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  1. Episode 246: How Toxic Marriage Advice Mirrors Coercive Control

    15 augustus 2024 · 1 uur 10 min

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    What if you discovered that marriage books like The Excellent Wife actually follows Steve Hassan's BITE model of cult indoctrination? And what if these marriage books were giving advice that mirrored coercive control?

    Bare Marriage podcast, episode 246, featuring Bethany Jantzi. Bethany did her thesis on coercive control, and today she shows us how these books use methods like: diminishing/devaluing personhood; undermining autonomy; creating psychological dependency; using a fear-based system of control; suppressing critical thinking; and conditioning compliance. And all of those things factor into abuse rates and coercive control. And we can do better than this!

    OUR SPONSOR:

    It's the Bible that lets girls see themselves in the story! The Kingdom Girls Bible from Zonderkidz--with profiles of all the women in the Bible (including many you may not have heard of!). It's an awesome Bible for girls 8-12--or for you too!

    TO SUPPORT US:

    Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work

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    FIND BETHANY:
    Free From Control on Instagram
    Bethany's website: Free From Control

    THINGS MENTIONED:

    How God Sees Women by Terran Williams
    Marg Mowczko on Bible Interpretations
    Our Series on the Danvers Statement

    Timestamps

    0.11 Intro

    11.30 Complimentarianism

    18.24 God Knows Best

    31.50 Control and Domination

    40.10 Wife as a Training Ground

    59.30 Are We Under Undue Influence

    Support the show

    Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

    Check out her books:

    The Great Sex Rescue

    She Deserves Better

    The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide

    The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex

    and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

    And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

    Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

  2. Episode 245: The Problems with The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace

    8 augustus 2024 · 1 uur 28 min

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    The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace sells like hotcakes in biblical counseling/ fundamentalist/ homeschooling circles, and even though it seems like a “fringe” book, it’s affecting tens of thousands of women. Today Marissa Burt and Tia Levings and I sit down to talk about the problems with this book that tells women they must obey their husbands and submit—no matter what.

    Our Sponsor:

    It's the Bible that lets girls see themselves in the story! The Kingdom Girls Bible from Zonderkidz--with profiles of all the women in the Bible (including many you may not have heard of!). It's an awesome Bible for girls 8-12--or for you too!

    To Support Us:

    Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work

    For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation

    And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

    Things Mentioned in the Podcast:

    Download our Onesheet on The Excellent Wife

    Our podcast on how Emerson Eggerichs misuses Scripture in Love & Respect

    Marissa’s post on 10 reasons parents have a hard time giving up spanking

    4 Concerns with Biblical Counseling

    About Tia Levings:

    Tia’s book, The Well-Trained Wife

    Find Tia on Instagram and Substack (as The Anti-Fundamentalist)

    Listen to last week’s podcast with Tia

    About Marissa Burt:

    Find Marissa on Instagram and X

    Read Marissa’s Substack

    Support the show

    Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

    Check out her books:

    The Great Sex Rescue

    She Deserves Better

    The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide

    The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex

    and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

    And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

    Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

  3. Episode 244: A Well-Trained Wife with Tia Levings

    1 augustus 2024 · 1 uur 26 min

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    She went to a flagship SBC church. She wasn’t supposed to get sucked into fundamentalism. But Tia ended up being stuck in an abusive marriage, trying to fix things by following advice from Gothard and more. It made her sick. It made her hopeless. But finally she realized, no one else is going to rescue us. I have to do this for me and the kids. And she did. Her story is riveting, touching, and relevant. Listen to a Well-Trained Wife!

    Our Sponsor:

    It's the Bible that lets girls see themselves in the story! The Kingdom Girls Bible from Zonderkidz--with profiles of all the women in the Bible (including many you may not have heard of!). It's an awesome Bible for girls 8-12--or for you too!

    To Support Us:

    Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work

    For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation

    And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

    About Tia Levings:

    Tia’s book, The Well-Trained Wife

    Find Tia on Instagram and Substack (as The Anti-Fundamentalist)

    Things Mentioned in the Podcast:

    Tia's reel on Fundie Baby Voice

    The Dallas area pastors who have had to resign

    Support the show

    Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

    Check out her books:

    The Great Sex Rescue

    She Deserves Better

    The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide

    The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex

    and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

    And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

    Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

  4. Episode 243: Modesty vs. Vanity: Maybe We Need to Shift the Conversation!

    25 juli 2024 · 57 min

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    The evangelical church spends a lot of time giving modesty messages to girls. But we hardly ever talk about vanity--even though the Bible condemns it. Could it be that in all our talk about modesty, we're inadvertently promoting vanity? And perhaps we can't call out vanity, because our messages to boys essentially enable vanity. Join Rebecca and Sheila as we hash this one out!

    With thanks to our sponsor:

    If church was your place of deepest hurt, can you find peace and healing with Christ? Check out Ryan George's book Hurt and Healed by the Church

    To Support Us:

    Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work

    For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation

    And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

    Things Mentioned in the Podcast:

    Our book She Deserves Better

    The Instagram channel HerCherch with all the cartoons

    Our Orgasm Course and Libido Course

    Our podcast looking at the long-term effects of the modesty message

    Why is Dannah Gresh calling 8-year-old bellies intoxicating?

    Our one-sheet on Lies Young Women Believe

    The reel from Our Savior's Church

    The side-by-side plagiarized apology from Josh Howerton

    Support the show

    Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

    Check out her books:

    The Great Sex Rescue

    She Deserves Better

    The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide

    The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex

    and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

    And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

    Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

  5. Episode 242: Spot the Propaganda and Logical Fallacies feat. Scott Coley

    18 juli 2024 · 1 uur

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    Ever heard people say, "The Bible is crystal clear" or "if you don't believe that, you don't believe the Bible?" Quite often people equate their interpretation of the Bible with the Bible itself--with bad results. Today Scott Coley joins us to talk about his new book Ministers of Propaganda, and to look at how many evangelical leaders have used logical fallacies to keep themselves at the top of the power hierarchy. Plus let's look at how to get back to the way of Jesus!

