest of the world when facing a terminal diagnosis.
Therapy and Healing: An insightful discussion about therapy, its cost, utility, and what does or doesn't work in the face of such profound challenges.
The Power of Humour: We uncover the joy of humour as a survival mechanism in the darkest of times, revealing the incredible resilience of the human spirit.
This episode is a testament to the indomitable human will to find humour, courage, and warmth even in the most challenging circumstances. Kit Vincent's story is an inspiration to us all.
Additional Links:
Research on Broken Heart Syndrome: Takotsubo cardiomyopathy (broken-heart syndrome) - Harvard Health
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Rio Ferdinand on love, loss, and laughter
1 november 2023 · 48 min
In this remarkable episode, we are joined by Rio Ferdinand, celebrated as one of the greatest football players of his generation, with 81 caps for England. While Rio's sporting prowess is well-known, it's his candid and heartfelt conversation with me that truly sets him apart. Lees meer
If you weren't already a fan of Rio, you will undoubtedly become one after listening to this episode. Rio's remarkable honesty and infectious humour shine through, even as he delves into the profound tragedies he and his family have faced.
Key Discussion Points:
Navigating Loss and Love: Rio and his family's journey toward rediscovering life and love following the tragic deaths of his first wife, Rebecca, and his beloved mother.
Bereaved Siblings: The discussion explores the unique experiences and responses of bereaved siblings, highlighting the diversity of emotional reactions within a family.
Preserving Memories: The importance of keeping the memories of loved ones alive, embedding them within the family's narrative, and continuing to connect with those who have passed.
Kate's Role: The significant role played by Kate, Rio's current partner, in fostering connections between herself, Rio's children, and their late mother, Rebecca.
The Blended Family: An exploration of the remarkable love and bond within Rio's blended family, where biological and non-biological children are equally cherished.
Permission to Be Happy: The family's acknowledgment and acceptance of the right to happiness and joy, even in the face of tragedy.
The Power of Evolution: The commitment to evolving and growing as a family, embracing change, and finding strength through unity.
Connection Through Humour: The remarkable release and connection that humour brings to the family, even in challenging times.
This episode is a testament to the enduring power of love, resilience, and the human spirit's capacity for healing. Rio Ferdinand's story is an inspiration to all.
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Maria Indermühle on her MS diagnosis and the healing power within
25 oktober 2023 · 59 min
In this deeply insightful episode, we are privileged to hear Maria's remarkable journey of facing the challenge of being diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis (MS). Her emotional intelligence and profound insights provide valuable takeaways for all who listen. Lees meer
Key Discussion Points:
Breaking Bad News: Maria reflects on the critical role of professionals in breaking bad news, and the significant impact their prognosis can have on how individuals manage life-changing information.
The Impact of Attitude and Development: We delve into the profound relationship between one's attitude and developmental history and how these factors shape the "story of our life" and, consequently, our health.
The Three P's and Their Antidotes: Maria discusses the negative impact of the "three P's" - people pleasing, perfectionism, and past pain - and introduces their antidotes: curiosity and self-compassion, essential elements in the journey to healing.
The Mind-Body Connection: Exploring the intricate connection between the mind and body, Maria highlights the powerful notion that "what the mind says, the body hears." Understanding this connection has the potential to transform both health span and lifespan.
Building Resilience: Maria shares insights on how to seek and implement strategies that nurture resilience in the mind and body. She emphasizes the importance of "removing what you have too much of and giving your body what you don't have enough of."
The Power of Love: At her lowest point, Maria discovered the extraordinary healing power of love. She recounts how, when she wanted to give up, she "couldn't feel his touch but could feel his love," and how it brought about a profound physical and emotional transformation, ultimately saving her life.
This episode is a compelling exploration of the human spirit's capacity for resilience and healing. Maria's story is a testament to the extraordinary impact of love and the potential to transcend even the most challenging circumstances.
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Brendan Cox on embracing tragedy, community, and compassion
18 oktober 2023 · 53 min
In this heartfelt conversation, Julia is joined by Brendan Cox, a passionate campaigner and activist dedicated to counter-terrorism and community cohesion. Brendan is also the father of two bereaved children, a role he assumed tragically after the murder of his wife, MP Jo Cox, in 2016. Lees meer
From listening to this conversation, you'll quickly discover Brendan's emotional thoughtfulness and intelligence as he shares his journey, providing insights on several crucial aspects of life:
KEY DISCUSSION POINTS:
The Unfixable Tragedy: Brendan opens up about the profound impact of Jo's death and how he grappled with the painful realization that this tragedy was unfixable. It forced him to confront the limits of his power and ultimately surrender to them.