    With thanks to our sponsor:

    If church was your place of deepest hurt, can you find peace and healing with Christ? Check out Ryan George's book Hurt and Healed by the Church

    To Support Us:

    Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work

    For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation

    And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

    Things Mentioned in the Podcast:

    Find Scott Coley's book Ministers of Propaganda

    Find Scott on X

    Check out The Great Sex Rescue Toolkit

    Support the show

    Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

    Check out her books:

    The Great Sex Rescue

    She Deserves Better

    The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide

    The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex

    and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

    And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

    Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

  6. Episode 241: Both Hurt and Healed by the Church

    11 juli 2024 · 1 uur 7 min

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    What if the church hurt you terribly? Can you still heal? Today Ryan George joins us to talk about how his fundamentalist family covers up his father’s sexual abuse of others—and how Ryan eventually learned the truth and turned his father in. And then Ryan deconstructed so much of what he had been taught—and found the real Jesus. Join us as Ryan George talks about his book Hurt and Healed by the Church.

    About Ryan's Book

    Ryan’s book Hurt and Healed by the Church

    Find all of Ryan's books

    To Support Us:

    Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work

    For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation

    And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

    Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

    Check out her books:

    The Great Sex Rescue

    She Deserves Better

    The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex

    and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

    And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

    Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

    Support the show

    Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

    Check out her books:

    The Great Sex Rescue

    She Deserves Better

    The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide

    The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex

    and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

    And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

    Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

  7. Episode 240: Breaking Away from Christian Patriarchy (feat. Cait West) plus Why People Deconstruct

    4 juli 2024 · 1 uur 14 min

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    What happens when your family gets sucked into fundamentalism, and your father insists on controlling your life, including who you will marry? You grow up under Christian patriarchy, and you experience serious emotional abuse. Today Cait West joins us to talk about her absolutely beautiful memoir Rift, about how and why she had to break free. Then Keith and I talk about why people are deconstructing, and why it’s so desperately important to listen to stories like Cait’s.

    About Cait West:

    Find Cait’s book Rift

    Find Cait on Twitter and Threads

    To Support Us:

    Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work

    For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation

    And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

    Things Mentioned in the Podcast:

    Our post on 8 things to know about deconstruction

    Our book The Great Sex Rescue

    The Great Sex Rescue Toolkit to help people understand why certain teachings hurt people

    Support the show

    Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

    Check out her books:

    The Great Sex Rescue

    She Deserves Better

    The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide

    The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex

    and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

    And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

    Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

  8. Episode 239: Who Are Exvangelicals? feat. Sarah McCammon

    27 juni 2024 · 59 min

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    People who deconstruct are often accused of never believing in the first place, or of just wanting to sin. But those who deconstruct are often those who have been hurt the most by toxic teachings. Today Sarah McCammon joins us to talk about who are “ex-vangelicals”, and her own story of deconstruction. And then Keith and I talk about what it means to create a safe and just community that honors people’s fears, betrayals, and concerns.

    About Sarah McCammon:

    Find Sarah's book The Exvangelicals on Amazon

    Follow Sarah on Substack

    To Support Us:

    Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work

    For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation

    And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

    Things Mentioned in this Podcast:

    Our book She Deserves Better

    The Great Sex Rescue Toolkit to help people understand why certain teachings hurt people

    Marg Mowczko's site analyzing the biblical passages pertaining to women

    The saga of Robert Morris’ abuse, from Dee at Wartburg Watch who broke the story

    Larry Linn’s Twitter thread about righteousness

    Support the show

    Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

    Check out her books:

    The Great Sex Rescue

    She Deserves Better

    The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide

    The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex

    and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

    And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

    Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

  9. Episode 238: The Problems with Lies Young Women Believe by Dannah Gresh and Nancy Wolgemuth

    20 juni 2024 · 1 uur 41 min

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    Why is a frequenty-used book in teen girls' Bible studies focusing on Satan and not Jesus?

    A deep dive into the book Lies Young Women Believe by Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth and Dannah Gresh. Let's see what is being taught to teen girls--and why it's so problematic. We can do better, church!

    Get our Downloadable One Sheet of the problems with the book Lies Young Women Believe:

    Thanks to our sponsor, the book The Sex Talk You Never Got by Sam Jolman

    And listen to our interview with Sam about the book!

    To Support Us:

    Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work

    For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation

    And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

    Things Mentioned in this Podcast:

    Our podcasts about the book Lies Women Believe: Part 1 and its treatment of abuse and Part 2 and its portrayal of God

    Our downloadable onesheet about Lies Women Believe

    Our book She Deserves Better

    Our podcast going over the problems with how Dannah Gresh teaches about modesty

    Why do women support modesty messages?

    Dannah Gresh's submission quiz

    About Johnna Harris

    Follow her on Instagram and X, and find her podcast Bodies Behind the Bus

    Support the show

    Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

    Check out her books:

    The Great Sex Rescue

    She Deserves Better

    The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide

    The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex

    and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

    And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

    Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

  10. Episode 237: Do We Have to Frame All Dads as Heroes?

    13 juni 2024 · 1 uur 8 min

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    Every Father’s Day, there’s a rallying cry in many conservative evangelical spaces that men are losing out and fathers are under attack. Where’s the truth in this? And what are the problems with talking about marriage like this? Plus we rewrite Harrison Butker’s commencement speech!

    Thanks to our sponsor, the book The Sex Talk You Never Got by Sam Jolman

    And listen to our interview with Sam about the book!

    To Support Us:

    Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work

    For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation

    And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

    Things Mentioned in this Podcast:

    Focus on the Family Broadcast, Finding the Hero in Your Husband (Part 1)

    Harrison Butker Speech and Transcript

    Our Bare Marriage podcast on the idea that women talk too much (put forward by Focus on the Family under James Dobson)

    My post from last Father’s Day about framing your husband as the hero

    Support the show

    Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

    Check out her books:

    The Great Sex Rescue

    She Deserves Better

    The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide

    The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex

    and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

    And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

    Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

  11. Episode 236: The Sex Talk You Never Got with Sam Jolman

    6 juni 2024 · 1 uur 2 min

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    What if purity culture didn’t just steal sexual health from women, but stole it from men too? What does it mean for a man to have healthy sexuality? Today licensed counselor Sam Jolman joins us for The Sex Talk You Never Got.

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    Things Mentioned in the Podcast:

    The Sex Talk You Never Got by Sam Jolman: https://amzn.to/4aRrShp

    Find Sam on Instagram

    The Boost Your Libido Course: https://baremarriage.com/boost-libido-course/

    All about New River Fellowship Church:

    New River Fellowship

    Facebook

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    Pastor Joey Willis, Lead Pastor at New River Fellowship in Hudson Oaks, Texas.

    Support the show

    Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

    Check out her books:

    The Great Sex Rescue

    She Deserves Better

    The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide

    The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex

    and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

    And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

    Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

  12. Episode 235: Wolves, Chimpanzees, and Deer: Let’s confront the Alpha Male Myth

    2 mei 2024 · 1 uur 2 min

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    Evangelical conservatives too often portray masculinity as if men are supposed to be the “Alpha male”—aloof, emotionless, vying for control, and bullying. Today we look at how, even in nature, this concept of the Alpha Male has been overblown. And we present a better picture.

    To Support Us:

    Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work

    For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation

    And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

    Things mentioned in the podcast:

    Let Men Be Men podcasts, and Let Men Be Dads

    Josh Howerton about Evangelical Honeymoons

    The Desiring God article where Greg Morse bemoans all the safe men

    The TED Talk from Frans de Waal about Alpha Males

    Rick Pidcock analyses the Stronger Men’s Conference with Mark Driscoll’s “Jezebel” outburst

    This week’s article on turning the other cheek

    All about New River Fellowship Church

    New River Fellowship

    Facebook

    Instagram

    Pastor Joey Willis, Lead Pastor at New River Fellowship in Hudson Oaks, Texas.

    Support the show

    Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

    Check out her books:

    The Great Sex Rescue

    She Deserves Better

    The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide

    The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex

    and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

    And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

    Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

  13. Episode 234: Pastors’ Wives Spill the Tea on Church Life—and the search for authenticity and friendship

    25 april 2024 · 1 uur 7 min

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    Church is messy. Friendships are hard to find. Life in a fishbowl is awkward. But what if…it’s worth it? Such a great convo with Stephanie, Jessica, and Jenna about their new book Pastors’ Wives Tell All!

    Whether you're a pastors' wife, or a female pastor yourself, living life in a fishbowl can be hard. We talk about parenting, marriage, and finding friends when you're in church ministry.

    Things mentioned in the Podcast:

    Pastors’ Wives Tell All: Pre-order Here

    Get Your Preorder Bonuses

    Find out everything that’s happening at their website

    Follow Pastors’ Wives Tell All on Instagram

    Support the show

    Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

    Check out her books:

    The Great Sex Rescue

    She Deserves Better

    The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide

    The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex

    and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

    And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

    Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

  14. Episode 233: The Backlash from Those Defending Purity Culture feat. Zachary Wagner

    18 april 2024 · 1 uur 5 min

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    With the release of so many books critiquing purity culture, what has the backlash been like? Well, let’s talk about it with Zachary Wagner, the author of Non-Toxic Masculinity as we celebrate the one-year anniversary of the launch of She Deserves Better.

    To Support Us:

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    And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

    About Zachary Wagner:

    Find Zachary's book Non-Toxic Masculinity

    Find Zachary on Instagram

    Things Mentioned in the Podcast:

    Our book She Deserves Better!

    Zachary's response to the review from Shane Morris on The Gospel Coalition

    Bob and Dannah Gresh's appearance at Cedarville University

    Information about Dannah calling 8-year-old's bellies intoxicating

    Fred Stoeker's appearance on Focus on the Family

    Matthew West's podcast discussing Modest is Hottest

    Support the show

    Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

    Check out her books:

    The Great Sex Rescue

    She Deserves Better

    The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide

    The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex

    and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

    And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

    Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

  15. Episode 232: When Submission "Cults" Groom for Abuse: One Woman's Story

    11 april 2024 · 1 uur 4 min

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    We've got such a compelling interview with Lauren Rose from Called to Peace Ministries. She's telling her story--and it's a mesmerizing one--of what happened as her family got more and more into the Bill Gothard movement (and she was eventually one of the ones he allegedly abused, and was part of the lawsuit).

    But when you grow up feeling like your main role is to submit, are you even able to recognize abuse?

    Lauren tells her story of being in an abusive marriage, and how she eventually realized something was wrong and came out of it.

    (Also: at the beginning I quoted a Bible passage and said Matthew 18. I meant Matthew 15. Sorry!)

    Our Sponsor:

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    To Support Us:

    Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work

    For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation

    And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

    About Lauren Rose and Called to Peace:

    Called to Peace Ministries

    Find Called to Peace on Facebook, including my interview on how Sexual Coercion is Domestic Abuse

    Things Mentioned in the Podcast:

    Our podcast with another Gothard Survivor, Emily Elizabeth

    Our interview with Alyssa Wakefield, who grew up in a Gothard home and was groomed for abuse (Part 1, and Part 2).