A Clear Purpose: Amid the complexity and trauma, the need to focus on his children gave Brendan a clear sense of purpose and meaning in his life. This newfound clarity motivated him to strive to be "a better dad every day."
Embracing the Unvarnished Truth: Brendan learned that, for himself and his children, honesty, no matter how difficult, was far better than a lie or false protection. This unwavering trust they built in one another prevented them from being manipulated by external forces providing conflicting information.
Living Life to the Fullest: Brendan shares his philosophy of living life to the full, a commitment to "burning the candle at both ends and sort of throwing ourselves into adventures." This approach infused him with the energy to not only persevere but to find joy, adventure, and inspiration in his role as a parent.
The Power of Community: The Cox family found solace and strength in their community. Being known by neighbors, feeling safe, and fostering connections played a vital role in their healing and growth. Brendan also reflects on the evidence of how a community can act as a safeguard against mental illness, violence, and extremism.
A Call to Connect: As you listen to this conversation, you may f…
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Azariah Hope on how our past shapes our present
11 oktober 2023 · 1 uur 4 min
In this thought-provoking episode, we delve into the profound impact of our environment and our familial history on our lives. Join us for an enlightening conversation with Azariah Hope, a remarkable individual whose journey of self-discovery and transformation unveils the power of love, belief, and resilience. Lees meer
KEY DISCUSSION POINTS:
Azariah's Personal Journey
Azariah opens up about her role as a parent to four children, highlighting the unique connection between her experience and the histories of her mother and grandparents.
Her story unfolds as a testament to how our personal narratives are deeply intertwined with the generations that precede us.
The Influence of 'Normal'
We explore the concept that our perception of "normal" profoundly shapes our decisions and behaviors.
Azariah eloquently explains how we cannot break free from patterns we aren't even aware of until we're given the opportunity to see life from a different perspective.
Healing and Transformation
Azariah shares her personal struggle to heal and grow while facing the demands of a systemic world. She candidly discusses how her journey inward was a necessary step before she could begin building a meaningful relationship with her own children, two of whom were adopted.
Her story serves as a powerful reminder that the pace of personal growth cannot always align with societal expectations.
The Power of Support
Amidst the challenges, Azariah found hope and transformation through the support of others. She reflects on the pivotal role played by one social worker who believed in her, understood her, and fought for her.
Ultimately, it was the love and commitment of her foster family that saved and transformed her life.
Azariah leaves us with a profound message of inspiration. Her story reminds us that, no matter how bleak or traumatic our beginnings may be, transformation and growth are always possible. Through her remarkable journey, she encourages us to believe in our own potential for chan…
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Lemn Sissay on foster care and finding forgiveness
4 oktober 2023 · 1 uur
In this profoundly moving episode, we have the honor of conversing with Lemn Sissay OBE FRSL, a distinguished British author and broadcaster. Lemn's remarkable journey takes us from his role as the official poet of the 2012 London Olympics to his tenure as the Chancellor of the University of Manchester from 2015 to 2022. However, beyond these accolades, lies a life story that is both heart-wrenching and awe-inspiring. Lees meer
Key Discussion Points:
The Emotional Hiroshima: Lemn describes the profound impact of his childhood experiences, particularly the 'emotional Hiroshima' he endured as a 12-year-old child placed into care.
Resilience Through Words: Discover how Lemn found solace and resilience through poetry, one word at a time, allowing him to claim his presence in the world with the declaration, "I am here now."
Recognizing Value: Lemn challenges our perception of what we value, highlighting how we often fail to recognize the true importance of our possessions until they are taken from us.
The Power of Touch: Explore the significance of physical touch and the contrasting experiences of Lemn's lack of contact during his formative years and his grandmother's lifetime of tactile connections, which left her alone in her later years.
Forgiveness Liberates: Lemn delves into the transformative power of forgiveness, emphasizing that true forgiveness goes beyond shallow words; it liberates the spirit.
Embracing Accountability: The importance of accountability in the healing and growth process is discussed, shedding light on the path toward personal and collective transformation.
Lemn leaves us with a thought-provoking question: Can we find inner peace and then work to change the world?
This expansive and profound conversation is an emotional rollercoaster, evoking tears, anger, outrage, laughter, and ultimately, a deep sense of love. Prepare to be moved and inspired by Lemn Sissay's incredible journey. Don't miss this episode.