    Our podcast episode 229 with Jay Stringer about Josh Howerton's wedding night advice

    My Twitter thread about Josh Howerton's "apology"

    The original thread that went viral, as well as a viral follow-up dealing with Josh's comments

    Support the show

    Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

    Check out her books:

    The Great Sex Rescue

    She Deserves Better

    The Marriage …

  16. Episode 231: Are We Saying that Wives Don't Have to Have Sex?

    4 april 2024 · 51 min

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    When we talk about how God made sex to be mutual, intimate, and pleasurable for both, and how, if women don't want sex, the answer is to figure out why, we invariably get people saying, "so you think women don't have to have sex then?"

    Today on the podcast we look at the 90% problem vs. the 10% problem. In 90% of cases where women don't want sex, there's a reason. Let's focus mostly on the 90%! But guess what? We actually talk about the 10% too!

    Our Sponsor:

    The book Forgiveness After Trauma. A victim-centered approach to what forgiveness looks like after betrayal. Rather than pressuring a victim to forgive, let's examine what Scripture says about lament, anger, accountability, and what reconciliation looks like. I was so, so blown away by this book, and saw things in Scripture I never saw before. Check out Susannah Griffith's story, and this amazing book.

    To Support Us:

    Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work

    For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation

    And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

    The Products We Mentioned:

    Our book The Great Sex Rescue

    The Orgasm Course

    The Boost Your Libido Course

    Things Mentioned in the Podcast:

    Our podcast on obligation sex, and the post that goes along with it

    The podcast where we discuss Emerson Eggerichs saying you can't tell if a woman is aroused--and a follow-up podcast going into more detail on how evangelical writers portray female orgasm

    More podcasts on libido: 3 ways to talk about libido differences, and have we made sex into a yes space for men?

    Support the show

    Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

    Check out her books:

    The Great Sex Rescue

    She Deserves Better

    The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide

    The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex

    and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

    And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

    Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, …

  17. Episode 230: Why Evangelical Honeymoons Go So Badly feat. Jay Stringer

    28 maart 2024 · 57 min

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    Recently Texas SBC megachurch pastor Josh Howerton told brides that on the wedding night, they should "stand where he wants you to stand, wear what he wants you to wear, and do what he wants you to do." Sex was presented as something that HE has been waiting for his whole life, and that she has to provide. There was no emphasis on how she actually has greater need to be cared for sexually, if you're going to begin well, than he does. Jay Stringer joins us today to talk about how the conversation around sex often leads to couples starting off badly--and also allows men to not have to grow up or do the work of being mature, emotionally healthy people.

    Our Sponsor:

    The book Forgiveness After Trauma. A victim-centered approach to what forgiveness looks like after betrayal. Rather than pressuring a victim to forgive, let's examine what Scripture says about lament, anger, accountability, and what reconciliation looks like. I was so, so blown away by this book, and saw things in Scripture I never saw before. Check out Susannah Griffith's story, and this amazing book.

    To Support Us:

    Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work

    For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation

    And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

    About Jay Stringer:

    Check out Jay's book Unwanted

    Find Jay on Instagram

    Learn more about the upcoming Sexual Attachment Conference

    Links We Mentioned:

    Jay's first podcast with us on his book Unwanted

    Our book The Great Sex Rescue, with the stats on vaginismus and sexual pain

    Our books for engaged couples, The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

    Our podcast looking at Josh and Jana's Howerton's sex talk

    The podcast showing how Josh Howerton plagiarizes in his sermons

    The Orgasm Course

    The Marriage Night at Lakepointe Church Howerton was referring to

    The study on the effects of orgasm the first time you have sex…

  18. Episode 229: A Victim-Centered Approach to Forgiveness After Trauma

    21 maart 2024 · 56 min

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    Forgiveness is so often weaponized against victims in the church. But what does the Bible really say about forgiveness, especially when trauma is involved? How can we value our own mental health but also follow Jesus? This is a fascinating and healing conversation with Susannah Griffith, author of Forgiveness After Trauma.

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    Susannah Griffith’s book Forgiveness After Trauma

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  19. Episode 228: How Our Stories Influence Our Marriage Choices feat. Natalie Hoffman

    14 maart 2024 · 1 uur 7 min

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    Natalie Hoffman joins us today to talk about her INCREDIBLE memoir All the Scary Little Gods. Natalie escaped an abusive marriage, and now coaches other women in similar situations. In her memoir, she invites us to listen to the story from the point of view of Little Natalie, and using IFS (Internal Family Systems) to see it from all of her parts. And as we understand our stories, we make it so that we won't recreate the problems.

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    Links We Mentioned:

    Natalie Hoffman’s book All the Scary Little Gods

    Natalie’s website Flying Free, and her Flying Free podcast

    The first podcast Natalie did with me–how Christian books made me stay in an abusive marriage

    Natalie joined us on our podcast about the book Lies Women Believe

    Richard Schwartz' book No Bad Parts

    Jenna Riemersma's book on IFS Altogether You

    Future Speaking Events:
    Belleville, ON: St. Thomas Anglican Church in Belleville, Ontario is throwing a party for us to celebrate The Great Sex Rescue and She Deserves Better! March 23, 2:30-4:30 pm. Q&A, crafts with toxic books, and more.
    More information here.

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    The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex

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    And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

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  20. Episode 227: Are We Creating a Strawman out of Complementarianism? We Respond to Critics

    7 maart 2024 · 1 uur 5 min

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    So many people resist admitting that they are actually egalitarians, because they think they have to be complementarian--even if they don't act like it. Today Sheila and her husband Keith dissect the arguments that are often used to say "we're really complementarian"--even when they're objectively not. And we invite people instead to preach what they practice.

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    Things Mentioned in the Podcast:

    The Council for Biblical Manhood and Womanhood's statement

    Our podcast with Nancy Pearcey where we explain how complementarians act as egalitarians

    The interview with Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth and Robert Wolgemuth

    The Great Sex Rescue, with our findings about decision-making

    Rebecca Groothuis' article about equality

    Jonathan Leeman's article (and video) about a husband's authority

    Resources about the Biblical Argument for Equality:

    Marg Mowczko's site--amazing short articles on virtually every bible passage about gender.