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Amanda Prowse on breaking free from criticism and class constraints
27 september 2023 · 1 uur
On today’s episode, Julia is joined by accomplished author Amanda Prowse. Her success story is as inspiring as it is relatable. Despite her tremendous achievements, Amanda has suffered from imposter syndrome, and today, she opens up about its roots, including the impact of class. She discusses how she defied low expectations. and her searing experiences as a mother to her mentally ill son. Lees meer
Key Discussion Points:
Overcoming Expectations:
Amanda shares her personal experiences of navigating criticism and low expectation and the role books played in boosting her confidence and igniting her imagination.
Recognising individual talents as a pathway to resilience in challenging times.
A Mother’s Heartache:
Amanda’s emotional journey as a mother, addressing her son Josh’s battle with depression and suicidal thoughts.
Insights into the enduring impact of mental illness on families.
Coping strategies and ongoing lessons Amanda and her family are learning while navigating her son’s depression.
Shifting Perspectives on Therapy:
Amanda’s evolving relationship with the concept of therapy.
The transformative power of seeking professional help in dealing with mental health challenges.
Find Amanda:
Website: https://www.amandaprowse.com/
Books: http://www.amandaprowse.com/books/
Instagram: @mrsamandaprowse
Support links:
MIND: www.mind.org.uk
YOUNG MINDS: www.youngminds.org.uk/
SHOUT: https://giveusashout.org/
BACP: www.bacp.co.uk
Find Julia:
Website: https://juliasamuel.co.uk/
Books: https://juliasamuel.co.uk/books/everyfamilyhasastory
Instagram: @juliasamuelmbe
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Trinny Woodall on fear, friendship and facing the past
20 september 2023 · 1 uur 3 min
Julia sits down with long-time friend and remarkable beauty entrepreneur Trinny Woodall, and embarks on a deeply personal and enlightening conversation. Lees meer
They delve into Trinny's journey, unveiling the strong woman beneath her beautiful presentation, a woman who has surmounted numerous hurdles - the greatest of which being fear.
While few of us may have Trinny's fantastic style, her internal struggles and the way she's navigated a myriad of complex losses are profoundly relatable. Together, Julia and Trinny explore a range of topics and provide us with valuable insights, heartfelt anecdotes, and moments of wisdom, laughter, and even tears.
Key Discussion Points:
Fear – the fear of fear: Trinny candidly opens up about her experiences with fear, revealing how she confronted this paralyzing emotion head-on and emerged stronger.
Being a woman in a man’s world: Trinny shares her perspectives on what it means to navigate a world where women are often faced with unique challenges, offering empowering insights and experiences.
Our relationship to our home- the roof over our head: The conversation turns to the significance of our homes, exploring the emotional and psychological connections we have with the places we live.
Women's relationship to money and how our ignorance is profoundly disempowering.
The importance of family and chosen family: Trinny and Julia discuss the concept of family and how it can extend far beyond blood ties, highlighting the profound impact of chosen family members in our lives.
Reshaping the painful past for a brighter future: Trinny's journey of taking the positive aspects from her painful past and transforming them into a driving force for her present and future is explored, offering listeners inspiration for their own lives.
The importance of friendship: Trinny and Julia emphasize the vital role of friendship in all of our lives.
Listening to this episode is not only an opportunity to gain unique insights into Trinny Woodall's life b…
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QUESTION EP: What are the biggest myths about therapy?
16 augustus 2023 · 11 min
Hello Therapy Works listeners! I hope you all enjoyed Season 3 of the podcast and if you happen to be tuning in for the first time I do recommend that you go back and listen to the amazing conversations I’ve had with my wonderful guests. Whilst we are in between seasons and taking a little summer break, I wanted to answer some questions about therapy that I get asked on a daily basis. As you all seem to be loving the segment with my psychotherapist daughters, I’ve asked Emily and Sophie to help me answer a question today and that is - what are the biggest myths about therapy? Lees meer
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QUESTION EP: When do you know it's time to see a therapist?
9 augustus 2023 · 10 min
Hello Therapy Works listeners! I hope you all enjoyed Season 3 of the podcast and if you happen to be tuning in for the first time I do recommend that you go back and listen to the amazing conversations I’ve had with my wonderful guests. Whilst we are in between seasons and taking a little summer break, I wanted to answer some questions about therapy that I get asked on a daily basis. As you all seem to be loving the segment with my psychotherapist daughters, I’ve asked Emily and Sophie to help me answer a question today and that is - when do you know it's time to see a therapist? Lees meer
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