    Our podcast with Philip Payne, and his book The Bible vs. Biblical Womanhood

    Terran Williams' book How God Sees Women

    Terran Williams' series refuting Mike Winger's videos

    Julie Zine Coleman's book On Purpose

    Future Speaking Events:
    Grand Rapids, MI: Sheila and Rebecca will be at Calvin University on March 13 and 14 . March 13 at 4:30; March 13 at 7 pm for a panel discussion; and March 14 at 7 pm. More details here.

    Belleville, ON: St. Thomas Anglican Church in Belleville, Ontario is throwing a party for us to celebrate The Great Sex Rescue and She Deserves Better! March 23, 2:30-4:30 pm. Q&A, crafts with toxic books, and more.

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    The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide

    The Good …

  21. Episode 226: What We've Learned 3 Years After Great Sex Rescue

    29 februari 2024 · 1 uur 10 min

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    The Great Sex Rescue turns 3 this week! And it's been a super eventful three years. So much has changed. So let's talk about the feedback we've had, what we've done since, what people are saying--and where we're going from here.

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    Things Mentioned in the Podcast:

    The Great Sex Rescue! Learn more, or get it right from Amazon.

    Our Healthy Sexuality Rubric where we scored the books we looked at for The Great Sex Rescue.

    The Great Sex Rescue Toolkit to tell others about our findings

    Our podcast where we discussed how the authors we critiqued had responded to The Great Sex Rescue.

    The article on Julie Roys' site about Focus on the Family deleting comments on the Reel where Juli Slattery used our talking points.

    Juli Slattery's reel on Focus on the Family's Instagram page

    The Bodies Behind the Bus podcast where Joy tells her story about The Great Sex Rescue (we're near the end) (and here's part 2!)

    Future Speaking Events:
    Grand Rapids, MI: Sheila and Rebecca will be at Calvin University on March 13 and 14 . March 13 at 4:30; March 13 at 7 pm for a panel discussion; and March 14 at 7 pm. More details here.

    Belleville, ON: St. Thomas Anglican Church in Belleville, Ontario is throwing a party for us to celebrate The Great Sex Rescue and She Deserves Better! We'll have blackout poetry crafts and other paper crafts to do with toxic books (bring them along!), a silent auction, a Q&A, and more. March 23, 2:30 - 5:00 pm. All welcome.

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  22. Episode 225: Do You Even Want This Kind of Marriage?

    22 februari 2024 · 57 min

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    Would our reaction to Christian marriage advice change if we realize how many people who write that advice are actually in abusive or destructive marriages? What if people in those marriages are more drawn to write marriage advice to process how they're feeling?

    Today we look at two different women that Focus on the Family have held up to be emulated. One is a woman who has written prolifically for them, and when you look at her articles and what she reveals about her relationship, a TON of red flags are present. The other is a woman whose husband was jailed for domestic violence, but then she prayed, he repented, and now they lead Love & Respect seminars together. And Focus on the Family thinks this is a positive message.

    Today Sheila Gregoire is joined by her husband Keith and by abuse educator Sarah McDugal.

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    Things Mentioned in the Podcast:

    The article in the Revealer about Elisabeth Elliot's marriage

    My article detailing Focus on the Family's Facebook post praising the man who was jailed for domestic violence, as well as the letter I sent to Jim Daly

    My article on TradWife influencers and my concern for them

    Our podcast on Power of a Praying Wife

    Our one sheet download on Love & Respect

    Focus on the Family's article "It's the Little Things"

    Our Open Letter to Focus on the Family

    Find Sarah McDugal:

    Follow Sarah on Facebook

    Find her at Wilderness to Wild

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  23. Episode 224: Lies Women Believe Part 2: Is God a Monster?

    15 februari 2024 · 1 uur 16 min

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    Lies Women Believe by Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth taught concerning things about shame, trauma, and even what God is like. On today's podcast, we're joined by Becky Castle Miller, a doctoral student looking at emotions in the Bible, and Helen Blake, a licensed counselor in Sydney, Australia, to discuss some of the damaging teachings--and point us to a Jesus who understands and sympathizes with our struggles.

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    Our Downloadable Onesheet:
    Download our One Sheet on Lies Women Believe, looking at the problems with the book

    Other Things We Talked About:

    Last week's podcast on Part 1 of Lies Women Believe

    Find Becky Castle Miller on Instagram

    Scot McKnight's book King Jesus Gospel

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  24. Episode 223: The Problems with Lies Women Believe by Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth

    8 februari 2024 · 1 uur 28 min

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    Lies Women Believe by Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth is one of the most popular women’s bible study books used in churches across North America. But what does the book actually teach about marriage? About sex? About divorce and abuse? It’s scary, and today Gretchen Baskerville and Natalie Hoffman join host Sheila Wray Gregoire to analyze the harmful messages in Lies Women Believe.

    Things Mentioned in the Podcast:

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    Our Downloadable Onesheet:
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    Natalie Hoffman's Information:
    Natalie’s Podcast Flying Free, and her website
    Natalie Hoffman’s book Is It Me: Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage

    Gretchen Baskerville's Information:
    Gretchen Baskerville’s site The Lifesaving Divorce:
    Gretchen Baskerville’s YouTube channel:
    Gretchen’s book The Lifesaving Divorce

    Other Resources
    Our podcast on The Power of a Praying Wife (featuring Gretchen):
    Our podcast telling Natalie’s story:
    Our book She Deserves Better, which deals with Nancy Leigh DeMoss’ book Lies Young Women Believe:

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    The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide

    The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex

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    And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

    Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

  25. Episode 222: How Sex Is Like Chef Boyardee–and Other New Research Findings!

    1 februari 2024 · 56 min

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    The Orgasm Course (there’s also an add-on for husbands)

    She Deserves Better book

    The Studies We Looked At:
    Time Use and Feelings of Love

    “Women Get Worse Sex: A Confound in the Explanation of Gender Differences in Sexuality

    “Popular Psychology Through a Scientific Lens: Evaluating Love Languages From a Relationship Science Perspective”

    “Gender Inequities in Household Labor Predict Lower Desire”,

    How to Understand Statistics Podcast (and how statistics can be misused):

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  26. Episode 221: Let Men Be Dads! Why Do So Many Evangelical Resources Portray Men as Pathetic Dads?

    25 januari 2024 · 1 uur 7 min

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    Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work https://patreon.com/baremarriage

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    Sign up for Rebecca’s Friday emails: http://eepurl.com/z0VFn

    The Great Sex Rescue: https://baremarriage.com/great-sex-rescue/

    The Good Guy’s Guide to Great Sex: https://baremarriage.com/good-girls-guys-guide-great-sex/

    Gary’s article “Young Husband: It Might Not be Her; It Might be Her Situation” https://garythomas.com/2017/06/29/young-husband-might-not-might-situation/

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    The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex

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    And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

    Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

  27. Episode 220: Why is Emerson Eggerichs Afraid of Women Talking? A Deep Dive into Love & Respect

    18 januari 2024 · 53 min

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    Emerson Eggerichs’ reel where he talks about relationships https://www.instagram.com/reel/CxL4Lm6pDo7/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

    Our summary of the issues with Love & Respect https://baremarriage.com/2023/01/summary-problems-love-and-respect-emerson-eggerichs/

    Our Open Letter to Focus on the Family about Love & Respect https://baremarriage.com/2020/01/open-letter-focus-on-the-family-love-respect-emerson-eggerichs/

    (All of our other posts are linked there)

    Our podcast looking at the way he downplayed abuse in a sermon series at Houston First Baptist Church https://baremarriage.com/2021/03/podcast-on-emerson-eggerichs-gaslighting-emotional-abuse-victims-and-stop-seeing-women-as-dangerous/

    Our look at how Emerson Eggerichs misuses Scripture in Love & Respect

    https://baremarriage.com/2023/01/emerson-eggerichs-twists-scripture-love-respect/

    The problems with hierarchy in marriage (Keith’s Danvers statement series) https://baremarriage.com/2023/06/danvers-statement-series-complementarian-problem-1-men-dominating-their-wives/

    Check out Andrew Bauman’s Christian Counseling Center for Sexual Health and Trauma: https://christiancc.org/

    Andrew J. Bauman’s website https://andrewjbauman.com, or follow him on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/AndrewJamesBauman

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    And she has an Orgas…

  28. Episode 219: Let Men be Men - Because We Believe Men are Great!

    11 januari 2024 · 1 uur 2 min

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    Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month, and get access to our Facbook group, unfiltered podcasts, and more!

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    Join our email list so you don't miss one of Rebecca's great Friday emails, or any chances to be in new surveys, etc.

    Mark Gungor's clip about preferring a dog to a wife who talks to you

    The Halo 3 study about female voiced players

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    And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

    Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

  29. Episode 218: Let’s Pivot to Healthy Churches feat. Scot McKnight & Laura Barringer

    14 december 2023 · 1 uur

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    Links to things mentioned:

    Partner with us at Good Fruit Faith, an initiative of the Bosko Foundation, as we help impact future church leaders with our data and our message (tax receiptable within the U.S.): https://secure.qgiv.com/for/goodfruits

    Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month and get access to unfiltered podcasts! https://patreon.com/baremarriage

    Find Scot McKnight and Laura Barringer’s book Pivot: https://amzn.to/3ToOKiV, along with their first book together A Church Called Tov: https://amzn.to/41nRsrd

    Our first podcast together about their book A Church Called Tov: https://baremarriage.com/2021/04/podcast-a-church-called-tov-and-matthew-18/

    Find Scot McKnight’s New Testament bible study series: https://amzn.to/46Zc5uW

    Laura Barringer on Threads: https://www.threads.net/@lauraebarringer

    Scot McKnight on Threads: https://www.threads.net/@scotandkris

    Me on Threads! https://www.threads.net/@sheilagregoire

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  30. Episode 217: When Religion Hurts You feat. Laura Anderson

    7 december 2023 · 1 uur 2 min

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    Links to things mentioned:

    Our marriage survey is still open! We’re looking for married couples to take it. https://baremarriage.com/grim

    Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month, and get access to our incredible Facebook group, unfiltered podcasts, and more! https://patreon.com/baremarriage

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    Laura Anderson’s book When Religion Hurts You https://amzn.to/3sB0Zhs

    Find Laura on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drlauraeanderson/

    Our Merch: order before December 10 to use it as Christmas gifts! https://sheilawraygregoire.com/product-category/merchandise/

    Our book She Deserves Better, outlining some of the trauma messages teen girls receive, and our book The Great Sex Rescue, outlining vaginismus as a potential trauma response

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    And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

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  31. Episode 216: Perceived Autonomy vs. Actual Autonomy: It’s Okay to Say No to Controlling Church Spaces

    30 november 2023 · 58 min

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    Things mentioned in this podcast:

    Our survey link! Couples are invited to take our marriage survey (you take it individually and it’s confidential): https://baremarriage.com/grim

    Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month and help support our research and our work! https://patreon.com/baremarriage

    Join our email list and get Rebecca’s awesome Friday emails as well as a roundup of our best posts and podcasts: http://eepurl.com/z0VFn

    Sarah’s Wilderness to Wild program: https://wildernesstowild.com

    No Eden Elsewhere blog talking about small group abuse at Watermark Church: https://noedenelsewhere.com/the-aftermath-stories-from-former-watermark-church-members/

    Dee Parsons from The Wartburg Watch on why you shouldn’t sign a membership covenant: https://thewartburgwatch.com/2023/09/11/smart-christians-need-to-think-carefully-before-joining-a-church-with-a-membership-covenant-which-is-a-legal-contract/ and how to resign from a membership covenant: https://thewartburgwatch.com/permpage-how-to-resign-from-a-church-whether-or-not-you-are-under-church-discipline/

    Our podcast with Naghmeh Panahi: https://baremarriage.com/2023/10/naghmeh-panahi-bullied-leaving-abusive-marriage-podcast/

    Biblical Counseling post on 98 ways you can sign against your husband: https://baremarriage.com/2019/06/sinning-against-husband/

    The consent form you sign for biblical counseling: https://baremarriage.com/2019/03/question-your-biblical-counsellor/

    John MacArthur Sermon Clip: https://www.gty.org/library/sermons-library/70-54/bible-questions-and-answers-part-77

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  32. Episode 215: A Jesus-Centered Faith vs. Nationalism feat. Andrew Whitehead

    22 november 2023 · 56 min

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    Our Merch makes great Christmas gifts! Order before December 11 to guarantee delivery by Christmas: https://sheilawraygregoire.com/product-category/merchandise/

    Andrew Whitehead’s book American Idolatry: https://amzn.to/3SubmhI, and Andrew Whitehead’s book with Sam Perry, Taking Back America for God https://amzn.to/3FU84Ne

    Join Andrew’s substack! https://andrewwhitehead.substack.com/

    Follow Andrew on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/ndrewwhitehead/

    Listen to Andrew’s 4 part series on Christian nationalism: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/american-idols/id1706355168

    Our book (co-authored with Joanan Sawatsky) The Great Sex Rescue https://baremarriage.com/great-sex-rescue/

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    And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

    Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

  33. Episode 214: What if Momma Ain’t Happy? Why It’s Okay to Sweat the Small Stuff

    16 november 2023 · 56 min

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    Links to things mentioned:

    Our survey link! Couples are invited to take our marriage survey (you take it individually and it’s confidential):
    https://baremarriage.com/grim/

    Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month and help support our research and our work! https://patreon.com/baremarriage

    The article where you can find the Elisabeth Elliot quote on the essence of femininity: https://www.crossway.org/articles/the-essence-of-femininity/

    Holly Furtick’s reel on being grumpy: https://www.instagram.com/reel/CtnHKVJOOOI/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

    Holly Furtick’s reel on not fussing and just praying:

    https://www.instagram.com/reel/Cm1oSdNBGB3/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

    The study on why sweating the small stuff is important:

    https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/18361676/

    Get help for religious OCD at NOCD.com -- Licensed therapists using evidence-based techniques.
    https://nocd.com

    John Gottman’s book The 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work:

    https://amzn.to/3Mxzc8h

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  34. Episode 213: Stained Glass Ceilings: How the church does gender ft. Lisa Swartz

    9 november 2023 · 59 min

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  35. Episode 212: Do Women Really Initiate 70% of Divorces for Frivolous Reasons?

    2 november 2023 · 58 min

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    The study on how men are six times more likely to leave when one spouse is diagnosed with a life-altering disease: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/19645027/

    She Divorced Me Because I Left Dishes in the Sink: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/she-divorced-me-i-left-dishes-by-the-sink_b_9055288 Plus Matthew Fray's book This Is How Your Marriage Ends: https://amzn.to/45PSM6w

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    The study that found that women do more housework the more they out-earn their husbands: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3028208/

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  36. Episode 211: Bullied for Leaving an Abusive Husband ft. Naghmeh Panahi

    26 oktober 2023 · 1 uur 10 min

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  37. Episode 210: The Enneagram and Marriage ft. Christa Hardin

    19 oktober 2023 · 57 min

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  38. Episode 209: Why Don't Evangelical Sex Teachers Know What They Don't Know?

    12 oktober 2023 · 1 uur 9 min

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    Kristin Kobes Du Mez' Twitter thread: https://twitter.com/kkdumez/status/1709746160120795295
    Josh Howerton's sermon where the clip came from: https://subspla.sh/c7tmk53 (starting around timestamp 12:30)
    Last week's podcast with Terran Williams on changing his mind and the impact on his family: https://baremarriage.com/2023/10/terran-williams-sets-out-to-prove-complementarianism/
    Tim Little's bio at Faith Baptist Theological Seminary: https://faith.edu/faculty/dr-tim-little/
    Gary Thomas' article where he misunderstands modern neuroscience: https://garythomasbooks.substack.com/p/every-mans-battle-yes-and-every-womans
    Our podcast where Rebecca and Connor go over the meta-analysis on the differences between male and female brains: https://baremarriage.com/2021/09/pink-brains-blue-brains-gender-differences-neuroscience-podcast/ And the 2019 meta-analysis that we quoted from: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6681749/ and the 2021 meta-analysis: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0149763421000804
    Rachel Joy Welcher's review of Shannon Harris' memoir in Christianity Today: https://www.christianitytoday.com/ct/2023/september-web-only/shannon-harris-woman-they-wanted-memoir-purity-culture.html
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  39. Episode 208: What Happens When a Pastor Sets Out to Prove Complementarianism? ft. Terran Williams

    5 oktober 2023 · 56 min

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    Terran’s series on Mike Winger’s videos on complementarianism/egalitarianism: https://terranwilliams.com/what-winger-presently-gets-wrong-egalitarian-silver-bullet-galatians-328/ (all of his articles are linked at the bottom of this one)

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  40. Episode 207: The Ultimate Anti 'Obligation Sex' Episode

    28 september 2023 · 1 uur 1 min

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    Our Obligation Sex Series that has run all month:

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    Our 4-Step Plan to Rebuild after Obligation Sex:

    https://baremarriage.com/2022/11/the-sex-recovery-series-4-point-plan-to-rebuild-your-sex-life/

    10 Questions to Ask if Your Wife Doesn’t Want Sex:

    https://baremarriage.com/2020/09/10-questions-for-husbands-to-ask-if-your-wife-doesnt-want-sex/

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  41. Episode 206: A Deep Dive into 'For Women Only' by Shaunti Feldhahn ft. Meghan Tschanz + Devi Abraham

    21 september 2023 · 1 uur 28 min

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    Our post that does a deep dive in the problematic survey questions that Shaunti Feldhahn asks:

    https://baremarriage.com/2021/01/fixed-it-for-you-we-fix-a-survey-question-so-it-doesnt-enable-date-rape/

    Find Meghan Tschanz’s podcast series on For Women Only: Part 1; Part 2; Part 3; Part 4

    https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/bonus-episode-for-women-only-part-1/id1438368947?i=1000625676862

    https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/for-women-only-part-2/id1438368947?i=1000626549865

    https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/for-women-only-part-3/id1438368947?i=1000627185380

    https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/for-women-only-part-4/id1438368947?i=1000628046603

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    https://open.spotify.com/episode/18eiTmiHvMimq3Oog80lq1

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    We take apart the “love and respect survey question at the end of this podcast:

    https://baremarriage.com/2020/12/unconditional-respect-in-marriage-is-wrong-podcast/

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  42. Episode 205: Do Complementarian Men Make the Best Husbands? A response to Nancy Pearcey

    14 september 2023 · 1 uur 22 min

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    Our op ed with Baptist News that goes over the points in this podcast: https://baptistnews.com/article/do-complementarian-men-do-better-a-response-to-nancy-pearcey/

    Our initial article responding to Josh Howerton's claim that conservative evangelicals have the best sex and marriages

    https://baptistnews.com/article/do-conservative-evangelicals-enjoy-better-sex-and-marriage-a-response-to-josh-howerton/

    Our podcast going over these same points (for those who would rather listen!):

    https://baremarriage.com/2022/04/podcast-do-christians-have-better-sex-lives-a-response-to-josh-howerton/

    Leonardo Cruz' critique of how Nancy Pearcey handled history scholars https://leo-cruz.medium.com/nancy-pearcey-pt1-44f98c2a3602

    Our book The Great Sex Rescue, based on our survey of 20,000 women https://baremarriage.com/great-sex-rescue/

    The IFS report that showed that conservative highly religious men were far more likely to perpetrate intimate partner violence (p. 36):

    https://ifstudies.org/ifs-admin/resources/reports/worldfamilymap-2019-051819.pdf

    The book The Scandal of the Evangelical Mind

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  43. Episode 204: Untangling Toxic Teachings on Suffering ft. Rebecca Davis

    7 september 2023 · 1 uur 4 min

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    My article that Rebecca Davis quotes in her book: https://baremarriage.com/2020/07/submission-debi-pearl-created-to-be-his-helpmeet-abuse

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  44. Episode 203: Parenting without Yelling: Discipline & Kindness Can Go Together! ft. Wendy Snyder

    31 augustus 2023 · 1 uur 5 min

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    https://baremarriage.com/2022/05/podcast-connection-not-punishment-a-better-way-to-parent-feat-wendy-snyder/

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  45. Episode 202: The Barbie Movie, South Korean Women, and the Evangelical Church

    24 augustus 2023 · 55 min

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    The Instagram Reel on Ken vs. Allan:

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    The Atlantic: The real reason South Korean women aren't having babies: https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2023/03/south-korea-fertility-rate-misogyny-feminism/673435/

    The New York Times: Women in South Korea are on Strike Against Being Baby-Making Machines https://www.nytimes.com/2023/01/27/opinion/south-korea-fertility-rate-feminism.html

    Carolyn Custis James' book Malestrom https://amzn.to/47HWqSh

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  46. Episode 201: What Does a Biblical Marriage Look Like?

    17 augustus 2023 · 1 uur 8 min

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    N.T. Wright's book How God Became King, and Rachel Held Evans' book Inspired: Slaying Giants, Walking on Water, and Loving the Bible Again

    The article from Desiring God that tells women to gaslight themselves

    Our podcast on how Emerson Eggerichs misuses Scripture, and our post outlining the main ways in detail

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  47. Episode 200 Special! - Our "Brio Magazine Deep Dive" PJ Party!

    13 juli 2023 · 59 min

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  48. Episode 199: Jane Austen, Pride & Prejudice, and Marriage Advice!

    6 juli 2023 · 1 uur 11 min

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  49. Episode 198: The 4 Ways Complementarian Marriages Can Go Wrong (Keith Takes on the Danvers Statement)

    29 juni 2023 · 1 uur 2 min

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    Keith's Danvers Statement posts--Start here.

    Emerson Eggerichs warns against wives following into sin (watch the first few video clips and see his emotional response)

    Our Power of a Praying Wife podcast and download

    The Gospel Coalition's Instagram Reel about men being passive

    Our podcasts with Philip Payne: Part 1 and Part 2

    Check out Marg Mowczko's amazing website

    Why having the husband make the final decision can be a harmful shortcut

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  50. Episode 197: How The Power of a Praying Wife Can Go Horribly Wrong

    22 juni 2023 · 1 uur 20 min

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    A Synopsis of all the problems in Power of a Praying Wife--with an optional download

    Gretchen Baskerville at the Life-Saving Divorce, and her book The Life-Saving Divorce. Follow her on Facebook and YouTube.

    Gretchen's articles with info on the effect of divorce on kids; the ACE study; and more.

    Sarah McDugal from Wilderness to Wild. Follow her on Facebook and Instagram and YouTube, or join her support groups.

    Sarah's free online course to recognize red flags of abuse, plus a slew of resources to help identify abuse.

    Sarah's article on how God honors free will: Happily (N)ever After, and Does God Say You Can't Divorce for Abuse?

    Keith's series on the issues with the Danvers Statement

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